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Review: My Feeling Friends – Sammy the Starfish

While everyone else was having fun, Sammy the Starfish was feeling glum. He didn’t know why he was feeling bad, he felt a little bit tearful, and a little bit sad. My Feeling Friends is a series of stories written by Phillipa Morassi, a Registered Counsellor with a passion for nurturing children through the development of communication, emotional intelligence, positive, and learning. The series of stories aim to assist children in managing big emotions. This story introduces Sammy the Starfish, who is feeling sad and doesn’t know what he can do to feel better. Each story presents a coping skill for your child to learn, which will help them overcome a particular emotion. The coping skills include self-regulation techniques, visualizations, body movements, and positive affirmations to boost your child’s self-esteem. The stories also introduce the concept of empathy, which allows for connection and engagement with others and creates an opportunity for friendships to flourish! Sammy the Starfish is a children’s illustrated emotional-health story that allows children to view themselves and or relate to Sammy. Sammy uses his self-sadness to help children overcome theirs. In a very slick and adorable way, Sammy shows children what to do when their upset using himself to demonstrate in a massively fun way! We tried the lovely, illustrated instruction to give yourself a hug on two eleven-year-olds during schoolwork and they found that this technique helped them relax and became a good stretch. We noticed that even if they weren’t sad, their focus was increased by this exercise and their mood increased happily. Listen to Sammy the Starfish’s advice. Phillipa Morassi gifted us with a whole, awesome package! We received a beautifully illustrated book, a lovely what-to-do card, an adorable beanbag-like starfish that comes in different designs. Bean bags are filled with maize rice and seams are double stitched for safety. Bean bags may be microwaved for 30 – 40 seconds as a soothing comfort for your child. Essential oils may also be added onto the fabric on the back for a sensory experience. Colourful, colouring crayons and pencils were included, along with my feeling friends stickers. We love our gifts and know that you will too! Find out more about Phillipa Morassi and My Feeling Friends at www.pmorassi.co.za

November 15, 2018

Surviving matric results- a parent’s guide

I have a friend who used to work at the BBC going through the raw footage of all the horrors happening around the world and picking out the bits that were acceptable for the public to see. Her job was intense, but she was ok with it… until she became pregnant. There is something about being a parent that makes us more sensitive to the terrible things happening out there and heightens our empathy for other parents. Every year we hear about students who have committed suicide over their matric results, and we can’t help but put ourselves in the shoes of those parents and imagine the grief and regrets that they must be experiencing. That instinct to protect our offspring that wells up during pregnancy (and never leaves) goes into overdrive wondering how we can stop ourselves from ever being in the position of these unfortunate parents. The truth is, not matter what you do, this can still happen. But there are some things you can focus on to reduce the likelihood and to teach your kids some important life skills at the same time. Number one is to be a role model for failure. Yes, go out and fail at things! Do things that challenge you… push yourself a bit… and then when you fail show your children how to do it well. What does that mean? It means having a cry or expressing your disappointment that things didn’t work out the way you’d wanted and then openly (so that your kids can see the process) looking at the good that came out of the situation – what did you learn? Be proud of yourself for trying. Then take what you’ve learned, see where you need to improve or adapt or readjust your goal… and try again…. And again…. And again. Our kids have no idea how wonderful it is to learn through failure because we never do it ourselves. We live little safe lives where we don’t push ourselves beyond our current capabilities. And this gives them the impression that everything must be done right first time or that everything is easy. Secondly, communicate, communicate, communicate. Know what is going on in your child’s life. Discuss feelings and practical things and life lessons and anything else you can think of. Have family meals that are non-negotiable and do not involve electronics at the table. Set aside time to connect. You need to look for signs of depression (changes in appetite or sleeping habits, loss of interest in activities, social withdrawal, irritability, fatigue, etc), but also know that many suicides are not preempted by depression. So if your child is not showing these typical signs it does not mean that they are safe. In these chats with your kids tell them about your own past. Give them a reference point by sharing times when you have had to adjust course or make a plan B. Teach them how to explore alternatives. And lastly, never ever ever equate who your child is with the marks that they get on a test. Always be the champion of your child – the one who acknowledges their disappointment and helps them to find the learnings without lambasting them for their failures. Help your children to differentiate who they are with what they do. Help them to discover who they are and the connection between following your heart and success (which often is not part of the school curriculum). Lay off the pressure to do well in matric. Matric is one year out of a potential 100 or more years of life that your children have on this earth. It is not the make or break for the rest of their lives. There are ample opportunities to redo matric, to discover another path, to find success. Remember that nurturing instinct that arrives with your baby and reconnect with that now. Your baby might be a 6-foot teen, but your child still needs that love and care and support and protection that you offered them so easily when they were born. It is love, kindness and communication that will help our kids through matric and beyond, not pressure, threats, bribes or stern motivational talks. Make absolutely sure that your children know that whatever their results you will always be there for them and will help them to navigate this difficult time.

November 15, 2018

How to teach kids the value of money

Raising your children to be money smart is an essential skill that will benefit them for the rest of their lives. Teaching your kids from a young age about money will help them to understand how money works and they will find it easier to learn how to manage their money. Here’s how to raise money-wise children: Teach Children How Money Works Children need to understand that an ATM is not a magical machine that just spits money out at you whenever you want it. They need to know that in order to get money out of the ATM machine money needs to go in. They also need to understand that money is made either through business transactions (if you are Mompreneur or business owner) or by working for someone and being paid a salary. Show your child the different notes and coins, explaining how it all works together. It will become easier for your child to understand from the age of about 5 or 6 years old. Give Your Child A Piggy Bank Give your child a piggy bank as soon as possible. You never know when a relative will give money for a gift, so you want a piggy bank ready to receive it. You can tell your child that his piggy bank is his “ATM” until he is old enough for a bank account. Teach your child to always put any money he receives into his piggy bank so that he forms this good habit early on. Play Shop At Home Young children love to play shop. You can make pretend money with them out of paper and then make a pretend shop. Find items around the house and put price tags on them. Take turns being the shopkeeper and the shopper. It is great pretend play for your children to work out what they must pay and how much change they must receive. Give Your Child Pocket Money Don’t soil your child by giving him a lot of money. You want to make it enough money so he can buy something small each time he gets his pocket money, but not enough to buy anything big. This will teach your child not only to budget but also how to save up for something more expensive that he wants. Encourage him to save up for something nice rather than always spend all his money as soon as he gets it. It is also important to emphasize to your child that if he wants something after he has spent all his pocket money he will have to wait until the next time he gets his pocket money. Try to give your child as much free rein as possible to decide what he wants to buy with his pocket money. You can advise your child that he could save up for something really nice rather than blowing it all on sweets but let your child make the final decision Encourage Entrepreneurship Let your children know that there is nothing stopping them from earning some money if they want more than their weekly allowance. Think about extra tasks they can do around the home to earn more money and encourage them to think outside the box. If your kids have a hobby they can sell the things that they make. They could do woodworking, knitting or make cards. They could also bake cookies or cupcakes to sell or have a lemonade stand. Help them to understand the concept of working out the cost of making the goods and how to work out their pricing so they make a profit. Your children can also offer services such as washing cars, mowing lawns, walking dogs and babysitting. Lending A Hand Your child may need some help with purchasing an expensive item, for example a teenager that wants to buy a car. A teenager may not have the means to take out a personal loan or any other type of loan that they may need. Chances are good that you wouldn’t want them to take out a loan from a bank anyway at that young age even if they could. If you have the means you may want to give your child a loan and work out an arrangement for them to pay you back. This will give your child an understand of how a loan works in the future for example when taking about a home loan. If you want to help them out but also encourage them to work towards saving up for things themselves you could get create and offer to match whatever deposit they manage to save and then work out a way for them to pay you back for the difference. Conclusion All of the above tips and activities will help your child to form an understanding of the value of money and help your child understand the importance of being frugal and saving up for the things that you need. What things have you done with your children to help teach them about money? Share your tips.

November 15, 2018

How to keep the kids entertained on a long car trip

Long car trips are part of the activity of modern families today. Many are investing their time and money in buying cars with higher mileage per gallon so they can go wherever they want. Families take long car trips once in a while because it gives them the opportunity to explore the world outside of their homes. With on long car trips, parents can get a chance to teach their children the things they only see in their books or gadgets. Also, it gives the families an opportunity to commune with nature. Parents and kids get a chance to breathe fresh air, refresh their eyes, and have some exercise. Long car trips can release the stress that family members feel from long days of work. It is an excellent opportunity to take a break from the routine you have at home or office. Lastly, long car trips enable one to bond with the family, especially for parents who spend the majority of their time at work. Indeed, family car journeys are fantastic. However, it can make your kids go wild, irritated, and bored. For sure, you don’t like it when your kids have tantrums because it will only make the adventures turn into chaos. We will discuss the tips on how to keep the kids entertained in this article, especially on a long car trip. Play Their Favorite Movies One tip to prevent your kids from getting bored is to play their favorite films in the car. Some cars today are pre-installed with a television screen, and you can opt for this one. You can also bring a portable DVD player or laptop with you and always make sure that you have backup power in case your gadgets drain its batteries. Also, bring Bluetooth enabled speakers so everyone can hear audibly the movie they’re watching. Carry Sweet Treats Always Sweet treats is a must-have on every trip! Surely, your kids will feel pampered during the ride while eating their favorite food. Bring with you your kids’ favorite delights such as the following: Chocolate bars Gummy bears Cupcakes Wafers Marshmallows Chocolate/ Milk drinks Chips and other snacks Listen To Audiobook Stories Tired of telling stories to your kids? Don’t worry; you can play audiobooks instead. You can download various audiobooks available on the internet today and save it on your gadget. Then, you can just plug your device into the car’s sound system and make your kids listen to the stories. Audiobooks will make your kids’ imagination run wild. Engage In Digital Games Bring with you your iPads or smartphones and install it with offline games which your children can play. There are various offline games that are available in App Store or Play Store. Capture An Image With A Polaroid To develop your kid’s full potential in photography, you can give them your instant camera or any other available cameras with you. Let them take pictures of anything they see during the trip, and you can soon compile it and post in a scrapbook. Bring Their Favorite Toys If your kids get tired of playing with e-games, let them enjoy their toys. Some of it is loom bands, stuffed toys, doll house, balls, robots, and others. Let Them Draw Invite your kids to practice their handwriting or drawing by giving them a whiteboard or coloring books, colored pens, and eraser. For example, you can ask them to draw your face or their siblings’ faces. Sing A Song Bring a guitar with you and play your kids’ favorite song. Better yet, you can just play a song using the car’s sound system or sing in acapella. Invite your kids to join so they’ll feel at ease during the trip. Play Various Games Lastly, devise multiple games for your kids and be as creative as you can be. Here are some of the games that you can try: The License plate game – Each time your kids spot a car, check its plate number and ask them to give a meaning for it. For example, OEF means ‘Onion Eating Fanatic.’ Map the destination – Print a map of your destination and hand it to your kids. Let them mark the cities you’ve passed by so you let them have something to do in the backseat. Animal spotting – Ask your kids to spot and name animals on the road. Conclusion In sum, it is essential to make your kids safe and calm during the entire trip so you as a parent can have peace of mind too. Meanwhile, it is recommended to supervise your kids in whatever activities you let them do during the trip. After all, we want them to learn and have fun after the stress and hassles of the real world. Oftentimes, the road can become very unsafe especially when you have kids travelling with you. If you and your kids are involved in car accidents and have incurred personal injuries, you can check this website to learn more on what you should and should not do during this kind of situation. About The Author Annie Gray writes topics on law subjects that can help the common reader understand them better. She keeps herself fit and healthy by jogging during her free time.

