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Effective ways to be a smart stepmom

Stepmoms all over the world face a lot of unique challenges with their stepfamilies. And if you are dealing with the same dilemma as a stepmom, you are probably thinking of some ways how to cope with the issues in your own stepfamily and how you can be a successful and smart stepmom. Building trust and a strong bondbetween you and your stepchildrenare inevitably crucial. You cannot expect them or other family members to show you love and affection in an instant. It sometimes takes months or even years before you can get along very well. Fortunately, this kind of situation isn’t hopeless and stepmoms like you can develop a close relationship and friendship with your stepchildreneventually. Being a smart stepmom doesn’t necessarily mean you have to compete with the children’s mother and win them over or steer them into your strict house rules and push them to comply with everything. That won’t work. It is how you can handle the challenging situations in your family. How can you be a smart stepmom? This article will guide you out with the effective ways you can try. Building a Relationship with the Children You can’t expect your spouse’s child to be comfortable with you right away. Although in some stepfamiliesit can happen easily, you have to understand the fact that it might be difficult for the child to accept the whole new set-up in the family: having you as a stepmom. As what psychologist William Merkel said, stepfamilies are deemed to be “the most complex, unnatural and difficult set of human relationships known to mankind.” On the child’s standpoint, the situation might be a lot to take in. It may seem like a cinch to say how much love and care you’re willing to give to your stepchild. But don’t fall into high hopes that your stepchild will reciprocate your efforts and adjust with the situation quickly. In some instances, a stepchild may think you’re an intruder, an outsider and not a family member. What You Can Do: Do not insist or require your stepchild to call you “Mom”. Time will come and you’ll know when your stepchild is ready to reach that point. Do not also be assertive with your words whenever you refer to yourself as part of the family. Although technically, you are, your stepchild may not be very comfortable with the words like “we are a family” or “you are a family to me”. Take these things step by step. Do not work too hard to please your stepchild and make him or her comfortable with you. Show your genuine concern to understand your stepchild’s feelings even when he or she seems distant. If you want to go for a talk, don’t act like you’re a mom with some kind of authority and the child is obliged to tell you everything. Be empathic and warm. You can find the opportunity to talk with your stepchildren while eating, having fun, and engaging in some activities together. And to let them know they are important to you, always make time no matter how busy you are. You can spend some time for a casual talk after shopping for groceries, after tending the household chores, and when they have already taken some rest after school. Make time for each of them and get to know them better. Be careful when starting a conversation. Don’t go for serious talks or any topics that you think would invade the child’s privacy. When your stepchild is having health problemslike having flu, colds, or going through a lot of pressure in school, show your sincere interest and concern. Provide the care that your stepchild needs. Dealing with the Child’s mother Most stepfamilies have issues with the emerging tension between the mother and the stepmother. As a stepmom, you may encounter the same problem, too. It is a tough situation where both parties should take every step carefully. But as a stepmom, you need to make an effort and adjust to the situation without meddling with the relationship of your stepchild and his or her mother. Do not demean the mother’s position or right by taking the obligations out of her hand. Some mothers think that stepmoms would replace them, especially the affection and care they give their children. Now that they are in a different household, mothers still have responsibilities to fulfill and the right to show their motherly love. Understand their situation. How can you deal with the child’s mother? What You Can Do: Try not to display too much affection with your stepchildren in front of their mother. You surely do not want to imply that you’re craving for competition and you want to win them over. If you are in a close relationship with your stepchildren, you can come to an agreement to not let them call you “mom” in front of their mother. It is a form of respect and a way to show you care about her feelings. When she offers you some advice about nurturing the children, accept it and be grateful. Do not find it as an insult that her ways are better than you. Some stepmoms think that way. But it is all part of the process of adjusting and mothers just want the best for their children. Clarify to your stepchildren’s mother that you don’t intend to replace her or in any way would do that. You can also seek help from her when you are looking after the children, especially on what she usually does when they feel sick and tiredor have health issues. Message her or give her updates about the children when they are with you. In that way, the mother would feel that her presence and opinions are important. Providing Parental Discipline How can you establish reasonable authority and provide disciplineon your stepchildren without getting way beyond the boundaries? We’re talking about your limitations here as a stepmom. Although it is your responsibility to provide parental discipline on the

June 19, 2018

Why play should be a priority in children’s development

Play is not just fun but also significant for a child’s development. It is fundamental for healthy brain development and is the way that children learn about their world. Play provides the opportunity to explore the world, learn cause and effect and derive meaning form experiences. There are many forms of play which fall within the structured or free play categories. There are 4 general types of play that we will explore, namely: physical, object, rules, and pretend play. Physical play uses the entire body. It develops and strengthens both gross and fine motor skills and keeps children active. This is often explored as free play. Climbing trees, running, pushing and pulling. It also offers social and emotional benefits as children learn to engage with others. Object play refers to the use of toys or any objects that can be used to engage play. This is great for the senses as well as creativity and problem solving. As a child learns to manipulate objects to cause a specific reaction. For instance tying a rope to a bucket and having to pull it. Games with rules such as, board games or team sports, help develop social skills as well as, language and communication skills. This is because they need to learn and communicate turn taking, sharing and empathy. Pretend play aids in a child’s understanding of the world around them. It gives them a chance to let their imagination run free. This could be in the form of acting out real-life situations or by making something up that is weird and wonderful. This is a necessary tool to use in regulation of emotions. This helps children to learn empathy as they get to play a different role than themselves. All these types of play work together to ensure that children learn and develop the physical, social and emotional skills needed for grown up life. Skidz includes all these types of play in each Clever Activity Box. The aim is to give parents the tools and resources needed to spend quality time with their kids. This time spent together is pivotal in teaching them how the world works. It helps their physical development as well as their social and emotional development. Everything a child learns is taught through play and this is what we focus on. Each Clever Activity Box comes with over 100 activities in to do at home. It also includes a fun filled curriculum for each day of the week. The ages range from birth up to 5 years. To get your Clever Activity Box and to spend quality time with your child is as easy as visiting our website www.skidz.co.za. For some more awesome and fun ideas you can also like our facebook page at www.facebook.com/skidzsa

June 18, 2018

The problem with labelling children in primary school

Labelling children, positively or negatively, in any phase of their lives, has a very direct effect on how they view themselves, as well as how they experience the world around them. A useful tool for exploring the effects of social labels on children is, “Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development”. Approximate Age Psycho Social Crises Infant – 18 months Trust vs Mistrust 18 months – 3 years Autonomy vs Shame & Doubt 3 – 5 years Initiative vs Guilt 5 – 13 years Industry vs Inferiority 13 – 21 years Identity vs Role Confusion 21 – 39 years Intimacy vs Isolation 40 – 65 years Ego Integrity vs Despair Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development The developmental phases where children are most affected by social labels would be their schooling years, when they have high frequency interactions with not only their parents, but also other children, teachers, coaches and the like. These would, therefore, be the phases of 5 – 13 years and of 13 – 21 years in age, where their psycho social development hinges on being industrious versus feeling inferior, and establishing identity versus role confusion respectively. This article focuses on the 5 to 13-year-old phase, which is the contemporary Primary School years of a child. The main and desirable outcome of development in this phase is industriousness. The positive and helpful labels would, therefore, relate to promoting a sense of confidence within children, that they are capable to do “real” things, and do them well if they are prepared to put some effort into it. Helpful areas to work towards would be establishing healthy work ethic habits at home and at school, and then attaching positive social labels to this. For example, assisting a child with a realistic study roster for exams and then positively reinforcing their commitment, dedication and work ethic related to this. I.e. “I love your commitment to your school work”, or “You seem very dedicated to doing well this term”, etc. It is, however, important to note that the initiative to create opportunities for this kind of “industry” in this age group lies mostly with teachers and parents. My wife, for example, recently tasked our 11-year-old daughter to cook for the family once a week. She was very excited at the opportunity to engage this challenging task, and with some “industriousness” and support from my wife, she now successfully “cooks” for the family once a week. This initiative, taken by my wife, then creates the context for excellent verbal and experiential positive affirmations, related to a very “real” thing. We, as parents and teachers, would therefore do well to create these types of opportunities, and then follow the experiences through with positive affirmations. The negative labels to avoid in this phase, has to do with verbal affirmations or experiences that may lead to feelings of inferiority. Children in this age group are literally, in body and mind, changing daily as they grow and develop. These kids are well aware of the fact that they are changing, learning and growing. To them, there are very few absolute truths with regards to what they can and can’t do, because after all, they are still learning. Parents and teachers will, therefore, do well to steer away from labels aimed at pointing out areas of inferiority, such as, “You are pathetic”, “You are lazy”, “You are all over the place”, etc. These kind of comments will stifle growth and could become self – fulfilling prophesies if internalised by the child. We need to learn how to put some spin the negative, and find ways to address areas of concern in a manner that honours the developmental aspirations of the child, even if it sometimes feels like an exercise in diplomacy. For example, instead of saying, “You are pathetic”, maybe spin it a bit to something like, “This is not the way I know you, you can do much better”. That will potentially reset the child and allows them a chance to redeem themselves as someone more “industrious”, and possibly even successful in the end. Authentic parenting, and truthful feedback to our children about their behaviour and the consequences thereof, are critical in raising well-balanced, successful adults. We, as parents and teachers, will however, do well to sharpen our pencils from time-to-time, to ensure that the labels we impress upon our youngsters are geared towards empowering them towards success. This may take a bit of thinking, and a lot of restraint, but they are certainly worth it in the end.

