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CHICCO THERMO DISTANCE INFRARED THERMOMETER

Winter is coming in South Africa and flu, colds and fevers may become a reality in our home. A parent of young children need an ally when it comes to looking after sick loved ones and nothing gives the confidence that a practical and intuitive thermometer can. Chicco’s Thermo Distance is one of the most multi-functional thermometers on the market and allows you to take readings of not only your children’s foreheads, but also of their food and bath water – all at a distance of 4-6cm away. With a 1 second reading time, either in Celsius or Fahrenheit, this clinically tested tool is accurate, has a fever alarm that can reveal a possible pyretic episode with an acoustic signal and has 10 memory slots for long term sickness recording. Other functions such as the large backlit display, low battery indicator and the Chicco 12 month guarantee makes this a valuable asset to any home. Suitable for use from birth. Pick one up today at www.takealot.com, www.loot.co.za and selected Kids Emporium stores for R999.

June 5, 2019

Five facts about ‘flu

Gerhard Van Emmenis, Principal Officer of Bonitas Medical Fund gives five facts about flu: Flu strains, like fashion, change every year The latest flu strain South Africa can expect is nick-named ‘Aussie Flu’. This particular strain – H3N2 – is a subtype of influenza A. The virus has, in fact, been around for a whilebut unfortunately the flu strains have a built in survival mechanism, they mutate or change so they outwit the body’s immune response. Which is why each year flu vaccinations are updated, meaning last year’s won’t necessarily protect you this year. The symptoms of flu? These include high temperatures, body pain, sore throat, tiredness, loss of appetite and are the same year in and year out. However, some flu strains may cause the symptoms to last for a longer time and be more severe. The flu can also bring on headaches, muscle pain, vomiting and diarrhoea. In people with weaker immune systems, the flu is even more serious. The flu shot doesn’t gives you flu According to the Centre for Disease Control, ‘A flu shot cannot cause flu and serious allergic reactions to the flu vaccine are rare. However, if you are allergic to eggs you need to notify your doctor. Flu vaccines are currently made either with flu vaccine viruses that have been ‘inactivated’ and are not infectious or with no flu viruses at all. The most common side-effects from the shot are small amounts of soreness, redness, tenderness or swelling around the injection site. Protecting yourself and your family The flu vaccine reduces your chances of getting flu and, if you do get it, it will be milder.The vaccine trains your body to recognise flu and fight it. More importantly, if you are vaccinated you will protect others, via what is called ’herd immunity’. This includes vulnerable members of the family such as such as small babies and the elderly as well as those who are immune-compromised. Some of the reasons people don’t vaccinate Every year there is a debate about flu injections yet up to 11 000 people die from flu in South Africa every year, despite the flu vaccination being readily available and paid for by most medical aid schemes. There are a number of reasons, including the notion that: ‘I don’t get flu’, ‘the vaccine doesn’t work’, ‘it will hurt my arm’ or ‘the vaccine will give me flu’. However, according to Bonitas, there are very good clinical reasons why you should. Bonitas covers one flu vaccine for all members. Members can go Clicks, Dischem or Pick n Pay pharmacies for the vaccine at no cost, or attend a Bonitas Wellness Day.

June 5, 2019

About the TopTots Healthy Plate, Healthy Me

An innovative way of encouraging young children to eat healthily This product is the brain child of Claire McHugh a Paediatric Dietician who has written a colourful story book that teaches your child about the roles of the different food groups in your child’s diet. The plate encourages them further by putting healthy eating into practice. Book and plate are part of the set.

June 4, 2019

Don’t tell your kids they are smart!

The school report can elicit many feelings among parents and students; feelings of failure or feelings of achievement. As an educational psychologist, I often get asked the question: “How should I respond to my child’s school report?”. Carol Dweck’s work on how praise impacts a child’s academic performance has a fascinating answer to this question: Don’t tell your kids they are smart! The way we praise our children about their academic achievements shapes the way they view intelligence, which impacts their performance. Let me elaborate. In their study Blackwell, Trzesniewski and Dweck[1] studied Grade 7 learners and measured their school marks for two years. The students that believed that intelligence is malleable showed an upward trajectory in their marks going into high school. Contrastingly, the students that thought intelligence is fixed showed a flat trajectory. In other words, the students that believed their intelligence is something that is flexible and that can be developed were able to improve their marks. Those that believed their intelligence is unchangeable did not increase their scores. Therefore, it is essential to make our children believe that they can raise their intelligence and that intelligence is malleable. So, what role does praise have? Mueller and Dweck[2] discuss this and points out that the way you praise your child impacts their attribution and goals about their performance. Stated differently, the way you praise your child affects what they want to get out of an activity and the reasons they provide for their success. For instance, if you praise your child’s ability or intelligence (telling them they are smart), they may want to continue to prove that they are smart by receiving high marks. In the short term, this may be useful but becomes unsustainable as the workload and academic demands increase. As the work difficulty increases students that were praised for their ability will often not take on challenging learning opportunities in fear of not looking smart. This limits their learning opportunities which make the marks go down and affects their self-confidence. Furthermore, praising intelligence after your child gets good marks will make them believe that intelligence is a stable or fixed trait determined by genetics. They will believe their success is directly related to an attribute that is outside of their control. If you think about this carefully, when you praise your child for being smart, then you take their control away. Their successes and failures will be linked to something outside of their control, which in the long run can cause a sense of helplessness. I see this often in my practice where parents tell me, “I don’t know what happened. My child is so smart and is struggling to pass Mathematics. In Grade 6 his/her mark was in the eighties, and now he/she is barely passing”. By this time, I find that their child is already in the cycle of believing they are not smart enough and avoids any reminder of it, in the form of tests and homework activities, which logically will make the marks go down. So, what should parents do? Praise effort, persistence and the process of learning. Make the goal of their schoolwork to learn and not to achieve. Make your child believe their brain is a muscle that can be exercised by seeking out challenges. Don’t tell your child they are smart, instead say, “I am so proud of you for demonstrating the ability to learn, reflect and persevere this year, I can’t wait to see what challenges next year will bring”. ——- Hannes is an educational psychologist that provides therapy, assessments and career counselling in Johannesburg. He aims to enable his clients to make their highest contribution despite the obstacles and pain they might experience. Therefore, he works closely with his clients and applies life design counselling, cognitive behavioural therapy, and acceptance and commitment therapy principles to help his clients live productive and meaningful lives. Sources: [1] Blackwell, L. S., Trzesniewski, K. H., & Dweck, C. S. (2007). Implicit Theories of Intelligence Predict Achievement Across an Adolescent Transition: A Longitudinal Study and an Intervention. Child Development, 78(1), 246–263. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-8624.2007.00995.x [2] Mueller, C. M., & Dweck, C. S. (1998). Praise for Intelligence Can Undermine Children’s Motivation and Performance (Vol. 75). Psychological Association, Inc. Retrieved from https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/25ab/297c17a87c8a0f79e109be531fe9c7da97b8.pdf