November 15, 2018

When can I go and play, Mommy?

Play is the single most important activity in a child’s day. Children achieve 90% of their learning through play. Through play our little ones are making sense of the new experiences they are encountering on a daily basis. Furthermore, our little ones are learning to understand and process the complex emotions attached to these experiences by ‘acting them out’ in a neutral medium, where they are more in control of the outcomes, through play. Play is also incredible socially reinforcing, allowing our little ones a safe and contained environment in which to learn and practise their developing skills of sharing, turn-taking, coping with disappointment, winning, losing, leading and following. Our children are practising their imitation skills, practising their roles and responsibilities within relationships, extending their vocabulary, learning valuable problem solving skills, and categorising information and experiences into their current understanding of the world. And yet society nowadays is so quick to move children into an academic context, with Preschools offering Grade 000 classes in an attempt to formalise your 3-4 years olds’ education. Parents are exposing children to 2-3 extra-murals a day, five days a week from the age of 3 years old, and families are spending a large proportion of their time in front of the TV or computer. Where, in all of this, does the play fit in? Toys are also becoming more and more complex, leaving very little part for the child to play in the process apart from pushing a button, sitting back and observing. Cardboard-box cars and houses have been replaced with miniatures of the real thing, and designer outfits prevent our little ones from the fabulous sensory experiences of sand and water play. As parents it is imperative that we encourage play throughout our children’s day, right up to formal schooling days (Grade 1) and beyond. In an older school going child, play is vital for their leisure time, down time and relaxing time away from all the hustle and bustle of their busy school day. As much as your child may enjoy extra-mural activities, and benefit greatly from the skills they learn in these activities, we should caution against overloading our children’s schedules with multiple extra murals a day, and be extremely careful not to use these extra murals to replace play. Young children have the rest of their lives to hone their skills and become proficient in sports, chess, drama and ballet, it is not imperative that they become skilled to a professional level by the age of 5. In our uber-competitive society, we convince ourselves that in order to be the best parents, we need to offer our children access to all these activities and more from an incredibly early age, convincing ourselves that they really enjoy them. However, often many of the hours spent engaged in these activities our child would far have preferred to be spending this time simply playing. Children really only require the basics in order to play their hearts out – a wide open space, some loving supervision and the freedom to follow their hearts desires and go wherever their imagination leads them. So come on Mommy, let me play!

November 13, 2018

7 Ways to relieve hip pain during pregnancy

As your pregnancy progresses into the second and then third trimesters you will find that you are having more aches and pains. Backache, pelvic pain and hip pain are all very common during pregnancy and your chances of having these symptoms will increase as your pregnancy progresses and puts more strain on your body. If you are struggling with hip pain during pregnancy there are some natural and effective ways to find relief. Wear A Pregnancy Belt Pregnancy belts are designed to support the abdomen and lower back during pregnancy. Girdles or pregnancy belts offer many benefits for pregnant women, in particular during the second and third trimesters. Belly belts help to reduce back pain, joint pain and round ligament pain which is pain in front of the hips and below the belly. They can also help to support your belly when you exercise which makes it easier to get some gym time in. In addition to these awesome benefits pregnancy belts also help to promote better posture during pregnancy which will also help to reduce aches and pains. Support Proper support during pregnancy is absolutely vital to helping to alleviate any hip pain you may be experiencing. It is important to avoid standing long hours while pregnant and when you are sitting or sleeping you must have proper support. A pregnancy pillow will come very much in handy while you are pregnant. This will give you the much needed support you need and help you to find a comfortable sleeping position. Sleeping during late pregnancy becomes a challenge. It is best to sleep on your side and keep your legs bent. Putting a pillow in between your knees can help keep you in the correct position and help to relieve pain in the hips. It is also important to have the correct mattress when you are pregnant, Having a mattress that is too soft will not give you the support that you need and having a mattress that is too firm will cause aches and pains too. Make sure that when you are sitting down you have a sturdy chair that will help you to keep your correct posture, especially if you need to spend extended time in a seated position like at work. Make sure that you have a chair that will keep your hips and waist in the right position like this Herman Miller Aeron chair. Exercise Getting in regular exercise such as yoga or pilates can help with alleviating hip pain. These exercising stretch and strengthen the muscles around your abdomen and back. It is important to remember that if you have a strong core you will experience less hip pain and other pain. Make sure to always check with your doctor before taking up any exercise while pregnant. It is also important to ensure that if you go to any yoga or pilates classes that the instructor is experienced in prenatal yoga or pilates. Massage Massage comes with many benefits for pregnancy, including helping with relieving many aches and pains during pregnancy. When you get a pregnancy massage this helps to soothe, relax and loosen aching muscles. If you plan on going for a pregnancy massage make sure that the massage therapist you want to go to is qualified and experienced in prenatal massage. Swimming Swimming is an excellent way to keep fit during pregnancy without putting a strain on your body. The added benefit is that water is an amazing pain reliever too, this is why women use water for pain relief during labor and birth. You will be light when in the water and you won’t be putting all that pressure and strain on your joints and muscles. So if you suffer from hip pain during pregnancy try and get some regular swimming sessions in. Hot and Cold Compresses Both heat and cold can help to alleviate hip pain so you can try both to see which works better or even alternate between an ice pack and a hot water bottle to relieve the pain. Realign Your Pelvis Realigning your pelvic bone can help to reduce hip pain during pregnancy. To realign your pelvis lie on your back and put a pillow between your knees, then squeeze as hard as you can. Doing this can realign your pelvis so that you experience less pain. It can provide great relief when you are struggling with pain.

November 13, 2018

Disney Baby Mickey Shapes and Colours Shape Sorter

The Baby Mickey Shapes and Colours Sorter is one of the coolest, most fun multi-educational toys on the market – stimulating manual skills and the recognition of shapes, sizes and colours, all in the cute little package of Mickeys home. All coloured shapes represent one of the famous Disney characters including Mickey, Minnie, Donald Duck and Goofy. The Baby Mickey shapes and Colours Sorter is available from the following retailers: Babies R Us, Hamleys, Me, Mom & Dad (Greenstone), selected Kids Emporium stores, Loot.co.za, takealot.com, purplepepperz.com, thebabyzone.co.za and others.

November 12, 2018

Making the most of your Child’s Education

Education is not merely about improving one’s memory and spitting out facts but rather, it is about developing the intellect. The intellect and conceptualisation are sparked when an atmosphere of expansion is created. In essence, when learners are allowed freedom of thought, movement and creativity they are can connect with their true potential… Learning is an individual process, and what works for one person may not necessarily work for another. It is a process which involves all your senses, intellect, emotional, cognitive ability to learn, adjust, problem solve and succeed. Your child deserves to experience an education system that aligns with core strengths and reinforces other skills necessary for personal and professional growth. It is also very important to make sure that all the building blocks are in place for learning to occur However, many classrooms teach only through either a visual or an auditory medium and yet sight and hearing are just two of the senses. What about the other 5 senses? Most people know the obvious senses such as sight, hearing, touch, smell, taste. However, did you know that the two hidden senses, which are not visible, are the most essential learning systems in the body? They are called the body systems – vestibular system (based in the inner ear) as well as the proprioceptive system (located in every muscle spindle, joint receptor, and ligament). As your child moves throughout their environment, so does the fluid in their inner ear canals. As the fluid in their inner ear moves, your child’s brain is receiving information as to the position of their head in space. These two systems are vital for the integrative learning through all the senses and help the other systems to process information sufficiently as a whole. Without these two systems, whole body learning will be possible. Let’s have a look at the important functions of the vestibular system (inner ear system): It regulates your sleep patterns It tells you about position, time, space It gives you a sense of balance It helps the body to activate muscle contraction for sufficient postural control It assists co-ordination of the body to perform functions such as dressing, tying shoelaces, cooking, sport and ultimately brain co-ordination in scholastic tasks such as maths, reading and spelling. Together with the muscle receptor system and the touch sense, it is vital for the optimal learning through all the senses and therefore to plan ahead of time or use clues to adjust our actions Together with the eyes, the vestibular system helps us to track moving objects, plan the timing of moving objects such as when you want to catch a ball, cross the street or driving your car It plays an important role together with the hearing system to develop language and speech It keeps us alert and focused to support memory, retention of work and ultimately interpret and process information. The vestibular system regulates our autonomic nervous system to boost immune systems and keep the nervous system balanced Just imagine yourself in space. Gravity is gone, and you are relying on your visual and hearing system to know which way is up, down, forwards, backwards. Just think if you have to manoeuvre your way in a shopping centre without gravity and only using your eyes and ears. Imagine that you are not in tune with your body and feel like you are flying in the air, you are feeling off balance, you are not sure if you are standing or hanging upside down, you might be bumping into people and objects which are either moving or standing still, you try to determine if you are in the front or the back of the store, you uncertain how to move your body to get to the door and your are feeling nauseous. How do you make plans if you are not getting any feedback from your body? The job of the inner ear and the receptors in your muscles and joint help you to orientate yourself in this world, it helps you to move and experience, it helps you to problem-solve and understand because you are experiencing it through your body. It keeps your sensitivities at bay and keeps you regulated and content. These two systems together with the touch system (tactile system) are very important for optimal learning. It is so sad that our children are moving less and are exposed to more and more visual and hearing stimuli to learn. One parent even commented to say “Soon our kids will not be required to write as we have voice activating system doing the writing for us.” The kids are less active not as experimental and not as independent in solving problems relying on their bodies. Our children have become more static in their play as well as in their interaction with the outside world. Technology and screen time is taking away valuable time from our children physical play which is supposed to feed the vestibular system. Our clothing ranges are opting for easier options such as Velcro fasteners instead of shoelaces or buttons which limits motor sequences from developing. Our caretakers are doing most of the dressing, bathing, cooking, and cleaning. There are not enough trees to climb to teach our children valuable moving skills in space. The children are becoming more sensitive to movement because they are less exposed to movement. I am seeing more and more children in my practice with fear of heights, fear of movement backwards in space, fear of falling, fear of climbing, high levels of anxiety, overweight and sluggish, poor concentration, hyperactivity and learning difficulties. And now the question: Why do we have so many children with concentration difficulties? Children need to move to stay alert. They will seek it even though it is not appropriate to the situation OR they will just sit and “veg”. Then they are labelled as hyperactive, ADHD, ADD, disruptive, not concentrating, day dreaming; but in fact some of these children are trying to stay alert as their