June 15, 2018

Hay fever headaches

A change in season also brings a change in the pollen types that are in the air and these trigger headaches directly or cause hay-fever with headaches. Sinus congestion and pressure is a secondary condition, which has also been known to trigger headaches. Dr Elliot Shevel, Medical Director of The Headache Clinic, and South Africa’s internationally recognized Migraine expert and pioneer in the field of Migraine Surgery, explains “Usually hay fever is associated with spring, when airborne pollens from grasses are at their peak. October and November are peak allergy months in Cape Town, and with the Western Cape now consistently recording pollen counts of over 30 – considered extremely high – allergic people should be sure to seek help soon because there is still a long time to go.” Hay fever headaches cause a dull, deep, throbbing pain. Some of the symptoms of hay fever headaches are pressure like pain in one specific area of your face or head (for example, behind your eyes), face is tender to the touch, pain is worse with sudden movements of the head and bending forward and worse pain in the morning (because mucus has been collecting and draining all night). They are caused by an inflammation in your sinuses (air-filled cavities around your nose, eyes, and cheeks). Headaches often begin as soon as you get up in the morning, and may be better by the afternoon. Dr Shevel suggests the following to prevent or limit hay fever headaches: When the body comes in contact with an allergen, histamine and a number of other inflammatory chemicals are released as part of the body’s allergic reaction. Antihistamines work by blocking the effects of histamines, thereby reducing the symptoms of hay fever. Regular use of antihistamines throughout the pollen season is effective especially if treatment is commenced early in the season. Steroid sprays are used in more severe cases. They deliver a low dose of steroid powder through the nasal passages to control the inflammation in your nose and to help hay fever symptoms. Decongestants when used topically for short periods (less than 7 days) are effective in reducing nasal blockage and help penetration of topical steroid nasal sprays. Cortisone injections tend to be prescribed only in more severe cases where the hay fever symptoms are not controlled with other over-the-counter medications. They can’t be repeated frequently due to the possible side effects. Take note of the pollen count forecast on television or in the newspaper. Try to stay indoors if it’s a high count or on windy days after thunderstorms. Choose plants that are pollinated by birds or insects in your garden, rather than plants that release their seeds into the air. Smear petroleum jelly (like Vaseline) inside your nose to stop the pollen from touching the lining of your nose. A simple saline (salt water) nasal douche is effective. Saline and sea water nasal sprays help flush pollen grains off the nasal mucosal and improve nasal patency. Splash your eyes often with cold water to flush out any pollen. When it is more than just a headache triggered by hay fever! If your headache persists after you have your hay fever under control, it is imperative that you undergo a multidisciplinary investigation to diagnose the specific factors behind the recurring headache. For those patients who want to have healthier alternatives to medication, there are a number of various breakthrough treatment options. These include minimally invasive arterial surgery and posture modifying technologies. In most cases it is possible to get to the bottom of the problem and resolve the pain permanently.

June 15, 2018

ADHD vs Bipolar: Know the difference

Inattention, hyperactivity, impulsivity, sleeping problems, racing thoughts and moodiness. These are all typical symptoms of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). They are also common symptoms of bipolar disorder – a mental illness known for severe mood swings and depression. But how do you tell the difference? Studies estimate that 20% of people with ADHD will develop bipolar disorder. Conversely, 70% of people with bipolar disorder also have ADHD. The high comorbidity rate and overlap in symptoms make these two conditions difficult to distinguish and diagnose. ADHD is ten times more common and more likely to be recognised while bipolar disorder is often misdiagnosed. It is critical to know the difference and get an independent but coordinated treatment plan for both. Untreated ADHD can be challenging but living with a misdiagnosed ADHD and bipolar combination can be dangerous. However, with an accurate diagnosis, the ADHD and bipolar combination can be treated successfully. This will help patients feel more stable in mood and in their ability to live fulfilling lives in their roles as spouses, parents and employees. One fundamental difference is that ADHD mainly affects attention and behaviour while bipolar symptoms mainly affect mood. Distinctions can be drawn between the two based on mood shift triggers, the speed and duration of mood shifts, the onset and consistency of symptoms, and the individual’s sense of reality. The importance of an accurate diagnosis can’t be overstated. With a holistic and dual treatment plan, therapy and life management, individuals with both ADHD and bipolar disorder can live healthy and fulfilling lives. If you suspect that you or a loved one might have ADHD, set the record straight with this self-assessment. If you are unsure about the symptoms or suspect that bipolar disorder might be present, speak to a medical professional. For more information around the symptoms, impact and treatment of ADHD, visit MyADHD.co.za or My ADHD on Facebook.

June 14, 2018

Parental police: Being ‘bad cop’ isn’t shielding kids from online threats

The risks associated with growing up in an online world are not only giving parents a headache, but the time their children are spending online is a real cause for concern. As a result, a third of parents curb the amount of time their children spend on the Internet, to protect them from online dangers. But there are other steps parents can take to minimise the risks and help their children make the most of all the positive things that the digital world can offer. A reliance on Internet interactions by the younger generation is leading to a third (35%) of parents worrying about Internet addiction. This concern is backed up by figures from Kaspersky Lab and B2B International which found that locally, according to their parents, one in ten (11%) under 18-year old’s are addicted to the Internet. Alongside the worry of their children viewing inappropriate or explicit content (45%) and communicating with strangers (40%), the inability of children to distance themselves from the online world is fast becoming a key concern for parents. With half of parents (50%) feeling that the online threats to their kids are increasing, the time they are spending online is a real compounding factor in keeping children safe online. These concerns have prompted 35% of parents locally to enforce restrictions on how long their children can spend on the Internet. However, limiting time spent online doesn’t necessarily make children safe from the dangers. In a 12-month period, 39% of children locally were faced with at least one online threat, with one in ten kids accessing inappropriate content (12%) or coming into contact with malicious software and viruses (9%). Therefore, an alternative option for parents could be to concentrate on supporting their children in other ways, such as through education. 40% of parents locally regularly talk to their kids to teach them about online threats and 36% try to supervise their children when they are online, potentially offering opportunities to highlight any threats that may appear and supplement the education effort. “Parents want to keep their children safe, but simply restricting access to the online world isn’t necessarily the best way to do this. Education and communication both play a huge part in ensuring children use the Internet responsibly and safely,” said Dmitry Aleshin, VP for Product Marketing, Kaspersky Lab. “But it is also imperative to use software to bolster defenses. Limiting time spent online is a key part of the process but won’t work in isolation. Technology can help reduce the risks, enabling children to safely explore all the positive aspects of the Internet and develop their digital skills without having to worry about cyberthreats.” Kaspersky Safe Kids is designed to help parents take a more effective approach to shielding their children from the dangers that lurk online. Through the solution, parents can choose to either block children’s access to certain apps and websites, or to help kids become more aware of the dangers for themselves, by warning them that the sites or apps they are about to access are risky and may contain dangerous content. From imposing time limits through to keeping track of online activities, Safe Kids can provide the additional layer of care that parents need to fully protect their kids against the threats that exist and continue to evolve online. Visit the Kaspersky Lab websiteto find out more about the Free and Premium versions of Kaspersky Safe Kids. Click hereto read the full 2017 Consumer Security Risks Survey report: “Not logging on, but living on.”