June 4, 2019

New Research on the Importance of Learning through Play

The LEGO Foundation and Sesame Workshop Highlights the Importance of Learning through Play in Parent-Child Relationships in South Africa in Celebration of World Play Day The ‘Play Every Day’ program empowered caregivers to effectively guide children in learning through play in South Africa In celebration of World Play Day, the LEGO Foundation and Sesame Workshop, the nonprofit organisation behind Takalani Sesame, announced the results of a multi-country research evaluation of Play Every Day, a program designed to shift parent and caregiver perceptions about the educational value of play and to encourage play that contributes to children’s early development and learning outcomes. The impact evaluation, conducted by an external evaluator, found significant changes in parents and caregivers’ perceptions of play and play-related behaviour, as well as improved confidence of parents and caregivers as play mentors for their children. Over the course of a 12-week intervention in low-resource communities in South Africa, India and Mexico, Sesame Workshop conducted weekly in-person play workshops or home visits, in addition to reminders utilising WhatsApp and other digital platforms and community events. The research in South Africa was conducted in IsiZulu, IsiXhosa and Sesotho in the communities of Orange Farm, Alexandra, Diepsloot and Braamfontein. Caregivers participating in the Play Every Day program in South Africa reported: Increased frequency of play by 15% Increased confidence as “play mentors” for their children through quality play time, with an increase of 18% Increased confidence using recycled materials such as plastic bottles, cans, and cardboard rolls as play objects, with an increase of 19% in South Africa An increase of 19% in the ability to make everyday activities playful An 11% increase in the link between pretend play as a foundation for academic learning The research findings will inform the upcoming Takalani Sesame ‘Learning Through Play’ Initiative, which will reach millions of children and caregivers across South Africa through television, digital media, and targeted community engagement. The findings will also inform a USD $100 Million Humanitarian Play Programto support children affected by the Rohingya and Syrian refugee crises. The Play Every Day program empowered caregivers and children to learn together, rather than in parallel, providing valuable insights for the development of caregiver-child programming. “With such a large portion of the South African population being in low-resource settings, this research is invaluable and will guide Takalani Sesame programs in South Africa. We continue to educate caregivers and teachers on the benefits that Learning through Play provides, as one of the most powerful ways for children to learn, develop and overcome setbacks,” said Innocent Nkata, Managing Director of Sesame Workshop South Africa. The facilitated workshops, implemented through local community partners, provided primary caregivers with content that is easy to replicate at home to improve caregiver confidence in playful learning techniques and provide new ideas for engagement with children, such as building toys with recycled materials and playing pretend using everyday household items. To ensure culturally relevant and effective interventions, the 12-week intervention was preceded by three pilot phases between November 2016 and May 2018 that tested a variety of play activities, materials, and methods of facilitation for each country. “The LEGO Foundation is working to build a future in which learning through play helps all children grow into creative, engaged, life-long learners. Parents and other primary caregivers are fundamental to this aim as they are children’s first teachers and playmates. We are excited about the positive results from the Play Every Day program. We hope that these insights will inspire and empower primary caregivers in in South Africa to harness the power of learning through play,” said Kerry Kassen, LEGO Foundation Initiatives Lead for South Africa. The findings have been announced as we celebrate World Play Day on 28 May. To mark this important day, Sesame Workshop and the LEGO Foundation are partnering with Cotlands and Kagiso Trust to host an event at the Multipurpose Centre in Sasolburg on 1 June 2019. Takalani Sesame Muppets Zuzu and Kami will join over 300 children to highlight this year’s World Play Day theme, “Play is a right.” The event will feature songs, dancing, and play activities for children. “We’re deeply committed to bringing learning experiences to children across South Africa through Takalani Sesame, and we too believe that play is a right for all children,” adds Mr. Nkata. “This World Play Day, we have a lot to celebrate; with the new research findings, we will be able to build upon our work to ensure that every child has access to positive, playful experiences.” Additional highlights from the Play Every Day impact evaluation can be found online here.

June 4, 2019

Encouraging Meaningful Play

Play time is so important for our children as a foundation for learning: Here are some tips to encourage meaningful and purposeful play, to maximise your child’s learning opportunities through play: LET YOUR CHILD HAVE SOME UNSTRUCTURED PLAY TIME EVERY DAY – don’t make their days so full of activities that they don’t have any time to create, explore and experiment. Give them free time to play! (And don’t let them choose to watch TV in this time). DON’T INTERFERE IN THEIR PLAY – don’t criticise, plan, direct or correct the way they are planning. Let them guide their own learning. Research tells us that the more motivated we are to do something, the more meaningful the experience. DON’T SOLVE ALL THEIR PROBLEMS FOR THEM IMMEDIATELY – if they want to do something in a certain way, but have difficulty with it when they are playing, give them the time and opportunity to try and solve the problem for themselves; if they can’t, give them some clues and guidance, but don’t do it for them. The more they learn to solve minor problems, the more able they will be to cope with larger, more complex challenges. GIVE THEM OPPORTUNITIES FOR PLAY DATES – playing with peers is important for emotional and social development. Arrange regular play dates with some of your child’s friends. If they have disagreements, give them some space to work it out, don’t step-in unless you see it’s necessary. These are great opportunities for learning to compromise and resolve conflict. SCREEN ACTIVITIES ARE NOT PLAY – TV games, computers games and games on an iPad or phone have been proven to often hinder development of social-emotional and language skills, rather than stimulate it. You don’t need to cut these out completely, but researched guidelines suggest that the developing brain should not be exposed to more than about 30 minutes a day (for children under 4) and not more than 45 minutes a day for children under 7. Follow the principle that when it comes to screen time – Less is more! BASIC TOYS/ ITEMS ARE OFTEN MORE BENEFICIAL THAN EXPENSIVE TOYS – some of the toys that children love the most are very basic things e.g. cardboard boxes, bicycles, Tupperware, blocks, balls, spades, old tyres etc. These provide for so many different play options, rather than an expensive toy that can often only be used in one way. TAKE YOUR CHILDREN OUT AND ABOUT WITH YOU – give your children the chance to explore different environments and experiences as these all offer different learning opportunities e.g. playing on the beach versus playing in a park versus playing in a fun play centre with other children. Talk to them about what they are seeing, touching and hearing. Let them organise their own picnics when you go to a park or let them organise campouts in the garden. PLAY WITH YOUR CHILDREN – follow their lead, encourage their ideas, build on their themes and just enjoy spending this precious time with your children. Not only are you the perfect person for them to practice their skills on but playing together will make them feel much closer to you and it opens doors for communication. ENCOURAGE IMAGINARY PLAY BY BUYING OPEN-ENDED TOYS e.g. arts and crafts supplies (which could be toilet rolls, cardboard, tinfoil, paint, glue, scissors, leaves, flowers, ice cream sticks etc); items for dressing up; things like farm yards and soldiers and dolls and cars etc. Also, when they are younger encourage symbolic play by buying toys like pretend lawnmowers, brooms, cooking utensils or gardening tools. HAVE AN ORGANISED, FREE SPACE IN WHICH YOUR CHILD CAN PLAY – your child should be able to find the toys they need and should have space to spread them out and go “wild” for a little while. A disorganised, chaotic play space is often over-stimulating and limiting. LET YOUR CHILDREN GET DIRTY – it’s normal for children to get dirty and its part of what makes play time so fun! Don’t let your dislike of dirt ruin their enjoyment!