November 9, 2018

Helicopter Parenting

Parenting is a complex topic that can be discussed, disputed and hypothesized about, and still, there are yet to be any conclusive results on the exact scientific, or psychological understanding about the actual effects of different parenting styles. What we do know, is that hovering as a parenting technique can have unintended consequences. Surely if something is good, then more of it must be better? This is not necessarily wrong, but not right. This is where the concept of the “Helicopter Parent” comes into play, as we all discover at some point or another, that more is in fact not necessarily always better. “Parenting appears to be generationally influenced,” says Laura Traver-de Sousa, Clamber Club expert, registered counsellor and play therapist. “Today’s generation of parents have discovered that being present as a parent is vital to truly nurture a child, however, they too have taken active parenting to new competitive heights,” adds Laura. In education, the pursuit of top grades is increasingly seen as not only the main goal of education, but a task to be undertaken by parents themselves and this is a problem! “Parents are pressed to protect their children from an ever expanding world and society of physical harms, emotional tribulations, and perceived personal slights,” explains Laura. Extreme anxiety about your child can lead to helicopter parenting which takes a negative toll on your child. When parents are incessantly told that their principle concern should be the safety and success of their children, it is hardly surprising that children are highly anxious and afraid to venture out alone and resulting in parents doing nearly everything for them. Helicopter parenting can lead to quite a few consequences: It creates resentment Makes children fearful and distrustful of strangers Children lack social and problem-solving skills Children have more health problems Low self-esteem and confidence Failure to manage with crisis and emergencies Enhanced anxiety and panic state A deep sense of entitlement and rebel tendencies Lack of life skills They lack self-regulation skills If the hovering trends are not corrected and followed into your child’s teenage years, be prepared for a backlash. “At a young age your child may not have minded the helicopter parenting, however, most teenagers yearn for freedom, privacy and independence,” says Laura. “Paranoid parenting” is unappealing and unattainable. The harsh reality, is that intense and irrational fear, brought upon by societal expectations of the “what if” and “what might happen” to your child, should you as the parent not “conform” and “immerse” yourself, that you fall into this trap and are pushed into the notion of Helicopter Parenting. “There are a number of ways that helicopter parents can break the cycle,” advises Laura. Here are her tips: Make a list (from easiest to most challenging) of everything you do for your child which he could essentially do for himself. Review that list and stop doing those tasks, one-by-one. As your child completes these tasks with no help, your confidence in their abilities will grow, as will his. Positive reinforcement goes a long way. Provide your child with the coping tools to understand that you will not fix everything for him; if he received a bad grade, he need to take responsibility. Your child will have to learn to be his own person and to fix his own problems. Should you have an extremely dependent child that lacks confidence, remove yourself from the scenario. Initially it will be tough, however, keep on persevering, he will eventually do what he has to by himself and will be more confident. There are positive elements to helicopter parenting. Parents who practice the information seeking aspect of helicopter parenting without intervening in their children’s lives or limiting their children’s autonomy, their children can excel in terms of decision-making and academic performance. It is safe to say that it is not inherently bad for parents to be highly engaged in their children’s lives, as long as being engaged and present does not turn into trying to control and overpower your child’s life. Laura Traver-de Sousa Registered Counsellor and Play Therapist Cell: 073 683 0895 Email: [email protected] Web: http://www.dragonflyza.co.za Address: 6 Bashee Place Gallo Manor Ext. 2, Sandton, 2191

November 9, 2018

What to do with your little one when you go back to work

You know the day is coming. You think about it every spare moment. You dread it. What to do with your little one when you go back to work! Let’s face it, very few parents are lucky enough to have the financial means to let mom stay at home for a number of years before junior starts play school. In an ideal world we would all love to be stay at home mommies. The reality is that with our economic climate two incomes are often needed to keep the ship afloat. Now that we have faced the reality and know there is no other option, what do we do about baby? In your circle of friends and family you will have such conflicting advice that you will most probably end up even more confused. The voices shout “Send him to day care, my Mia went and she loved it.” “Keep him home with a nanny, Zack thrived.” In the end you have to choose the option that works best for you as a family. To help you decide let’s take a closer look at both options. The day care – You should preferably be looking for a small group. A day mother, who only has four or five little ones in her care is best, a home away from home. If this option is not available you need to visit day care centres and see what the ratio is to caregiver and baby. Does this care centre cater for older children as well? If so, are the babies separated from the toddlers at all times. Toddlers are curious about how eyes work and don’t mean harm but will investigate. What do they offer in terms of stimulation for your baby? Take a close look around and check that there is not row upon row of seating devices. This would be an indication that your baby will spend very little time playing on the floor. This could lead to later developmental delays and learning problems. Remember although we do want a nice clean environment I would rather have the caregiver barefoot and sitting on the floor playing with my child, than making sure that there are no toys lying around. Children who attend day care and play groups get sick. Many parents don’t have other support systems and send their children to school even if they are not well. Are you prepared for this? The one argument that is always given is that the baby needs to be socialised. This will happen in good time. Babies love other babies but learn interaction from us at first. It’s only closer to three that that start to play with each other, interacting on a social level. There is some research that shows that toddlers in play groups start this slightly earlier however there is no evidence that this makes them more socially skilled later. Keeping baby at home is not less scary for a parent. The horror stories are out there as well. Why then would I choose this option? Your baby is in his own environment, sleeping in his own cot during the day. This helps during the night sleeps as he is familiar with his room. He has one caregiver that dotes on him. He is receiving one on one stimulation and attention. If you already have someone in your employ that is suitable, have her trained. There are many such facilities country wide that do CPR, and child care certificates. Watch how she interacts with your baby while you are still at home. If employing someone new make sure she is already trained, has spent time looking after babies and that you feel comfortable with her. Ask for references and follow them up. Keeping him home for the first year or two allows him to have his own routine. For him to play freely and not be restrained in a walker or sitting device for extended periods. You can dictate what he plays with and where he plays. The biggest bonus is that there is less chance of him getting sick. If choosing to keep him home make sure that you have contact numbers at the phone for you, your husband and other family members. But, as always no amount of research can tell you what is best for your family. No one’s experience is the same. Ultimately it’s a decision that only you can and should make. Don’t be influenced by peer pressure.

November 9, 2018

Why do I need to stimulate my baby from a young age?

Parents to be, have the unique opportunity to create a better brain for their unborn child from day one. When a baby is born she born with unlimited potential but the experiences she has in her life will determine the outcome of that potential. Experience = learning. No experience = no learning. Lots of experience = optimal learning. Your unborn children will face many different challenges to you. In all likelihood they will be working in fields that have not even been developed yet. You will have very little knowledge of what they are doing, as it will not be part of your frame of reference. We as parents need to equip them with the best tool (a ready brain) to deal with this onslaught. There are very simple things that you as a parent can do to help ensure that your child is equipped to deal with the challenges that may face her. In order for you to understand this we need to go back and look at the brain. The brain is made up of three layers (Triune model) these layers have a window of opportunity to develop to their full potential. A window of opportunity is just this brief period that we have for optimum development of that part of the brain. The first layer is the primal survival brain – the fight or flight centre of the brain. The next layer is our emotional brain – here we learn to love and care and feel. The last layer is the thinking brain or the cortex. The first window of opportunity is during the first 14 months from birth; during this time we need to stimulate the survival brain in order to create strong muscles so that we can send messages to them that they will respond to in the correct way. We do this through encouraging movement. Once we stimulate the senses the message has to travel via neurochemical pathways (roots) to the muscles to react. How do we create these neurochemical pathways in the brain? By allowing our babies freedom to move and explore. Nothing is more detrimental to a child’s development than being cooped up in a chair or stroller for the better part of the day. Simply by stimulating the senses through massage and exposing them to different experiences during these crucial 14 months, you are creating the networks (roots) that she will need to help her learn and help her reach her full potential. By repeating the actions you are creating the insulation (myelin) that makes it permanent. Repetition is good for a child, it is how they learn. The next window of opportunity is from 14 months to 4 years and during this time your child will be working on the emotional brain. This area of the brain processes feelings and emotions. This is the glue that holds the survival brain and the cortex together. We have to keep our emotional bucket full in order for learning to take place. Only between 4 and 11 years will the thought processes be laid down. This is the area of the brain that focuses on language, creativity, thought etc. As parents we can create a whole brain experience with an excellent root system that allows messages to come through easily to the brain just by stimulating our children. It is imperative to enrich a child’s brain with as much experiences as possible during these windows of opportunity.

