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How having Twins makes a better You!

Chances are whether you are expecting twins are already have them, you constantly hear about the challenges in having twins, along with some colourful commentary. There may be challenges along the way, but having multiples is special and amazing and can teach you so much about yourself. Here are some moms comments on what they have learnt about themselves since having twins. I enjoy every moment of life so much more I never knew I had so much love in me I have become a lot more easy going and have learnt to over look a lot, as long as my kids are happy, a messy house doesn’t stress me out as much as it did when I had just one child Patience……Lots and lots of patience I have become an expert in routines and time management Able to get so much more done in a short period of time – less time wastage Popularity has increased! Its like being a celebrity as people stare, smile and want to stop and talk to you the minute they spot the twin stroller Doing tasks faster than I imagined I could I have learnt not to sweat the small stuff and let go a little. I have also learnt to have fun again, through and with my boys Managing time for hubby and 2 year old twins is a big struggle Coping and multi tasking skills. Having twins plus 1 has taught me to cope with 3 kids on my own without getting over worked and just generally your strategic mind really gets into gear Having twins has taught me to adapt and give individual attention to each of the twins as if they were singletons My OCD has taken a back seat as I have learnt the world won’t end if everything is not clean / perfect / finished all the time I use my time better, worry less, do more laugh a lot!!!! I lost the super mom idea and had to ask for help especially when they were little. At age 3 I have to observe more , cant jump in to fight their fights for them. I have learnt grace, compassion and patience I have learnt I control everything, I’ve learnt not to sweat the small stuff and I’m actually a far more chilled person for having had twins I’ve learnt to ask for help, though I still battle with this sometimes, I like to do things myself, with twins it isn’t always possible and now with a 3rd even harder!! I have learnt to adjust our expectations and just go with the flow – they’re three now and at least we got out the other side with honour and sanity intact Having twins has taught me that I am capable of far more than I ever thought possible. I didn’t know if I would be able to survive twins, plus a 2 year old and a 4 year old with autism. But the twins are 6 months now and somehow we made it work and sometimes even have a lot of fun doing it Twins give you super powers. You can multi task like a pro. You get patience like you cant believe.You have this amazing overwhelming feeling of happiness and love. You cope with less because you have more. Twins don’t have a routine they have a drill sergeant behind them. One wrong move and there is chaos

October 24, 2024

Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids…

Did you know that in the languages of Sweden, Norway and Finland, where they experience long snow-filled winters, there are as many as 180 snow and ice related words. That’s a lot of ways to talk about something we just call, well, snow and ice. Imagine how differently snow would appear to you if you had so many ways to describe it rather than just cold, wet and white! Now think about how much richer your child’s emotional life would be if they could describe what they were feeling with more words than just happy, sad and mad. The thing is, the labels that we apply to our emotions do more than just help us to communicate with others what is going on in our internal world. They also help us to understand how to process and cope with what is going on and assist us in directing our behavior appropriately.For example… If you are just “sad”, then you might have only two options… cry and/or wait it out. But if you differentiate sadness into loneliness, boredom, grief, tiredness, melancholy, nostalgia, heartbrokeness or disappointment, then you suddenly have a few more options. You can phone a friend to alleviate loneliness; you can hop onto Pinterest for some craft ideas if you’re bored; you can take a nap if you’re tired; or adjust your expectations if you’re disappointed.Our emotions are the language of the unconscious mind and are there to help us to live more authentic, fulfilled lives by directing our attention to things that need to be addressed, by changing our physiology for survival, and by drawing our attention to the things that bring us joy so that we can do more of them. The more in tune we are with these messages, the more likely we are to live a rich, meaningful existence.Think of this as a relationship between yourself and this other aspect of your mind. The relationship is going to be a fairly shallow one if you only know a few words of the other partner’s language!So the main key to helping children to develop emotional intelligence is to develop their emotional vocabulary. Happy, sad and mad are fine when you’re three, but not when you’re 13 or 23 (or even 53!). Get out that dictionary. Start by making a long list of all the feeling words you can find. Keep adding to this as you discover more. Turn these into a daily emotional tracking chart that the whole family can use. Play emotional charades by placing all your newly learned words into a hat and each family member picking one and acting it out to see if the others can guess the feeling. Load a thesaurus onto your phone and every time you want to describe how you feel find another 5 ways of saying that which would more accurately describe your state. Read to your kids and discuss how the characters are feeling. Engage your children in emotional discussions. Really really listen to what they are saying and see if you can find the perfect word to sum it all up. Consider making up your own words if the perfect word doesn’t exist yet. Adding “hangry” to our vocabularies to describe the irritation that comes when you haven’t eaten enough has helped us to take the right action in the situation (i.e. instead of punishing the child that is lashing out, we give them a snack!). Language helps us to process our world, to interact with others and to express our needs and desires. Emotional language assists us in understanding ourselves, having empathy for others, directing our behavior appropriately, and managing our internal state. Transform snow into a damp, piercing and ghostly environment where you are engulfed by its icy transparency… and transform your child’s emotional world into as colourful a landscape. Emotionally intelligent kids need a vocabulary that is rich enough to express the depth of their internal world.

October 23, 2024

Teaching Study Skills: Whose Responsibility Is It Anyway?

Exams bring its fair share of stress and pressure. It is a time when teachers, parents and children feel overwhelmed by the volumes of work that need to be covered in class and committed to memory at home. Parents often feel that teachers should provide more guidance about how to study. Teachers feel that they have mountains of content to cover and do not have enough time to review the content as well. This leaves one wondering, who will show a child how to get through all the topics on their exam scope? Too Little, Too Late There is no magic trick to replace making and spending enough time to review work covered in class well in advance. Children’s busy afternoon programmes barely leave them with enough time to complete their homework for the following day. If a child only completes homework and skims over work for weekly tests without making summaries of the work covered in class, it leads to huge chunks of content to be covered prior to the exam. Mom, is it perhaps time to help your child to cut down on afternoon activities? Keywords are Key Making summaries of work covered in class needs to be done on a consistent basis. It reduces the workload prior to exams. When the key points have been highlighted and summarised, the child only has to focus on what has already been selected as the most important content. The child can then use the keywords to formulate sentences in his/her own words. Children often think that they have to repeat the words of the textbook verbatim. However, it is more important to retell the facts in a way that makes sense to them. Mock Tests Help your child to set his/her own test paper by formulating their own questions with answers. This will help them feel more prepared and less anxious before their exams. Chrizelle Prinsloo is the owner of Kip McGrath Education Centres, Walmer. She has a background in psychology and has taught in mainstream and special-needs schools both locally and abroad. Chrizelle is passionate about helping children gain confidence in their own abilities and about finding different ways to help them learn.

October 23, 2024

ARE YOU ENCOURAGING YOUR CHILD TO REBEL WITHOUT KNOWING IT?

Control and freedom. We all want both. We like to feel some sense of power and authority and we definitely want the feeling that nobody has power or authority over us – freedom. These apparently contradictory ideas are actually one. What we all really want, the true control we want to yield, is the power over ourselves – to be able to direct our time and our lives and to be able to pursue what is most meaningful to us without interference from others. What we want is to control our own freedom. And parenting is the place where our misguided attempts to control others (instead of our own lives) plays out the most. If we sit quietly with our own frustration and anger and disappointment that we are directing towards our children and their behaviour; If we truly allow these feelings to surface without attack; If we go deeply into the pain underlying them, what we find is that our futile attempts to control our children always come from our own unresolved issues. Children pulse with their own life-force, with their own goals and dreams and desires. Children, too, have the innate desire to control their own freedom. But when we, the adults, are not living authentic lives then we feel the need to squash the freedom we see in them. We need to make them conform to the same societal expectations that killed our inner joy, to let go of childish fantasies and ‘grow up into the real world’. We create all sorts of control mechanisms – punishments, shaming, coercion, rewards and the giving or withholding of approval – and then agree on these as a society to justify our own sense of disillusionment with how our lives have panned out. We believe that our underlying motivation is pure: That we want our children to grow up and fit into society and be liked and acceptable. What we don’t realise is that the very techniques that we use to entice our children into conformity are the same things that will initiate their rebellion. Nobody can suppress their inner authenticity for long periods of time. Teenage rebellion is absolutely essential in a society that manipulates and coerces children into being something they are not; And is totally absent in communities that allow children freedom. What looks like successful control in childhood – a well-behaved, obedient child – is the perfect fertile soil for that teen rebellion. Control can never be an external factor. True control must always come from within. It must arise from living a life where we are true to ourselves and also allow others to be true to themselves. Children (and adults) who are internally free and happy and living on purpose never put obstacles the paths of others. It is fear that lies behind all other-control. And what we fear as parents is that our children will become unruly, unlikable delinquents. And our fear converts into control, which converts into rebellion, and we unwittingly create the very thing we are afraid of. Let your children be. But first, let yourself be. Take some time as you head into this new year to assess your life. Are you doing what you really want to do? Is your life meaningful and joyous and filled with engaging challenges? Are you free, or have you succumbed to the power of some authority? Do you wake in the morning excited to see what the day brings? There is a lot we can learn from our children if we stop trying to make them like us and instead we see if we could possibly be more like them. Start controlling your own life and your own freedom and you will see that letting go of control in terms of your children is not something you need to do, but something that will come naturally as you live a more authentic life. Sow the seeds of freedom in your own life and you will stop sowing the seeds of rebellion in theirs.

October 22, 2024

Common First Aid Myths

I am often surprised by how some of my patients manage their injuries before they come to the emergency room. I think my own mother is also guilty of practising some really strange methods whilst I was growing up. Over the years, medical advice and management has evolved. What may have made sense years ago is now out of date and has been replaced with more sound research and often logic. Here are just a few of the first aid practices and myths that I have seen over the years.

