
Where Did All the Good Places Go? A Study of “Third Places”
May drags on. Every parent knows the feeling. Kids are locked in study mode with June exams looming. They spend their afternoons hunched over textbooks instead of running around like they’re supposed to. The weather is turning; the days feel shorter. Everyone is a little grumpy and cooped up. Nobody says it out loud, but the whole house has that end-of-term energy—restless and tired all at once. And the worst part? There is nowhere obvious to go. With the colder, rainy weather keeping everyone away from parks and beaches, the options are slim. In Joburg, Durban, and even Cape Town, “other” places to go are few, far between, and generally expensive. You’ve got the mall. You’ve got restaurants that technically allow children. You’ve got a park if you’re lucky, though it probably doesn’t have much going on. What you don’t have is that one place—the place where you can just pitch up as a family, decompress, and actually enjoy an afternoon without planning it three weeks in advance. That place has a name: The Third Place. And we’ve somehow built entire suburbs without them. The Concept of the Third Place Sociologist Ray Oldenburg named it back in 1989, but the concept is ancient. It’s simple: It’s the corner café, the public square, the library that doesn’t shush you, or the park that actually has soul. Third places are where community happens by accident. You aren’t there for a meeting or to tick off a checklist; you’re just there, and so is everyone else, and somehow that’s enough. Most of the world’s great cities are built around them. Joburg and Cape Town? Not so much. We built the highways first, then the estates, then the shopping centres. The third place was left out of the blueprint entirely, costing us that vital sense of community. What That Actually Costs Us Kids aged 8 to 14 are spending roughly 6 hours a day on their screens. Before we complain about TikTok, we have to realize that’s what happens when there is nowhere else to be. The phone isn’t the sole problem; the absence of alternatives is. May makes it worse because the pressure to be “productive” takes over. Study. Revise. Prepare. Kids who should be outside figuring out the world are instead being asked to sit still and perform. There is no release valve—no place to just be a kid for an hour before dinner. Parents feel it too. You’re managing the studying, the moods, the screen-time negotiations, and the guilt about those negotiations. You could use somewhere to sit with a coffee or a good book that doesn’t require you to be “on” the entire time. That isn’t a luxury; it’s what a functioning neighbourhood should provide. The Urban Gap As our society has urbanised, there has been an intrinsic loss of easy, cost-effective third spaces. In cities like Durban, Cape Town, and Joburg, spaces are becoming increasingly inaccessible. Our cities are no longer walkable, and any sort of activity has be.Up – Your preferred third place Indoor playparks are the perfect third space for you and your child. Our indoor facilities are designed for screen-free fun, featuring a dedicated giant maze, soft play area, multi-court, trampoline zone, and more. It is a “kids’ fun zone” that has it all. Here, children have the space to breathe, run, chat with friends, and let their imaginations run wild. Meanwhile, parents finally have a space where they can grab a coffee, have a snack at our café, or read a book—all with the peace of mind that their young ones are safe and active. Book Now Visit any of our be.UP parks today in Cresta, Gateway, or the Waterfront.































