FYI Play it Safe

Always online – SA teens share real-life experiences

FYI play it safe launches ’Sip the Tea’ podcast If you’re the parent of a teenager, you most likely don’t know as much about their online life as you should.  Our children are immersed in the digital world, inhabiting digital environments, and gathering in digital spaces that most parents don’t even know exist, never mind understand how to navigate.  It doesn’t help that these virtual locales where teens meet up and hang out are ever-changing; they can disappear in a whiff, migrate at a whim and new ones pop up every day. It’s nearly impossible for parents to keep up. Our tweens and teens range across a multitude of social media, gaming environments and messaging platforms where they find the connection and validation that is so vital to their life-stages.  But they also encounter risks and dangers.   ‘Sipping the tea’ is teen slang for side-eyeing the juicy ‘gos’ and listening in to get the latest scoop. Rachelle Best, parent of a teenage daughter and the CEO and Founder of the AI-powered monitoring app, FYI play it safe, is the host of Sip the Tea.  Across the first season of eight episodes launching on 17th October, Rachelle, in conversation with presenter, Amy Maclver, tackles major themes impacting on teens’ online lives, such as cyberbullying, online grooming, pornography and exposure to upsetting content.  Teens’ voices, digitally altered to protect identity, are prominent throughout the series, as they open up to Rachelle about their own experiences as well as share insights about the experiences of their siblings and friends. Rachelle says, “Parents listening in may be surprised at the frankness and honesty.  Teens so often have the reputation for reticence or even being secretive when it comes to connecting with adults.  “In my journey, both through Sip the Tea interviews and engaging with children in schools, one glaring truth has emerged — our kids crave open and honest conversations about the digital world’s lurking risks and threats. They are not just curious; they’re deeply disturbed by the dangers they face online. Remarkably, many of these young people don’t merely seek protection; they aspire to help us, the adults, understand the real risks they face.  Most agree that there should be limits and protections on children’s online activity – in fact, they recommend these.  What they don’t want though, is to be judged and punished for their curiosity or their mistakes.  They don’t want the adults to overreact.  They don’t want the WIFI switched off or to have their devices taken away.  Instead, they’re offering us a unique opportunity — a chance for parents to reshape their approach to online safety. It’s an invitation to build an understanding relationship with their teen based on open and honest communication.” On the one hand, there are parents who are prone to overreact and rigidly police their children’s devices, and on the other are those who have their heads in the sand and believe the risks will never materialise with their children.  Rachelle says, “Unfortunately, the ‘not my child syndrome’ is rife in South Africa.  There are parents who do nothing or so little to create a family online safety ecosystem, and then blithely say they don’t need to because they ‘trust their child’.  However, online safety should not be linked to the trust-relationship with your child. Harmful content is everywhere, and your child does not necessarily have to go looking for it to be exposed.  A child may see porn through no fault of their own, think that the trust-relationship with their parents is now ruined and that their parents won’t trust them again.  When I conducted the Sip the Tea interviews, I anticipated some shocking stories about online grooming, cyber bullying and pornography; what I didn’t expect is the extreme cruelty that some of the children had encountered.  We hear from these kids’ stories, that they have been exposed to some of the most horrific scenes imaginable, which is bound to make a lasting impact on their emotional well-being.” The family online safety ecosystem that Rachelle refers to here is the use of multiple solutions that goes beyond just deploying the phone’s screen time limit and parental controls to restrict access to some known websites and apps.  While these play a role in the online safety ecosystem, their efficacy is partial.  Latest solutions such as FYI play it safe draw on AI and ML to monitor the content of children’s online activity across multiple devices in real-time.  This provides parents with proactive alerts when their children may be exposed to online risks.  It dynamically monitors all the content that the child engages with, including social media, in-game and instant messaging chats.   Apart from opening parents’ eyes to online risks, Sip the Tea offers a balanced view of the lives of our digital natives.  Rachelle says, “There are so many benefits to teens being online.  It’s wonderful to hear how they make lasting friendships and find acceptance and reassurance in the digital world.  There’s so much to learn, so many opportunities to find and develop your passions and so many ways to grow as a responsible digital citizen.  What’s important for parents is to become empowered and knowledgeable.  We need to understand teen digital spaces better, we need to be clear about risks and threats, and we need to be proactive when it comes to helping our teens stay safer online.” You can find Sip the Tea on all major podcasting platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, and more, from 17th October 2023. Episode 1: Teens and tech – We explore the technology setups that tweens and teens have at home. We delve into the rules, controls, and guidance in place to ensure safe and balanced digital engagement. Episode 2: Social media and the apps they use – We lift the curtain on the online social worlds of today’s youth. From Snapchat and TikTok to Discord, we explore the apps they’re using and the experiences they’re having on these platforms. Episode 3:

October 16, 2023
Future Nation Schools

PBL: A game-changer in overcoming math anxiety

Mathematics is a crucial subject that permeates our daily lives – from managing finances to solving complex problems in various fields, mathematics is everywhere. However, for many of us the thought of dealing with mathematical concepts can trigger feelings of dread and anxiety. This phenomenon is commonly known as math anxiety. Fortunately, one effective approach to alleviating math anxiety is through Project-Based Learning (PBL).  Understanding Math Anxiety Math anxiety is more than just a dislike for math. It is a psychological phenomenon that can cause physical and emotional distress when faced with any math-related tasks – regardless of whether you’re a learner or an adult. Symptoms may include a racing heart, sweaty palms, avoidance behaviour and negative self-talk.  Math anxiety can hinder one’s ability to learn and perform well in math-related subjects, leading to lower self-esteem and reduced confidence. But here is the really interesting thing, says Mr Lawrence Bete, Head of the Mathematics Department at Future Nation Schools, math anxiety does not only affect those who struggle with maths. High achievers can also suffer from it as they feel pressured to maintain high standards of academic excellence; struggle with perfectionism, over-thinking and competitiveness; as well as worry about how their maths grade might hinder their career aspirations.  One effective way to help learners who struggle with maths anxiety improve their mathematical understanding and build their confidence is to teach them using a PBL approach, adds Mampho Langa, Head of Schools at Future nation Schools. This is because PBL, as a learner-centred teaching method, shifts the focus from traditional rote memorisation and repetitive problem-solving to a more engaging and interactive learning experience where learners explore complex topics, solve real-world problems and apply critical thinking skills in a way that is active, collaborative and hands-on. Six ways PBL helps overcoming math anxiety Real-world relevance: PBL introduces maths in a real-world context. This helps learners see the practical applications of the concepts they are learning (no more wondering “when will I ever use this in real-life”) and can make maths feel less abstract and more meaningful. In doing so, PBL reduces the anxiety associated with maths’ perceived complexity. Multidisciplinary learning: PBL integrates multiple subjects, demonstrating that mathematics is not isolated but interconnected with other fields. This interdisciplinary approach can make maths feel more approachable and less intimidating. Active engagement: PBL actively engages learners in the learning process. Instead of passively receiving information, learners take ownership of their learning by identifying problems, formulating questions and seeking solutions. This shift from passive to active learning can help reduce anxiety by promoting a sense of control as well as reshaping attitudes toward maths.  Collaboration: PBL fosters collaboration and peer support. Learners are encouraged to work together to solve math-related challenges, share their ideas and learn from one another’s strengths. Collaborative learning can reduce feelings of isolation and fear associated with math.  Flexibility and creativity: PBL encourages creativity and allows learners to approach problems in their unique ways. This flexibility reduces the pressure to conform to a single “correct” method and helps learners build confidence in their problem-solving abilities.  Progress monitoring: PBL involves ongoing assessment and feedback, allowing learners to track their progress in real-time versus tracking progress only through assessments and exams. This continuous feedback loop helps learners identify areas where they need improvement and celebrate their successes and mitigates anxiety stemming from uncertainty about their abilities.  Math anxiety can be a significant barrier to learning and success in mathematics-related subjects. However, utilising PBL can turn maths from a subject that learners approach with fear and apprehension to one that they view as an exciting journey of exploration and discovery that has relevance to their daily lives.  For more about how PBL is unlocking the future of mathematics education at Future Nation Schools, watch our recent FutureTalk Webinar.  