October 22, 2024

6 Must-read tips for successful expressing

Ultimately, the reason why you are expressing will determine how long you carry on for and/or how much milk is expressed Whether you express to keep your baby guzzling breast milk while you’re at work (or step out), or you express because your little one struggles to breastfeed, we can all agree on one thing… … it’s hard work. Think: Time (so.much.time), fluctuations in milk supply and a million little parts, not to mention bottles, that need to be washed, assembled and kept track of. But, that doesn’t mean it’s not doable – especially if your follow these six tips, courtesy of Vicki Scott (baby feeding and well-being advisor at Philips AVENT): 6 Must-read tips for successful expressing Practice makes perfect – or certainly improves how easily you can express! Try to express at the same time every day for a few days (after baby’s first feed of the day is a good time) Stimulate the let-down reflex before you start to pump, if the milk does not flow very easily. Do this by having a warm bath or gently massaging your breast with the flat of your hand. Good to know: Expressing from one side whilst feeding from the other is effective, as baby does the job of stimulating let-down for you! If using a manual pump, depress the lever as far as is comfortable; hold for a second or two, release, then repeat. Find a rhythm which feels natural – you are trying to mimic your baby suckling at the breast in order for your milk to begin to flow. When your milk begins to flow, slow down the pumping rhythm a little to suit you Continue pumping until the milk flow ceases, then swap to the other side.When flow on the second side ceases, return to the first It may be helpful to continue to gently massage the breast towards the nipple throughout, as this could help with let-down The reason why you are expressing will determine how long you carry on for and/or how much milk is expressed Remember… As with breastfeeding, successful expressing depends on various factors. Being relaxed, comfy and unhurried is key to a successful pumping session! Expressing is not always an accurate indication of how much milk you make– and baby is far more efficient at extracting milk from your breast than a pump is! Author: LARA BESTBIER Writer. Creative. Word-nerd. Aspiring photographer. Oh, and mom to the only little girl more demanding than me. Parenting editor at All4Women (e-mail me at [email protected]).

October 21, 2024

HOW TO ENCOURAGE A GROWTH MINDSET IN CHILDREN

Have you heard of a growth mindset? It’s become somewhat of a buzzword lately and that’s because it really does make a difference to a child’s ability to learn something and their confidence in trying new things. A fixed mindset is one in which we say things like: “I can’t do that” or “I am not good at something”. It’s the belief that our abilities are fixed – that we are either clever or not, either sporty or not. The growth mindset is the opposite. With a growth mindset we acknowledge that we can always improve with a bit of effort. We understand that our brains are not fixed, but constantly changing; that our abilities are not just genetic but influenced by what we do. We see that it is possible for all people to learn new things, even though it may be more of a challenge for some. Why does this matter? Well, with a fixed mindset a child is less likely to try new things, and more likely to give up when something gets difficult – which can seriously limit their options in life. It also leads to misidentification and self-handicapping – protecting themselves from failure by either not investing their self-esteem or identity into something difficult, or having a good excuse ready for falling short. So here are ten tips for maintaining and encouraging a growth mindset: Expose your children to information on how the brain changes and learns. Teach them that intelligence grows like a muscle and it needs challenge in order to get the right exercise. Don’t praise cleverness – praise effort. Focus on a child’s hard work rather than on the outcome of that work or on fixed measurements like IQ. Encourage failure. Praise children for giving something a go and for having the courage to face challenges. Let them celebrate their failures as a sign of being brave enough to try. Show them how failure leads to growth. Avoid superhero worship. Focus on everyday people who do amazing things through hard work and struggle. Tell them stories of your own doubts and challenges and how you made it through. Teach them to say, “How can I?” instead of “I can’t”. Using a question opens up creative thinking and stops the brain from giving up on the problem. Teach them to add “…yet” to the end of things they can’t do. For example, “I can’t do maths… yet”. This helps them to focus on what they still need to do to master something rather than on their current inability. Give them examples of others who have failed and succeeded e.g. basketball players missing more goals than they hit. Give them examples of where they have failed and succeeded e.g. struggling with a new computer game that they now play effortlessly. 10. Acknowledge their frustration when they are doing something difficult without jumping in and doing things for them. Everything is difficult at first. Our kids often don’t get good role models of this because they see us doing things that we’ve done for years and years and of course these things look easy. Then they try to do these same things and struggle. We need to remind them that we also struggled once. In fact, everyone struggles to some degree with a new task. But with practice and a dedication to continue, everything gets easier. We were all born with the ability to learn and grow – not just some people.

October 18, 2024

HEALTHY MEAL IDEAS FOR CHILDREN

Healthy eating is an important lesson you can teach your children. The example you set is the best way to help your kids make smart food choices and to develop a positive relationship with food. A healthy, balanced diet is not just good for kid’s bodies, it’s good for their brains, too. The right foods can improve brain function, memory, and concentration. Like the body, the brain absorbs nutrients from the foods we eat, and these 10 “superfoods” can help children boost their brainpower. Fatty fish, such as salmon, is a good source of omega-3 fatty acids that are needed for brain growth and function. Getting enough of these fatty acids can help kids improve their mental skills. TRY: Make salmon sandwiches (on whole wheat bread) instead of tuna for a healthy alternative. Eggs are a great source of protein, and their yolks have choline, an important nutrient for memory development. TRY: A homemade breakfast wrap, loaded with veggies for a quick and healthy breakfast before school. Kids love peanut butter, and that’s a good thing since this healthy snack is packed with vitamin E, an antioxidant that protects nerve membranes. It also has thiamin, which is good for the brain, and glucose which gives energy. TRY: Peanut butter makes a great dip for fruits such as bananas, and for veggies such as celery. Whole grains such as breads and cereals provide glucose, an energy source the brain needs. Whole grains also contain B vitamins, which are good for the nervous system. TRY: Add whole grains to most meals by switching to whole grain breads, wraps, and crackers. Oats and oatmeal are excellent sources of energy and brain “fuel.” Oats are packed with fiber to help keep kids feeling full so they don’t snack on junk food. They are also an excellent source of vitamins E, B complex, and zinc to help kids’ brains work their best. TRY: Oatmeal can be a base for almost any topping such as apples, bananas, blueberries or even almonds. Berries can help improve memory and are packed with vitamin C and other antioxidants. Seeds from berries also contain omega-3 fats that help with brain function. Look for strawberries, cherries, blueberries, and blackberries – the more intense the colour of the berry, the more nutrition it has. TRY: Berries can be used in smoothies or just as they are for healthy snacks or desserts. Bean, beans, good for the heart… so the saying goes. They are also good for kid’s brains since they have energy from protein, complex carbohydrates, fiber, and vitamins and minerals. They can keep energy levels high. Kidney and pinto beans are good choices as they contain more omega-3 fatty acids that other bean varieties, which are important for brain growth and function. TRY: Add beans as a salad topper, as filler for lettuce wraps, or even add them to spaghetti for a more nutritious meal. Vegetables with rich, deep colour are an excellent source of antioxidants to keep the brain cells healthy. Some veggies to include in your child’s diet are tomatoes, sweet potatoes, pumpkin, carrots, or spinach. It’s easy to sneak veggies into spaghetti sauces or soups. TRY: Replace potato or corn chips in your child’s lunch with baked sweet potato wedges or easy-to-snack-on veggies such as sugar snap peas or baby carrots. B vitamins are necessary for growth of brain tissue, neurotransmitters, and enzymes, and dairy products are a good source for these nutrients. Low fat milk or yogurt is great sources of protein and carbohydrates foe the brain. Dairy is also an excellent source of vitamin D, which children and teens need in greater amounts than adults. TRY: Low-fat cheese sticks make a great to-go snack and are a good source of calcium. Lean beef or meat alternatives are excellent sources of iron, which helps kids maintain energy and focus in school. Beef is also a good source of zinc, which aids memory. Vegetarian kids can get their iron from black bean and soy burgers. Beans have what is called nonheme iron, which needs vitamin C to be absorbed so have them eat their veggie burgers or beans with good sources of vitamin C such as peppers or orange juice. TRY: Grilled lean-meat kabobs or grilled black bean burgers make a tasty and healthy alternative to regular hamburgers and hotdogs for your next braai!

October 16, 2024

Grapes PLUS 8 other things your toddler can choke on

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October 15, 2024

What To Expect As A New Parent

Being a new parent is definitely no walk in the park. Therefore, knowing what you can be expecting can make the world of difference! This is why we have put together a list of things to expect as a new parent to make things a little less daunting for you and your partner! Read on below now for a few key pointers on surviving new parenthood! Expect A Lot Of Company A new baby will generally bring a lot of different visitors. This is the time in which you will need to start setting up a few boundaries. There is nothing wrong with doing so, so don’t feel guilty in doing so. Gently let your friends and family know that you are comfortable with certain times for visiting, however, other times are off limit and strictly family time for you, baby and partner. And Then There Were Three… When a new little person enters into your life, your relationship dynamic with your partner will change. There will be a lot less ‘us’ time on the table. Therefore, it is important for you to still try to spend intimate time with your significant other. Call in the forces and leave baby with granny and grandpa for one night and take that time to appreciate each other. Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help As A New Parent Being a parent can be tough. Especially if you are a first timer. Therefore, do not be ashamed to ask for help. Remember, it took two of you to make a baby, therefore sharing the responsibilities with your partner is only fair. Be sure to enlist the help of your other half, sharing the responsibilities of your little one. If you are a single parent, ask for help from family and friends whom you trust. Converse With Your Baby Be sure to shoot the breeze with your baby. Little ones love to be conversed with. This kind of interaction has a twofold effect: you will be bonding with your baby, and they will be learning! Be Gentle With Yourself Remember, being a new parent is a challenge. It is not the easiest task for one to take on. therefore, remember to be kind to yourself. Follow the above tips to take control of your new parenting life style.

October 11, 2024

8 Different types of moms we all know (which one are you?)

… some of us breastfeed, some of us don’t. There are moms who let their babies ‘cry-it-out’ and those who won’t.