June 14, 2018

Help your child make sense of the world around them

The importance of sensory stimulation for babies and toddlers The world is an exciting place for children, with new sights, smells and sounds at every turn. Making sense of this sensory information is known as perception, and developing this skill is a critical part of your child’s development. Without it, we would look and never see, listen but never understand. Sense making skills The more children are exposed to different sensory inputs, the more they develop their perceptual skills. “Each sense plays an important role in the development of a child’s sensory system which unlocks the key to how they learn, think and feel,” explains Liz Senior, Occupational Therapist and Founder of Clamber Club. “The role of the senses in learning cannot be overstated,” adds Kelly Westerman, Occupational Therapist and Clamber Club Toddler Milnerton Franchisee. “Parents need to have at least some understanding of what the role of each individual sense is in order to maximise the learning potential of even the simplest everyday experiences, such as bathing, sleeping, feeding and dressing.” Touch Touch and hearing are two of the senses that develop in the womb. The sense of touch relies on receptors in the skin that tell us about heat, pressure, texture and pain. As the skin is the largest sensory organ in the body it has the greatest potential to be stimulated. These touch experiences will develop what is known as the Tactile System. Smell Receptors in the nose are responsible for receiving and perceiving smells, developing what is known as the Olfactory System. Smell is largely underrated and often ignored as it is less closely linked to physical and intellectual development. However, the sense of smell has an important role to play in our emotional stability and memory recall and should therefore not be ignored. Sight Through sight we are able to learn by visually exploring the world in which we live. We gain an understanding of the relationships between people and objects and experience light, colour and form. It is for this reason that parents should invest as much time as possible to help their children develop their visual sense. Hearing The most common cause of speech delay in children is hearing loss; a child must be able to hear in order to learn to speak. Children who are able to hear and listen well are able to learn faster, make fewer mistakes and are less easily frustrated. Taste Children taste everything that goes in to their mouths, and through these taste experiences they develop what is known as the Gustatory System. A child’s taste preferences may also be linked to their temperament. Very relaxed children who require a large amount of sensory input to stimulate them show a preference for strong flavours such as lemon and curry; while children who are easily overstimulated tend to show a preference for bland and salty food. Take your child on a sensory journey Even before a baby is born they begin to use their senses to discover and learn about their world. In the beginning, a new-born is forced to take in just about every single sensory input, but as children grow they are able to filter through the sensory stimuli they receive and refine their various perceptual skills. “As parents you should have an understanding of what senses may be involved in any particular activity and aim to give your children good quality sensory experiences from an early age,” suggests Westerman. This can be done by stimulating each of the senses individually and in combination with other senses. “These sensory experiences will lay important foundations for learning, movement, emotional security and survival,” she concludes.

June 14, 2018

Oops Building Block sets

Building blocks are literally one of the simplest and most functional ways of getting your child’s mind to think strategically. Traditionally, building blocks have always been an integral part of any child’s toy chest and Oops have made sure that with both their 30-piece and 80-piece collections, the most fun is had whilst learning. Hours of play with big enough blocks for tiny hands to work with, the Oops building block lines allow endless possibilities and encourages hands on learning. The O’clock Learn Time 30-piece set is a great way to teach toddlers the time with jumbo blocks of colour and the ‘City’ landscapes create new worlds only your child’s imagination can think up. European leaders in developmental toys for many years, Oops celebrates the growing mind of every single child and ensures education and entertainment go hand in hand. Oops building block selections are available at Hamleys Toy Stores, selected Kids Emporium stores, Me Mom and Dad, www.thebabyzone.co.za, www.thekidzone.co.za, www.purplepepperz.com, www.loot.co.za & www.takealot.com

June 13, 2018

Oops Soft Toys and Rattles

Oops is one of the world’s more forward-thinking baby development product companies and has been at the heart of stimulating little minds for many years. It is through sheer creativity and experience that this line has become one of the most popular brands in Europe, centred around certain slightly left-off-centre, quirky characters such as Mr Wu, Chocolate Au Lait, Mushee, Happy and Cookie. The characters all live in their lands of either ‘forest’ or ‘city’ and the thinking behind every single item is not only to entertain and amuse, but to stimulate minds in all the right ways, at all the right ages. The multi-activity toys are high-quality, brightly created characters made with multi-sensorial curiosity in mind. Including sounds, vibrations and teething action, a best friend will be made from the fun play time with Mr Wu or Chocolate Au Lait baby toys. Oops rattle toys provide a variety of textured and coloured rattles that develop upper body strength whilst keeping your child engrosses in the joyous activity of pure discovery. Oops baby Toys and Rattles are available now at the following retailers: Hamleys Toy Stores, selected Kids Emporium stores, Me Mom and Dad, www.thebabyzone.co.za, www.thekidzone.co.za, www.purplepepperz.com, www.loot.co.za

June 13, 2018

Hidden costs & their impact on study options

Grade 12s should already be well into researching their study options for 2019 and should aim to beat the rush and submit their applications sooner rather than later, whether it be for a public university or private higher education institution, an expert says. “But before you settle on a degree or institution, it is important to make sure that you considered all your options thoroughly, including those closer to home, which will allow you to avoid the hidden costs unrelated to the actual cost of the course,” says Nola Payne, Head of Faculty: Information and Communications Technology at The Independent Institute of Education, SA’s largest private higher education institution. “Of course it is exciting to think about moving to the other side of the country and starting a whole new chapter of your life outside of your familiar environment, but there are some solid reasons for opting to choose an institution close to home,” she says. Payne says apart from the usual advice of how to apply for admission, what you should consider, and which courses you would like to do, the financial impact of studies beyond fees, and the role this should play in your decision, are rarely discussed. She says prospective students should remember to also consider the following when determining how to structure their budget: Prescribed textbooks and supplementary material.This could include art material, laptops, and field-specific equipment, to mention but a few. Students will need to budget for two semesters, each of which will contain different modules with their own resource requirements. Depending on the nature of your course, there are also costs associated with printing and copying. Accommodation.Will you be applying at an institution that would require you to live in student residence, on off-campus accommodation or will you be staying at home? If you’re not going to be at home there are costs such as rent, meals, airtime and laundry that need to be budgeted for as well. Travelling costs. This would not only include the daily commute to the campus from nearby student residences or off-campus accommodation, but your budget should include extra costs involved in the longer journeys to return home during the recess periods. Travelling to and from the campus would also incur expenses and this can add up quite quickly. Tickets for taxis, buses and trains or the cost of petrol for your own private vehicle should also be considered. “There are sound financial reasons for considering studying at an institution close to your home. On top of that, the value of your support structure should not be underestimated. South African first year dropout rates are high, and lack of support is one of the reasons,” says Payne. “There is a huge gap between the demands placed on you at school, and what you’ll need to deal with in your first year studying. The workload is much greater, and there are also additional emotional pressures associated with this new stage of life. We therefore urge the Class of 2018 to carefully investigate all their options, and all the factors that will impact on their emotional and financial wellbeing during their first year at varsity.” Payne says prospective students should remember that there are many options for higher education besides public universities, and that registered private institutions are subjected to exactly the same regulations, accreditation requirements and oversight. “Considering a local higher education institution will almost always be more economical than one situated far away, because you then have the option of staying at home and saving costs on those extras that come with rental accommodation, plus you will have your support system around you when times get tough. Given the challenges that first year students face it makes sense to consider delaying living independently until that hurdle is overcome. Also remember that some institutions have more than one campus, so you could perhaps consider transferring at a later stage when you have found your feet.”

June 13, 2018

Being a mom… tired is my second name

Everyone knows that the most beloved children’s franchise in the world is Disney – and children still resonate deeply with the characters despite literal generations having passed since its inception. Mickey and Minnie Mouse were two of the first creations of the legendary cartoonist Walt Disney and have truly stood the test of time in terms of becoming fast and furious friends with little ones around the globe. Disney Baby, and largely distributed through Prima Baby, have some of the greatest products in the Mickey and Minnie Baby (literal baby version of these adorable characters) and offer moms a great opportunity to collect entire ranges of products for baby’s nursery, or just buy one or two essentials at affordable prices. Disney Baby have a stunning range of products to help soothe the transition from a gummy bear to a gnashy monster, help baby fall asleep quietly or just entertain your little one in his or her own quiet time. With rattles, teething activities and doodoo cloths in both Mickey and Minnie Baby, this adorable twosome can be there for the sleepless nights and painful parts of growing up, as well as the more fun days ahead. Check out the Disney Baby ranges available at: Hamleys stores , Me Mom and Dad Greenstone, Selected Kids Emporium stores ,Dischem Centurion , www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za, www.purplepepperz.com, www.sosobabies.com, www.thebabyzone.co.za.