October 13, 2023
Kumon

BUILDING READING SKILLS AT HOME

Reading is an important activity that everyone can be involved in. Not only does it help to expand knowledge, but it can also be a ton of fun! If your child has no interest in reading, there are a variety of ways to help them start building reading skills at home. It may be a challenge to encourage reading with reluctant readers or even ones who are frustrated by reading. We put together a list of tactics that can help build reading skills and inspire children to find enjoyment in doing so. Here are some ways to build reading skills at home: 1. Offer Different Reading Options Be sure to provide your children with a variety of reading options. They may be more inspired to read books about certain topics or genres, as well as books of varying lengths. Having a few to choose from will give them the opportunity to explore their interests and find something they enjoy. 2. Set Aside Time to Read Setting time aside to read is great for anyone, any age! Show your children that it’s important to make time to read for fun by doing so yourself. Seeing you read will help to encourage their own reading and can even become a part of your family routine. 3. Read Aloud Reading aloud can be fun for the reader and the listener. Take turns reading aloud by using different voices and reading in an interesting way. While it may seem silly at first, this can help build excitement and curiosity for the story. It can even make the reading experience more fun and inspire them to read more on their own to get better at their story telling! 4. Use dictionaries (traditional or online) and flashcards If your child is coming across words that are unfamiliar try looking up these words in a traditional dictionary or online to discover the meaning. Online dictionaries usually have the added feature of being able to play a soundbite to hear the correct pronunciation. Your child could then write the definitions onto flashcards to help them remember the meaning. Knowing the meaning and pronunciation will help them read more fluently as they build their vocabulary and spelling skills. (An added benefit of using a traditional dictionary is learning about alphabetical order and how to find words in this way.) 5. Define Reading Goals Whether it’s learning 5 new words, reading a chapter book, or even reading 10 books over a period of time, there are tons of ways you can set your reading goals. Talk with your child about different goals they may have and help them set these. Depending on their age, you could use a star chart or some similar tracking system to recognise and reward achievement. 6. Participate in Reading Challenges or Activities There are a variety of reading challenges available online (for example: https://growingbookbybook.com/reading-challenges-for-kids/). Many of these challenges can be done at home and even incorporated into reading goals. It’s fun for children to have something to follow along with and be encouraged to read. You can also do different activities such as acting out scenes of the book or having them draw their favourite scene to encourage them to think through the story in a new perspective.  7. Ask Questions About the Book It’s beneficial to have discussions about the book before, during and after reading the book. This helps them get interested in the story before reading it and then keeps them engaged as they read the story. After the story concludes, it’s interesting for them to see what they learned or what they found most interesting from the book. Asking questions will keep engagement up and also get them thinking more analytically about what they read. 8. Join a Supplemental Reading Programme Another way to build reading skills is to join a reading programme that is individualized for your child. A programme that considers your child’s comfortable starting point while continuously building their reading and writing skills. The Kumon English Programme does just that and can be incorporated into your daily reading routine. There are also tons of Recommended Reading List options to take away the guesswork of books that accommodate your child’s skills best. The Takeaway – Have Fun! Most importantly, building reading skills at home can be a lot of fun! As your children begin to explore new books, learn new words, and strengthen their skills, they will develop more confidence and be inspired to read independently. The confidence they build from regular reading practice will help your child develop a lifelong love of reading! This article is taken directly from the KUMON NORTH AMERICA website:  https://www.kumon.com/resources/building-reading-skills-at-home/

October 12, 2023
Cartoonito

LU & THE BALLY BUNCH – Ladybird Lu

Lu is a ladybird who has started school at Ms Shella’s Shell School with her new friends in the village of Ballybug. Lu and her ‘Bally Bunch’ of five insect classmates learn how to laugh, play, and navigate their new social lives together at school, dealing with the ups and downs of getting along and sharing a new space with other children and learning about one of life’s most important skills – how to be a friend.  Inspired by creator Nicky Phelan’s memories of helping his mum in her own preschool, there’s nothing as funny as seeing a bunch of three-year-olds fail to navigate each other and nothing as heart-warming as seeing them learn to get along.  Premiere: Monday, 9 October @ 17:40 CAT ⏰ Tune in: Mondays – Fridays @ 17:40 CAT Also available on DStv Catch Up

October 9, 2023
Cartoonito

Join the Bug Boogie Dance Party with Cartoonito’s Brand-New Show, Lu & The Bally Bunch

Little bugs learn big lessons in feelings, friendship and fun as Lu & the Bally Bunch flutters onto Cartoonito Africa on Monday, 9 October.   Join Lu & the Bally Bunch on their school journey filled with music, laughter, and lots of fun! Created by Oscar®-nominated director Nicky Phelan, Lu & the Bally Bunch is about a little ladybird named Lu who has just started preschool with her new friends. Together, they explore their brand-new social lives through play, music, big feelings, and even bigger fun. As an only child, Lu is used to being the centre of her universe. Having just started preschool, she’s learning that sharing space with five other centres of the universe has its challenges. Exploring the everyday dramas of life in school, Lu & the Bally Bunch is a funny and affectionate look at Lu and her friends – Barnaby, Biba, Declan, Elodie and Gus – as they learn how to get along with each other in their new social setting. Inspired by Nicky Phelan’s memories of helping his mum in her own preschool, Lu & the Bally Bunchcelebrates the joy, drama and humour of young schoolers learning to share space. There’s nothing as funny as seeing a bunch of three-year-olds fail to navigate each other and nothing as heart-warming as seeing them learn to get along. Set in Ballybug, a small village home to a community of bugs, Lu and her friends attend Shella Kabooky’s Shell School. Shella, a snail, is the wise and kind teacher of the preschool housed in her shell. Inspired by the teachings of Montessori, Shella guides the bugs through games, play and learning with a gentle, kid-led approach. Under Shella’s watchful eye, Lu and her friends learn to laugh and play together. Lu & the Bally Bunch highlights the high-stakes drama of navigating first friendships with real children’s voices, heartfelt humour, and dramatic stories that play out in real-time. The series features real-life and authentic scenarios that young kids deal with as they go to school for the first time, with lessons in social-emotional learning and conflict resolution. Produced by 9 Story’s award-winning studio, Brown Bag Films, with the participation of Warner Bros. Discovery and CBC Kids, Lu & the Bally Bunch was created by Brown Bag Films’ director, Nicky Phelan (Vampirina, Bing, Octonauts), Oscar®-nominated for his short film Granny O’Grimm’s Sleeping Beauty. Phelan also directed the series. Join Lu & the Bally Bunch on their journey with music, laughter, and fun, premiering exclusively onCartoonito Africa, weekdays at 17:10 CAT, from Monday, 9 October.

October 9, 2023
Cartoon Network Africa

POKEMON SUN & MOON- Ash in Aloha

What starts as a summer vacation in the tropical Alola region becomes the next exciting chapter in Ash Ketchum’s quest to become a Pokémon Master! There’s plenty for Ash and Pikachu to explore, exciting new Pokémon to discover and interesting people to learn from along the way—including the cool Professor Kukui and the fun-loving Samson Oak.  More new faces will help guide Ash’s Alolan adventure, in skilled Trainers Kiawe, Lana, Mallow, and Sophocles—and a mysterious research assistant called Lillie. It’s not all set to go Ash Ketchum’s way, though – familiar foes, Team Rocket, have also made their way to Alola and are joined by new challenges, Team Skull.  Premiere: Monday, 9 October @ 17:30 CAT ⏰ Tune in: Mondays – Fridays @ 17:30 CAT Also available on DStv Catch Up

October 9, 2023
Bonitas – innovation, life stages and quality care

DEALING WITH KIDS AND PREGNANCY

Dealing with pregnancy can be tricky on its own, but when you have a toddler or young kids to look after things can become more difficult. If this is your second pregnancy, you may be struggling with morning sickness, fatigue and a tired achy body and still having to look after another young child.  You’re probably wondering how to manage, so we’ve put together some useful tips to help you the second time around. Be patient with them and yourself It’s important that you’re patient with your child. Initially, they may not understand the pregnancy which can make them act out in confusion. Getting them involved and feeling like a big sibling can help them to feel excited about the new addition to the family. That being said you should also be patient with yourself. You may be feeling unwell due to your pregnancy, and with looking after another child you may find things falling by the wayside. It’s likely that only you will notice these things, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Playtime for you and them  You might not always be feeling up to playtime with your little one, so this is a good time to encourage them to play independently. This way you free up a little bit more time for yourself while keeping them entertained. As your pregnancy progresses, play in ways that you can manage. Instead of running around, focus on board games, drawing and puzzles. Allowing a little bit of screen time (even together) is another way you can easily entertain your kids. Help and schedules Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you have a partner, they are the obvious person to lend a hand, but if you are by yourself, either reach out to close family or consider getting paid help for part of the day.  Another way to find some time for yourself is to nap when your toddler naps. Syncing up your sleep schedules may mean that you find yourself a little bit more rest time for when you’re feeling tired or nauseous. 