October 10, 2024

Encouraging your Baby to Sleep

“The Secret is to Surrender… To the truth that your baby will interrupt your sleep… The sooner you are able to accept this, the less you will have a power struggle with your child… Early morning waking will then hold less frustration and become quiet…Treasured moments! ~ Natalie Guscott” Baby Sleep Signals Your baby will give you clear ‘sleep signals’, that he is ready for sleep. It may take you time to learn to interpret and recognise them. If you are alert and respond quickly to your baby’s ‘sleep signals’, it will be much easier to get your baby to fall asleep. You can then avoid the crying and fussing of an overtired baby. The yawn: It is one of the first signs is that baby is ready for sleep. The focused, fixed gaze: His eyes are wide open, un-blinking and staring, but not really ‘seeing’ anything. Nodding off to sleep: If in an upright position baby ‘nods’ off to sleep. He closes his eyes and his head drops forward or to the side. Just as he seems to be falling asleep, his eyes open suddenly and his head jerks back, jolting his whole body. He closes his eyes and repeats the process between 3 – 5 times until he finally enters dreamland. He moves his head from side to side, legs kick and arms move in an uncoordinated manner. Baby gives a cough-like cry. The older baby: Turns head away from people and buries their face into your chest. When held, will arch back, leaning away from you. Rub their eyes, pulls at their ears and scratch at their face or your chest when held. Their movement becomes noticeably less coordinated, with them falling or bumping into things. Tips for Good Sleeping Habits Keep the evening calm to avoid overstimulation. If a bath is relaxing for your baby, you can bath him before bed. If it’s too stimulating, bath him at another time in the day. Many babies sleep better and feel secure if they are swaddled in a cotton blanket. The way in which you regularly put your baby down to sleep, i.e. rocking or breastfeeding will create a sleep association; a ritual which your baby will become dependent on, to fall asleep. Use ‘contented’ times to practise good habits, like putting her to bed when she is a little drowsy, but not completely asleep. A dummy can be a wonderful source of comfort for a fussy baby, and a soothing way to fall asleep. If baby is wearing an absorbent nappy; it will not be necessary to change a urine nappy at night, unless she has passed a stoole, has wet through to her clothing or has a nappy rash. Do not rush in to pick him up at the first sound. Try to lull him back to sleep, by rhythmically patting his nappy and making a sh-sh sound. Sleeping through the Night – for 6 hours that is! Encourage 3 hourly feeds during the day – especially from midday How to time a 3 hourly feed: It is 3 hours from the beginning of one feed, to the beginning of the next. A baby who feeds 5 – 6 hourly in the afternoon, will be sure to keep you up with 1 ½ – 2 hourly feeds sometime in the early hours of the morning!! Your long afternoon nap will not be worth it! These ‘cluster feeds’ will hopefully get baby to sleep past midnight, giving you 5-6 hours of rest. Follow a Feed – Bath – Feed routine in the early evening E.g. Feed her at 17:00 – Bath at 18:00 – Feed at 19:00; then off to sleep You could offer her a ‘Dream feed’ before you go to sleep; at 21:00 or 22:00. Baby might sleep till 04:00 or 05:00. This could be considered “Sleeping through The Overtired Baby who fights Sleep An overtired baby tends to cry and cry until their high pitched screams reach a crescendo. They’ll stop for a moment, and then start all over again, having three or more crescendos before finally calming down. What happens, though, is that by the second crescendo of high pitched screaming, you have had enough! Desperate, you revert to anything to get your baby quiet! If you are attentive, you can prevent your baby from becoming overtired; making for a gentle transition into sleep. The solution is: The quicker you respond to your baby’s ‘sleep signals’, the easier it is to get them to fall asleep.

October 10, 2024

Wriggle and Rhyme celebrates its 16th birthday!

It’s got to be one of the top karaoke songs of all time! ABBA’s “THANK YOU FOR THE MUSIC”. How often haven’t you heard it and found yourself singing or humming along to those famous words? “Thank you for the music, the songs I’m singing, thanks for all the joy they’re bringing”. My name is Kirsty Savides and I’m the Founder and Programme Director of Wriggle and Rhyme, a music and movement programme for babies, toddlers and pre-schoolers. ABBA’s words have been ringing in my ears recently. You see, October 2024 marks Wriggle and Rhyme’s 16th birthday. And boy, it is sweet! Celebrating 16 years of music It’s been 16 years since I ran the first ever Wriggle and Rhyme class from the lounge in my home in Fish Hoek. Since then, the business has grown and evolved. I’ve gone through all the stages of motherhood with the business – from exciting conception to a crying newborn, to a demanding toddler, to a feisty tween, to a maturing teenage. Music for babies, toddlers, pre-schoolers and beyond In 2011, we branched out into PRE-SCHOOLS in Cape Town. We extended the programme from babies and toddlers, to include children up to Grade R level. We now have hundreds and hundreds of children participating in our music and movement classes in pre-schools each week. In 2013 the BABY and TODDLER programmes were licensed to allow other women to run classes from their venues too. We now have Cape Town branches in MEADOWRIDGE, RONDEBOSCH, CLAREMONT and MELKBOSSTRAND. We also launched our first National branch in Gqeberha earlier this year, with classes running in FERNGLEN. In 2017 we partnered with Lifeline Energy to bring our music to children across the African Continent. Lifeline Energy distributes solar-powered radios and MP3 players to prisons, refugee camps and schools across Africa. These children are now also singing our songs each week! You can read more about Lifeline Energy’s work here – https://www.lifelineenergy.org Music at home We’ve also created a range of unique and fun musical stories to enjoy. Originally available on CD, these can now be accessed through your favourite music streaming platform – SPOTIFY, APPLE MUSIC, iTUNES, AMAZON etc. The highs and lows Running a business in South Africa has not always been easy. We’ve had to weather global recessions, the really difficult COVID season and intermittent loadshedding. Sometimes the song in our hearts has been upbeat and full of joy, sometimes it’s been melancholy and slow. These are still challenging times that we’re living in. With the rising cost of living, wars and rumours of wars across the world, pain and suffering all around us. It’s easy to become despondent and feel anxious. But, I wake up every single morning saying “thank you for the music”. Not just for Wriggle and Rhyme, but thank you that I get to be part of something that contributes so beautifully to the lives of children. Thank you that Wriggle and Rhyme assists our family and many others financially each month. Thank you that I have the flexibility to spend time with my children each day. Celebrating with gratitude So, as we celebrate Wriggle and Rhyme’s 16th birthday, I’m resolved, more than ever, to live in gratitude for all that life brings – the ups and downs, the highs and lows. My song today and every day is, “thank you for the music!”. Come and join us! If this resonates with you, come and sing along with us. Join our team and discover the joy of adopting Wriggle and Rhyme into your own family! For more info about the W&R business opportunity, have a look at www.wriggleandrhyme.co.za/join-the-team For more info about the W&R musical stories and online resources, have a look at www.wriggleandrhyme.co.za/our-music Find us on Facebook and Instagram @wrigglerhyme or our YOUTUBE channel Wriggle & Rhyme SA https://www.youtube.com/WriggleRhyme

October 3, 2024

FOUR THINGS TO DO WITH AN EXPLOSIVE AND ANGRY CHILD OR TEEN

Before I go any further on this topic, it’s always a good idea to seek professional help with a child or teen who frequently becomes explosive and angry when told no. Keep in mind that this column is not a substitute for psychotherapy or family counselling. The advice that I offer is supplemental parent coaching that can help in many situations. The subject of today’s article is a common issue that many parents bring to me in my parent coaching practice. Generally, the child is usually anywhere from 7 to 14 years of age and often explodes at the smallest of problems, especially when they are told they can’t have or do something. The child is also likely to take out their anger on the parent or a sibling. So while you’re waiting for the appointment with your therapist regarding this problem, here are four things you can do immediately. Help them find their place in the family. A large majority of these children tend to be first born. For many years, they enjoyed being in the family ‘spotlight’ and getting all of their parents’ love and attention. But as other children joined the family, they lost their place and don’t like it. By getting angry with limits and boundaries, they found a new and inappropriate way to fit in by becoming vocal and angry. Help them regain their position as the oldest child by seeking their help, their advice, and their assistance. Find purposeful ways for them to be in charge of activities that helps with the other children, such as reading to them, teaching, or mentoring. Allow them to have a few more privileges than the others so they will feel special and valuable to you. Stop doing too much for your child. The triggers that cause the explosive episodes are sometimes over the parent trying to get the child to wake up in the morning, dressing them, controlling laundry, or getting them out of the house in the morning. If you’re trying to control the outcome of everything, stop. Some parents struggle with turning some responsibilities over to their children and many children or teens don’t like being controlled. Acknowledge good behaviour more often. It’s unfortunate that it’s normal for many parents to point out when their children aren’t doing what they should, more often than pointing out when they ARE doing something good. Make it your mission to make a bigger deal of when your children are behaving or doing as you’d like them to do. Spend more time with the explosive child. His behaviour may be his way of telling you that he doesn’t feel loved by, or important enough to, you. Schedule a date with each of your children (especially the explosive child) every week, even if it means for just a few minutes. Avoid taking him or her out to buy them something. The date should be about the experience of being together, not showering them with material things. Finally, when the anger comes out, don’t give it value by trying to stop it or by fighting back. Remain calm, stay quiet, and be ready to listen.

September 27, 2024

How to build up your child’s confidence in maths

It’s a common experience… your child sits down to work on Maths homework but very quickly becomes visibly stressed, frustrated, or upset. For many kids, doing Maths can seem like a daunting task, even a scary one. And while many do overcome it, some of us carry this Maths anxiety with us for much of our lives. If you’re looking to help your child reduce their Maths anxiety, we have a few suggestions. Be Empathetic to Maths Struggles Empathy can go a long way. Whether it’s because you experienced similar struggles as a child or watched someone else struggle, making your child feel like they’re not alone can help ease their stress. When kids hear that others in their lives faced similar challenges it can help them to feel understood and a little more confident to tackle the task in front of them. Teach Them to be OK with Making Mistakes Learning to be OK with making mistakes is distinct from addressing the emotions that bubble up with failure. Once your child is no longer feeling overwhelmed, helping them to feel OK with making mistakes is all about showing them that mistakes are often how learning happens. We often remember our mistakes more clearly than the times we didn’t need to struggle at all. Identifying where we went wrong is one of the best ways to learn how to get to the answer or solution on your own. Understanding the path it took to get something right means committing to memory the path to success. Tip: Try pointing out something that was previously hard for your child and is now easy because they figured out their mistakes and practiced until they got it. For example, learning to ride a bike, practicing a sport, or an earlier Maths concept. Explain the Importance of Finding (And Filling) Gaps Lastly, very often the cause of Maths anxiety is the fact that earlier concepts weren’t mastered. Gaps in foundational knowledge create a shaky foundation for more challenging concepts. Particularly, if children don’t do well in Maths at an early age, it can have a cumulative effect. At Kumon, we focus on mastery. We start students off at a comfortable starting point, which can sometimes mean starting on material that is below their current grade level. Current struggles might be top of mind for parents and the kids themselves, but often the solution to current struggles is filling in gaps in knowledge of earlier concepts. If a child never fully mastered addition, multiplication, division, and other foundational concepts, they are likely to hit a wall when more complicated concepts are introduced. Enrol In a Maths Programme to Help Them Practice and Master their Skills Enrolling your child in an additional Maths study programme (such as Kumon) can help them fill those gaps as they consistently practice their Maths skills. While school studies march on, often leaving a child feeling overwhelmed and increasingly left behind, a supplementary programme can provide additional practice in key concepts and allow them sufficient time to truly master a concept before progressing to the next. This additional support can often help a struggling child to catch up, become confident and finally succeed in a previously dreaded subject. Maths anxiety is a condition that can be very detrimental to a child’s long-term school success, causing them to feel inadequate, not smart enough or even a failure. Anxiety can cause a child to get into a negative reinforcement cycle that perpetuates their feeling of inadequacy. When Maths work comes up they feel anxious because they don’t understand the work. This anxiety causes their brains to become confused or shut down which then prevents them from thinking logically or rationally and reinforces the experience that “I can’t do Maths!” So, in conclusion, it is important to notice how your child feels about their Maths work and to identify Maths anxiety as early as possible. Then, if you notice this occurring, take every step possible to address the anxiety and to enable your child to overcome, feel confident and believe in themselves. The Kumon Maths programme helps children of all ages and ability levels to develop maths skills and a love of numbers. To find out more about what Kumon has to offer, visit www.kumon.co.za This article is courtesy of the Kumon North America website* * https://www.kumon.com/resources/how-to-build-up-your-childs-math-confidence/

September 26, 2024

WHY DOES MY CHILD BEHAVE BETTER AT SCHOOL THEN AT HOME?

