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Creating a curious mind and fostering life-long learning by having a growth mind-set

You can teach a student a lesson for a day, but if you can teach him/her to learn by curiosity, he/she will continue the learning process as long as he/she lives – Clay P. Bedford Children are naturally curious. They are constantly exploring the world around them; constantly asking questions, and constantly wondering how things work. The question, therefore, is not how do we create a curious mind, but how do we nurture a child’s curiosity so that they have a continued passion for learning throughout their lives.  Learning is about discovering how life works, and children are not afraid to ask the “How?” and “Why?” questions.  A curious mind is a hidden force that drives learning, critical thinking, and reasoning. It’s about having an open and active mind. It puts the brain in a state that makes learning easier, more enjoyable, and longer-lasting. Stimulating a child’s curiosity impacts their learning and development for a lifetime.  Curious children explore their environment, devour books and information, ask questions, investigate concepts, manipulates data, searches for meaning, connect with people and nature, and seek new learning experiences.  So how do we nurture this curious mind?  Model interest in the world, and teach them to be good observers When walking around wonder out loud about the things you see. The trees, the sky, etc. Follow the child’s lead  Encourage their natural interests. Children learn so much more through activities that capture their attention and interest. Encourage them to ask questions Answer their questions simply and clearly, in a way, they will understand. Before answering though, first, ask them what their thoughts are. If you do not know the answer let them know that not knowing is also ok, and then model how they can go about finding the answers (eg. Internet, talking to someone, etc) Introduce your child to the library and foster a love for books and reading, whether it be story books or about rockets. Stimulate your child with open-ended questions that can’t be answered with only a “ye”, “no” or “fine”. Create an interesting environment, continuously rotate your supply of toys to keep things “fresh”. Redirect behaviour instead of discouraging it. For example, if they like pouring out water from their cup onto the floor from their highchair, move them to the floor or backyard with a bucket in front of them so they can continue experimenting with a water.  This will also teach them problem-solving skills, creative and acceptable ways to do and get what they want.  Allow time for open-ended activities Do not tell them what to do with materials like boxes, blocks, water, sand, etc; how to do it; or what it should look like in the end. Curiosity broadens a child’s mind, and a broader mind helps in the holistic development of the child. Curiosity should therefore never be suppressed or else it can have an adverse impact on a child’s early development. As John Holt says: “Children do not need to be made to learn” since they are already born with what Einstein called “the holy curiosity of inquiry”.    By Lauren Holton, Teacher at Trinityhouse Northriding 

March 11, 2019
Parenting Hub

MATRICS: USE THE NEXT 6 WEEKS TO LAY THE FOUNDATION FOR STUDY SUCCESS

University choices may feel like a distant priority for this year’s Matrics who are currently settling into the rhythm of their final year at school. But now is, in fact, the optimal time to be investigating what they want to study and where, because making the right choice takes time, and will ultimately impact on study success and employability 4 years from now, an expert says. “Prospective students will start applying from around the April holidays onwards, whereafter the applications will start coming in thick and fast, and the rush to secure a place will intensify. Once your fellow learners start applying, you will really start to feel the pressure to do so as well, which could lead to you settling for a generic qualification or taking the traditional route that others in the same boat as you are following just to make sure you don’t miss your chance,” says Nola Payne, Head of Faculty: Information and Communications Technology at The Independent Institute of Education, SA’s largest private higher education institution. “The gravity of the choice you need to make about your future in coming weeks can’t be overstated. The right study choice at the right institution is a solid foundation for future success, but the wrong choice can exact a costly financial and emotional toll for a long time. It, therefore, makes sense to use the relative calm of the coming weeks – a calm that will not again be repeated in your Matric year – to make absolutely sure about what you want to do next year,” says Payne. She says there are two main questions around which Matrics should focus their investigations: 1) What should I study and 2) Where should I study. 1)     WHAT SHOULD I STUDY? “If you have more or less of an idea of your strengths and ideal work, that’s a great start,” notes Payne. “However many people have no idea of what they want to do with their life after school. These learners should start by investigating potential careers that interest them, and importantly, investigate the demand for suitably qualified professionals in these fields.” Payne advises Matrics to scour job advertisements, see which positions excite them and devour any media they can lay their hands on to get an idea of the kinds of careers that are out there. “Remember that new careers exist today that are vastly different from the careers of the past, and you may even land upon something you’ve never heard of before. Once you’ve identified your ideal career, you should then investigate what you would need to study to do the kind of work that excites you.” A major consideration is whether to opt for a traditional academic degree or a work-focused one, says Payne. “In our tough job market, the closer a degree is aligned to the realities of the world of work, and the greater a qualification’s ability to make you land on your feet from the first day on the job, the better your chances of success. So ask institutions about their lecturers and curricula – are they still involved in their profession beyond teaching, and does the institution have close ties with companies and industry professionals? “The days of academic ivory towers disconnected from the demands and requirements of the real world are numbered, and prospective students must endeavour to find an institution that understands and responds to what is needed in today’s workplaces.” 2)     WHERE SHOULD I STUDY? With South Africa’s 26 public universities and countless private higher education institutions, prospective students have their work cut out for them in determining where their goals and ambitions would be best realised. Because if an institution is registered and accredited, its qualifications will be valid and recognised in the workplace, regardless of whether they originate from a private institution or a state-funded one. But there are other important issues to consider. These include proximity to where one currently lives, class sizes, student support and career guidance services, and the degree to which the curriculum is aligned and able to adapt to modern workplaces. “Opting for a uni closer to home means savings on the financial front, as well as proximity to your existing support structures which can be helpful when the going gets tough,” says Payne. “Large class sizes can make you feel invisible and like a number, while smaller class sizes mean more attention and a greater feeling of belonging. Getting real-life work experience and assignments prepare you for the workplace in a way theory only can never do, while student support services can make a crucial difference in your success. “Make sure you get satisfactory feedback on all these issues before signing up with an institution,” she says. Payne says making the right choice, based on thorough research and investigation of all options, has a huge role to play in student outcomes. “Many students drop out of their first year because they made their study choice under pressure, or because they realise after a few weeks or months that there are other qualifications more suited to their aspirations. Some only get exposed to interesting fields and other higher education institutions once they leave school and are already studying – a situation that can be avoided if proper time and attention is given now to exploring what’s out there. “We urge teachers, parents and guardians too, in coming weeks, guide the young people in their care to enable them to make informed choices calmly and with clarity. This will allow learners to put the anxiety of their 2020 plans behind them, and focus fully on doing their best in the important series of exams that lie ahead this year.”

March 8, 2019
Impaq

Help your child develop with a balanced lifestyle

Today, more and more children are expected to do more and perform better. However, parents need to remember that children still need time to play in order to develop at various levels. The more pressure is placed on children to perform beyond expectations, the less time remains for them to just be a child. It is imperative that children develop optimally with a balanced lifestyle and that they are not placed under unnecessary pressure. In the 21st century, time has become a valuable commodity. Due to everyone’s fast-paced lifestyles, it has become almost normal not to have enough time in the day. Children are getting more and more homework and some parents are unnecessarily pressuring children to spend more time in front of the books in an effort to ensure that their children perform well above average. And if that is not enough, children are also expected to be involved in a wide variety of extracurricular activities. Parents should help their children to develop according to their own abilities, and not according to the parents’ abilities or their unreasonably high expectations of their children. Children learn to use their imagination and to think independently through play, while persistent pressure to perform creates the illusion that competition and performance are essential to function in society. This also puts unnecessary strain on children to always meet other people’s expectations. Children should, however, be taught that participation in activities is important for individual and social development, but they must also learn that winning is not always everything. They don’t have to be the best, as long as they give their personal best and have fun. This sometimes entails being a good loser and seeing life as a continuous growth and learning process. How can parents help their children cultivate a balanced lifestyle? Children need to get enough sleep to function optimally at school and at home. It’s important for children to start settling down at least one hour before bedtime.  Parents should teach children healthy eating habits that will promote their health and wellbeing. Cultivate responsibility early on: Teach children how to do their own homework, but still give appropriate guidance when necessary. Help your child plan his/her day.  Motivate children to participate in physical activities or to play outside instead of playing with their cellphones or sitting in front of the TV all day.   Cancel some of your child’s extracurricular activities if your child is always tired, irritable and teary – as these are often signs of burnout. Don’t expect your child to make your lost dreams come true. As a parent you want to give your child the best. Isn’t it just to enjoy their childhood for as long as possible? Or to develop their own potential and maintain a good balance in life? Primary education should therefore cultivate happy children who are willing to develop themselves continuously through a balanced lifestyle. Written by Ilse Stickling – Subject Specialist: History at Impaq