October 6, 2023
Parenting Hub

South Africans know Vim™ Scouring Powder as their tried and trusted, extremely tough-cleaning household care brand.

Unilever South Africa announces that VIM™ Multi-Purpose Scourer is back on shelf with it’s new look. The 500ml Multi-Purpose scouring powder is available in two different scented scourer powders; Lemon and Lavender.  VIM™ multipurpose scourer is designed to be used on sinks, baths, basins, toilet bowls, ceramic tiles, cookers, pots, pans and other working surfaces in and around the home. VIM™ scouring action lifts grease and stains from pots and pans leaving them sparkling clean. The Extra Strong formulation keeps your toilet clean and smelling fresh. You can use VIM™ after every bath to take the grime off your tub. VIM™ also helps keep your whole bathroom smelling fresh. VIM™ scours floors lifting dirt and putting the shine back onto tiled and ceramic surfaces. The bottle is made from 100% recycled materials and is 100% recyclable. You remove the label and recycle is at your nearest plastic recycle bin.   Ammarah Chand, Brand Manager of Hard Surface Cleaners at Unilever South Africa, said: “We had an overwhelming response to the discontinuation of VIM™ in South Africa, I am just delighted that we could bring our customers the VIM™ they have always trusted back on shelf and widely available.”  Additional Product Info No bleach in product.  Formulation pH 11 Alkaline  

October 6, 2023
Cartoon Network Africa

Cartoon Network – MOVIES HOLIDAYS – Film Fun

Settle in for a CN Movie every day of the spring holidays. In Teen Titans Go! vs Teen Titans (2 October), The comedic Teen Titans take on their serious counterparts when villains from each of their worlds team up to pit the two Titan teams against each other. On 3 October, Best Bros Grizzly, Panda and Ice Bear go on a wild, hilarious and dangerous adventure to escape a foe that threatens to tear them apart in We Bare Bears: The Movie and on 4 October, DC Super Hero Girls: Legends of Atlantis sees Wonder Woman, Batgirl, Supergirl, Bumblebee and the rest of the Super Crew must journey through the depths of the ocean to Atlantis. On 5 October,Ben 10 vs The Universe: The Movie sees Ben go interstellar to save the day when Vilgax returns to do double the damage on Team Tennyson and planet Earth. To round things off on 6 October, two slacker groundskeepers must go back in time and battle an evil volleyball coach in order to save the universe after accidentally creating a Timenado in Regular Show: The Movie.  Tune-in: Monday, 2 October – Friday, 6 October @ 11:30 CAT

October 2, 2023
Cartoonito

MOVIE STARS HOLIDAYS

Whether it’s Hibernation Rabbid heading for Mars on a misinformed adventure, Robin Hood needing a helping hand from Tom & Jerry to save himself and rescue Maid Marion or Scooby-Doo and the gang setting out to clear their names after being accused of plotting a practical joke, there’s something for everyone with some of the biggest stars on Cartoonito this spring school holiday! ⏰ Tune in: Monday, 2 October – Monday, 9 October @ 09:40 CAT 2 October: Rabbids Invasion: Mission to Mars 3 October: Tom and Jerry: Robin Hood and his Merry Mouse 4 October: Scooby-Doo! and the Samurai Sword 5 October: Tom & Jerry: Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory  6 October: Looney Tunes Rabbits Run 7 October: Scooby-Doo! The Mystery Begins (Live action) 8 October: Scooby-Doo! Curse of the Lake Monster (Live action) 9 October: Kangaroo Jack: G’Day USA

October 2, 2023
Cartoon Network Africa

THE HEROIC QUEST OF THE VALIANT PRINCE IVANDOE -Prince in Peril

Accompanied by his loyal squire Bert, Prince Ivandoe sets off on a quest to Eagle Mountain through The Five Kingdoms to claim the legendary Golden Feather. So far, Prince Ivandoe has travelled from his home, the Kingdom of the Mighty Stag, through Svanland – the idyllic Land of the Swans, the rogue state of The Forest of the Outlaws, the Red Squirrel Kingdom – set high in the trees – and the Underground Kingdom of the Ogres, where King Ironhorn rules from a crumbling and this month, his journey takes him into the Underground castle.  These new episodes bring a lot of wacky adventures along, Prince Ivandoe’s unfortunate hiccups have an interesting twist on a wish granted by a Wishpillar. His squire Bert is thrust into the limelight when he pulls a mysterious sword from a stone, and and Prince Ivandoe and Bert are going to form a unlikely bond with a Sassy Gnome while trying to get him reunited with his brothers!  Premiere: Monday, 2 October @ 16:35 CAT ⏰ Tune in: Mondays – Fridays @ 16:35 CAT Also available on DStv Catch Up

October 2, 2023
Parenting Hub

INTERSTELLAR ELLA – Weightless Wonders

In the year 3021, on a space station somewhere between Mars and Jupiter in the Milky Way, 8-year-old Ella Ryder sets out with her friends on exciting adventures of discovery. And because they are in space, there’s lots to experience and even more to explore!  This month, the team encounters solar flares, huge moon craters, spectacular giant red stars and crashes on a trip to a rogue planet! Slippy tries to hide his inventions away on the dark side of Mercury, Ella’s Dad tries to fix Glitch’s arms and the gang play a star-riddle game that’s a tradition in Slippy’s family.     Premiere: Monday, 18 September @ 15:10 CAT ⏰ Tune in: Mondays – Fridays @ 15:10 CAT Also available on DStv Catch Up

September 18, 2023
Parenting Hub

BATMAN DAY & TEEN TITANS GO! MARATHON – When in Doubt, Be Batman

The third Saturday of September is observed globally as Batman Day, which marks the anniversary of the first-ever appearance of the character in Detective Comics #27 in May 1939. To celebrate, we’ve put together an epic day ofLEGO DC movies and Teen Titans GO! episodes on 16 September that’s sure to unleash the Caped Crusader in all of us! We’ll kick off with LEGO Batman: DC Superheroes Unite, LEGO DC Batman: Family Matters, LEGO DC Comics Super Heroes: Justice League: Gotham City Breakout, and LEGO DC Comics: Batman Be-Leaguered before swinging into an all-action Teen Titans GO! Batman marathon.  Premiere: Saturday, 16 September from 08:50 CAT

September 15, 2023
Parenting Hub

BATMAN DAY WITH THE BATWHEELS – Bigger, Better, Batwheels

Celebrate Batman Day by diving into a special themed Cartoonito marathon, featuring the best of the Batwheels and all their crazy Gotham City adventures.  Tune in on Saturday, 16 September, from 08:30 for Secret Origins of the Batwheels and Batwheels episodes 2, 18 & 30 from Season 1, with special appearances by Batman himself! ⏰ Tune in: Saturday, 16 September @ 08:30 CAT