June 3, 2019

Dealing with different personalities in a classroom

One of the first lessons every teacher learns is that, in every classroom there is a kaleidoscope of different personalities present. At any one moment, the teacher is navigating a minefield of different characters, each of which requires specific attention and handling. No two students are the same, and a good teacher is skilled enough to bounce from one student to the next, to tailor their delivery and approach to suit individual character types while remaining uniform and neutral across the board. It is not easy to accomplish and requires a lot of patience. While the individual personalities can fall anywhere on a broad scale, there are a few traits that are bound to be in every classroom. You will not fail to pick out the naturally gifted child in a classroom, or the popular kid, the shy one, the bully, the attention seeker. In this regard, teaching becomes a lot like diplomacy; it calls for a skilled and patient juggling of complex personalities that must somehow coexist together in one setting. For most teachers, dealing with most students is easy enough. There is often no need to even single out specific personalities as you teach, however there are a few personalities that are especially challenging to handle. These test the teacher, push them to the limit. The question now is, how do you deal with the bully who says mean things about other children and even to you? How can you reach that little girl who never wants to be called upon to answer a question? Here are a few tips on how to survive and indeed master the complex characters in your classroom. Put yourself in their shoes It is a universally accepted truth that interpersonal relationships are important, especially between a teacher and their student. Once a good relationship is established, barriers are broken down. Not only can the personal touch help in teaching, but it allows for the relationship to go beyond the classroom. Getting to know your students will help reveal their character to you. Subsequently, you will be able to determine what works for them. Knowing you have a genius on your hands for example, you will know to tweak the material so that they, too, feel challenged and not bored. This is why Abbotts college relies so much on the mentoring system. This enables teachers to give their own personal touch in getting to know students as individuals and to know what their future aspirations are and how we can help with them achieving their goals. If a student is acting out, the immediate reaction is anger and resentment. They are interrupting your class after all and making your life more difficult. But try and think about what it must be like for them. Put yourself in their shoes. Maybe they have problems at home and are lashing out at school. Maybe the reason Mary is not participating is because she is being bullied. Take the time to understand your students. It will help you deal better with their behavior. Master your poker face When dealing with a difficult student, try and keep a cool head. Put away the extreme emotions you are undoubtedly experiencing like frustration and anger. This will help you see the situation clearly, helping you handle it effectively. Students are very smart; they will pick up subtle indicators of your response to their actions. Often, they are testing you and pushing your buttons. They will do so until they determine your breaking point. You must therefore remain composed throughout. Speak in a soft voice that reflects your demeanor but communicate clearly and firmly. Focus on dealing with the issue at hand, and when it’s done, move on. Do not linger over it or hold a grudge. This way, your students learn a thing or two about handling conflict which will be an attitude they themselves will apply in future. Be firm, but fair Always remember that you are their teacher and guardian first, never their friend. It is a fine line to walk, having them respect you but letting them know they can approach you if they need anything. In case of doubt, it is better to stumble on the side of certainty. Your students understand that there are rules, which you must enforce. Do not let anyone get away with rule breaking, no matter how insignificant it seems. If you let just one slip, you lose control over the classroom, and you become infinitely less effective. This will not endear you to them, but they will respect you, and they will do what is right. This does not mean, however, that you adopt a hard, unyielding stance. To err is human. Let your students know that it is okay to make a mistake, because it is a learning opportunity. This way, the punishment won’t feel like a personal slight. You should expect manipulation and bargaining and know how to deal with it. In return, reward good behavior. Be fair in your application of the rules. If you must, enlist the help of another teacher or even their parent. At the end of the day, the objective is to teach them to be responsible adults. It is important to remember that with students, no shoe fits all, so approach each student as a unique individual. Listen to them, empathize with them, and you can discipline them. Written by: James Messian, Life Sciences teacher at Abbotts Colleges Centurion

June 3, 2019

OVERWHELMED BY VOLUMES OF DIGITAL PHOTOS?

The average person uses digital photography as a way to document their life. Most people do this because it’s a memory that in 40 years’ time they will be grateful for. By taking a picture you make a souvenir, and 1000’s of these souvenirs land up on cell phones, tablets, computers, cameras and SD cards, as well as on an array of social platforms like facebook and Instagram. And let us not forget cloud storage also. If you’re not finding the time to look through digital archives now, you’re not going to have time in the future either! Also think how much more you’ll have accumulated by then; you’ll have loads more to sift through. Images sometimes get lost when you only have them on digital. You’ll take 300 pics and then forget about them. However, if you backup your digital photos by printing the best pictures out in a tangible format, you tend to treasure them and of course, really enjoy them more. Technology never stops changing. That means what is around now, might not be around in 20 years or so from now. This is why it’s important to save irreplaceable memories and precious mementos of life, in a protected format that works for now, and the future. Backup your digital photos by printing them out in a tangible format. Display these highlights together with other valuable and touchable irreplaceable mementos like keepsakes, achievements and art, creating a comprehensive overview of every year. Combine all these most valuable traces of childhood, then arrange them easily in an exquisite MY FILE ABOUT ME presentation that can be viewed and enjoyed regularly. With digital technology it’s so easy to take over 30 photos or more at one special event. Over a month you can easily capture 120 photos. That means in a year its highly possible to collect over 1,500 photos or more, depending on how much of a happy snapper you are. Multiply 1,500 photos by ten years and that gives you 15,000 (fifteen thousand) photos. That’s an insane number of digital photos to get through in a few minutes, or in a day, in a week, a month or even in a year! With that crazy thought, my suggestion is to select at least 16 to 32 of your child’s most cherished digital photos from every year. Doing so will allow you to create a summary of the most important events and memories for each specific year. Now print them out and keep them together. It’s easier and more time efficient to view a small number of printed photos in one place rather than being overwhelmed by thousands and thousands stashed in the clouds, SD cards and mobile phones. More photos mean it is more time intensive to view. And seriously, do you know what photo you’ve filed where and are they in yearly order? Do you even remember what photos you have taken? If you print 32 photos per year over 10 years, you’ll have 320 photos to view. This is very much more manageable and of course more time effective to look through than 15,000 photos dotted all over the place. There’s a solution I’d like to introduce you to that will allow you to browse, in 5 minutes, 320 printed photos (150 x 100mm), chronologically in only 20 pages. That is an impressive 16 jumbo photos per page that save incredible space in a tangible way. This breath-taking presentation reruns 18+ years of memories in less than15 minutes of active browsing. More impressive, is that this solution is refillable, expandable and totally customizable for your particular needs. It offers the opportunity to obtain additional refills that also accommodate A5, A4 and even A3 photo enlargements. And that’s all without cutting or gluing anything. More impressive, is that this revolutionary solution is multi-purpose. It not only links your yearly printed photos together, it also combines your digital photos too, along with all other keepsakes, mementos and valuables from the same year. You’ll be amazed at how quickly and easily you can keep your child’s yearly stash of precious memoirs and valuable souvenirs of childhood. You’ll be super impressed at how orderly, neat, compact and effectively you can preserve at save physical keepsakes and memories. One compact solution provides an entire childhood at your fingertips to revisit regularly as often as you wish. It beautifully and effectively links tokens of an entire year together, centralizing them in a unified and truly impressive way. It further delivers a comprehensive outline of each year in a storybook fashion. Thereafter, it links each year sequentially, transporting you through an all-inclusive childhood from birth to adulthood (or pre-school to adulthood) in a very quick and accessible way. Get all your most cherished touchable keepsakes out from piles, boxes and hidden places. (Remember: out of sight is out of mind). Now combine up to larger than A3 school art, certificates, badges, medals, CDs, DVDs, birthdays, family holidays and more with your printed photos. Then preserve and display an annual collection of memories in the all-in-one My File About Me system. This instant overview of life’s amazing journey is an exceptionally effective and beautiful way to summarize your child’s entire life in one pleasing and space-saving patented format. I love using Forever Child. I love how it’s instant: That instant gratification of having captured a moment with a token or two to go with it: Memories that can be made then put away and then brought out and shown to someone, not only now, but far into the future also. It’s a lifetime investment that continues to grow in value as time moves on. . It is a life story that can be enjoyed over and over and celebrated for generations and forever. Remember precious memories may fade and valuable mementos can get lost, but MY FILE ABOUT ME… is forever! Click here to discover a world of convenience. About the Author Eleni Korfias is a wife, mother of three

