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The Twistshake Divide Plate: Everything You Need To Know About ​This Product

The Twistshake Divide Plate is a must have for all moms and dads out there. This product works closely in connection with the Twistshake Mini Click Mat, which we have also reviewed this month. Take a look at why this a must have for your baby’s meal times and what makes up this ingenious product. The Twistshake Divide Plate Features The plate has been designed with anti-slip, meaning that it slips minimally on whatever table surface it is placed on The product is free from all harmful materials such as BPS, BPA and BPF The divides allow you to easily work out your baby’s portion sizes This product is both microwave and dish washer safe The ingenious Twistclick function allows you to easily stack and store, or transport, multiple divide plates More About The Twistshake Divide Plate As you can see above, there are a lot of great features which come with this plate. However, it offers more than just eating ease. Thanks to the design, the Twistshake Divide Plate also minimalizes the mess made during meal times.  Thanks to the anti-slip functionality of the plate, the likelihood of it sliding around the surface of the table is reduces phenomenally. However, when you pair it with the Twistshake Mini Click Mat, things become even more secure. The plate has the Twistclick ability to secure to the click mat. This means that it cannot be picked up by your baby. The Twistclick functionality also allows the plates to be stacked on top of one another. This reduces your storage space dramatically. This also makes for easy transport if you need to pack a meal for your little one on the go.  Free from all harmful materials, and being dishwasher and microwave safe, this little plate is a must have for all moms and dads. Get yours now!

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Does your child have enough space to play?

Play for a child, prepares them for adulthood with all life’s delights and contests. What better way to learn as a child than to be given the chance to play freely in large areas? One of my best memories as a child was of running around the field at Pre-school with my friends in tow, the real excitement at finding new treasure troves, making up games, and the tangible fear we felt, like when we had to climb a high jungle gym or run away from a scary dinosaur! Being brought onto the playground, where we would get stuck in exploring all the new possibilities there for fun, games and imagination. What a treat! Because I was fortunate enough to have a home with a large garden, I remember how liberated I felt being free to meander around without my parents watching me all the time, and how nature became my learning ground. However, I would imagine that this is not the case for most children because of the way society has changed and with many of us now living in townhouse complexes, some with very limited space. Today’s children get so few opportunities to play freely, because we understandably fear for their safety, be it the road or “stranger danger.” My own interest in play and children’s development stems from my experience of working as a Teacher and Principal for the past 27 years, where I meet the most amazing children and their parents every day and fortunately are willing to help them with any issues, usually related to their development, emotions or behaviour. From my work, research, studies and experience, I have gained a good sense of what children need to develop to their full potentials. Not a lot has been written on the benefits of playgrounds, which is surprising given that our children spend so much time in them. Below are 7 good reasons why children should have space to play, based on different aspects of a child’s development: Social, Brain and Language Development Children of all ages develop their social skills on a playground through the creation of “games”, like catch or make-believe play, where the equipment is turned into something else (e.g. obstacle course, hospital, school, etc), where children give themselves roles and they work out the “rules of the game” in cooperation. Playgrounds provide an opportunity for children to practice their social skills, to come up with solutions to problems, and to learn self-control in working out their conflicts. Play also encourages language development, as children often talk aloud during their play (e.g. “Look at me going down the big slide!”), and the interaction with their peers allows them to express their thoughts and feelings and to develop their understanding and spoken skills. I’ve noticed that children who don’t even speak the same language can get on just fine during play! Physical Development and Good Physical Exercise As children progress, they are drawn to different systems of play which encourage their development, like rough and tumble play. Children naturally seek this form of play, which helps them to work out their physical space in the world, where their body begins and where it ends. This is crucial for the development of their motor skills and spatial awareness. It’s FUN! Large open spaces encourage your children to get out there and move! It’s so much fun and exhilarating for them! Playing is your child’s most natural form of expression, regardless of their age, and when they are engaged in it they forget everything else and really enjoy the moment. By Elizabeth Steenkamp, Principal of Junior Colleges Castillian

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Getting your teen to communicate

One of the most common issues presented to counsellors and psychologists by desperate parents. Part of the problem is that we tend to look back on our own teenage years with rose-tinted glasses, refusing to believe that we were ever like this, choosing instead to blame tangible differences such as smartphones. While technology has certainly shifted the dynamic, it cannot be held to account for a breakdown of communication that occurs when the phones are in bags or pockets…so what then can be held to account?  The answer, in short, is science. Sarah-Jayne Blakemore, a cognitive neuroscientist from University College London, UK, used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) to scan the brains of adolescents and adults while they were questioned relating to decision-making. The study showed that teenagers rely on an area of the brain called the superior temporal sulcus, whereas adults use the front part, called the prefrontal cortex. The superior temporal sulcus processes very basic behavioural actions, while the prefrontal cortex is involved in complex functions such as processing how decisions affect other people. Blakemore also asked participants to make decisions about other people’s welfare and timed how long it took them to respond. She found that the response time got shorter as the participants got older, suggesting that the older people found it easier to put themselves in “other people’s shoes.” So now what do we do? We can blame science for the differences we encounter but those differences do not lessen just because we know they exist. The secret is a strategy. By employing these tips, you may find your child opening up a little more. These tips aren’t necessarily easy to put into place, but they are undoubtedly worth the effort.  Avoid saying “I understand but…” Just by using that phrase, you are demonstrating a lack of understanding (in your child’s eyes). Try to put yourself in their shoes first and try to avoid the defence mechanisms flaring up.  Avoid tricks or loaded questions. If you know that dishonesty in conduct was involved, do not pretend otherwise to try to trick your child into a confession. It is better to be upfront with the truth you know, as teenagers tend to see through ‘ruses’ very easily. Ask questions from a place of curiosity. Your questions should not be preludes to a lecture. Ask questions such as “If you did x, what do you think would be the consequence, as opposed to if you did y?” Try to understand their reasoning processes by encouraging critical thinking so that they can find their own way through – with your guidance if need be. Wait for the calm after the storm.  Do not confuse listening to conversation. Often parents complain that their children do not ever want to talk to them when what they mean is their children do not like to listen when they are lectured at, rather than conversed with.  Avoid going on the offensive or the defensive. As soon as either party feels accused, the conversation breaks down.  Make the point once, not five times. We often speak a lot more than we need to, using analogies and repetition to reinforce a point. Think about how it feels for you in the work boardroom and apply it to the kitchen table.  You do not need to act like a friend. Using teenage jargon is more likely to deepen the gap than lessen it.  Watch your language. Negatives can creep in without us meaning for them too. Your language often reflects your concerns but being mindful of this can prevent it. For example, avoid using words like “never”. Telling your child that they “never” talk to you will make it true. Rephrasing it into a positive such as, “I really appreciate you taking the time to tell me about your day” is more likely to prompt similar behaviour in the future. Avoid minimising their problems. Things that comfort adults, like the fact that “this won’t matter a year from now” does not comfort your teenager. This only creates a sense of isolation. The fact that it matters now is their reality, despite what you may know through life experience to be the logical truth.  Adjust your expectations if the situation calls for it. If your child has demonstrated responsibility and maturity, you may wish to make a curfew later, for example.  Choose your battles. This adage is a cliché for a reason. If you are going to create an argument, rather argue over an issue of safety (such as getting into a drunk person’s car) rather than the state of a bedroom where the clothes do not seem to make it into the cupboard.  Give advice when it is asked for – but keep your wisdom to yourself if it is not. Sometimes it is more valuable to let a mistake be made and subsequently learnt from than to deliver unsolicited advice. Watch out for complaining. Every single time we, as adults, complain about our work, our marriage, the commute etc., we are indirectly communicating that being an adult, in short, sucks. Maybe it does, but this invalidates anything we want to communicate to our children regarding advice or input. They see us as not being the best sources of advice because we indicate that we are not happy ourselves. Develop consequences with your child’s input. Jointly decide on a structure of “punishments to fit the crime” and negotiate until you find a middle ground. Teenagers are more likely to buy into disciplinary systems when they had a hand in creating them in the first place. You may even wish to introduce the idea of ‘parole’, where they can work off the consequence according to what was agreed on in advance. This allows them to demonstrate good behaviour and work off their consequences earlier, thus reinforcing good behaviour. References: https://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/better-communication-with-teens#1 http://understandingteenagers.com.au/blog/5-mistakes-adults-make-communicating-with-teenagers/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/rediscovering-love/201110/bionic-teens-effective-communication-techniques https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn10030-why-adolescents-put-themselves-first/