September 15, 2023
Parenting Hub

Imposing Expectations On Your Children

Many of my clients come to me complaining that their children simply do not do what they’re told, are unmanageable, and are following the ‘wrong’ path in life. What this tells me is a lot about the parent, and very little indeed about the child. We all give away through they way that we speak and the things that we focus on what is important to us. But how often do we stop to find out what is important to someone else, particularly with our children. As much as we have hopes and desires for our kids, they have these for themselves too. What we tend to do is praise and emphasise those things that they love that fit in with our own priorities for them and ignore or ridicule those that are outside of our own value system. In doing so we impose our own set of values and dreams onto our children and then wonder why they eventually rebel and become totally in-compliant. Most parents, if they took the time and care to notice, would find it easy to tell you what is important to their kids, and yet they place very little importance on this themselves. When we stop to respect our children as real, complete human beings as they are, we enter a whole new world of relationship with them. Think about it – you wouldn’t tell your friends what job they should do or who they should be friends with or what they should be eating for dinner, right? Understanding your children’s dreams, goals and priorities instead of ignoring them can actually make your parenting journey much easier. Whatever it is that you want them to do, you simply find a way to link it to what is already important to them. For example if you want your child to bath and their highest priority is to play, then instead of saying “get in the bath now”, say “it’s time to go and play in the bath – which toys would you like to bring?” Or, for example, if you want your child to eat vegetables and their highest priority is dinosaurs, then call the broccoli “dinosaur trees” or talk about which dinosaurs would have eaten each part of the meal that is currently on their plate. If you want your soccer star to focus more on maths, point out how by learning maths he will have an advantage over the other players by understanding how to score goals by focusing on the angle between himself, the ball and the net. It may take a bit of time and practice, but I guarantee that linking what your child loves to everything they need to do makes parenting easier in the long run. Children feel heard and understood and they see that you are respecting what is important to them. They see the connections between what you want them to do and what they want for themselves instead of seeing your view as an imposition. I believe that every human being, regardless of their age, should have their values and dreams respected. The sooner that parents and teachers stop imposing their views onto the children in their care and instead link their values to those of the kids, the sooner we’ll find happy children, living their dreams AND complying with their caregivers.

September 13, 2023
Ati2ud

Are you functioning on autopilot?

They say half of the time we function on autopilot whilst 90% of our purchasing decisions are done on autopilot. In other words we are not consciously thinking about what we are doing or why we are doing those things. They have become habitual. For example: Think about when you brush your teeth or your morning routine each day when you wake up. The route you drive to or from home and work each day. Have there been times when you can’t remember how you got to a place or walked into a room and forgot what you were going to do? This is because we are not consciously thinking about our actions and thoughts – we are on autopilot. This happens daily with tasks we perform, the way we interact with others, our reactions, our behaviours, things we hold onto from the past and even some of our beliefs. It has become so ingrained in us over the years that we have not stopped to consider whether those things are still relevant, serve us positively or whether there is possibly something new or different we could consider instead. We lose out on so much as we are unaware of what is going on around us. We miss the signs and messages – both verbal and non-verbal. A wounded glance, reactive tone of voice, hurt eyes, dejected or closed off body language. We even miss the beauty in everything due to our presence being elsewhere instead of enjoying the moment for what it is – the here and now. Living mindfully present is important to the quality of the lives we live. Being mindful of our own thoughts, actions and behaviours and the impact they have on others around us. Being fully present in the moment and giving others our undivided attention and efforts is a gift. So how do we become more mindful? It’s a daily practice that takes time to master and should be viewed as learning a new skill just the same as learning to read or write. It starts with becoming aware of our own ‘self’ – how we talk to ourselves, the words we use, the language we speak. Often we are our own worst critic and berate ourselves harshly. The more we tell ourselves stories, the stronger they become until they take on a life of their own and become the path we live by. When our self awareness grows, we become aware of our own thoughts and behaviours as well as the impact we are having on others and they are having on us. In other words we are fully present in the moment and aware of what we are doing as well as of what is happening around us. We can sense when we are not being authentic and sincere just as much as we can sense when others are not. Yet often we choose to ignore this. We know when we are being true to ourselves and living our truth vs. compromising our own values and personal boundaries and the consequences that come with this. Some like to mediate, others like to unwind in the mountains or near the sea whilst some like to partake in an activity – each with the purpose of connecting us to ourselves, feeding our soul and feeling alive, like we have a purpose. It does not matter what you do so long as you do it. With a heightened sense of awareness, we are able to be more creative, positive, solution oriented, peace loving and kind for the benefit of all and mankind. Reflection time: Can you think of words or phrases you often use when speaking to or about yourself? Are they positive and uplifting or critical and faultfinding? Can you remember a situation where you may not have been fully present and aware of your actions? If you think back to that time now, can you see the different ways your actions may have been interpreted by others? Would your actions have a positive or negative impact on others? Is there one thing you can start doing differently today to raise your levels of self awareness? Look for the good and positive in everyone and every situation because it is there if you dare to try. The intention we set for ourselves is the intention by which we live and treat others. Make yours a positive and uplifting one.

September 13, 2023
Parenting Hub

Chores And Responsibilities- Getting Your Kids To Clean

Getting children to do their chores is not about making our lives easier but it is about encouraging cooperation and responsibility. Our children were given tasks to do from when they were little. It started off with putting their toys away after playing and taking their plates and cups to the kitchen. They now make the beds, keep their rooms tidy and ensure that their clothes and bags are ready for school the next day. How do you get your children to do their part though, without putting up a fight? Here are some tips for getting your kids involved: Start early. Parents should try giving their children household responsibilities when they are young. They can begin to help you with small chores like keeping their books tidy on the shelf or putting their dirty clothes in the laundry basket. Most toddlers love to help their parents. Parents should take advantage of this desire and give their children small and simple tasks. As children get older they should then be given more challenging tasks. Demonstrate. Children need to know exactly what’s expected of them. Therefore, it is a good idea for parents to make sure their children know exactly what their chores are. Whenever you’re introducing a new task, make sure you teach your kids how to do it. Make sure you demonstrate the skills you want your children to learn from packing the dishwasher to making their beds. Set up a reward chart. If parents have trouble getting their children to do their chores, a reward system can be set up to encourage cooperation. A chart can be placed in a prominent location in the home. Parents can then put a sticker on the chart for each completed chore. You can then both decide what reward they will get for doing the chores properly over a set period. Don’t repeatedly remind or nag. Parents should try to avoid falling into the trap of continually reminding and/or nagging their children to complete their chores.  Instead, parents should make sure that their children are given the sole responsibility for the completion of their chores. If a child forgets or refuses to do a chore, parents should say nothing and simply apply the consequences. Don’t do the chore for your child. If parents get frustrated and give in and do their children’s chores, children learn a number of things. First of all, children learn that their parents don’t mean what they say and will not follow through. Secondly, children learn that if they hold out long enough someone will do their chores for them. Parents should simply apply whatever consequences you have decided on until the child learns to complete the task. Provide lots of praise. Parents should always provide lots of praise and encouragement when their children make an effort to do their chores. Parents should keep praising, even after their children have been consistently doing a chore well. Offer choices. Allow your kids to have a say in the tasks they’ll be responsible for. One way to do this is to make a list all of the jobs that need to be completed, and allow each child to choose two or three age-appropriate tasks. Then, on “chore day,” you can each pick one or two cards and complete those jobs. Working together, you’ll have these tasks done in no time! Don’t expect perfection. Each job should be done to the best of the child’s abilities.  That doesn’t mean it will be done the way mom would do it.  Remember, the goal is to get them to participate.  Help them feel good about their efforts. Gradually Increase Your Kids’ Responsibilities. As your children become more skilled in completing chores around the house, mix it up by introducing new tasks. For example, once your preteen has mastered packing the dishwasher, consider whether they are ready to unpack the dishes once washed and put them away. Teaching kids about chores not only helps them in their home life, but it will also bring about positive aspects in school as well. The skills and values learned by doing chores will benefit children throughout their lives. The results may not initially be perfect but over time, you’ll begin to see that your kids are getting better and better at the skills you’re teaching them.