May 31, 2019

Natalija’s 20th camp anniversary at Sugar Bay

In 2015, we saw Natalija Bozovic walk through our gates on our Thailand themed holiday camp, and as we celebrate her 20th camp anniversary, she shares her journey at Sugar Bay and how camp has become her second home. “I always felt like a little bit of an outcast at school, but when I came to camp I just blended in, I was welcomed by the warmest and kindest counselors that I still hold close to my heart to this day.” With Walnut being one of the camp counselors that helped her push through her insecurities, Natalija dreams of being a camp counselor so she can help other kids come out of their shell. “I already have a camp counselor name! That’s how serious I am. In 2 years I will be doing my C.I.T (Counselor-In-Training) course and I’m pretty excited about it.” Quick Q&A 1. What has been your favourite themed holiday camp and why? “Definitely Thailand week! It was the start of me finding my voice. I found a place where I could be myself fully.” 2. If you could travel anywhere in the in the world where would it be and why? “This is going to sound a little cliche, but it would have to be Hawaii. I mean who wouldn’t want to go there? The beaches are so gorgeous.” 3. What’s the one thing people don’t know about you? “I’m into science. I won first place in a science fair, and I went on to compete nationally where I got a silver medal. My experiment was on how fruit juices and soft drinks affect your teeth. I think I changed a lot of perceptions on fruit juices and soft drinks. Hahahahahaha.” 4. What’s your favourite party-starter song for the weekend? Believe it or not, I’m into Abba. So Dancing Queen by Abba. Mama Mia put me on! South Africa’s first and only American-style summer camp, Sugar Bay provides children of ages 7-17 with the most fun and memorable holidays imaginable. With over 100 activities, the latest equipment and first-rate facilities, Sugar Bay gives children the freedom to enjoy themselves within a safe and secure environment. If your teen would like to become a professional instructor in one of Sugar Bay’s certified activities, you should consider enrolling them in a Counselor-In-Training course. For more information, contact Sugar Bay on (032) 485 3778 or email [email protected]. You can also read more about Sugar Bay’s certified activities on their website.

May 30, 2019

Why Your Child Should Be Getting An Allowance

If your child has just started learning the difference between bills and coins, it won’t be long till they’re asking for their own share. And while that might be a little scary for you – they grow up so fast – there are lots of really good reasons to start giving your children an allowance. So if you’re on the fence about whether you think your kids are ready for some responsibility, here are four reasons why an allowance might be a good idea. Reason #1 – They learn how to budget When your child starts receiving an allowance, it’s the perfect opportunity for you to introduce them to budgeting. Because they’re now dealing with their own money, kids learn how to start prioritising where it goes – how much goes towards lunch money or after school treats, toys or video games. By teaching them to work to a budget you’ll be giving them a lesson in self control. That’s not always an easy lesson for kids to learn, but making the effort to curb bad habits when they’re young can prevent a lifelong habit of impulse spending. And that’s becoming increasingly important these days. Mozo conducted research into Australia’s obsession with post-pay layby service, Afterpay and found that 1 in 4 shoppers using the service experienced financial stress. That points to a worrying trend of overspending in Aussie adults and high personal debt, which appears to be a global trend. So the sooner your child gets into the habit of spending within their means, the better they’ll become at managing expenses later on in life. [ads2] Reason #2 – It’ teaches them how to set financial goals Budgeting goes hand-in-hand with setting financial goals, which for kids, usually means saving up to buy something they really want. And although owning the latest Mickey Mouse Play Doh set requires a little less work than buying a home, setting small goals builds good habits, like dedication and commitment. Knowing that you won’t just be buying them things they want and instead, when they want it, they’ll have to save their allowance starts kids on the path to thinking about their money long-term. It also means they’ll learn the skill of prioritising their spending and making hard decisions, like whether they want a treat right now, or extra spending money when your family goes on holiday at the end of the year. Let them pick their own short and long term goals, whether it’s the latest video game or a new toy, that way, the payoff will be meaningful to them. And as they inch closer to their goal, they’ll see the value in putting money away. One fun way to keep them on track is to design a motivation board. Grab some glue and stick pictures of their ‘goals’ onto cardboard, before hanging it in their bedroom where they can see it everyday. And if your child isn’t one for arts and crafts, many savings accounts offer virtual planners and activities to help kids manage their money online. The other thing to keep in mind is to make sure that if you’re encouraging your child to set savings goals, their allowance is enough to let them actually reach that goal within a reasonable amount of time. For instance, while a teenager might be willing to wait to buy their first car, a child in elementary school hoping to land a new LEGO set might not stay interested after a couple of months. So do the math and make sure that they’re not setting their expectations higher than your wallet can afford. Reason #3 – They’ll reap the benefits of saving If there’s one virtue that’s lost on many children, it’s patience. But by keeping your child from running to the lolly aisle at the first chance they get, they’ll enjoy one of the long-term benefits of saving – compound interest. The longer kids have savings stashed away, the more time there is for compound interest to work its magic and grow their funds. So give them a place to stash their new ‘income’ by opening up a savings account, so they can make regular deposits and start earning interest today. Then, by the time they finish high school, they’ll have a nice little stash to take away to college, go travelling or just to keep in case of emergencies. If you really want to give them a head start, it might be a good idea to match their savings to help them stay focused, like adding an extra $10 a week. Because if you did this from the age of 5, they’d have a whopping $6,240 by their 18th birthday – not too shabby of a gift! [ads2] #4 – It’ll give them a taste of independence Many kids just can’t wait to be treated like an adult and having their own money, especially if they’re taking out the trash every night or keeping their room tidy to earn it, is a great first step towards that kind of independence. Having their own money means they can start to make more independent decisions about how they want to use it, which can keep them motivated to continue saving. They might even decide to try a new hobby or learn a new skill with their newfound wealth which gives them a chance to work out who they are as a person. Financial independence can be addictive! If you’re the parent of a teenager, you could make things interesting by giving ‘salary negotiation’ a go. Sit down with them and talk about the quality and quantity of work they do around the house, then discuss whether their current allowance reflects this accurately. Even though they’re a long way away from doing this with an actual employer, it does give them the chance to test drive their negotiation skills and put their own price on their time and effort. Just don’t be surprised if they get too clever and start organising monthly negotiations! The next step –

May 30, 2019

The ideal baby shower gift!

