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Kids Behaving Badly When Mom’s In Charge

First of all, it’s not just moms. It seems to be whoever the female primary caregiver is; grandmothers, stepmoms, foster moms, adoptive moms and others. Believe it or not, when you learn what causes this, you may feel delighted that it happens to you. Here’s a typical scenario; the kids are home with mom and she begins finding it difficult to get their cooperation. Meltdowns are occurring and someone’s having a fit. Suddenly, dad arrives and the mood of the kids changes instantly. They run to greet him at the door and seem delighted to see him. He even gives them some instructions and they seem to comply. Immediately, his wife feels resentful that they are suddenly behaving completely different than they were just moments before he walked into the house. The meltdowns have subsided and the tantrums have disappeared. She may even be feeling angry toward him for suddenly getting smiles, laughter and cooperation. I’ve even witnessed this transition in reverse. The setting is the preschool classroom in which the child is playing contently or cooperating with the teacher. Then, mom arrives to pick up her child from school and the child runs to greet mom. She’s distracted on her cell phone or begins conversing with the teachers, and in an instant, the child throws himself down on the floor and a tantrum begins. The mystery around this behavior change has to do with the effect the mother, or the primary female caregiver, has on her child at the moment. Her presence creates an atmosphere of comfort and safety that is conducive to the child revealing the true emotions they may be feeling at the moment. In other words, the child feels safe enough to share what they are feeling deep inside. Unfortunately, few moms know this and mistakenly take the child’s actions, words or behaviors personal. She then gets sucked into the emotions the child is feeling and soon power struggles and arguments get triggered as she attempts to get her needs met in the moment. An important solution to this frustrating problem was offered in the famous book by author and speaker Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, and then later, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families. The 5th habit is to seek first to understand, then be understood. In other words, if you desire cooperation from your child in a moment when it appears you’re not going to get it, take the time to see the moment from the child’s perspective. Through your own silence, observation and open ended questions, determine what your child needs in the moment and satisfy them.

April 30, 2026

How to raise a problem solver

Are you as worried as I am about the children of the new generations and their ability to solve problems? With the increase in the number of helicopter parents (parents who “swoop” in to make everything all better) and a generation of highly sensitive kids, how well are our children going to be able to identify and solve their own problems? This isn’t actually a new problem but it seems to be getting worse. Many years ago I taught college courses part time and it was back then that I noticed an increase in the number of parents coming to see me during my office hours, complaining about the grade I gave their young adult child. Instructors today tell me it’s gotten even worse, with some parents even popping in to see the class for themselves. Making the commitment to raising your children to become problem solvers first requires that you accept the fact that every problem can only have one owner. That person must be held responsible for solving the problem but can certainly seek out and incorporate help from others around him or her to solve the problem. If your teenager puts a dent in the family car, she owns that dent. She may obviously need help in getting it fixed, but she still owns it. To begin with, every time your child or teen comes to you with a problem, you must first determine yourself whether your child owns the problem or you own the problem. If you own the problem, take immediate measures to solve it quickly. If your child owns the problem, be ready to help him or her solve the problem. The following incident is an example to learn by. My son came running into the house one Saturday, holding his arm and complaining about a small abrasion from a fall he took out in the yard. A quick examination of the boo-boo and a few questions left me feeling confident that there was no internal damage and there really wasn’t any blood that I could see. Because I did not feel that there was anything I needed to do that my child couldn’t do for himself, it became his problem to fix. I first acknowledged that the minor scrape was a problem for him by saying to him, “It looks like your arm might hurt.” He nodded. I then helped him begin problem solving by saying to him, “What do you think you could do to make that arm feel better?” My coaching him to solve the problem felt uncomfortable to him so he said, “You’re my Dad, YOU do something.” I replied with, “You’re right, I am your Dad and I’ve always done things in the past, but this time, I want to know what YOU think you can do to make that arm stop hurting.” Instantly, my son said to me, “Can we wash it off and put a bandage on it?” I replied with a smile, “What a great idea! I could help by getting the box of bandages down from the cabinet for you.” Within a matter of minutes and of course, with some “Ouches!” he washed the boo-boo and applied the bandage, and off he ran to continue his play outside. Today that young man is in his early 20s and solving problems every day as a much sought after restaurant manager! Let your children and teens solve their own problems with your guidance and coaching, while you’re nearby to help them do it. What problems will YOU begin letting your child solve on his or her own today?

April 30, 2026

Help your toddler survive your divorce

Divorce is unpleasant, emotional and can be a downright hurtful experience. The problem is that we sometimes forget that we aren’t the only ones experiencing this pain. Often our children suffer an unnecessary degree of hurt as a result of our incompatibility with our chosen partner… Some tips: Consistency This is a watchword for the divorcing parent! With toddlers, parents must be mindful of the need for consistency in the child’s life. This is not the time to drag them from house to house. If at all possible, they should stay in familiar surroundings with the noncustodial parent visiting there. Communication At this age, the toddler understands more than they are often given credit for. They can comprehend that one parent has left the home, but not understand why. At this age, their concept of time is also arbitrary. Your child may ask you when they are going to see their daddy, or why their daddy isn’t here anymore. No matter how many times you have to give them the answers, don’t get frustrated with them, as their world is very confusing at this time. This ties back into consistency, as you become their source of understanding and answers. Conflict If you have to argue or “debate passionately”, make sure to do it in a way that doesn’t cause your child undue fear or concern. Remember, you are the adults in this situation and you have a responsibility to your child, to reduce as much harm as this separation is causing, as possible. Behaviour Toddlers often test their boundaries by saying “No” to adults or testing limits, such as hitting or throwing. This behaviour and acting out can increase during the divorce process as a result of confused boundaries and definitions in the family environment. Toddlers need clear, consistent rules (back to consistency!) that are enforced in a loving way. Empathy Toddlers don’t have a very developed sense of empathy and tend to be concerned primarily with how their own needs are to be met. In the event of divorce, their sense of security becomes more self-oriented and their concern is about whether or not they will be secure, if they will be loved and nourished. Emotions As your toddler becomes more aware of their own feelings, they learn to express them through words and play. As tensions increase in the household due to impending divorce, they may become more reactive. Strong feelings are hard for them to manage and moderate. Don’t forget to let them know that its ok to feel them, but remember to help them manage the intensity by proper displays of your own emotional state, as well as appropriate levels of affection and understanding towards your child. Why do divorce rates increase? There are several reasons that have been put forward as to why there could be an increase in the number of divorces being seen. Here are just a few! Time of year There is a commonly recognised trend that causes a spike in divorce numbers around January and February. The assumption here is that partners who are already discontent often reach a decisive point after having to spend prolonged holidays with their partners over the festive season. This seems to galvanise many into initiating divorce proceedings in the New Year. Empowerment With the increase in awareness of rights according to the constitution of South Africa, more women have become more empowered and are less likely to remain in abusive or undesirable relationships. In the past, many women would remain in unhappy relationships as they felt that they did not have another option, but in current times, a better degree of knowledge and understanding of women’s’ rights could be contributing to the rise of divorce. No-fault divorce South African law provides for no-fault divorce based on the “irretrievable breakdown” of the marital relationship. Couples no longer need to prove that one person is at fault. They can simply say that the marriage relationship has broken down. In essence, it has become much easier to secure a divorce on clear and available legal grounds, with less procedure than in the past. Traditional roles In the past, traditional roles played a strong part in maintaining the marital unit. Partners did not question their lot in the marriage as openly and as a result, there was less open conflict. This is not to say that there was more happiness, merely less interpersonal disagreement. With the blurring of the definition of these roles, there is a rise in open disagreement, ending too often in divorce. Greater social acceptance In certain cultural groups in South Africa, divorce has long held an extremely shameful cloud over the divorcee, especially for the former wife. This has resulted in shunning and community abandonment, which served to discourage others from initiating proceedings. The more accepting the societies become of the concept; the more individuals are willing to pursue it as a route out of an undesirable marriage. Less guilt It is not uncommon these days for couples to wait 10 years before having children. As a result, many do not feel the same degree of guilt over “breaking up” the family unit, or over causing children distress. The disclaimer “at least there aren’t kids involved” can be heard echoing through the divorce courts.