September 12, 2023
Parenting Hub

MOLEY- Tunnel Buddies

Moley  follows the day-to-day misadventures of Master Moley as he travels the tunnels of his secret underground realm and falls into lots of good-natured trouble along the way. But with his perseverance, resourcefulness and helpful friends, he always finds an ingenious way to dig himself out of a crisis. Whether it’s hunting down lost treasure with Mystic, entering a magical world of Manny’s creation or stopping an out-of-control Ferris wheel after Manny’s plan goes awry, Moley always has to find a way to save the day!    Premiere: Saturday, 9 September @ 11:20 CAT ⏰ Tune in: Weekends @ 11:20 CAT Also available on DStv Catch Up

September 8, 2023
Parenting Hub

LUMA ANIMATION’S EXCITING NEW SCI-FI FEATURE, HEADSPACE, LANDING IN CINEMAS SEPTEMBER 2023

Indigenous Film Distribution has announced that HEADSPACE, the exciting new animation sci-fi feature from Johannesburg’s Luma Animation, will release at cinemas on 15 September 2023. Written by Ronald Henry, Daniel Buckland, Paul Meyer and Gerhard Painter, the film is co-directed by Gerhard Painter and Paul Meyer of Luma Animation (Shaka Ilembe, CGI &VFX and Kings of Joburg 2 CGi & VFX) and produced by The Ergo Company’s Dumi Gumbi (Mrs Right Guy, The Fragile King) and Catharina Weinek (Mrs Right Guy, Pou) with Luma Animation. The film starts with a freak accident, where Max, Sophie and Gus of the Space Protection Force, and their microscopic spaceship The SPF50, take up residence inside 14-year-old Norman’s brain. They can see what he sees and hear what he hears. The nanosized crime fighting aliens must enlist Norman’s help to save earth from Zolthard, an evil intergalactic villain who has taken control of principal Witherington. Norman and the aliens, together with his friends from school must go to great lengths to conceal the presence of alien life at their high school, all the while fighting the galactic struggle between good and evil. After all, Zolthard still has a school to run, and Norman still has a life to live and homework to hand in! Headspace introduces a host of interesting and colourful characters, both human and alien, who are sure to resonate with audiences globally and become firm favourites. The camaraderie between humans and aliens in this classic story of the triumph of good over evil, produces the most unlikely of heroes who ultimately save the day. “At the heart of our vision for Luma Animation and for Headspace, is the notion that everyone deserves to be the hero of their own story, not forgetting that ultimately, we rely on the support of friends and collaborators to triumph,” commented Paul Meyer and Gerhard Painter. Having been exposed to the very best animation available from Pixar and Disney, films like Lion King, Toy Story, and Finding Nemo, the filmmakers were inspired to create films of the same quality in South Africa, thereby, adding their fresh voices to the global animation marketplace. Like the films that inspired it, Headspace is perfect family fare. “It was our dream to make an action-packed, delightful, funny, and family-orientated 3-D animation film celebrating South African talent,” say the filmmakers. The characters in Headspace are voiced by some of the country’s finest talents including Bonko Khoza (The Wife), Zak Henrikz (An Act of Defiance), Nelisa Ngcobo (The Queen), Chris van Rensburg (Huis van Liefde), Michelle du Plessis (Koelpixels), Jana Louw (Shrek: The Musical), Sparky Xulu and 11-year-old Dineo du Toit (Kiya and the Kimoja Heroes). This first animation feature film by Luma Animation and The Ergo Company will definitely leave audiences blown away! View trailer here: Indigenous Film Distribution : www.indigenousfilm.co.za Luma Animation : www.luma.co.za

September 8, 2023
Parenting Hub

QUICK TIPS FOR ENGAGING THE OLDEST CHILD

When the new baby comes home, the joy and excitement can lead to the first born child (or even just older children) feeling somewhat “dethroned” and ignored.  When this occurs, it is common to see changes in that child’s behaviour; they may begin to feel jealousy toward the new arrival and in some cases, may even strike out to hurt them.  Others may simulate being a baby once again by crying, talking ‘baby talk,’ and even having wetting accidents. Your challenge is to find creative ways for oldest children to feel different from their siblings and to develop a sense of value to the family by implementing the following ideas: The first tip is the BIG BROTHER or BIG SISTER buttons available at most party supply stores.  They were intended to make the first born child feel special when the new baby comes home, but I love the idea so much I encourage parents to use it beyond just that one special time. Find creative ways for the oldest child to assist with the new sibling, but never leave them alone with the baby.  They may be able to sing to the baby, help with the bath, or be helpful in collecting items needed for the baby’s care at the moment. Carve out time to have one-on-one time alone with the other child(ren).  Set up visual schedules or timers so the older child can have something to watch for to know when their special time is approaching.  You may even want to consider having special toys that only come out when mom must attend to the baby. Explore holding family meetings once a week, especially if you have school age children or older.  It will promote a sense of importance among all the children and will help them feel a greater sense of respect from the parent(s).  The meetings can be held on the same night of the week and everyone should be included.  If one person leaves the meeting, it’s over until the next meeting. Other tips for the family meeting include keeping them brief, making them fun, and being consistent, especially if some of your children are younger.  It is helpful to have everyone sitting in a circle and do your best to avoid answering the door or telephone.  Doing so sends a message that the family is more important than anything else. If the oldest child can write, I suggest introducing the role of THE SCRIBE, the person who serves as the meeting secretary and takes the notes of what was decided and what was said.  Preserved in a tin box in my closet is a folder of meeting minutes that were taken by my oldest child throughout the years of our family meetings.  The lists of rules and decisions are presented in perfect penmanship in red crayon on white-lined paper.  These documents are more valuable to me than any historical parchment paper documents I could ever own. The next time you’re facing challenging behaviour, check to see if it happens to be your oldest child.  Perhaps they are trying to tell you that they don’t feel so special anymore and just need some encouragement that they still matter to you.

September 5, 2023
Parenting Hub

Why offering choices is important

One of the best ways to build up a sense of independence is to make choices. When we make our own choices, we feel some sense of control. With frequent opportunities to make our own decisions we begin to think of ourselves as ‘in power’ of at least parts of our lives. The same rings true for our youngsters. Making choices is not just an essential life skill for them, but Dr Erin Leyba says it builds respect, strengthens community, invites cooperation, develops problem-solving skills and capitalises on children’s basic human need to feel in control. How do we go about creating confident decision makers? It is a question of practice makes perfect. As many skills, you do not achieve success in the first round. By including simple choices throughout the day, your toddler will learn that he can have a say in what he chooses to eat for snack time (would you like an apple or banana?) or what to wear to school (would you like to wear the green or blue sweater today?).  Here are a few golden rules to consider as you work your way to a stress-free day and empower your child to make choices on the road to becoming a confident decision maker: Choices must be limited. Offering too many options may create anxiety therefore keep it simple. Certain routine tasks are tricky especially when it comes to brushing teeth. Offer them a choice of toothbrush: would you like to use the green dinosaur or your shaking Spiderman toothbrush? Strawberry flavoured or minty toothpaste today? Sometimes adults need to tell children that there is no choice. When safety or health is at risk, it is important for the adult to say, “Choosing not to brush your teeth is not an option.” Choices must be honoured. Do not offer a choice that you cannot honour. The choices must be authentic. If you offer your two children an option of two stories, inevitably, one will choose the first story and the other child will choose the second story. This is not what you need at the end of the long day. Resolve this by offering each child the choice of story on alternate nights. Avoid being too indulgent and child-centered. “Anything you want my darling” does not offer a child sufficient boundaries that they require to feel safe which in turn is essential to developing self-assurance. As parents we are exhausted at the end of the day, it might feel like you have been in a boxing ring with your toddler. Offer them choices that will make them feel empowered and make feel like their opinions and feelings are of significance. By Bonita Nel, teacher at Pecanwood College 

September 5, 2023
Cartoon Network Africa

Junior – Junior Genius

 Living an adventurous life in Mikako, Junior is an amazingly resourceful 10-year-old boy who always has 1001 ideas for solving everyday problems. Having brilliant ideas is one thing; putting them into practice is another! And that’s where the problems usually begin … The gang have a run-in with a nest of threatening wasps at HQ, and Mr Basi spoils their half-day school plans when he reminds them that they have to clean the toilets. Junior asks for Arthur’s help to escape taking Mama’s Medicine – and Junior returns the favour when he tries to help Arthur escape a booster injection.  Premiere: Monday, 4 September @ 08:15 CAT ⏰ Tune in: Mondays – Fridays @ 08:15 CAT Also available on DStv Catch Up

