When You Need to Pick Yourself Up

Sometimes life doesn’t go according to plan. You have this idea about something that you want to do or achieve, and you put all your focus, effort and energy into it, and then, boom! – it backfires, leaving you with waves of thoughts of ‘what if’s’ and an aftermath of emotions to deal with.

This has happened to me a few times. My plan didn’t go according to plan, which left me with a “now what?” situation.

I did not think things wouldn’t go according to plan. In fact, I thought it was a done deal I was that confident about the situation.

So what does one do when faced with this scenario?

Well, you stop looking back. You stop over analyzing. You stop asking yourself ‘what if’?

You pick yourself up, you forgive yourself and you focus on moving forward.

The greatest growth comes from the insights you get from these experiences. How you apply this new found knowledge is what moves your forward instead of keeping you stuck in the past.

Quick exercise

When you find yourself in a situation like this, ask yourself these questions:

• How badly did I want this goal in the first place?
• Did I do the best I could in this situation?
• Was there anything I could have done differently?
• Would the outcome have been different if I took this action?
• What will achieving this goal do for me?
• How will it make me feel?
• Is it worth the sacrifices I need to make to get it?
• What do I need to do to achieve this goal going forward?

Reflection time

Failure is not final – it’s feedback. It’s a second chance to start over and to do things differently.

It gives us wisdom and experience. It gives us insight and knowledge. It gives us the ability to dig deep within ourselves and to tap into our inner knowing and being.

It guides us to look at a situation from a different perspective.

Knowing the answers to these questions assists us to make better decisions and to discern whether these goals are in line with our divine truth.