March 8, 2019
Impaq

Practical tips on how to keep your kids safe online

If you have been on any social media platform these past few weeks you might have seen the terrifying image of a creature with long black hair and bulging eyes. Warnings about the Momo Challenge, an online game in which children are encouraged to harm themselves, have gone viral. But some sources have now confirmed that the challenge is nothing but a hoax designed to scare parents (and children).  Whether the Momo Challenge is real or not, online safety remains a concern for every 21st century parent. The Momo Challenge might have been fake, but there are real threats out there, like cartoons on YouTube being spliced with instructions on how to commit suicide – videos that have been confirmed to exist. It’s important for parents to take preventative measures to keep their kids safe on the internet. While limiting screen time is a good place to start, here are some other things you can do to keep your kids safe, both online and offline.   Establish some ground rules With younger children you can control (almost) everything they see online but older children are tech-savvy and can easily find themselves viewing content that might be inappropriate for their age. It’s important to have an open conversation and to encourage them to speak to you or any other adult they trust if they encounter anything in the digital realm that appears frightening or threatening. SafeKids.com, a site that promotes internet safety for kids, lists a set of criteria that you can discuss with your kids about what they should and should not do on the internet.  Keep technology in a common space It is best to keep technology like smartphones, tablets and computers in a common space for all family members to use. The computer screen should be visible from other parts of the room and should not be turned towards a wall. This way children can see how the internet should be used and how useful it can be, e.g. doing research for a project, looking up an address, or watching educational videos. Children are also less likely to look for inappropriate content with a parent in the room.  Pay for content The problem with free content, like the videos on YouTube and YouTube Kids, is that anyone can upload videos without it being curated or approved. And it is not only the content you need to be worried about, the advertisements showed between videos can also be harmful. You might want to consider paying for good children’s entertainment, e.g. Netflix, Showmax, children’s DVDs, or advert-free games designed for young players. Use a child-friendly search engine While most of us rely on Google to find what we are looking for, you might want to switch to an alternative search engine like Kiddle or Kid’s Search when your children are browsing online. These child-specific search engines aim to create a safe platform for children to explore the internet. If you want to continue using Google as your preferred search engine, enable Google SafeSearch on your computer. Here’s how: Go to google.com   Google anything and select Settings on the right. Select Turn on SafeSearch. Explicit images, videos, and websites will now be blocked from the Google Search results. Make Apps Safe Or as safe as they can be. On YouTube you can select restricted mode, an optional setting that restricts the availability of potentially mature or objectionable content. Here’s how to turn restricted mode on:  Go to the account icon .  Click Restricted Mode. In the dialog box that appears, toggle restricted mode to on. Restricted mode works on the browser or device level, so you must turn it on for each browser or device you are using. For safety, turn restricted mode on for all the browsers (e.g. Google Chrome, Firefox, Internet Explorer, etc.) loaded on your computer, smart TV, tablet or smartphone. You can also lock restricted mode. This will prevent anyone else, your kids included, from changing the settings. Watch this short video to learn how to lock restricted mode.  Keep in mind, however, that switching to a child-friendly search engine, selecting SafeSearch on Google or restricted mode on YouTube is not 100% accurate and that some inappropriate content may still slip through. It is therefore important to be mindful of your child’s online activities and to teach your child about internet safety. Article written by Elmien Ackerman – Copywriter at Impaq

March 8, 2019
Kabrita

Goatie Goodness – the better choice

When choosing milk, it’s not just a matter of full cream, low-fat or flavoured anymore. Sometimes an alternative is needed. But not all milks are created equal.  Here’s a five-point checklist of what to look for and why Goat milk could be the ‘right’ milk choice for you and your family.  Fat size Young children should drink full cream milk since they need the fat for proper development of their brains and nervous systems.  Goat milk is a full cream milk and is naturally homogenized, meaning the fat molecules are naturally smaller and more easily digested.  Protein Structure Milk is also a great source of high-quality protein.  Protein builds, strengthens and repairs our body’s muscles, bones and blood. The protein composition of goat’ milk allows it to form a softer curd during digestion offering greater digestive health and comfort. Type of Carbohydrate Some carbohydrates, known as oligosaccharides possess “prebiotic” properties, promoting the growth of beneficial bacteria in our gut and boosting our immune system. Goat milk contains the highest amount of oligosaccharides among domestic animals and is free of added sugars Essential Vitamins & Minerals Research consistently shows that South Africans have a low intake of the minerals, calcium and potassium. Milk is a good source of calcium. Calcium is needed for strong bones and teeth.  Vitamin D is essential to help increase the absorption of calcium from the gut. Check the ingredients list on the milk label for milk with Vitamin D (cholecalciferol).  One glass of KABRITA Instant Full Cream Goat Milk gives you half your daily requirements for vitamin D. Better Sustainability Important environmental issues such as hygiene, animal welfare and overall quality are uppermost in the minds of the most discerning consumer and parent. All KABRITA goats’ milk is non-GMO* and is sourced from farms which follow strict guidelines in terms of animal feed and treatment.  KABRITA goats’ milk is set to meet the highest international standards and goats have not been exposed to antibiotics, growth hormones or pesticides. KABRITA Instant Full Cream Goat Milk is available as an easy-to-use goat milk powder for the whole family; it’s free of added sugars and provides nutrients that support health. Why not give this unique, high-quality goat milk with its fresh and mildly sweet taste, a try?  *non-genetically modified organisms Kabrita Instant Full Cream Goat Milk powder is available at Dis-Chem Pharmacy, Baby City stores and Wellness Warehouse nationwide with a price range from R170 (400g). The product range is also online at… www.dischem.co.za www.wellnesswarehouse.com  www.takealot.com  For more information and visit www.kabrita.co.za and follow @kabrita_sa on Facebook and  Instagram. #GoatieGoodness #KabritaSA

March 8, 2019
Parenting Hub

Review: OneAid Mini First Aid Kit

There is no doubt that we all need a good First-Aid Kit in the home, the car, your handbag…. You name it, children always seem to find scrapes and burns when you least expect it.  We are absolutely in love with the MiniKit by OneAid. Developed by a mother who just happens to be a medical doctor with years of experience in the trauma room, every consideration has been made in this handy first aid kit.  Firstly, it wraps up small. Small enough to fit in your handbag, diaper bag or to keep inside your motor vehicle.  The kit comprises of: 2) Pairs of gloves (latex-free) (1) Hand disinfectant (2) First aid dressing (1) Conforming bandage (1) Triangular bandage (1) Sterile gauze (1) Sterile dressing pad (12) Assorted plasters (1) Burn gel (1) Burn dressing (4) cotton buds (1) Antiseptic solution (2) Antiseptic ointment (1) First aid scissors (1) Metal tweezers (1) Adhesive tape (1) Syringe (5ml) (3) Reward stickers Available in Red or Yellow Don’t miss out on this amazing first aid kit, you certainly will not be sorry! Retail price is R395 and can be purchased online at www.oneaid.co.za

March 8, 2019
Parenting Hub

The UK’s No.1 sensitive toiletries brand for babies & children, now available in SA

The brand’s range of bath, skin and hair care products are currently available in 117 Clicks stores and 33 Baby City stores across SA as well as online via takealot.com. The launch is the latest development in a period of extraordinary growth for the brand, which was founded in 2011 by entrepreneur Joanna Jensen and is already established as the UK’s largest baby and child toiletries brand, after Johnson’s Baby. The brand has seen triple-digit growth every year for the last seven years in the UK. Sales have been bolstered by its hero product, a baby moisturiser, which has led to a bottle of Childs Farm being sold every 14 seconds in the UK. The brand attributes its phenomenal success to advocacy from real mums. Sales of the baby moisturiser have skyrocketed after social media reviews from satisfied customers went viral, prompting product enquiries to flood in from across the world, including South Africa. Childs Farm’s product range, which includes moisturisers, bubble baths, shampoos and sun care, is specially designed for all skin types, and is dermatologist- and paediatrician-approved for use on sensitive and eczema-prone skin. Products don’t contain any parabens, SLSs, mineral oils or artificial colours and the majority contain over 98% (by volume) naturally derived ingredients. Speaking about Childs Farm’s international expansion, founder and CEO Joanna Jensen said, “We’ve seen a huge growth of the business in the UK since the launch due to the high consumer demand for our products, predominantly driven through word of mouth recommendation. This demand has now reached International markets, so the natural next step for us is to launch into new markets where we’re seeing this demand for our products. I’m really excited about the recent launch in South Africa as part of our International expansion strategy. South Africa represents a huge opportunity for us to reach more parents and caregivers of little ones who are looking for a kinder, milder alternatives to brands already on the market that at the same time are fun for children to use. We have recently expanded our team in order to manage the growth, and support our international expansion plans. It’s a really exciting time for the brand.” Childs Farm products are currently available in Baby City, Clicks stores and via takealot.com. Prices range from R99 to R119.99, with a range of over 15 different products to choose from. For more information on Childs Farm products visit www.childsfarm.com or the local Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/childsfarmsouthafrica/

