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The PROVES Method – the perfect strategy for mastering your matric mock exams

Matrics from the Class of 2018 should now be deep into preparing for their upcoming mock exams – which are only a few weeks away – and ultimately the final exams of their school careers in two months’ time. With only a handful of weeks left to revise, they now need to up the ante to ensure they get the best marks possible on their prelims. Doing so will enable them firstly to see which areas need more work before they write their finals, and will also ensure that they get the very best marks to allow them access to the higher education institution and qualification of their choice. “Learners now need to go beyond reading and re-reading their textbooks and notes, and employ a more holistic strategy which will position them to bring their very best to the exam room,” says Wonga Ntshinga, Senior Head of Programme: Faculty of ICT at The Independent Institute of Education, SA’s largest and most accredited private higher education institution. Ntshinga says that at this stage of the game, the PROVES method is a great approach to follow, as it helps to cement the academic work in the learner’s mind, while expanding understanding from different angles. Additionally, it gets learners in the right frame of mind, to withstand the anxiety and stress which can negatively impact performance. The PROVES method can be broken down as follows: PRACTISE by writing past papers or example questions rather than just reading. Most schools should make past papers available to their learners, but it is also a good idea to get ones in addition to those provided by your school. Good higher education institutions also help matric learners by providing past papers, so go visit a registered and accredited one in your area, and ask a student advisor to assist. As a bonus, the student advisor might even be able to talk through some of your concerns about the exams and your post-matric options, which will further help to mitigate any anxiety you may have. REFRESH by making sure you are eating, sleeping and exercising enough. Cramming into the early hours of the morning before an exam will leave you stressed, exhausted and unable to focus. It is important now to look after your physical and mental health as well as throwing your weight behind your books. Learners still have enough time to cover what they need to cover ahead of the exams, but then the plan needs to be put into motion right away, to avoid last-minute panic and the resultant impact on their physical wellbeing.   ORGANISE yourself, your time and your work. Having a neat working environment and a clear plan for what you need to do and study every day, as well as having the relevant materials sorted and on hand, will go a long way to reduce anxiety and optimise learning. Follow the plan closely but avoid spending hours every day on the plan rather than the implementation of the plan. Don’t allow yourself to feel overwhelmed, but focus on the small efforts – hour after hour, day after day – which, when compounded, will ultimately make a big impact. VISUALISE by using colour and mind maps and other strategies rather than just words, so that you can use more of your brain.   EXPLAIN by answering questions or telling friends or relatives about your work. It is not until you have tried to explain what you know that you can assess if you know enough to answer the questions.   SOCIAL MEDIA can be used as an academic tool to expand your understanding and grasp of your work. This can best be done by getting together a study group of equally dedicated and committed peers, and using the various platforms for specific purposes. Being part of a study group helps you track your progress, can quickly help you clarify your understanding of issues or set you on the right track if you have misunderstood something, and it also acts as an early warning system if you are falling behind.   The various channels and apps can be used as follows:   GOOGLE to find a wealth of online resources. From how to handle exam stress, to self-marking mock papers, study timetable templates and content/concept lists. Do a search for “Matric Exams 2018” which will provide many excellent results which can assist you in your preparation and motivation. A dedicated WHATSAPP study group enables discussion, last minute clarifications and sharing of notes. It is best to align study breaks within the group, and put your mobile on airplane mode while you’re hitting the books. When taking a break, connect with your peers via WhatsApp to share your understanding, successes and concerns. FACEBOOK groups for specific subjects is a great way to share materials and visuals, while enabling group discussions. When it’s time to take a break from the written word, go to YOUTUBE to find videos related to the content you are studying. Sometimes seeing something explained in video format will clarify things you just weren’t able to pin down while going through your textbooks. “The next few weeks and months are going to be taxing for learners preparing for their final exams, but by following a strict study strategy and doing what needs to be done every day – without allowing panic and procrastination to set in – there is still sufficient time even for learners who aren’t quite where they should be at the moment,” Ntshinga says. “And by incorporating this strategy into their approach right now, many learners will also find a new feeling of empowerment to take on the additional burden that higher education will bring.”

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Everything you need to know about a will

September is National Wills Month, so it’s a good reminder to draw one up if you don’t already have one, or update it if necessary. Financial experts at Hero Life guide you on everything you need to know about a will, by answering some frequently asked questions. Why is a will so important? Drawing up a will is not nearly as complex as most people think it is, especially when one considers the importance of having one. Regardless of the value of your assets, having a will in place reduces anxiety for the family you leave behind, and ensures that all your assets are distributed according to your wishes. Your will also protects your children as you can appoint a guardian for them when you die, preventing them from having to go under the care of the state or the Court choosing the guardians to look after them, if both their parents pass. How does one get started with a will? Nowadays, drawing up a will can be as easy as downloading basic templates from the internet or going through an online will-drafting process. In more complex cases (such as when there are ex-spouses/partners, children from previous marriages, disabled dependents, a special needs trust or any other specific wishes to be implemented), it is preferable to have a practising attorney or reputable bank draw up the will. This ensures that the wishes of the testator (the person who has written and executed a last will and testament) are set out correctly, and that they comply with all the legal requirements. Can the executor be a member of the family? An executor is the appointed person (or company) in your will who will ensure that your wishes as per your last will and testament, are honoured. If you don’t select an executor, the Court will choose someone. However, one can nominate a member of their family to be an executor on their will. If you nominate a spouse for example, this might not be the best option since they could be under emotional stress on your passing, and therefore not ready to make important financial decisions as an executor. If you nominate a family member, it’s a good idea to nominate an attorney as co-executor to deal with the legal issues. Also note that if the Court believes that your chosen executor doesn’t have the necessary skills to act on your behalf, they may select someone to assist your appointed executor. What are typical mistakes people make when drawing up a will? For parents of children, the biggest mistake would be not to nominate a legal guardian(s) for their children, and therefore leave it to the Court to decide. Other typical mistakes include leaving out specific assets from the will, or forgetting to update it as circumstances change. Most importantly though, the biggest mistake is not having a will at all. How often or when should a will be updated? Every time your circumstances change, for example you get divorced, or remarried, or have another child, you should update your will. While you’re at it, also look at your insurance policies and make sure that the nominated beneficiaries of these policies are updated to reflect your wishes. Who needs a copy of the will? If your Will was drafted by an attorney or bank, store it with them. If you decide to store the will yourself, it’s a good idea to make up one file of all your important documents, including your will, as this will make it easier for the people you leave behind. Add to this file a list of all your investments, assets, contact details of your executor and any other important documents you think your loved ones will need. Make sure this file, along with your will, are stored safely and that your loved ones and the person you have nominated as your executor are informed of where this file is stored. If you don’t have a will or an updated will, what’s the worst that can happen? The worst-case scenario if you pass away without a will, is that your assets and money will be divided as per the provision of the Intestate Succession Act. Although the provisions as per the Act are usually fair in that your assets and money will be transferred to your spouse and children, it doesn’t mean that your assets will go to the person of your choice. Not having a will can also mean that it usually takes longer for your estate to be wound up as the Court need to appoint an executor and a legal guardian (if the other parent is also no longer alive). Unnecessary delays in dealing with your estate could affect your family if they rely on you for an income. The same holds true if you don’t update your will as your circumstances change – you want to ensure that your preferred people are being looked after. If you neglect to update your will, it could mean that your estranged spouse receives a portion of your assets, which might not have been what you had in mind.For more information on drawing up a Will, getting started on your kids’ university savings fund or getting life insurance, contact Hero Life.