We have all been there…. We stand in the store trying to find a suitable gift for a baby shower that afternoon. Well recently we found it! Chicco recently released their Fantastic Love Range which is amazing. Not only is this range a limited edition but there is limited stock as well! Imagine walking in knowing that mom will fall in love on the spot! The Fantastic Love Range by Chicco comprises of: 150ml Special Edition Bottle 250ml Special Edition Bottle Unicorn Special Edition Dummy Chain Unicorn Special Edition Teether Unicorn Special Edition Pacifier Holder And then their signature pacifier … the Special Edition Physio Soft Pacifier. If nothing else, get this life saver! The Physio Soft Pacifiers have a smaller neck ensuring that that orthodontic teat sits perfectly with the correct amount of pressure being applied to the palette. A lot of effort has gone into perfecting this pacifier with the moulding being ultra soft and perfected so that baby is able to lie comfortably and the pacifier will not leave any marks on the face This range comes in both blue and pink This range is available from Takealot, Loot and selected Kids Emporium Stores

May 29, 2019

Connecting to the new world of learning

For Johannesburg-based coach, Penny Castle, who is a speaker at the SACAP Festival of Learning in Johannesburg on 31st May, induction into our new world of learning was as harsh as it could be. Two years ago, her teenage son, Josh, was diagnosed with an extremely unusual, aggressive and terminal cancer of the bile duct. Known as Cholangiocarcinoma, this is a geriatric cancer so rare that less than 7000 cases are diagnosed globally a year; and of the documented patients so far, only five have ever been children or teenagers. Josh and his family needed urgent information, professional help and advice; and they did what we all do in the ‘top-down’ world– they turned to the experts. Penny says, “In the course of one week everything I thought I knew about learning from an expert was turned on its head as doctor after doctor turned my son away not knowing how to treat the case. In desperation, I turned to the internet and stumbled across a couple of Facebook groups run by cancer warriors and their caregivers. In just a few more weeks, Josh had gained a ton of new ‘grandparents’ and I’d gained vital fellow travellers as we sought treatment options, shared information, celebrated triumphs and grieved our fallen comrades together. The world of learning, I realised, had changed, and I was in a circumstance where I instantly changed with it.” Eventually, the Castle family did also connect with a flexible oncologist who was prepared to listen to the advice of elderly patients and caregivers from all over the world in terms of treatment options, genetic testing, and Yttrium 90 Radiology. “In the paradigm of ‘expert oncologist’, our son would not have been accepted as a patient of an adult oncologist, nor would the advice of so-called strangers from across the world, delivered via social media ever have been considered,” says Penny. In the world of learning from the expert; we find one and then listen, process their information cognitively and take what we need to know. In the new world of learning, Penny realised that we need a different skills-set. We need to be able to truly connect, stripped of our personal brands and other artifices. We can’t access the wealth of experience and information from a sufferer of an extremely rare cancer on the other side of the world if we can’t begin to share our own vulnerability. Since, Josh passed, Penny, clad in Batman t-shirts, has comfortably called this ‘living your weird’. “If you think about all the people who inspire or motivate us, there is always something a bit weird about them,” she says. “But it’s that weird that allows for connection because when you show me your weird it does two things. The first, is that I might see a bit of my own weird in you; and the second, is that it gives me permission to show you more of my weird. We can connect and we can belong.” This opens up the world in entirely different way to pretending there is nothing weird about being you so that you can fit in. One is a whole-hearted option, and the other can only be half-hearted at its best. Penny shares that before Josh’s diagnosis, she was caught up in fitting into the coaching world. Her perceptions of other coaches’ expectations shaped her choices in clothes and activities. At Josh’s memorial service last year, none of the coaches she had looked up to were available to attend. Penny says: “It wasn’t so much hurtful as a data point. What was I doing trying to emulate people who were too busy when it came to a friend’s true moment of need? It gave me permission to stop pretending I liked highbrow Eastern philosophy or yoga or any of the other things I’d been trying to do to fit in. Eighteen months later, my life, except for the grief part, is happier because I can just be the weird woman who always wears a Batman shirt. Today, I save my mental, cognitive, emotional and physical energy for activities that truly interest me.” The world of learning has changed. As soon as we are trying to work with something that is rare or has never been done before by far the most useful learning method is through connection – and specifically connection with people who are grappling with the same subject or issues. You can learn more about Penny Castle’s story at the upcoming SACAP Festival of Learning in Johannesburg. The 2019 Festival of Learning hosted by SACAP: Johannesburg, 30-31 May Venue: SACAP Campus, Rosebank Times: 30 May from 17h30 to 20h30 and 31 May from 09h00 to 17h00 Human Library: 31 May from 11h00 to 15h00 Tickets for the 2019 Festival of Learning are available through Webtickets. Tickets are R250-00 for the full-day programme, and R200-00 for the short-talk evening programme. There is a special offer for students and alumni at R80-00 per ticket. For further information please visit: https://go.sacap.edu.za/psychology-festival-2019

May 29, 2019

FANTASTIC LOVE PHYSIO SOFT PACIFIERS AND TEETHERS

Chicco, global leaders in nursing care, bring trendy babies a funky new look for 2019 in the form of the Fantastic Love range of nursing gear. Already a go-to choice for mothers around the globe, the Chicco Physio Soft pacifier is famous for being the perfect soothing companion. Made from 100% soft silicone, these soft dummies are perfect for face-sleeping babies and come with an extra thin neck to avoid mouths being unduly open whilst sucking. The teat is orthodontic and fits snugly into the palette area, avoiding lolling around in the mouth. The Fantastic Love Physio Soft dummies are available from newborn upwards and come in a gorgeous clear heart shaped box with satin ribbon, making it a gorgeous gift. Another one of the products in this range that babies are loving is the pony shaped teether. With ribbed legs and special mane made in textured plastic, it’s the perfect gummy companion and even has a heart shaped area for small hands to grasp. All products retail at R129 and are available at selected Pick ‘n Pay stores, www.takealot.com and other retailers. Limited units in SA.

May 27, 2019

Capriccio! Arts Powered Schools – Learn@Home

Learn@Home, our school’s arts inspired online learning programme, has been specially devised to facilitate and integrate the holistic development of pre-school learners through a unique Play & Learn approach that mimics our school’s fun-filled arts powered curriculum presented on site.

May 26, 2019

How does your baby develop a memory?

The development of a baby’s memory is also known as Object Permanence and basically means that the baby has developed a memory. This is an extremely important intellectual milestone and can be encouraged in several ways. A small baby sees the world as a mass of images and sensations. When looking at an object, she will focus on it briefly and then move on to the next object that captures her attention. Once the first object is out of sight it is basically out of mind. So, if you take a toy from her and hide it behind your back, it no longer exists for her and she won’t bother to look for it. Gradually though, she starts to hold images in her mind for longer periods of time until it becomes noticeable at about 6 months. You will notice it when you take a toy from her; your baby will look for it and may even cry for it. This shows that she remembers that just a second ago she had something interesting in her hand and now it is gone. This is a very early form of symbolic thought and memory and we encourage it by playing certain games. As your baby approaches 1 year, she will get very upset when you leave the room. This is known as separation anxiety and peaks at about 12 months. The following games will help your baby to learn that mom or an object may disappear for a while but will come back again: Peek – a – Boo – In this game you hide yourself away behind a cloth or book or even a toy. You then pop up all excited to see your baby. Your baby will respond with glee and this will be her favourite game for years. The time that you hide away can gradually become longer and longer. Hiding toys – Where did it go? Hide a small toy in your hand or behind your back and get your baby to look for it. Praise her when she finds it. Hide and seek – Crawling babies love to play hide and seek. You hide behind the couch, call her name until she finds you. This progresses into the real game later on