April 29, 2026

Why malaria is catching Gauteng residents off guard

For many South Africans, malaria is still seen as a distant risk, only associated with trips to the Kruger or rural parts of the country, and is widely assumed to be confined to the Lowveld or border regions such as Limpopo and Mpumalanga. However, recent developments show why that perception may be putting Gauteng residents at risk. In the first three months of 2026 alone, the Gauteng Department of Health recorded 414 confirmed malaria cases and 11 deaths – already exceeding the total number of fatalities recorded for the whole of 2025. While local transmission remains rare in Gauteng, most cases are linked to travel to malaria-endemic regions such as parts of Limpopo, Mpumalanga or neighbouring countries, with symptoms often appearing only days or even weeks after someone has returned home. In rare instances, infections can occur without travel when infected mosquitoes are inadvertently transported into non-endemic areas through vehicles or aircraft, a phenomenon known as “odyssean malaria”. “The problem is that malaria is often not immediately suspected in urban settings, meaning symptoms are mistaken for a routine viral illness. And because malaria is not something many Gauteng residents expect to encounter, early symptoms can easily be dismissed,” says Dr Themba Hadebe, Clinical Executive at Bonitas Medical Fund. “Delay in recognising the illness and seeking care is where the real danger lies.” Malaria is also widely misunderstood. Unlike many infectious diseases, it is not contagious and cannot spread from person to person through casual contact. Infection only occurs when someone is bitten by an infected Anopheles mosquito carrying the malaria parasite. Don’t ignore flu-like symptoms One of the reasons malaria is frequently missed in its early stages is that the symptoms resemble common seasonal illnesses, like fever, chills, headaches, fatigue, muscle aches and nausea. Because of this overlap, people may try to manage symptoms at home rather than seeking medical care. This is where misconceptions can be dangerous. Malaria is not caused by a virus but by parasites transmitted through the bite of an infected mosquito, which invade red blood cells and can progress rapidly if left untreated. “If someone develops flu-like symptoms and there has been any possible exposure, even weeks earlier, malaria should be considered and tested for,” says Hadebe. “Testing is quick and accessible, and early diagnosis dramatically improves outcomes.” When malaria becomes a medical emergency Although malaria often starts with relatively mild symptoms, it can deteriorate quickly. Warning signs that require urgent medical attention include confusion, difficulty breathing, persistent vomiting, seizures, jaundice, extreme weakness or reduced consciousness. These symptoms may indicate severe malaria, which is a life-threatening complication that requires immediate treatment. If malaria is suspected, the most important step is to seek medical care without delay. Blood tests or rapid diagnostic tests can confirm infection, allowing treatment to begin quickly. Waiting to see if symptoms improve, or attempting to self-medicate, could allow the disease to progress rapidly. The hidden travel risk many South Africans overlook Many people associate malaria risk only with extended travel to remote areas. In reality, exposure often occurs during routine regional travel, including holidays or family visits to malaria-endemic parts of South Africa or neighbouring countries such as Mozambique and Zimbabwe. Symptoms may only appear days or even weeks after returning home, which can make the connection easy to miss. “Travel history is one of the most important clues clinicians rely on when assessing a patient with fever,” says Hadebe. “Even short trips to malaria-risk areas can result in infection, so it is critical that patients mention any recent travel when seeking medical care.” Malaria remains both preventable and treatable, but delays in diagnosis and treatment significantly increase the risk of severe illness and death. Seek medical advice early when symptoms appear and ensure prompt testing and treatment to prevent avoidable loss of life.

April 29, 2026

Cartoonito Movie Stars: Scooby-Doo & Tom and Jerry Take the Spotlight!

This Friday, Cartoonito brings two classic favourites to the screen for a morning full of laughs and adventure! 🐶✨ SCOOB! (2020) – Scooby-Doo, Shaggy, and Mystery Inc. face their biggest mystery yet, uncovering Scooby’s secret legacy to stop a global “dogpocalypse.” TOM AND JERRY (2021) – The iconic duo team up in a hilarious live-action and animation mash-up, proving even the unlikeliest pair can save the day. Perfect for a fun family start to the weekend! Premiere 📺: Friday 1 May 2026Tune-In ⏰: 09:40 CAT

April 29, 2026

Calming a Child with Sensory Processing Difficulties

Many people are unaware that there is a difference between a tantrum and a meltdown. While both may involve screaming, kicking, shouting, biting and even swearing, there are some fundamental differences. Tantrums involve a child who has been frustrated in their attempt to do or have something, they usually only occur with an audience and they’ll usually abate once the child has what they want. Meltdowns on the other hand are a reaction to feeling overloaded or overwhelmed and there is no end goal or need for an audience. Meltdowns are the most common complaint of parents who have children with sensory processing issues and can result from trips to the supermarket, parties, classrooms or even just a bumpy sock. Most often, these children have trouble transitioning from one activity to another and may meltdown every day when they have to move from playing to school or from bath-time to bedtime. Their brains are continuously receiving jumbled messages from their senses and just getting through the day can be incredibly frustrating and overwhelming. Because they are often not getting enough proprioception, they seek ways to stimulate their muscles and joints (which can be very calming for them) and so may seem to be in perpetual motion. They tend to be both under and over stimulated at the same time! Here are some tips both for avoiding the meltdowns in the first place, and for calming a child who is becoming over stimulated and ready to crack. Firstly, predictability is very important for these children. They need to know what is happening and what will happen next and need lots of warning if there will be changes in their routine and/or if they need to transition to a new activity or environment. Making a picture chart of their daily routine can be helpful with the little ones so that they know what to expect next. Consistency is important too. Being very consistent with rules and consequences and with your own reactions to things. Never ever restrict movement time as a punishment. I’m not a fan of punishment at all, as “bad behaviour” is really just a communication from a child that something is not right, but these children do need predictable and clear boundaries in order to feel safe. It is essential to keep their blood sugar levels stable. Low blood sugar levels can exacerbate the symptoms and meltdowns. High protein, high fat and low carb diets are ideal. Sugar is a no-go area. Having a sensory retreat can be very helpful for recovering from a meltdown. Have a quiet, dark area like a tent with lots of pillows, some soft music, a chew toy and maybe even a weighted blanket. When you’re out and about, make sure you have a bottle with ice cold water and a straw for them to drink from, keep a pack of chewy snacks like biltong, raisins etc, have a stress ball or Prestick or a strip of Velcro for them to play with, get them to carry a heavy backpack, and consider purchasing some soundproof headphones to block out excess noise. At home, useful aids include an indoor or outdoor trampoline, a weighted blanket, a pilates ball, a rocking chair or swing. They need safe ways to jump, kick, run, push, pull and punch. This could involve jungle gyms or pull up bars, or even just pushing a heavy bag around the house or pulling a heavy wagon on a walk (or even pushing the trolley or carrying heavy groceries at the shops). Bath time can be improved by scrubbing them with a rough brush or sponge or giving them a deep massage after the bath, having a massage jet spray in the bath, and buying them an electric toothbrush instead of the ordinary ones. At cooking time, give your sensory child something to do like heavy mixing, rolling of dough, carrying heavy pots or tenderising meat with a mallet. Helping around the house can also be very calming for them – get them to vacuum or move furniture so you can clean or to do the heavy digging in the garden. Playtime on rainy days can be supplemented with indoor obstacle courses or creating an indoor sandpit with beans or popcorn instead of sand and the usual cups, shovels, cars etc. Other calming tips can include using a special video or song to transition between two activities, placing a heating pad on the back of their neck, using lavender or chamomile essential oils dropped behind their ears, drinking chamomile tea, and even sandwiching them between two pillows and squashing them. There is some research now to suggest that kids with sensory processing issues have inflammation in the brain, which can be relieved by supplementing high doses of Omega 3’s and curcumin (the active ingredient in turmeric). A regular probiotic can also help. It is also hugely beneficial if you are calm. Doing some deep breathing when your child is losing it will ensure that you can think clearly and come up with solutions to pull them out of their meltdown instead of joining them in it! Remember that your child is not trying to be naughty or difficult, they are genuinely struggling to keep it together in the world and to feel ok in their own skin. A bit of patience, a lot of creativity, and some forethought can go a long way towards helping these kids to get through a day without a meltdown.