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Review: Toptots tom-e rag dolls

Children show an interest in dressing and undressing themselves from about the age of 18 months of age.  Having a doll like our large Tom-e Rag Doll will help your child to master the skill of taking off and putting on again.  Because Tom-e is not actually a “doll”, he is perfect for little boys to play with, after all they have a right to master these skills too.  The embroidered face of Tom-e  will help your child learn about the different facial features.  Combine this activity with a mirror and let your child look for his own facial features in the mirror.  This helps to develop body awareness and gives your child a healthy self-esteem.   Link to website – https://www.toptots.co.za/product/toptots-tom-e-rag-doll/

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Review: Toptots Textured Bean Bags

Children love beanbags because they are so much easier to catch and throw than a ball.  While a ball bounces away from little hands a beanbag usually lands with a gentle thud!  Learning to catch a moving object is not as easy as it seems.  It requires a great deal of concentration and coordination.  Beanbags offer your child the chance to have more success at catching which is a total confidence booster. Toptots has a variety of beanbags all packed into drawstring bags for easy storage.  Our beanbags are also easy to clean – just pop them into the washer and dry Our textured beanbag sets consist of 12 textured beanbags.  These beanbags are made out of different types of material such as corduroy, satin, hessian cloth etc. – all designed to stimulate your child’s tactile system.  Your child will also develop his matching skills by learning to match the different colours and textures.  Our 15 x 15cms beanbags are ideal for throwing and catching – great for improving those fine motor and coordination skills.  The shape beanbag set consist of 4 large shaped beanbags – used for throwing, teaching colours and shapes and jumping over them develops gross motor skills.  Our mini beanbag set consists of 4 triangle, circle, rectangle and square shapes – designed to teach your child his shapes and colours. For more information visit the links below https://www.toptots.co.za/product/toptots-textured-bean-bag-set/ https://www.toptots.co.za/product/toptots-15cm-bean-bag/ https://www.toptots.co.za/product/toptots-mini-bean-bag-set/ https://www.toptots.co.za/product/toptots-shape-bean-bag-set/

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Breastfeeding basics: What you need to know

World Breastfeeding Week is celebrated around the world from 1-7 August every year to raise awareness, protect, promote and support breastfeeding worldwide because of its health benefits for both mothers and their children. The theme this year, “Breastfeeding: Foundation of Life”, calls for greater commitment from government, health practitioners, mothers, doctors and civil society in ensuring lifelong good health for babies and mothers. “Breastfeeding has been shown to have major health benefits for both the mother and child. The benefits of breastfeeding include protecting babies from some of the biggest killer diseases of infants and children in South Africa: diarrhoea and pneumonia,” says Laura Sayce, Lactation Consultant at Life Healthcare’s Genesis Maternity Clinic. “It is also associated with improved development and educational achievement. However, babies are not the only beneficiaries. Breastfeeding after birth helps the uterus contract and reduces the mother’s postpartum blood loss, reduces the risk of ovarian and breast cancer, and type II diabetes.” According to the World Health Organisation (WHO), if breastfeeding were scaled up to near universal levels, about 820 000 child lives would be saved every year. Globally, only 40% of infants under six months of age are exclusively breastfed[1]. In South Africa a third of children under six months old are now exclusively breastfed. This represents a nearly five-fold increase over the last twenty years[2]. While breastfeeding is a natural act, it is also a learned behaviour, therefore ensuring that expectant mothers are prepared is key. Research has demonstrated that mothers and other caregivers require active support for establishing and sustaining appropriate breastfeeding practices. “There are two essential ways to prepare for breastfeeding ahead of the birth. Expectant mothers should start by attending a breastfeeding class conducted by a certified lactation expert. They also need a breastfeeding plan. For a successful breastfeeding journey every new mom needs a plan which should include what to do in the first hours following birth, and who they can contact for support. The plan should also consider what steps to take for any special needs, such as how to ensure baby receives breastmilk in the event mom and baby may not be able to breastfeed,” she says. Sayce continued to say that often mothers don’t realise that if baby doesn’t latch or needs to go to the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), they can still express breastmilk to feed their baby. “World Breastfeeding Week gives us an opportunity to further educate people about the benefits of breastfeeding to save lives and improve the overall health of infants and their mothers.” To learn more about breastfeeding visit www.lifehealthcare.co.za or contact your local Life Healthcare hospital. For breastfeeding support at Genesis Maternity Clinic visit https://www.genesisclinic.co.za.

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Carseat battles

Many children fuss when placed into a car seat. If you had just found your feet and was relishing in your new found independence so would you!  Children hate being restrained but this is one battle you must win! There are no if’s and but’s in this. It is scary to drive past parents and they are strapped in but their precious child is loose at the back of the car roaming around the open space. Not a good idea! There are enough demos of what happens to children when involved in an accident to place a very real fear in you.  Rather have a screaming toddler than one you are not going to hear ever again. Fortunately if you persist they will get the message in the end and resign themselves to the car seat. Here are some tips that may help: Make sure your child is comfortable, the straps must be firm but not too tight. Make sure the car seat is big enough. Toddlers grow so fast. Instead of announcing that you are going to strap her in, try and distract her by    pointing to something outside or talk about going to the shops. Put on her favourite CD. Keep some car toys that only get seen when you go out in the car. Attach them with a shoelace to her seat so that you don’t add to the stress of losing a toy. As you get in the car, say something like “Mommy’s buckled up as well.” Lead by example. If she wriggles out of the belt use an old fashioned nappy pin to secure your little one in. Allow no exceptions!

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Review: Vtech Baby Lullaby Lambs Mobile

VTech Baby have introduced the Little Friendlies bunch of characters into their baby line that includes a selection of gorgeous animals for your children to love.  One of the Little Friendlies cast is the gorgeous lamb.  The soothing musical projector mobile features cute dangling Little Friendlies ‘lamb’ characters and discovery mirror. Soothe your baby with nature sounds, relaxing lullabies, calming melodies and 4 beautiful projected light patterns.  The mobile Includes 5, 10 or 15 minute timer setting options and a sound sensor that will trigger lullabies when your baby cries. It also includes 70 relaxing melodies, soothing nature sounds and phrases, soft sing-along songs.  And on top of all this, this mobile is undoubtedly one of the cutest on the market right now. Available now at Hamleys stores, selected Kids Emporium stores, www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za and www.purplepepperz.com.

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Review: Vtech Baby Little Friendlies Shake & Roll Busy Ball

VTech Baby once again brings the best in developmental toys to parents around the world.  Now available easily in South Africa through Prima Baby, the range of baby products are all aimed at stimulating baby’s brain whilst ensuring the best fun ever. Shake, slide and move with the Little Friendlies Shake & Roll Busy Ball. The ball is designed to stimulate your baby and provide a multi-sensory experience play time. It features 6 easy-to-grip handles so baby can pick the ball up with ease.  The play pieces are made up of cute items such as butterfly and cow, a sliding milk bottle, chick and apple – all providing fine motor skill development and teach cause and effect while keeping baby busy. 3 press buttons introduce the cow to baby and play fun phrases to teach first words. The ball also includes a light up button and 15 happy melodies and 3 uplifting songs.  So much fun in one product! Available now at Hamleys stores, selected Kids Emporium stores, www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za and www.purplepepperz.com.

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Number sense- the root of mathematics

Number sense essentially refers to a learner’s ability to use numbers in relation to one another, i.e. they can recognise number symbols and relate it to the actual number of objects. There is a common misconception that, if learners can count to a certain number, they are smart and understand numbers. However, the question is whether they know the value of each number?  Take this scenario:ah Nataly, a Grade 3 learner, still uses her fingers to count and has difficulty with some of the easier Maths problems. However,  there are several really difficult problems that she can easily do. How is this possible? Let’s do a simple test. Look at the arrangement of the dots in each of the blocks:  BCD EAll of the blocks represent the number 5, but it is structured in different ways. A learner with no number sense will start to count the dots in each block, but a learner with number sense will automatically divide the dots into groups or create a structure in order to get to the value of the number. A: This is a familiar arrangement, it is represented on a dice or on playing cards and learners will recognise this arrangement easily. B: This is a sub-group arrangement. The dots are arranged into sub units and will force the brain to add the three dots to the two dots. C: This is a linear arrangement. It will most likely prompt counting, however, many people will mentally separate the dots and organise them into groups.  D: This is a random arrangement with no obvious grouping structures. The brain will try to look for a pattern or a way to divide them in order to get meaningful patterns.  E: This is also a sub-group arrangement, like in B, but the difference is that the brain will add the one dot to the other four dots.  Number sense boils down to the value of a number. Learners like Nataly find different ways and detours to do Maths without knowing the basics – they create alternative methods to get to the answers.  Teaching number sense is very basic and forms the foundation of Mathematics.  Here are a few ideas on how to stimulate number sense: Use dot cards and play games, e.g. memory games, with learners. Teach number combinations up to 10. Cut 10 circles from two different colours. Pack the circles in different combinations and see how fast the learner can recognise the number combinations. Repeat the exercise using a variety of number combinations, e.g. two red circles and four yellow circles = 6 Play games such as Halli Galli, which focuses on number combinations and establishes a foundation for number sense.  It is very important to ensure that number sense is engraved in a learner’s brain before moving on to more difficult Mathematical problems. Additionally, d an enriched learning environment that enhances the development of number sense can be craeted by means of a variety of wall charts and number games. References Way, J. (2005). Number sense series: Developing Early Number Sense, Online: https://nrich.maths.org/2477, Access 23 August 2017. 