November 8, 2018

5 Reasons why owning a Foldscope will make your child smarter!

It fosters independent learning Several studies have documented the benefits of independent learning and its impact on academic and career success. A Foldscope allows a child to immerse herself in science according to her interests. Using a Foldscope illustrates that learning without intervention from teachers or parents can be an exciting adventure. It stimulates curiosity A child that is bored is seldom motivated to learn. Unfortunately, children in schools are often bored by unimaginative curriculums. A Foldscope gives a child access to the fascinating world of microbiology, a topic they are not generally exposed to. It teaches them that there is more to the world than meets the eye and makes it exciting to investigate and learn. It develops problem-solving skills Using a microscope requires certain skills. A Foldscope provides the opportunity to practice several of these skills, including how to prepare and mount specimens for viewing, patience to find and focus on the specimen, and, most importantly, troubleshooting if things don’t go according to plan. Being able to identify and solve problems is critical to success in school and in the workplace. It employs the senses It is well-known that learning is enhanced by involving the senses during the learning process. Reading about microbiology from a book is an inauthentic and one-dimensional experience. By finding samples, preparing slides, and examining specimens using a Foldscope, the child is using their hands, eyes, nose, and ears for a more immersive learning experience. It cultivates a love for science The ability to think critically and analyse the plethora of information available today is essential to success. Making informed decisions about health, diet, medical treatment, scientific research, etc., requires scientific skills and knowledge, and children who are genuinely interested in science are usually scientifically literate. Children are naturally curious about the world and giving them a tool such as a Foldscope could change their perception of science and make them see it as interesting and even fun. Foldscope is an ultra-affordable origami-inspired microscope that is assembled by the user. It is designed to be durable, easy-to-use, and portable, with 140x magnification. They are available as individual kits or classroom kits containing 20 or 100 units. Deluxe Individual Kits contain an extensive set of accessories to collect specimens and prepare slides. These kits are packaged in a beautiful metal case making it easy for little explorers to keep their Foldscope close at hand. SciBuddy is the exclusive distributor of Foldscopes in South Africa. The owner, Arista Burke, has a background in microbiology and education. She believes that Foldscopes will be a gamechanger for South African children. To find out more about SciBuddy and Foldscope, visit www.scibuddy.co.za or their Facebook page, www.facebook.com/SciBuddySA.

November 7, 2018

Exam tips for first-timers

If your child is in Grade 4, she may have been exposed to class and term tests since the start of the year. But the idea of writing examinations for the first time can be daunting. Thankfully, there is a lot you can do to help her prepare. Get organised The first thing to focus on is creating a dedicated study space. There should be no distractions, and everything your child may need – coloured pens, paper, note cards – should be on hand. It is also important to work out a studying schedule. It may seem unnecessary for such young children, but it is important that they learn to plan and manage their time early on. Print out the schedule and put it up in the study area – give her stickers to help count down and tick off milestones as she achieves them. When drawing up the schedule, keep in mind that studying large chunks of information can be overwhelming. To digest it more easily, encourage your child to break the work into bite-sized pieces. 25 minutes of studying followed by a five-minute break works well for younger children. Consider her learning style Children learn in diverse ways, and now would be a good time to determine your child’s learning style. Auditory learners learn best by hearing information and processing it by repeating it aloud. These children usually talk non-stop, know all the words to songs and prefer movies to books. They often find that reciting key points out loud is a helpful way to process and store information. Exam tip: Speed up the learning process by recording information, then let your child listen to it while following it in her book. Visual learners notice everything, prefer reading and absorb information best by seeing it. They like books and puzzles and will write things down to remember them. If your child is a visual learner, she will likely learn best using notes and summaries. Exam tip: Try flash cards to help her memorise key points. Kinaesthetic learners grasp things best by touching or experiencing it and prefer participating in activities and performing tasks. They are often regarded as a hyperactive, are usually good at sports, and prefer sitting on the floor or bed while studying instead of at a desk. Exam tip: Let her sit on a gym ball instead of a chair while studying. Prepare using actual exams It is important to make sure that your child understands the exam format of each subject. So, look at old tests or exams (ask her teacher or look online) and explain what is required in each section, look at the mark allocation for each question, and discuss ways to approach the exam paper on the day itself. Marks are often lost because children don’t know how to answer specific questions, or because they don’t give enough information. Teaching your child to pack everything she needs for the exam the night before is also a good habit to foster. This will reduce the risk of her leaving important items behind. It will also minimise the morning rush – and the stress that often accompanies it. Finally, reassure your child. Ask her to simply do her best and let her know that you will support her no matter what the results turn out to be. Providing positive feedback for her efforts, celebrating her successes and encouraging her to keep trying will help her face upcoming exams with confidence. By Danielle Barfoot

November 7, 2018

Your 12- month DIY financial planning guide

We are fast approaching the end of the year and it’s usually that time of the year we are starting to reflect on 2018 and all it’s ups and downs. Before the craziness of the festive season takes over, it’s good to take this time as an opportunity to also reflect on your financial year thus far and looking at plans & ways to improve for 2019. We know how hard it is to make a lot of changes at once, which is why we’ve broken up our guide into 12 months or steps to get you “financially fit”. There is not really any particular order to address this, but see what is possible for each month of the year and tackle it then. 1.Evaluate where you’re at Knowing exactly what you have, how much you owe, what’s missing from your financial life (eg a will or insurance cover) can help guide you on what you need to do in the future, and what your areas of strength are, and what your areas of growth are. 2.Draw up a budget It’s boring and admin-heavy, but by figuring out your fixed and variable expenses, and looking at your bank statements, you’ll see exactly where your money is going, which will help you make smart decisions on what you could cut out of your life. You’ll likely find that you’re spending money on things you don’t need, or you’ll see opportunities where you could be paying less for something. You could also try the 50-20-30 budget method: 50% of your net income should go towards your needs, 30% towards your wants, and 20% to your savings and debt repayments. 3.Review your insurance Are all your policies up to date (eg is your cover enough or are the beneficiaries selected previously still correct) and is all the information in them correct? Insurance might feel like a grudge purchase, but if anything happens to you or your things, this could be financially crippling. If you have dependents the life insurance is essential. If you or your spouse die, where will the money come from to look after those you leave behind? Very few young parents have enough savings in the bank to ensure that their children have the financial means to finish school and continue their education as needed. By having life insurance in place, you protect not only your family’s future, but your children’s education too. 4.Draw up or update your will If you have a will, you get to decide what happens to your assets when you die. If you don’t do this, regardless of your wealth or assets, they’ll be allocated according to the state’s law and this might not be according to your wishes. It’s also essential to choose a legal guardian to look after your children if anything happens to you and your partner. Don’t leave it up to the courts to decide where your kids will go. 5.Start saving for your child’s university education as soon as possible Your kids will be financially dependent on you for at least the first 20 years of their lives. It is estimated that parents who send their children to public schools and pay for a three-year university degree, will spend on average R1.2 million per child in today’s financial terms – and the figure doubles if your child goes to a private school. By putting away for university now, you save your child the burden of paying back university loans, which will affect their own financial wellness as adults. Look at the different saving options available online such as unit trusts or tax-free saving accounts and choose the option that suit your needs best. Just get started – the sooner you begin, the less you have to put away in the long run. 6.Start settling the debt Whether you have big or small debt, start by paying off at least one, rather than trying to settle all of them at once, which might not be practical. Choose one with the highest interest, like a credit card, and put aside an amount each month in your budget that can be paid, preferably by debit order so you’re not tempted to spend it elsewhere. Best yet is to get rid of those nasty cards and adopt the behaviour of “f I can’t pay for it cash, then I can’t afford it”. 7.Set up a debit order to save By setting up a debit order, your money automatically goes out of sight and out of mind, to a place where it can grow. Choose a tax-free savings account or unit trust that is more difficult to access than a normal bank savings account, so that you’re not tempted to dip into it regularly. You can increase the debit each year automatically, which is great for continuing to grow your savings to keep up with inflation, and hopefully more earnings from your work. 8.Put aside money for emergencies It probably feels that you’re putting away so much money, you can’t afford anything else, like an emergency fund. Well, setting up an emergency fund prevents you from dipping into your savings, which is there for other reasons and goals than covering the cost of new tyres or a broken dishwasher. Set up another savings account for emergencies only and don’t get tempted to use it for day- to-day living expenses. 9.Consider your retirement What will your finances look like when you’re 60 or 70? Will you be ready to retire and stop working, and have you considered that women especially are living longer these days, so you might need enough to get you through to 100. Whether you’re 25 or 40, you need to consider your retirement funds now. Look into setting up an RA fund, even if the company you work for already provides you with a pension plan. And remember, the taxman incentivises you to save as much as possible for your retirement, therefore make sure that if you can afford the

November 6, 2018

5 Healthy habits to pass onto your kids

All parents want their children to grow up with healthy habits. However, the only way a child will learn to be healthy is to imitate their parents. What you model to your children will be the example that your children follow. Setting good examples early on is the best, as this is when children are very impressionable in their early years. The following are five healthy habits to pass on to your youngsters for them to live their best life. Exercise! Physical exercise is one of the best things anyone can do for their health! The more a person moves, the better they feel. Exercise can be done in a variety of ways. Consider signing your child up for dance or have them join a baseball or basketball team. If you do yoga or Tai Chi, invite them to do it with you. Take a mommy and me exercise class. Or purchase a kids trampoline and have some fun with them, jumping and laughing. Take them for walks, go to the park, or enjoy swimming together. Have relay races, play tag, or kick a ball around. Any type of exercise is fine as long as they are moving their bodies. Benefits of physical exercise include better sleep, a decrease in emotional and social issues, and fewer attention disorders. If you sign your child up for a team sport, they will gain so much from this experience. Not only will your child learn what it is like to work as a team, but they will also learn the value of competitiveness. Another added advantage is they will realize what it means to count on others, as well as be counted on. Eat together as a family. Setting a time for family meals is something that many parents look forward to, as this is a time when everyone can tell about their day. This is quality time spent together as a family. One reason that it is a healthy habit is that it instills in a child that home cooking is better than eating on the run. With fast food chains popping up all over the place, it has often become the norm with many families frequenting them. Life is hectic, and many parents would rather drive through to grab a sandwich instead of going home to make a homemade meal. But when a family eats together, children will model good eating habits. If you start your child off at an early age of eating together and make it a rule that meals cannot be missed by anyone, you will have a greater chance of succeeding with this. Pick healthy drinks. Soda pop is high on the list for many individuals. It is easy to drink when on the run, helps give us a caffeine rush, and is readily available at most eating places, markets, and convenient stores. However, it is loaded with sugar. Water, on the other hand, is the healthiest drink on the planet. It is calorie free and has no sugar. Plus it helps flush out toxins in the body and rehydrates it. Drinking water can make one feel fuller for an extended period of time and is crucial for organ functions. We lose water in everything we do, from breathing to exercising. And when the body is made up of 75% water, it is very important to replenish this on a regular basis. Instill in your child’s mind that water is the best choice for them. Many children like juice, which is fine. However, this should not be their primary drink. Look for juices that are 100% juice that is not loaded with sugars. And if possible, consider diluting the juice with water for fewer calories. Remain positive. Look at the bright side of life instead of the negative. Parents that model this behavior will see children are better able to manage life’s problems. The more positive a person is, the better they will be able to handle anything that life throws at them. Teaching your child to see the glass as half full instead of half empty will make them happier in the long run. Pass on the unhealthy habits. When your children see you smoking or drinking alcohol, they may get the impression that it is not harmful to do. Many children want to be just like their parents. Thus, it should be no surprise that children who have a parent that smokes are twice as likely to light up than a child whose parent does not smoke. Giving up snacking and unhealthy foods also fall into this category. You can not really expect your child to eat broccoli and Brussel sprouts for dinner if you are eating French Fries. Offer healthy snacks, such as Hummus with carrot and celery sticks, or apple slices and string cheese. Eat these with them instead of chips and ice cream, and your child will see that healthy eating is something to look forward to. Passing on healthy habits to your kids is very important. The healthy habits they learn from you will be beneficial to them all their lives. These five healthy habits will ensure fewer illnesses, more energy, and a happier, wholesome life! If you are not passing any of these onto your children, it is not too late to start. Just by adding one or two of these habits will improve the quality of your child’s life.