May 24, 2019

The Silent One

A school is not a quiet place. In my experience children constantly talk and more often than not they talk at the same time. Keeping everyone quiet in class can be a big challenge. Then there have been a few occasions where I have taught a child who doesn’t talk at all. The silent one. They were not only quiet and shy but did not talk at all! This is how I have learned about and experienced ‘Selective Mutism.’ According to Dr. Elisa Shipon-Blum Selective Mutism is an anxiety disorder. These children prefer not to talk in social settings as a result of the extreme anxiety they feel. It is important to know that many children with Selective Mutism were early speakers without any speech delays/disorders. Parents are often confused and surprised when they get feedback that their child never communicates at school as these children are often loud and boisterous at home and extremely verbal. Proving that they are able to selectively speak and communicate in settings where they are comfortable and relaxed. These children become mute in any setting where they are expected to talk. This can be experienced in public places such as a restaurant, family gatherings and then of course the school environment where social interaction is constantly required. According to Dr. Elisa Shipon-Blumi it is common for a child with selective mutism to have a blank facial expression. In my own classroom I have found that they tend to ‘disappear’. They do not want anyone to notice them and are fearful of being put ‘on the spot.’ So how do you as a teacher handle a child with Selective Mutism? The most important thing to focus on is dealing with the anxiety. Be aware of the child’s tendency to ‘disappear’ in class of their quietness. Remove all pressure and expectations for the child to speak. Try to treat the child as normal as all the other children in your class. Do not make an issue of the fact that the child does not want to talk. As a teacher there is a tendency to talk for the child or to only give them yes or no questions. Your job as teacher is not to make the child speak but rather to minimise the anxiety in the classroom activities for the child. In some instances, these children develop one or a few friendships and will whisper or even speak to a few children in school especially on the playground. They do experience the need for social interaction. They might also communicate nonverbally in class by nodding their heads or pointing if they need to answer a question. Nonverbal communication is acceptable when the child is new to the classroom environment. However, strategies and interventions need to be put in place to help the child to progress from nonverbal to verbal communication. Seat the child to the side of the classroom, preferably not in front or in the centre where everyone can see them. Avoid eye contact at first. In my own experience it is better to gain the child’s trust by not putting any kind of pressure on them, but also not by excluding them from the classroom activities. I have found that sometimes it works to create spontaneous opportunities for the child to speak. For example, if we do counting on the carpet I will go around and throw a ball randomly to each child. That child must then give the next number. The children enjoy this and get very excited. I have experienced that the children with selective mutism get so involved and excited with the other children that when they catch the ball they sometimes give the answer as there is not enough time to register the anxiety around talking. That can be a big moment for you as a teacher, but it is very important to not make a big deal out of it. Just continue with the game and act as if this is normal behaviour for the child. It is important to know as a teacher that these children can be referred to specialists that can assist with medical treatments and advice in order to reduce anxiety, the main culprit behind selective mutism. By: Wilma du Toit, Grade 2 teacher, The Bridge Assisted Learning School

May 24, 2019

Are homework and assessments all bad?

Recently a lot has been said about the pressures of homework and assessments especially on prep school level. Many schools have subsequently adapted their policies around homework and assessments – either ‘banning’ homework or drastically lessening the load. The question that should be asked is not whether a learner should be given homework or be assessed. It should rather be how these two very valuable and necessary aspects of education should be managed to best benefit learners. It is important to remember why children are encouraged to ‘work at home’ ie. do homework. In a normal school day, a learner will be exposed to new information in at least four subjects. Keep in mind that all this new information is introduced in periods ranging between 30 minutes and an hour – a short time to really process and understand what you have learnt. For the average child, this information will most probably go in the one ear and out the other with little retention. That is where the value of learning or revising at home comes in. If all children were naturally self-disciplined with a love for learning, this would not be an issue. Children would then revise by themselves, because they would be so interested in what they have learnt at school that day, that they would naturally want to talk about it and revise it. Sadly, we all know that this is not true. Most children won’t spare a moment’s thought about what they have learnt once they have left the classroom. This is why teachers have no choice but to give homework in order to ensure that crucial concepts are engrained in children’s brains. What can however be questioned is the type and amount of homework given. The idea behind working at home should be to further establish an understanding of concepts learnt at school. Homework should not be something that is hastily given just before the end of the period. Teachers should upfront give learners a purposeful exercises that will enhance what the children will learn on that given day. Homework has no benefit if it wastes time and is a mere repetition of tasks without any learning. For example: Grade 5 learners are introduced to equivalent fractions in Mathematics. Instead of giving a sheet of homework where leaners have to complete ten questions on the topic, rather ask them to find equivalent fractions in daily life. Take an apple or a slab of chocolate and divide in half and again in half and again in half and see that Draw a diagram of your ‘experiment’ and bring that to school. Grade 6 learners are learning about the difference between weather and climate. Video tape yourself explaining this difference using examples to a family member. Unfortunately, not all homework can always be ‘experiments’. Sometimes you have to simply sit on your bum and practice. “Children should be encouraged to read, write, perform arithmetic and better understand the world around them.” Maurice J. Elias, Edutopia Another benefit of working at home is that problem areas can be highlighted before a learner is assessed on the topic. If your child for instance battles to complete his ten fractions problems, he will definitely battle to complete the assessment later on. Teachers should therefore plan homework to help learners grasp complex concepts. It goes without saying that the teacher should also check homework daily to be alerted to problem areas. At its very essence – the purpose of homework is to teach leaners to think, apply their knowledge and solve problems. Maybe the solution to this very contentious problem is balance, as with everything in life. Homework should enhance learning, without being senseless. Homework should be little steps, followed daily, to eventually complete an assessment successfully.

May 23, 2019

Top Tips on How to Ace Your Physical Sciences Exam

The June Examination might already be underway but that does not mean that you can’t still ace your Physical Sciences exam. The affordable Quanta Book series for Grade 10 to 12 learners makes Physical Sciences interesting and fun! The preparation books, available in English and Afrikaans, contain bite-sized explanations that are easy to understand, and to-the-point summaries enriched with hints and tips. The books also come with DVDs containing cartoons, animations and demonstrations to help you visualise difficult concepts.