June 13, 2018

The Hundred Acre Wood comes to life with Disney Baby

As long as most parents and even grandparents can recall, Winnie The Pooh and his friends of the Hundred Acre Wood have been a staple in our children’s upbringing. Stories that have transcended the ages from old library books across to iPads, Winnie is known for his kind, gentle nature, Tigger for his clumsy tomfoolery and Eyore for always being the depressed one that needed a hug. Winnie was always there for his unlikely companions and his adventures with his best friend, the wise but nervous Piglet, saw them perusing the Hundred Acre Wood in search of honey, new friends and of course, fresh adventures. Disney Baby have a range of products that will bring that tradition of friendship into the lives of your child – from rattles and mobiles, to developmental stacking toys and of course, gorgeous huge plushes that nobody could resist getting a cuddle from. Check out the Disney Baby ranges available at: Hamleys stores , Me Mom and Dad Greenstone, Selected Kids Emporium stores ,Dischem Centurion , www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za, www.purplepepperz.com, www.sosobabies.com, www.thebabyzone.co.za.

June 13, 2018

Disney Baby helps your little one develop important skills

We all know how curious babies can be. It doesn’t stop as they grow, it just gets more intense as the thirst for knowledge increases. Developmental toys have become one of the most purchased items by new moms and one of the most important parts of a babies upbringing. From the tiniest of noises to the first touch of a strange texture, everything is new and equally important – just look at the fascination with touch phones and iPads. Disney Baby are one step ahead when it comes to incorporating learning into a baby’s playtime. With Mickey Baby and Minnie Baby as the focal play pals, Disney Baby has created products such as musical touch pads, stacking blocks and light up tummy toys that keep little minds fascinated for hours, whilst all being safe enough to take into the crib with them if they just can’t let go! And the great news is, you won’t have to spend a fortune to keep them entertained and learning at the same time – what more could a new mom want? Check out the Disney Baby ranges available at: Hamleys stores , Me Mom and Dad Greenstone, Selected Kids Emporium stores ,Dischem Centurion , www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za, www.purplepepperz.com, www.sosobabies.com, www.thebabyzone.co.za.

June 13, 2018

Disney Baby offers you the perfect feeding solution

Disney Baby is the proud home of the world’s most beloved mouse Mickey Mouse. He turns 90 this years and is officially one of the longest standing cartoon characters of all time. Disney Baby are also proud manufacturers of some of the best baby products in the world. Known for innovation, functionality, affordability and safety, the Disney baby feeding line extends from newborn to toddler. Available in both Mickey and Minnie Baby versions, the products speak for themselves in terms of cuteness. The ‘baby’ versions of the twosome are fast becoming children’s favourite friends around the globe and luckily, Disney Baby produce entire ranges that can be collected for ultimate cuteness overload. BPA free and anti-colic for the bottles ranges, all plastic is microwavable and dishwasher safe and available in South Africa now at affordable prices. Check out the Disney Baby ranges available at: Hamleys stores , Me Mom and Dad Greenstone, Selected Kids Emporium stores ,Dischem Centurion , www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za, www.purplepepperz.com, www.sosobabies.com, www.thebabyzone.co.za.

June 13, 2018

Fisher-Price Activity Plush Rattle

The Fisher-Price range of textured dolls and rattles for strollers and beyond all have wonderfully stimulating features, as well as being some of the cutest new products on the market. One of the best products in the new fox, bear, lion and monkey ranges is the Activity Plush Rattle. A soft toy featuring a variety of different colourful textured fabrics and elements, the doll is there to stimulate all that is sensory in your child, whilst being their new best friend during their travels. With a squeaker, a rattle and crinkly paper all combined into one gorgeous pal, the rattle also has teething activity for your little one too munch on during the painful times. Fisher-Price’s new range of baby products, dolls in particular, are all made with carefully thought out plans to ensure that every item is educational and developmental as well as entertaining. A top line brand that has been one of America’s most popular household names since 1930, Fisher-Price has continued their legacy with the baby ranges and continue to assure only the best reaches your child. Distributed into South Africa since April by Prima Baby, the product ranges can be found at Hamleys Toy stores, selected Kids Emporium stores, www.loot.co.za, ww.purplepepperz.com, www.thebabyzone.co.za

June 13, 2018

Fisher-Price Silicone Bibs

Bibs have long been the babies most worn-and washed accessory for obvious reasons. And throughout the centuries moms have come to rely heavily on the clothing protection they supply as babies find their way around bottles, teething drool, general muck and of course, solid foods. Silicone bibs are a relatively new concept to the baby product world. In terms of hygiene, keeping baby dry, minimising washing time and general upkeep, they are without a doubt, the simplest solution to meal times. The bib pops on, protects baby during eating, pops off and get a wipe down in preparation for the next meal. Instantly dry with no laundry time. In fact, it’s so simple, one wonders why they weren’t invented years before. Fisher-Price has a brand new range of baby products that has been launched in the South African market through Prima Baby. Available from April, the silicone bib is one of the most popular items, providing moms with convenience they almost didn’t realise they were missing. Available in zebra and giraffe characters, the bibs are FDA, EU & LFGB compliant and made from ultra-soft silicone that won’t irritate necks. It is also adjustable, dishwasher safe and can roll up for travels, with its own deep pocket to catch larger food spills. Available instore now at Hamleys Toy stores, selected Kids Emporium stores, www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za, ww.purplepepperz.com, www.thebabyzone.co.za

June 13, 2018

Fisher-Price Turtle Shaped Sorter

Fisher-Price has been a trusted name in child products and toys in America since the 1930’s. One of the world’s leading and most established manufacturers of quality products, the company has just released a baby product line which not only provide moms with a sense of surety of quality, but also a sense of nostalgia for the brand that most of they themselves were raised on. One of the key elements to the Fisher-Price toy range for babies is the lines’ awareness and proactivity in the developmental field – the concept of not only entertaining, but also educating and stimulating little growing minds. Items such as the Turtle Shaped Sorter brings young imaginations to life in the form of a friendly character, with shapes to fit inside his shell. Watch baby connect the puzzle pieces as they fit the back shapes inside the shell and start to develop the sense of shape and hand-eye coordination, identify different sizes and set patterns and encourage logical thinking abilities. With stimulating primary green and red colours, the turtle is an all-round fantastic addition to any little ones’ toy box. Grab a Fisher-Price turtle shaped sorter instore now at Hamleys Toy stores, selected Kids Emporium stores, www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za, ww.purplepepperz.com, www.thebabyzone.co.za

June 13, 2018

Bringing Death Into Your Parenting

This may sound morbid at first, but hear me out and you’ll see that death has the ability to radically transform your relationships. When we truly contemplate death, that the possibility exists that either we or our children may not make it through today, then it starts to change the kind of questions we ask in our parenting. And questions shape our experience of reality by focusing our minds on what is important. Death changes our questions from things like “How can I get this child to listen to me?” to “How can I connect more deeply with my child in this moment?” It changes questions like “Is my child doing enough extra murals to make a success of their adult life?” to “Is my child enjoying his life right now?” From “How can I possibly get through this to do list?” we move to “Where can I find more time in my day to spend with my loved ones?” We replace “Why do my kids have to wake up so early?” to “Could I possibly be luckier than I am to be awakened by such beautiful beings?” Suddenly every moment becomes a precious gift; stolen time. The world looks brighter and more beautiful and everything about your children becomes something that would be missed if they were gone (including their mess and fighting and cheekiness and noise and disobedience). We are under the illusion that we will live forever (and so will our kids) – that tragedy only happens to other people. This is normal and part of the natural defense mechanisms that we set up in childhood in order to quell the anxiety inherent in recognizing that we are just worm food like every other creature. It is too intense to think about our total annihilation all the time and so we block it out and focus in on the daily grind. If we thought about death constantly we would most likely be gibbering wrecks. However, from time to time when we’re faced with our own death, or lose a loved one, or even just contemplate death, we have a window of opportunity to strip away everything that is not essential. We have a chance to see what is really important, to focus in on love, and to deeply appreciate this moment with whatever it brings. Without death, I believe we would live lives of mediocrity and we wouldn’t love nearly as deeply. Death is offering us an opportunity not to squander this incredible gift of life and to truly appreciate our children exactly as they are. The truth is, none of us will live forever, and our final day is not known to us. It could be in fifty years’ time or it could be today. Without the certainty of tomorrow we are able to more fully be here now. If you knew for sure that you would never see your child, spouse, parent or friend again after today, wouldn’t you take a little bit more care in how you interacted with them today? Wouldn’t you hold them just slightly closer and tighter and longer if you knew this was the last hug? Wouldn’t love soften your words and dissolve your anger? Every now and then spend some time contemplating death and see how your relationship with your children will blossom – how love and appreciation for your children right now in this moment, exactly as they are is all that really matters.