November 6, 2018

All children are smart. Which type of smart is your child?

During my first year as a young senior Mathematics teacher, I realised that most parents put a tremendous amount of pressure on their children to perform well in the sciences, especially Mathematics. Substandard results in other subjects were tolerated with much more patience and excused as a lack of studying (or time or self-discipline). As I didn’t have children of my own at the time, I had to revert to my Psychology textbooks to, firstly, comprehend, and secondly, to dilute this intense pressure from parents on my Maths learners. It turned out that most people have been influenced by the education system to believe that the only form of intelligence that is rated as “smart” is mathematical intelligence and maybe, linguistic intelligence. Scientists and writers… those are smart guys. I changed the structure of the next parents’ evening. I showed and explained the infographic below and sent the parents home with the message: “All children are smart. Which type of smart is yours?”. In 1983 Dr Howard Gardner, an American developmental psychologist, proposed the Theory of Multiple Intelligences as his critique of the standard IQ test. According to Gardner, IQ tests have little relevance as it is based on a general intelligence. His theory instead suggests the presence of nine separate domains of ability, which he labelled the nine types of intelligence: Naturalist (nature smart) Musical (sound smart) Logical-mathematical (number/reasoning smart) Existential (life smart) Interpersonal (people smart) Bodily-kinaesthetic (body smart) Linguistic (word smart) Intrapersonal (self smart) Spatial (picture smart) Gardner realised that what other scientists thought were just soft skills, such as interpersonal skills, were in effect types of intelligence. Many researchers and scientists soon agreed with Gardner as they could see the real-life logic in his theory. Being a smart mathematician gives you the ability to understand the world, but so does being “people smart”, just from a different perspective. Below is an overview of the Multiple Intelligences Theory, with some practical examples to guide you in your analysis of your own intelligence and that of your children. 1. Naturalist Intelligence Naturalist intelligence or “nature smart” describes the human ability to distinguish among living things (plants, animals, etc.) as well as an understanding of other features of the natural world (clouds, rock configurations, etc.). This ability (or intelligence) was invaluable in our evolutionary past as hunters, gatherers, and farmers. It is still central in professions such as botanists, veterinarians or chefs. Children who are naturalists enjoy going camping and doing various outdoor activities. Travel bloggers who like going on adventures in nature are considered “nature smart”. 2. Musical Intelligence Auditory-musical intelligence is the ability to differentiate pitch, rhythm, resonance, and tone. This intelligence enables composers, conductors, musicians, vocalists, and sensitive listeners to recognise, create, reproduce, and reflect on music. It is interesting to note that there is often a connection between music and emotion. But even more interesting is that mathematical and musical intelligence may share common thinking processes. Children that are “sound smart” are usually singing or drumming to themselves and more aware of sounds than others. If you want to cultivate the auditory-musical intelligence, you should surround yourself with music as often as possible and during activities like studying and exercising. 3. Logical-Mathematical Intelligence A person with a good logical-mathematical intelligence can calculate, quantify, consider propositions and hypotheses, and carry out complete mathematical operations. People with this intelligence have sequential reasoning skills, observe relationships and connections, and make use of inductive and deductive thinking patterns. Mathematicians, scientists, and detectives are just some examples of professions where a high logical intelligence is usually required. Children with a high level of logical intelligence are interested in problem solving, experiments, and strategy games like chess. If you want to develop a higher level of logical-reasoning intelligence and be “number or reasoning smart”, you could play logic and pattern games like Sudoku, develop and prove a hypothesis, find the pattern in a poem, etc. 4. Existential Intelligence A person with a high level of existential intelligence is “life smart” and usually thinks about deep questions about life. “What is the essence of our existence?”, “Why do we die?”, “How did life end up like this?”. These people have the capacity to tackle deep questions about human existence. Writers and philosophers normally show a high level of existential intelligence. 5. Interpersonal Intelligence Dr Gardner labels the ability to comprehend and relate effectively with other people as interpersonal intelligence. Effective verbal and nonverbal communication, the ability to recognise differences among people, sensitivity to the personalities of others, and the capability to hold multiple perspectives are among the skills attributed to these “people smart” individuals. Professions where this type of intelligence is dominant are teachers, social workers, actors, and politicians. Children with this kind of intelligence are leaders among their peers who understand others’ feelings and motives. 6. Bodily-Kinaesthetic Intelligence Bodily-kinaesthetic intelligence is the ability to effectively handle objects and use a variety of physical skills in appropriate intensity and functionality. This intelligence also involves a sense of timing and the perfection of skills through mind-body unification. Athletes, dancers, surgeons, and craftspeople exhibit well-developed bodily-kinaesthetic intelligence and are generally called “body smart”. 7. Linguistic Intelligence Linguistic intelligence is the ability to think in words and to use different languages to express and comprehend composite meanings. It is often referred to as being “word smart”. This strand of intelligence is found in people with an outstanding ability to understand the order and meaning of words, but also to apply metalinguistic abilities to reflect on their use of language. Linguistic intelligence is evident in poets, novelists, journalists, and public speakers and is the most widely shared human ability. Children with a high level of linguistic intelligence enjoy writing, reading, telling stories or doing crossword puzzles. 8. Intrapersonal Intelligence Intrapersonal intelligence refers to the ability to understand yourself as well as your own thoughts and feelings. It also relates to the natural capacity to use such knowledge in planning and guiding your own life. Intrapersonal intelligence involves not only a gratefulness of the self

November 5, 2018

Disney Grow With Me Musical Walker

Disney Baby, world-renowned leaders in child care products, have released a revolutionary new developmental item that acts not only as a walking aid, but brings out all the musical talent and fun your child could possibly dream of – just grab those earplugs moms, it’s going to get crazy loud! The Grow-With-Me Mickey and Minnie Musical Walkers are one of a kind. Designed to keep your baby grasping and balanced, the wheels will turn to initiate steps and the sensory buffet will keep your little one intrigued for hours. How many times have you looked for your cellphone only to find it in your child’s hands? Well, now they have their own – detachable as part of the table, alongside a detachable 5-note piano keyboard for them to start making little musical notes and melodies – or just enjoy the noises. The keyboard has flashing lights, turning gears, a sliding melody button, a flop book and a reflective mirror. The walker also has rattle spinners, spinning balls, animals sounds buttons and fun melody and sound effects. It’s simply the coolest, craziest and noisiest fun your child can have whilst learning balance and steps. The Disney Baby Grow-with-Me Walker is available from the following retailers: Babies R Us, Hamleys, Me, Mom & Dad (Greenstone), selected Kids Emporium stores, Loot.co.za, takealot.com, purplepepperz.com, thebabyzone.co.za and others.

November 5, 2018

PRIMA BABY THE NEW EXCLUSIVE DISTRIBUTOR OF CHICCO IN SOUTH AFRICA

Prima Baby is thrilled and proud to announce the newly acquired, exclusive distribution rights to one of the world’s biggest baby products brands, Chicco, in South Africa. Founded in 1958 in Italy, Chicco has become more than just a household name. The brand offers a comprehensive 360-degree solution to satisfy all aspects of a baby’s needs. They strive to be the brand of choice for quality, baby safety products – each especially Italian designed for every phase of a child’s growth. Chicco is backed by a strong sense of tradition, whilst constantly looking towards the future by researching the most technologically advanced solutions to respond to the needs of parents and children. Through this need for knowledge they have created the Chicco Baby Research Centre a.k.a. The Observatory in Como, Italy that collaborates with medical-scientific professionals, day-care workers and paediatricians, as well as constantly gathering data from mothers, fathers and children themselves. The commitment to gain as much knowledge as possible and develop specific solutions for each growth phase is what has kept Chicco one of the most trusted companies in the world. Divisional CEO for Prima Baby, Wanda Ambrosini, is excited and honoured for the partnership, “Chicco is the perfect example of a top quality, one-stop solution for birth and parenting that doesn’t break the bank. We at Prima Baby align ourselves with brands that we feel speak directly to the consumer and their needs, and we aim to widen the accessibility and reach of this incredible label right here in SA”, she states. Prima Baby’s aim is to ensure the growth of Chicco in SA through more product options and more retail accessibility than ever before, offering consumers far more product choices for every stage of pregnancy, birth and parenting. Developed with love, a sense of responsibility and a deep commitment to let children grow in a better world, Chicco’s 60 years’ experience is gained through constantly listening to the needs of mom and dad and building upon already concrete foundations of trust. Chicco will soon be available in all major retailers and online retailers.

November 2, 2018

Help! My child is unwilling to study for their exams

The long-anticipated year-end exams are upon us and so are the challenges and pressures that, so often, go hand-in-hand with the experience. Cindy Glass, Director and Co-founder of Step Up Education Centres explains “ It is crunch-time now and Grade 4 to 12 learners are busy working on the preparation necessary to achieve the best results possible. But, alas, not ALL learners feel motivated or willing to put in the effort that is needed at this time. Some learners may, in fact, show little or any interest in studying for their exams, leaving parents and teachers feeling worried about what can be done about it.” Is your child unwilling or unmotivated to study for the exams? Cindy gives the following top tips to help you and your child through this stressful time: Remember that most negative behaviours are rooted in fear. Have a conversation with your child to try and establish what they may be afraid of. Fear can make them feel completely overwhelmed and it may just seem easier to look the other way when it comes to exam preparation or, worse, give up altogether! Help them put their fears into perspective – help them to understand that all they CAN do is their best. Break the seemingly overwhelming task into bite-sized manageable pieces. Help or encourage your child to concentrate on working through past exam papers. Structure study times so that a goal is set to achieve a certain amount of work in the given time. This will give your child a wonderful sense of achievement when each task is completed. Remind your child that, in life, there are some ‘yucky’ things that need to be done to get where you want to go. It means that, despite perhaps not enjoying the necessity of study, it needs to be done. Explain to your child that the first 10minutes of any challenging activity is the worst. Once you get past that 10 minute mark, you seem to ‘roll’ more easily. Just get to it and see how it works! Help your child understand that exams are their responsibility. You are there to encourage and support them, but ultimately, the responsibility of whether to honour themselves by putting in the effort that is needed, is up to them. Make sure that your home environment is conducive to effective studying. Keep the noise levels down, speak positively, encourage and praise any progress. Try and have something to look forward to once the exams have been completed. A movie evening, a day at the beach, or the promise of enjoying a favoured meal. This needs to be a reward for the hard work that was put into the exam process. Cindy concludes by saying “Exams can feel overwhelming and fear can cause some children to’ shut down’ at this time. All children want to achieve-whether they admit it or not! Don’t give up, the rewards will be worth it!”