April 29, 2026

Working and Pregnancy – When to Stop and How Much Is Enough

As an expecting mom with a career you may be wondering when the best time would be to stop working and how you can stay comfy and productive when you are still in the workplace. Morning sickness, back pain, frequent bathroom breaks and other pregnancy related symptoms can make working as you used to a more challenging task for you. It’s important that you calculate the risks that your job could possibly have to you and your baby. For instance if you are working with chemicals, heavy metals or radiation you’ll need to either stop working or take extra precautions. Heavy lifting or labour intensive jobs and lots of travel for work are also jobs that’ll become more difficult as your pregnancy progresses. Desk work and computer work are generally regarded as safe, whereas jobs that require lots of standing will become more difficult in later pregnancy. Dealing with work and pregnancy Working can be stressful without having a growing baby in your belly. The physical and emotional changes that you experience can make meeting your body’s and workplaces’s demands a challenging task. However, some moms with healthy pregnancies are able to work almost until they go into labour, how much you can do will depend on your pregnancy. Morning sickness is something many moms have to deal with. There are ways you can help manage nausea at work. Avoiding dining areas, packing mouthwash and a toothbrush and packing in soothing lemon and ginger are all things you can do to make yourself more comfortable. Eating and drinking little and often can also help keep the nausea at bay. Be sure to dress comfortably, and try to take frequent breaks and walks, as this’ll also help you stay more comfortable. What rights am I entitled to as an expecting mom in South Africa? As a pregnant employee, you are probably wondering what rights you’re entitled to. It is a good idea to inform your employee as soon as you can, so that your employer can manage the situation as best as they can (for both of you) – they are required by law to maintain a work environment that is safe for their employees. As an expecting mom, you will be glad to hear that you’re well protected under South African law – you may not be discriminated against or dismissed due to your pregnancy. You also have the right to four consecutive months unpaid maternity leave, anytime from four weeks before your expected birth date. Unfortunately employees are not obligated to pay you during this period, however, your job will be kept open for you until your return to work after maternity leave.

April 28, 2026

Human-Centred Digital Education: Why Connection Still Matters

As education becomes more digital, one truth remains unchanged: “Human connection is essential to meaningful learning.” Leading global organisations emphasise that AI in education must remain human-centred, ethical, and inclusive. Why? Because learning is not just cognitive — it is also: Over-reliance on automation can create risks such as passive learning or reduced critical thinking. This is why the most effective online schools in 2026 prioritise: At Wingu Academy, this translates into: Technology delivers efficiency. But people deliver impact. The future of education belongs to institutions that understand this distinction — and design learning environments where students feel:

April 28, 2026

Four Classic Reasons a Child Misbehaves

I’ve been working with parents and other caregivers for over 20 years, helping them find solutions to their children’s challenging behaviour s. The adults who come to me want to know what to do about the behaviour and providing them with easy-to-apply solutions is my ultimate goal. To get there, I ask the caregivers a series of questions about the behaviour and all contributing factors that will help lead me to the underlying problem that is causing the child’s challenging behaviour. According to leading psychologists, a child’s behaviour falls into one of these four primary categories. See if you can connect past or reoccurring incidents of challenging behaviour from your child, to either of these. Communications When a child is tired, grouchy, and whiny, he or she is not likely to walk up to the parent and say, “Gee dad, I’m feeling a little tired right now. Do you mind if I lie down and take a nap?” They are however, very likely to not cooperative, throw a fit, or refuse to get into the car seat. In this case, their behaviour is communication about the fact that they have had enough stimulation and need sleep. Expression of Needs On occasion I would take my 3 year old granddaughter to the mall with me and like her mother many years before; I would sometimes end up chasing her through the crowd. In a quick moment if I let go of her hand, with a mischievous smile she would run from me yelling, “Catch me grandpa!” Her giggling told me that she wanted to play with me and her way of expressing that need was to run away and get me to chase after her. This required me to firm up the boundaries on the next trip and to find more appropriate ways to satisfy her need to play. Experimentation A woman contacted me for help with her five year old. The little girl began walking around on her hands and knees, barking like a dog. She was probably experimenting with the act of pretending to be a dog, to see what it felt like, and to see what the reaction of her adult caregivers would be. The woman initially became very annoyed with the constant barking. Her scolding created a new motivation in her daughter to do it more because it became unexpectedly fun for the little girl to drive mommy crazy! Unconscious Drives Famed psychodynamic psychologist Sigmund Freud believed that processes are constantly working in the unreachable subconscious region of the mind. These processes are thoughts that can trigger emotions and behaviour s in an adult or a child. If a child is living in a situation where adult chaos is present, the chaos can become worry, fear, or anxiety for a child which can then generate challenging behaviour s for the caregivers. The adult chaos may be in the form of parents fighting, a single mother feeling and acting stressed, parents and grandparents in conflict, or even a teacher who has not been taking care of herself. Children look to their caregivers for a sense that things are OK and when they don’t appear OK, the child is likely to reflect that unstable sense through their own behaviour .

April 28, 2026

Breastfeeding tips

Symptoms you may experience when not breastfeeding The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Care for your breasts when not breastfeeding The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Try ice packs on your breast for 15-20 minutes at a time. If ice doesn’t help, try using a warm washcloth on your breasts. Wear a well-fitting bra that is not too tight. Let your baby nurse at your breasts for a few minutes at a time. Ask your doctor about methods to help release a small amount of milk from your breasts, which may relieve some of the discomfort. Contact your doctor if you have any questions or concerns or you develop chills, or a fever and your breasts are still uncomfortable and swollen after 1-2 days. Benefits of breastfeeding The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Breastfeeding is a skill and can take time to learn; don’t get discouraged if it’s not easy for you at first. Breastfeeding educators are available and can be helpful in overcoming some of the hurdles. Choosing to breastfeed your child provides many benefits for both you and your baby. Some of these include: How to breastfeed The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Some simple tips on how to breastfeed: Keeping your breasts healthy The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Keeping your breasts healthy during breastfeeding is important. Here are some things to watch for:

April 28, 2026

Taz: Quest for Burger – A Wild Family Adventure on Cartoonito!

Get ready for a hilarious and heartwarming adventure on Cartoonito! 🐾🎬 TAZ: Quest for Burger premieres on Monday 27/04 at 09:40 CAT. Follow feisty Bandicoot girl Quinn as she enlists the help of the infamous Tasmanian Devil to track down an outlaw who has stolen their town’s winter food. This comedic and touching family movie shows that even the unlikeliest heroes and friendships can save the day. Perfect fun for kids and parents alike! Premiere 📺: Monday 27 April 2026Tune-In ⏰: 09:40 CAT

April 27, 2026

Why do children lie?

The question of why children lie begs the greater question of why any of us lie. If you think back to the last time you lied (and I’ll bet my life you can think of a time), look at what was going on internally and this will give you a good idea of why your children do it and how to avoid it in future. Now before we get to that, let me just say that we all have all traits. We are all liars sometimes and every one of us will be pushed to lie under certain circumstances. So firstly, please never label your child as a liar. Once we apply a label to a child they are more likely (not less) to repeat this behaviour and to incorporate it into their sense of self as they grow up. ALL children lie sometimes (as do ALL adults). Ok, so it’s normal to lie sometimes, but why, and why do some lie more often? Going back to why we all do, lying is a fear-based behaviour. The child believes, for whatever reason, that if they tell the truth it will result in more pain than pleasure. And where do they get this message? From us, of course. We’re constantly giving kids unconscious messages that telling the truth will get you in trouble. “Who ate the sweets?” “I did” “Right, go to your room”. Sound familiar? What we need to get into the habit of doing is praising truth-telling and taking responsibility more than we punish “bad” behaviour. If our children own up and say that they “did it” we should be actively praising this behaviour and pointing out that while the behaviour is not ok with us, we’re really impressed that they told the truth. Children will only lie if they are afraid of our reaction to the truth. I know that many people worry that if they take this approach they will be too soft on the bad behaviour and will end up with unruly kids. One of the fundamental structures for well-behaved, compliant children is being their primary attachment (which implies complete trust, openness and closeness). If your children trust you completely and feel connected to you and loved no matter what they do they will actually be less likely to produce so called “bad” behaviours in the long run. Of course they will make mistakes along the way and present “negative” traits (like we all do) including lying, but this will not develop into any kind of delinquency if that adult-child connection is in place. And part of keeping it in place is keeping the lines of communication open and allowing your children to tell the truth and know they will be safe. I think this is a fundamental skill to work on when your children are little and to instil a sense of open communication and acceptance BEFORE they become teenagers. Once our kids hit the teen years, if we’ve shut off honest communication, we are in for a different level of trouble with our children lying to us about things that can be life threatening, or where they really could use our adult help and guidance. The next time your child lies to you think about why they would be afraid to tell the truth and then instead of punishing them for lying, rather address the rift in your relationship.