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Little friendlies starlight sounds polar

Sleep time is invaluable – and tech toys are the way of the future when it comes to augmenting nurturing and soothing.   VTech baby introduce the Starlight Sounds Polar Bear. Part of the Little Friendlies range of lovable characters, the cute, soft and cuddly polar bear features 4 modes of play with a 15, 30 or 45 minute timer, a light control button and an adjustable volume dial.  The polar bear projects four different coloured lights with the option of 6 different light displays onto the ceiling whilst playing calming nature sounds and lullabies in the nature and lullaby mode, 3 soothing sung songs and melodies play in the lullaby mode, 7 popular nursery rhymes will be read in the story mode and 60 relaxing melodies will play in the lullaby mode. A vital addition to any babies nursery, this item is one of the most popular items on the VTech Baby range and continue to be any parents helper at sleep time.  It is available at Hamleys stores, selected Kids Emporium stores, www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za and www.purplepepperz.com.

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Developing children’s EQ crucial for future success in rapidly changing world

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is increasingly becoming a greater determinant of future success across all spheres of life than IQ, an expert says, adding that it is more important than ever before that EQ is nurtured from a young age. “The introduction of social media into our lives as well as the lives of our children has created an environment where people are required to efficiently manage a variety of relationships simultaneously and successfully,” says Chris Van Niekerk, head at Founders Hill College, part of Africa’s largest private education provider, ADvTECH. He says the acquisition of knowledge, while obviously important, is less critical in the current information age, and that the emphasis for success has more to do with what can be done with the knowledge at hand. “This requires the ability to collaborate across gender divides, age gaps, cultural differences, and the like. A well-developed EQ will position a child well to positively engage 21st century challenges in adolescence and ultimately, adulthood.” Van Niekerk says that emotional intelligence can be defined as the ability to understand our own feelings, as well as the feelings of those around us. This includes concepts of self-awareness, empathy and dealing sensitively with other people. “In a world where we are required to manage a matrix of personal and professional relationships instantly and efficiently, the need to have a well-developed sense of self, alongside good empathetic social awareness is critical. It is widely accepted that IQ alone does not guarantee success in adulthood, in either the workplace or at home. “Our potential, and that of our children, will only come to fruition if our cognitive abilities are enhanced, complemented and communicated through a well-developed EQ which entails sound self-awareness as well as the awareness of the emotions of those around us.” Van Niekerk says that a well-developed EQ can, literally, be the deciding factor for success in adulthood. “This places an exciting, but onerous burden on us as parents and educators to ensure that our children are not only well versed in the Social, Natural and Commercial Sciences, among others, but also have the emotional savvy to manage their own feelings and behaviours, while being able to understand the feelings of others.” He advises parents who are serious about prioritising the EQ of their children to start incorporating strategies to develop it in their daily lives. There are a few practical ways in which to do this: Role model the behaviour that you expect in your children. Normalise talking about emotions. Acknowledge positive and negative emotions in your child. Teach your children that feelings and behaviour are in fact separable. Negative emotions do not have to lead to inappropriate behaviour. Keep your expectations, and subsequent guidance, age appropriate. Love them unconditionally. “The need for Emotional Intelligence is introduced naturally to our children from early cognition, when they learn ‘acceptable behaviour’, learn to manipulate others, and respond to their environment to get what they need, and more often, to get what they want,” says Van Niekerk. “The ‘how’ of introducing EQ to children is dependant on their emotional capacity, which is usually linked to their age. Six-year-olds, normatively, are able to follow basic instructions, can express their feelings, fears and problems, are reasonably self-sufficient and are able to compare themselves to their peers. With this specific ‘emotional skill set’ in mind, parents and teachers can get creative with exploring learning opportunities related to identifying and naming emotions, reflecting on the emotions that accompanied certain experiences during the day, as well as exploring different ways of expressing emotions.” Van Niekerk says it is widely accepted that people with well-developed emotional intelligence do better in the workplace than those of similar IQ, but who are less proficient in areas related to “people skills”. “This is true for the entire life cycle of our careers, from the entry point during the interviewing process, to ultimately fulfilling our professional potential later in our careers. Academic excellence is important and it matters in the workplace, however people drive workplace processes, and the degree of an individual’s success is reliant on combining these various skill sets. “Equally, in personal relationships, a realistic and well-grounded identity, coupled with positive feelings about our concept of self, create an ideal position for us to choose and enjoy fulfilling and healthy family and social lives as adults. And the best time to start this journey to personal success, is in a child’s early years.”

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Is technology destroying our humanness?

The world is spinning with new technologies and we, the human inhabitants, are the willing prey! Cindy Glass, Director and Co-founder of Step Up Education Centres says “With ever-increasing time spent on smartphones, iPads and in front of live-streamed TV, we are in danger of losing our humanness. Teeny toddlers, vulnerable teens, exhausted parents and even bored grandparents can be seen, heads-down, shoulders bent and disengaged from the real world as they spend endless hours scrolling through their devices. Losing a smartphone is a big deal and people often feel a loss which is akin to losing a much-prized body part!”  Cindy highlights the following negative effects of too much screen time and says that they are serious enough for us, as parents, to STOP and take note!    • It affects cognitive development in young children as it literally effects the way in which our children’s brains develop! • Too much screen time stifles creativity, imagination and playfulness which are essential to the wholesome development of children. • Concentration, critical thinking, memory and other learning skills are effected as children focus mindlessly on information (whether real or not) as it just pours effortlessly into their subconscious! • It affects mental and physical health as people become increasingly inactive and detached from the real world. • It will harm your relationship with your children.  With parents and children spending too much time on their devices, they run the risk of losing the positive human connections that are key to happy relationships! Children feel unacknowledged, unheard and unnoticed and this leads to negative behaviours, anxiety, stress and depression. Cindy goes on to explain “We cannot ignore the dangers of too much exposure to the non-real world that the internet offers. We cannot afford to lose the beauty of life because we did not take a stand against the media (in all its forms)!”  Consider the following tips in reducing the amount of screen time that you allow for yourself and your children: 1. You have to set the example. Your children are more likely to do what you do, rather than what you say.  You cannot expect your children to reduce their screen time if you do not do the same! 2. Have dedicated no-go-zones for devices. Family activities, mealtimes and even when driving in a car can be cell phone free zones. 3. Get outside!  Plan activities that involve getting into nature- it is great for the soul and it will increase all the happy-hormones in your bodies! 4. Encourage your children to get involved in activities beyond the school environment-sport, drama, music and art are great examples. 5. Very young children need to play with their hands and bodies, not on a device.  Cindy closes by reiterating “Remember, as parents, we must set the example. REAL people, real love, real joy, real honesty and integrity cannot be experienced through the internet!” 

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Raising Money-Smart Children is Every Parent’s Responsibility

“Money doesn’t grow on trees.” How often did you hear this saying when as a child you wanted a treat or a shiny new toy? As a parent, how many times have you responded with this very phrase to your own child? While the saying is an extremely common response to children’s demands, parents shouldn’t miss the opportunity to teach their children about basic money matters. Raising money-savvy children has been made easy by the many free resources and financial education tools now available.  Lack of financial literacy and understanding can severely impact how South Africans manage their money. The 2018 Old Mutual Savings & Investment Monitor found that out of a group of 10 metropolitan working South Africans, only six say they are satisfied with their current financial situation. Whether our children grow up to be business leaders, biochemists, architects, chefs or entrepreneurs, they’ll need to balance household budgets and plan financially for their goals and dreams. This is why it’s so important to lay a good foundation when it comes to money matters from a young age.  With my own children – who are aged 10 and 12 – I always have honest conversations about our money, whether it’s planning big purchases like a new car or what kind of holiday we can afford. This teaches them an important lesson about living within your means.  Here are four ways to get the money conversation going. Income vs expenses Speak to your child about the importance of making ends meet and explain the relationship between income and expenses.  Highlight the importance of being realistic about your money situation and help them draw up a simple budget to manage their money. Make earning interest an exciting thing to do Help your children understand the advantages of saving for the things they want in life (rather than paying them off) by introducing them to the concept of earning interest. Explain how compound interest helps your savings to grow. Also explain the flip side of compound interest: how it can make borrowed money (debt) spiral out of control.  Help them set money goals The next time your child asks for the latest Playstation or mountain bike, have a conversation about setting money goals and creating a plan to achieve them – and emphasise the importance of sticking to your plan! This will help them understand that good money habits matter.  Teach them about real money The cashless world of credit cards and smartphone payment apps can make the act of paying very abstract and intangible. Next time you’re paying with your card or smartphone, talk to your child about basic banking concepts. Point out that paying with a credit card simply means you have to repay your bank later – probably with interest. Explain how technology has made it easy to pay for goods, but also easy to get into debt.   Remember actions speak louder than words, and it’s your own money habits that will most influence your child’s relationship with money. Upskill yourself to stay in the know. Know better, and do better. The growing trend to sign up to open online courses like Old Mutual’s Moneyversity and free apps like 22Seven means we can all access information on how to manage our money responsibly and wisely – and then act on it.