November 2, 2018

Play-Doh and Toys r Us partner to share the joy with kids

As the festive season approaches, share in the gift of giving and become a Play-Doh Buddy-Can Buddy! From 15 October to 18 November, Play-Doh and Toys R Us have partnered to bring more Play-Doh fun to the kids at The Nelson Mandela Children’s Hospital. While you plan to fill your little one’s Christmas stocking with Play-Doh cans, you can also play your part in spreading the joy. To participate simply purchase any two Play-Doh products (to the combined value of R100) from select Toys R Us stores and Hasbro will donate a FREE CAN to The Nelson Mandela Children’s Hospital. Collect your donation coupon at the till and add a special touch by adding a personal message to a child at The Nelson Mandela Children’s Hospital, which they will receive with their Play-Doh donation. Play-Doh continues to captivate the imaginations of children around the globe, providing them with the best in colourful, creatable, makeable adventures while providing the ideal opportunity to practice and nurture kids critical thinking and problem solving, communication, collaboration and creativity skills. Soon, every child will be able to Shape their Imagination with Play-Doh! For some fun Play-Doh inspiration watch the Play-Doh Show on Youtube and imagine adventures with the fun, lovable and colourful Play-Doh characters as they use their imaginations to find solutions to everyday and not-so-everyday situations. Visit Play-Doh South Africa and follow @PlayDohSouthAfrica on Facebook. Participating Toys R Us stores include: Gauteng: Fourways, Mall of Africa, Mall of the South, Stoneridge, Woodmead, Vaal Mall, Clearwater, Cresta, Atterbury, Eastgate. Durban: Gateway, Pavilion, Galleria, Ballito Junction Cape Town: Canal Walk, Tyger Valley, Somerset West, Cavendish Square, Table Bay Mall, PE: Baywest Mall

November 1, 2018

Top tips for Summer outdoor fun with your little one

Summer has officially arrived in South Africa. With the heat, we all need a reminder on how to tackle hot days with little ones – it’s the handy hints from fellow moms that make beach visits or pool time a breeze with teeny tots. Su-Marie Annandale from Krayons – a brand designed specifically for kids – says that there are a couple of easy ways to make summer far more enjoyable for the whole family. She lists the following handy hints for pool, beach time, or just a picnic in the garden: Start with zip-lock bags: whether its snack preparation (because a selection is always required), or just to keep things sand-free, zip-lock bags make life much easier. Pop your phone or camera in one too so you’re able to snap a few pics of your babes. A little known fact for beach visitors is that baby powder works like magic to remove sand from little one’s skin. Hold the sandy foot or leg in one hand and use the other to sprinkle the powder. Rub it in a downward action and voila! No more sand. As an adult, you might choose to leave your shoes inside or in the car, but the sand is very hot for tiny feet. Pop a pair of neoprene water shoes, or closed sandals into your bag for your tot. No beach umbrella can contain an enthusiastic little one. Opt for a beach tent in the garden or, on the sand, for much more coverage. It’s also great to demarcate a quiet area for nap time. Beat the heat between 10am and 2pm – take the time to have lunch and let them nap – go on your outing in the early morning or late afternoon. Stay hydrated! Be sure to keep offering your little one water, they will be distracted with playing; so, remember to offer water and even cold fruit to keep them hydrated and happy. Of course, no summer day is complete without a splash. Bring a bucket outside and place in a shady spot. Your child will love the water play, hopping in and out of the bucket, and this doubles up as bath time. Grab a bar of dermatologically approved Krayons Baby Soap to gently wash sunscreen and grime off your little one’s skin. When it’s time to head inside, massage a layer of Krayons Aqueous Cream into the skin to restore hydration and leave it feeling soft and smooth. For more information, follow Krayons on their Facebook page

November 1, 2018

Give Your Special Needs Child the Best Future Possible

When you’re told that your child will be born with a mental or physical disability, the news can be crushing and leave you with many doubts. Will you be able to provide for them? Will their childhood be as full of joy as the other kids? Will you have the stamina to carry on when the going gets tough? The answers are yes, yes, and yes. Though you’re facing the greatest challenge of your life, you can see it through with plenty of love and the right preparation. Here are some things to do before your baby arrives in this world. Research Their Disability How you get ready mentally, physically, and financially depends on the nature of your child’s disability and what obstacles they will face growing up. A good place to start your inquiries is Parent to Parent USA. Not only will you find a treasure trove of information on conditions ranging from blindness to mobility impairment to Down syndrome, this organization will put you in contact with other parents who have already faced the same challenges. Look Into Financial Aid Read up on the Individuals With Disabilities Education Act, or IDEA, which is a federal law that guarantees your child access to early intervention, special education, and related services from birth until adulthood. These include therapy sessions either at home or in the community to aid in the development of motor, cognitive, and communication skills needed to thrive during their infant and toddler years. Grants are available through agencies in each state. Find Support From Nonprofits There are also a number of charity organizations that are ready to step in and offer assistance when federal aid is insufficient. Many of these are devoted to children suffering from specific conditions such as autism, while others, like the Legacy of Hope, offer access to exciting activities outside of education such as art classes, music lessons, and even horseback riding, helping to ensure a well rounded and enjoyable childhood. Begin Navigating Health Insurance Thanks to recent health care reforms, insurers cannot deny coverage to children under the age of 19 based on pre-existing conditions including disabilities, according to the experts at Allied Wealth Partners, adding that you have 30 days after the birth of your child to add them to your health plan. Speak with your insurer to find out which physicians and providers are in-network to reduce out-of-pocket expenses. Depending on your income, you may also qualify for Medicaid or Supplemental Security Income. Set Up an Emergency Fund There will be items that you have to pay for yourself. Luckily, more and more states are offering residents as well as non-residents the opportunity to open a tax-advantaged ABLE account for any disabled person under the age of 26, with contributions limited to $14,000 per beneficiary per year, according to finance magazine Kiplinger. This money can be withdrawn tax-free and used to cover medical treatment and other expenses. Prepare Your Home You’ll need to make some modifications to ensure that your child is safe and can move around comfortably. If they’ll be confined to a wheelchair, then begin your research into options for improved accessibility, such as wheelchair ramps, which cost $1,604 on average. Other renovations include grab rails in the bathroom as well as a roll-in shower to make washing up easier at the end of the day. Contact local professionals to get an estimate in your area. Take Care of Yourself Giving your child the support and attention they deserve is impossible if you are tired and strung out. Begin a regimen of self-care now to ensure you’re in the best possible condition when the parenting begins. That, above all, means a balanced diet, plenty of exercise, and a good night’s rest, as well as techniques for relieving stress such as meditation or yoga. There’s a lot of work to be done, but rest assured that there are ways to overcome the obstacles that you and your child face. It just takes love and courage, and you’ve got both in spades.

October 31, 2018

SUNUMBRA P – Embrace the sunshine

Sunumbra P is a Natural Sunscreen with Organic Ingredients and a core purpose to make a difference inpeople’s lives as well as the environment by embracing the sunshine. Don’t damage your skin with chemicals to avoid getting sunburnt. Zinc Oxide, as a mineral sunscreen, is 100% natural, provides a high level protection for both UVA and UVB, plus has excellent healing qualities. Three of the great Sunumbra P sunscreens available: Sunumbra P Sport SPF 40+ (RSP: R265.00) Sunumbra sport is a natural sunscreen containing organic ingredients that is specially formulated for the active outdoors person Sunumbra sport is a natural sunscreen containing organic ingredients that is specially formulated for the active outdoors person to ensure… 5 Star rating (UVA) SPF40+ (UVB) Fully certified ISO/COLIPA for UVA & UVB Water resistant 40 minutes High protection Broad Spectrum Sunumbra P Sunkids SPF 40 (RSP : R299.00) •Protects against UVA and UVB light at the highest level•Contains natural, organic, photo-protective botanicals •Contains the powerful anti-radiation properties of zinc oxide •No harmful chemicals •Dermatologically tested and approved •Specially formulated for children and people with sensitive skin•A tinted sunscreen using natural botanicals containing pigments•Tested on human skin only, not animals •PH in balance with children’s skin •Can be used by anyone with a dietary or environmental concern Sunumbra P SPF 30+ (RSP : R299.99)Natural sunscreen ● Organic ingredients ● SPF 30+ (UVB) ● 5 ***** UVA rating (highest level) ● Free of Parabens ● 100% Free of harmful Chemicals ● A tinted sunscreen using natural botanicals containing pigments● Not tested on Animals ● No Animal derivatives ● Water resistant ● Developed, Formulated and manufactured in South Africa Tip: As this is a tinted sunscreen, any clothing stains that may result from the natural oils can be removed by simply applying dish washing liquid directly to the stain (because regular laundry detergent does not contain oil-removing properties), then launder as normal. Why you should choose and natural sunscreen? Natural and organic preservatives do not damage your health. Commonly used Parabens are endocrine disruptors mimicking estrogen, upsetting hormone balance, plus are carcinogenic. No Petrochemicals or Mineral oils: they clog up skin pores, trap toxins, slow skin cell growth, disrupt normal hormonal functions, rob bones and the nervous system of magnesium, can be estrogenic, plus absorb oil soluble vitamins A, D, E and K from you and then excrete them. Natural Colorants are non-toxic – vs toxic Synthetic ones Natural organic ingredients smell delightful. Added Fragrance can be toxic. Avoid unnatural Polymers for Water Resistance, which coat the skin and prevent it breathing Many Organic plant extracts provide Anti-oxidants, which protect against free radical damage and atmospheric toxins, eliminate chemical reactions, and repair skin cells. Direct benefit from every ingredient. No fillers are required to counteract negative reactions to chemicals. Reverse sun damage. Switching from toxic chemical sunscreens to non-toxic sunscreens with added organic ingredients, you can possibly reverse some existing sun damage What chemicals to avoid and what are their potential health risks: Octinoxate (Octyl Methoxycinnamate): gender bending (estrogenic) Oxybenzone (Benzophenone-3): allergic reactions and hormone disrupting. Avobenzone (Butyl Methoxydibenzoylmethane): becomes toxic in sunlight! Octocrylene: potentially carcinogenic! Homosalate: Hormone disruptor; forms toxic metabolites Padimate O (Octyl Dimethyl Paba / Paba Ester): releases free radicals; damages DNA; estrogenic and allergic reactions. Ensulizole (Phenylbenzimidazole Sulfonic Acid: potentially carcinogenic! Mexoryl SX: Degrades 40% in sunlight, produces reactive oxygen species. Octyl Salicyclate: penetration enhancer; allows other chemicals into blood. Benzophenone (Sulisobenzone): irritates skin & eyes. Penetration enhancer. Avoid toxic cosmetic ingredients. A healthy lifestyle is vital to combat toxins from modern industries. Choose cosmetics with healthy ingredients and avoid these toxic ones: Sodium Laurel, Lauryl Sulfate, or Sodium Laurel Sulfate: Combined with other chemicals this becomesNitrosamine, a powerful carcinogen, which penetrates the skin’s moisture barrier, allowing chemicals in.PEG (Polyethylene Glycol), Polysorbates, or Ethoxyylate alcohol: all contain dioxane, which is carcinogenic and probably one of the most potent toxins known to man. Propylene Glycol: can cause dermatitis, kidney or liver abnormalities, skin growth prevention, or just plain irritation. Phenol Carbolic Acid: Can cause circulatory collapse, paralysis, convulsions, coma, and even death from respiratory failure. Acrylamide: Can cause breast cancer Toluene (Benzoic; Benzyl or Butylated Hydroxtoluene): can cause anaemia, low blood cell count, liver and kidney damage and birth defects.