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Raising a Science Lover

We often think that science is reserved for high school children and that not all children will be able to excel in science or even enjoy it. This is not the case at all. In world driven by scientific and technological advancements, it’s essential to introduce our children to science from a young age. Inspiring a child to question and test is a large and fun part of learning about the world. After all, science is not about knowing, but rather a journey of discovering. Unfortunately, a lot of parents feel underqualified to take this journey with their children, especially those without any formal training in scientific fields. The good news is you do not need any special skills or training to raise a science lover! Here are few tips to inspire you: 1. Questions, questions, questions….. One of the fundamental aspects of science is asking questions. Encourage them. How does this work? Why did that happen? What is this?   These questions may already sound familiar to you as children are naturally curious. We need to encourage children to ask these questions and give them the tools and resources to find the answers. 2. Explore together Visits to the museum, botanical gardens, observatory, and even the local park can be full of interesting subjects for discussion and study.  Make notes, take pictures, make drawings of your findings, and revisit them when you get home. You could even combine scientific exploration with your next holiday! 3. Give boys and girls equal exposure and encouragement We often want to fix things and solve problems for girls without including them in the process. The scientific process knows no gender, and girls and boys are equally suited and interested in learning. Make sure to provide equal opportunity for learning by getting girls involved in activities that may not be traditionally girl-orientated and vice versa. 4. Be patient Allow your child to explore, experiment, and observe at their own pace. It’s also important for them to fail occasionally and try again. Our instincts are often to jump in and help at the first sign of a struggle, but this is counter productive. 5. Get the resources Try to provide as many reference books, activity books, online tutorials, and tools* as possible. Easy access to these resources makes learning easy and effortless. After an outing or a discussion, go to your resources  and look up all the things you’ve seen and spoken about. This provides an opportunity for further learning and also extends the time spent on science-related activities. 6. Be prepared for some mess Science can get messy! Make sure your child feels comfortable to experiment and allow her to make a mess in the name of science. As long as it is constructive mess, it’s worth the clean-up. Old clothes, an apron, and a plastic table cloth also help. 7. Listen to your child Give your child space to voice her opinion. Try to understand what they are observing and thinking and allow them to explain to you. You could find that you are looking at the same object but seeing completely different things.   *A microscope is an invaluable tool to encourage exploration and deepen learning. You can get an ultra-affordable origami-inspired Foldscope online from www.scibuddy.co.za. Foldscopes are durable, easy-to-use, and portable, with 140× magnification. They are available as individual kits or classroom kits containing 20 or 100 units. Deluxe Individual Kits contain an extensive set of accessories to collect specimens and prepare slides. These kits are packaged in a beautiful metal case making it easy for little explorers to keep their Foldscope close at hand.  SciBuddy is the exclusive distributor of Foldscopes in South Africa. The owner, Arista Burke, has a background in microbiology and education. She believes that Foldscopes will be a gamechanger for South African children.  To find out more about SciBuddy and Foldscope, visit www.scibuddy.co.za or their Facebook page, www.facebook.com/SciBuddySA.   

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Feel The Beat: Drumming at Sugar Bay

Do you want an African drum beat master at your next party? Well our campers should be on your speed dial! Drumming has become a phenomenon at the Bay where we see our campers create extraordinary rhythm and beats with the djembe drum. The djembe drum is said to have been invented in the 12th century by the Mandinke tribe in what is now Mali, West Africa. The djembe has a great cultural heritage in Africa and still has a weighty presence in African rituals. The body of the drum is made from a single piece of tree trunk and topped with goatskin, providing the djembe with a piercing high-pitched tone. The Mandinke people believed that the Lenge trees held great spiritual importance while also lending its trunk to make the drum. It is said that the drum consists of three spirits: the spirit of the tree from which it was made, the spirit of the animal which covers the head and the spirit of the drum-maker. The term djembe originates from the Bambara saying “Anke dje, anke be” which translates to “everyone gather in peace”, creating a sacredness around the drum. Traditionally, the djembe was only played by men during ritual ceremonies like weddings, courtship, hunting, circumcision and passing into adulthood. The drum has a very unique and distinctive design, which is fundamental to its versatile sound. There are 3 main sounds that can be played by the djembe, here are a few steps to get you started on playing. Bass Hit the center of the drum with your open hand. You want to bounce your whole hand against the skin to get that deep, low pitch. By bouncing your hand off the drum, the tones are left to resonate. The bass is the core of playing the drum.  Tone For a tone, you’ll be using your fingers and the edge of the palm. Move your hand towards you until your knuckles are just off the edge of the drum. Your fingers should be over the drumhead. Strike the drumhead, slide your fingers off the head and follow with the edge of your palm striking the drum. Repeat.  Slap  Slap sounds are played similarly to the tone. You put your hand on the edge of the drum, but instead of playing with a flat hand, you’ll slightly curve your fingers. Contact between the drum and your hand should be the fingertips and the edge of the palm. The slap produces crack and a bright sound. The pocket of space under the palm gives it a hollow sound. And there you have it, you’re on your way to becoming an African beat master.

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BANKING YOUR BREASTMILK SAVES LIVES

The breastmilk bank is probably the most altruistic banking system in the world. Healthy, lactating moms express and donate their excess breastmilk. The milk is tested and pasteurised, and then distributed to neo-natal intensive care units around the country, where it is used to feed the most vulnerable babies. Every year, donated breastmilk saves the lives of thousands of vulnerable babies in South Africa.  Eight out of one hundred babies in the country are born prematurely and, every year, approximately 11 000 premature babies die from preventable infections and complications.   “All babies have immature immune systems,” says Abby Courtenay, a Registered Dietitian and spokesperson for ADSA (The Association for Dietetics in South Africa), “Breastfeeding plays a vital role in transferring not just nutrients but antibodies and other immune-boosting properties to an infant to strengthen the immune system and protect them against infections.  This is why breastmilk is the perfect first food, and why the World Health Organisation recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months of life.” Many mothers giving birth to premature babies in neo-natal intensive care units don’t produce milk immediately, or enough of it. Some mothers experience health complications and cannot breastfeed.  If their babies can be fed donated breastmilk instead of formula, it dramatically increases the baby’s chance of survival and offers greater protection against life-threatening infections such as the intestinal infection – necrotising enterocolitis. Donated breastmilk also helps premmies to gain weight and grow faster. This is why donated breastmilk is the next best option when the mother’s own  milk is not available.   Breastmilk banking was pioneered in South Africa sixteen years ago by the South African Breastmilk Reserve (SABR) and, today, they have a network of 27 banking facilities across the country. The breastmilk movement in South Africa has since grown to include several other initiatives such as ithemba Lethu milk bank and children’s home in Durban, the KZN Breastmilk Bank Initiative and Milk Matters in the Western Cape. Every year, more than a thousand South African moms help save lives by donating their milk. “What we would like to see is breastmilk banking being used far more frequently,” says Executive Director and SABR founder, Stasha Jordan. “Expressing breastmilk has become the norm for many new moms who have to return to work while still breastfeeding. Some women have an abundant supply of breastmilk and can easily express more than their baby needs. That surplus can literally save the life of another child. Our donor moms are real heroes helping the most vulnerable in our society to survive.” SABR and ADSA have partnered to raise awareness of breastmilk banking, which is supported worldwide by both the World Health Organisation and UNICEF. Who can bank their breastmilk? A healthy, lactating mom with an excess of breastmilk can make donations. It’s important that you have not received a blood donation in the past year; that you are a non-smoker; that you do not consume alcohol regularly and that you are not on any medication. Donor mothers do need to undergo blood tests to be screened for HIV and hepatitis B. How does banking my breastmilk work? Donor moms complete an online screening questionnaire  SABR contacts you telephonically to refer you to your nearest sign-up facility.  Arrangements will be made for the necessary blood tests. You will receive all the information you need for the safe storage of your expressed milk, which will be collected from you. Your breastmilk will be screened, pasteurised and distributed to help save the lives of premature babies in neo-natal intensive care units.  Every drop counts and small donations can also be used, so don’t be put off from donating if you don’t have a particularly excessive supply. To find out more visit https://www.sabr.org.za 

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Get ready to unleash the Beasts!

Mattel South Africa is pleased to announce the launch of the coolest toy this season…  Breakout Beasts™! What are Breakout Beasts™ you ask? Great question! These five mystery beasts are hidden inside eggs and have an appetite for surprise – you never know which one you’re going to get! Crack open the eggs to release an exciting surprise – you have to dig out all the pieces from the gooey orange, blue or green slime to build your own beast. Be on the lookout for dragons, gargoyles and werewolves, including Blackheart™, Torchwing™, Boulder™, Tempyst™ and Ironclaw™. Here’s the best part: collect them all and create your very own custom beast by mixing and matching the pieces. Keep your eyes peeled, these beasts are breaking out this season and you can hunt them down at a retailer near you. And don’t forget to join the discussion and share your Mega Construx™ Breakout Beasts™ sightings on social media using the hashtag #breakoutbeasts. We can’t wait to see what exciting surprises you dig up! Breakout Beasts™ hits SA shelves in February 2019. RRP R159.99, suitable for kids aged 6+ Learn more about Breakout Beasts™ here: Website: www.megaconstrux.com; Social media hashtag: #breakoutbeasts

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90’S FAVOURITE POLLY POCKET™ MAKES A COMEBACK!