June 11, 2018

Healthy Eating habits

Written by: Cynthia Innes, Teacher at Junior College Preschools Sandton. A healthy lifestyle consists of various factors that contribute to healthy living, specifically eating habits, physical activity, emotional intelligence and a well-balanced activity schedule. Co-ordinating all these factors can be challenging for a child however, it is possible to achieve with guidance and a good routine. All parents face the challenge of encouraging their child to eat healthily, the trick is to create a healthy lifestyle for the entire family. Toddlers are influenced by those with whom they spend most of their time, whether it be at Preschool, at home with the nanny or parent. Children need continuous guidance to develop a healthy lifestyle, a child’s preschool years are an important time to teach children how to eat well and exercise their bodies. Parents and teachers can work together to encourage healthy eating habits and lots of physical activities. Always have healthy snacks readily available Replace fizzy drinks and processed juices with water. Have this easily available. Have freshly cut vegetables or fruit ready to eat as a snack. A whole wheat sandwich with a fruit or veg is also a good snack between meals. Snacking regularly is beneficial to children as they have smaller stomachs and they burn energy faster. Eating healthily between meals provides their little bodies with the nutrients and hydration needed for a healthy lifestyle. Educate your child Instead of force feeding undesirable healthy foods to your children, educated them as to why it is healthy and beneficial to their bodies. Forcing your child to give into something they don’t agree with teaches them that forceful behavior from others is acceptable, this could lead to falling victim to peer-pressure situations. Reasoning and explaining why eating healthily is important, not only gives your child the power to make decisions but also develops their reasoning skills. Lead by example Children learn from their surrounding experiences, they do what you do so lead by example and they will soon follow. Having healthy snacks with your children is a great way to encourage healthy eating. Children see their parents as role models and will imitate what their parents do. Create a food schedule Creating a weekly food schedule beforehand is extremely beneficial to the cook and the family. Placing a food schedule in an area where every family member can read it will allow them to prepare themselves mentally for a meal. Explaining to toddlers what’s on the menu gives them a sense of involvement and is more likely to eat the meal. Involving the entire family in scheduling meals for the week will encourage them to finish their meals. Introduce new foods gradually Young children are more likely to eat new foods if you introduce tiny amounts in an attractive manner. Do not worry if they resist the first few times, keep trying without force but encourage a taste. It is natural for all of us to detest some foods, so allow your little one to do so if a few tastes have been tried. Try again a few months later, maturity brings change. Include the children in meal preparations Allow children to help you prepare the meal. Little ones can fetch vegetables and fruit, bring you the pots and pans and help with stirring. This also develops their counting and perceptual skills. As they get older they can learn to chop, measure and mix. A child who has helped with the cooking will generally be keen to eat it Don’t be too strict As above, a taste is all you need to encourage. Serve tiny portions attractively so the child can finish and ask for more if necessary. After 20 minutes, if the child is not keen to eat, remove the food with a cheerful statement, “I see you have had enough” Do not serve alternatives or filling snacks between meals. No punishment for not eating. The more fuss you make, the more resistance you will have. Eat meals with your children, talk without TV or phones. Meals can be a family bonding time where food is celebrated and enjoyed. Physical activity for Young children Children should be actively playing, preferably outdoors on bikes, jungle gyms or just imaginative play with the toys they have. TV or tablets should be limited to a maximum of half hour daily. Lead by example and go for walks, swim, garden play ball games or take them to the gym with you. To create a healthy eating habit, the above tips need to be implemented over time and on a continuous basis for successful results.

June 8, 2018

Award winning innovation with simple, functional design from Dooky

Prima Baby is a now proud affiliate and distributor of the Dooky range of products into South Africa. A simple, yet highly effective range of products to ultimately calm, protect and comfort your child, the Dooky series of products transforms some of the most commonly-used products into indispensable items. 2011 saw Dooky receiving the Netherlands Baby Innovation Award for the Dooky Universal cover, which has fast become one of the most popular items in the Dooky repertoire. Available in a variety of subdued hues, the Universal cover is a simple stroller cover that has replaced the conventional muslin blanket or parasol as a cover to calm and soothe baby whilst out in their stroller. Fitting literally every stroller on the market, the Universal is a simple clip-on, 100% cotton cover that blocks UV, sun, wind, light, cold, noise and light rain – making it perfect for walks as well as naps during outings. The Universal cover comes with a variety of complementary accessories that can also be used on their own, including the car seat ‘Hoody’, 100% cotton attachment that acts as a shield on car seats, the 100% cotton blanket, the car seat cover and the famous Dooky dribble bibs. All ranges are available in matching grey, white, pink, blue with a gorgeous star pattern. The full range of Dooky products is available at Hamleys, www.takealot.com, www.loot.com, www.thebabyzone.co.za, www.kidzone.co.zaand www.purplepepperz.com

June 8, 2018

Second term at a new school and still no friends – What to do?

By Dalit Segal, Education Psychologist of Southdowns College Joining a new school and making new friends can be tough for some teenagers whether it be on entry into High School in Grade 8 or in higher grades when transferring in the middle of their High School career. “One of the hardest things for a parent to watch is their teenage child seemingly having no friends,” says Dalit Segal, Educational Psychologist at Southdowns College Academic Enrichment Centre. Segal points out that there are numerous reasons why a child may not have many, or any, friends. “For one, a teenager who is an introvert, an ‘outside the box’ thinker or someone who may not share the same interests as their peers, will often find it more challenging to make meaningful friendships.” “Likewise, if they lack the necessary social skills or have started a new school, breaking into any social group may be awkward,” she adds. So, what can parents do? According to Segal, as a parent, you have an extremely important and very useful role. “You need to deal with your own pain at seeing your teen’s dilemma. Grieve, feel their pain – but privately, never communicate these feelings to your teenager as this will only make them feel worse,” she says. “In addition, you must recognise that them being alone is not necessarily a catastrophe, and in doing so, you can help them realise that although they may not always like being alone, they can still build a life that that can feel good about.” “It is extremely important,” she adds, “that you help your teen feel good about themselves intrinsically, so whether they have friends or not, they are happy with who they are.” It is important to reflect on the positives in your teenager’s life, help them reframe their situation so that they may see the positives too. There are other ways of looking at kids who are often alone. Being able to have a good time by yourself is a strength. It’s being self-sufficient. Segal advises when looking at new schools, enquire what integration programmes are in place to assist new students. “For example at Southdowns College, in addition to the support provided for by teachers and S-Cubed, we provide a mentoring programme where our grade 11s are partnered individually with grade 8 pupils for the year.” “The grade 11s not only step in as a new friend but also provide support in academic, sport and cultural activities,” she says.

June 8, 2018

Positive Potty Training

Learning to use the toilet is an important milestone for both parent and child. It’s a big step for toddlers, as they are required to move out of a comfort zone and learn how their little bodies work. “Parents and caregivers should enter the potty training phase patiently and with few expectations of how it should go,” advises Michelle Mendonca, Clamber Club Expert and Clamber Club Preschool owner. “What works for one child doesn’t necessarily work for another. Although teachers are very keen to assist parents with the potty training at school, it is vital that they keep it up at home,” adds Michelle. How can you help make potty training easier? “Children are often unsure or intimidated by the toilet, so anyone training them needs to make them feel safe and relaxed,” says Mendonca. Here are Michelle’s top tips: When introducing the toilet to a child, consider getting a toddler toilet seat with a smaller hole that fits on top of the big toilet seat and a step so that they can climb up by themselves. The step will make them feel more stable. Encourage independence and reassure them that they are ready to use the toilet. Often the idea of wearing underwear with popular characters printed on them is very appealing to the child, and assists the process. How they progress will also depend on the reaction they get when they use the toilet. Positive reinforcement is key. Every visit to the toilet should be met with a lot of excitement and praise. Receiving positive feedback makes children more motivated. Children using the toilet for the first time should wear clothes that are easy to take off or pull down. Avoid complicated buttons, dungarees and too many layers of clothes. Not being able to remove their clothes in time could negatively affect their experience with toilet training. Most children still need to wear a nappy at night for a while but letting them drink less before bedtime usually helps to get them off the nappy completely. “Setting a potty alarm that goes off every 20 minutes has worked really well in our preschool,” says Michelle. Have a pleasant alarm tone that won’t cause panic, or sing them a special toilet song to let them know that it’s time to visit the toilet. In the beginning there will be hiccups, they might not do anything when you put them on the toilet and then have an accident 5 minutes later. This is normal, use a reassuring voice and put them at ease. Pack extra changes of clothes in your child’s school bag just in case. Choose what works for you and do what is consistent with your parenting style. Stay positive, be encouraging with progress and patient with any failures. Happy toilet training!