October 31, 2018

Responsibilities within the home, in a nutshell….

The opposite of depression, misery, addictions and negative behavioural choices is purpose, connection, acknowledgement and a healthy sense of independence. Imagine if we could teach these valuable life skills to our children, from a very young age and within our home environments! Cindy Glass, Director and Co-founder of Step Up Education Centres says that the good news is that you can, and indeed, you should, and it can be done through the teaching of responsibility within your home! Cindy highlights the following benefits of teaching a healthy sense of responsibility in children. It helps children believe that they are capable and worthy. It engenders feelings of achievement and upliftment. It increases independence, which is a wonderful and necessary life-gift. It helps increase confidence and leadership skills. It teaches children the skills that they will need to live more successful adult lives. It encourages self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills. This will also include self-care. Cindy goes on to say “It is important to note that responsibilities within the home need to be age appropriate. Younger children can be tasked with helping to make their own beds, putting dirty clothes in the wash-basket, packing away toys, brushing their own teeth and hair and other simple-to-do tasks. Older children and teenagers can and should make their own beds and keep their personal space in order. In addition, they can be tasked with helping with cooking, washing dishes, making their own school lunches and doing their own homework.” There is a fine line between insisting, nagging and fighting with our children to become more responsible and helping them to embrace the process of learning from the experiences of becoming more responsible within their homes. Cindy gives the following do’s and don’ts to consider” consider: Don’t expect or insist upon perfection. Mistakes are inevitable and they are excellent opportunities for learning and problem-solving. Do praise, acknowledge, express appreciation and encourage. Don’t allow excuses. Teach your children to own their choices and actions. Do set boundaries with consequences that you stick to. Do set the example of what it is you wish your children to become. They are most likely going to do what you do and not always what you say! Cindy concludes by saying “It is so important to remember that, as parents, you are your child’s first and longest-lasting teacher. Make it count by embracing the need for independence and responsibility. Start within your home. It will not always be easy, but with perseverance, lots of positive encouragement and appreciation, the results will be well worth it!”

October 31, 2018

Medical aid unpacked

When it comes to medical aid, affordability is usually the biggest consideration. However, monthly premiums should be weighed and balanced against the actual benefits and healthcare coverage being offered in order to make an informed decision. The biggest question around medical aid costs is why healthcare inflation is rising at such an alarming rate and how schemes deal with this. ‘Currently, medical inflation is outpacing general economic inflation by between 3 and 4%,’ says Gerhard van Emmenis, Principal Officer of Bonitas Medical Fund. ‘And while the jury’s still out in the form of the Health Market Inquiry into the private healthcare sector, fingers are being pointed at all role players from private hospitals and specialists to medical schemes. However, you need to remember that the former are all about the bottom line, while medical schemes are not-for-profit.’ Consumers, unable to make Rands or sense of the many plans available and what they’re actually offering, are often tempted to migrate to what is perceived as a more affordable plan, but with less coverage. ‘Comparing the average percentage increase in isolation is not an indicator of the value of the healthcare being provided,’ says Van Emmenis ‘We urge consumers to compare monthly contributions with the benefits to ensure they are getting the cover they need.’ He maintains that simply comparing the average percentage increase announced by the various schemes is not a litmus test for value for money, since it does not take into account the basis on which the increase applies. Here is a simple maths example: Two schemes offer the same benefits however, Scheme A costs R1 000 pm while Scheme B costs R1 100pm. If Scheme A announces a 10% increase (R1 100pm) and Scheme B announces a 7% increase (R1 177) but neither change or increase the benefits, then Scheme A is still providing the same benefits, at a lower cost, even though it announced a higher contribution increase. ‘That’s why it’s important to compare the actual benefits and contributions rather than only looking at the percentage increase,’ says Van Emmenis. This is where a Broker can be invaluable. While consumers are becoming more savvy and educated on the inner workings of the medical scheme industry there is confusion. Brokers assist consumers by making informed recommendations that take into account their specific needs. They also play a vital role in education around the offerings, how to maximise your benefits, how to benefit from Managed Care, both financially and in terms of quality of life, various healthcare terminology and assisting members with claims. Van Emmenis explains that schemes with a growing membership base will require additional loadings in the monthly contributions to increase the reserves in order to meet the statutory solvency requirement of 25%. ‘This is a legislative requirement and does not imply the scheme is performing poorly – in fact the opposite is true in this context,’ he says. According to data released by the Council for Medical Schemes (CMS), the market has not been successful in attracting young, healthy people who are less prone to chronic health conditions like diabetes or hypertension: Lifestyle diseases that adversely effect of the pool of contributions. The increasing age of beneficiaries is also a huge concern. The CMS reported that the industry average beneficiary age increased from 31.9 years in 2013 to 32.5 years in 2016. The pensioner ratio increased slightly to 7.9%, with a general rise in the ratio for both males and females. Schemes with an ageing membership base generally experience increased claims costs, in excess of inflation, due to the higher use of benefits. ‘We have seen around a 2% increase in claims by members annually as they age,’ says Van Emmenis. ‘In addition, all chronic conditions, except Type 1 Diabetes, have shown an upswing, ‘says Van Emmenis. ‘These conditions are PMBs that need to be paid in full by all schemes. So, although the regulation is well intended, it is without doubt one of the factors driving up the cost of healthcare. At the same time, there have been particularly steep increases in the cost of specialists and hospitals, which together account for more than 61% of total claims paid.’ Runaway healthcare costs are difficult to contain because of a myriad of contributing factors. Most rooted deeply in a complex health system where much of what happens is beyond the influence of the schemes. Take for example the over-regulation in the form of exclusion from collective bargaining by the Competition Commission. This leaves schemes with no option but to negotiate individually with service providers, blocking the development of a more efficient and cost-effective healthcare sector. Open enrolment also impacts costs as schemes have to accept anyone who wishes to join, regardless of their health status, which does maximum damage to risk equalisation. So what is the best approach for medical schemes going forward? Van Emmenis says that schemes need to continue to explore and implement cost containment strategies and offer value for money to members. ‘Access to quality healthcare remains a concern and priority for the majority of South Africans. Our mandate has always been to provide quality healthcare at affordable prices and this will continue.’

October 30, 2018

“FORTNITE”- Friend or Foe?

By Sonia Jansen, Deputy Principal of Academics at Crawford Preparatory North Coast Recently, I’ve had the privilege of running a Nintendo Club for a group of over 40 children from Grade 5 to Grade 7. The Nintendo Schools League offers children the opportunity to game competitively in a safe environment under supervision. Only one game is played in the club – Splatoon 2 – a game with an age rating of 10+. Competitive banter and excited cheers were the hallmark of our afternoon gaming sessions. In this time, I became pretty au fait with the terminology and social interaction between young gamers and learned that many of young players spend time playing a particular game called Fortnite. Fortnite, an online, multiplayer shooter game played by an estimated 50 million people daily, is free and easily accessible to anyone with internet access and a range of devices. Basically, players find themselves on an island and have to fight for resources, weapons and ultimately, survival. While online, players chat to each other. Each game can last in the region of 20 minutes. Common Sense Media (https://www.commonsensemedia.org/game-reviews/fortnite), a website providing independent reviews, rates Fortnite at 13+. Realising that some of the players are as young as 8, I was prompted to investigate further. So for the information of parents out there who aren’t too sure what the game is about, here are some of my observations: Cautions: There is some violence (however, not as much, or as brutal and realistic, as many other games out there). Play is online and team members can essentially be anyone. Communication is open between the team members, which may expose young children to unsupervised contact with gamers they do not know. Children are found to be playing until early hours of the morning, which has an impact on learning, academic performance and social interaction when they’re tired and cranky the next day. Positives: A team game, Fortnite requires a measure of collaboration and communication. The need for strategy may encourage executive functioning skills such as critical thinking and organisation. In fact, the game as a whole, requires quite a lot of skill. So – the choice is yours …Ultimately, the decision to let your child play Fortnite, or not, is a personal one. My recommendation is that if you are going to allow your child to play any computer games, consider the following: pay attention to the recommended age rating ensure that their play time is monitored and that devices are left in a “time-out” box in the living room, rather than their bedroom. play with your child – teach them how to game safely under your guidance and supervision. monitor their response to the game and the level of violence of that particular game, and let your decision be guided by your own knowledge of your child. limit their game time – many hours of unchecked playing can lead to physical and social issues. consider the opinions and advice of other parents by reading as much as you can about the games your children choose to play. For more information, and to read parent reviews on Fortnite, you can go to: https://www.commonsensemedia.org/game-reviews/fortnite