March 8, 2019
Parenting Hub

1ST YEAR EARLY WARNING SIGNS: HOW TO AVOID BECOMING A DROPOUT STATISTIC

Across the country, hundreds of thousands of young people recently entered Higher Education hoping to graduate in a few years so that they are qualified to enter the workplace. The reality, however, is that first-year dropout rates are extremely high in South Africa, which means many first years won’t complete their studies. But the good news is that there are a number of early alarm bells which, if needed, can help students manage their risk and prevent them from abandoning their studies, an education expert says. “While statistics vary, it is estimated that more than 40% of students quit their studies after their first year. Some would argue that this figure is as high as 60%,” says Peter Kriel, General Manager at The Independent Institute of Education, SA’s largest private Higher Education provider. “Not being successful as a first-year student in Higher Education, is a process that begins well before a student actually drops out of Higher Education, as there are various early signs of potential failure that can predict if a student may run into trouble later,” he says. Kriel says parents and students should note that factors influencing study success can be broadly divided into three categories: Broader socio-economic or personal factors, not properly doing one’s homework before deciding what to study and where, and most importantly, one’s approach and actions as a first-year student. For students who are already in Higher Education, the third category is the one they need to address now, says Kriel. He says that students should carefully consider the questions below. If the answer to any of these questions is “NO”, they need to take action as recommended in the solution to each problem, as they might be at risk. Q1: Did I meaningfully participate in my institution’s orientation programme? Any good institution of Higher Education should have a first-year orientation programme, says Kriel. He says the information provided during orientation is intended to guide students logistically, so they can focus on academic work without being overwhelmed by admin. “If you missed out on orientation, particularly academic onboarding programmes, you will now have to acquire these skills on your own on top of the day-to-day academic demands.” Solution: Speak to someone to find out what the orientation programme included.  If your institution of choice is offering an extended first-year onboarding programme, make sure you get involved immediately. Make time to specifically focus on trying to gather the information you missed out on – logistical information is especially easy to gather. Academic preparedness will be a little more challenging, but it is worth catching up on what you missed early on. Q2: Am I attending most of my classes? Class attendance is probably the single most important contributing factor to success, says Kriel. “Of course, reasons beyond your control may cause you to occasionally miss a lecture or tutorial, but if you miss class simply because you don’t feel like it or you had a late night and feel like sleeping in, you are at risk,” he says. “If you miss class because you are working on an assignment or task in another module – you may need to plan better. Missing class to do assignments becomes a vicious circle as you miss more classes to do other assignments. This is a recipe for failure.” Solution: Undertake to miss no more classes going forward, and draw up a roster for future assignments so you can complete these without needing to skip class. Prioritise your classes and schedule all other activities so there is no conflict. If something comes up which prevents you from attending a specific lecture, catch up as soon as you can. Q3: Did I pass all my assessments to date? It is still early in the academic year, but your performance in any assessment you may have had, be it a formal test or assignment or a task completed in class, is already a clear indicator of your outcomes profile, says Kriel. Solution:  Determine why you failed an assessment. Did you work hard enough? If not, you know you need to work harder. Are there parts of the work you don’t understand because you missed class? If so, follow the advice in point 2 above. Did you do everything possible and simply do not understand certain concepts? If this is the case, speak to your lecturer sooner rather than later about how to approach the issue. Q4: Did I acquire all the prescribed text for my modules? For many reasons, not least financial pressures, many students don’t buy prescribed textbooks. “Unfortunately, your chances of success are diminished if you don’t have textbooks.  Textbooks guide students through the syllabus of a specific module like a roadmap and are often accompanied by additional resources, questions and activities that will enhance the mastering of the required material,” says Kriel. Solution: If you can afford to buy the prescribed text, get it as soon as possible. If not, know that student-centred Higher Education institutions will be acutely aware of the challenges some students face and may have e-book alternatives. Often these are available for free to registered students. Speak to the librarian on your campus to find out if there is an e-book alternative for the textbooks you don’t have. There may also be copies of the textbooks in the campus library, and while these are often on the reserve shelf, spending time in the library will definitely be advantageous. Q5: Do I feel part of a Community of Practice? Moving from a comparatively protective school environment to Higher Education may mean that you find it hard to adapt from the start. This may unsettle you if you subconsciously feel that you are not at the same level of performance as your fellow students. The reality is that these feelings are quite normal and that many of your classmates probably feel the same. Solution: Talk to someone you trust about your experience and feelings. Good institutions will have academic support and counselling facilities. Having

March 8, 2019
Parenting Hub

The Twistshake Divide Plate: Everything You Need To Know About ​This Product

The Twistshake Divide Plate is a must have for all moms and dads out there. This product works closely in connection with the Twistshake Mini Click Mat, which we have also reviewed this month. Take a look at why this a must have for your baby’s meal times and what makes up this ingenious product. The Twistshake Divide Plate Features The plate has been designed with anti-slip, meaning that it slips minimally on whatever table surface it is placed on The product is free from all harmful materials such as BPS, BPA and BPF The divides allow you to easily work out your baby’s portion sizes This product is both microwave and dish washer safe The ingenious Twistclick function allows you to easily stack and store, or transport, multiple divide plates More About The Twistshake Divide Plate As you can see above, there are a lot of great features which come with this plate. However, it offers more than just eating ease. Thanks to the design, the Twistshake Divide Plate also minimalizes the mess made during meal times.  Thanks to the anti-slip functionality of the plate, the likelihood of it sliding around the surface of the table is reduces phenomenally. However, when you pair it with the Twistshake Mini Click Mat, things become even more secure. The plate has the Twistclick ability to secure to the click mat. This means that it cannot be picked up by your baby. The Twistclick functionality also allows the plates to be stacked on top of one another. This reduces your storage space dramatically. This also makes for easy transport if you need to pack a meal for your little one on the go.  Free from all harmful materials, and being dishwasher and microwave safe, this little plate is a must have for all moms and dads. Get yours now!

March 7, 2019
Prima Baby

CHICCO POCKET SNACK CHAIR

A fantastic booster seat that suits baby’s needs as they start developing independence and more refined eating skills, the Chicco Pocket Snack Booster Chair is a sturdy, funky and completely compact piece of furniture that baby can own all for themselves. Easily slipped into any chair, the Pocket Snack provides height for the child and allows them to celebrate meal times with the family. Made from durable plastic, the chair is easily wiped down to avoid stains and can be adjusted as your child grows. The perfect solution for home or being out and about, the chair even has a safety harness to secure a wriggly child.  Chair comes with a removable tray and a handle to carry about with ease. Available in SA in dark grey, modern mint and lime, the Easy Snack goes for approximately R699 at all leading retailers and online portals.

March 7, 2019
Breastpumps and Beyond

The Ultimate Feeding Guide For Babies

Finding a black and white feeding guide for babies is a difficult thing to do. All children develop at different rates, meaning that there definitely isn’t a one size fits all when it comes to feeding suggestions. However, this post should help you get a clear indication of the general baby feeding habits to expect throughout the first year of your child’s life. The Beginning: Birth – 4 m/o During this time, your baby’s little digestive system will still be developing within. The first five days post birth are critical for you and your child. However, the first two weeks have the most frequent notable developments in their digestive system. Day 1: Your baby’s stomach will roughly only be the size of a cherry. This means he or she will only be able to hold about 5ml – 7ml of fluid inside at a given time. Therefore, if you are not producing copious amounts of milk, don’t stress. Your body will match milk production to your baby’s feeding needs. Day 3: Your baby’s tummy will now have grown to roughly the size of a walnut. They will now be able to ingest between 22ml – 27ml of fluid per feed and can be expected to feed between 8 – 10 times a day. Day 7: Your baby’s tummy will now have grown to the size of an apricot, meaning it can hold between 45ml – 60ml of fluid.  Day 14: Your little one has now developed to their final phase of initial digestive development. Their tummy should now hold between 80ml – 150ml of fluid and be about the size of an egg. You can expect roughly nine diapers through the day during this time; six wet diapers and three bowl movement diapers. From week four towards the six month mark, you can expect your baby’s eating habits to remain relatively similar. However, once they reach six months, this is where things start to get interesting! The Introduction To Solids: 6 m/o – 8 m/o During this time, your child will begin to show signs of readiness for solids. Now’s the time to start slowly introducing them to certain solid foods whilst still breastfeeding. Here are some foods to include in your baby’s diet: A selection of pureed foods including:  Meats Vegetables Fruits  Breastmilk Semi-liquid baby cereal Now That You Have A General Feeding Guide For Babies From the 8 month mark, you can begin to introduce smaller bits of whole foods such a cereals and meats cut into bite sized pieces. We suggest breastfeeding your baby I conjunction with solids for at least 24 months post birth. 