June 8, 2018

How binge-watching TV series can wreck our immune systems

It turns out there are some surprising daily habits, such as overdosing on our favourite TV series, that can wreak havoc on the body’s ability to fight off colds and flu. Nicole Jennings, spokesperson for Pharma Dynamics – a leading provider of colds and flu medication – says the relatively new phenomenon of being able to watch an entire TV series all at once, as opposed to waiting a week, has sparked several studies that attempt to understand how binge-watching is impacting our health. She cites a paper published in the Journal of Clinical Sleep Medicine which found that people’s addiction to watching TV series can lead to chronic fatigue, which has a damaging effect on immunity. “According to the study, over half (52%) of binge-watchers viewed three to four episodes in one sitting, with an average session lasting three hours. If one considers that most of the watching occurs in the evening, that doesn’t leave much shuteye. Binge-watchers also reported more fatigue and insomnia and had 98% more chance of having poor quality sleep than those that limited their screen time. “Watching TV in a dark room for hours on end can really mess up our circadian rhythm (the cycle that regulates physiological processes) and disrupts sleep-wake cycles. The blue light emitted from TVs, PCs, laptops, smartphones and other devices can also reduce the production of melatonin (a hormone that promotes sleep). Poor sleep in general is associated with lower immune system function and a reduced number of antibodies or ‘killer cells’ that help to fight germs. Adults need between seven and nine hours of uninterrupted sleep every night in order for the immune system to function optimally. You can still enjoy watching TV, but try to avoid a binge too close to bedtime,” she recommends. Apart from lack of sleep, marathon-viewing can also exacerbate mindless eating and unhealthy snacking – both detrimental to your waistline and immunity. Research by Cornell University’s Food and Brand Lab found that action-packed shows, such as The Walking Dead for example, made participants eat twice as much (98%) than others who watched milder talk show content. Those that watched depressing shows, like the sci-fi drama, Solaris for example, also ate 55% more than participants who watched positive, upbeat programmes. According to the researchers, action and adventure shows may encourage viewers to eat more, because viewers subliminally try to keep up with the pace of the story. Stress and anxiety experienced during a show also leads to comfort-eating. Jennings points out that although it’s easier to order in pizza than pausing your show for an hour to cook a nutritious meal, junk food really upsets the immune system. “Fatty, fried foods increase bad cholesterol and can cause inflammation, leading to reduced immunity, while sugar can hinder the body’s ability to produce germ-fighting white blood cells that destroy foreign pathogens. Watching your favourite characters drink a beer or smoke a cigarette might also trigger a craving for these substances, which have been proven to lower immunity. If you’re planning to watch a TV series, rather put out cut-up fruit and vegetables or low-carb meals and healthy drinks on the table,” she suggests. Furthermore, sitting in the same position while watching hours of TV series not only contribute to deep vein thrombosis and the formation of fatal blood clots, but also increase one’s risk of respiratory tract infections (RTIs) such as a cold, sinusitis or tonsillitis, most likely as a result of lowered immune function. A study conducted by researchers in the US found that staying physically active nearly halved the odds of catching cold viruses, and even those that did fell ill, didn’t suffer too badly. Jennings suggests that instead of sitting on the couch, TV addicts should consider watching a series on their cellphone or tablet while walking on the treadmill, stationary bike or rowing machine. “There are different ways to make the occasional marathon TV session healthier, but moderation is key,” she concludes. These findings were released as part of Pharma Dynamics’ ongoing public awareness efforts to help reduce the incidence of respiratory infections, which typically spike in winter.

June 7, 2018

Schools must adapts approach for education and engaging generation Alpha

The traditional approach to education must be revolutionised in order to ensure the best outcomes for the current generation of school children, who are increasingly being called Generation Alpha, and whose world differs materially from the world in which their Millennial parents grew up, an education expert says. “Generation Alpha represents those children who were born after 2010, who are now at the beginning stages of their school careers,” says Jenny Coetzee, career educator and founding member of the ADvTECH Group’s prestigious Crawford School La Lucia. Coetzee, currently MD of the soon to be opened Crawford International School in Kenya, has in the course of her decades-long career forged an exceptional reputation as a visionary pioneer and leader in the education space. She says each generation – whether they be Generation X, Y or Z – grew up in a world different to that of their parents and the generations before them. Just as each of these generations were exposed to unique circumstances, challenges and opportunities, so are the newest generation, whose labelling as Generation Alpha is fast gaining traction. “These children are the most connected, educated and sophisticated generation ever, so when educating, a school should provide an environment that enhances learning for these digital integrators,” she says. “These children live in an open-book environment – just a few clicks away from any information, they connect in a borderless world – across countries and cultures, and they communicate in a post-literate community where texts and tweets are brief, and where visuals and videos have the greatest impact.” She says schools should be putting special emphasis on developing critical thinking and problem-solving skills, so that students are equipped to see problems from different angles and formulate their own solutions. “Regardless of the field they choose to enter for their careers, the ability to think, be creative and act quickly is an indispensable tool for the future, particularly in view of increasing automation and the expectation of the workplace of the future, as identified by the World Economic Forum. “It goes without saying that technology must be embraced in today’s schools, but what is of crucial importance, is that it is effectively used to enhance pedagogy and improve learning. In order to achieve this, schools must be equipped with high speed internet and embrace the value of social platforms.” Students must also be exposed to new technologies, such as 3D printing, drones and robotics, and schools should articulate the possibilities these new technologies create. They must also expose students to new fields such as user experience design, and the latest schools of thinking such as design thinking modelsas a scaffold for project work. “Just like Generation Z before them, schools looking after Generation Alpha must cultivate the spirit of entrepreneurship. Entrepreneurial thinking and leadership are imperative and entrepreneurship courses must form part of the curriculum where collaboration between subject disciplines is encouraged.” Coetzee says it is imperative that schools nurture a global outlook, and that students are able to benefit from strong networks formed with international education bodies. And teachers must be trained in the latest strategies and teaching techniques. “Children come to us naturally curious about their world and wanting to explore it. Their imaginations are vast and untamed, creating endless amounts of practical and impractical things. As teachers we need to continue to nurture them to develop their curiosity and imagination, as well as teach them how to apply them creatively and purposefully using technology as a tool. “We may not know exactly what lies ahead for our students in the future, but we know what skills and tools they will need once they get there: to think critically, to work as a team, but most of all to be curious and excited about learning in this world that is so different from the world in which we were raised.”

June 6, 2018

The important role of a father in a child’s life

Written by: Welna Buys (Principal of Maragon Pre-Primary Raslouw) “While almost any man can father a child, there is so much more to the important role of being dad in a child’s life Studies show that if your child’s father is affectionate, supportive, and involved, he can contribute greatly to your child’s cognitive, language, and social development, as well as academic achievement, a strong inner core resource, sense of well-being, good self-esteem, and authenticity”. Dr Gail Gross Every child is looking for a hero and what a privilege it is for every dad to be that first hero. I remember when my children were little; they could not wait for their dad to come home. They would run outside anticipating the twenty minutes of chasing and wrestling in the back yard. This time of their dad’s undivided attention kept them fulfilled for the rest of the evening. Children learn through example and from their early years, they start to mimic the role players in their lives. Their entire perception of behaviour is formed by the example they have at a very vulnerable age. It is impossible to over-estimate the importance of a dad’s positive involvement, as many studies have shown. The dad is the key role player in forming his child’s identity. A mother is there to nurture and to fill up their emotional tank. In the 26 years of being a teacher, I experienced different scenarios of a dad’s involvement. The dads, who attend most of their children’s sport events, praise them, and encourage them with words of affirmation, generally have the least stressed children in the game. The children whose dads are screaming and shouting at them are the children who are anxious and constantly looking at their dads for approval, afraid to play their own game. As a principal at a Pre-Primary School, I enjoy watching the children arrive at school. The dads with boys are chasing them to the classroom with lots of laughter and joy. These little boys are the ones who will take the initiative and start new games. The dads tend to be more protective over their little princesses. They will carry them and talk softly on their way to the classroom. These little girls will almost immediately turn away and start playing. Girls tend to model their future male relationships on that with their dad. If dad was supportive, kind and loving, they will look for these characteristics in their future relationships. Boys tend to model themselves on dad and the perpetuating cycles of violence we see in South Africa can often be attributed to the modelling they see at home. It is common in today’s society that parents are separated or divorced, and the children live with their mother. The father can feel left out or less involved, especially after a bad break up. But, by keeping dad as a vital, honoured and regular part of children’s lives, a good balance can be achieved, leading to adults capable of building healthy relationships Children do not ask for much. Twenty minutes daily of your undivided attention. No cell phone, no laptop, no TV, talking, playing and having fun. Dads, give your child the best gift that money can’t buy, your time and positive attention.