September 4, 2023
Parenting Hub

Fabulous fungi-loaded family meals perfect for both kids and busy parents

Our brand new kid-friendly recipes will have everyone leaving the dinner table happy, healthy and satisfied without feeling bloated.. Plus, they are quick and easy to make: exactly what we want to hear when racking our brains to find the best option for a busy weeknight dinner! Beef & Mushroom Stew with Mini Dumplings Serves 6   Ingredients: Stew: ± 1.2 kg stewing beef 50g flour 2 leeks, washed & sliced 2 medium carrots, peeled & sliced 2 celery stalks, sliced 2 sprigs rosemary 4 sprigs fresh thyme 2 Tbsp tomato paste 2 Tbsp balsamic vinegar 1L beef stock 4 shallots, peeled & halved 500g white button mushrooms, quartered  Dumplings: 100g self raising flour 50g butter, cold and cubed Pinch sea salt 1 Tbsp fresh parsley, chopped ± 60ml cold water Olive oil, for cooking Salt and pepper, to taste  Method: For the stew: Preheat oven to 160˚C. Heat a drizzle of olive oil in a large heavy-based pot over a medium heat.  Place the beef in a bowl, toss with the flour and season well with salt and pepper.  Add the seasoned meat to the hot oil and brown all over. Remove and set aside.  Heat another drizzle of oil in the same pot. Add the leeks, carrots, celery and herbs. Sauté.  Add the tomato paste and cook for a minute.  Add the balsamic and stock, making sure to scrape any stuck brown bits off the bottom of the pot.  Return the browned beef to the pot along with the shallots.  Bring to a simmer, cover and cook in the oven for 2 hours until the meat is fall apart tender. When the stew is almost done cooking, make the dumplings: Place the flour, butter and salt into a bowl.  Rub the butter into the flour until it resembles coarse breadcrumbs. Add the chopped parsley and mix well.  Add 2-3 Tbsp water at a time and knead into a soft dough.  Shape the dough into small balls.  Remove stew from the oven. Turn heat up to 180˚C, with the fan on. Stir the mushrooms into the stew. Cover the surface of the stew with the little dumplings, spacing them evenly all over. Cover with the pot lid and return to the oven for 15 minutes.  Carefully remove the lid and bake for a further 15 minutes until the dumplings are golden.  Scoop the stew into bowls, dividing up the dumplings and enjoy!  Beef, Bean & Mushroom Sliders with Homemade Tomato Sauce   Makes ± 12-15 sliders, depending on size  Ingredients: Patties: 1 x 400g tin black beans, rinsed, drained and lightly mashed  250g portabellini mushrooms, finely sliced  1 large white onion, diced  500g beef mince 50g panko breadcrumbs 2 Tbsp fresh parsley, finely chopped  Homemade tomato sauce: 1 x 400g tin tomato purée 40g brown sugar 3 Tbsp red wine vinegar ½  tsp onion powder 1 tsp celery salt To serve: 12-15 white slider buns / mini burger buns (Many bakeries also call these cocktail buns)  Mayonnaise Lettuce leaves Sliced tomato Sliced red onion Olive oil, for cooking Salt and pepper, to taste  Method: To make the tomato sauce: Place all the ingredients in a saucepan over medium heat. Stir gently until everything comes to a light simmer. Cover and reduce heat to low. Simmer for 15 minutes for the flavours to develop.  Taste to adjust seasoning.  Cool. For the patties: Preheat a braai to medium high heat.  Heat a drizzle of olive oil in a frying pan.  Add the mushrooms and cook until golden brown.  Add the onion and a pinch of salt.  Cook until tender, golden and lightly caramelised.  Place in a large bowl.  To the bowl add the black beans, beef, breadcrumbs and parsley. Season well with salt and pepper.  Mix thoroughly until very well combined.  Shape mixture into patties.  It is a good idea to check the size of your slider buns and make your patties are just larger than the buns as they will shrink during cooking.  Brush patties all over with olive oil and braai until golden brown on both sides.  You can also bake them in the oven or cook them on the stovetop.  Allow the patties to rest.  Build sliders with your favourite burger toppings.  Add a generous dollop of homemade tomato sauce to each slider and enjoy!  Cheesy Mushroom Macaroni   Serves 8 Ingredients: 500g portabello mushrooms 350g macaroni or similar short pasta  500g medium fat cream cheese 100g cheddar cheese, grated  2 tsp Dijon mustard 2 tsp onion powder 1 tsp garlic powder Pinch of nutmeg 1 Tbsp fresh chives, minced 100g cheddar cheese, grated  15g / 3 Tbsp breadcrumbs Salt and pepper, to taste  Fresh basil leaves, for serving  28 x 18 cm baking dish Method: Preheat oven to 200˚C, fan on. Place portabellos on a large baking tray, season with salt and pepper.  Roast in the middle of the oven for ±7 minutes until tender and juicy.  Allow mushrooms to rest, drain off their liquid and slice into large chunks. In a large pot of salted, boiling water, cook the macaroni until al dente. Using a jug, scoop out a generous cup of pasta cooking water and set aside. Drain the macaroni. While the macaroni is cooking, place cream cheese, cheddar, mustard, onion powder, garlic powder and nutmeg in a large saucepan.  Switch heat onto very low and allow everything to melt together.  When the cream cheese is almost melted, pour in a little pasta water, mixing well until you achieve a smooth silky sauce.  Add the drained macaroni and the fresh chives, stir to combine.  Keep adding a little extra pasta water to keep things saucy.  Finally fold in the large chunks of roasted mushrooms. Taste to adjust seasoning.  Scoop mixture into a baking dish and top with remaining cheddar and breadcrumbs.  Transfer to the oven and bake for 10 – 15 min until the top is golden brown and bubbling. Scoop into bowls, top with some fresh basil and enjoy!  Veggie Loaded Spaghetti Cake

September 1, 2023
Toptots Head Office

Why do I need to stimulate my baby from a young age

Parents to be, have the unique opportunity to create a better brain for their unborn child from day one.  When a baby is born she born with unlimited potential but the experiences she has in her life will determine the outcome of that potential. Experience = learning.  No experience = no learning. Lots of experience = optimal learning. Your unborn children will face many different challenges to you.  In all likelihood they will be working in fields that have not even been developed yet. You will have very little knowledge of what they are doing, as it will not be part of your frame of reference. We as parents need to equip them with the best tool (a ready brain) to deal with this onslaught.  There are very simple things that you as a parent can do to help ensure that your child is equipped to deal with the challenges that may face her.  In order for you to understand this we need to go back and look at the brain. The brain is made up of three layers (Triune model) these layers have a window of opportunity to develop to their full potential.  A window of opportunity is just this brief period that we have for optimum development of that part of the brain.  The first layer is the primal survival brain – the fight or flight centre of the brain.  The next layer is our emotional brain – here we learn to love and care and feel.  The last layer is the thinking brain or the cortex.   The first window of opportunity is during the first 14 months from birth; during this time we need to stimulate the survival brain in order to create strong muscles so that we can send messages to them that they will respond to in the correct way. We do this through encouraging movement. Once we stimulate the senses the message has to travel via neurochemical pathways (roots) to the muscles to react.  How do we create these neurochemical pathways in the brain?  By allowing our babies freedom to move and explore.  Nothing is more detrimental to a child’s development than being cooped up in a chair or stroller for the better part of the day.  Simply by stimulating the senses through massage and exposing them to different experiences during these crucial 14 months, you are creating the networks (roots) that she will need to help her learn and help her reach her full potential.  By repeating the actions you are creating the insulation (myelin) that makes it permanent. Repetition is good for a child, it is how they learn. The next window of opportunity is from 14 months to 4 years and during this time your child will be working on the emotional brain.  This area of the brain processes feelings and emotions. This is the glue that holds the survival brain and the cortex together.  We have to keep our emotional bucket full in order for learning to take place.  Only between 4 and 11 years will the thought processes be laid down.  This is the area of the brain that focuses on language, creativity, thought etc. As parents we can create a whole brain experience with an excellent root system that allows messages to come through easily to the brain just by stimulating our children.  It is imperative to enrich a child’s brain with as much experiences as possible during these windows of opportunity.