March 7, 2019
Parenting Hub

Getting your teen to communicate

One of the most common issues presented to counsellors and psychologists by desperate parents. Part of the problem is that we tend to look back on our own teenage years with rose-tinted glasses, refusing to believe that we were ever like this, choosing instead to blame tangible differences such as smartphones. While technology has certainly shifted the dynamic, it cannot be held to account for a breakdown of communication that occurs when the phones are in bags or pockets…so what then can be held to account?  The answer, in short, is science. Sarah-Jayne Blakemore, a cognitive neuroscientist from University College London, UK, used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) to scan the brains of adolescents and adults while they were questioned relating to decision-making. The study showed that teenagers rely on an area of the brain called the superior temporal sulcus, whereas adults use the front part, called the prefrontal cortex. The superior temporal sulcus processes very basic behavioural actions, while the prefrontal cortex is involved in complex functions such as processing how decisions affect other people. Blakemore also asked participants to make decisions about other people’s welfare and timed how long it took them to respond. She found that the response time got shorter as the participants got older, suggesting that the older people found it easier to put themselves in “other people’s shoes.” So now what do we do? We can blame science for the differences we encounter but those differences do not lessen just because we know they exist. The secret is a strategy. By employing these tips, you may find your child opening up a little more. These tips aren’t necessarily easy to put into place, but they are undoubtedly worth the effort.  Avoid saying “I understand but…” Just by using that phrase, you are demonstrating a lack of understanding (in your child’s eyes). Try to put yourself in their shoes first and try to avoid the defence mechanisms flaring up.  Avoid tricks or loaded questions. If you know that dishonesty in conduct was involved, do not pretend otherwise to try to trick your child into a confession. It is better to be upfront with the truth you know, as teenagers tend to see through ‘ruses’ very easily. Ask questions from a place of curiosity. Your questions should not be preludes to a lecture. Ask questions such as “If you did x, what do you think would be the consequence, as opposed to if you did y?” Try to understand their reasoning processes by encouraging critical thinking so that they can find their own way through – with your guidance if need be. Wait for the calm after the storm.  Do not confuse listening to conversation. Often parents complain that their children do not ever want to talk to them when what they mean is their children do not like to listen when they are lectured at, rather than conversed with.  Avoid going on the offensive or the defensive. As soon as either party feels accused, the conversation breaks down.  Make the point once, not five times. We often speak a lot more than we need to, using analogies and repetition to reinforce a point. Think about how it feels for you in the work boardroom and apply it to the kitchen table.  You do not need to act like a friend. Using teenage jargon is more likely to deepen the gap than lessen it.  Watch your language. Negatives can creep in without us meaning for them too. Your language often reflects your concerns but being mindful of this can prevent it. For example, avoid using words like “never”. Telling your child that they “never” talk to you will make it true. Rephrasing it into a positive such as, “I really appreciate you taking the time to tell me about your day” is more likely to prompt similar behaviour in the future. Avoid minimising their problems. Things that comfort adults, like the fact that “this won’t matter a year from now” does not comfort your teenager. This only creates a sense of isolation. The fact that it matters now is their reality, despite what you may know through life experience to be the logical truth.  Adjust your expectations if the situation calls for it. If your child has demonstrated responsibility and maturity, you may wish to make a curfew later, for example.  Choose your battles. This adage is a cliché for a reason. If you are going to create an argument, rather argue over an issue of safety (such as getting into a drunk person’s car) rather than the state of a bedroom where the clothes do not seem to make it into the cupboard.  Give advice when it is asked for – but keep your wisdom to yourself if it is not. Sometimes it is more valuable to let a mistake be made and subsequently learnt from than to deliver unsolicited advice. Watch out for complaining. Every single time we, as adults, complain about our work, our marriage, the commute etc., we are indirectly communicating that being an adult, in short, sucks. Maybe it does, but this invalidates anything we want to communicate to our children regarding advice or input. They see us as not being the best sources of advice because we indicate that we are not happy ourselves. Develop consequences with your child’s input. Jointly decide on a structure of “punishments to fit the crime” and negotiate until you find a middle ground. Teenagers are more likely to buy into disciplinary systems when they had a hand in creating them in the first place. You may even wish to introduce the idea of ‘parole’, where they can work off the consequence according to what was agreed on in advance. This allows them to demonstrate good behaviour and work off their consequences earlier, thus reinforcing good behaviour. References: https://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/better-communication-with-teens#1 http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/5-mistakes-adults-make-communicating-with-teenagers/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/rediscovering-love/201110/bionic-teens-effective-communication-techniques https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn10030-why-adolescents-put-themselves-first/

March 6, 2019
SciBuddy

Raising a Science Lover

We often think that science is reserved for high school children and that not all children will be able to excel in science or even enjoy it. This is not the case at all. In world driven by scientific and technological advancements, it’s essential to introduce our children to science from a young age. Inspiring a child to question and test is a large and fun part of learning about the world. After all, science is not about knowing, but rather a journey of discovering. Unfortunately, a lot of parents feel underqualified to take this journey with their children, especially those without any formal training in scientific fields. The good news is you do not need any special skills or training to raise a science lover! Here are few tips to inspire you: 1. Questions, questions, questions….. One of the fundamental aspects of science is asking questions. Encourage them. How does this work? Why did that happen? What is this?   These questions may already sound familiar to you as children are naturally curious. We need to encourage children to ask these questions and give them the tools and resources to find the answers. 2. Explore together Visits to the museum, botanical gardens, observatory, and even the local park can be full of interesting subjects for discussion and study.  Make notes, take pictures, make drawings of your findings, and revisit them when you get home. You could even combine scientific exploration with your next holiday! 3. Give boys and girls equal exposure and encouragement We often want to fix things and solve problems for girls without including them in the process. The scientific process knows no gender, and girls and boys are equally suited and interested in learning. Make sure to provide equal opportunity for learning by getting girls involved in activities that may not be traditionally girl-orientated and vice versa. 4. Be patient Allow your child to explore, experiment, and observe at their own pace. It’s also important for them to fail occasionally and try again. Our instincts are often to jump in and help at the first sign of a struggle, but this is counter productive. 5. Get the resources Try to provide as many reference books, activity books, online tutorials, and tools* as possible. Easy access to these resources makes learning easy and effortless. After an outing or a discussion, go to your resources  and look up all the things you’ve seen and spoken about. This provides an opportunity for further learning and also extends the time spent on science-related activities. 6. Be prepared for some mess Science can get messy! Make sure your child feels comfortable to experiment and allow her to make a mess in the name of science. As long as it is constructive mess, it’s worth the clean-up. Old clothes, an apron, and a plastic table cloth also help. 7. Listen to your child Give your child space to voice her opinion. Try to understand what they are observing and thinking and allow them to explain to you. You could find that you are looking at the same object but seeing completely different things.   *A microscope is an invaluable tool to encourage exploration and deepen learning. You can get an ultra-affordable origami-inspired Foldscope online from www.scibuddy.co.za. Foldscopes are durable, easy-to-use, and portable, with 140× magnification. They are available as individual kits or classroom kits containing 20 or 100 units. Deluxe Individual Kits contain an extensive set of accessories to collect specimens and prepare slides. These kits are packaged in a beautiful metal case making it easy for little explorers to keep their Foldscope close at hand.  SciBuddy is the exclusive distributor of Foldscopes in South Africa. The owner, Arista Burke, has a background in microbiology and education. She believes that Foldscopes will be a gamechanger for South African children.  To find out more about SciBuddy and Foldscope, visit www.scibuddy.co.za or their Facebook page, www.facebook.com/SciBuddySA.   

March 6, 2019
Junior Colleges

Does your child have enough space to play?

Play for a child, prepares them for adulthood with all life’s delights and contests. What better way to learn as a child than to be given the chance to play freely in large areas? One of my best memories as a child was of running around the field at Pre-school with my friends in tow, the real excitement at finding new treasure troves, making up games, and the tangible fear we felt, like when we had to climb a high jungle gym or run away from a scary dinosaur! Being brought onto the playground, where we would get stuck in exploring all the new possibilities there for fun, games and imagination. What a treat! Because I was fortunate enough to have a home with a large garden, I remember how liberated I felt being free to meander around without my parents watching me all the time, and how nature became my learning ground. However, I would imagine that this is not the case for most children because of the way society has changed and with many of us now living in townhouse complexes, some with very limited space. Today’s children get so few opportunities to play freely, because we understandably fear for their safety, be it the road or “stranger danger.” My own interest in play and children’s development stems from my experience of working as a Teacher and Principal for the past 27 years, where I meet the most amazing children and their parents every day and fortunately are willing to help them with any issues, usually related to their development, emotions or behaviour. From my work, research, studies and experience, I have gained a good sense of what children need to develop to their full potentials. Not a lot has been written on the benefits of playgrounds, which is surprising given that our children spend so much time in them. Below are 7 good reasons why children should have space to play, based on different aspects of a child’s development: Social, Brain and Language Development Children of all ages develop their social skills on a playground through the creation of “games”, like catch or make-believe play, where the equipment is turned into something else (e.g. obstacle course, hospital, school, etc), where children give themselves roles and they work out the “rules of the game” in cooperation. Playgrounds provide an opportunity for children to practice their social skills, to come up with solutions to problems, and to learn self-control in working out their conflicts. Play also encourages language development, as children often talk aloud during their play (e.g. “Look at me going down the big slide!”), and the interaction with their peers allows them to express their thoughts and feelings and to develop their understanding and spoken skills. I’ve noticed that children who don’t even speak the same language can get on just fine during play! Physical Development and Good Physical Exercise As children progress, they are drawn to different systems of play which encourage their development, like rough and tumble play. Children naturally seek this form of play, which helps them to work out their physical space in the world, where their body begins and where it ends. This is crucial for the development of their motor skills and spatial awareness. It’s FUN! Large open spaces encourage your children to get out there and move! It’s so much fun and exhilarating for them! Playing is your child’s most natural form of expression, regardless of their age, and when they are engaged in it they forget everything else and really enjoy the moment. By Elizabeth Steenkamp, Principal of Junior Colleges Castillian

March 6, 2019
Parenting Hub

Feel The Beat: Drumming at Sugar Bay

Do you want an African drum beat master at your next party? Well our campers should be on your speed dial! Drumming has become a phenomenon at the Bay where we see our campers create extraordinary rhythm and beats with the djembe drum. The djembe drum is said to have been invented in the 12th century by the Mandinke tribe in what is now Mali, West Africa. The djembe has a great cultural heritage in Africa and still has a weighty presence in African rituals. The body of the drum is made from a single piece of tree trunk and topped with goatskin, providing the djembe with a piercing high-pitched tone. The Mandinke people believed that the Lenge trees held great spiritual importance while also lending its trunk to make the drum. It is said that the drum consists of three spirits: the spirit of the tree from which it was made, the spirit of the animal which covers the head and the spirit of the drum-maker. The term djembe originates from the Bambara saying “Anke dje, anke be” which translates to “everyone gather in peace”, creating a sacredness around the drum. Traditionally, the djembe was only played by men during ritual ceremonies like weddings, courtship, hunting, circumcision and passing into adulthood. The drum has a very unique and distinctive design, which is fundamental to its versatile sound. There are 3 main sounds that can be played by the djembe, here are a few steps to get you started on playing. Bass Hit the center of the drum with your open hand. You want to bounce your whole hand against the skin to get that deep, low pitch. By bouncing your hand off the drum, the tones are left to resonate. The bass is the core of playing the drum.  Tone For a tone, you’ll be using your fingers and the edge of the palm. Move your hand towards you until your knuckles are just off the edge of the drum. Your fingers should be over the drumhead. Strike the drumhead, slide your fingers off the head and follow with the edge of your palm striking the drum. Repeat.  Slap  Slap sounds are played similarly to the tone. You put your hand on the edge of the drum, but instead of playing with a flat hand, you’ll slightly curve your fingers. Contact between the drum and your hand should be the fingertips and the edge of the palm. The slap produces crack and a bright sound. The pocket of space under the palm gives it a hollow sound. And there you have it, you’re on your way to becoming an African beat master.