June 6, 2018

Understanding the teen years

Raising a teen can be a daunting task. Teenagedom was a very long time ago for some parents, and the thought of raising a teen in todays fast paced, technological age tends to make parents feel overwhelmed straight off the bat. By developing a greater understanding of a teen’s world and compartmentalising it, may make the task a little less stressful for parents. The teenage years are a critical stage on the road to adulthood. These are the years from which well-adjusted adults are moulded. A teen typically operates in three major spheres in their lives; the social, academic and physical spheres. Striking a balance between these three areas can help teenagers to navigate this period more easily, and will set them up for being wholesome adults in the future. What parents may begin to notice is that these three spheres are inextricably linked. Trouble in one area may easily affect another; for example, poor performance in Mathematics over a term, which falls in the academic sphere, could be partly attributed to the loss of a grandparent a few months before, which is the social sphere. Parents can play a pivotal role in helping teens to keep a state of harmony. Although this is the time that teens need to find their independence, they still do require the support of someone to help them through it. Parents can monitor their teen and look for links between behaviour and events in each sphere and intervene where needed. Teens spend most of their time in the academic sphere surrounded by their teachers and friends. As they move further up the grades in school, the academic pressure mounts and the focus on career becomes greater. Many teens get bogged down by the academic pressure, which in turn may affect the other two spheres. Teens of all academic strengths are affected by these pressures and parents may notice things such as social withdrawal or illness creeping in. These are signs that your teen may be under duress and that there is an imbalance. Intervention will be required and the help from professionals, such as teachers, may be required to address the issues. It is imperative for a teen to maintain their physical well-being. Regular exercise and healthy eating habits help to keep a teen aligned. Teens require 8 to 9 hours of sleep a night, which can be difficult to get for them due to homework and study routines that may keep them up. Snappiness and irritability could be due to lack of sleep or hunger, for example. The social sphere includes both family and friends. Teens are social beings and enjoy socialising immensely. One major difference between the generations is that teens of today use the digital world to socialise as well. Teens also begin to slowly separate from their parents on a quest to develop greater independence. This period will not come without bumping of heads; however. Parents may need to incorporate new strategies when it comes to communicating with a teen. Allow your teen the time and space to develop their independence in a healthy and safe way. Parents may also notice that their teen gravitates towards their peers more and more over this period. The trick is not to take this too personally – it is normal. This new-found independence can go a long way in helping the transition from school to university and to the world of work one day. Written By: Donel van Zyl, Crawford College North Coast

June 6, 2018

Beat The Holiday Food Traps

The worst part of a holiday trip isn’t the packing before the holiday or the large crowds – it is the price your diet pays. As much as we look forward to a holiday, many of us fear enjoying it too much – and piling on the kilograms. It is no coincidence that when holidays get under way, your diet takes a nosedive. But is not just stress associated with travelling or the temptation and treats that take their toll on you. There seems to be the assumption that when you travel, you can’t eat healthily, so subsequently you don’t even make an attempt to. However, the correct foods can help ward off road rage, prevent jet lag and give you the energy to deal with your family when you finally get where you are going. You will also feel healthier, more alert, and have more fun once you reach your destination. Typical freeway fare includes fast food, microwave-ready service station options, pies, bags of chips, chocolate bars and lots of fizzy drinks. These foods are almost always full of bad fats, lots of calories and not much valuable nutrition. With a little bit of effort and willpower, you can navigate your way around the junk food and maintain your healthy diet while on a long road trip. Follow this guide to help you stay on the straight and narrow. Keep on reading to help you make the right food choices on the go. Breakfast on the run Always start your day of travelling with breakfast. Tempted to hit the Wimpy? Not so fast – beware of hidden fats and kilojoules – you also want avoid excess sugar. High carbohydrate meals e.g. restaurant or coffee shop muffins may improve your mood for a short time, but lots of sugar can also make you sleepy – which isn’t good if you are the driver. Your best bet is to look for lean protein. A protein rich breakfast can help increase the feeling of fullness and reduce cravings later in the day. Seed loaf or wholewheat toast with eggs is a good choice. Health bread or wholewheat bread contains a fraction of the kilojoules found in croissants or bagels. Rather choose ham over sausage or bacon (both are very high in artery-clogging saturated fat). Breakfast wraps are a good choice, but do avoid wraps that has words like loaded, meaty or cheesy in its name on the menu or packaging description. A common mistake people make is drinking a smoothie with their breakfast instead of drinking the smoothie as their meal. Smoothies are often high in kilojoules and high in sugar. Pick a smoothie that is made with fat-free yoghurt instead of ice cream and avoid ingredients such as fruit syrups. Skip Granola and fruit mix, despite its health reputation, granola contains more than 2000kJ (476kcal) and 30g fat per cup! It is often further loaded with dried fruit that sends the sugar content further through the roof (not to mention your blood sugar). If you do have time, it is best to prepare yummy “padkos” yourself. See below for ideas. Lunch on the go Tired of hearing…… How far yet? Now you also have to start thinking about lunch. If you weren’t organised enough to pack lunch, then it means hitting the one-stop along the freeway or the restaurant at the airport. Options such as grilled chicken sandwiches or wraps are a good idea, as long as they’re not loaded with cheese or sauces such as mayonnaise. Caution with pre-prepared salads – they are often drenched in salad dressings loaded with kilojoules, saturated fat and salt. All the salt is sure to make you feel uncomfortable and bloated in an already cramped car or airline seat. Sushi is another healthy alternative that contains healthy fats as well as omega-3 fatty acids. If you choose a burger, try to give the chips on the side a skip. A typical serving of chips provides you with 2310kJ (550kcal) and 20g fat – this is half of the typical amount of energy most women need in a day. Snack on the road The petrol gauge’s needle is edging towards empty…… and so is your tummy! You stop at a petrol station to fill up and inside the shop you are confronted with mostly unhealthy food choices. Bypass the high sugar and fat items on the shelves and look out for healthier options. Fat free yoghurt (or low fat if there isn’t any other choice) is a healthier option which is also high in calcium and protein. Bananas are high in soluble fibre that won’t bloat you and contain magnesium that helps with headaches while driving. Be careful with nuts – limit your portion size to a small handful. Nuts are high in fat (yes, it is the healthy fat but is still high in calories). Also, be cautious with protein bars, unless you eat a brand you know and trust (approved by your dietitian). You could very easily end up with a protein bar that’s closer to a chocolate than a healthy snack. Some manufacturers jam their bars with sugar. Pack Light Packing your own travel bag of food? Then make smart choices such as the following: Packets of instant Oats (original flavour) – ask for some boiling water at your pit-stop. Alternatively, pack individual portions of Futurelife or Pronutro (original or wholewheat flavour) – just add water or milk. Homemade sandwiches, wraps, pita breads or provitas with a lean protein filling. Chicken strips, mini bobotie bites, mini quiches (made without the cream and buttery short crust pastry) – see ‘Snacks and treats for sustained energy’ for recipes and more ideas Biltong: this practically fat free protein source will keep your mouth busy and fuller for longer. Fresh fruit or fruit snacks e.g. Low GI Safari Fruit Break Bars or Just Fruit Bars (also available at the practice) for a fibre-filled way to satisfy a sweet craving. Nuts: pack 30g portions that can