Based on helping thousands of parents over the years and spending time evaluating children while they interacted with both parents AND teachers, I’ve found that it is common for children to behave the worst while in the care of Mom! As strange as this may seem, it is true. The reason is that in general terms, the mother seems to create a safe environment in which a child can be him or herself. For example, a child craving more attention or power, two common internal needs, may be more likely to act out the desire for these unmet needs in her mother’s presence, rather than anyone else’s. The more distant in relationship an adult is to a child, the more likely they may be at gaining a child’s cooperation and attention. If this theory is true, what can mothers everywhere begin doing to address this frustration? Here are 10 things you’ll want to incorporate quickly that may be similar to what the teachers are doing at school. If you’re doing some of these now, good job and keep them going. If you’re not, make the time to implement them soon. LIMIT SCREEN TIME. Remember the phrase, “All good things in moderation.” Too much screen time can create anxiety in a child if it is not controlled and the parent needs the child’s cooperation. CONDUCT FAMILY MEETINGS. They don’t have to be long and drawn out, and can even incorporate fun activities. The best thing about family meetings with younger children is that they are usually short. SPEAK CALMLY, QUIETLY AND RESPECTFULLY. Children will often quiet down to hear the adult speak. Be sure that you’re demonstrating the kind of communications that you want him to emulate. COMMANDING AND DEMANDING DON’T WORK. We no longer live in an autocratic world, so avoid using the parenting methods our parents used. Teach, demonstrate and use cooperation. LISTEN QUIETLY WHEN SHE COMPLAINS. Shutting a child down who is complaining will only back fire on you. Practice empathic listening with your child and avoid solving her problems for her. THE RESPONSE TO “I’M BORED” SHOULD BE “WOW!” Boredom is a problem owned by your child, not you. When it occurs, listen at first and be expressive to acknowledge the problem, don’t rescue. LET TANTRUMS HAPPEN. When your child throws a fit in response to a limitation or boundary, let it happen. The fit is his way of venting frustration and also hoping you’ll give in. Don’t cave! PUNISHMENT IS NOT THE ANSWER. The use of timeout, taking things away, hitting, or yelling are NOT OK. Nor are they productive in managing behavior effectively and with unconditional love. TALK LESS. Talking too much to your children will undoubtedly send them into ‘parent deafness.’ If you feel they’re not listening to you, it might be because you’ve trained them to tune you out. VISUAL TIMERS AND SCHEDULES. Setting the microwave timer to get a child to stop or start an activity does not work. Seek out visual timers and schedules to increase your effectiveness with transitions.

September 26, 2024

The Benefits of Breastfeeding for Mom and Baby: A Comprehensive Guide

Breastfeeding is more than just a method of feeding; it’s a vital component of maternal and infant health. It provides unmatched nutritional benefits and fosters a unique bond between mother and baby. This guide delves into the myriad benefits of breastfeeding for both mother and child, emphasising its importance for long-term health and well-being. Benefits for the Baby Optimal Nutrition Breast milk is the ideal food for infants. It contains the perfect balance of nutrients that are easily digested and absorbed. Here are some key nutritional benefits: Rich in Antibodies: Breast milk is packed with antibodies, particularly Immunoglobulin A (IgA), which protects against infections by forming a protective layer in the baby’s nose, throat, and digestive system. Complete Nutrition: It contains the right amounts of fat, sugar, water, and protein needed for a baby’s growth and development. Adaptive Composition: The composition of breast milk changes according to the baby’s needs, providing tailored nutrition as the baby grows. Enhanced Immune System Breastfed babies have a stronger immune system due to the antibodies and other immunological factors in breast milk. This leads to: Reduced Illnesses: Lower incidence of respiratory infections, ear infections, and gastrointestinal problems. Protection Against Chronic Conditions: Reduced risk of developing asthma, allergies, and type 1 diabetes. Long-term Health Benefits: Lower likelihood of obesity and type 2 diabetes in later life. Cognitive Development Research indicates that breastfeeding contributes to better cognitive development. The presence of essential fatty acids, such as DHA, in breast milk supports brain development, leading to: Higher IQ Scores: Breastfed children often score higher on intelligence tests. Improved Academic Performance: Enhanced cognitive abilities translate to better academic outcomes in later years. Benefits for the Mother Physical Health Benefits Breastfeeding offers numerous health benefits for mothers, including: Faster Postpartum Recovery: The hormone oxytocin, released during breastfeeding, helps the uterus contract and return to its pre-pregnancy size more quickly, reducing postpartum bleeding. Lower Risk of Certain Cancers: Breastfeeding is associated with a reduced risk of breast and ovarian cancers. The longer a woman breastfeeds, the lower her risk. Reduced Risk of Osteoporosis: Women who breastfeed are less likely to develop osteoporosis and hip fractures in later life. Emotional and Psychological Benefits Breastfeeding also contributes to the mother’s emotional well-being: Bonding with the Baby: The act of breastfeeding fosters a close bond between mother and baby, enhancing emotional attachment and mutual trust. Reduced Risk of Postpartum Depression: The hormonal changes associated with breastfeeding can reduce the risk of postpartum depression. Sense of Accomplishment: Successfully breastfeeding can provide a sense of pride and achievement, boosting maternal self-esteem. Practical Benefits Convenience and Cost Savings Breastfeeding is not only beneficial health-wise but also practical in many ways: Cost-Effective: Breast milk is free, which can save families a significant amount of money compared to formula feeding. Always Available: Breast milk is always at the right temperature and ready to feed, eliminating the need for preparation and warming. Environmental Benefits: Breastfeeding reduces the environmental impact associated with the production, packaging, and transportation of formula. Overcoming Common Challenges Despite its benefits, breastfeeding can come with challenges. Understanding these and knowing how to address them can make the breastfeeding journey smoother. Sore Nipples and Breast Engorgement Proper Latch: Ensuring the baby has a good latch can prevent sore nipples. Frequent Nursing: Regular breastfeeding sessions can help prevent engorgement. Comfort Measures: Using lanolin cream and applying warm compresses can alleviate discomfort. Low Milk Supply Frequent Nursing: Breastfeed often to stimulate milk production. Hydration and Nutrition: Drink plenty of fluids and maintain a balanced diet. Lactation Consultants: Seeking help from a lactation consultant can provide personalised strategies to increase milk supply. Returning to Work Pumping and Storing Milk: Invest in a good-quality breast pump and establish a routine to pump and store milk. Supportive Workplace: Know your rights regarding breastfeeding and pumping at work. Many places require employers to provide time and space for mothers to pump milk. Consistency: Maintain breastfeeding routines when with the baby and pump at regular intervals when apart to keep up milk supply. Tips for Successful Breastfeeding Early Initiation: Start breastfeeding within the first hour after birth to stimulate milk production and encourage the baby’s natural instinct to latch. Skin-to-Skin Contact: This helps regulate the baby’s body temperature and promotes bonding. Seek Support: Join breastfeeding support groups or consult with a lactation consultant for advice and encouragement. Stay Informed: Educate yourself about breastfeeding techniques and challenges. Knowledge is empowering and can help you navigate potential difficulties. Be Patient and Persistent: Both mother and baby need time to learn how to breastfeed effectively. Patience and persistence are key to overcoming initial hurdles. Conclusion Breastfeeding is a powerful practice with profound benefits for both mother and baby. It offers optimal nutrition, strengthens the baby’s immune system, and enhances cognitive development. For mothers, it supports physical recovery, reduces the risk of certain diseases, and fosters emotional well-being. Despite potential challenges, the practical benefits and long-term health advantages make breastfeeding a valuable choice for many families. By understanding these benefits and seeking the necessary support, mothers can successfully navigate their breastfeeding journey, ensuring a healthy start for their babies and themselves.

September 25, 2024

Budgeting with children

Having children gives you a myriad of rewards that we all get to brag about. However, what’s not often spoken about is the costs surrounding raising children. When you have a child, costs can sky-rocket if you are not careful. However, there are ways you can budget and save when you have a baby or toddler. Write your budget down One of the biggest personal finance mistakes people make is not knowing exactly where their money is going. One takeaway coffee here, another quick grocery shop there, and our budget goes out the window. Try this exercise. Carry a notebook with you wherever you go. For one week, write down absolutely everything you spend money on. From in-store shopping to online shopping. Once you have done that, you can take a realistic look at where your money is going when it comes to the small things. Is there anything on that list you don’t have to have? Then cut it out. Add these expenditures to your usual monthly debts and expenses, and you will have a great starting point to start your saving journey. Make budgeting a team effort Budgeting with your partner is essential. When you are sharing the costs of a child and a home, knowing who spends money on what is important. Sit down with your partner and have an open discussion about where money is coming in and going out. Make decisions on who is paying for certain expenses and stick to that. Savings should be an expense You should have a ‘savings’ section under your expenses. No matter how small the amount, savings should not come at the end of your budget with the thought process of ‘I will save what is left over.’ You should try and save before you spend any money. Whether it is to a savings pocket, an investment fund, or a short-term endowment policy – make putting a little money aside a priority. Cut back on expenses Once you know where your money is going, it is much easier to start cutting back on certain things. Amazed at how much money you spend on takeaways? You probably didn’t know the extent of that amount until you had it written in front of you. Go through your expenses, set aside a reasonable amount for spoils, and cut back on the rest. Baby saving tips Buy in bulk – keep a lookout for any specials on baby products and groceries and buy these in bulk. Remember to consider that your baby is growing and may need a new size nappy or different aged formula in the near future. Significant bulk purchases for savings are nappies, wet wipes, toiletries, unperishable food, and cleaning products. Make your own food – we know this is time-consuming, but bulk-making your own baby/toddler food and freezing it into portions is a fantastic money saver. Try to stick to one-pot meals that are filled with nutrients and label your freezing containers with the content and date. Google affordable meal recipes, and you will be surprised by the number of affordable meals out there. Clinic vaccinations – When vaccinating your child, take the extra time to go to your local government clinic for them. The wait may be longer, but the cost-saving is worth it. If you would like to get the vaccinations that are only available privately, then book with a private clinic for just those. Second-hand goods – It’s easy to get swept up in the mania of baby products and goods. And there may be a part of you that wants to ‘keep up with the Jones’. But we are here to tell you that your baby won’t notice whether their pram or cot is brand new or second-hand. Decide what you are willing to have second hand, then search the web and Facebook marketplace for the best deals you can find. Please just make sure that you do not pay upfront for items that you haven’t seen! Sell it – If you are not planning on having another child in the near future, as soon as your baby outgrows something – sell it!