August 31, 2023
Parenting Hub

Encouraging Baby’s First Words

When can you expect to hear your baby’s first words and how you can encourage speech development in your baby or toddler? It’s another wonderful moment: The first time your baby looks up and says “Mama!” Perhaps they are just practicing their “m” sounds, but this is another step toward “Mommy, I love you” all the same. Whether it’s “mama,” “dada,” or some other cute combination of sounds, they are starting to vocalise and to imitate the sounds around them. To encourage your child to talk you should talk to them often. Point out cats, balls and apples and so on. Talk about what is happening around you. Follow your child’s lead and describe the things your child points to, they will listen to you and they will learn. As children learn new words, they might not get them quite right at first. Don’t feel like you need to correct them straight away. Help them by repeating the word after they say it, so that they can hear it again. Help build a child’s vocabulary by adding details to the objects and events of the day. For example, if the child says “car”, you could add, “Yes, that’s right, it’s a car. We drive in a red car”. Don’t be afraid to use expressive vocabulary when you talk about things. If you get tired of talking why don’t you try reading to your child? While exposing your baby to language outside your own day-to-day vocabulary doesn’t guarantee your child will learn new words, it might help. And it can be a fun way to be close to your child. Remember that children recognise and understand many more words than they can say. Don’t be afraid to use ‘parentese’ – that singsong, higher-pitched way of talking to young children. Baby Talk Milestones Baby talk at 3 months. Lots happen within the first 3 months of your baby’s development, and by the end of this period you’ll likely be hearing your baby offer up their sing-song coos as they interact with you. Something that you will probably notice is that they listen to your voice, watch your face as you talk, and turn toward other voices, sounds, and music that can be heard around the home. Baby talk at 6 months. By 6 months that cooing has progressed to babbling as your baby combines a few basic consonant and vowel sounds. Strings of ba-ba-ba or da-da-da will bring a smile to your face. However, don’t mistake that “da-da” cry as being a call out for dad. Sounds at this age do not have meaning; they are simply sounds that your baby delights in making and in hearing. Baby talk at 9 months. Your baby will have their language progress to having them recognise a few basic words, such as “no,” “more,” and their name. You’ll hear them using a larger range of consonant sounds, and they’ll have developed a tone of voice. Baby talk at 1 year. Their development around the first birthday will showcase a few basic words, and they’ll use them with meaning and purpose. You’ll likely melt at the first heartfelt call of “mama” or “dada.” Your child will recognise their own name when you call them, but can’t say it. Toddler talk at 12 to 17 months. They are using one or more words and know what these words mean. They will also raise their tone when asking a question, saying “Up-py?” when they want to be carried, for example. They realise the importance of talking and how powerful it is to be able to communicate their needs. Toddler talk at 18 to 24 months. Their vocabulary may include as many as 200 words now, many of which are nouns. They’ll even string two words together, making basic sentences such as “Carry me.” By the time they are two, they’ll use three-word sentences and sing simple tunes. Their sense of self will mature, and they will start talking about themselves — what they like and don’t, what they think and feel. Toddler Talk at 25 to 36 Months. Your child will struggle for a while to find the appropriate volume to use when talking, but they will soon learn. They also start to get the hang of pronouns, such as me and you. Between ages two and three, their vocabulary will increase to up to 300 words. They will string nouns and verbs together to form complete though simple sentences such as “I go now.” Your baby’s first word is an exciting milestone, and one that you’re probably anxiously waiting for. Keep in mind, though, that every child develops at their own rate, and whether your child is an early talker or a late one seldom has an impact on their later communication skills. Talk, sing, read, and play silly games with them. The more you communicate — from birth on up — the more language they will learn.

August 30, 2023
Mia Von Scha

Calming a Child with Sensory Processing Difficulties

Many people are unaware that there is a difference between a tantrum and a meltdown. While both may involve screaming, kicking, shouting, biting and even swearing, there are some fundamental differences. Tantrums involve a child who has been frustrated in their attempt to do or have something, they usually only occur with an audience and they’ll usually abate once the child has what they want. Meltdowns on the other hand are a reaction to feeling overloaded or overwhelmed and there is no end goal or need for an audience. Meltdowns are the most common complaint of parents who have children with sensory processing issues and can result from trips to the supermarket, parties, classrooms or even just a bumpy sock. Most often, these children have trouble transitioning from one activity to another and may meltdown every day when they have to move from playing to school or from bath-time to bedtime. Their brains are continuously receiving jumbled messages from their senses and just getting through the day can be incredibly frustrating and overwhelming. Because they are often not getting enough proprioception, they seek ways to stimulate their muscles and joints (which can be very calming for them) and so may seem to be in perpetual motion. They tend to be both under and over stimulated at the same time! Here are some tips both for avoiding the meltdowns in the first place, and for calming a child who is becoming over stimulated and ready to crack. Firstly, predictability is very important for these children. They need to know what is happening and what will happen next and need lots of warning if there will be changes in their routine and/or if they need to transition to a new activity or environment. Making a picture chart of their daily routine can be helpful with the little ones so that they know what to expect next. Consistency is important too. Being very consistent with rules and consequences and with your own reactions to things. Never ever restrict movement time as a punishment. I’m not a fan of punishment at all, as “bad behaviour” is really just a communication from a child that something is not right, but these children do need predictable and clear boundaries in order to feel safe. It is essential to keep their blood sugar levels stable. Low blood sugar levels can exacerbate the symptoms and meltdowns. High protein, high fat and low carb diets are ideal. Sugar is a no-go area. Having a sensory retreat can be very helpful for recovering from a meltdown. Have a quiet, dark area like a tent with lots of pillows, some soft music, a chew toy and maybe even a weighted blanket. When you’re out and about, make sure you have a bottle with ice cold water and a straw for them to drink from, keep a pack of chewy snacks like biltong, raisins etc, have a stress ball or Prestick or a strip of Velcro for them to play with, get them to carry a heavy backpack, and consider purchasing some soundproof headphones to block out excess noise. At home, useful aids include an indoor or outdoor trampoline, a weighted blanket, a pilates ball, a rocking chair or swing. They need safe ways to jump, kick, run, push, pull and punch. This could involve jungle gyms or pull up bars, or even just pushing a heavy bag around the house or pulling a heavy wagon on a walk (or even pushing the trolley or carrying heavy groceries at the shops). Bath time can be improved by scrubbing them with a rough brush or sponge or giving them a deep massage after the bath, having a massage jet spray in the bath, and buying them an electric toothbrush instead of the ordinary ones. At cooking time, give your sensory child something to do like heavy mixing, rolling of dough, carrying heavy pots or tenderising meat with a mallet. Helping around the house can also be very calming for them – get them to vacuum or move furniture so you can clean or to do the heavy digging in the garden. Playtime on rainy days can be supplemented with indoor obstacle courses or creating an indoor sandpit with beans or popcorn instead of sand and the usual cups, shovels, cars etc. Other calming tips can include using a special video or song to transition between two activities, placing a heating pad on the back of their neck, using lavender or chamomile essential oils dropped behind their ears, drinking chamomile tea, and even sandwiching them between two pillows and squashing them. There is some research now to suggest that kids with sensory processing issues have inflammation in the brain, which can be relieved by supplementing high doses of Omega 3’s and curcumin (the active ingredient in turmeric). A regular probiotic can also help. It is also hugely beneficial if you are calm. Doing some deep breathing when your child is losing it will ensure that you can think clearly and come up with solutions to pull them out of their meltdown instead of joining them in it! Remember that your child is not trying to be naughty or difficult, they are genuinely struggling to keep it together in the world and to feel ok in their own skin. A bit of patience, a lot of creativity, and some forethought can go a long way towards helping these kids to get through a day without a meltdown.