Mattel relaunches the original micro-scale doll with a surprise in every compact  to show kids that “tiny is mighty!” Do you remember Polly Pocket™? Almost 30 years since Polly Pocket™ first launched, Mattel announces the relaunch of Polly Pocket™ – available in South Africa from February onwards – in the original one-inch micro-scale and compacts that made her a 90’s phenomenon! First launched in 1989, Polly Pocket™ was the first ever micro-doll and went on to sell over 10 million compacts. With many original Polly Pocket™ fans, parents can now introduce their children to Polly’s world. With the ’90s making a resurgence, what better time to bring back the beloved micro-playsets and define Polly Pocket™ for a new generation of kids.  The new Polly Pocket™ launches a refreshed look that nods to the brand’s heritage and surprise factor, with new miniature worlds and a surprise in every compact for the 21st-century girl. Along with the new product, there is new content, and a new ethos – “Tiny is Mighty.”  Polly is often told she is “too little” to do the things she wants to do. But Polly proves what every kid already knows…that being little isn’t a limitation, it’s her greatest strength.   Polly Pocket™ products are about a tiny world full of unexpected surprises that can fit in your hand and you can take anywhere with you. Childrens’ imaginations are ready to be unlocked with each compact, discovering fun locations and playing out great Polly Pocket™ adventures.  Open the Flamingo Floatie compact to reveal a flamingo-themed pool party! In the Cupcake compact imagine Polly is cooking and singing with her friends! Or reveal a tiny chalet in the “Snow Globe” where they can have some winter fun together! Miniature compact themes also include Polly’s Picnic, Lila’s Closet, Shani’s Camping Trip, Polly’s Beach Vibes Backpack and many more that kids will love collecting.  “Tiny is Mighty” ethos has been the inspiration for new animated content which will bring to life Polly and her friends as they embrace big adventures in a shrunken size, thanks to Polly’s magic locket. Girls can watch more on the Polly Pocket™ Youtube channel, while the animated TV series will air early 2019. With Polly Pocket™, no dream is too big and no adventure is too small! Polly Pocket™ hits SA shelves in February and Polly Pocket Tiny Pocket Places compacts start from  RRP R129.99, suitable for kids aged 4+ Learn more about Polly here: Website: www.pollypocket.com, Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/pollypocket, Social media Hashtag: #pollypocket 

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Want a second chance at matric? Distance education can help you

Thousands of learners who finished their matric studies last year have already started 2019 in earnest with many beginning tertiary education or embarking on a new job. While the majority of these matriculants have moved on from their schooling careers already, there are those who would like a second chance. Some matric learners may have obtained their National Senior Certificate but are unhappy with their final pass results. In many instances, it isn’t always possible for these learners to return to their school and rewrite one or more subjects the year afterwards. Additionally, there are thousands of learners who unfortunately didn’t meet the pass requirements for matric. “In light of this, most people in South Africa would probably have the perception that once you’ve done your matric – you’re done. But this isn’t true,” says Louise Schoonwinkel, GM of Impaq, a subsidiary of FutureLearn group. “You can always go back through a distance education provider such as Impaq and redo one or all of your subjects to improve your marks and get the pass you want. Moreover, you can do this with a high degree of flexibility from home, during your own time,” Schoonwinkel. With over 16 000 registered learners in 2018, Impaq is well known as being South Africa’s leading provider of home and distance education solutions for learners from Grade R – Grade 12. Impaq is also well-suited to helping learners redo matric in South Africa because it follows the Curriculum Assessment Policy Statements (CAPS) and is registered with the assessment body,  SACAI, which is quality assured by Umalusi. SACAI is also one of the national assessment bodies that manage the National Senior Certificate examination along with the IEB and Department of Basic Education. How it works Regardless of the assessment body that learners were previously registered with, any matric candidate who had a final examination sitting – either last year or even in previous years – can register with Impaq to improve or repeat Grade 12. The final deadline to do this is 15 February 2019. When it comes to Grade 12 candidates who register as repeaters, there are two options. 1. Learners who are repeating their school-based assessment portfolio and the final examination. For this option, the candidate has to redo all the tasks and tests, as well as the June exam and the preliminary and final examinations. The candidate may redo all their subjects or only certain subjects. 2. Learners who are only repeating the final examination. For this option, the candidate should have had a sitting for the NSC Final Examination and should have a complete and valid School-Based Assessment, or SBA (this involves tasks and tests as well as the June and preliminary examination). In this instance, the candidate will only rewrite the final examination at the end of the academic year and their current SBA will be submitted as part of the final mark. (It’s important to bear in mind that the SBA is only valid for three years.) In both options, learners have access to 25 subjects (including the likes of IT and Religion Studies). “If you’re looking to improve upon your matric, there is hope for you and the tools for you to achieve this. Experts at Impaq are also available to assist you with any queries you may have,” says Schoonwinkel. For learners who are interested in finding out more and registering, they can do so by clicking this link: https://www.impaq.co.za/improve-matric-results/

Bonitas – innovation, life stages and quality care

Bonitas gives back

Members of Bonitas Medical Fund will now have access to free lifestyle vouchers as well as discounted offers on gap cover and financial services products through the Fund’s new multi-insurer platform. This is not another Loyalty programme. ‘Our members’ health has always been a priority and we strive to make healthcare as affordable as possible,’ says Gerhard van Emmenis, Principal Officer of Bonitas. ‘And while our various plans offer a host of benefits, we know that in difficult financial times money matters can add to stress levels.  For this reason, we have adopted a multi-insurer platform which offers members discounted lifestyle vouchers as well as exclusive offers on gap cover and various insurance products.’ The past 12 months have been extremely difficult for consumers, impacted by the increase in VAT, the fuel levy and the resulting escalating prices. This has increased the burden placed on consumers struggling to make ends meet.  ‘In 2017 a Financial Wellness Indicator revealed that 73.5% of South African households were financially unwell,’ says Van Emmenis.  ‘2019 is no different. Consumers are cash strapped so being able to align with strategic partners to offer a comprehensive and tangible way to relieve the money pressure while helping them find them some ‘extra’ money, will go a long way to keeping them physically and financially healthy.’  A report published last year, which reviewed rewards programmes in South Africa, indicated that there are around 100+ existing loyalty programmes with the average consumer subscribed to about nine. ‘The economic landscape is tough to navigate and we didn’t want to add to the pressure already placed on our members by offering a loyalty programme for which they would have to pay an additional monthly fee for. Our multi-insurer platform is premised on negotiating exclusive deals to the benefit of our members.  ‘They are designed to add real value aligned to member needs.’ Van Emmenis explains. In brief: These do not cost anything  There are no points No levels of membership You don’t have to work for rewards The model is split in two.  One: Free monthly discount lifestyle shopping vouchers to offset daily living expenses These are available from over 30 retailers and 6 000 outlets countrywide, such as Shoprite, Takealot and Edgars, as well as for airtime and data purchases and electricity. ‘The deals are aimed at the average South African, with discount vouchers for groceries, data, airtime and electricity. There are also discounts on activewear and gym membership to encourage a healthier lifestyle,’ Van Emmenis says. Two: Discounted financial service products through Medgap and Indie MedGap offers comprehensive gap cover at a discount of up to 26% exclusively for Bonitas members.  Indie offers various financial products such as a funeral, critical illness or disability cover, as well as income protection at a discounted premium, together with a free investment at no extra cost.  Indie will match and invest up to 110% of Bonitas’ member’s life insurance premiums, with cash drops every five years. The multi-insurer platform is supported by a new, revamped member zone to allow members to manage their medical aid 24/7, on any device. This includes submitting claims, applying for chronic medicine and viewing benefits clearly signalling a new era of medical aid has dawned. 