April 27, 2026

How To Be Angry Without Destroying Your Kids’ Self-Confidence

All too often I hear parents trying to repress their anger around their kids. Now this is not only unhealthy for you (repressed emotions actually create illness within the body) but it is also not great for your kids to grow up believing that some emotions are simply not ok to have. All emotions are a part of our human journey, and are messages from our unconscious mind regarding things we need to pay attention to or change in our lives. Having said that, it is also worth noting that telling your child that THEY are making YOU angry, sad, irritated (or even happy) is simply too much responsibility to place on another human being, particularly a little one! No one can MAKE you anything. Think about squeezing an orange. What comes out? I’m hoping that you’re saying “orange juice”! Not guava juice or pear juice or cherry flavoured Coca-Cola! Why? Because you only get out what is already within. So if your kids are pushing your buttons and there’s anger coming out, well then that’s what is within. Take responsibility for your own emotions. Own them – they’re yours. However, this does not mean that you are not allowed to experience these emotions, and even experience them very strongly in the presence of your children. So how do we express strong negative emotions without damaging our kids and making them feel responsible for us and our emotional state? How do we teach them to take responsibility for THEIR own emotions and not blame you or their siblings or teachers or life for how it is that THEY are feeling? It all starts with the little one-letter word “I”. “I am feeling soooo angry right now”, “I am feeling more and more and more irritated, so irritated that I could just scream”, “I am feeling ridiculously happy, like the luckiest person in the world”. As opposed to: “You are making me very angry”, “You are irritating me”, “You make your mom sooo happy”. Can you see the difference? And these can be said with as much emotion or volume as you feel is appropriate. You can even step it up in ways that they can relate to and that gives them some warning about where you’re at… “I am about as angry as a pea right now… Now I’m as angry as a small cat… AND NOW I’M AS ANGRY AS A LARGE ELEPHANT!!!” They will get the message. They will learn when to step away. They will learn how to experience strong emotional states themselves without lashing out at others. What they won’t learn is to take responsibility for you. What they won’t learn is to blame. What they won’t learn is to beat themselves up for your inner state. This builds emotional maturity, responsibility and self-confidence. All emotions are ok, but how we choose to express them is what makes the biggest difference.

April 27, 2026

Why is everyone sick right now? How to protect yourself before winter peaks

If it feels like everyone around you is coughing, sneezing or battling the same stubborn flu, you are not imagining it. As temperatures begin to drop across South Africa, respiratory illnesses start to circulate more widely, with workplaces, schools and households across the country quickly feeling the impact. “While many people think of flu as a routine seasonal illness, it can lead to serious complications, particularly for those with underlying conditions or weakened immune systems,” explains Dr Themba Hadebe, Clinical Executive at Bonitas Medical Fund. “Vaccination and proactive health habits help reduce both the severity of infection and the likelihood of hospitalisation.” The flu vaccine does not eliminate the possibility of getting influenza entirely. However, it significantly lowers the risk of developing severe illness and complications. For many people, the vaccine can also shorten the duration of illness and reduce the intensity of symptoms if they do become infected. Healthcare professionals generally recommend getting the flu shot before the winter peak that is coming up soon in South Africa, so that the body has time to build immunity. Many medical schemes also make it easier for members to access flu vaccinations through their healthcare networks. For example, Bonitas Medical Fund covers one flu vaccine per beneficiary each year through its preventative benefits across all options, subject to Scheme rates. Members can receive the vaccine through network pharmacies or healthcare providers, although it is advisable to call ahead to confirm stock availability and, where possible, schedule an appointment to reduce waiting times. Who should get the flu vaccine? While most people can benefit from vaccination, certain groups face a higher risk of severe illness and are strongly encouraged to get vaccinated. These include healthcare workers who are in contact with patients on a daily basis, people over the age of 65 and individuals with cardiovascular diseases, including chronic heart disease, hypertension or a history of stroke. People with chronic conditions such as diabetes, chronic kidney disease or chronic lung diseases like asthma and chronic obstructive pulmonary disease should also consider flu vaccines, as should pregnant women and people living with HIV/AIDS. Children can also receive the vaccine. Schools and early childhood centres are often environments where respiratory viruses spread quickly, as children may not yet have fully developed hygiene habits. The flu vaccine is widely used and considered safe for most children older than six months. “While children often recover well from seasonal flu, they can still experience severe symptoms and are also key spreaders of infection within families,” Themba explains. “Vaccination helps reduce the risk of serious illness and can also limit how easily the virus spreads to siblings, parents and grandparents.” Parents should always speak to a healthcare professional if they are unsure whether vaccination is appropriate for their child, particularly if the child has underlying health conditions or allergies. Who should avoid it? Although the flu vaccine is safe for most people, it is not recommended for certain groups. This includes individuals with severe allergies to eggs or egg proteins, as many flu vaccines are produced using chicken eggs. Infants younger than six months should not receive the vaccine, as it is not licensed for that age group. People who previously experienced a severe reaction to a flu vaccine should consult a healthcare professional before considering another dose. It is also advisable to delay vaccination if someone is already experiencing active flu symptoms. Strengthening your immune system before winter Vaccination is only one part of staying healthy during winter. Lifestyle factors play an important role in maintaining a strong immune response. A balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, lean proteins and whole grains helps supply the nutrients the body needs to fight infection. Adequate sleep is equally important, as poor sleep weakens immune function and increases vulnerability to illness, as is regular physical activity. “Taking proactive steps before winter fully sets in can protect not only individuals but entire communities,” says Hadebe. “Prevention remains one of the most effective tools we have when it comes to respiratory health.”

April 24, 2026

Tips for Breastfeeding in Public: Confidence and Comfort

Breastfeeding is a natural and healthy way to feed your baby, but doing so in public can be a daunting experience for many mothers. Concerns about privacy, societal judgment, and personal comfort can create anxiety, making it challenging to breastfeed confidently outside the home. This article provides tips to help breastfeeding mothers in South Africa feel more comfortable and confident when breastfeeding in public, ensuring a positive experience for both mother and baby. Understanding Your Rights Before diving into practical tips, it’s essential to understand your legal rights regarding breastfeeding in public. In South Africa, the law protects the right to breastfeed in public spaces. According to the South African Department of Health, mothers are encouraged to breastfeed their children wherever and whenever needed. Knowing and understanding these rights can empower you and reduce anxiety about potential confrontations or negative reactions. Choose Comfortable Clothing One of the most practical steps to increase comfort while breastfeeding in public is choosing the right clothing. There are several options designed to make breastfeeding easier and more discreet: Nursing Tops and Dresses: These garments have hidden openings or panels that allow easy access for breastfeeding without exposing too much skin. Button-Down Shirts: These provide quick access to the breast and can be paired with a nursing bra for additional convenience. Nursing Bras: These bras have cups that can be easily unclipped and folded down, making breastfeeding more straightforward and comfortable. Choosing clothing that you feel comfortable and confident in can significantly impact your breastfeeding experience in public. Practice at Home Practicing breastfeeding at home can help you feel more confident when you need to do it in public. Find a comfortable position and practice using any nursing covers or specific clothing items you plan to wear outside. This practice can help you become more adept at handling your baby and adjusting your clothing discreetly. Use a Nursing Cover or Blanket If you prefer more privacy while breastfeeding in public, a nursing cover or blanket can be helpful. These covers are designed to drape over your shoulder and provide a barrier between you and the public. Some nursing covers even have adjustable necklines, allowing you to maintain eye contact with your baby while ensuring privacy. While nursing covers can provide a sense of security, it’s important to remember that they are not necessary for everyone. Some mothers and babies find them uncomfortable or restrictive. Choose what works best for you and your baby. Find a Comfortable Spot When breastfeeding in public, finding a comfortable and relatively private spot can make the experience more enjoyable. Many public places now offer designated nursing rooms or areas specifically designed for breastfeeding mothers. If these are not available, look for quieter, less crowded spots where you can sit comfortably. Some places to consider include: Cafes or Restaurants: Many establishments are breastfeeding-friendly and may have a quiet corner where you can nurse your baby. Parks: A bench under a tree can provide a peaceful spot for breastfeeding. Stores with Fitting Rooms: These can offer privacy if you feel uncomfortable breastfeeding in a more open area. Responding to Public Reactions Despite the increasing acceptance of breastfeeding in public, you may still encounter negative reactions or comments. Knowing how to respond can help you stay confident and calm. Here are some tips: Stay Calm and Polite: If someone confronts you, respond calmly and politely. You can inform them that you have the legal right to breastfeed in public. Focus on Your Baby: Remember that your baby’s needs come first. If you encounter negativity, focus on your baby and try not to let it affect your confidence. Have a Response Ready: Prepare a simple, respectful response in case someone comments on your breastfeeding. Something like, “I’m just feeding my baby. Thank you for understanding,” can be effective. Build a Support Network Having a support network can significantly boost your confidence when breastfeeding in public. Connect with other breastfeeding mothers through local support groups, online forums, or social media. Sharing experiences, tips, and encouragement with others who understand what you’re going through can be incredibly empowering. Educate Yourself and Others Education plays a crucial role in normalising breastfeeding in public. The more informed you are about the benefits of breastfeeding and your rights, the more confident you will feel. Additionally, by educating those around you, you can help create a more supportive environment. Share Information: Share articles, research, and personal stories about breastfeeding with family and friends to help them understand its importance. Advocate for Breastfeeding-Friendly Spaces: Encourage local businesses and public spaces to provide designated breastfeeding areas and support breastfeeding mothers. Use Distraction Techniques If your baby is easily distracted by the environment when breastfeeding in public, consider using distraction techniques to keep them focused. Some strategies include: Maintaining Eye Contact: Making eye contact with your baby can help them stay focused on breastfeeding. Covering Your Baby’s Head: A lightweight blanket or nursing cover can block out visual distractions and help your baby concentrate on feeding. Stay Hydrated and Nourished Breastfeeding can be physically demanding, so it’s essential to stay hydrated and well-nourished. Carry a water bottle and healthy snacks with you when you go out. Staying hydrated and maintaining your energy levels will help you feel better and more confident while breastfeeding in public. Practice Self-Care Finally, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Being a new mother can be overwhelming, and it’s important to prioritise self-care. Make time for activities that help you relax and recharge, whether it’s taking a walk, reading a book, or spending time with loved ones. The more relaxed and confident you feel, the more comfortable you’ll be breastfeeding in public. Conclusion Breastfeeding in public can be a positive and empowering experience with the right preparation and mindset. By understanding your rights, choosing comfortable clothing, practicing at home, and finding supportive environments, you can build the confidence needed to nurse your baby wherever you go. Remember that breastfeeding is a natural and essential part of motherhood,