September 25, 2024

Safety and sustainability from a single pool cover – the PowerPlastics Solid Safety ticks all the boxes

The PowerPlastics Solid Safety Cover is the leading child safety pool cover in South Africa, favoured for its tamperproof design, overall aesthetics and its ability to create a more sustainable pool. The PVC cover is supported by batons that rest on the coping and the tension is created with ratchets, providing a complete barrier over the pool. The upside to the water being sealed off to the natural elements is that the cover also saves water, electricity and chemicals. Parts of South Africa are experiencing water shortages due to either drought or struggling infrastructure, so the need to save water is critical. A solid safety cover gives 98% water savings. And because the water is kept cleaner, the amount of chemicals and filtration needed is reduced. This could have a huge impact on alleviating load shedding if every pool was filtered less. Add these savings up month by month, coupled with safety benefits, and you will find yourself getting a lot more out of your pool – child safety as well as sustainability and a reduced carbon footprint from one pool cover, putting your mind at ease on multiple levels. This is what makes safety covers stand out when compared to other safety methods like nets and fences which still leave the water exposed to the natural elements. PowerPlastics Pool Covers first designed the PowerPlastics Solid Safety Cover, which has gone on to become the bestselling cover to prevent drownings. The cover tolerates 220kg and can be semi-automated to allow for single-person use. There is no substitute for adult supervision but by using the PowerPlastics Solid Safety Cover as one ‘layer of safety’, you will achieve further peace of mind as well as rescuing your household budgets. Learn more and get an instant quote on the PowerPlastics Pool Covers online store. www.powerplastics.co.za There are safety covers, and then there are safety covers. Know what you are buying. Understand compliance. Remember this is your child or pet’s life on the line here so it is perfectly OK to ask the difficult questions. A solid safety cover may seem like an easy enough cover to copy but a poor understanding of materials, installation methods and cover upkeep, coupled with lack of experience, all have a direct impact on your cover’s efficiency and longevity. When efficiency relates to lives, it can’t be more critical. If you have any reservations about a pool safety supplier, trust your instinct and go with a brand like PowerPlastics Pool Covers that has been covering pools for decades, not weeks. The questions get a lot harder after a tragedy has occurred in your pool and you are found to be non compliant with SANS 10134. The finer details of safety compliance There has been wide industry collaboration and years of research that has gone into laying out the pool safety guidelines and, in South Africa, the function is addressed by the SABS, forming part of the national building standards, specifically SANS 10134. The cover specs you need to know / the technical questions you should be asking the pool cover supplier to ensure your compliance are: Are there any gaps or openings that allow unsupervised entry? If yes, can I fit a ball of 9cm x 14cm x 30cm through the gap? (this being the size of a child’s head or torso). Can the device bear weights of up to 220 kg? (static load test). Opening test – is the cover sufficiently anchored to prevent a child gaining access to the pool water? Does rain or sprinkler water drain off so the cover is dry within 10 minutes, with no pools forming on top of the cover?

September 20, 2024

Seven tips for supporting your child to develop a love for reading

As well as providing children a window through which to explore their imaginations, reading books allows for the development of essential skills for school and later life. These include comprehension, a wider vocabulary, increased concentration and self-motivation, an awareness of the world around them (particularly if they are interested in non-fiction), and higher levels of empathy and emotional intelligence through relating to the characters they encounter in their favourite books. Some children have a natural interest in reading – they will happily nestle down and read a book of their choice. Christopher Melrose, Deputy General Manager of Kumon Australia & New Zealand, recalls that he was such a child. “I used to enjoy reading the Doctor Do-Little series, and a series called The Three Investigators, about three young boys who solved crime mysteries”, Christopher says. “There was a book by Gerald Durrel called, My Family And Other Animals, which I loved. It was set on a Greek island named Corfu”. “I also used to get given our school textbook list at the end of the year. I remember I was always really excited on the day that I received all my school books [and] I’d actually read all of the novels that were on the reading list for that year. I wasn’t doing it to get ahead or for academic reasons; I just liked reading”. Now Christopher is adamant about encouraging children to read for enjoyment, both for children who are naturally inclined and those who might be a bit more reluctant. Below, we provide some solutions for parents who want to see their children develop a love for reading. When they are young, read aloud with your child Children are never too young to be exposed to reading. Reading aloud to your children introduces them to the beauty of language. When your child observes you reading, they will follow your example and in time, will start to read on their own. We recommend you spend 5-10 minutes reading a book to your young child every day. When reading aloud, make it fun When reading together with your child, let them hold the book. It’s often easier to sit behind your child as they do this. Make sure you read with lots of expression. Put on different voices for book characters – the more fun you make it, the more they will develop a love of books and reading. Before reading a book aloud for the first time, it is best to read the book to yourself first. This will allow you to add more expression when you read it to your child. Establish a routine for reading We highly recommend creating a reading routine. For example, 10 minutes reading before school or at bedtime will demonstrate the importance of daily reading. You may like to schedule in regular visits to your local library to attend events such as story times that promote reading together with your child. If your child is reading independently, spend time at the library or bookstore (or even online for e-books) choosing books together. You can then read passages from each other’s selected books to share the excitement and love of reading. Choose books that are appropriate for their current ability As your child reads, always keep in mind whether the book is suitable for their ability. If your child is having trouble reading a word, simply tell them what the word is so they can continue reading. If they are making many mistakes and losing enthusiasm for the book, it may be best to choose an easier book instead. Visiting Kumon’s Recommended Reading List could be a helpful first step in choosing the most appropriate book: https://www.kumon-english-rrl.com/ When they are ready, encourage your child to read a wide-range of books Children can be encouraged to read on their own at any age. Most children will develop a strong reading habit and love for reading when parents actively read to them from a young age. Reading a range of books broadens knowledge and interest in further learning. Consider recommending not only fiction but non-fiction books for your child to read. This will broaden their knowledge of particular topics. Turn reading into a family activity Be sure you ask your child to describe to you their favourite part of the book they are currently reading. Some families have special book-reading times where all family members sit together and quietly read their own books. This is often followed by a few minutes of discussion. Seek out reading opportunities that go beyond books When visiting public spaces like museums or parks, draw your child’s attention to the great variety of information that can always be found at such places. This helps link reading to real life. The Kumon English programme aims to foster a love of reading and learning in every child. To find out more about what Kumon has to offer, visit www.kumon.co.za. This article is courtesy of the Kumon Australia website* __________________________________________________________________________________ * https://au.kumonglobal.com/seven-tips-for-supporting-your-child-to-develop-a-love-for-reading/

September 18, 2024

Understanding Responsive vs Reactive Parenting

Parenting is a journey filled with countless moments that shape a child’s development and the dynamics within a family. In South Africa, where diverse cultures and traditions influence how children are raised, understanding the difference between responsive and reactive parenting can be particularly valuable. Responsive parenting is about tuning into your child’s needs and responding thoughtfully and emphatically. It involves actively listening to both verbal and nonverbal cues, understanding and validating their feelings, and creating a stable environment where they feel secure. When parents respond with empathy and encouragement, they not only support their child’s exploration and learning but also provide the guidance and reassurance necessary for healthy development. “In South Africa, where the emphasis on strong community and family ties is deeply ingrained, responsive parenting plays a crucial role in fostering trust and connection within the family,” says Ursula Assis, Country Director of Dibber International Preschools. “Being responsive to your child’s needs, especially in communal settings like family gatherings, helps them feel integrated and valued, laying a strong foundation for their emotional development, self-esteem, and social skills.” On the other hand, reactive parenting occurs when responses to situations are driven more by immediate emotions rather than thoughtful consideration. This often results in quick reactions to a child’s behaviour without fully understanding their needs or the context of the situation. Emotional reactions, rather than considered responses, can lead to inconsistency in discipline and create confusion for children about what is expected of them. In busy households, where parents juggle multiple responsibilities, reacting impulsively can strain relationships and create a tense home environment. Finding the right balance between responsive and reactive parenting is key to nurturing a healthy family dynamic. One effective strategy is to take a moment to pause and breathe before reacting to challenging behaviour. This pause allows parents to respond more thoughtfully and constructively rather than impulsively. Understanding a child’s unique temperament and needs can also help tailor responses more effectively. For example, if a child feels overwhelmed in a busy setting, offering a calm and reassuring response can help them feel more comfortable. “Parenting is not about being perfect; it’s about being present and intentional,” adds Assis. “Parents can gain valuable insights and encouragement by seeking support from family, friends, or parenting groups. Regularly reflecting on your parenting approach and adjusting as needed can also help strike a better balance between responsiveness and reactivity.” Parenting is a continuous learning experience. Parents can create a nurturing environment that supports their child’s growth and development by striving to be more responsive and less reactive. In a country like South Africa, where family and community play such a crucial role, responsive parenting benefits children and strengthens the bonds within families and communities. Embracing the journey with patience and reflection fosters a loving environment where children can truly thrive.