August 30, 2023
Good Night Baby

Your toddler’s Bedtime Battles

Getting your toddler to go to bed can be a struggle and in some cases an all out war. Your toddler on the one hand, is learning to assert themselves and their newfound independence and control of the world around them. On the other hand, they do need routine and sleep so as parents its up to us to ensure this happens, sometimes this in no easy feat! Here are some tips to help nip these bedtime battles in the bud! Early bedtime – as your toddler get older we are often tempted to move bedtime later assuming your toddler is just not tired enough for bed, however this can actually exacerbate the problem. If your child is overtired they are more likely to fight going to sleep. Remember up until the age of 5 they still need 11-12 hours of night time sleep! Concept of Time – your child has no concept of time this is why routines are so important as they give the day structure and also help your child feel secure by knowing what is coming next. Give them pre-warning of what is going to happen. For example “we have 10 min of playtime left and then we will be going to bath” help them conceptualise the time by using a timer with an alarm, so they know when it goes off its time to get ready for the bath. Emotions – toddlers are emotional little people not logical little people and we cannot expect them to follow rules or just lay down in bed if their emotional needs are not met during the day! Find out what you little ones love language is to help fill their emotional cup and get that quality one on one time! Make it fun! – often bedtime signals the end of play time which is why your little one might be showing so much resistance. A good idea is to make a sticker chart of the steps in your bedtime routine, hang it beside your child’s bed that outlines each step of the bedtime routine. As you go through the routine, let your toddler put a sticker or a check mark beside the completed steps. All the toddlers I’ve met love this and it helps them develop a sense of independence and control over their bedtime routines and it makes it FUN. Offer choices to add to the sense of fun and independence, for example “do you want bubbles or bath salts?” or “choose two stories we are going to read tonight.” Make sure all bedtime needs are met  – make sure that all your little ones bedtime needs have been met before you put her in bed for the night. Ensure that everyone who needs to be kissed goodnight has been kissed, they have had their water or sleep comforter, or whatever it is that makes your toddler feel comfortable, safe, and secure. This way, they won’t be able to use these things as excuses to call you back into the bedroom or to get out of the room! These are just small things you can do, but remember all children are different so sometimes we need to think a bit out of the box or take a different approach. Sometimes the smallest changes can make the biggest difference in their journey to better sleep. By O’hara Kydd – Good Night Consultant

August 29, 2023
The Papery

How can creativity benefit your kids?

There are many different reasons why kids (and adults) end up with low self-esteem and a feeling of negativity and hopelessness. One of the big ones is that technology has changed the way kids socialize and interact with each other, and this is impacting on their mental and emotional well being. While there is no one size fits all solution, we can definitely make a difference by encouraging our children to engage in more creative activities from a very early age.

August 29, 2023
Bennetts

DEVELOPMENTAL MILESTONES- YOUR BABY’S FIRST YEAR

Caring for an infant can be exhausting, but there’s so much to look forward to. Take a tour of first-year “firsts” with WebMD’s guide to the most anticipated baby milestones. During the first year of life, your baby will grow and develop at an amazing speed. While caring for an infant can be exhausting during this period, there is so much to look forward to.  Here are the development milestones that your baby will reach in their first year: At Birth Head, Hands and Visuals At birth, your baby will: Have no control of head movement. You would notice that baby’s hands are closed and palmar and plantar grasp reflexes are present. Baby is able to close their eyes in response to bright light. 6 Weeks Head, Hands, Visuals, Hearing, Speech, Recognition and expressions Has a moderate amount of control over the head, particularly while lying on stomach, bust still demonstrates head lag when gently pulled up into a sitting position. Places hand in mouth and can make tight fists. Looks at faces or objects placed within the direct field of vision and may follow slow moving objects within 90°. Responds to sounds by calming, startling or crying. May turn head to the source of the sound. Starts making “cooing” sounds. Begins to smile in response to a familiar face or voice. 3 Months Head, Hands, Visuals, Hearing, Speech, Recognition, expressions and Gross Motor Can lift head when lying in a prone position, very little head lag. Spends much time inspecting hands. Hands are held loosely. Grasp objects that are placed in the hands. Follows objects moving up to 180° in the field of vision. Starts to recognise and look at the source of sounds. Smiles spontaneously. Develops facial expressions to show basic emotions. Recognises and responds to parents. Can lift upper body with forearms when lying on stomach. Demonstrates controlled leg movements lick kicking and stretching. Begins to demonstrate standing reflex, (pushing down on a surface with legs when held up). 6 Months Head, Hands, Visuals, Hearing, Speech, Recognition, expressions and Gross Motor Supports head and can move head. Reaches for and grasps objects. Transfers objects from hand to hand. Starts holding a bottle. Places objects in mouth. Can move eyes in all directions. Responds vocally when spoken to. Uses sounds, such as moaning, squealing or laughing, to express emotions. Uses repetitive monosyllabic sounds, like “baba”. Recognises toys. Recognises self in a mirror and responds to own name. Can support upper body with hands when lying on stomach. Sits when supported. Rolls over. Legs can support the body when held in a standing position. 9 Months Head, Hands, Visuals, Speech, Recognition, expressions and Gross Motor Can pick up, shake and drop small objects. Begins to grasp food and place it in the mouth. Holds a bottle. Begins to point. Starts imitating sounds. Recognises their own name. Nervous around strangers. Sits without support. Crawls on stomach and then on hands and knees. Starts to pull body into a standing position. 1 Year Begins to understand and respond to words like “no”and “bye bye”. Walks with support. Speaks up to 4 words. Can perform gestures such as waving goodbye, pointing or shaking the head. Plays with and makes sounds at toys. Begins to throw objects. Searches for hidden or fallen toys. Helps to dress self. Shows social preference. *These milestones are only given as an approximate as to when your baby might start doing certain things, as all babies develop differently. If you are concerned about your baby’s development, please consult with your healthcare professional. 

August 28, 2023
Squish

5 clever ways to make toddler mealtimes less stressful

Toddlers can be strong-willed, especially when it comes to sitting down and eating, which can turn mealtimes into a battle of wills. These tips will help make things a little calmer. 1. Understand your limits To minimise mealtime stress, it is important to have a clear understanding of who is responsible for deciding what – and some things, unfortunately, are beyond your control! As the parent of a toddler, you get to decide what food is prepared, when it is served, and where it is served. Your child gets to decide whether they will eat it and how much they will eat, and no amount of fighting and arguing is going to change that. There are, however, some things you can do to encourage them along the way…  2. Watch how you react The methods you use to encourage a reluctant toddler to eat their food plays an important role in their mealtime behaviour. If your child decides they don’t want to eat, do not tickle them, make them laugh, sing or dance to get them to take a bite. If you do this, it might stop them from eating next time, so that they get a little ‘entertainment’ from you. Save your praise for when they do eat – that’s when you can do a happy dance! 3. Stick to their favourites If your toddler is going through a tricky eating phase, hold off on introducing new foods. Instead, save your energy – and minimise waste – by rather serving some of their tried and tested favourites. Our Squish 100% Fruit and Veg Purees come in a variety of naturally delicious flavours, including Apple + Guava, Pear + Prune, Mango + Banana, Butternut + Carrot and Sweet Potato, Apple + Cinnamon. And our Squish Yogi range contains a mix of fruit, veg and double cream yoghurt. All Squish pouches have a convenient resealable lid, so you can just use what you need and save the rest for tomorrow.  4. Step back and see the big picture As parents it is our natural instinct to want our child to enjoy a nutritious, balanced diet, so it is natural that we feel concerned – and frustrated – when they don’t. Force yourself to stop and look at the big picture. Does it really matter if your child skips one meal? If your child is really hungry, they will eat the food that is offered to them. If your child won’t eat breakfast or lunch, make sure you have healthy snacks on hand to offer them later if they decide they are hungry. You’ll find a whole host of naturally delicious snack ideas under the Quick + Easy Recipe tab on the Squish website, all containing Squish 100% Fruit and Veg Puree as a key ingredient. Try these Mini Banana Muffins or Chocolate Popsicles, which are packed full of fruit and yoghurt. Squish 100% Fruit and Veg Purees contain no added colourants, flavouring, and preservatives, and have no added starch or cane sugar. They’re made using quality fresh fruit and veg, which means they’re as good as homemade, but without you having to lift a finger! 5. Ask for their help By getting your little one involved in mealtime prep they might feel more invested in the meal and be keen to taste their culinary creations. Prepare this Cream Cheese Dip and Crudites recipe and get them to mix the dip together, or help them cut cute shapes from their toast with a cookie cutter for this Cheesy Mixed Vegetable Egg Scramble. Even if your child still shuns the meal they helped you prepare, be sure to give plenty of praise for being such awesome kitchen helpers.

August 28, 2023
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