April 24, 2026

How Safe Are Teething Gels?

Every baby is different but common symptoms associated with teething include, mild irritability, drooling, low-grade fever and loss of appetite. If your baby is inconsolable or has a high fever chances are this is not due to teething. Teething should not make your baby very sick but rather very unhappy.

April 24, 2026

Making Education Accessible for Everyone: Our Inclusive Approach

Accessibility is at the heart of modern education. Educ8 SA ensures that every learner, regardless of ability or location, can access high-quality programs that suit their unique needs. How Educ8 SA Ensures Accessibility This inclusive approach ensures that students with physical, cognitive, or learning challenges can participate fully in their education. Programs for Inclusive Learning Educ8 SA provides pathways for all ages and needs: Benefits Beyond Academic Achievement Inclusive online learning fosters: These skills prepare learners for lifelong success in education, work, and personal growth. Getting Started Provide your child with accessible, flexible education: Educ8 SA ensures that every learner has the opportunity to thrive, regardless of circumstances.

April 23, 2026

What the Latest Research Actually Says About Screens and Your Child’s Brain

Parents everywhere are trying to navigate screens with as much intention as possible, and often with a fair amount of guilt. A wave of new research has added fuel to the conversation, including a large 2025 study tracking over 10,000 children with brain scans, which found that higher screen time in middle childhood was associated with subtle changes in the brain regions involved in attention and self-regulation. 1 The effects were real but small, and the researchers are clear that they’ve found an association, not proof of cause and effect. So, what does the fuller picture actually tell us? It’s Not Just One Study A longitudinal study from A*STAR in Singapore found that high screen use before age two was linked to premature brain-network specialisation, slower decision-making at eight, and higher anxiety at thirteen, but screen time at ages three and four didn’t show the same effects, suggesting infancy is a uniquely sensitive window.2 A Karolinska Institute study tracking over 8,000 children found that social media use specifically was associated with growing inattention over four years, while TV and video games were not.3 And a meta-analysis of over 81,000 children found that those with more than two hours of daily screen time were significantly more likely to show attention-related difficulties.4 Content Matters More Than the Clock A 2025 study of over 41,000 children in Shenzhen found that the type of content matters far more than the clock. Passive screen use (cartoons, educational videos, autoplay) was linked to increasing attention difficulties the more children watched. But interactive content that required children to respond, make choices and think showed no such link, even at higher levels of use.5 This is the most empowering finding in the research: a child building in Minecraft is doing something fundamentally different from a child watching autoplay. The question isn’t just how long, but what is the screen asking my child’s brain to do? What Should Parents Do? The research doesn’t support panic. Effect sizes are small at the individual level. But it does support thoughtfulness: Prioritise interactive over passive. Apps and games that require thinking carry less risk than scrolling and autoplay.5 Take social media seriously. Of all screen types, social media is the one most consistently linked to growing concentration difficulties over time, and that finding held up regardless of a child’s background or starting point.3 Protect off-screen experiences. Executive function is built when children wait their turn, tolerate boredom and navigate friendships. Screens become a problem when they replace these moments. Read together. The Singapore team found that parent-child reading at age three significantly buffered the brain-network effects of earlier screen exposure.6 It’s never too late to add connection. Hold boundaries kindly. Children’s developing brains aren’t equipped to self-regulate screen use. A boundary isn’t a punishment — it’s space for the slow work of growing up. Dalza is a care coordination platform for children with learning differences, helping families connect the dots between school, therapy and home. Learn more at dalza.com. References 1. Shou, Q., Yamashita, M., & Mizuno, Y. (2025). Translational Psychiatry, 15, 447. 2. Huang Pei et al. (2025). Neurobehavioural Links from Infant Screen Time to Anxiety. A*STAR, Singapore. 3. Nivins, S. et al. (2025). Pediatrics Open Science, 2(1), 1–10. 4. Liu, H. et al. (2023). Reviews on Environmental Health, 39(4), 643–650. 5. Wu, J-B. et al. (2025). PLoS ONE, 20(4), e0312654. 6. Screen time, brain network development and socio-emotional competence. Psychological Medicine (2024).

April 23, 2026

Kangaroo care and its benefits

You may have heard the terms “skin-to-skin” or “kangaroo care” when it comes to interacting with a newborn baby. It refers to the amazing benefits that have been found when a mother has the opportunity to place their newborn baby skin-to-skin straight after birth. It also refers to skin-to-skin contact during the newborn phase from both mother and father. Of course, birth can be an unpredictable time – and that includes the need for doctors or nurses to have to handle your baby immediately after birth for medical reasons or for the baby to be placed in an incubator. If these things occur, skin-to-skin does not have an expiry date when it comes to your baby and can take place as soon as it is medically safe to. Here are just some of the scientifically proven benefits of kangaroo care: Skin-to-skin contact helps regulate a baby’s temperature. When mom/dad and baby are skin to skin, the parent’s chest temperature adjusts to warm up a cool baby, or cool down a too-warm baby. This phenomenon is called “thermal synchrony.” Skin-to-skin contact increases the paternal bond. One study followed mothers and babies who experienced skin-to-skin contact right after delivery compared to mothers who only viewed their child briefly immediately after birth. Days later the mothers who had skin-to-skin contact were shown to be more comfortable caring for and handling their babies. One year later those same mothers were found to touch, hold and interact with their children more. Skin-to-skin contact can help keep heart and breathing rates stable. Newborns panic when they are separated from their mother immediately after birth. That separation causes stress, which can increase both heart and breathing rates. Being skin to skin with their mother reduces stress and helps keep a baby’s heart rate and breathing normal. Babies cry less when they are skin to skin with their parent. Being close to their parents is natural for babies. Studies show that babies cry less when skin to skin with their mothers than babies who have been separated from mom. Human touch is an integral part of brain development. Touch and movement have been shown to be the basic building blocks for brain and social development. Early skin-to-skin contact helps to set a pattern for continued holding, carrying and touching. Moms who have early skin-to-skin contact breastfeed more and longer. When babies are placed skin-to-skin on their mother after delivery, research has shown that they follow a series of steps to familiarise themselves with their mother, eventually making their way to the breast on their own to begin breastfeeding. The research results are so strong, in fact, that the American Academy of Pediatrics now recommends that immediately after delivery all healthy infants be placed in direct skin-to-skin contact with their mothers as soon as possible and at least for the first hour. How to Hold Your Baby Skin to Skin: Find some good times throughout the day when skin-to-skin works best for you, your baby, and your partner. This might be during feedings (whether by breast or bottle), right before a bath, or just before putting pyjamas on for bedtime. Place your baby in a nappy only. Moms remove your bra. Hold your baby directly against your bare chest. Make sure your baby’s head is turned to the side, so he or she can easily breathe, and hold your baby close enough for you to kiss the top of their head. Your body will keep them warm. It’s fine to drape a thin blanket over your baby’s back. All you need to do after that is sit quietly and enjoy being close and together.