May 23, 2019

How To Make The Medicine Go Down

It’s stressful when your kids are sick and even more stressful when they refuse to take their medicines. Not to mention the icky stickiness that is almost impossible to wash off your skin. In this blog I will share with you some tips I have learnt over the years to help make the medicine go down. 1. Disguise the taste Many over the counter liquid medications available for kids are flavoured. Look on the bottle to see which flavour you are buying. Some brands have different options for the same drug such as Panado’s strawberry and peppermint flavours. Some brands may have the same flavours but taste different. My daughter prefers the strawberry flavour of Calpol than that of Panado. If the medication needs to be made up by a pharmacist, ask them to flavour the medication if possible. Unfortunately, some meds just taste awful and not all pharmacies stock flavourings. You’ll need to get creative here. You can mix the liquid with fresh fruit or vegetable juice and even honey (if your child is over one year). You can also try mixing meds with milk or yoghurt but the calcium may interfere with the effects of some medications, particularly with certain antibiotics. Acidic foods may also inactivate some antibiotics. It’s important to ask your pharmacist and read the patient information leaflet before you decide to try this method. If you are hiding the medication in a food or drink, keep the volume small so that the entire dose can be taken. Don’t mix with a full bottle or cup of juice if your child will not finish this. 2. Equipment I always use a syringe and squirt the medicine along the inside of the cheeks and not onto the tongue. This way you can bypass the taste buds a little. You can also use a medicine dropper the same way. Slide the syringe or dropper along the cheek towards the back of the mouth and squirt the medicine slowly. Do not aim for the throat as your child will gag and cough and if you aim too far in front of the mouth the medicine will simply be spat out. Using a syringe also allows you to give correct dosages. In kids it’s vital you give the correct dosage of medication. You can wash and reuse the syringes but after a while you should replace them. 3. Keep it chilled You can also numb the taste buds beforehand. Your child can suck on a block of ice if he or she is older or you could try an ice-lolly for a younger child. Some medications can also be stored in the fridge, which can make them taste better. 4. Wash it down Whilst Mary Poppins recommended a spoonful of sugar, I’m not sure many of us moms will be too happy with the after effects of this sugar rush before bedtime. Have a glass of water or your child’s favourite drink on standby to drink as soon as they swallow just so they can wash their taste buds. 5. Coat the taste buds You can try giving your child a spoonful of something thick and sweet such as maple syrup or honey to coat the tongue before giving the medicine. 6. Try a tablet instead Some liquid medicines are available as chewables. If your child is old enough you can try these. Whilst there are some tablets that can be crushed and mixed with food. Speak to your doctor or pharmacist before you do this. You may also find dissolvable tablets. Dissolve the tablet in a small glass of water and add some fruit juice to hide the taste as these can be extremely bitter. 7. Give your child some control You will find that your kids will be more willing to take their medicine if they are in control or at least think they are. Allow them to choose when to take their medicine, for example, before or after the bath. They can also choose what flavour medicine they would like when you are buying it for them. IF IT WORKS, STICK TO IT You might find that more than one trick is necessary. If you have found a technique that works, stick to it. A while back I tried using one of those fancy medicine syringes I got at my baby shower instead of a simple syringe (I had actually forgotten to replace the ones I had thrown out). These syringe type medicine feeders are quite big and I couldn’t get it far enough to the back of the mouth to bypass the taste buds. My daughter did not like this at all and I ended up wearing most of the medicine! Do you have any other tricks or tips to get your kids to take medicine? Please share in the comments section below! If your little one requires medicine on a regular basis, here is a medicine chart to help you organise the days and quantities: https://www.oneaid.co.za/resources/

May 23, 2019

Dare to Discipline your Darlings!

“Discipline” has received swearword status in many modern parenting circles. It is now quite trendy to withdraw from being the disciplinary figure in favour of being a child’s friend. While this is mostly well intended (and evokes wonderful images of parent and child roaming around like Calvin and Hobbes all day), it can be harmful to both parties. This inclination towards permissive parenting is mostly the result of a misunderstanding of true discipline and what children need to thrive. Many of us dislike the idea of discipline because we imagine a big, angry person dishing out harsh punishments and forcing his or her selfish will onto an innocent, vulnerable child. (Are you also seeing Cinderella’s stepmom? Or sadly, maybe one of your own parents?) Well yes, no child should be subjected to this type of authoritarian parenting, which sits at the other end of the spectrum. Fortunately, there is an alternative to these two extremes. It’s called authoritative parenting. This entails parents who are exceptionally nurturing and responsive to their children, but who also believe in discipline: They have high standards and consistently enforce clearly defined boundaries. Studies found the product to be happier, more successful, more socially adept children who exhibit less behavioural problems. I’m sure all of us want that for our munchkins! Defining Discipline What does healthy discipline look like? Discipline is gentle mentorship. It entails an older, wiser person coming alongside an ignorant child (who is still but a glorified bundle of primal, selfish impulses) and helping him to make good choices that will ultimately benefit and protect himself and others. It is a long-term process of training, teaching and yes, sometimes correction. Discipline means setting clear boundaries with predictable, consistent consequences if they are crossed. True discipline is not born from anger, spite, frustration or selfish needs. It is not a parent’s licence to get his own will or “stay in control”. The crucial cornerstone A loving, supportive relationship with a child is the precursor to any form of parenting success. This includes being sensitive to a child’s temperament. If our children do not feel nurtured, understood and cherished, they have no reason to trust and obey the boundaries we set for them, except out of fear. This is where “friendship” comes in, although my underaged child should not be my buddy! There must be an obvious hierarchy where the parent is the one who calls the important shots. Why children need discipline? Dr. James Dobson makes a classic comparison: If you were to drive on a bridge without railings, you would probably drive closer towards the middle of the road, and even then you’d feel anxious. Railings are equivalent to boundaries – when they are present, we feel secure and actually experience less restriction. If children do not know where the lines are, they have no notion of how far they can go before something awful happens, and therefore they feel insecure. (Note: This does not mean that they won’t test the boundaries you put up! They are still human.) Furthermore, discipline has long-term, life-altering effects. If we allow our children to be guided by their own will, we breed adults who have no self-control. A four-year-old taking cookies from the pantry may seem cute; a 15-year-old taking alcohol from the bar, not so much; a 30-year-old taking money from his company – downright criminal. Not all undisciplined children end up lawless, but it’s much harder for them to become agreeable, successful adults. Why parents need it? If our goal is to be our child’s friend, we are looking for double trouble. In the first place, we set ourselves up for rejection, because most children do not want a parent as their best friend, and will soon go looking for a more suitable playmate. Ouch! Secondly, we set ourselves up for chaos. Without discipline, we subject ourselves to the fickle, immature will of our children as the reigning force in the home. We’re speaking a person not yet able to spell “orderliness” deciding how the household is run… How discipline differs from punishment Punishment is merely a component of discipline, and certainly not the most important one. It allows a child to experience a negative consequence for deliberately misbehaving. It is a momentary procedure in the ongoing act of discipline. Provided the punishment is not too harsh (instilling fear or rebellion) or too mild (effectively making a mockery of the practice and encouraging further misconduct), it is an effective tool in our discipline kit. It teaches children that the world works according to rules, and that it is unpleasant or even dangerous not to follow them. They will inevitably encounter this law of life – better it is introduced by someone who loves them. Read more about punishment here. Remember that our end game is to raise optimally functional, emotionally stable, altruistic adults. To this purpose, I dare you to discipline!

May 22, 2019

Regression during Potty Training

Regression is going from totally dry during the day to having 2 or more accidents every day. This doesn’t include a small wet patch or trickle from not concentrating. A change in circumstances that causes stress and makes your child anxious can cause regression in potty training. For example, it can happen when a new sibling is born and the older sibling feels a little insecure. Toddlers often test boundaries if there is a change in circumstances like moving house. It is their way of showing you that they do not feel safe and secure. If you let the boundaries drop and allow your toddler to go back to wearing nappies, you will reinforce the idea that the change is scary and your toddler should not feel safe and secure. But if you keep the boundaries firmly in place, your toddler will soon feel safe and secure again. Some toddlers decide they do not like stopping an activity to use the potty and wet their pants instead. If this is the case: Make it worth his while to use the potty/toilet by praising and rewarding him. Tell him you are busy and he will need to wait to be changed if rewarding does not work. He will soon feel uncomfortable in wet underpants. Trust CHERUBS Classic Wipes to keep your baby’s bottom soft and clean. Our wipes ensure a deep but gentle cleanse for your baby’s skin. They are flushable and biodegradable making them as kind to the environment as they are to the softest skin. CHERUBS Classic flushable baby & toilet training wipes are: Eco Friendly Flushable & Biodegradable For Baby & Toddler pH Balanced Alcohol, Chlorine & Paraben Free Made in SA with love Cherubs Classic Flushable Baby & Toilet Training Wipes Fragranced Wipes 80’s : R33.85 Cherubs Classic Flushable Baby & Toilet Training Wipes Fragrance Free Wipes 80’s: R31.96 The CHERUBS Classic Wipes are also available in Triple Packs with a convenient carry strap – R69.99 (320’s) Available at all leading retailers nationally

May 22, 2019

Capture your child’s attention!