September 16, 2024

Transport Month and the Silent Killer Let’s Be Quick to Save Lives

The African Brain Child research group (ABC) in Paediatric Neurosurgery at the University of Cape Town found that our hospital sees some 2 000 children (age 0 -12) with head injuries annually. Road accidents account for almost 80% of severe head injuries in children at the hospital. Of children admitted after a severe TBI (traumatic brain injury) sustained as a passenger in motor vehicle accidents, 96% were not wearing a seatbelt. Statistics showed a 22.6% increase in the Western Cape’s road accident deaths for the festive season last year. According to Arrive Alive, car safety seats reduce the risk of death in passenger cars by 71% for infants and 54% for toddlers. Since 2012 over 11 500 children have been placed in car safety seats through the Car seats for kids campaign run by our partner, Wheel Well. The “Be Quick to Click Car Seat Drive 2024”, initiated by African Brain Child in partnership with Supa Quick and Wheel Well, is a call to safeguard the lives of children against traumatic brain injuries (TBI’s) – “the silent killer” – by putting more children into secure car safety seats this October, Transport Month. Anthony Figaji, Professor of Neurosurgery, South African National Research Foundation SARChI Chair of Clinical Neurosciences, and Director of African Brain Child, sees road accidents as the single biggest killer of healthy children in South Africa: “We have seen the human cost of motor vehicle accidents and TBI’s in children we have not been able to save” he says. “We have also seen those we have been able to save, but whose lives have been permanently impacted by injury that is readily preventable with the click of a seatbelt. There is an African saying that ‘It takes a village to raise a child.’ It also takes one to protect it. We need to rally personal responsibility around seatbelt usage – together as society.” For children, surviving a TBI often isn’t the end of the story; emerging research shows that a single TBI may cause long term inflammation that can damage neurons for years after the injury. This means that a child suffering a TBI today may face further degeneration of their brain 20 or even 30 years from now. From gathering dust to saving lives: an urgent call for car seats Seatbelts are an essential safeguard against TBI’s for older children, but toddlers and babies need the protection of a quality car safety seat. It is illegal in South Africa for an infant (a child under 3 years) to travel without being strapped into a suitable car seat – but they can be expensive and something that many families simply can’t afford. In South Africa, most children impacted by TBI’s are from lower-income households. At the same time, many families have car seats, quickly outgrown and now unused, sitting in the garage – “we’ll get around to selling it online at some point” – that could be donated, refurbished and fitted to safeguard the life of a child. How concerned South Africans can support the Be Quick to Click campaign: Car Seat Donations: Unused car seats can be dropped off at any Supa Quick branch nationwide and Be Quick to Click will donate it to a family that needs it in October, Transport Month. The Be Quick to Click team will clean, inspect, and ensure that each seat meets the highest safety standards, before passing it on to a family in need. Car Seat Sponsorship: By making a financial contribution, individuals or companies will directly support efforts to provide safe car seats for children across South Africa. Donations will help Be Quick to Click to cover the costs of cleaning, refurbishing and certifying used car seats, or purchasing new ones, for families who need them. Every donation counts toward making our roads safer for children. Receive a Car Seat: To mark Transport Month Be Quick to Click, Supa Quick and Wheel Well will hand over donated, checked and vetted car seats to families on 26 October 2024 at Supa Quick, cnr Main & Constantia Main Rd, Plumstead, Cape Town. Any family wanting to receive a car seat can come down to Supa Quick between 9am – 12pm to receive a car seat on the day. Support Be Quick to Click: Be Quick to Click is a project of the African Brain Child Initiative to drive public awareness, both in road users and authorities, of the importance of seatbelt usage and the ready prevention of TBI’s. ABC is an internationally respected, leading research unit in traumatic brain injury in Sub-Saharan Africa. Based in the Paediatric Neurosurgery Unit at Red Cross War Memorial Children’s Hospital, ABC is committed to providing advanced medical and surgical care, innovative research and promoting public awareness through social engagement. To join the drive to save lives, visit https://bequicktoclick.com/car-seat-drive/ For more information on the impact and prevention of TBI’s in children, download the Be Quick to Click Research Report here.

September 16, 2024

The pressure to be the “Perfect Mom” in the age of social media

When we think of motherhood, it is synonymous with love, nurturing, happiness, faith and boundless sacrifice. However, we find ourselves in an era of curated personas, where perfection is toted and flaunted at us on a permanent basis. Motherhood has fallen prey to this too. It’s become entangled with pressure. Pressure to be perfect. Social media has created an unrealistic portrayal of motherhood that can leave moms feeling inadequate and overwhelmed. As Moms, we can often fall into the “Comparison Trap”. We see the highlight reels of moms with perfectly behaved children baking Pinterest-worthy cupcakes in spotless kitchens. We see meticulously planned family outings. We see meticulous homes. This curated content creates a skewed reality, leaving us thinking that every moment of motherhood has to be perfect and anything less than that, is a failure. The desire to present oneself as a competent and capable parent is nothing new, but the rise of social media has intensified this pressure to extraordinary levels. Mothers are bombarded with images of picture-perfect families enjoying idyllic moments, accompanied by captions extolling the joys of parenthood. These carefully curated posts can create a distorted reality. For many mothers, the pressure to live up to these unrealistic standards can lead to feelings of inadequacy and guilt. They may find themselves comparing their own lives to the images they see online, feeling like they fall short in every aspect. From the cleanliness of their homes to the nutritional content of their children’s meals, every detail becomes a potential source of anxiety as they strive to measure up to an impossible standard. The pressure to be a perfect mom in the age of social media can have tangible consequences on women’s mental health. Research has shown a correlation between heavy social media use and increased feelings of depression, anxiety, and loneliness. Moreover, the pressure to maintain a perfect image online can take a toll on mothers’ relationships with their children. Focused on capturing the perfect moment for social media, some mothers may prioritise the appearance of a happy family over genuine connection and quality time with their children. This can lead to feelings of disconnect and resentment, both for the mother and her children, as they struggle to live up to unrealistic expectations. The pressure to be a perfect mom on social media is not only detrimental to individual mothers but also contributes to a culture of judgement and shame surrounding motherhood. Women who deviate from the norm or openly discuss the challenges they face may be met with criticism and scrutiny from others who adhere to the illusion of perfection. It starts to become a dangerous comparison trap. Moms on the receiving end bombard themselves with questions: “Why aren’t my kids this well-behaved?” “Why can’t I get my house this clean?” The truth is, these online snapshots don’t capture the meltdowns, the tantrums, the overflowing laundry baskets that are a very real part of motherhood! The antidote to the comparison trap lies in embracing authenticity. Moms need to reclaim the narrative and showcase the beauty of real, messy motherhood. Sharing the challenges along with the triumphs and sleepless nights next to the heart-warming cuddles. This doesn’t mean oversharing every detail of your child’s life or your journey as a mother and a family. It’s about finding balance! Sharing moments that resonate with other mothers and reminding them they’re not alone in the trenches. Taking away the pretence of the “Perfect Mother”. Social media takes away the realness of motherhood, to a degree. Those real moments. Those tangible moments. Those moments that make you want to cry first and then reach for your camera so you can capture them and never forget them. One of the best ways to counteract all the pressure moms feel from social media, to be the perfect Mom, is doing a digital detox. Look at who you follow and what comes into your feed. Does it add value to your life? Does it make you feel good as a Mom? Is it informative? Does it give you confidence? If it doesn’t do any of those things, then hit the unfollow button. Find your tribe. It is crucial to curate your own online space, filled with positivity and encouragement, not perfection. Keep your focus on striking a balance. Don’t be scared to unplug from social media. Schedule breaks from your phone and computer. Set a limit to the amount of time a day you’re online. This helps keep the pressure at bay and forces you to focus on the realness of your own life. Finally, the “Imperfect Mom”, is the “Perfect Mom”. We are human. We make mistakes, and anyone who tells you differently is probably trying to sell you something you really don’t need. Navigating through motherhood is a journey, it is not a destination. Books, learning aids, social media, podcasts – the list is endless – are all tools that we use to create a framework of what we think is needed. But it is how we build off that framework that ultimately makes all the difference in our lives and in our children’s lives. Social media should be a platform to celebrate the motherhood journey in all its messy yet insanely rewarding glory. By embracing realness, encouraging supportive online communities, such as the monthly Vital Baby Instagram Lives with Sr Londe, and prioritising positive connections, mothers can rewrite the narrative of motherhood in the social media age. It takes a village Moms. Let’s focus less on perfect and feeling pressured to be something that in reality doesn’t exist. Let’s rather celebrate the imperfect moms who are doing the best they can, because that’s what truly makes you perfect for your children. Vital Baby’s Commitment As a company deeply invested in maternal and child health, Vital Baby celebrates South Africa’s cultural diversity. We collaborate with midwives, community leaders, and healthcare providers to create products that align with cultural values. Our mission is to empower families while respecting their unique traditions and recommend balancing cultural beliefs with evidence-based

September 13, 2024

Parent’s late night worries proliferating Google searches: What are the top eight concerns?