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Mind the gap- why you should think twice before taking a year off after school

Matrics who are tempted to take a year off after their school careers – whether it is because they feel they just need a break, or because they don’t yet know if or what they want to study – should think twice about their decision, an education expert says. “There are significant implications to taking a so-called gap year instead of directly entering studies,” says Peter Kriel, General Manager at The Independent Institute of Education, SA’s largest private higher education provider. Chief among these, is the fact that graduates who went to study straight after school, and who completed their qualification within the required timeframe, are significantly better off than matriculants who elected to enter the workplace right away or who opted for a gap year, particularly if that gap year is unproductive. “A gap year doesn’t necessarily mean that you take off a year to travel the world and pretty much do nothing as the term was understood in the past. The concept has evolved to include other activities, such as getting a job after Matric to earn some money or gain work experience, or volunteering or even undergoing a structured programme,” says Kriel. However, while these options are still better than just relaxing for a year before entering studies, they may still put you behind your peers in terms of studying and earning potential, he says. Another risk with taking a gap year, is that one loses one’s “study muscles”, says Kriel. “It is completely understandable that the idea of getting away from the books after the demands of one’s final year at school is a very attractive idea for many. However after that year, getting back into the habit of studying and focusing on academics are major challenges which are best avoided.” But Kriel adds that there are ways to make a gap year work, which will lessen its impact on a person’s long-term success in the workplace. And obviously, where a young person is really not sure what they want to study, a gap year as long as it is productive is a better investment than a failed year of post-school study. “If you do decide to take a gap year, it is crucial that you at least do something to improve your skills and competencies during that time. A great option in this instance, is to do some distance or part-time courses.” This is a particularly attractive option for those Matriculants who are hesitant to sign up for a full degree straight away because they are still uncertain of what they want to do with their life. “Doing some short or distance courses allows you to investigate your options and interests without the financial and time commitments required of full-time degree study,” notes Kriel. “This means that you can get a better idea of where your passion and talents lie, while at the same time earning some certification that will make your gap year less of a ‘hole’ in your CV. “And finally, staying with the books, even without the commitment of having to study full-time and the ability to study at your own pace, means that you keep your brain working and geared for when you do sign up for full qualification study later.” It is important to also note that some higher education institutions will not keep your “offer” warm for you, so if you get in to the qualification of your dreams it is rarely prudent to delay taking up the place, says Kriel. “But for those who have legitimate reasons for not going straight into further studies, our advice is definitely to ensure that you don’t lose sight of the long game, and that you keep learning even if you are already earning.” Kriel says the time should also be used to actively investigate future study options to limit time-wasting later. “Look at all the higher education institutions, whether it be a public university or private, and their offerings. Find a qualification that will make you employable – one that is recognised by employers and has a curriculum that is relevant in the workplace of today. “You must also choose an institution whose curricula and learning processes enable you to master work-ready skills so that you have a competitive ‘hit the ground running’ advantage. Having a portfolio of work at graduation, for example, allows you to instantly showcase what you have learnt and what makes you an attractive prospect to potential employers. “Finally, you must choose an institution that will give you the best possible chance of succeeding and completing your qualification in the minimum time. Every additional year of study leaves a long-term financial impact, so consider things such as student support, class sizes, and the quality of lecturing and facilities.”

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New Parents’ Guide To Life Insurance

What to remember about life insurance when your a parent?   When you hold your newborn baby in your arms, it’s hard to imagine he or she will someday be all grown up. And that day arrives sooner than expected. Before you know it your little baby is riding a bicycle, going to school, applying for universities and soon don’t need you to hold their hand every step of the way. But, when your children are young you’ll want them to feel protected at all times and enable them to be successful one day. One way is getting basic life insurance in place to make sure their dreams and futures are protected. Here are a few things to consider when thinking about getting life insurance cover for your family. The cost of raising a child and education According to News24 the cost of raising a child is approximately R90 000 per year. This may sound like a lot, but when you consider the costs of food, daycare, housing, clothing, education, and other activities, it makes sense. A good education is something that can really put a lot of financial strain on your wallet in South Africa. It is projected that in 2023 it will cost around R55 000 per annum for a child to go to a public primary or high school. The cost of sending your child to university also ranges from R30 000 to R60 000 a year. Would your partner be able to cover all these costs if you were no longer there? Unless you have a lot of savings or are a trust-fund-baby yourself, most people’s answer would be no. Life insurance is a smart way to ensure that your kids will be protected and get the education you intend them to get if the unthinkable should happen. To plan for sufficient cover, think about the monthly expenses your child (or children) would need covered until they are old enough to support themselves or just use our calculator to calculate the expected cost of their education and your other needs for you. As your life changes, the cover you need will change too Your life insurance needs will change over time. As you expand your family or when you take out a bond, your life insurance needs grow. As your kids become older, you pay off your debt and your savings grows, your life insurance needs become less. By actively managing your needs to pay for just the right amount of cover over your lifetime, you will save a lot of money. Most life insurance policies are not easy to change, but Hero Life your life insurance policy is flexible. When your needs change with time you can adjust your cover online with no extra hassle with just a few clicks – no agents and no paperwork involved. Life insurance can be very affordable for new parents While buying a life insurance policy might feel overwhelming, it’s really not. Or at least, it doesn’t need to be overwhelming. If you’re a parent, Hero Life provides a simple and easy process with affordable rates. We designed a product specifically for young parents they are generally safer, more responsible and healthier individuals ensuring an affordable rate for all. But, we can also help other parents finding the best provider at the best price. Ready to consider your life insurance options? Follow these steps: Understand how much cover you need. The best way to estimate your cover is to use Hero Life’s insurance calculator the expected costs of your kids education and other needs you may have in less than 5 minutes! It is extremely important to be fully aware of your future needs. The only thing that is important with your life insurance cover amount, is that you have the right amount of cover at a given time. On our website, check the premium associated with the amount of cover chosen. It will show you how much you would expect to pay each month for cover. You can easily reduce the cover to fit your budget and you can always apply for more cover later. Get covered. If you are happy with the cover amount and the premium, the process to apply for cover can take less than 5 minutes, and you’ll get immediate cover. If you pay your first pro rata premium, cover will begin immediately and you can cancel your policy at any time, no questions asked. You can also change the cover amount at any time with no fees or penalties. You are also welcome to chat to the Hero team directly over the website or via WhatsApp at any time for any assistance or information required. Life insurance plays a significant role in the protection of your family. Taking you less than 5 minutes anyone has time to apply. Apply now to protect your family and become the Hero they need you to be.  

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Homework or no Homework for South African schools?