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Autism in Adults

The Adult Programme for People with Autism (APPAutism) is a registered non-profit company that aims to provide support for adults with moderate to severe Autism who are unable to independently perform the tasks required of adult life, following the principle of life-long learning, in a supported environment. Autism is a lifelong developmental disability that affects how a person communicates with and relates to, other people, and their ability to function in the world around them. It is a spectrum condition, which means that, while all people with autism share certain difficulties, their condition will affect them in different ways. The majority manifest with moderate to severe learning and behavioural disabilities and need a lifetime of specialist support. The nature of the disability is such that it requires intervention and management that is specific to the condition.  There are very few centres in South Africa that cater to this need. APPAutism’s mission is to prepare adults over the age of 18 for life outside of the schooling environment, by implementing a programme of meaningful activities and interactions with the aim of developing the skills and behaviours required for these adults to be able to maximize their potential and integrate into their environments. It aims to provide a happy environment with varied activities and programmes which are individualised and where members feel they belong. The Programme The programme is highly structured. Every day includes components of daily living skills; vocational skills (at the many facilities within REEA); communication and socialisation skills; cognitive skills, and leisure and well-being activities Participants are taken twice a week to a fully operational protective workshop, where they work supervision by a job coach in order to develop their ability to work in a protective workshop environment. The programme provides for a varied and stimulating day, combining group work, individual work, and community interaction; as well as combining pre-vocational and vocational skill development, with activities that are enjoyable and fun There is a high staff to adult ratio. (One staff member per five participants. The programme is individualised as far as possible to the specific strengths of each person. Each person will have an Individual Daily Life Plan which incorporates goals/ activities related to the social, emotional, work, and familial aspects of their lives. APPA is a non-profit company. However monthly fees are charged in order to maintain the varied extent of the programme, and the high staff to student ratio. We are open from 08:00 to 15:00 daily, Monday to Friday, with an annual holiday break in December. Daily Living Activities : Aim: To develop and build self-help skills, leading to independence, in the areas of dressing, hygiene, food preparation, meal-times; housekeeping duties. Examples of activities may be: preparing food/snacks; laying the table; eating together; independent eating skills; sweeping; loading dishwasher; hanging up clothes; feeding pets; laying the table; etc Protective Workshop Activities : Aim: To identify the “best-fit” workshop/work activities that leverage both the interests and the capabilities of the adult. This may include daily workshop time either in the REEA facility or in an external facility that has been identified. Or it may include partial workshop activity time, e.g. for a couple of hours twice a week. This will depend on the ability of the individual to stay on task for long periods of time. Examples of activities may be: Sorting, packaging; compiling; assembling; office work; Working in the gardens; Part-time work at already established protective workshop centres; Dog walking; Any other work in and around the facility Leisure and Well Being: Aim: To replicate a normal, fulfilling day with balanced activities to ensure the quality of life and to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Examples of activities may be: Walking/hiking/exercising; Art lessons; Music Therapy; Watching TV/listening to movies; Restaurant/movies/ten pin bowling; “Me” time; Dancing/ ball play/soccer; Shopping Communication and Socialisation Aim: To continue to develop appropriate communication skills, and socially appropriate, adaptive behaviours, and work on diminishing socially inappropriate behaviours. These specific skills are inherent and form part of all other activities at the centre. Group socialisation sessions are held weekly led by a qualified social worker. AAC communication devices or systems are encouraged. Cognitive Aim: To continue to reinforce and build on academic skills obtained during schooling years Examples of activities may be: Numeracy and basic math’s; English and writing skills; Money skills; Computer Skills; Fine motor and gross motor development Facilities Here we have combined our own specific programme, in our own custom venue, with the facilities available at REEA. The facilities available to us include: A specific area custom designed for APPA (Adult Programme for People with Autism) A homely environment A large kitchen and laundry for life skills A fully catered dining room for lunchtime meals Large gardens Right on the border with Delta Park for walks and physical activities A medical/emergency room, staffed with a full-time nurse Horseriding facilities on the property Indoor swimming facility nearby

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How To Make Messy Eating Easier With The Twistshake Mini Click Mat

Messy eating is a hugely important part of the developmental phase for all children. However, it can also be slightly harrowing on mom and dad. This is where the Twistshake Mini click Mat comes in! This ingenious meal time addition will not only help your baby still get the pleasures out of self-feeding, but also make mess minimal for you as the parent. Read on to find out more about why your baby needs to make a mess whilst eating, and how the Twistshake Mini Click Mat will make things easier.  Why You Should Celebrate Messy Eating From Your Little One Meal times can often leave parents in states of shock when they see the aftermath. However, did you know that this is crucial to your baby’s development? Here are the top reasons why self-feeding is important to your little one: A Healthy Relationship With Food Is Born By allowing your child the pleasures of feeling their food, they will begin to experience the joy that food can bring. By being allowed to squish their pumpkin through their fingers, they will fine tune the art to enjoying their food. This enjoyment, is accompaniment with them discovering new flavours they like, and allowing them to eat their own chosen amount at their own pace, leads to a healthy relationship with food. Quantity And Speed Is Important As previously mentioned in the point above, giving your baby the freedom to determine how much to eat, and what speed they’re comfortable eating it at, can really help them shape healthy eating habits. This point has some of the most incredible benefits for your baby. By allowing them to stop eating once full, you are helping decrease their likelihood of developing dangerous health problems such as obesity or eating disorders at a later stage.  Picky Eating Is Avoided By instilling the enjoyment of eating into your baby from a young age, you are also opening the doors to them trying more foods. They will be curious to experience the textures, tastes and smells of different things, thus broadening their pallet and not restricting it to certain flavours.  How The Twistshake Click Mat Will Alleviate Some Of Your Mess Stress While self-feeding is hugely beneficial to your baby, the mess left behind can leave a parent’s nerves on edge. This is where the Twistshake Mini Click Mat comes in. This incredible product secures itself to your table surface, and the click mechanism allows you to click Twistshake plates and bowls onto its surface. This minimalizes the surface area of mess your baby will make. Gone are the days of bowls being flung to the floor! Thanks to this product, your little one will still get the pleasures of self-feeding, but in a controlled area, making mess less for you in the long run. 

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The link between emotional challenges and poor academic performance

Have you ever considered that your child’s struggles at school may be because of emotional challenges? The academic year, as we are already aware, hold many stressors for children. What we are not always conscious of is that a child’s emotional state can directly affect the need to perform academically. In fact, according to Kerry De Jager, Head Franchisor at Step Up Education Centres, South Africa says, “Children who are experiencing emotional challenges (pain, uncertainty, family challenges, low self-esteem and fear) are more likely to struggle with the academic demands of formal schooling.” Think of a time as an adult, for example, where you have had an emotional challenge. “It is incredibly difficult to focus on our jobs and careers when our emotional state is one of pain, blame or demotivation. As an adult we have developed the skills needed to cope with stress and anxiety and yet our emotional state sometimes hinders our ability to function in the workplace,” Kerry explains.  She adds that developmentally some children are not yet ready to deal with these stresses and furthermore an emotional immature child will not have the coping skills to deal with the way their emotions make them feel. As the stresses of the year creep up on them, their emotional state will have a greater and greater impact on their ability to concentrate on their academic work. “An emotionally stable learner is able to take in and retain new information more effectively. Concentration skills are better and social relationships are a great deal more positive.” Kerry gives the following tips to parents who you have a child who is struggling at school: It is important to look at your child as a unique individual and realise that academic performance cannot be looked at in isolation. If your child has not performed as well as what you expected, try and find out why.  Aim at honest non-judgemental conversations that will enable you to understand the emotional state that your child has been in during the academic year.  Are they emotionally able to cope with the grade that they are in? Has it been a particularly difficult year at home? Has your child had a significant change in their lives like a new sibling or perhaps a divorce? Has there been a change in friends at school or at social clubs? All these questions may provide some insight into why they have not performed as well as you anticipated.  They will also afford you an opportunity to work together to find positive solutions. Remember that everyone wants to achieve success, whether they are willing to admit it or not! It is not in their nature to want to fail. Our role as parents is to guide, support, encourage and motivate our children to rise above the challenges of life to achieve the best version of themselves! “Each child is unique and their needs all differ. If you take the time to try and understand why a child is performing the way they are, it is a huge step in the right direction. Be patient with your children as they navigate the world with you at their side!” Kerry Concludes.

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Single parenting financial tips

Being a parent is challenging enough, but when you’re doing it solo, you have double the time, financial and resource demands. You’re likely reliant on one income, but still have current expenses and concerns, as well as longer-term considerations such as life insurance and education policies. Single parents have little margin for error when it comes to their finances and we at Hero Life have some practical strategies for balancing present and future financial requirements. Save It sounds so easy, but in practice it’s tough, especially when there are always expenses, a and new ones come up. You need to find ways to save that make sense – whether it’s setting up a debit order on your bank account for a savings plan, only eating takeout once a month, only buying clothes on sale, scouring supermarkets for grocery specials, or packing lunch to take to work. The key to changing spending behaviour is by creating a goal, and starting small. Begin by switching off lights when you don’t need them to save electricity, or waiting a while before buying those shoes, or limiting yourself to one impulse buy a month. You could save hundreds of rands a month, which equates to thousands by the end of the year. This money can be saved for emergencies, or put towards education policies or increased life cover. Create a budget It’s boring and admin-heavy, but by figuring out your fixed and variable expenses, and looking at your bank statements, you’ll see exactly where your money is going, which will help you make smart decisions on what you could cut out of your life. You’ll likely find that you’re spending money on things you don’t need, or you’ll see opportunities where you could be paying less for something. You could also try the 50-20-30 budget method: 50% of your net income should go towards your needs, 30% towards your wants, and 20% to your savings and debt repayments. If you’d like guidance here or don’t know where to start, chat to us at Hero Life – we’ll happily guide you through the process. Protect yourself and your things Having a will, life insurance and medical aid aren’t luxuries. You might think that because you and your family are generally healthy, or that you don’t have a lot of assets, you don’t need medical aid or a will. Or you might think that because you’re fairly young, you don’t need life insurance, or that your kids will be provided for by their dad, or your parents. There are many things to consider if something happens to you – your kids’ education, first cars, weddings and general wellbeing, and you’ll be doing them a big disservice if you leave them with nothing. These things are important, and without them, you could be left with debt, your kids could be left with no assets and lots of debt too, and you could be compromising heavily on your savings and your financial future. If you’re unsure of where to start, or worried about how to afford it everything and how to budget, then chat to us at Hero Life. At Hero Life we’re happily helping young South African families with their finances and pointing them in the right direction. Hero Life is a company that offers a free online Will, helps you to start saving for your kids’ education, and offers life insurance, designed specifically for young parents. Hero Life is an MMI Group initiative, and underwritten by Guardrisk Life Limited (Reg no 1999/013922/06), an authorised Financial Services Provider (FSP license number 76). This material has been prepared for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide financial advice. Visit herolife.co.za for more info or WhatsApp us at +27 73 916 9367 to learn more. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herolifeZA/    #BeAHero #SuperSavvy #HeroParents

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Review: Chicco First Dreams Next2Dreams 3-in-1 cot Mobile

The 3-in-1 cot mobile by Chicco’s First Dreams range is fully compatible with most cot designs which makes this a must when planning your nursery.  The cot mobile comes with 4 soft fabric characters, gentle night light and 15 mixtures of soothing sounds.  What makes this cot mobile unique is that you can simply remove the electronic panel and attach it to your stroller, keeping baby happy both in their cot as well as their stroller. The 20 minutes of classical music featuring famous composers like Chopin, Schumann and OftenBach will aid your baby in falling asleep in no time or you can choose white noise as well for them.  The mobile itself has a sound detector that is perfectly sensitive. The volume is perfect and the mobile does not move faster than a little one can track!  Then when your little one’s outgrows the mobile you simply remove the plush items and you are left with a music box for your little one as well!  Available from leading online retailers and in a store near you!