March 5, 2019
Parenting Hub

BANKING YOUR BREASTMILK SAVES LIVES

The breastmilk bank is probably the most altruistic banking system in the world. Healthy, lactating moms express and donate their excess breastmilk. The milk is tested and pasteurised, and then distributed to neo-natal intensive care units around the country, where it is used to feed the most vulnerable babies. Every year, donated breastmilk saves the lives of thousands of vulnerable babies in South Africa.  Eight out of one hundred babies in the country are born prematurely and, every year, approximately 11 000 premature babies die from preventable infections and complications.   “All babies have immature immune systems,” says Abby Courtenay, a Registered Dietitian and spokesperson for ADSA (The Association for Dietetics in South Africa), “Breastfeeding plays a vital role in transferring not just nutrients but antibodies and other immune-boosting properties to an infant to strengthen the immune system and protect them against infections.  This is why breastmilk is the perfect first food, and why the World Health Organisation recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months of life.” Many mothers giving birth to premature babies in neo-natal intensive care units don’t produce milk immediately, or enough of it. Some mothers experience health complications and cannot breastfeed.  If their babies can be fed donated breastmilk instead of formula, it dramatically increases the baby’s chance of survival and offers greater protection against life-threatening infections such as the intestinal infection – necrotising enterocolitis. Donated breastmilk also helps premmies to gain weight and grow faster. This is why donated breastmilk is the next best option when the mother’s own  milk is not available.   Breastmilk banking was pioneered in South Africa sixteen years ago by the South African Breastmilk Reserve (SABR) and, today, they have a network of 27 banking facilities across the country. The breastmilk movement in South Africa has since grown to include several other initiatives such as ithemba Lethu milk bank and children’s home in Durban, the KZN Breastmilk Bank Initiative and Milk Matters in the Western Cape. Every year, more than a thousand South African moms help save lives by donating their milk. “What we would like to see is breastmilk banking being used far more frequently,” says Executive Director and SABR founder, Stasha Jordan. “Expressing breastmilk has become the norm for many new moms who have to return to work while still breastfeeding. Some women have an abundant supply of breastmilk and can easily express more than their baby needs. That surplus can literally save the life of another child. Our donor moms are real heroes helping the most vulnerable in our society to survive.” SABR and ADSA have partnered to raise awareness of breastmilk banking, which is supported worldwide by both the World Health Organisation and UNICEF. Who can bank their breastmilk? A healthy, lactating mom with an excess of breastmilk can make donations. It’s important that you have not received a blood donation in the past year; that you are a non-smoker; that you do not consume alcohol regularly and that you are not on any medication. Donor mothers do need to undergo blood tests to be screened for HIV and hepatitis B. How does banking my breastmilk work? Donor moms complete an online screening questionnaire  SABR contacts you telephonically to refer you to your nearest sign-up facility.  Arrangements will be made for the necessary blood tests. You will receive all the information you need for the safe storage of your expressed milk, which will be collected from you. Your breastmilk will be screened, pasteurised and distributed to help save the lives of premature babies in neo-natal intensive care units.  Every drop counts and small donations can also be used, so don’t be put off from donating if you don’t have a particularly excessive supply. To find out more visit https://www.sabr.org.za 

March 4, 2019
Parenting Hub

Get ready to unleash the Beasts!

Mattel South Africa is pleased to announce the launch of the coolest toy this season…  Breakout Beasts™! What are Breakout Beasts™ you ask? Great question! These five mystery beasts are hidden inside eggs and have an appetite for surprise – you never know which one you’re going to get! Crack open the eggs to release an exciting surprise – you have to dig out all the pieces from the gooey orange, blue or green slime to build your own beast. Be on the lookout for dragons, gargoyles and werewolves, including Blackheart™, Torchwing™, Boulder™, Tempyst™ and Ironclaw™. Here’s the best part: collect them all and create your very own custom beast by mixing and matching the pieces. Keep your eyes peeled, these beasts are breaking out this season and you can hunt them down at a retailer near you. And don’t forget to join the discussion and share your Mega Construx™ Breakout Beasts™ sightings on social media using the hashtag #breakoutbeasts. We can’t wait to see what exciting surprises you dig up! Breakout Beasts™ hits SA shelves in February 2019. RRP R159.99, suitable for kids aged 6+ Learn more about Breakout Beasts™ here: Website: www.megaconstrux.com; Social media hashtag: #breakoutbeasts

March 3, 2019
Parenting Hub

90’S FAVOURITE POLLY POCKET™ MAKES A COMEBACK!

Mattel relaunches the original micro-scale doll with a surprise in every compact  to show kids that “tiny is mighty!” Do you remember Polly Pocket™? Almost 30 years since Polly Pocket™ first launched, Mattel announces the relaunch of Polly Pocket™ – available in South Africa from February onwards – in the original one-inch micro-scale and compacts that made her a 90’s phenomenon! First launched in 1989, Polly Pocket™ was the first ever micro-doll and went on to sell over 10 million compacts. With many original Polly Pocket™ fans, parents can now introduce their children to Polly’s world. With the ’90s making a resurgence, what better time to bring back the beloved micro-playsets and define Polly Pocket™ for a new generation of kids.  The new Polly Pocket™ launches a refreshed look that nods to the brand’s heritage and surprise factor, with new miniature worlds and a surprise in every compact for the 21st-century girl. Along with the new product, there is new content, and a new ethos – “Tiny is Mighty.”  Polly is often told she is “too little” to do the things she wants to do. But Polly proves what every kid already knows…that being little isn’t a limitation, it’s her greatest strength.   Polly Pocket™ products are about a tiny world full of unexpected surprises that can fit in your hand and you can take anywhere with you. Childrens’ imaginations are ready to be unlocked with each compact, discovering fun locations and playing out great Polly Pocket™ adventures.  Open the Flamingo Floatie compact to reveal a flamingo-themed pool party! In the Cupcake compact imagine Polly is cooking and singing with her friends! Or reveal a tiny chalet in the “Snow Globe” where they can have some winter fun together! Miniature compact themes also include Polly’s Picnic, Lila’s Closet, Shani’s Camping Trip, Polly’s Beach Vibes Backpack and many more that kids will love collecting.  “Tiny is Mighty” ethos has been the inspiration for new animated content which will bring to life Polly and her friends as they embrace big adventures in a shrunken size, thanks to Polly’s magic locket. Girls can watch more on the Polly Pocket™ Youtube channel, while the animated TV series will air early 2019. With Polly Pocket™, no dream is too big and no adventure is too small! Polly Pocket™ hits SA shelves in February and Polly Pocket Tiny Pocket Places compacts start from  RRP R129.99, suitable for kids aged 4+ Learn more about Polly here: Website: www.pollypocket.com, Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/pollypocket, Social media Hashtag: #pollypocket 

March 3, 2019
Parenting Hub

Want a second chance at matric? Distance education can help you

Thousands of learners who finished their matric studies last year have already started 2019 in earnest with many beginning tertiary education or embarking on a new job. While the majority of these matriculants have moved on from their schooling careers already, there are those who would like a second chance. Some matric learners may have obtained their National Senior Certificate but are unhappy with their final pass results. In many instances, it isn’t always possible for these learners to return to their school and rewrite one or more subjects the year afterwards. Additionally, there are thousands of learners who unfortunately didn’t meet the pass requirements for matric. “In light of this, most people in South Africa would probably have the perception that once you’ve done your matric – you’re done. But this isn’t true,” says Louise Schoonwinkel, GM of Impaq, a subsidiary of FutureLearn group. “You can always go back through a distance education provider such as Impaq and redo one or all of your subjects to improve your marks and get the pass you want. Moreover, you can do this with a high degree of flexibility from home, during your own time,” Schoonwinkel. With over 16 000 registered learners in 2018, Impaq is well known as being South Africa’s leading provider of home and distance education solutions for learners from Grade R – Grade 12. Impaq is also well-suited to helping learners redo matric in South Africa because it follows the Curriculum Assessment Policy Statements (CAPS) and is registered with the assessment body,  SACAI, which is quality assured by Umalusi. SACAI is also one of the national assessment bodies that manage the National Senior Certificate examination along with the IEB and Department of Basic Education. How it works Regardless of the assessment body that learners were previously registered with, any matric candidate who had a final examination sitting – either last year or even in previous years – can register with Impaq to improve or repeat Grade 12. The final deadline to do this is 15 February 2019. When it comes to Grade 12 candidates who register as repeaters, there are two options. 1. Learners who are repeating their school-based assessment portfolio and the final examination. For this option, the candidate has to redo all the tasks and tests, as well as the June exam and the preliminary and final examinations. The candidate may redo all their subjects or only certain subjects. 2. Learners who are only repeating the final examination. For this option, the candidate should have had a sitting for the NSC Final Examination and should have a complete and valid School-Based Assessment, or SBA (this involves tasks and tests as well as the June and preliminary examination). In this instance, the candidate will only rewrite the final examination at the end of the academic year and their current SBA will be submitted as part of the final mark. (It’s important to bear in mind that the SBA is only valid for three years.) In both options, learners have access to 25 subjects (including the likes of IT and Religion Studies). “If you’re looking to improve upon your matric, there is hope for you and the tools for you to achieve this. Experts at Impaq are also available to assist you with any queries you may have,” says Schoonwinkel. For learners who are interested in finding out more and registering, they can do so by clicking this link: https://www.impaq.co.za/improve-matric-results/