The paradigm around learning in South Africa is changing rapidly. If, like most parents of this generation, you grew up with homework, then this might not seem like such a big deal. However, schools around the world, including South Africa, are changing their views on homework. This is largely thanks to the revolutionary approach to education that Finland has adopted – with stunning results. Where did it all start? The Finnish Phenomenon In 2006 the Programme for International Student Assessment (PISA) conducted a survey of 15-year-olds’ academic skills from 57 nations. Finland placed first in science by a whopping 5% margin, and dropped a bomb in the world’s schooling narrative.  Here is what’s so different about Finland’s preschools and primary schools: Preschool is not academically focused in any way but focuses more on play, fostering healthy socialising, increasing independence, and growing maturity. Children don’t start school until they are seven years old.  They have less homework than their peers in other countries – at most a half an hour a day, which is often completed during school anyway. There are no private schools in Finland, so children from wealthy and middle- to low-income homes melt together. This also means better schools all round, as the whole neighbourhood is invested in making the local schools of a high standard for everyone. Finland determined that education is the way to climb out of their economic hole. Education became more than just another point on a child’s long to-do list; it became a beacon for the future of an entire country’s success. There is only one standardised test, which is administered in the final year of high school. At many schools, teachers don’t grade students until the fifth grade, and teachers aren’t forced to organise curriculum around standardised testing. After ninth grade, students attend either an academic program (53%) or vocational one (47%) — this flexibility results in a 96% graduation rate, dwarfing South Africa’s cohort pass rate of 39.25%. Finally, play constitutes a significant part of individual growth and learning in Finnish schools. Every class must be followed by a 15-minute recess break so children can spend time outside on their own activities to ‘reset’ their minds.  What about South Africa? We hear people argue that, because South Africa is bigger, more diverse, and more unequal, it’s harder to reach higher quality education. However, there are some shining examples of what we can accomplish when our public and private schools start embracing change. In 2015, Gavin Keller – principal of Sun Valley Primary and CEO of The Sun Valley Group of Schools – implemented a no-homework policy for their primary school and up to Grade 9 in their high school, assigning learners 20 minutes’ reading time a day instead. Keller says. “When we started assessing our school, what became very clear was that school is a high-stress, anxiety-based environment and children have no time to be innovative and creative. They need nine hours of sleep and their school day is six-and-a-half hours long, so there’s no time to play – and play drives creativity.’ They’ve since seen improved academic results, increased motivation and a significant increase in reading. “Schools are changing how they approach learning,” says Janine Hammond, MD of Sherpa Kids Western Cape, an aftercare and holiday care solutions provider for many preschools and primary schools in the Western Cape, “and it’s time that aftercare is considered in the same light as well. Most of our children will go into jobs that don’t currently exists. They need problem solving skills, time management, and programs that stimulate intellectual capacity building. This does not happen by accident, but through careful, thoughtful education and aftercare systems that are based on sound parenting principles like routine, discipline, boundaries, and reward.” “We’ve seen the benefits of play for learning,” says Janine. “We need to remember that what happens after the school day is as important as what happens during the school day. It truly does ‘take a village’ to raise a child, so the aftercare team needs to be the ‘fresh legs’ so desperately needed to constructively support our children during the second half of the school day.” Sinai Academy in Bloubergrant – a private school that uses the South African CAPS curriculum – has long since adopted the approach of independent learning. “Students are self directed and become lifelong learners,” says the school. Students are given the month’s curriculum at the start of the month, and then each learner can choose what they’d like to complete and by when, as long as all of it is completed by month’s end. This allows them to energetically complete their favourite things, before tackling the more difficult lessons. This fosters a love for learning, and allows more time for play. What can I do as a Parent? If you child’s school does insist on homework, here are some great tips from Janine Hammond of Sherpa Kids on how to manage homework with success: Do homework early in the afternoon – right after lunch if possible – while your child’s minds is still fresh. This also allows them to close the ‘school day’ file in their minds, and releases them to exhale into their afternoon’s fun activities.  If you can only help your child with homework when you come home from work, try not to do it directly before bed time. Studies show that children need to wind down before bed in order to sleep well. A good night’s sleep means better memory capabilities, which means a brighter, happier child. So after homework, allow a little play time, then read a story in bed, then it is lights out. If your child does go to an aftercare, find out if they include structured time that allows your child to learn independently (not provide another teaching lesson, but also not abandon them to attempt the tasks alone), and that facilitators are available to guide and support your child in their homework, and in play. Most schools in the Western

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Depression & How Parents can help their Children

Teenagers are known for their moody natures. Adolescence brings with it so many changes for a child embarking on the journey to adulthood – hormones, academic pressures, physical developments, questions about their identity and place in the world, and social pressures, particularly among peers. But mental health specialists have found that there is a point when teen moodiness is more than what it seems, and that depression in youth is a real problem. How to Identify Depression in Teenagers Being subjected to bad moods and periods of rebelliousness is a norm for parents of teenagers. However, there are signs and symptoms that parents can look out for that will help them identify depression in their children, so that early intervention can take place. Depression is an all- encompassing illness, where emotions like sadness, anger, and despair are so overwhelming it becomes difficult to function normally in society. What a parent is likely to see when teenager is depressed, includes lethargy, school grades going down, substance abuse, addiction to social media/internet, low self-esteem, violence, and behaviour that poses a threat to themselves and others. A depressed teen might talk often of running away, or romanticise suicidal thoughts, and they will show a marked change in their eating and sleeping patterns as well. How You can Help Often a parent will feel inadequate when it comes to helping their depressed child, most times feeling rather overwhelmed themselves. But there are ways in which your support as a parent can make a huge difference. In Catherine Radloff’s article about supporting a depressed teenager, she outlines various ways in which parents can have a positive influence in their child’s struggle with depression, and several studies have shown that the support from family in properly managing mental illness can greatly reduce the depth of depressive episodes, as well as the frequency with which they occur. Below are a few ways parents can help their depressed teenager: Seek Professional Help Don’t put off contacting a mental health professional if you think your teen may be suffering from depression. These specialists are trained to diagnose the condition no matter the age of the patient, and come with expert knowledge that will serve as a much-needed support for parents who have to help their child through this challenging time. Encourage Socialising Depressed teens will seek solitude, but too much time spent alone with their own dark thoughts can be very damaging. Encourage social interaction on a personal level – social media doesn’t count – and this will help eradicate feelings of isolation. Get Them Moving Regular physical activity has been proven to alleviate symptoms of depression, and by adopting a good exercise regime, your teen will be taking the right steps to managing their condition in a healthy way. Monitor all Medication If your child is under the care of a specialist in mental health and their condition calls for it, they will be prescribed anti-depressants to help them manage their condition. It’s important for parents to make sure the child takes the medication on time and in the correct doses. Listening goes a Long Way Teenagers with depression often feel isolated and misunderstood. These feelings cause them to withdraw from people, and even lead to very dark thoughts about leaving this world altogether. It’s vital that parents keep open line of communication with their child. Assure them that it’s safe to share their feelings, and also that you are willing to listen without judgement. Never dismiss what they think and how they feel, as this could be detrimental to their state of mind. Routine & Diet Depression and anxiety often go hand-in- hand, and a stable, predictable routine is one way of reducing symptoms of anxiety. For instance, your child may have trouble sleeping, but will find comfort in a fixed bed time. Loss of appetite is common in depressed teens, but although they might not be eating well, ensure that they have a healthy selection of foods available. Balanced nutrition plays a key role in keeping the mind and body feeling their best. Professional Treatment ZwavelStream Clinic is a private psychiatric institution that provides patients with a tranquil space to achieve mental wellness. Our team of mental health specialists bring decades of experience and skills to their approach, prioritising the recovery and treatment of each patient as an individual. If you suspect that you or someone you know might be having mental health issues, feel free to do our online self-diagnosis questionnaire to find out if psychiatric intervention is necessary. All results will be treated with the utmost confidentiality. Alternatively, you can visit our website to find out more about what we offer, and how we can help you or your loved one.

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Brushing those teeth

Do you have problems with brushing your little ones teeth? Most of them do at some stage or another. It’s his mouth and he is letting you know that he has control over it. It’s just another struggle on his part for self-determination. He is not going to give in and it would not be wise for you to give in because even baby teeth need to be cleaned. So what now! Enlist the help of a third voice. You know the dentist has much more clout than you have. We had the most fantastic dentist when my kids were little. He started checking their teeth from a very young age and would ask to count them, having a quick look at the same time. He then told them that they had such lovely teeth and must be looking after them very well. At home all I had to do was say “Remember Dr Robinson said you had to brush your teeth to keep them healthy.” This worked very well. The other option is to give them a choice. Have a few toothbrushes on hand. Different colours, some with pictures on. Let him choose which one to use, it helps them feel in control. The third trick is to let him brush his teeth himself, this will help to develop his motor skills and independence and then you finish up with a good clean afterwards.   It really is only at around seven years of age that they can be relied upon to brush properly so don’t let them do it on their own until then.  Limit the bottle with juice. Sugars in the juice remains in their mouths and eats away at the tooth enamel causing cavities.  Rather give your child lots of fresh water to drink. When all else fails let them scream… at least you can see the teeth!

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What is the correct age to give a child a cellphone?