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Helping your child make the most of repeating a Grade

When babies are learning to walk, they fall (or fail) many times over. Babies need to repeat the process (of learning to walk) over and over again, until they get it right and are able to move on to greater movement such as running, jumping and skipping. According to Cindy Glass, Owner and Founder of Step Up Education Centres, “These ‘failures’ are normal and natural processes in the act of learning to walk.  In fact, they are expected and hailed as signs of effort and future success!” She adds that as we grow older, our fear of failing and falling down tends to slow our progress and in some cases, even stop it altogether. “Children who ‘fail’ a grade, for example, often feel humiliated, ashamed, embarrassed and depressed. Their self-worth plummets and they often find it difficult to accept the fact that they will not be moving up to a new grade with their classmates.” Parents, too, struggle with a ‘failed’ grade as, so often, they see it as an indictment on their parenting. “And yet, if you think about it, ‘failing’ a grade is not all that different to trying to walk for the first time. Some skills need more time and attention to master and not all children learn at the same rate or even in the same way.” If your child is repeating a grade in 2019, Cindy gives you some tips to help him/her in understanding and embracing the gift of being given this opportunity to learn more effectively: There is no such thing as failing a grade. It is time to speak a different language. Your child has not yet mastered the building blocks needed to move on to a new grade. He/she is being given an opportunity to REPEAT a grade in order to master these important skills. Address the elephant in the room through open and honest communication. Speak to your child about them having to repeat the grade. Find out how they feel and what they will need from you in order to move forward with a positive outlook. Non-judgmental conversations are essential at this time. Help your child to own and embrace the repeat. Help them to see it as a learning opportunity. Senior learners who may not have worked to their potential (resulting in having to repeat) need to identify and OWN the mistakes that they had made and look to the future knowing that they can and must make better choices for themselves. Extra tuition at this time is highly recommended. Choose an environment that focuses on building self-esteem and emotional intelligence skills as well as academic skill. Teach your child that they are not LESS of a person for having to repeat their grade- they have simply taken a different path to their classmates. Keeping your child’s self-esteem intact while still teaching them to take responsibility for their learning is going to be your biggest challenge as a parent. “Having to repeat the grade can be a tough experience for parents and learners, but it need not be the end of the world. YOU are your child’s greatest teacher. How you choose to move forward will set the tone for how well your child is able to adapt to the situation,” concludes Cindy.

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How to teach the essential skill of self-awareness to your children

Life on earth is a rollercoaster ride of emotions and our reactions to these emotions. All too often, we coaster through life, unaware of our behavioral choices and even worse, unable to consider the possibility that we could have made better choices for ourselves along the way. According to Cindy Glass, Founder and Owners of Step Up Education Centres says, “Self-awareness is the first skill in emotional intelligence and it sets the precedent for the growth and development of all emotional intelligence skills. Being able to look at ourselves honestly, and without negative judgement, will enable and empower us to achieve greater success in all that we do. This, of course, applies to our children and their personal and academic learning as well.” She adds that self-awareness skills will help your children become aware of their emotions and behaviours and make better choices in all that they do. They will also experience better personal relationships as they become aware of the emotions, behaviours and choices of others. “It is important to note that self-awareness includes skills in being aware of positive and negative emotions, behaviours and choices. It is about learning to own these choices, learn from the mistakes and consider what behaviours will be best in any situation,” Cindy explains. She offers the following helpful tips to teach your child this essential life skill: Create an environment where your children are free to recognise and acknowledge their mistakes and achievements in a non-judgmental, non-frightening way. Remember that it is fear of negative consequences that often hold us back from admitting mistakes to ourselves. And yet, if we cannot own a mistake, how can we find a positive solution to fix it? Don’t allow the blame-game. Blaming others for the choices that we have made disempowers us and reduces our opportunity to grow and learn from our choices and experiences. You are your child’s first and most powerful teacher – set the example! Teach your children the power of self-awareness by being self-aware! Remember that we are all on that rollercoaster that we call life and learning is a life-long gift. Teach your children to be kind to themselves in their uniqueness and imperfections, just as you are kind toward yourself. Teach your children to recognise and honour their own talents and not to compare themselves to anyone else. We must remember that we are ALL on this journey and we all have interesting and wonderful ways in which we can choose to live our lives. Different is not less. Non-judgmental self-awareness is essential. Positive self-worth is everything! “Learning the essential skill of self-awareness will bring about more positive learning and it will go a long way in ensuring that we live happier, more fulfilled lives.  Which parent would not want this for themselves and their children?” concludes Cindy.

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MYSCHOOL MYVILLAGE MYPLANET AND GROW PARTNER FOR QUALITY EARLY CHILDHOOD EDUCATION

The MySchool MyVillage MyPlanet community loyalty programme has launched a new partnership with the GROW with Educare Centres project to establish 21 high-quality early childhood development centres (ECD) in under-resourced communities of Cape Town and Gauteng over the next two years.  With funding of almost R5 million, this is one of MySchool’s biggest commitments to a single project to date.  GROW with Educare’s unique model takes a multi-faceted approach to solving the ECD crisis in South Africa in a sustainable and scalable way.  The organisation is establishing a successful chain of ECD centres in under-resourced communities; managed by capable independent principals with trained, qualified teachers.  GROW with Educare is bringing private school level ECD, as well as sustainable job creation, into communities where quality Educare is currently not accessible or affordable.  “Through the use of best practice principles such as social franchising, ongoing mentorship and both business and personal development, GROW with Educare is progressively helping the women who run Educare centres move from a place of dependence to dignity,” says Tracey Chambers, CEO of GROW with Educare.  The first five years of life is the most critical of all child development phases; with nutrition, care and opportunities for cognitive, physical, social and emotional learning laying the foundations for future adult behaviours and abilities.  Deficits in ECD result in a lifetime of being disadvantaged.  Worldwide, delivering quality ECD has been identified as a key strategy to break entrenched cycles of poverty and inequality. GROW uses a tool developed by the World Bank (the MELQO – Measuring Early Learning Quality Outcomes) to evaluate whether children in GROW schools are achieving internationally benchmarked milestones of development.   “MySchool welcomes the opportunity to partner with GROW and see 21 new high quality GROW Educare Centres get off the ground over 2019 and 2020,” says Pieter Twine, MySchool MyVillage MyPlanet General Manager.  “This is a project that brings together vital education and child care, as well as entrepreneurship, employment and sustainable community development.  Each year, under-resourced pre-school centres in Gauteng and Cape Town will be transformed and brought into the thriving GROW brand community.  There will be the upgrading of facilities to meet mandatory ECD standards; leadership, business and education training for the micro-franchisee; educational training for child caregivers; provision of outstanding educational resources through GROW Learning; a healthy, balanced nutrition programme, ongoing monitoring and evaluation, as well as active mentoring, and parent and community outreach. Each school will also start the process of registration with the Department of Social Development. It’s the kind of project that matters to MySchool MyVillage MyPlanet cardholders who can support GROW by simply nominating them as a beneficiary and then using their card every time they shop at our retail partners.  GROW was established in 2013 to counteract the extreme lack of access to quality ECD in marginalised South African communities where there are hosts of working parents and pitifully few safe, quality childcare options available.  Many GROW with Educare Centres have stemmed out of grass-roots, home-based care for very young children where the infrastructure is sub-standard, child caregivers are untrained, over-crowded classrooms are the norm and educational resources are severely limited.  With its ‘education-in-a-box’ and ‘business-in-a-box’ concepts, GROW delivers a deep, ongoing intervention which results in well-supported inspirational centres of excellence that have positive ripple effects and help turn the tide against poverty and inequality in their communities. “GROW is delighted to join hands with MySchool MyVillage MyPlanet and become a cause that matters to the loyal cardholders,” says Chambers.  “We are in an important phase of building an aspirational brand using the best principles of franchising to boost education in the country.  This enables us to manage and maintain the standards in GROW Educare Centres while business owners are empowered to earn a decent salary and also offer others gainful employment.  By the end of 2019, our impact will include almost 1900 learners across 77 classrooms in 52 schools in the Western Cape, Gauteng and KwaZulu-Natal, and 218 jobs will be created.” To support GROW, add them as one of your MySchool MyVillage MyPlanet beneficiaries.  If you don’t have a card, sign up for free at www.myschool.co.za or download the App and nominate GROW as one of three possible beneficiaries.