March 2, 2019
Bonitas – innovation, life stages and quality care

Bonitas gives back

Members of Bonitas Medical Fund will now have access to free lifestyle vouchers as well as discounted offers on gap cover and financial services products through the Fund’s new multi-insurer platform. This is not another Loyalty programme. ‘Our members’ health has always been a priority and we strive to make healthcare as affordable as possible,’ says Gerhard van Emmenis, Principal Officer of Bonitas. ‘And while our various plans offer a host of benefits, we know that in difficult financial times money matters can add to stress levels.  For this reason, we have adopted a multi-insurer platform which offers members discounted lifestyle vouchers as well as exclusive offers on gap cover and various insurance products.’ The past 12 months have been extremely difficult for consumers, impacted by the increase in VAT, the fuel levy and the resulting escalating prices. This has increased the burden placed on consumers struggling to make ends meet.  ‘In 2017 a Financial Wellness Indicator revealed that 73.5% of South African households were financially unwell,’ says Van Emmenis.  ‘2019 is no different. Consumers are cash strapped so being able to align with strategic partners to offer a comprehensive and tangible way to relieve the money pressure while helping them find them some ‘extra’ money, will go a long way to keeping them physically and financially healthy.’  A report published last year, which reviewed rewards programmes in South Africa, indicated that there are around 100+ existing loyalty programmes with the average consumer subscribed to about nine. ‘The economic landscape is tough to navigate and we didn’t want to add to the pressure already placed on our members by offering a loyalty programme for which they would have to pay an additional monthly fee for. Our multi-insurer platform is premised on negotiating exclusive deals to the benefit of our members.  ‘They are designed to add real value aligned to member needs.’ Van Emmenis explains. In brief: These do not cost anything  There are no points No levels of membership You don’t have to work for rewards The model is split in two.  One: Free monthly discount lifestyle shopping vouchers to offset daily living expenses These are available from over 30 retailers and 6 000 outlets countrywide, such as Shoprite, Takealot and Edgars, as well as for airtime and data purchases and electricity. ‘The deals are aimed at the average South African, with discount vouchers for groceries, data, airtime and electricity. There are also discounts on activewear and gym membership to encourage a healthier lifestyle,’ Van Emmenis says. Two: Discounted financial service products through Medgap and Indie MedGap offers comprehensive gap cover at a discount of up to 26% exclusively for Bonitas members.  Indie offers various financial products such as a funeral, critical illness or disability cover, as well as income protection at a discounted premium, together with a free investment at no extra cost.  Indie will match and invest up to 110% of Bonitas’ member’s life insurance premiums, with cash drops every five years. The multi-insurer platform is supported by a new, revamped member zone to allow members to manage their medical aid 24/7, on any device. This includes submitting claims, applying for chronic medicine and viewing benefits clearly signalling a new era of medical aid has dawned. 

March 2, 2019
Breastpumps and Beyond

How To Make Messy Eating Easier With The Twistshake Mini Click Mat

Messy eating is a hugely important part of the developmental phase for all children. However, it can also be slightly harrowing on mom and dad. This is where the Twistshake Mini click Mat comes in! This ingenious meal time addition will not only help your baby still get the pleasures out of self-feeding, but also make mess minimal for you as the parent. Read on to find out more about why your baby needs to make a mess whilst eating, and how the Twistshake Mini Click Mat will make things easier.  Why You Should Celebrate Messy Eating From Your Little One Meal times can often leave parents in states of shock when they see the aftermath. However, did you know that this is crucial to your baby’s development? Here are the top reasons why self-feeding is important to your little one: A Healthy Relationship With Food Is Born By allowing your child the pleasures of feeling their food, they will begin to experience the joy that food can bring. By being allowed to squish their pumpkin through their fingers, they will fine tune the art to enjoying their food. This enjoyment, is accompaniment with them discovering new flavours they like, and allowing them to eat their own chosen amount at their own pace, leads to a healthy relationship with food. Quantity And Speed Is Important As previously mentioned in the point above, giving your baby the freedom to determine how much to eat, and what speed they’re comfortable eating it at, can really help them shape healthy eating habits. This point has some of the most incredible benefits for your baby. By allowing them to stop eating once full, you are helping decrease their likelihood of developing dangerous health problems such as obesity or eating disorders at a later stage.  Picky Eating Is Avoided By instilling the enjoyment of eating into your baby from a young age, you are also opening the doors to them trying more foods. They will be curious to experience the textures, tastes and smells of different things, thus broadening their pallet and not restricting it to certain flavours.  How The Twistshake Click Mat Will Alleviate Some Of Your Mess Stress While self-feeding is hugely beneficial to your baby, the mess left behind can leave a parent’s nerves on edge. This is where the Twistshake Mini Click Mat comes in. This incredible product secures itself to your table surface, and the click mechanism allows you to click Twistshake plates and bowls onto its surface. This minimalizes the surface area of mess your baby will make. Gone are the days of bowls being flung to the floor! Thanks to this product, your little one will still get the pleasures of self-feeding, but in a controlled area, making mess less for you in the long run. 

March 1, 2019
Parenting Hub

Autism in Adults

The Adult Programme for People with Autism (APPAutism) is a registered non-profit company that aims to provide support for adults with moderate to severe Autism who are unable to independently perform the tasks required of adult life, following the principle of life-long learning, in a supported environment. Autism is a lifelong developmental disability that affects how a person communicates with and relates to, other people, and their ability to function in the world around them. It is a spectrum condition, which means that, while all people with autism share certain difficulties, their condition will affect them in different ways. The majority manifest with moderate to severe learning and behavioural disabilities and need a lifetime of specialist support. The nature of the disability is such that it requires intervention and management that is specific to the condition.  There are very few centres in South Africa that cater to this need. APPAutism’s mission is to prepare adults over the age of 18 for life outside of the schooling environment, by implementing a programme of meaningful activities and interactions with the aim of developing the skills and behaviours required for these adults to be able to maximize their potential and integrate into their environments. It aims to provide a happy environment with varied activities and programmes which are individualised and where members feel they belong. The Programme The programme is highly structured. Every day includes components of daily living skills; vocational skills (at the many facilities within REEA); communication and socialisation skills; cognitive skills, and leisure and well-being activities Participants are taken twice a week to a fully operational protective workshop, where they work supervision by a job coach in order to develop their ability to work in a protective workshop environment. The programme provides for a varied and stimulating day, combining group work, individual work, and community interaction; as well as combining pre-vocational and vocational skill development, with activities that are enjoyable and fun There is a high staff to adult ratio. (One staff member per five participants. The programme is individualised as far as possible to the specific strengths of each person. Each person will have an Individual Daily Life Plan which incorporates goals/ activities related to the social, emotional, work, and familial aspects of their lives. APPA is a non-profit company. However monthly fees are charged in order to maintain the varied extent of the programme, and the high staff to student ratio. We are open from 08:00 to 15:00 daily, Monday to Friday, with an annual holiday break in December. Daily Living Activities : Aim: To develop and build self-help skills, leading to independence, in the areas of dressing, hygiene, food preparation, meal-times; housekeeping duties. Examples of activities may be: preparing food/snacks; laying the table; eating together; independent eating skills; sweeping; loading dishwasher; hanging up clothes; feeding pets; laying the table; etc Protective Workshop Activities : Aim: To identify the “best-fit” workshop/work activities that leverage both the interests and the capabilities of the adult. This may include daily workshop time either in the REEA facility or in an external facility that has been identified. Or it may include partial workshop activity time, e.g. for a couple of hours twice a week. This will depend on the ability of the individual to stay on task for long periods of time. Examples of activities may be: Sorting, packaging; compiling; assembling; office work; Working in the gardens; Part-time work at already established protective workshop centres; Dog walking; Any other work in and around the facility Leisure and Well Being: Aim: To replicate a normal, fulfilling day with balanced activities to ensure the quality of life and to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Examples of activities may be: Walking/hiking/exercising; Art lessons; Music Therapy; Watching TV/listening to movies; Restaurant/movies/ten pin bowling; “Me” time; Dancing/ ball play/soccer; Shopping Communication and Socialisation Aim: To continue to develop appropriate communication skills, and socially appropriate, adaptive behaviours, and work on diminishing socially inappropriate behaviours. These specific skills are inherent and form part of all other activities at the centre. Group socialisation sessions are held weekly led by a qualified social worker. AAC communication devices or systems are encouraged. Cognitive Aim: To continue to reinforce and build on academic skills obtained during schooling years Examples of activities may be: Numeracy and basic math’s; English and writing skills; Money skills; Computer Skills; Fine motor and gross motor development Facilities Here we have combined our own specific programme, in our own custom venue, with the facilities available at REEA. The facilities available to us include: A specific area custom designed for APPA (Adult Programme for People with Autism) A homely environment A large kitchen and laundry for life skills A fully catered dining room for lunchtime meals Large gardens Right on the border with Delta Park for walks and physical activities A medical/emergency room, staffed with a full-time nurse Horseriding facilities on the property Indoor swimming facility nearby