The modern-day child is being thrust into a rapidly expanding digital and cyber world, whether they are ready for it or not. The question that was posed to me was, “At what age should a child receive their first cell phone?” If only it were that simple and if only society had written rules on how to govern social media and its appropriate etiquette. Sadly, too many children and parents find themselves in a situation way over their heads when it is too late to reverse the precedent that has already been set. As parents, we should aim to be pro-active. In an ideal world, if parents could agree on unwritten regulations, then we could minimise the added cyber peer pressure that our children are experiencing. I find myself in the advantageous position of being a parent to a tween (pre-teen) as well as a high school teacher for twenty years, teaching Life Orientation, Social Sciences and English. Thus, I have made it a priority to try to best equip myself and to empower my own children and pupils. At the beginning of the year, I assigned a task to my grade 7 pupils to interview various age groups regarding cellphone usage. Based on their findings, they had to formulate their own cell phone etiquette policy. Their findings were astonishing. Many tweens had already encountered cyber bullying or inappropriate usage of social media. When conducting my own research amongst pupils, teachers, psychologists and parents, one thing became clear: Cellphones are unfortunately a necessary evil. While we do not have the choice to ignore the necessity of our children having a cell phone, we should be intentional in our navigation and set our own “terms and conditions”. When our children learn to drive, they first need a learner’s license and adult supervision. Why then, can we not create a similar platform with cell phones, before we just toss them the metaphorical keys and expect them to know how to drive? Cell phones are intriguing and as exciting as getting your first car. The sense of independence and freedom combine to make the user want immediate access and license. However, we never grant a child a license before they learn how to drive and pass the test. Receiving your first cell phone should be a significant rite of passage and an exciting phase in your teenager’s life. It could be likened to getting your first bicycle.  Accompanied with the thrill, is the need to learn how to ride the bicycle as well.   Most Parents and teachers agree that thirteen is an acceptable age to receive a cell phone, provided that the child is mature enough to abide by rules set at home and at school. The determining factor should not be a matter of convenience only, whereby parents simply hand down their old phones to their children in order to satisfy a desire and keep them occupied. Did you know that Facebook has an age restriction of 13? WhatsApp has now changed its age restriction in the European Union from 13 to 16 years of age. One can assume these age restrictions have been put in place for a good reason. Larian Botha, Teacher and Parent – Southdowns College

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Little friendlies glow & giggle playmat

Every baby needs a day time activity mat for play, learning and fun. This beautiful playmat features a colourful rainbow arch with 3 attachment links.  They include fantastic development items such as a hanging mirror for self discovery, a dangling butterfly with crinkled wings for sensory development and a caterpillar teether for soothing baby’s gums.  Beneath features a soft padded mat covered with the popular Little Friendlies characters to make play time comfy. The Glow & Giggle Playmat Includes a detachable piano activity centre where baby can press the piano keys laying down or sitting and learn animals, shapes, sounds and colours in the 3 modes of play. The giant tree attracts baby with magical light-up apples. Features 20 melodies and 6 sing-along songs.  An all-round delight for the senses, this is one item that will keep your little one entertained for hours on end, guaranteeing you that they are learning every step of the way.  Available now at Hamleys stores, selected Kids Emporium stores, www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za and www.purplepepperz.com.

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Play to learn, learn to play

Prima Baby, is proud to announce our new exclusive affiliation with one of the world’s leading developmental tech toys for babies and toddlers – VTech Baby  (0-24 months). VTech Baby makes playtime fun for little ones with a beautifully crafted, cleverly engineered collection of baby toys.  The collection of products includes cuddly plush toys, teethers, nighttime projectors, bath toys and much more.   Playful animals, whimsical music and flashing lights engage your baby and help your child reach developmental milestones in their early years. From September, parents in South Africa will be able to conveniently obtain baby products from this range that include some of the most adorable, yet functional items.  With lots of stimulating add-ons such as buttons, textured appendages, singing functions, lights and much more, babies will stay entertained as little fingers explore and enjoy controlling their own play time. VTech Baby products will be available from 1st September at Hamleys stores, selected Kids Emporium store, www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za and www.purplepepperz.com. Check out the full range on our website at www.primababy.co.za

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Why puzzles are important for stimulating young minds

There is nothing new about the fact that children love doing puzzles. In most shapes or forms, puzzles can keep your child entertained for hours. And the really great news? Puzzles can help turn your child into a genius. Okay, perhaps not all children who do puzzles will automatically turn into mini-Einstein’s (here’s hoping though), but studies have proven just how much they can really help your child. From a very early age, your child starts to learn a variety of things through play. These learned skills often assist your child as they grow up and are faced with academic challenges. As parents, it is our job to put them in an environment where they have access to play time that teaches them things. Something as simple as a puzzle can do the trick. One of the biggest perks to puzzle building is fine motor skills. This is the ability to manoeuvre small objects and strengthen small muscles and joints in your child’s hands. This skill can never be developed too early and will assist them with vital skills such as writing. Another one is hand-eye co-ordination. As your child attempts to place each puzzle piece in the right space, they are actually strengthening the connection between what their eye sees and their hand does. And while they are trying to figure out which pieces go where, they are practising their problem solving skills – which is one thing they will definitely need throughout their lives. Puzzles also introduce your child to a world of creativity. They learn that they can build something from scratch, and are rewarded with the finished product. Of course toddlers favour instant gratification, but slowly figuring out how to put the puzzle together will teach them patience too. Their memory can also be strengthened through puzzle building. If a piece doesn’t fit, they have to remember to come back and try it again later. It is important to buy a puzzle that is age appropriate for your child, as to not dishearten them with a difficulty that is beyond their ability. The more colourful the puzzle is, the better. Especially for your toddler, who will be gaining the ability to identify colours and shapes every time they attempt to build one. Toptots Tip: Once your child has built a puzzle a few times, why not stick it onto a board and frame it. It makes a great wall piece for their room and a memory for when they are older.

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These shoes were meant for walking

Are they really? The best shoes for your toddler are no shoes at all! You often see moms so obsessed with buying the correct shoe that they forget that their toddler needs to walk barefoot as well. Walking bare foot helps build arches and strengthens ankles. Walking on uneven surfaces like sand and the grass helps to further strengthen those muscles and adds great tactile experiences to the sensory system. Running and playing outside is best done without shoes. Climbing a jungle gym you will find that your toddler has better balance without shoes as they are able to feel the rung and “grasp” it with their foot. So what about that special occasion where shoes will complete the outfit? Choose shoes that are closest to no shoes. They must be flexible. Leather or rubber soles are best. You should be able to easily bend the shoe between your thumb and forefinger. Although the brand names look ever so cute you cannot see what is happening inside the shoe and what it is doing to the bones in the feet. The shoes must be low cut and preferably be leather so the feet can breathe. High cut shoes do stay on better but experts believe they restrict ankle movement.  Flat bottoms and heels!  A toddler has enough to cope with just practising to balance without adding to it with slippery soles and heels.  Look for soft flexible shoes in leather with plenty of room for those cute toes to move in. Bigger is better. Keep checking the fit as toddlers feet seem to grow overnight. Don’t pass shoes onto siblings and friends. Shoes mould to the foot and wearing shoes that have moulded to someone else’s feet is not a good idea. The exception here is shoes that have hardly been worn. Remember that socks that are too tight have the same implications as shoes that are too small. Bare feet running around the house and playing outside is ultimately best for your toddler.