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Enjoy an EGGstra-ordinary Easter with Cadbury

Cadbury South Africa launches its eggstra-ordinary 2019 Easter range which includes three mouth-watering products; Cadbury Fluffies (30 unit box of Cadbury chocolate covered Mallow Eggs) and two Cadbury chocolate Hollow Eggs (one including Whispers and the other with Astros). The range is supported by three loveable characters who are dedicated to ensuring the Cadbury Easter range brings joy to everyone. They are; Fluffy the bunny – our hero of the pack and overall mascot. Felix the fox – who spends his days loading and offloading boxes of delicious Cadbury Easter products and takes it upon himself to do quality checks through taste testing. Lastly, Squeak the squirrel – who’s always hard at work checking and packing Hollow eggs to ensure there’ll be enough Cadbury chocolate eggs to keep everyone smiling this Easter.   The Easter season is a special time of the year as it brings family and friends together. We are excited to be a part of this occasion and look forward to creating delightful memories with our consumers. From food to play, the Cadbury Easter eggs are a great addition to your adventures this season.” Grant Van Niekerk, Mondelez SA Category Lead for Chocolate The Cadbury Easter range will be heading your way soon and will be available in major retail stores from February 2019. Follow Cadbury on @CadburyDairyMilkSA on Facebook or @Cadbury_SA on Twitter and #CadburyEasterSA 

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Everything You Need To Know About The 3pc Twistshake Feeding Spoons Set

Twistshake is taking the South African baby feeding market by storm. And the 3pc Twistshake Feeding Spoons set is no different. The innovative line of feeding spoons offers much more than a feeding utensil to parents and children alike. Read on below to find out everything you need to know about these great utensils right here! What Sets The 3pc Twistshake Spoons Set Apart As we mentioned, this spoon is designed with both parent and baby in mind. First off, and most notable, the spoon has been designed with health in mind. No signs of BPA, BPF, and BPS can be found within the range. Instead, they have been constructed using premium materials; PP and TPE plastic. This will put any parent’ mind at ease since no toxins will come into contact with their baby.  The design continues to amaze through the unique grip of the spoon. This has been designed with your baby in mind. The grip is easy to use and the perfect fit for any little hand. Furthermore, the soft touch design ensures that the spoon is comfortable for both holding and eating! Furthermore, another brilliant design aspect for the 3pc Twistshake feeding spoons set is the angle of the handle. This allows your child to get to every inch of their feeding container, leaving no spoonful uneaten! These spoons can be popped straight into the dishwasher, making them easy to clean. They are suitable for all children from four months and older. Furthermore, allowing your child to experience self-feeding will give them a deep sense of achievement and independence!  A Little Bit About Twistshake Twistshake is a great line specializing in the child feeding field. From their innovative hot and cold thermal bottles, to their incredible click mat system, all products are designed to be both practical and easy to use. None of their products contain any harmful materials and all are free from BPA, BPD and BPF. Be sure to enter this month’s competition to stand a chance to win the 3pc Twistshake Feeding Spoons and more!

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Review: Chicco First Dreams Baby Bear

  The first and only best friend your baby will ever need! Chicco is renowned for producing leading and innovative products and the Chicco First Dreams Baby Bear is no exception. Bub will fall in love with him or her! Available in both baby blue and baby pink, the bear provides 30 minutes of soothing sounds for your little one. Combine this amazing feature with the star projector featured on their ever so soft belly and you are headed for a great nights sleep! The music is not too loud nor the lights too bright so it really does aid in calming baby down at night. Certainly the best feature is that the Baby Bear is fully washable in a washing machine which will save you time when ensuring that your little one’s new companion is kept clean. (of course, you do need to remove the battery pack first) Suitable from 0 years + Available from leading online retailers and in a store near you!

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Back to Basics: The Importance of Play

When it comes to brain development, time in the classroom may be less important than time on the playground! In order to appreciate the value of play for a child, the following research makes interesting reading: “The experience of play changes the connections of the neurons in the frontal lobe of your brain,” says Sergio Pellis, a researcher at the University of Lethbridge in Alberta, Canada. “And without play experience, those neurons aren’t changed,” he says. It is those changes in the prefrontal cortex during childhood that help wire up the brain’s executive control centre, which has a critical role in regulating emotions, making plans and solving problems, Pellis says. So, play, he adds, is what prepares a young brain for life, love and even schoolwork. “The function of play is to build pro-social brains, social brains that know how to interact with others in positive ways.” But to produce this sort of brain development, children need to engage in plenty of so-called free play, Pellis says. No coaches, no umpires, no rule books, no interference unless safety is at risk. Animals and some birds engage in play, not just to learn survival skills as was previously believed, but to develop pro-social brains that enable them to interact and engage with others. They and humans share very similar play behaviour, abiding by similar rules requiring participants to take turns, play fair and not inflict pain. This interaction, learned early, is essential to the human ability to socialise with others. It also has the added bonus of leading to better academic results. If we know these facts, why are we moving towards restricting children’s opportunities to play, both at home and at school, and focussing more and more on desk/computer-based academics? Parents need to appreciate that in allowing their children plenty of opportunities to play, with others and alone, they are laying the foundations for academic success.  This play is not to be electronically focussed. Children need active, experiential play so we need to get them out and about, exposing them to sensory-rich opportunities as often as possible. Learning is a whole-body experience and is not just for the head! Young children work hard at play. They invent scenes and stories, solve problems and negotiate their way through social roadblocks. They know what they want to do, and they work and plan to do it. We as adults must not be too quick to interfere in this process. There is a tendency to ‘bubble wrap’ children so they have little opportunity to work things out for themselves. This hampers them both socially and academically. So, what should parents do?  From an early age a child need access to materials that will stimulate their sensory systems such as water, sand, things that make a noise, books with pictures they can relate to and toys of different textures. The contents of your saucepan and plastics cupboard will give hours of creative play while teaching concepts of matching, size, shape, texture and sound. Things that bounce, roll and change shape when pressed or pulled help develop spatial skills and visual acuity. Recent research has shown that, given a choice between a toy and a real object, babies of 5-6 months consistently choose the real item. Children must be free to move around once they are mobile, obviously with safety in mind, but do not fear the odd mouthful of grass or your child being dirty. Allow them to dig in the garden, pick flowers and when they are older, make mud cakes and grass ‘soup’ for their fantasy games.  In the pre-school phase children need basic toys, not those with roles defined by the media as the latter limit imagination and the opportunities to plan and create. Provide the child with a good set of plain wooden bricks, a few non-battery-operated cars, a soft doll or two, a teddy, some plastic plates and cups and a big ball. Old blankets or sheets for making houses and tents and some boxes and crates will provide the basics for endless creative and imaginative play. Play dough, some crayons and big sheets of paper (not colouring books) and some paints will amply provide for creativity. (NB! colouring books tell a child that his/her drawing does not match up an is therefore not good enough. Colouring is a self-soothing activity, not a creative one.) Some play rooms look like toy shops and children become overwhelmed by the choice, tend to mix the toys in a random fashion and are then overwhelmed by the complexity of tidying up. There are commercial organisations that give parents the impression that unless they are buying educational toys on a regular, even monthly, basis, they are not doing the best for their child. More important than a new plastic toy, is facilitating fantasy play. The Russian psychologist Lev Vygotsky informs us that children rise above their average behaviour through play. Play is the work of children and it is through fantasy play that children make sense of their world. They must pretend and take on roles in order to understand. The more time children spend in dramatic play, the more they advance in terms of intellectual development and their ability to concentrate.  As a parent, curb the extra murals and allow uninterrupted time and space for fantasy play. Props can be simple and minimal as pretending a block is a cell phone and a box is a racing car, your tablecloth is a cloak and teddy is a superhero is symbolic thinking and this will lead to creativity in writing at a later stage. Children also cope with emotions such as anger, fear and jealousy through playing out the scenarios with toys and friends. They become more self-disciplined as they discipline teddy, ‘You can’t have another sweet teddy, they’re bad for your teeth’. They develop resiliency as they play out being left when Mom goes to work or big brother teases them. They imitate teacher and consolidate concepts as they teach them

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Do we still need to teach our children manners?