October 29, 2018

30 Pradiance Sun Stick SPF 30

Price: R235.00 (30ml Sunstick) Natural sunscreen for the whole family. Suitable for: The whole family. All skin types. Intolerant skins to chemical filters. Acne-prone skin. Indoor and outdoor use. How to use: Push from the base of the applicator so that 3mm of the stick appears and apply sunscreen to all exposed areas. Pay particular attention to nose, lips and ears. Reapply every hour for optimal protection. Key features: Certified, with broad spectrum UVA & UVB protection, this mineral sunscreen reflects and refracts sunlight which prevents the absorption of UV-A and -B as much as possible. It allows us to refrain from using potentially harmful chemical sun filters. Water-resistant, moisturising, non-greasy, and non-pore clogging. Leaves a sheer, non-shiny finish on your skin. A mineral sunscreen containing zinc oxide (non nano) and high-quality plant extracts known for their antioxidant qualities. Protects against climatic stresses such as wind, cold, and salt water. Watch our YouTube video about our SPF 30: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ECJMGn-1oRo&feature=youtu.be Containing the powerful African botanicals known for their healing and antiageing properties. Kigelia (African Sausage Tree) extract, our main ingredient, has been used for decades for the treatment of scars, sunspots and hyper-pigmentation. We value the connection between nature and the good health of your skin. Pradiance is : Vegan friendly Natural & Organic, Produced in an organic certified lab Not tested on Animals Proudly South African Pradiance was born of the dream that every person in the world should be in a position to use a natural and organic cosmetic, irrespective of income level. With 30 years of experience in the skincare industry we created the most affordable but results-driven natural and organic product we possibly could, bearing in mind that a common skin concern is dark marks, sunspots and scarring. The Pradiance Skincare range is formulated for the demands of all skin types, with the inspiration drawn from the proven healing effects of carefully chosen African plant extracts that only have positive effects on the skin. The desired effect is to balance uneven pigmentation, heal scars and even out skin tone while enhancing the health and beauty of the skin. Kigelia promotes skin elasticity and can plump up the deepest of wrinkles. All Pradiance products are free of harmful synthetic chemical ingredients, including parabens and mineral oils. All our ingredients are from sustainable sources. At Pradiance, we aim to create an awareness of the necessity to use biodegradable ingredients that are 100% earth- and people-friendly. Carefully Chosen Natural Plant Extracts Kigelia is found in sub-Saharan Africa, where it is known as the “Sausage Tree”, owing to the size and shape of the fruit. Kigelia works in many ways, including: Provision of an anti-bacterial and anti-fungal effect against micro-organisms. Provision of antioxidants which will affect the vitality and vibrancy of the skin. Promotion of elasticity, creating a firmer, smoother complexion. Our Logo: The Southern Hemisphere New Moon and a leaf are our logo. Farmers who grow healing plants look at the moon cycle for best results when planting and harvesting their crops. The leaf is naturally the symbol for plants – plants allow the human species to thrive, especially if we choose organic. The gold colour symbolises the sun with the warmth and vitality it offers – as long as we expose ourselves to it wisely.

October 29, 2018

Review: Raptor Velociraptor by Fingerlings

Meet Fury, Stealth, Blaze and Razor; the BEST ferocious fingertip friends you’ll ever have! They’re fun and lovable and YOU CAN TAKE THEM ANYWHERE! These exclusive new Dinos’ are just a finger away. Dino’s chomp and growl, react to your touch and can move their head and eyes in pleasure or in aggression. It’s like having a real Velociraptor all to yourself, only better! Friend them all and show off your awesome raptors’ abilities. When showing love and care, the raptors react like puppies or kittens and snuggle into her nurturing hand! Listen to him growl and chomp away as he finds lunch. He’s sensitive upon four different parts of his head. He loves rubs and is attached to his owner, but be careful not to have your fingers bitten off! He feels just like a scaly Dino! Warning! This product is not suitable for children under 3 years because of small parts- choking hazard. The packaging is not a toy and should not be left unattended with children! It should be kept because it contains important information. This product was made in China, manufactured and distributed by WowWee Group Limited. Remember they’re babies so take amazing care of them and have fun! For more information visit https://www.primatoys.co.za/fingerlings/fingerlings-dino-velociraptor-assorted

October 27, 2018

Go outside!

Over half of children spend an hour or less a day playing outside – that’s less than the average maximum-security prisoner in America! There are several reasons for this: an increase in screen time, greater emphasis on scheduled activities and achievements, and a shortage of safe outdoor spaces to play. But there are also several reasons why children MUST play outside: Development: Play is a primary way that children learn about themselves and the world around them. Unstructured outdoor play allows children the freedom to explore, create and discover without predetermined rules or guidelines, and is a valuable component of their emotional, academic and physical development. In addition, playing outside teaches children essential life skills such as how to plan, troubleshoot, and negotiate. Exercise: Outdoor play encourages active play, which is fantastic for developing physical abilities. Running, jumping and playing ball games not only strengthen muscles, but also improve gross motor skills, hand-eye coordination and overall health and wellbeing. In addition, outdoor play helps children release pent-up energy, and as little as 20 minutes of active outdoor play has been linked to a boost in brain function afterward. Creativity: Playing outdoors is great for encouraging children’s creativity. Away from the constraints and confinement of being indoors and without hovering parents, many children will find unexpected and alternate uses for toys and everyday objects. Outdoors, they can let their imagination run wild! Socialisation: Children need to learn to make friends, to share and cooperate. They are usually more willing to join in games and activities when playing outdoors, and they are also more likely to talk to different children and make new friends. As such, outdoor play teaches children vital social skills, such as how to take turns and treat others. Risk-taking: Outdoor play helps children take risks and learn about their own abilities – they discover how high they can climb, how well they can balance, how fast they can run and what it feels like to roll down a hill. If children don’t learn to take risks, they may not develop the confidence needed to face life’s inevitable risks. Yes, they can be humiliated when they try to make a friend and get rejected, and they can even break an arm or a leg while playing outside. But that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t try; the lessons they learn from failure are just as important as those they learn from success. Independence: Outside play teaches children to pick themselves up when they fall, and to negotiate unfamiliar situations. It also teaches them to explore new activities and become confident in trying new things without being guided by adults. This helps build independence and self-reliance. Nature: The future of our planet depends on our children; they need to learn to appreciate it. If children grow up never digging in dirt, seeing animals in their natural habitat, climbing hills and trees or splashing in the sea, they will never really understand what is at stake. Children who play outside are more aware of nature and their environment. So, for the sake of your children, do what your parents did and send them outside. Even better, go with them! Outdoor Classroom Day is a global teacher-led campaign taking place on 1 November. It will see schools around the world swap the inside for the outside by taking learning into the playground, and making playtime a key part of the school day. For more information or to sign up, visit https://outdoorclassroomday.com By Danielle Barfoot

October 26, 2018

What to do if your parents don’t agree with your study choices

Many Matrics considering their study options for next year are finding themselves in the difficult position of being at odds with their parents or guardians about their preferred direction. While this conundrum has always been around, it is even more pronounced today, given that there are a myriad qualifications and careers that didn’t exist even a few years ago. “Parents often have expectations of the potential careers they see their children pursuing, and it can be hard for them and their children to get on the same page when the parents are in favour of the more traditional qualifications, while the child would prefer to pursue a qualification the parents don’t know much about,” says Nola Payne, Head of Faculty: Information and Communications Technology at The Independent Institute of Education, SA’s largest private higher education institution. She says it is important for families to have a respectful dialogue based on facts and research when they find themselves in this position. “If you are the young adult who would like to pursue a career in, for instance, digital marketing or game design and development, but your parents would rather you do a BCom at a public university, there are ways to get them to see your side of things,” she says. “And if you are the concerned parent, worried that your child’s preferred qualification is lightyears away from what you think they should be doing, there are also a few ways you can set your mind at ease,” says Payne. She says it can be helpful for parents and future students finding themselves at loggerheads to approach the situation as follows: DO THE RESEARCH AND UNDERSTAND THE OPTIONS There are many more study options today than in the past. The range of qualifications on offer has grown exponentially, while the institutions offering them have also multiplied. All registered and accredited higher education institutions – whether they be public universities or private – are registered by the Department of Higher Education and Training (DHET). They are only registered if they have been accredited by the Council on Higher Education (CHE) and registered by the South African Qualifications Authority (SAQA) on the National Qualifications Framework (NQF). Looking up a qualification on the NQF is as easy as going to the SAQA website and typing in a few words. An institution should also be able to give you the SAQA identity number immediately. This means that prospective students and their parents can be confident about the bona fides of any qualification they want to pursue, provided that the institution is recognised by DHET and the programme is listed on the NQF which can be found on the SAQA website. FACE REALITY The world of work looks a lot different today than it did a decade ago, with numerous new and emerging careers on offer, such as brand management, big data analysis, app development, and digital design, to name a few. The traditional, generic 3-year degree is no longer a golden ticket to landing a job. Prospective students would do well to pursue a career-focused qualification which fits well with their talents and interests, and which will prepare them to step into the workplace with confidence. Career-focused qualifications will often also include work-integrated learning, which allows students to build a portfolio of work throughout their time at varsity. This puts them in a much stronger position after graduation when applying for a position. UNDERSTAND THE MARKETPLACE What can you do with your qualification after graduation? That is an important question to ask before committing to a programme. A great way to determine the demand for a qualification and your future earning potential, is to look at career sites and job ads, to see how much demand there is in marketplace. Speaking to an advisor at a higher education institution’s career centre can also go a long way to clarifying your prospects post-graduation. UNDERSTAND THE MOTIVATION FOR STUDYING Pursuing a degree requires a substantial investment of time and money. And handling the demands of higher education and young adulthood is not a walk in the park. The dropout rate among first years is very high, in part because the reason for heading to university wasn’t sound. So if the motivation for further study is for the sake of status rather than to lay the foundations for a specific and successful career, or if a student is only studying to fulfil the wishes of their parents, it would be better to wait, investigate all the options, and only apply when they have found something that gets them really excited about your future. “Parents need to understand that the best approach now is to study and prepare for a world that’s changing, and that the traditional way and ‘safe’ careers may not be the best course of action,” says Payne. “And prospective students need to understand that while the difference in opinion may be frustrating, it is up to them to present their case calmly, clearly and respectfully, with the research to back up the viability and prospects of their choice.”

October 25, 2018

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