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Ways to cope with generation me, me, me

By: Justin Kistan, Crawford College North Coast If we’re lucky, we’ve been told our whole lives that we’re special. Our parents said it to us, our friends, and even our teachers. And we are special? To them. To the world at large? Not so much. Don’t get me wrong. You are unique without a doubt. Your environment and experiences have carved you into something inimitable. Only you can do, what you can do. But is that special yet? Constant positive reinforcement is important in building our self-esteem. Too much of it though can make us a little entitled. Hey, if I’ve been told that I’m special my whole life, surely I deserve good things?! Don’t I deserve the accolades, awards, and applause? Maybe. But have we earned them? We want the standing ovation but have we delivered on the performance? Popular culture perpetuates this today. It’s all about me. I deserve all good things just for being the awesome individual that I am. It’s called a selfie for a reason. It’s you framing yourself as the centre of your own little world. Now imagine a child living in this world. Can you blame them today for being vain, egotistical and self-centred?     Unwarranted self-esteem can lead to an entitlement which can lead to narcissism. Our EGO (unhealthy belief in our own importance) gets so big that it becomes a stumbling block on our path to real growth and development. Hedonic adaptation is also to blame. We very quickly get used to all the good things in our lives and therefore go looking for our next happiness ‘fix’, either from buying something new or basking in the attention of others through Instagram, twitter or negative behaviour. How can we fix this?  Kids can learn to: Apply the meta-skill of the 21st Century, SELF-AWARENESS, which is the ability to see ourselves for who we are, appreciate how others see us and to begin to understand our place in the world. Self-awareness removes the blinkers from our eyes and allows us the vision to accurately tune into our current station in life. We will never get to where we want to go in the future if we don’t know where we are now.  Practise GRATITUDE. Gratitude is the antidote to entitlement. It reminds us to appreciate what we already have and fosters greater happiness and empathy while discouraging depression, anxiety and envy. No more FOMO. Keeping a gratitude journal is a good way to start. Just write down three things (big or small) that you’re grateful for every day and you’ll start to feel the positive results soon.   Deep introspection and appreciation can spur inspired action that will earn authentic admiration.  Through their actions and interactions, children can learn to pause, ponder and then perform. Insight before Foresight. They will build their competence and with that, they will earn their confidence. Remember: Special is not who I am, it is what I’ll become. I will learn and earn it.

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Review: Philips Sonicare Kids Electric Toothbrush

Getting your child to brush their teeth every day can be a hassle to say the least and then ensuring that this is done correctly brings a whole different set of issues to deal with.  The Philips Sonicare Kids Electric Toothbrush takes care of your child’s teeth whilst teaching them how to brush their teeth properly.  The tooth brush comes with a KidTimer that gradually increases to 2 minutes over a 90 day period to train children to brush their teeth for longer.  Running through the instructions with your child is easy.  When the brush switches on your child starts brushing, when it is time to change to a different section of the mouth, the toothbrush beeps to let the child know.  We downloaded the SonicareKids App as well which encouraged our children to brush even longer and it made it that much more fun.  Each pack includes: The Rechargeable handle 1 Brush head with cap (we bought another one so that others could use it as well) 1 charger base 10 Handle stickers The handle stickers are certainly the most fun. With so many patterns to choose from, your child will certainly enjoy decorating their tooth brush as well. Available from leading retailers and certainly a MUST have purchase to help your child keep their teeth pearly white!

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5 Tips for managing those financials of a Hero family

There is no doubt that by bringing a new little person into the world is an overwhelmingly amazing and wonderful thing to experience. But figuring out how to put strong, healthy financial management in place for a new family, is also an overwhelming but stressful experience. And let’s face it, not all of us are finance whizkids or want to be! But here are some easy tips to manage your family’s finances like a pro. Tip 1: SPEND LESS THAN YOU EARN This tip is not just an important part of keeping your family’s finances in order, but it is also a crucial element of any financial plan. Spending less money than you and your partner earn is the first step to ensure more stability and more room to breath when it comes to finances. If you were the one screaming ‘Easier said than done!’ at the beginning of this section, you’re not wrong! But there are some relatively easy things you can do to ensure you’re not spending outside of your means. First, know your income. Knowing how much money you are bringing into the household will be the first step in understanding where the money comes from and where it’s going. Second, by knowing how much is coming in, helps you to draw up a budget (see below)! Third, use some handy money-saving apps to help to identify those items where you overspend.  The great thing about these apps are that they are free & non-judgemental 🙂 Tip 2: KEEP TRACK OF YOUR SPENDING Drawing up a budget to track monthly spending can really be an eye-opening exercise that helps you to understand your financial habits (good and bad). Recording all of your receipts for a month can give you useful insight into how to budget. But if this sounds like too much work, there are a number useful budgeting apps that streamline the task for you – try out 22Seven or most South African banks have this online functionality available to their clients now – and it’s for free! Let them help you to take the slog out of keeping track of your expenses and help you give some insights in how to curb those bad spending habits. Knowledge is power and when you know exactly where your money is going, you’ll be better equipped to draw up a family budget that is realistic about your spending habits, that helps you to spend within your means and that takes your children’s needs into consideration. Tip 3 SET UP AN EMERGENCY FUND The only certainty is that life is unpredictable. And when you have a family to look after it is important to have contingency plans for those unexpected things. By setting up an emergency savings fund can really help to remove some of the stresses and anxieties for when your family faces unexpected income loss or more likely, unexpected expenditures such as medical bills or a car giving you trouble. It is recommended to have a minimum of three months’ worth of basic living expenses in your emergency fund, but the more is always the better. This safety net will help you to avoid accessing other sources such as withdrawing from your retirement fund (which is NEVER a good idea) or going into expensive debt (which is also NEVER a good idea).   Wherever you decide to build your emergency fund, just be sure to invest it into a financial vehicle that is easy to access, low cost and that has low-risk of losing your capital. Your bank should have these types of accounts available. Ask around. Tip 4 USE TIME-SAVING MONEY TOOLS As a parent, you know best how precious time is which is why we understand that you don’t want to spend hours of your time dealing with money matters. Thankfully, you can save by doing a few simple things. First, sign up for mobile banking (if you haven’t already). This will allow you to check your finances, pay bills and manage your budget (if you bank have this functionality). Most banks also offer the option of setting up automatic deposits into a savings account for emergency purposes (see Tip 3 above). This takes the worry and management off your hands so that you can focus on other important family matters. Tip 5 COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE Be open about finances with your partner. This doesn’t just mean knowing how much each person is bringing home but also means discussing big purchases and expenses and how to manage your budget. As a family unit, you and your partner will need to establish the needs and priorities of the household and be talking about how to best implement your budget effectively. Being open about family finances will also help foster a healthy and trusting relationship between you and your partner. Last thoughts: as a new or young family, it’s important to get your thinking right when it comes to money and what your family needs (read our previous article here). By implementing these 5 easy tips will go a long way in putting a system in place that will remove the anxieties around finances. At Hero Life, we’re happy to help young South African families with their finances or point you in the right direction. Try us @ herolife.co.za or Whatsapp us at +27 73 916 9367  to ask any question. We bet you will love us. Author: Kosie Jansen van Rensburg, Co-Founder @ Hero Life #BeAHero #SuperSavvy #HeroParents This article is to provide general information on the subjects covered. It is not, however, intended to provide specific advice or to serve as the basis for any purchasing decisions. Hero Life is underwritten by Guardrisk Life Ltd an authorised Financial Services Provider (FSP 76). Advise is rendered by representatives mandated by MMI Group Limited trading as Metropolitan (FSP 44673).  

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Barney says sharing is caring

Just because a purple dinosaur says so doesn’t mean it’s going to happen no matter how many times we repeat this. Sharing is just not in a toddler’s vocabulary when they are 2 years old.  To the toddler there is no yours, mine and ours. It’s all mine! He is only just learning that things belong to people but has not grasped that others may also have ownership of certain items. They label everything as mine. My mommy, my teddy, my bed, my ball but also things that belong to others, like mommy’s keys and daddy’s phone. Mine is their favourite word. This does not mean that your child is doomed to being selfish, grabbing what belongs to others. He is learning to stand up for his rights. This is not only normal but essential in the road to learning to share. You must remember that his world revolves around him so owning comes long before sharing. He will offer mom a bite of his biscuit or give his teddy to his sister that’s crying to console her. This is more empathy then actual sharing. Toddlers don’t understand yet that the friend who is playing with his toy will leave it behind when he goes home. If he gets to the slide first it’s his and that’s why he pushes the other child to the floor who tries to take a turn on the slide. This is very normal. It’s only towards the age of three or four that sharing becomes easier. It’s natural for your toddler not to share but we know you want him to so let’s look at how we can help make it happen. Build his self-esteem, insecure children have a more difficult time sharing. Don’t force him to share his toys, this makes him feel insecure. That, what he wants doesn’t mean anything. If he thinks that his possessions are up for grabs he will feel unsettled. Teach them that some things belong to other people. The toys at Toptots belong to Tom-e and everyone can play with them. You are going to repeat this often. If he won’t give someone a turn at the slide, remove him from the situation. Also look at it from your toddler’s point of view. Not wanting to part with a toy for even 15 minutes may seem unreasonable to you BUT do you part with your car because a friend wants to use it? For toddlers this is even harder. Don’t share for him – ask permission from your toddler before giving a toy to his sister to play with. If you have friends coming over ask in advance which toys the other children may play with and which he wants to put away. This makes him feel in charge of the situation. Share with your toddler. Play sharing games. Sharing with you is less threatening. Compliment all efforts your toddler makes to share – positive reinforcement is rewarding to a toddler. Children who attend workshops like Toptots often learn to share quicker than a child that does not spend time with others socially. So even if Barney says sharing is caring, don’t expect your toddler to master this without lots of love and support from you.