April 23, 2026

Panado® Proudly Launches Berry Nice 5 ml Sachets to Make Life Easier For Parents On-the-Go

Panado® is the trusted1 name parents reach for when they need the power to fight their little one’s pain and fever. But as any parent knows, pain and fever never arrive at a convenient time. A fever can spike halfway through a long car trip or teething pain can creep in during a weekend away. A sore ear can appear mid-grocery shop or on the taxi ride home. And a sore throat? It always seems to show up just before bedtime at Gogo’s house. That’s where Panado®’s newest offering – Panado® Strawberry 5 ml Sachets2 – fit neatly into real life with children. Ready to work immediately,3 gentle on stomachs4 and made for those unexpected moments when parents need pain and fever relief. Your perfect backup for life’s little surprises Panado® Strawberry 5 ml Sachets2 offer on-the-go pocket power for parents and are compact, easy to store, and ideal for travel. Whether tucked into your pocket, a handbag, nappy bag, backpack or car console, they’re a practical solution when families are out and about. Easily accessible, they offer a solution for unexpected pain or fever emergencies. Small enough to carry, pain & fever relief when you need it most Suitable for babies and children from three months and older2, each sachet contains a single 5 ml dose of Panado® Strawberry Syrup2, powered by paracetamol, which has over 150 years of clinical experience5. There’s no bulky bottle to pack and no messy spills to deal with. Parents simply tear open the sachet, administer the right dosage using a medicine measure or syringe, and toss what’s left once the correct dose has been given. No mess. No stress. Just pain and fever relief. Dosage is calculated according to a child’s age and weight, and parents can check the Panado® dosage calculator at panado.co.za/dosage-calculator, or scan the QR code. This extra step helps ensure the right dose every time. Big relief in one tiny sachet The Panado® Strawberry 5 ml Sachets2 contain the same trusted2 formulation, strength and berry nice flavour parents are familiar with, ready to work immediately3 when pain or fever strikes. Panado® Strawberry 5 ml Sachets1 complement the existing Panado® paediatric range, which includes Panado® Strawberry Syrup2, Panado® Peppermint6 with improved taste7 and Panado® Infant Drops8, recognised as a Product of the Year 2025 winner, voted for by 2,000 South African consumers in a Kantar survey and awarded in the Child – Health category.9 Parents trust1 Panado® to bring comfort when it matters most, helping your little one settle, feel better and get back to being their happy, playful self, wherever the day takes you. Panado® products are available from Baby City, Pick n Pay, Checkers including Hypers, Shoprite, Clicks, Dis-Chem and independent pharmacies. For more information, visit: https://panado.co.za/ and join the conversations on Facebook. For references and legal disclaimers, visit https://panado.co.za/references. Approval ticket #02.20261000004801. February 2026.

April 22, 2026

Staying healthy during your pregnancy

Welcoming a new addition to the family is exciting but also a little daunting. Parents are anxious to make sure everything is done correctly to ensure the best start for their little one. Part of this preparation is also maintaining a healthy lifestyle and diet, during the pregnancy, crucial for both the mother and developing baby. Dr Themba Hadebe of Bonitas Medical Fund says that what you eat during your pregnancy, directly affects foetal development. ‘A diet rich in vitamins, minerals and other key nutrients can help ensure a healthy pregnancy outcome. Proper nutrition supports the development of your baby’s brain, bones and organs. It also aids in building the placenta, which supplies the baby with oxygen and nutrients.’ He advises eating a balance diet that includes a variety of food groups, such as fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, whole grains and healthy fats. Each offers unique benefits that support both maternal health and foetal growth. What foods should I be eating? Bearing in mind that you may feel nauseous in the beginning and not be able to eat certain foods and may have cravings for others, as far as possible try to follow a balanced diet, rich in nutrients. Foods you should include in your diet are dairy products, such as milk and yoghurt, as they provide extra protein, calcium and probiotics. Legumes, such as lentils and soybeans, are other good foods to include as they contain protein, fibre and folate, which is particularly important during pregnancy. Sweet potatoes, which are high in vitamin A and fibre, are also a good addition to your shopping list. Other wholesome foods include eggs, broccoli, lean meat and berries. ‘During pregnancy your vitamin and mineral needs will change,’ say Dr Hadebe. ‘And although a heathy diet should supply most of the vitamins and minerals needed, often healthcare professionals suggest prenatal vitamins as a good way to supplement and cover nutritional gaps, even though they don’t replace a healthy lifestyle and diet.’ What vitamins and minerals are essential and why? Folic Acid: Or folate helps prevent neural tube defects, such as spina bifida and supports the development of the baby’s brain and spine. Iron: Supports healthy growth and helps prevent anaemia by ensuring that blood (in both mom and baby) carries oxygen effectively. Iron-rich foods like lean meats, beans and spinach can help but most pregnant women need an iron supplement to meet the increased demands. Calcium: Calcium supports the development of the baby’s bones and teeth. If the mother’s calcium intake is inadequate, the baby will draw from the mother’s stores, potentially weakening her bones. Dairy products and leafy greens are great sources of calcium. Vitamin D: Aids in calcium absorption and supports the baby’s bone health. Exposure to sunlight and foods like fortified dairy and fatty fish (salmon, mackerel) can help ensure adequate vitamin D levels. Omega-3 Fatty Acids: These essential fats, found in fatty fish, like salmon and also flaxseeds, support the baby’s brain and eye development. Omega-3s can also help reduce the risk of preterm birth. Vitamin C: Helps with iron absorption and boosts the immune system. It can be found in citrus fruits, strawberries, bell peppers and broccoli. Iodine: Essential for the production of thyroid hormones that regulate the development of the foetal brain and nervous system. You will need more iodine than usual when you’re pregnant or breastfeeding. Iodine can be found in dairy products, eggs and seafood. ‘Getting the correct micronutrients is essential for a healthy pregnancy and best possible development of your baby,’ says Dr Hadebe. ‘Deficiencies can lead to complications such as hypertension and low birth weight which is why prenatal supplements are often prescribed. However, it is important not to exceed the recommended dosages. Consult your doctor or gynae before starting any supplements, they will help determine the appropriate dose for your individual needs.’ In additional to a balanced diet, Dr Hadebe also recommends you exercise regularly – it’s a great way to stay in shape, boost your mental health and releases ‘feel good’ endorphins. In addition to maintain a healthy lifestyle, cut out alcohol and nicotine, cut down on caffeine and find way to manage your stress levels. *Plan dependant.

April 22, 2026

Neonatal jaundice, what is it and what happens if my baby is born with it?

Jaundice is a yellow discolouration of a baby’s eyes and skin and is fairly common in newborn babies. Although it may be alarming to you to see your newborn baby with a slightly yellowish tint, thankfully, most cases of jaundice are considered normal and will go away on their own. You may be wondering why your baby may be born with this condition, or what treatments are available if your little-one has jaundice – read on, we outline the causes and common treatments thereof. Why would my baby have neonatal jaundice? Babies are born with neonatal jaundice when they have excess levels of unconjugated bilirubin in their blood. Bilirubin is a yellowy substance which comes from the breakdown of red blood cells, however, baby’s livers sometimes can’t break this substance down fast enough, giving their eyes and skin a yellow tint. When your baby is born they will be checked for jaundice, as high levels of bilirubin can lead to more serious problems. A baby is more likely to get neonatal jaundice if they are born premature, have a different blood type to their mother or are being breastfed. Babies who are breastfed can develop jaundice if they don’t get enough breastmilk, due to trouble feeding. What happens if my baby has neonatal jaundice? If your baby has jaundice, this will typically be seen in the second or third day of being born. Sometimes jaundice will go away on its own and other times it will need to be treated. If your baby is struggling to breastfeed it’s important that he be breastfed more often, or even receive formula as a supplement during this time. Phototherapy (light therapy) can also be used to help your baby. Light can turn the bilirubin into a form that can easily pass out the body. If the jaundice is very bad, your baby may receive a blood transfusion which will quickly lower bilirubin levels.