Civilised and primitive societies have always insisted on certain standards, such as having respect for elders, greeting people respectfully and saying please and thank you appropriately. Eating habits are also defined by the cultural norms of the community. Many cultures begin to inculcate these standards in their children from a very young age, but in this on-line, texting and less verbally communicative society, are these societal norms dying out? Do we still need to teach our children manners?  I would say a definite YES! This is hard for parents when their children watch barbaric and seemingly acceptable behaviour on their screens and even Disney shows films of bratty children getting their own way and virtually ruling their parents. I visited a classroom recently where written large on the wall was, “The only rule in this class is that we respect each other” This sums up what we should be to each other in order to live in harmony, and societal harmony is what we desperately need in South Africa. If we can inculcate respectful behaviour for all others by modelling it to children from their babyhood, the polite norms of different societies are easily learned. In canvassing my colleagues of different cultures, it is clear that everyone expected their children to learn how to say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ appropriately and to eat acceptably. Whether the child says ‘thank you’ or claps her hands in thanks is immaterial. In our multi-cultural society it would be good for children to learn how this can be done differently so they can show the necessary respect for others. After all, if we visit other countries on business, we learn beforehand how to behave in order to avoid giving offence, why do we not accord our own countrymen the same respect? Children making eye contact with adults is frowned on by some African cultures but considered polite in euro-centric communities. Let’s explain this to our children so they understand how to behave. Spending so much time on digital devices is accustoming children to looking down all the time, but they are missing the social clues of facial expression and body language that grease the wheels of smooth communication. Many enlightened schools are teaching this emotional literacy to their pupils and this will help them to understand themselves and others better. Being polite to others is something we as parents have to teach, model and remind until the child achieves automaticity. It may seem a chore but like other skills it will smooth your child’s social interaction with teachers, peers and others. We all know that when our child brings home an impossibly rude and difficult child for a play date, we are unlikely to extend a second invitation. This is not the child’s fault but that of his parents and that child will soon find himself unwelcome in most homes. Do you want this to happen to your child? ‘Don’t do as I do, do as I say.’  This does not work with children. You cannot expect good manners from your child and at the same time be rude to waiters, yell at your spouse and swear at taxi drivers! As I said before, you have to consistently model the behaviour you want your child to learn and if they do see unacceptable behaviour in others, talk about how it made them and the recipient feel. They need to learn that rudeness is hurtful and unnecessary, unattractive and immature. This doesn’t mean that they need to be doormats, being politely assertive is also a skill worth learning. Do your children a favour and teach them good manners and respect, they will thank you    By: Barbara Eaton, Academic Development Co-ordinator for Junior Colleges

Breastpumps and Beyond

The Taboo Topic Of High Allergen Foods And Breastfeeding

The topic of high allergen foods being consumed while breastfeeding has been a long debated one. However, we have some interesting developments on the subject! Read on below to see why you, in fact, should be upping the ante by eating high allergen foods whilst breastfeeding.  Don’t Believe Us? Believe The Science! In a study published in the Journal of Experimental Medicine today, research suggests that a mother’s diet while breastfeeding can help the baby build certain tolerances against allergic foods. Conducted by teams from Boston Children’s Hospital and Harvard Medical School, they researchers show how introducing allergic foods to your child’s digestive system from an early age actually help them build tolerance against these foods later in life. This results in them not developing full blown allergies to the foods in question.  How To Introduce High Allergen Foods Into Your Diet Whilst Breastfeeding You know the good old saying, less is more? this is definitely true in this instance. When introducing the foods to your diet, do so slowly so as to not risk giving your child a reaction. For example, start with a handful of nuts a day. Go for sushi one weekend. All the while, monitor how your baby reacts to the new exposure to these foods.  What Not To Do In The Process By no means should you jeopardise your own well-being. If you are highly allergic to a certain food, eating these foods will do you no good. As a result, this will definitely not benefit your baby either. Therefore, only introduce foods which you can safely eat yourself into your and your baby’s diet.  Making High Allergen Foods And Breastfeeding Work In Unison From now on, do not be afraid to experiment a little with what you are eating. Who knows, it could actually benefit them highly later on in life!

Parenting Hub

Review: Disney Doorables

Disney Doorables is a wonderful play house set that comes with Disney characters, their homes, and a surprise figure. Behind every door, a surprise is in store! Doorables are tiny replicas of all your favorite Disney characters but can be a joking hazard to children under the ages of 3. You’re able to interact with the fun houses. Doorables allows you to mix and match different houses and make one big happy family. Soon your Mickey Mouse will be living in Elsa’s Ice Castle. There are many adorable Doorables to collect like Olaf’s chill house— everyone needs a chill house in the hot summer heat! There is also Repunzel’s creative corner for the young artists, Boo’s bedroom for all the little monsters and many more. In total there are 11 to collect, and wait, there’s more! This is only the first series! For our lovely Mickey Mouse club house, you are given the cutest Mickey loud all happy, garden accessories like the one and only Pluto’s house, don’t forget the glittery Mickey Mouse house and the surprise mystery figure that I dare not spoil! Who loves princesses and castles? We do! Meet our stunning Frozen Ice Castle. The glistering ice castle comes with a marvelous ice swing for our beautiful Anna to play on. We can’t forget about snow men buddies and the small accessories, there is even small food items, sleds, a s’more hut for any lucky person and even a Secret, surprise door! How magical does that sound? One of the most exciting part is the exclusive figure, climb the crystal ice stairs in the castle with her! It’s a snowball of fun! Their house is big and dreamy. The packaging is a lovely pink printed house box full of cuteness and magic. Make sure to keep all the pieces together! Enjoy your magical fun.

Impaq

The benefits of using a curriculum provider

Using a curriculum provider is a convenient, straightforward and effective option for home education parents – all you need to do is pick the grade and you’ll be provided with everything you require to complete a school year at home with your child. Using a complete curriculum is also a great way to build confidence, especially if you’re new to home education. In addition, using a reputable curriculum provider offers a host of other benefits. Additional resources: Besides offering all the required books and guides needed to successfully complete the academic year, curriculum providers offer access to additional resources – usually online or interactive multimedia resources, and generally at no additional cost – to enrich your child’s learning experience and to empower you as parent. Guided learning: Guided learning provides an opportunity for differentiated instruction and aims to lead learners to increasing independence. Curriculum providers offer guided learning in the form of online tutoring and practice elements, such as extra lessons and videos, to continuously test and improve learners’ understanding of a subject. Lesson plans: For many parents, the lesson plans offered by curriculum providers are worth their weight in gold as having a carefully constructed lesson plan saves a lot of time and hassle. A curriculum provider will offer daily plans for all subjects, suggested support materials, as well as tips for adapting lessons to your child’s unique needs. Subject support: Parents may need extra support when teaching their children at home, especially in certain subject areas. In addition to providing the necessary learning resources, a good curriculum provider will offer access to subject matter experts – a team of highly trained and professional educators to support parents with curriculum questions and subject support. Administrative aid: A curriculum provider will give you access to all the tools you need to ease administration, ensure accurate recordkeeping, monitor learner progress and generate reports.  Assessment assistance: Curriculum providers generally supply all formal assessments and memorandums, as well as marking services and a support network to help learners successfully master a subject or grade. Some curriculum providers also arrange practical assessment opportunities for home education learners throughout the year. Time: When using a curriculum provider, all the work has already been done for the parents, effectively removing the time and stress related to research and planning. With everything laid out for you, you’ll have more time to focus on your child, and plan exciting excursions and activities. Sense of community: By signing up with a curriculum provider, you’ll be joining a vibrant community of home education families who share their journey and insights via social media, and who participate in organised workshops and events. Tips when looking for a curriculum provider While a reputable curriculum will offer all these benefits and more, keep the following in mind when searching for a curriculum that meets your needs. Your home education curriculum provider should: Offer solutions designed to enable individualised learning.  Give you full control over your child’s education.  Be dedicated to helping learners thrive.  Provide learners with the foundational knowledge needed to succeed in school and life. Inspire curiosity and deepen learners’ understanding with engaging lessons. Offer educational and instructional support to parents.   Impaq is the largest home education curriculum provider in South Africa. Their curriculum and related solutions are designed to enable individualised learning as they place your child’s needs at the centre of their academic model.  By Danielle Barfoot

Parenting Hub

Gō-Ecō WITH THE NEW KURO-Bō RANGE

KURO-Bō’s message is simple. It is now 100% easy and 100% convenient to create the best-tasting water using 100% natural filters that are kind to the environment and sustainably produced. It’s a promise! Since launching in 2017, KURO-Bō has rapidly (r)evolutionised water filtering systems in South Africa.  Through their innovative use of Japanese-inspired activated charcoal (or “Binchotan”), KURO-Bō has changed the way South Africans can access purified and mineralised water, at home and on-the-go, and with zero single-use plastic.  After introducing their first Gō-Ecō 1L Bottle in January 2018, KURO-Bō has extended their planet-changing range even further to make their eco-filtering technology appealing to even more active people on the gō. Those seeking a more compact bottle and volume, will welcome the new 550 ml size Gō-Ecō bottle with a sustainable bamboo lid, and a removable neoprene sleeve that doubles up as a sports-grip and insulation, keeping your KURO-Bō naturally purified water cool. Refill the Gō-Ecō bottle with tap water using the clever detoxing KURO-Bō Activated Charcoal Kōins, which have been specially designed to fit into the bottles, purifying, mineralising and pH-balancing your water while you’re active and on the move.  KURO-Bō hasn’t stopped there. Frustrated by the lack of 100% plastic-free, long-lasting and effective bottle cleaners on the market, their new KURO-Bō Gō-Ecō Natural Cleaning Brush fills a real gap.  The bristles are made of natural sisal, and the practical long handle is sustainable bamboo.  It’s eco-friendly functional beauty in action!   KURO-Bō blends elegance and style with practical functionality when it comes to naturally filtering water, but of equal importance is the message inherent in their whole range.  Their new symbolic image speaks to the importance of placing care of land, water and our health – in other words, the whole of Nature – at the forefront of our awareness in whatever we do in the world.  And that certainly includes how we filter our water.  KURO-Bō natural water filters are fully recyclable, zero-waste and plastic-free.  That’s a message they hope their Gō-Ecō bottles will carry far and wide. KURO-Bō Gō-Ecō bottles retail from R260 for the 1 litre, from R220 for the 550 ml. The bottle brush retails from R100 and a box of Koins from R180.    KURO-Bō products are available in good independent health shops country-wide, in all Wellness Warehouse stores, selected Spar, Dis-Chem and @Home stores, and online at Faithful-to-Nature and Takealot, as well as directly from KURO-Bō. Please note that the 550ml bottles are available from 1st Feb and brushes are available from 1st Mar in stores (We do however, have the 550ml bottle available now, directly from our online store) 