Capriccio! Arts Powered Pre-School

Calming sensory activities for the classroom

What are the benefits of sensory play? Sensory activities engage a little one’s senses and as such are an excellent addition to any classroom or home environment. Children explore the world by means of their senses,  providing them with sensory outlets  can help them better understand their world.  Research has shown that engaging in sensory play helps support the development of nerve connections in a child’s brain, which enables them to complete complex learning tasks.  Sensory activities enhance both gross motor and fine motor skills, and aid in the development of language, problem-solving and social skills. They also support your little one’s ability to retain information.  By engaging little ones in sensory activities, we provide them with a self-regulation technique, which can be used to soothe and calm an anxious, upset or frustrated little one.  Sensory activities for a calm classroom:  At Capriccio! Arts Powered Pre-school we have incorporated aspects of the Waldorf philosophy into our approach and recognize the value of sensorial activities in the classroom. We have especially seen the benefits of including sensory activities to help calm and soothe little ones. Our favourite, must-have sensory items in each of our classrooms are: Calming Jars/Bottles: a small to medium sized bottle (secure lid firmly with child-friendly glue) filled with water, some baby oil, glitter, tiny, shiny bits and bobs and a drop of food colouring.  These jars are wonderful self-regulating items for children who are feeling anxious or upset. Watching the glitter fall captures the little one’s attention and helps ground them. The repetitive motion of shaking the jar and watching the glitter fall has been shown to slow heart rate and respiration in anxious children, leaving them feeling calm and centred.  Rice Bucket: medium sized container filled with raw rice and small items that little ones can discover in the rice. These fun discovery buckets are excellent for improving fine motor skills as children are encouraged to scoop, pour, and sift through the rice to find mystery items. Not only does the rice feel cool and soft when little ones run their hands through the bucket, but it makes a lovely soothing sound. Adding rice granules of a different colour (use food colouring to colour the rice and dry the rice properly beforehand) creates an exciting rainbow effect that is a great way to further engage the senses. (Rice buckets are to be used only under adult supervision, due to a choking risk in small children.) Calming Corner: a quiet area in the classroom with soft and soothing furniture and materials, such as fluffy pillows, peaceful-looking stuffed animals and a soft blanket. This calming area gives the little ones a safe space to cool down and regroup. Calming corners help prevent negative behaviour as they can be used to deescalate stressful situations and serve as an escape from frustrating or over-stimulating activities. Adding different textures to the area further enhances their sensory experience.  Music: Teachers continually monitor our little ones collective energy level in the classroom, as research has proven that children are most receptive to learning when they are in the calm-alert state. Calm, soothing music such as lullabies or peaceful classical music can work wonders to gently help overstimulated children return to a calmer state. Similarly, happy nursery rhymes and theme-related action songs can assist to kickstart sagging energy levels, restoring the emotional balance in the classroom. The additional benefit of movement releases serotonin, shifts their attention and refreshes the little ones’ focus.  

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Fill n Squeeze

THE ULTIMATE SOLUTION FOR WEANING, FEEDING AND SNACK TIME Fill N Squeeze is a revolutionary new approach to convenient feeding for your child.   Cleverly designed pouches are filled in seconds to create portable, convenient and mess-free feeding situations on the go. And the good news is, it’s your choice of food that’s being used – so home-cooked goodness is never far away! The Fill N Squeeze Starter Kit comes with the brightly coloured, sealable, reusable pouches that can be filled in an instant and then frozen or microwaved. After consumption, the BPA and lead-free pouches are easily cleaned and stored away for the next trip, outing or snack time. The pouches safely store any consistency of food – from juices, to purees to soft porridge. Simply pour the food into the container and push down on the plunger to fill the attached pouches – as simple as that – and literally mess-free! Fill N Squeeze also offer a specially designed weaning spoon that doesn’t touch surfaces when laid down, and allows you to feed your baby with one hand. The spoon is the perfect add-on utensil for when it’s time to wean your little one away from bottles and pouches. The spoon is attached to the pouches and food squeezed onto the utensil – a complete extension of an already convenient feeding mechanism. Extra pouches can also be purchased in packs of ten from participating retailers. Use the Baby Weaning Spoon with the Fill N Squeeze Weaning Baby Food Starter Kit and reusable pouches to feed your baby home prepared, healthy, nutritional purees and smoothies – and keep life simple, easy and nutritious!   All 3 items are available at: Hamleys stores, selected Kids Emporium stores, www.thekidzone.co.za, www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za & www.purplepepperz.com Suggested retail prices are: Starter Kit: R649.00, Spoon: R179.00 & pack of 10 pouches: R179.00

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Phonics – the root of reading

What do you want to achieve with a reading programme in the Foundation Phase? This is a critical question. Teachers often rush through a curriculum in order to get learners ready for the formal assessment rather than taking the time to work with the learners to ensure a deep-rooted understanding of phonics.  At the end of the Foundation Phase (Grade 3), we expect learners to read with comprehension. But how often do we get to that point where we are satisfied with the reading ability of the learner? Here is a scenario that you might be able to relate to: Nataly is a Grade 3 learner, when she reads she will suddenly start to sound simple words and if you ask her to tell you what she read, she is not able to do so. What went wrong? There are many aspects of reading to take into consideration before you can pinpoint the specific problem.  Phonics The phonics was not completely engraved in Grade 1 and 2. I am not talking about knowing the alphabet because the learner probably knows the alphabet off by heart. I am talking about the more difficult blends and three letter combinations. When a learner knows all the phonics and blends, it will make reading a lot easier. Phonemic awareness is the basic foundation of reading any text.  High frequency words High frequency words are commonly mixed up with sight words. High frequency words are the words that usually do not have any meaning but are used a lot while the learner reads. This would be words like: is, am, are, them, those, etc. These words should be introduced one by one. It is best to start with the words that have the sounds that the learner already knows. It is important that the learner knows these high frequency words off by heart. If they do not recognise the word immediately, they will start to spell it out. The human brain is very powerful. You must have seen those social media posts that mix up the letters in the middle but you can still read the words. For example: I can stlil raed the txet as lnog as the frist and lsat ltters are the smae. This is exactly how the high frequency words work. The learner must “guess” the word rather than read it. They must see the whole word rather than the different letters in each word.  Sight words Sight words are those words that we would put up in the classroom and use with the themes. Sight words are often longer, difficult words like giraffe, chimpanzee, elephant, impala, etc. The learners must use their phonics to spell out these words. They don’t have to know these words at all, as they learn how to read fluently, these words will become part of their high frequency words as well.  Reading with comprehension comes down to the ability to understand language through phonological awareness. If a learner does not read with comprehension in Grade 3, it is time to take some serious steps backwards. Rather put the curriculum on hold for a day or two and do a simple assessment on phonics by asking the following questions with some sound cards. Does the learner know all the letters of the alphabet in any order?  Does the learner know all the blends and sounds with two vowels or two consonants like “oo” or “-er”? Does the learner know all the three letter sound combinations like “str-”? Can the learner read simple words? Can the learner read more difficult words? Does the learner know the high frequency words without sounding them? Can the learner build simple words? Can the learner build more difficult words? Can the learner read a sentence without sounding the letters? Can the learner read a paragraph without sounding the letters? If any of the answers to these questions is “no” that will indicate where the learner was left behind. Try to catch up with activities until the learner can answer “yes” to all 10 questions.  Let’s take number 10 as an example. If a learner reads a paragraph, but still needs to sound some of the words, he/she will lose the context of the story and will not be able to remember what the story was about. If the learner can read fluently, but does not understand the context it is important to teach the learner reading comprehension skills by asking the questions first before he/she reads the text. Reading with comprehension comes down to the ability to apply one’s knowledge of language to written text. Learners like Nataly find alternative ways to read and write and in the long run when she cannot read with comprehension, she will misread questions in examination papers and write down the wrong answers. In the end, she will not live up to her full potential because she cannot read as well as she should.  It is very important to ensure that phonological awareness and high frequency words are engraved in a learner before you move on to more difficult words and sentences. Teachers should create an enriched learning environment to ensure the development of phonics and reading and to ensure that all the requirements are met before moving on to the next phase. 

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