June 1, 2018

Practically speaking, home education is easy

Some home-education learners shy away from subjects such as Dramatic Arts, Agricultural Sciences, Hospitality Studies, etc. because they are worried that they will not be able to complete the practical components at home. But that should not be the case. Impaq(a curriculum provider) caught up with twins, Armand and Juan Potgieter, who successfully completed Hospitality Studies through home education. They spoke to us about their passion for baking and starting their own business. Armand and Juan have been home educated since Grade 4 and completed their matric in 2017. They made use of Impaq’s products and services, and visited a tutor centre to help them with their studies. They thoroughly enjoyed the freedom home education afforded them. “We could work ahead and that’s the reason we could get time to bake and follow our passion.” They also found it easy to complete their practical assessment tasks (PATs) for Hospitality Studies as they could bake in the comfort of their own home. In Grade 10, the twins participated in a chef competition at Pro Arte Alphen Park to test their skills. “This was the first time we cooked in a commercial kitchen and we also got to make friends during the competition, which was very nice.” Armand and Juan started their own business, Bakery Co., in Polokwane earlier this year, serving unique cakes, cupcakes and macaroons. They get inspiration for their one-of-a-kind creations from Pinterest and Instagram but they always add their own special touch to an idea. “Most of our cakes and cupcakes are decorated in-the-moment when Juan decides that the cake needs nuts or caramel or chocolate.” Gravity Defying Paintbrush Cake Starting their own business did, however, come with some challenges. The twins explained that they once had to bake a cake and 180 doughnuts for a wedding. Only on their way to the venue did they realise that they had the date wrong; the wedding was still a week away. They decided to give the specially made doughnuts that included Nutella hazelnut, blueberry cheesecake, chocolate and orange, to an orphanage. “Thinking about it now, it is quite a funny story that we will definitely be telling again.” Their plans for the future include finding the winning recipe for their coffee shop in order to open more shops across the country. “We want everyone to be able to eat the best cakes of their lives (and don’t worry about getting fat we also have a banting-friendly series).” Their advice to other young entrepreneurs is to work hard and follow their dreams. “With hard work, lots of coffee and the right attitude you can overcome anything that’s in your way.” Bakery Co. Armand and Juan serve as a great example that practical subjects cannot only be successful through home education but that it can also create job opportunities for learners.

June 1, 2018

Barbie™ Dreamtopia Flying Wings fairy doll lets playtime take off with wings that really fly!

It’s a magical moment that inspires all kinds of storytelling when kids play with the Barbie Dreamtopia Flying Wings fairy doll. Simply attach one of the two sets of included flying wings to the butterfly wings on Barbie® fairy doll’s back. They snap right in to create a gorgeous double set of wings. Then pull the purple bow at Barbie® doll’s waist four times. When you’re ready to see the wings fly, press the butterfly button hidden on her bodice — the flying wings launch and soar into the air! Their beautiful fluttering motion and colourful designs make the soaring wings look like magical butterflies! It’s so much fun to repeat over and over, especially with two sets of wings. Kids will love sending their stories into the sky. Barbie® fairy doll is ready to help their dreams take flight wearing an outfit inspired by Dreamtopia Rainbow Cove™. The pink bodice has rainbow stripes and stars, and the fairy skirt has a shimmery print of clouds and rainbows. A pink tiara adds a royal touch for fancy fairy occasions. Fans of the animated series can recreate scenes, fairytale lovers can play out favourite moments and creative minds can tell fantastical stories because when you enter Dreamtopia with sisters Barbie™ and Chelsea™, you wake up to a world where dreams become reality! Includes Barbie® Flying Wings fairy doll wearing a tiara with two pairs of flying wings. Doll cannot stand alone. Colours and decorations may vary. Key features: The Barbie™ Dreamtopia Flying Wings fairy doll lets playtime take off with wings that really fly! Barbie® fairy doll comes with two sets of flying wings that can be attached to the butterfly wings on her back — snap the wings on, pull the purple bow at her waist four times and press the butterfly button hidden on her bodice to see the wings fly off into the air! The two sets of flying wings have colourful rainbow decorations, solid bodies and a fluttering motion that mimics butterflies! Barbie® fairy doll inspires colourful stories with looks from Rainbow Cove™: a pink one-shoulder bodice is decorated with colourful stripes and stars, a fairy rainbow skirt shimmers with a rainbow and cloud print and a pink tiara adds a final fairytale touch. Collect all the Barbie™ Dreamtopia dolls and accessories and let your stories take flight (each sold separately, subject to availability). Little girls are little for such a short time in their lives. Let them play. Let them dream. Set their imaginations free with Barbie Dreamtopia #YouCanBeAnything.

May 30, 2018

Eye Allergies in Children

Eye allergies are surprisingly common in children in South Africa and unfortunately, this phenomenon appears to be on the increase. Some children will experience eye allergies as infants and young children but outgrow it as adults, while others will continue to battle with it right into adulthood. If one of the child’s biological parents suffers from some form of allergy, there’s a 40% to 50% chance that the child will have some sort of allergy as well. That probability jumps to 75% to 80% percent when both biological parents have allergies. An allergy describes the “over excited” way in which the body reacts to something in the environment which it sees as foreign. This foreign substance is called an allergen. Types of Allergens Outdoor allergens include pollens, diesel exhaust and petrol fumes. While indoor culprits encompass pet dander, dust mites, mould, and cigarette smoke. A child can come into contact with an allergen by touching it, breathing it in or eating it. The following image has been borrowed from Adam, Inc. which shows some of the various types of culprits that can cause allergic reactions in children whose body sees them as foreign. Allergic Eye Disease Symptoms In a child with allergies, the body mistakenly identifies the foreign object (seen in example above) as a serious threat, which in turn triggers a cascade of immune mediated enzymes and chemicals to be released into the body to fight off this intruder. This overzealous reaction can cause a range of symptoms from having mildly itchy eyes, to chronic scarring with resultant loss of vision. Symptoms may only occur during certain seasons such as spring when flowers start to blossom or may be present throughout the year due to continual exposure to something like house dust mites. Symptoms that occur commonly in allergic eye disease include: Itchy eyes with frequent rubbing. Increased tearing (watery eyes) Red or pink eyes. Mild swelling of the eyelids. Areas around the eye or just below the eye are also often involved. Darkened discoloration of the skin under the eye Watching Children’s Behaviour is key Children are not young adults; therefore, they cannot always describe to us what exactly is wrong. It is very helpful to carefully watch their behaviour, such as: Rubbing their eyes often. Blinking forcefully and repeatedly. Making rolling eye movements in response to the itchy sensation caused by the allergies. Allergies Are Not: Important to note is that eye allergies do not cause the following: A sticky, stringy, mucus discharge. A green or a yellow discharge Lids that are so swollen that they close the eyes. Pain or a fever. Should any of these symptomsoccur, medical attention should be sought immediately! Management of Allergies Once a diagnosis of allergic eye disease has been made by your eye specialist, there are a variety of management protocols that can be followed. The simplest of these is to avoid the possible triggers. Many allergens that cause eye allergies are difficult to identify, but there are a few general procedures that can be helpful: Keep windows closed during high pollen periods and stay indoors as much as possible when pollen counts are at their peak, usually during the midmorning and early evening, and on windy days. Avoid using window fans that can draw pollens and moulds into the house; use air-conditioning in your home and car if possible. In damp areas use a dehumidifier to control mould. Use “mite-proof” bedding covers to limit exposure to dust mites, and wash your bedding frequently, using hot water (above 40C). Wash your hands after petting any animal. In addition to avoiding triggers, your child’s eyes can be made more comfortable by using medication. Some symptoms can be controlled by using over-the-counter medication such as artificial tears, a decongestant drop and oral antihistamines. There are two important factors to be considered when taking these medications. OTC decongestant eye drops should not be used for more than two to three days. Prolonged use can create a “rebound effect” – increased swelling and redness that may last even after discontinuing the drops. OTC Antihistamine tablets may cause dry eyes and potentially worsen eye allergy symptoms. Prescribed drops include preparations such as anti-histamines, mast cell stabilisers, non-steroidal anti-inflammatories and corticosteroids. Your eye specialist will determine which combination of these treatments are the most appropriate for your child. Correct Diagnosis is Important Eye allergies can cause great discomfort and in rare cases, even vision loss. But with the correct diagnosis and treatment, the condition can be well controlled. It is always recommended to see an eye specialist for the best possible advice. References: Oxford Handbook of Ophthalmology, 2ndEdition, p. 170 American College of Allergy, Asthma and Immunology Allergy Foundation of South Africa Images: Borrowed from todaysparent.com; Adam, Inc.: Parenthub; Paediatric Associates of Franklin; Allergy & Ashtma Center of Atlanta; Eyecare Kids; allergyaustralia.com

May 24, 2018

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