As the world quiets down and little ones drift off to sleep, many parents find themselves in the glow of their screens, typing out their latest concerns and questions. The age of instant information has made it easy for parents to seek answers in the middle of the night. Kelly Eyre, Quality and Pedagogy Lead at Dibber International Preschools explores the top eight concerns keeping South African parents of children under six awake and offers insights and advice to ease those worries. Developmental Milestones Every parent wonders if their child is on track with their development. From the first words to taking those initial steps, concerns about whether a child is meeting milestones can be overwhelming. Parents often compare their children’s progress to others, which can fuel anxiety, especially when extended family or community members express concern. It’s crucial to remember that every child develops at their own pace, and there is a wide range of what is considered normal. However, if you’re concerned about your child’s development, it’s important to consult with professionals, including paediatricians, early childhood educators, and therapists. Teachers and managers of schools and early childhood centres can also provide valuable insights into your child’s progress and suggest activities to support their development at home. Health and Nutrition In South Africa, where access to healthcare can vary widely, parents may worry about whether their children are getting the right nutrients or are healthy. Concerns often centre around ensuring a balanced diet, understanding the importance of specific nutrients, and knowing how to handle common childhood illnesses like colds or fevers. South African parents may also face challenges related to food security and access to nutritious foods. It’s essential to offer a variety of foods and encourage healthy eating habits from an early age. Consulting with healthcare professionals, such as paediatricians and nutritionists, can provide reassurance and guidance. Understanding the local healthcare system and having access to emergency services or local clinics can also help parents manage health concerns more effectively. Education and Learning With the country’s diverse education system, parents often worry about giving their children a good start. Questions about the best early childhood education options, how to encourage a love of learning, and whether they’re doing enough at home are common. The country’s unique blend of public, private, and home-schooling options can make this decision even more complex. To support your child’s early education, consider engaging with teachers and school administrators to understand the curriculum and how you can complement learning at home. Creating a stimulating environment through educational toys, books, and interactive play can also nurture a love of learning. Remember, the goal is to foster a supportive learning environment that encourages curiosity and exploration, regardless of the formal schooling path chosen. Behavioural Issues Tantrums, picky eating, and bedtime struggles can cause sleepless nights for many parents. These common behavioural issues often lead parents to search for solutions and advice on managing these challenges without resorting to harsh discipline. Finding a balanced approach can be challenging in South Africa, where different cultural norms and parenting styles exist. Positive parenting techniques, such as using time-outs, setting clear boundaries, and offering choices, can help manage these behaviours. Understanding developmental stages and the reasons behind certain behaviours can also provide context and reduce frustration. Engaging with professionals, including paediatricians and child psychologists, can offer strategies tailored to your child’s needs. Additionally, teachers and caregivers can provide insights into your child’s behaviour in different settings and suggest consistent approaches across home and school environments. Safety Concerns In a country with diverse social and economic landscapes, safety is a top priority parents. Concerns often revolve around childproofing the home, road safety, and teaching children about stranger danger and personal safety. Given the country’s unique context, parents may also worry about neighbourhood safety, access to safe play areas, and emergency preparedness. To address these concerns, parents can take practical steps such as installing safety gates, securing hazardous items, and teaching children basic safety rules like not talking to strangers and understanding emergency contact information. Additionally, it’s beneficial to familiarize yourself with local safety resources and community support systems, including neighbourhood watches and emergency services. Schools and early childhood centres often have safety protocols in place, so engaging with teachers and administrators can also provide peace of mind and ensure consistent safety practices. Screen Time and Technology In our digital age, parents often worry about the impact of screen time on their young children. The prevalence of smartphones, tablets, and TVs has made it challenging to limit exposure, leading to concerns about the appropriate amount of screen time and its potential effects on development. South African parents may also face the challenge of balancing educational content with entertainment. Experts recommend that children under two years old should avoid screens altogether, and for older children, screen time should be limited to high-quality, educational content. Co-viewing programs with your child and discussing the content can enhance their understanding and learning experience. Encouraging other activities, such as outdoor play, reading, and creative arts, can provide a balanced approach to technology use. Schools and early childhood programs can also guide appropriate technology use, ensuring that it complements rather than dominates a child’s day. Socialisation and Friendships Parents frequently worry about their child’s social development, especially if they are shy or reserved. Common concerns include questions about making friends, attending playdates, and developing social skills. In South Africa’s culturally diverse context, parents may also consider how to expose their children to different languages and customs. Encouraging interaction with peers through playdates, preschool, and community events can help children develop social skills and build friendships. Participating in group activities, such as sports, dance, or cultural programs, can also foster social development and a sense of belonging. Parents can model positive social behaviour by demonstrating good manners, empathy, and effective communication. Additionally, teachers and early childhood educators can provide feedback on your child’s social interactions and suggest ways to support their development both in and out of the

September 12, 2024

How to identify signs of hearing loss in babies

Affinity Health, a leading provider of high-quality health coverage, raises awareness about hearing loss in babies. Understanding Hearing Development in Babies Even before birth, babies develop their sense of hearing in the womb. By the time they are born, they can already recognise familiar voices and sounds. Babies refine their hearing abilities in the first few months of life. They should startle at loud noises, turn their heads toward sounds, and coo in response to voices. Most babies should be babbling and responding to their names by six months. “About 1 to 3 babies per 1,000 are born with hearing loss, making it one of the most common congenital conditions,” says Murray Hewlett, CEO of Affinity Health. “It’s crucial to screen newborns for hearing loss shortly after birth to ensure early detection and intervention.” Certain factors can increase the likelihood of hearing loss in babies, including a family history of hearing loss, maternal infections during pregnancy (such as rubella virus or cytomegalovirus), exposure to ototoxic medications, premature birth, low birth weight, and complications during delivery. Signs of Hearing Loss in Babies While every child develops at their own pace, sure signs may indicate a potential hearing problem. Here are some red flags to watch out for: Lack of Startle Response: Babies with normal hearing typically startle at sudden loud noises. If your baby doesn’t react to loud sounds like a door slamming or a dog barking, it could be a sign of hearing loss. Limited or No Babbling: Babbling is an essential milestone in language development. Babies with hearing loss may not babble as much or at all. Pay attention to whether your baby is making vowel sounds like “ah” or “ooh” and consonant sounds like “ba” or “ma”. Lack of Response to Voices: By three months, most babies should turn their heads or react when they hear familiar voices. If your baby doesn’t respond to your voice or seems indifferent to sounds, it’s worth investigating further. Delayed Speech and Language Development: Hearing loss can significantly impact speech and language development. Suppose your baby is not meeting developmental milestones related to language, such as cooing, babbling, or saying simple words by one year. In that case, it’s important to consider hearing as a possible factor. Difficulty Locating Sounds: By six months, babies should be able to turn their heads toward sounds. If your baby consistently struggles to locate the source of sounds or only responds when they see the speaker, it could indicate hearing impairment. Inconsolable Crying: While babies cry for various reasons, persistent crying without an apparent cause could indicate frustration due to difficulty hearing or understanding the world around them. What to Do If You Suspect Hearing Loss Don’t hesitate to take action if you notice these signs or have concerns about your baby’s hearing. Early intervention is crucial for minimising the impact of hearing loss on your child’s development. Here are the steps you can take: Schedule a Hearing Screening Your paediatrician can perform a hearing screening or refer you to a paediatric audiologist for further evaluation. Many hospitals offer newborn hearing screenings shortly after birth, but additional screenings may be necessary if there are concerns. Observe Your Baby’s Reactions Consider how your baby responds to sounds and voices in different environments. Keep a diary and write down any observations or concerns you can highlight to your baby’s paediatrician. Seek Early Intervention Services If hearing loss is confirmed, your baby may benefit from early intervention services, such as speech therapy or sign language instruction. These services support your child’s development and help them thrive despite hearing challenges. Educate Yourself Take the time to educate yourself about hearing loss in babies, available treatments, and resources for support. Knowledge is power and can help you effectively advocate for your child’s needs. Connect with Support Groups Reach out to support groups or online communities for parents of children with hearing loss. Connecting with parents who have had similar situations may provide helpful advice, encouragement, and emotional support. Technological Advances Fortunately, technological advances, such as hearing aids and cochlear implants, have revolutionised the treatment of hearing loss in babies. These devices can provide access to sound and help infants with hearing loss develop speech and language skills on par with their hearing peers. Let’s commit to raising awareness about the importance of early detection and intervention for hearing loss in babies. Remember, you are your baby’s best advocate. Trust your instincts, seek guidance from healthcare professionals, and embrace the journey of supporting your child’s hearing health every step of the way.

September 12, 2024

Effective study habits for school: Classroom and real-world skills

To be successful at school, children need effective study habits. It’s never too early to begin thinking about the skills needed in and outside of the classroom. Here are 7 effective study habits that are essential for students of all ages. Establish a study area at home Communicate with the teacher Keep assignments organized Avoid procrastination Take notes in class Highlight key concepts in the reading materials Prepare your book bag before going to bed Establish a study area at home Find the perfect place to designate as the homework station. Stock the study space with school supplies including pencils, sharpeners, erasers, highlighters, and index cards. Remove distractions such as the TV and portable devices like cell phones. Communicate with the teacher It’s important to understand the assignments and the expectations for class. Students should ask the teacher questions for clarity when needed. If homework is missing, it’s important to speak with the teacher about the reason. Keep assignments organized Students should keep the details of their assignments organized in a planner or notebook and write down the dates for tasks, tests, and projects. Some work requires multiple steps to finish. Thus, making a plan is essential. Avoid procrastination Many students wait until the last minute to do their work, but procrastination must be avoided. Unforeseen problems occur like getting sick, a family emergency or even another school assignment due at the same time, which could make it hard to complete the task. Take notes in class Listening and note-taking are important study habits for school and careers. Students identify the most relevant information they need to retain and write it down in order to review it later. Highlight key concepts in the reading materials Students can use different color highlighters or sticky flags to highlight key points, Keywords, definitions and other important information that might need to be referenced later. Creating a colour-coding system is not only great for organization, it is also fun! Prepare your book-bag before going to bed Forgetting to bring back completed homework leads to poor grades. Students should ensure their bookbag is prepared with homework, books, and school supplies before going to bed. At Kumon we aim to give our students the tools they need to enjoy learning and thrive academically. To find out more about what Kumon has to offer, visit www.kumon.co.za. This article is courtesy of the Kumon North America website* ________________________________________________________________________________ * https://www.kumon.com/resources/7-important-study-habits-for-school/#studyhabit1

September 11, 2024

Making the Move: Tips for Transitioning from Crib to Bed Safely

Transitioning from a crib to a bed is a significant milestone in your child’s development. It can be both exciting and challenging for both the child and parents. To ensure a smooth and safe transition, consider these essential tips: Timing is Key Timing plays a crucial role in the transition process. Most children are ready to move from a crib to a bed between the ages of 2 and 3 years old. Look for signs of readiness such as climbing out of the crib, showing interest in a regular bed, or needing more space to sleep. Transitioning too early can lead to disruptions in sleep and increased anxiety, so it’s important to wait until your child demonstrates readiness. Involve Your Child Involving your child in the transition can make the change more exciting and less intimidating. Allow them to help pick out their new bed, bedding, or even a special pillow. This involvement not only gets them excited about the new arrangement but also helps them feel a sense of ownership and control over their new sleeping space. Safety 1st Safety should be your top priority when transitioning to a bed. To prevent falls, use bed rails on the sides of the bed. These rails act as a barrier and provide peace of mind that your child won’t accidentally fall out of bed. Additionally, choose a bed that is low to the ground to minimize the risk of injury if your child does fall. Ensure that the mattress fits snugly in the bed frame to avoid gaps that could pose a risk. Safety 1st Bed rails are available at Dis-Chem Baby City, Clicks, Takealot.com and other major retailers. Keep a Routine Maintaining a consistent bedtime routine can provide comfort and stability during this transition period. A routine, such as reading a book or singing a lullaby before bed, helps signal to your child that it’s time to wind down and prepare for sleep. This continuity helps ease the transition and can make the new bed feel more familiar. Room Proofing Childproofing the room is essential to ensure a safe sleeping environment. Check for and eliminate any potential hazards such as sharp corners, small objects within reach, or unsecured furniture. Install outlet covers and secure any cords or blinds to prevent accidents. A well-proofed room provides a safe space for your child to explore and sleep. Comfort Items Introducing comfort items can help make the new bed feel cozy and inviting. Incorporate your child’s favorite blanket, stuffed animal, or other comfort objects into their new sleeping arrangement. These familiar items can provide a sense of security and ease any anxiety associated with the new bed. Patience is Crucial Transitioning from a crib to a bed can come with challenges, including resistance or regression in sleep patterns. Be patient and understanding as your child adjusts to the new routine. It’s normal for children to experience some setbacks and providing reassurance and consistency will help them adapt over time. Baby Safety Gates An often-overlooked aspect of transitioning to a bed is ensuring safety outside of the bed itself. Baby safety gates can be a valuable addition to your safety measures. Placing a gate at the bedroom door or in areas where your child might wander during the night can prevent potential hazards and keep them safe. Ensure that any gates used are properly installed and meet safety standards to prevent accidental openings or falls. By following these tips and prioritizing safety, you can help make the transition from crib to bed a positive and secure experience for your child. With a thoughtful approach, patience, and attention to detail, you’ll set the stage for many restful nights ahead.