Junior Colleges

FROM PLAYSCHOOL TO BIG SCHOOL: HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD SUCCESSFULLY TRANSITION

Moving from pre-school into a formal schooling environment is a big step not only for young children, but also for their parents. Doubts and anxiety often accompany this major move, but parents should aim to ensure a conscious transition which addresses specific issues that may arise, so that their child starts their school career on a solid foundation, an expert says. “Some of the practical things can be very exciting – sorting out school uniforms and supplies, learning about the new routine, meeting the new teacher and exploring the new school grounds,” says Trudie Gilmore, General Manager at ADvTECH Junior Colleges. “However, the increased demands and unfamiliar environment can be daunting, and children need to be eased into the new situation. Additionally, parental expectations can cause unnecessary pressure at this young age,” she says. Gilmore says when embarking on this exciting new life chapter, parents and guardians should remember the following: ALLOW FOR MAKING MISTAKES The lesson is in the learning, not only the outcome, notes Gilmore. “At this age, parents should encourage their children to be more independent and, where possible, to think for themselves. Encourage your child to practise small ways to look after themselves such as dressing themselves, ensuring their bookbags are packed, and looking after their belongings. Encourage and praise them for trying, even when they don’t get it perfectly right.” PRACTISE PERSEVERANCE “It can be tremendously frustrating for young children if they are unable to complete a task to their satisfaction. Teach your child that when learning new things, it’s important that they keep on trying, even if they find things challenging. Don’t step in and ‘fix’ the situation, but rather guide, encourage and motivate.” PLAY NICELY Junior school is an important social milestone, and the time when children need to start working and engaging in meaningful play with their peers, even if they don’t automatically get along. Encourage your child to be inclusionary and kind, which will help them develop emotional maturity, as well as  confidence. “You can also prepare together by acting out different situations with toys. Playing games that involve turns or rules, such as board games, are good for practising how to get along with others. This way, children can try out some of the skills they’ll need later to make friends.” ENCOURAGE CURIOSITY “Being interested and curious about the things around us is really important for learning. Encourage your child’s natural sense of curiosity by talking to them about things, people and places when you are out and about. New research has shown clear benefits for children whose parents engage them in productive conversation, that is, where each takes turns to listen and respond appropriately,” says Gilmore. “Listen to and answer their questions, nurture their love of reading – an exciting and empowering new skill – and look things up on the computer together. Try to see the world through your child’s eyes, and talk and wonder about the everyday things you see and hear.” Gilmore says parents must be prepared to help their children navigate and manage increased stress levels caused by more challenging schoolwork, homework, assessments, diversity within the school environment, after-school activities and possible bullying. “Ensure your child is able to respond to the challenges they will face every day, by limiting any additional pressure,” she says. “And remember, sleep is key. Children who get enough sleep are likely to be less short-tempered and better able to handle school stress. Also beware of piling on extra-mural activities. We’ve come to believe that busy equals happy, but over-scheduling means less free time and family time.” Our society is expecting more and more from children at younger ages, says Gilmore. “Our job as parents and guardians is to help them understand and respond appropriately to these demands, and develop their emotional intelligence to set them up for a successful and productive school career.”  

Parenting Hub

Screen Addiction: parenting in the age of a digital era

No other topic could create a catastrophe of opinions, judgements, beliefs and arguments as parenting. Add technology in the mix and you’ve created world war 3. According to a survey conducted by internet security company AVG in the US, 92% of children have an online presence by the time they are 2 years old. These days’ children learn to swipe a screen before they are able to hold crayons. The digital revolution of the past 2 decades has induced a moral panic in parenting. When a child goes on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram, parents have certain unanswered questions such as: Are our kids aware of the privacy settings on social networking sites? Do they adhere to them? What kind of online games are our kids playing? Are they playing the right ones or ones that are not suitable for their age/ taste/ social-cultural backgrounds? How much digital engagement is enough and how much is too much? Though a child’s online presence allows young people access to invaluable resources and learning opportunities, it also brings about parenting challenges such as cyberbullying and filtering age-appropriate content. Parents play a vital role in teaching the children practice of “netiquette” outside of the classroom, all these require that the parent themselves be digitally literate. A digitally illiterate parent poses a risk to the privacy and safety of children. A tech naive parent may in a moment of some parental pride, post content(pictures, videos, information) of their child exposing them to the bad world of cybercrime. So we often ask ourselves which of these 2 parents is the perfect parent? Is there such a thing as correct parenting? Especially in this technologically advanced era we live in? And how much technology is too much technology? What happened to the good old days when kids played outside instead of staring into their phones and the television during their school holidays? Being a parent is hard and raising children in a digital era is even harder. Gone are the days of kids just being kids, playing hopscotch in the backyard, catching a ball in the garden or planning how they are going to build that tree house. These days playing involves Fifa and a ps4 or perhaps and X Box or candy crush. What happened to good old fashion childhood games our parents used to play? At Sugar Bay we encourage children to hold on to their childhood as much as possible, kids get to be outdoors the whole day engaging in activities such as kayaking, bmxing , rock climbing or they can choose to spend a relaxing day beading or baking amongst other things. These activities encourage kids to show their creative side, help them discover their hidden talents and passion and leaving a small room to be thinking about their phones. Like our saying goes: “What we learn in fun we never forget”. Sugar Bay is much more than a luxury holiday resort. Sugar Bay ensures the personal development and growth of a child, increase self-esteem, self-confidence and independence. Allowing campers to pick and choose from over 100 activities allows them to make decisions for themselves which encourages independence. We understand the constant need kids have of always being on their phone, but which parent wouldn’t want their child to enjoy being a child and being outdoors in the garden like they did in their good old days.

The Headache Clinic

Chocolate can trigger migraines; Finds study

You should think twice before giving that someone special chocolates this Valentine’s day – it may just give them a migraine! And that’s not because they’re not in the mood; a scientific double-blind study shows chocolate can trigger migraines. The London-based study, published in Cephalalgia, the official journal of the International Headache Society, was conducted on 20 migraine sufferers. Chocolate bars were given to the subjects and bars of carob were used as a placebo. The chocolate bars caused migraine in 8 of the 20 migraine subjects while the carob bars did not induce migraine in a single sufferer. Dr Elliot Shevel, Medical Director of The Headache Clinic, and South Africa’s internationally recognized Migraine expert and pioneer in the field of Migraine Surgery, says the study clearly shows individuals who are prone to getting migraines should be careful when eating chocolates.  “The reason for this is chocolate contains a chemical called phenylethylamine which is thought to trigger migraines by affecting the arteries in the scalp which are the source of the pain. Unfortunately phenylethylamine is found in the cocoa bean which is what chocolate is made from,” he says.  “Carob bars, available from your local health store may drastically improve your chances of getting lucky this Valentine’s Day!”  What other items can trigger migraines? Alcohol Migraine sufferers should try not to drink liquor since this can be a regular trigger of migraines. If you can’t resist, have one glass of champagne or white wine, as it is generally the dark alcoholic beverages that trigger migraines.  Flowers Hay fever headaches are triggered by flowers and cause a dull, deep, throbbing pain. Some of the symptoms of hay fever headaches are pain in one specific area of your face or head (for example, behind your eyes) or the face is tender to the touch. Rather don’t buy your partner flowers if they are prone to getting migraines.  Perfume People who are sensitive to fragrances and/ other odors should bear this in mind when shopping for a Valentine’s Day gift. Seek those that are fragrance free and ask a pharmacist for advice if necessary. When do I consult with a medical professional about my migraines? “People should not leave a migraine untreated,” says Dr. Shevel. “It is imperative that you undergo a multidisciplinary investigation to diagnose the specific factors behind the recurring headache.  “There are a number of healthier treatment options than medication available right here in South Africa. It is possible to get to the bottom of the problem and resolve the pain permanently without medication so that you can enjoy the quality of life you deserve.” He has the guidelines for when it is possible time to consult a medical professional: • If you are unable to manage your headache on your own. • If a headache persist or if you frequently get them. • If in interferes with your day-to-day activities.

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