April 22, 2026

Top ways to balance work and parenting

We all know that parenting can be a delicate juggling act at the best of times. Whether it is organising day-care, scheduling doctor appointments, making sure they are getting their five a day – being a parent is a lot to handle and think about. Throw a career into the mix, and often balls can start dropping. Here are five ways to not only help you manage your time but make sure that both your children and your job get the attention they need. Switch off This advice comes from some of the most successful business people in the world. Segment your time. When you are at work, focus solely on the tasks at hand. With that level of focus and concentration, you will be able to do your job more efficiently. The same applies at home. Make sure you switch off your work notifications when possible. Give your children and yourself the attention you all deserve when it is time to do so. Schedule This is a biggie! The more organised you are, the more time you have. For your children, for your job, to grab a coffee with a friend. There are many apps you can download to help you manage your and your families’ schedules. Some of them can even be shared amongst family members, so everyone that needs to can lend a hand. Make sure you have all the info you need at the touch of a button. Dentist appointments, Toptots classes, grocery lists and more. Knowing everything that needs to be done is one step closer to getting everything you need done! Prep time Most working parents swear by this. Whether packing lunches the night before or taking a few hours on a Sunday to meal prep for the week – using the time you have to give you breathing room during the crazy periods (AKA, bath and dinner time) is a smart use of time. Again, there are many online tools to assist you in things like meal prepping – use them to give you a helping hand. Time for you A burnt-out parent is not going to have the energy and capability to get anything done. Never mind spending quality time with their children. It is essential that you put yourself on the top of your ‘take care of’ list. Make sure you schedule time to do things you love, see friends and family and look after yourself. Happy parents make happy children. Delegate You don’t need to do it all yourself. Everyone needs help, whether it be from a partner, parent or friend. There are always people around that are willing to lend a hand; you just need to reach out to them. Learning to let go of tasks, delegate responsibilities and ask for help with help to ease your load to focus on the things that matter – yourself and your children! Toptots Early Learning SA

April 22, 2026

Top 5 ways to encourage your toddler to speak

Milestones are often reached at different times by different children. Speech is one of them. If your young toddler is on the verge of speaking, starting to babble, and you want to help them along – try these tips 1. Talk A lot. You may not think this, but your child can already start taking language cues. They are listening to you. So describe what you are doing, point at objects and say their names out loud. Verbalise as much as you possibly can. Just hearing you form words will get them to talk that much faster. 2. Make it fun When children are enjoying what they are doing, they learn so much more from it (this is really what the Toptots classes are built on too). When you are actively trying to teach them to say certain words, make them words they will enjoy. For example, if they love animals then the word dog or cat. 3. Keep it simple Don’t try to teach them more than two words at a time. They won’t be able to retain the information. Keep it short and sweet, and use repetition to help them remember the sounds. Keep to single syllable sounds so as to not overwhelm them. 4. Make them ask This is for toddlers that have the ability to talk but would rather point at things (this is very common). If your child can say the word water, but would rather point at the tap, then wait for them to say it before pouring it. This starts the ball rolling on language development and expression. 5. Use music. Children love music, and can often remember melodies better than words. When the two are combined, the music helps children decipher sounds better. Play songs they enjoy in the car, at home, and make it a fun experience to try and sing along! Your toddler’s ability to speak depends largely on their environment and home life. Try to include as many spoken opportunities for them as possible, and commit to taking time each day to run through simple words with them.

April 22, 2026

South Africans are stressed out: the hidden health impact of a strained economy

South Africans are living through another cycle of sustained economic pressure as rising fuel costs continue to filter through the economy, pushing up the price of transport, food and household goods. At the same time, broader global uncertainty and ongoing geopolitical tensions are adding further worry and dread to an already financially stressful landscape for South Africans. A 2026 study on the impact of geopolitical tensions on mental health shows that sustained global conflict and political uncertainty is a key driver of anxiety, even among populations not directly affected by war, contributing to a persistent sense of threat. For many people, this is experienced not as a single event but as a constant background load, which compounds existing financial strain and intensifies everyday stress responses. “When people are faced with instability and conflict narratives, even if events are occurring far away, the body can remain in a sustained stress response,” says Dr Themba Hadebe, Clinical Executive at Bonitas Medical Fund. “Even when individuals are not directly affected, the constant sense that the world is unstable can heighten anxiety and intensify the strain already created by financial pressure. Over time, this compounds into burnout and emotional exhaustion that we are increasingly seeing in members.” Mental health challenges are also having a wider economic impact, with South Africa estimated to lose over R250 billion annually (around 4.5% of GDP) linked to mental health conditions. In addition, about 452 million work hours are lost each year, with “presenteeism” alone costing more than R200 billion in lost productivity. Chronic stress linked to money worries also drives physiological changes in the body that are harder to detect early. Sustained elevated levels of stress hormones like cortisol can affect sleep quality, weaken immune response and contribute to weight changes, fatigue and burnout. Over time, this creates a cycle where physical exhaustion and mental strain reinforce each other, making recovery more difficult. Managing stress in a high-pressure environment While economic conditions are not within individual control, there are practical steps that can help reduce the health impact of ongoing stress. Structured routines are important; regulating sleep patterns and ensuring you are eating balanced, consistent meals help regulate the body’s stress response. Even small adjustments, like limiting late-night screen exposure or introducing short daily walks, can improve sleep quality and mood regulation over time. Financial clarity also plays a role in reducing anxiety. Simple budgeting tools or weekly financial check-ins can reduce the cognitive load of uncertainty, which is often a major driver of chronic stress. “Preventative approaches are also important,” says Themba. “Early support for mental health symptoms can help prevent things from becoming worse. Members of a medical aid must look into the structured care programmes they are able to access and take benefit from through their plans, which can help a great deal in the event an individual requires further medical care that can become costly.” Bonitas’ Mental Health Programme offers its members structured support that is designed to help identify and manage conditions such as anxiety, depression and burnout earlier, with coordinated access to care pathways and ongoing support. “As a society we re quicker to discuss how these pressures affect us in economic terms, but are less cognisant of, or willing to speak to about, the very real and problematic physical and mental health issues that arise as a result of what’s happening in the world right now. “Stress linked to financial strain has real physiological and societal consequences, affecting all of us whether on an individual or organisational level. Don’t ignore the early signs of burnout and seek support to stop stress form developing into more serious conditions,” concludes Themba.

April 21, 2026

Personalised Learning at Scale: The Future is Individual

For decades, education followed a one-size-fits-all model. That model is now obsolete. Today, personalised learning is the global standard, powered by AI and data-driven insights. In fact, adoption has accelerated rapidly, with the majority of students and teachers now actively using AI tools in education environments. AI enables: This approach ensures that: But personalisation is not only about technology. At Wingu Academy, personalised learning is layered with: Global education research confirms that data-informed instruction significantly improves learning outcomes when combined with expert teaching. The result is a learning experience that is: Education is no longer about keeping up — it’s about unlocking each learner’s full potential.

April 21, 2026

Help! My Kids Won’t Stop Fighting!

Parents generally see their children as wonderful gifts from the heavens but children don’t always see each other in that same light. They first see their primary caregivers, and the love and attention they get from them, as a limited commodity. They then see their siblings as competition for that love and attention and sometimes feel they have to fight for it. When a new child enters the family, the oldest or older children sometimes feel as if they have been dethroned and now have to share their parents with this new child. This can bring about feelings of animosity and jealousy between children. To deal with this problem effectively, parents can find ways that will allow the older child to become a teacher or leader to the younger child(ren). You can also give the older child special privileges and give them special time with you, such as one-on-one dates to help them feel like they haven’t lost their place in the family. Fighting and other forms of sibling rivalry also occur as a result of these feelings. Avoid racing into every little argument or disagreement. If you do, it will teach your children to create problems just to get you involved. It will also train them that they are NOT accountable for stopping fights and working things out, it teaches them instead that YOU are responsible for doing that. Because you ARE responsible for keeping everyone safe, sometimes the only solution is to just separate them. This is especially true for when toddlers and preschoolers hit one another or begin to fight. It just means they’ve had enough of that other person for a while and they want them out of their space. Avoid using punishments like time out and avoid taking sides. When a conflict breaks out, just separate both of them. It doesn’t matter who started it or who did what, just separate them in different spaces to be apart. And during this moment of behavior management, remain calm and talk very little. You can easily transfer your own negative feelings into the relationship between the children. Sometimes the conflict between the children is actually an imitation of what’s going on with the adults.