March 1, 2019
Parenting Hub

The link between emotional challenges and poor academic performance

Have you ever considered that your child’s struggles at school may be because of emotional challenges? The academic year, as we are already aware, hold many stressors for children. What we are not always conscious of is that a child’s emotional state can directly affect the need to perform academically. In fact, according to Kerry De Jager, Head Franchisor at Step Up Education Centres, South Africa says, “Children who are experiencing emotional challenges (pain, uncertainty, family challenges, low self-esteem and fear) are more likely to struggle with the academic demands of formal schooling.” Think of a time as an adult, for example, where you have had an emotional challenge. “It is incredibly difficult to focus on our jobs and careers when our emotional state is one of pain, blame or demotivation. As an adult we have developed the skills needed to cope with stress and anxiety and yet our emotional state sometimes hinders our ability to function in the workplace,” Kerry explains.  She adds that developmentally some children are not yet ready to deal with these stresses and furthermore an emotional immature child will not have the coping skills to deal with the way their emotions make them feel. As the stresses of the year creep up on them, their emotional state will have a greater and greater impact on their ability to concentrate on their academic work. “An emotionally stable learner is able to take in and retain new information more effectively. Concentration skills are better and social relationships are a great deal more positive.” Kerry gives the following tips to parents who you have a child who is struggling at school: It is important to look at your child as a unique individual and realise that academic performance cannot be looked at in isolation. If your child has not performed as well as what you expected, try and find out why.  Aim at honest non-judgemental conversations that will enable you to understand the emotional state that your child has been in during the academic year.  Are they emotionally able to cope with the grade that they are in? Has it been a particularly difficult year at home? Has your child had a significant change in their lives like a new sibling or perhaps a divorce? Has there been a change in friends at school or at social clubs? All these questions may provide some insight into why they have not performed as well as you anticipated.  They will also afford you an opportunity to work together to find positive solutions. Remember that everyone wants to achieve success, whether they are willing to admit it or not! It is not in their nature to want to fail. Our role as parents is to guide, support, encourage and motivate our children to rise above the challenges of life to achieve the best version of themselves! “Each child is unique and their needs all differ. If you take the time to try and understand why a child is performing the way they are, it is a huge step in the right direction. Be patient with your children as they navigate the world with you at their side!” Kerry Concludes.

February 28, 2019
Toptots Head Office

Teaching a toddler how to cut

We are often asked by moms in our classes – “When do I start to teach my toddler to cut?”   Followed by: “How do I do it? Isn’t it dangerous?”  We hope to answer some of your questions here and put your mind at ease. Cutting is a fine motor skill and hence takes a little longer to develop. Remember we develop from the large muscles to the small muscles and seeing as some of the smallest muscles are in the hands, it takes a toddler at least 2 years before he can start to understand the mechanics behind cutting.   Cutting helps to develop eye hand coordination – for example holding a piece of paper in one hand and cutting with the other while watching where you are cutting with your eyes.  Bilateral coordination is also developed which is being able to use both sides of the body at the same time in a controlled manner.  Remember it’s not easy to try and cut out a shape, holding onto the piece of paper, turning it as you are cutting and at the same time opening and closing the scissors to perform the task.   It is also important to discuss the correct scissor grip.  By using the correct scissor grip you can make cutting skills develop more naturally and with less effort, thus making the process more enjoyable. The correct scissor grip for this age group is for the child to place their thumb in the top loop and both their index and middle fingers in the bottom loop.  As they become a little older (approximately 5 years of age) they can change to a more refined grip of having their thumb in the top loop and their middle finger in the bottom loop and their index finger supporting the bottom of the scissors. So what scissors do you start with? Use toddler safety scissors.  Also make sure that the bottom hole is big enough to fit the two little fingers in. This all helps the toddler gain control over the scissors.  You can also purchase scissors that are designed to be used by left and right handed children. First step is to show your toddler how to use scissors appropriately and to learn to always put them away after use.  They must be taught the basic safety rules of using a pair of scissors – to never run around with scissors in their hands and that scissors are for cutting paper – nothing else! If these rules are broken, the scissors are to be put away until another time.   All cutting activities must be done under adult supervision at all times. Exposure to scissors should be between 1.5 and 2 years of age, starting with learning how to open and close the scissors.  At this stage they are not ready to cut up paper.  Show him where to place his fingers and practice opening and closing the scissors. Then give him some play dough that’s been rolled out to cut. No matter the action if he opens and closes the scissors it will cut.   Once he has mastered the open close action, he now needs to practice snipping. Remember we are not looking for perfection here.   Cut pieces of cardboard into thin pieces and let him snip, snip, snip. Practice makes perfect.  There won’t be any forward movement on the cardboard with the scissors, just small snipping motions.  Only at about 2.5 to 3 years of age will your child start to move the scissors in the forward cutting motion. Draw some short wide- apart lines on paper.  Show him how to hold the paper with thumbs up.  You can even stick a sticker on each thumb nail so that he knows they have to face up when cutting. He now just snips the lines drawn. Again we are not looking for perfection.  Exposure to cutting is going to help make them master the skill. Just remember that he won’t be able to cut along the drawn lines accurately as he is not quite there developmentally.  Between the ages of 3 and 3.5 years your child will start to use his non dominant hand to help “turn” the paper when cutting and by the time he hits the age of 4 years of age he should be able to cut along a straight line of about 15cms. Some tips Always start off by cutting play dough Thin card is easier to learn to cut on than paper Take strands of wool, knotted at the top and let your toddler snip them into smaller pieces Cut plastic straws and let her string them afterwards to make a necklace Cutting flower stems and leaves are great fun as well. Learning to use scissors is a complicated task and this skill wil only improve with lots of practice.  Have patience during the process and your child will eventually master the skill of cutting.

February 28, 2019
Parenting Hub

Review: Chicco First Dreams Next2Dreams 3-in-1 cot Mobile

The 3-in-1 cot mobile by Chicco’s First Dreams range is fully compatible with most cot designs which makes this a must when planning your nursery.  The cot mobile comes with 4 soft fabric characters, gentle night light and 15 mixtures of soothing sounds.  What makes this cot mobile unique is that you can simply remove the electronic panel and attach it to your stroller, keeping baby happy both in their cot as well as their stroller. The 20 minutes of classical music featuring famous composers like Chopin, Schumann and OftenBach will aid your baby in falling asleep in no time or you can choose white noise as well for them.  The mobile itself has a sound detector that is perfectly sensitive. The volume is perfect and the mobile does not move faster than a little one can track!  Then when your little one’s outgrows the mobile you simply remove the plush items and you are left with a music box for your little one as well!  Available from leading online retailers and in a store near you!

February 27, 2019
Hero Life

Single parenting financial tips

Being a parent is challenging enough, but when you’re doing it solo, you have double the time, financial and resource demands. You’re likely reliant on one income, but still have current expenses and concerns, as well as longer-term considerations such as life insurance and education policies. Single parents have little margin for error when it comes to their finances and we at Hero Life have some practical strategies for balancing present and future financial requirements. Save It sounds so easy, but in practice it’s tough, especially when there are always expenses, a and new ones come up. You need to find ways to save that make sense – whether it’s setting up a debit order on your bank account for a savings plan, only eating takeout once a month, only buying clothes on sale, scouring supermarkets for grocery specials, or packing lunch to take to work. The key to changing spending behaviour is by creating a goal, and starting small. Begin by switching off lights when you don’t need them to save electricity, or waiting a while before buying those shoes, or limiting yourself to one impulse buy a month. You could save hundreds of rands a month, which equates to thousands by the end of the year. This money can be saved for emergencies, or put towards education policies or increased life cover. Create a budget It’s boring and admin-heavy, but by figuring out your fixed and variable expenses, and looking at your bank statements, you’ll see exactly where your money is going, which will help you make smart decisions on what you could cut out of your life. You’ll likely find that you’re spending money on things you don’t need, or you’ll see opportunities where you could be paying less for something. You could also try the 50-20-30 budget method: 50% of your net income should go towards your needs, 30% towards your wants, and 20% to your savings and debt repayments. If you’d like guidance here or don’t know where to start, chat to us at Hero Life – we’ll happily guide you through the process. Protect yourself and your things Having a will, life insurance and medical aid aren’t luxuries. You might think that because you and your family are generally healthy, or that you don’t have a lot of assets, you don’t need medical aid or a will. Or you might think that because you’re fairly young, you don’t need life insurance, or that your kids will be provided for by their dad, or your parents. There are many things to consider if something happens to you – your kids’ education, first cars, weddings and general wellbeing, and you’ll be doing them a big disservice if you leave them with nothing. These things are important, and without them, you could be left with debt, your kids could be left with no assets and lots of debt too, and you could be compromising heavily on your savings and your financial future. If you’re unsure of where to start, or worried about how to afford it everything and how to budget, then chat to us at Hero Life. At Hero Life we’re happily helping young South African families with their finances and pointing them in the right direction. Hero Life is a company that offers a free online Will, helps you to start saving for your kids’ education, and offers life insurance, designed specifically for young parents. Hero Life is an MMI Group initiative, and underwritten by Guardrisk Life Limited (Reg no 1999/013922/06), an authorised Financial Services Provider (FSP license number 76). This material has been prepared for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide financial advice. Visit herolife.co.za for more info or WhatsApp us at +27 73 916 9367 to learn more. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herolifeZA/    #BeAHero #SuperSavvy #HeroParents