September 6, 2024

THREE TIPS FOR EASING TEST ANXIETY

It’s normal for your child to get nervous before a test or quiz at school. The intensity of their anxiety though is dependent on how confident and calm they feel. It’s important for your child to properly prepare, practice healthy habits, and be optimistic about the results. Follow these tips to help ease test anxiety for your child: 1. Develop Efficient Study Habits. Preparing for a test is a very important step in reducing test anxiety. It’s key to remember that every child is different. While some can capture everything after the first review, others may need to highlight key topics or write down notes on flashcards or do something unique that works for them. Some students may even need to create mnemonics (memory devices that help learners recall larger pieces of information, especially in the form of lists like characteristics, steps, stages, parts, etc – for example, to remember the spelling of “because” – Baby Eats Candy And Usually Says E). Test and try different study habits and see which is the best fit for your child. Avoid pushing them to study a different way, or your way. What works for you may not work for them. Additionally, sit with your child and determine a study plan together. Designate a time and place to study daily. Begin strategizing on how the studying will be broken down. Help your child prioritize and delegate their time between different chapters or sections. 2. Provide Proper Resources. Often students feel too embarrassed to ask for help on something that was taught weeks ago. They become unsure about the topic while studying and end up puzzled during exam time. To avoid this, have your child create a list of topics or sections that they are struggling with. Then, take some time to review the list. Identify if your child simply needs a refresher on these topics or if they need further help. If it is a matter of needing a refresher, encourage them to review work they have done previously, remind themselves how they solved certain problems or completed those sections of work, make summaries and / or mind maps to make the information more manageable and easier to remember. If it is a matter of needing further help the first port of call would be to address it with their teacher. Depending on your child’s age, you can reach out to their teacher or you can encourage them to seek help from their teacher. Making the teacher aware of what your child is struggling with may lead them to find different ways of explaining difficult topics in class. You can also go online to find resources / video clips that can explain the work better or seek out extra-mural programmes (such as Kumon) that can supplement their learning and increase their confidence and knowledge retention. 3. Maintaining a Healthy Lifestyle. The week of the test can be a very exhausting week. Be sure that your child is not only balancing homework and afterschool activities, but also eating and resting adequately. It’s important to plan. If your child needs more time to study during test week then be sure to make alternative arrangements with extracurricular activities. However, if your child is on track with their studying, be sure to keep these activities. Going to a sport practice or ballet class is a good reward after spending hours of preparing for the test. Taking a break to do some physical activity is excellent to clear and refresh the mind, release tension and anxiety and give renewed energy to focus on studying again. Another good way to reinforce and motivate your child is by providing them with positive affirmations. Have them repeat after you. It can be a simple “I got this!” or something more inspiring like “Hard work will pay off!” Engraving these positive thoughts will make your child feel optimistic and rewarded for their hard work. You can also schedule a fun evening or weekend activity after the test to reward your child for their hard work and preparation. In Closing Test anxiety is very challenging to manage and adds extra stress. With proper preparation and study habits your child will succeed. It’s crucial to see what tactics and strategies work best with your child. Ultimately, the most efficient approach of studying will be what determines their test grade. Be a supportive parent by putting into practice these steps to help ease your child’s test anxiety. Should you be interested in learning more about Kumon and how it can support your child, visit www.kumon.co.za This article is taken directly from the KUMON NORTH AMERICA website: https://www.kumon.com/resources/three-tips-for-easing-test-anxiety/

September 4, 2024

Understanding the Differences between Hearing Loss and Auditory Processing in Children

Hearing loss and auditory processing issues are two distinct conditions affecting children’s ability to understand and interpret sounds in their environment. While they may share some similarities, such as difficulty with speech and language development, they require different approaches to diagnosis, intervention, and management. Hearing Loss vs. Auditory Processing Disorder Hearing loss refers to a reduced ability to hear sounds and can range from mild to profound. This can be caused by various factors, including: Genetics Conditions that occur in utero Infections Exposure to loud noises Structural abnormalities in the ear Children with hearing loss may have difficulty detecting soft sounds, understanding speech, and localising where sounds are coming from. On the other hand, auditory processing disorder (APD) involves difficulty processing and interpreting auditory information in parts of the auditory system in or after the ear, despite having normal hearing sensitivity. Children with APD may struggle with tasks such as following directions, understanding speech in noisy environments, and discriminating between similar sounds. Challenges and Implications Both hearing loss and APD can impact a child’s language development, academic performance, social interactions, and overall quality of life. Without appropriate intervention, these challenges can persist into adulthood and affect various aspects of functioning. Diagnosis Diagnosing hearing loss typically involves a comprehensive diagnostic hearing test, which includes tests to assess hearing sensitivity and the type and degree of hearing loss. In contrast, diagnosing APD is more complex. Audiologists use a test battery that isolates certain skills, such as being able to separate or join sounds, being able to identify rhythm and pitch sequences, being able to associate sounds with their meanings, and being able to fill in missing information when sound is incomplete or distorted, to mention a few. Early Intervention and Management: Early intervention is crucial for children with hearing loss or APD to maximise their potential for speech and language development. For children with hearing loss, intervention may include hearing aids, cochlear implants, auditory-verbal therapy, or sign language instruction, depending on the degree and type of hearing loss. For children with APD, intervention focuses on improving auditory processing skills and compensating for deficits. This may involve auditory training exercises and auditory processing therapy with an audiologist, environmental modifications to reduce background noise, and strategies to improve listening comprehension and academic performance. Sometimes, help may extend to speech-language therapy or occupational therapy to help with skills that have been impacted by the underlying auditory processing challenges. Whether It’s Hearing Loss or APD, We Can Help While hearing loss and auditory processing disorders present unique challenges, early detection, diagnosis, and intervention are key to minimising the impact on children’s development and functioning. At NB Hearing and Balance, our team of professional audiologists can help children with hearing-related difficulties thrive and reach their full potential by implementing appropriate support and management strategies for parents, educators, and other healthcare professionals. Contact any of our Cape Town offices, conveniently located in Sea Point, Durbanville, Hout Bay, Wynberg, and Noordhoek (Fish Hoek area) on 021 203 4327.

September 3, 2024

Smart Spending for Tiny Tots: Essential Baby Gear & Development Boosting Toys on a Budget

Welcoming a new baby into the family is an exciting and joyous occasion. To be sure your little one has everything they need for a happy and healthy start, it’s important to invest in high-quality baby gear and developmental toys. Here’s a comprehensive list of must-have items that will support your baby’s growth and provide peace of mind for parents. Developmental Toys Activity Gyms Activity gyms are perfect baby toys for engaging your baby’s senses and encouraging physical development. Look for gyms that include a variety of textures, colours, and sounds. Features like dangling toys, mirrors, and tummy time mats can provide hours of entertainment and stimulation. Soft Books Introduce your baby to the world of reading with soft books. These books are designed with bright colours, different textures, and interactive elements like crinkly pages or squeakers. They’re a great way to foster a love of books and reading from an early age. Stackable Toys Stackable baby toys are excellent for developing fine motor skills and hand-eye coordination. Choose sets that include different shapes, sizes, and colours. As your baby learns to stack and nest the pieces, they’ll develop problem-solving skills and spatial awareness. Musical Toys Musical toys can help your baby develop auditory skills and a sense of rhythm. Look for toys that offer a variety of sounds and tunes, such as rattles, xylophones, or interactive musical mats. These toys can also be a fun way to introduce your baby to the world of music. Shape Sorters Shape sorters are classic developmental baby toys that encourage cognitive skills and fine motor development. Choose sorters that feature a variety of shapes and colours. As your baby learns to match the shapes to the corresponding slots, they’ll develop problem-solving abilities and hand dexterity. Baby Gear Essentials Strollers A good stroller is indispensable for new parents. Look for one that offers a smooth ride, adjustable handles, and a sturdy frame. Features like a reclining seat, ample storage space, and easy folding mechanisms can make outings with your baby more convenient and comfortable. Car Seats Safety is paramount when it comes to car seats. Choose a model that meets the highest safety standards, with features like side-impact protection, adjustable harnesses, and cushioned headrests. Convertible car seats that grow with your child from infancy to toddlerhood can be a cost-effective option. Highchairs Feeding time is made easier with a reliable highchair. Opt for a highchair that offers a secure harness, easy-to-clean surfaces, and adjustable height settings. Some models come with removable trays and can be converted into a booster seat as your child grows. Baby Carriers For parents on the go, a baby carrier is a practical choice. Select a carrier that provides ergonomic support for both you and your baby. Look for features like adjustable straps, breathable fabric, and multiple carrying positions to provide comfort during long walks or errands. Cribs and Bassinets A safe and comfortable sleeping environment is essential for your baby. Cribs and bassinets with adjustable mattress heights, sturdy construction, and breathable mattress materials are ideal. Some models also offer additional features like rocking or vibration modes to help soothe your baby to sleep. Conclusion Investing in high-quality baby gear and developmental toys is essential for your baby’s growth and development. From strollers and car seats to activity gyms and musical toys, each item plays a central role in providing a safe, stimulating, and nurturing environment for your little one. By choosing the right products, you can be sure that your baby has the best start in life, while also making parenting a more enjoyable and stress-free experience.

August 23, 2024

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