April 21, 2026

Body20 Cares Returns in 2026: Powering Hope for Children with Cancer

Sometimes, the greatest strength is found in unity. After raising over R150,000 in its inaugural year, Body20 is proud to relaunch its Body20 Cares initiative for 2026 — a campaign driven by compassion, community, and the belief that true wellness extends far beyond the studio floor. Body20 remains committed to ongoing support throughout 2026 and beyond, ensuring sustained impact for children with cancer and their families. From April to May 2026, 50% of all new members’ joining fees at Body20 studios nationwide will be donated to CHOC Childhood Cancer Foundation South Africa. These funds don’t just support a cause—they wrap children and their families in hope at the very moment they need it most. Supporting CHOC means directly helping children facing cancer and their families find comfort and strength. “This initiative isn’t just an activity for us — it’s a lifeline,” says Philip Hughes, chief executive officer of Body20 Global. “Last year, we witnessed firsthand how small actions, multiplied by many, can create a wave of hope. As Body20 Cares returns, our mission is simple: uplift families, offer practical support, and remind every parent and child battling cancer that they are never alone.” Cancer today touches almost every family, casting long shadows of fear and uncertainty. In South Africa, around 1,000 children are diagnosed with cancer each year—though many more go undiagnosed, and each statistic represents a child, a parent, a story. Despite advances in treatment, a diagnosis brings a tidal wave of emotional, logistical, and financial challenges. Organisations like CHOC are lifelines, offering more than just accommodation—they provide comfort, dignity, and a sense of home when families need it most. “Partnerships like Body20 Cares help us deliver vital support to children and their families,” says Adri Ludick, interim CEO for CHOC. “Every contribution means a family can stay together, a child can rest in comfort, and no one must face this journey alone. Last year, funds from Body20 Cares kept our CHOC Houses open—safe havens like Diepkloof, which offered warmth, food, and daily support to up to 30 people at a time. When hospitals close their doors at night, CHOC keeps hope alive for families in crisis.” Body20 Cares is about more than fundraising—it’s about human connection and shared purpose. Every new member isn’t just prioritising their own wellness; they’re giving a child and parent one less worry, one more day together, and a little more hope. Your participation can help us build a community united by compassion and action. “This is where fitness meets purpose,” Hughes adds. “Every sign-up is more than a membership; it’s a lifeline for a child fighting cancer, and a message to families that they are seen, valued, and supported by a whole community.” As Body20 Cares enters its second year, we invite every South African to stand with us. Join as a member, donate, or spread the word—every action, big or small, has the power to change a life. Your support makes you an essential part of this movement, helping us turn compassion into tangible hope. In a world where time is scarce and health is priceless, Body20 brings together your two most valuable resources. With cutting-edge EMS technology, Body20 helps people transform their wellbeing in just 20 minutes a week. It’s a promise: you can prioritise your health, support your community, and still have time for what—and who—matters most. Powerful transformations don’t just happen in our bodies—they ripple out, touching families, communities, and futures. When we move with purpose, we move the world a little closer to hope. To join Body20 Cares, become a new member at any Body20 studio or donate directly. For information or to get involved, visit https://body20.co.za/body20-cares or contact [email protected] | 087 231 0359. #Body20 #CHOC #Body20Cares #Cancer #ChildrenWithCancer #Children

April 20, 2026

The Role of Preschool Educators Is Changing

While most people believe preschool educators simply keep children safe and teach basic skills, Dibber International Preschools emphasises that today’s early childhood educators have a much broader, more critical role. Their evolving responsibilities are essential in shaping children’s development, making their work more significant than ever. “The early years are not just a phase to manage — they are a window where children form foundations for learning, relating, and coping,” says Ursula Assis, Country Director of Dibber International Preschools South Africa. Educators do much more than deliver activities. They observe, guide, and support each child’s development responsively, intentionally, and skillfully.” Today, early learning success is defined not by rote performance but by a child’s capacity to make meaning from real experiences. Exploration, repetition, interaction, and play are now recognised as the best ways young children build foundational skills for lifelong learning. The educator’s task has shifted: Rather than focusing on direct teaching, they now create learning moments that ignite curiosity and strengthen competencies. True impact comes from recognising what each child is ready for and supporting discovery rather than directing it. At Dibber South Africa, this is reflected in the Engaged Educator™ role. Children are encouraged to explore and lead their learning through play-based experiences, while educators gently guide in the background, stepping in when support is needed and back when independence grows. “From the outside, it can look like children are simply playing,” Assis explains. “But what is really happening is that educators are building language, problem-solving, self-regulation and social confidence through carefully observed, thoughtfully supported experiences.” One reason the evolving role of preschool educators is under-appreciated is that much of their most important work is invisible at drop-off, pick-up, or during a tour. It shows up in pacing, tone, timing, and what educators choose to notice. In an average day, an early childhood educator may be: These actions accumulate quietly and consistently over time. Outcomes are often celebrated—a child who manages disappointment, plays cooperatively, or tries again after struggling—but the source can be overlooked unless parents know what to look for. As educators’ roles become more developmental and responsive, the parent-educator relationship evolves as well. Dibber says this requires genuine partnership, where educators share observations, and parents feel included, not just informed. “This invites parents to a new kind of trust,” says Assis. “Not blind trust—real trust. Built with open conversation, shared observations, and educators knowing each child individually.” When choosing a preschool, parents should look beyond logistics and ask: Do educators speak warmly and specifically about children? Do they know each child’s interests, strengths, and challenges? How do they respond to upset children? Is the environment calm and purposeful, or rushed? Does the school have a clear, well-articulated philosophy? “The questions parents ask shape their partnerships,” Assis adds. “When families and educators align, children feel it—and that security supports all learning.” While the importance of preschool educators has always been high, what’s evolving is society’s understanding of just how vital the early years are and of the expertise educators need to nurture a child’s earliest development. This is why their changing role matters so deeply today. Dibber International Preschools advances educator development with its Nordic-based method, values-led Heart Culture, and play-based philosophy supporting the whole child—cognitively, socially, emotionally, and physically.

April 20, 2026

Are You Raising a Praise Junkie?

Extensive research has been done to show the amazing results of praise. It can motivate both adults and children to perform exceedingly well, but to do it for the goal of obtaining the praise, not for the joy of achieving or the pleasure of the activity. I first learned of the term ‘praise junkie’ when I read Nurture Shock (2009; Twelve), a book that offers new research-based thinking about children. The authors state that the use of praise is becoming the solution for modern-day parenting that caregivers offer to their children as a way of soothing the anxieties the children experience throughout their day. More and more parents seem to strive to “make things all better,” so that their children experience less stress. And over-praised children don’t grow up to be ‘unmotivated softies’ as some have claimed, but instead, researchers have found that they actually become more competitive and overly focused on tearing others down. So if praising our children is discouraged, what are we supposed to do? The answer lies in our response to our child’s accomplishment. Instead of making sure that every child receives a trophy, the key is in how we respond to our child individually. Instead of saying “I’m proud of you,” the most effective parental response is “What did YOU think of the game,“ or “Tell me all about the picture you drew.” But there is more to this story; allow me to explain. I’m often asked if praise is bad for children and my response has been that it has a time, a place and a season. I see certain types of praise being necessary in three specific situations: in teaching young, egocentric children learn new social skills (hygiene, chores, etc.), when working with some children with disorders (such as those on the Autism spectrum) and in situations for turning around unhealthy family relationships. In most of these types of situations however, there is a season. Eventually, the awarding of smiley faces on behaviour charts or rewards for accomplishing new tasks should stop. Eventually, many autistic children can move past the daily rewards for better cooperation at home and in the classroom as their development progresses. And if the work is done, unhealthy family relationships can be restored, leading to less praise and rewards. When praise is not or no longer needed, encouragement (as you indicated) is needed instead. Praise is one person’s judgment of another. Even the words “Good Job” or “Attaboy” are someone’s evaluation of another person’s creation or performance. Encouragement is the technique of having that creating or performing person to say “Good Job” with their own voice. It coaches them to step back and assess what they did, and make internal decisions such as: “Am I happy with what I created?” “Will I do it again?” “Do I love doing this” “Does it fulfil me?” “What will I do with what I created?” When my children were young, I made the switch to stop the praise and instead, use encouragement. I tried it, sort of as an experiment to see what would happen. When my children came up to me with a picture they had drawn or a castle they built and said to me, “Look Dad, look at my picture.” Instead of saying to them “Good Job,” I said “Wow, tell me all about it.” In that moment, they would describe what they had created and I would avoid providing my opinion. My job was to be there in that moment and listen. In the beginning, using this new response to whatever they wanted to show me, they would sometimes ask me, “What do you think Dad?” My response would always be, “I like it, but what do YOU think about it.” To wean them off the praise society and my parents taught me, I would always pass it back to them. Because what they thought of their own creation was more important than mine. Eventually, my children stopped asking me and stopped hanging their pictures on the refrigerator and instead, started hanging them on their bedroom walls or putting them in albums for them to enjoy. They stopped placing them in public places in hopes of obtaining good words from others. When report cards came home, instead of taking it and reading it, I would hand it back to them and say, “Read it to me.” They would then read off their grades and I would listen. Encouragement requires lots of eye contact, much facial expression and few words. After they had read their grades, I would ask them specific questions to bring out more about the report card, never once applying my opinion. I would ask questions like what grade were they most proud of and which grade might they change and why. If they expressed a desire to bring up one grade or another, I would coach them into coming up with ideas and in many cases, I would offer to help in some capacity, still never applying my opinion of them or their grades. Today I’m watching my three children live their lives according to what they enjoy and according to their own opinions of their accomplishments. They are not performing or creating for other people, they are doing what they love to do for the love of doing the act, not doing it to please others. I urge all parents to use more encouragement and less praise, every day!

April 20, 2026

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