February 27, 2019
Panado®

Pregnancy and Migraine

Pregnancy is an exciting time for many women. Unfortunately pregnant women also suffer from headaches and migraines, and tend so self-medicate with over the counter medication.  According to Dr Elliot Shevel, Medical Director of The Headache Clinic, and South Africa’s internationally recognized Migraine expert and pioneer in the field of Migraine Surgery, “Often the migraines or headaches worsen during the first trimester (the first three months of pregnancy), but don’t despair – in 70 % of women the migraines get better in the second and third trimesters. Unfortunately medication is not a good option during pregnancy, and the only pain medication that is safe is Panado or Paracetamol,” he says. “Unfortunately pregnant women who suffer from migraines with aura, (a term used to refer to warning signs of migraine such as seeing zigzag lines before the pain starts), usually don’t find relief in the second half of their pregnancy and have less chance of improvement.” Two studies show that many pregnant women rely on over the counter medication. The first study, published in the Journal of the Pakistan Medical Association, showed “a significant number of pregnant women relied on over-the-counter medication”. A descriptive cross-sectional study was conducted at Isra University Hospital in Pakistan for six months and comprised of 351 pregnant women who were interviewed face to face. Overall, 223 (63.5%) patients were using over the counter drugs before pregnancy and 128 (36.5%) had used them in a previous pregnancy. A further 133 (37.9%) were using the medications during the current pregnancy. Quite worrying is that a total of 103(77.4%) had no knowledge about the possible harmful effects of the medication they were taking. Whilst this study highlighted the frequent use of over the counter medications in pregnant women, another study, published in Headache: The Journal of Head and Face Pain, indicates most women experience automatic relief during their 2nd and 3rd trimesters.  So is surgery a viable option in pregnant women? One of the most successful treatment methods for migraine is to close off the small arteries under the skin of the scalp that cause the pain (not the arteries in the brain), by means of minimally invasive surgery. Commenting on the surgery during pregnancy, Dr Shevel says, ‘We usually wouldn’t do the surgery during the first three months of the pregnancy because the drugs used in the sedation or anaesthetic may affect the fetus and cause problems. After the first trimester the operation is safe to perform, but we prefer to wait until the baby is born to avoid any possible unforeseen complications. Sometimes however, an expectant mother is just in so much pain that the operation can’t wait.”  Other pressing issues Expectant mothers always have a lot of questions about headaches and migraines. Here are some answered:  Will the baby be affected by the trauma and pain of my headache? No, says Shevel. “There is no evidence to indicate this, but the baby can be affected by a medication the mother is using and that is why we are saying only Panado or Paracetamol is safe.”  Is there an ingredient in the pill that aggravates or makes headaches worse? The short answer is yes. “The pill contains a variety of different hormones, and changes in those hormone levels can affect the headaches. It is interesting to note however, that although they can make the headaches worse, they may also sometimes make them better – it’s impossible to predict.” What role does breastfeeding play? According to Shevel breastfeeding can also play a role. “If women breastfeed after birth the headaches usually stays away until the baby is weaned. “

February 26, 2019
Prima Baby

Next2 Stars Projector

Chicco present First Dreams, the ultimate multi-tech range of soothing toys especially designed with the perfect night’s sleep in mind. Why not introduce a soothing night light into your baby’s nursery at bedtime, to help ease the atmosphere and create a gentle environment for the to doze off in? The Next2 Stars Projector plays soft classical music and projects colour-rotating stars within the room to light up the walls and ceiling with magic.  The projector is perfect as an add-on to any travel or wooden cot, or can be placed on bedside tables. As leaders in the baby products world, Chicco has, once again, tested the product appropriately and found it to be highly successful within sleep studies. The First Dreams Next2 Stars Projector is available in pastel pink and blue and is for sale at leading retailers and online vendors.

February 25, 2019
Parenting Hub

Helping your child make the most of repeating a Grade

When babies are learning to walk, they fall (or fail) many times over. Babies need to repeat the process (of learning to walk) over and over again, until they get it right and are able to move on to greater movement such as running, jumping and skipping. According to Cindy Glass, Owner and Founder of Step Up Education Centres, “These ‘failures’ are normal and natural processes in the act of learning to walk.  In fact, they are expected and hailed as signs of effort and future success!” She adds that as we grow older, our fear of failing and falling down tends to slow our progress and in some cases, even stop it altogether. “Children who ‘fail’ a grade, for example, often feel humiliated, ashamed, embarrassed and depressed. Their self-worth plummets and they often find it difficult to accept the fact that they will not be moving up to a new grade with their classmates.” Parents, too, struggle with a ‘failed’ grade as, so often, they see it as an indictment on their parenting. “And yet, if you think about it, ‘failing’ a grade is not all that different to trying to walk for the first time. Some skills need more time and attention to master and not all children learn at the same rate or even in the same way.” If your child is repeating a grade in 2019, Cindy gives you some tips to help him/her in understanding and embracing the gift of being given this opportunity to learn more effectively: There is no such thing as failing a grade. It is time to speak a different language. Your child has not yet mastered the building blocks needed to move on to a new grade. He/she is being given an opportunity to REPEAT a grade in order to master these important skills. Address the elephant in the room through open and honest communication. Speak to your child about them having to repeat the grade. Find out how they feel and what they will need from you in order to move forward with a positive outlook. Non-judgmental conversations are essential at this time. Help your child to own and embrace the repeat. Help them to see it as a learning opportunity. Senior learners who may not have worked to their potential (resulting in having to repeat) need to identify and OWN the mistakes that they had made and look to the future knowing that they can and must make better choices for themselves. Extra tuition at this time is highly recommended. Choose an environment that focuses on building self-esteem and emotional intelligence skills as well as academic skill. Teach your child that they are not LESS of a person for having to repeat their grade- they have simply taken a different path to their classmates. Keeping your child’s self-esteem intact while still teaching them to take responsibility for their learning is going to be your biggest challenge as a parent. “Having to repeat the grade can be a tough experience for parents and learners, but it need not be the end of the world. YOU are your child’s greatest teacher. How you choose to move forward will set the tone for how well your child is able to adapt to the situation,” concludes Cindy.

February 22, 2019
Parenting Hub

How to teach the essential skill of self-awareness to your children

Life on earth is a rollercoaster ride of emotions and our reactions to these emotions. All too often, we coaster through life, unaware of our behavioral choices and even worse, unable to consider the possibility that we could have made better choices for ourselves along the way. According to Cindy Glass, Founder and Owners of Step Up Education Centres says, “Self-awareness is the first skill in emotional intelligence and it sets the precedent for the growth and development of all emotional intelligence skills. Being able to look at ourselves honestly, and without negative judgement, will enable and empower us to achieve greater success in all that we do. This, of course, applies to our children and their personal and academic learning as well.” She adds that self-awareness skills will help your children become aware of their emotions and behaviours and make better choices in all that they do. They will also experience better personal relationships as they become aware of the emotions, behaviours and choices of others. “It is important to note that self-awareness includes skills in being aware of positive and negative emotions, behaviours and choices. It is about learning to own these choices, learn from the mistakes and consider what behaviours will be best in any situation,” Cindy explains. She offers the following helpful tips to teach your child this essential life skill: Create an environment where your children are free to recognise and acknowledge their mistakes and achievements in a non-judgmental, non-frightening way. Remember that it is fear of negative consequences that often hold us back from admitting mistakes to ourselves. And yet, if we cannot own a mistake, how can we find a positive solution to fix it? Don’t allow the blame-game. Blaming others for the choices that we have made disempowers us and reduces our opportunity to grow and learn from our choices and experiences. You are your child’s first and most powerful teacher – set the example! Teach your children the power of self-awareness by being self-aware! Remember that we are all on that rollercoaster that we call life and learning is a life-long gift. Teach your children to be kind to themselves in their uniqueness and imperfections, just as you are kind toward yourself. Teach your children to recognise and honour their own talents and not to compare themselves to anyone else. We must remember that we are ALL on this journey and we all have interesting and wonderful ways in which we can choose to live our lives. Different is not less. Non-judgmental self-awareness is essential. Positive self-worth is everything! “Learning the essential skill of self-awareness will bring about more positive learning and it will go a long way in ensuring that we live happier, more fulfilled lives.  Which parent would not want this for themselves and their children?” concludes Cindy.

February 22, 2019
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