We have all bought those flimsy shape box toys right? My greatest frustration was always the poor quality material that was used to make them. We found the Oops Easy-Activity Box to be oh so bright and fun. Although shapes are fun to get through the little hole, imagine having a butterfly or an owl? These bright attractive wooden inserts into the dragonfly house really make this such a fun toy for toddlers 12 months and up. You can develop your Childs motor skills as well as keep their attention with this 6 piece set This range is available from Takealot, Loot and selected Kids Emporium Stores

May 22, 2019

Backpack Backpack

Oops is a lovely company all about children’s happiness! They create products with the child in mind and this is a company we can certainly get behind. From the easy-backpack to the stunning lunchboxes, your toddler will be the talk of the town. This backpack is small and is great for giving your children their first bag. It will be extremely riveting for them as their first backpacks have 3D animal friends to accompany them every step of their day. These characters have their own special names, where you can find on their website. This product is a product of Oops. This backpack is super cute and has lovely designs such as ladybugs, dragonflies, owls, bears, and many other cute animals. The straps are adjustable and this lovely helper is strictly fitted for small children. The backpack isn’t suited for big amounts of packing. It is strong enough for little and not heavy-weighted items. This bag is suitable for going to pre-school and looking the coolest, holding your toys and even a lunch bag.The lunch bag is fully lined so you can easy wipe out spills and messes with no problem at all. They are easy to wash, super cute and should be on every shopping list. Available to purchase from takealot.com

May 22, 2019

Empathy skills are Key to better learning

Nelson Mandela famously stated that education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world. At the same time however, our education system is in crisis. According to Cindy Glass, Co-Founder and Owner of Step Up Education Centres, “Negative behaviours such as aggression, bullying, disrespect toward teachers and peers, intolerance and demotivation seem to be hindering our children’s ability to learn effectively and this has resulted in the learning experience, in general, becoming one of distrust, anxiety, stress and misery. Our innate need to learn is being destroyed by negative human behaviours and relationships and this equates to an ever-increasing lack of empathy skills.” She adds that it takes a village to raise a child and it is time that parents step in and step up to help change the way their children see themselves and the people in their world. The one life skill that she believes can change this is empathy. “This all-important life skill is the ability to identify with another person’s feelings and experiences. Empathy essentially allows children to ‘walk’ in another’s shoes and it teaches them to genuinely have respect for others, even in difficult circumstances. It teaches kindness, compassion and listening skills. Empathy teaches children to seek the good in others and to embrace differing beliefs and cultures. Empathy helps children to seek positive solutions to difficulties and challenges, without intending hurt for another. Just imagine the possibilities in learning if our children could master the skill of empathy!” Cindy gives 5 helpful tips to teach your child to become more empathetic: YOU are your child’s first and longest-lasting teacher: Your child is more likely to do what you do, rather than what you say. It is up to you to model, instruct and expect your child to care about and behave respectfully toward others. Teach your child to express himself in a positive way: If he is upset, teach him to express the feelings he is experiencing in words so that a positive solution can be found. Allow uncomfortable conversations that need expression. Avoidance will lead to feelings of shame and even anger and this could lead to your child making negative choices in a bid to deal with suppressed emotions. Teach your child to allow others to express their feelings in the same way: This leads to listening skills. Teach your child to learn to listen to understand the other person without the need for defensive responses. Listen with an open, non-judgemental mind. Genuinely hear what others are saying. Strive to create a meaningful, face-to-face connection with your children: Social media has desensitised us in so many ways that meaningful, wholehearted human relationships are becoming rare! People make-up and break-up over the phone. Some of the most misunderstood arguments and hurtful words are given over a digitised device. Nothing can replace face-to-face positive human connection and relationships. Teach your children to value themselves, their strengths and their weaknesses: Remember that we are only able to treat others based on how we feel about ourselves. Teach them of their worthiness to love and be loved. Teach them the value of each human being walking the earth with them- do we not ALL share the same human spirit? Do we not all bleed, cry, smile and breathe in the same way? Just as you teach your children to respect themselves, so we MUST teach them to respect others, to choose kindness and to master the skill of empathy.

May 21, 2019

The Medela Breastmilk Storage Bags Review

If you are planning on storing your breastmilk, then this is a product you definitely want. The Medela Breastmilk Storage Bags are compact, easy to store and incredibly durable. Read on below now to see why you should consider picking up a few of these incredible storage bags and how they will benefit your expression journey. What Makes The Medela Breastmilk Storage Bag A Must Have? Zero Leakage: Thanks to it’s design, the Medela Storage Bag guarantees you no leakage. This is thanks to the double zip found in the top of the bag. This prevents anything in the bag seeping out. No Tears: Another great plus to this storage bags is not only wont things leak from the stop, but nothing will spill from the sides either. This can be accredited to the construction of the bags. Their seams are all heat sealed, making this an incredibly durable product. Positioning: Your Medela Milk Storage Bags can either stand upright, from when you will be using them, or laid flat, making storage a dream. Storage: As previously mentioned, these bags make storage easy. Thanks to their flat shape when laid flat, you can store numerous bags of breast milk. As opposed to a few cumbersome bottles in your freezer. Safe Materials: The Medela team are passionate about keeping you and your baby safe. Thus, all of their products are made without the use of any harmful materials. The breastmilk storage bags are no different, being free from BPAs. Transportable: Building on all of the above mentioned points, it’s plain to see how these bags are easily transported. This makes them a must have for when you travel or pump in the office. Make The Medela Breastmilk Storage Bags Your Own Now Get your hands on these incredible, much needed breastfeeding products today. Stop over complicating your feeding/ expression process with the help of these storage bags now!

May 20, 2019

VAMPIRINA: BEHIND THE MAGIC!

Have you heard about Vampirina? She’s a ghoulish girl in a human world – and she’s the star of Disney Junior’s exciting animated series, Vampirina! Read on for a sneaky peek behind-the-scenes at the making of the spooktacular Disney Junior series… STORY TIME! Vampirina is Disney Junior’s animated series that follows the adventures of a lovable vampire and her family. “When a young vampire moves from Transylvania to Pennsylvania, she has to learn how to live with humans and stay true to herself,” explains co-executive producer/supervising director, Norton Virgien. SPOOKTACULAR FUN! The music-filled cartoon series is crammed with fun adventures for Vampirina and her frightfully fab family. In the words of the show’s super-catchy theme song, “They are the battiest monsters you’ll ever meet!” WORLD WONDER! In season one of the animated series, fans got to know Vampirina, her family and her brilliant BFFs. In season two, the adventures expand. “We are going to spend a lot more time in Transylvania,” admits Norton. “It’s going to be very exciting to see what happens!” TOWN TREASURES! Behind the scenes, animators and artists have been working hard to bring new areas of Transylvania to life for the show. “We’ve created a shopping street in Transylvania, which is much like the shopping street in every village or every town,” explains Norton. “We studied old European villages for the look of the town.” TOY STORY! See if you can spot a Transylvanian toy shop in season two! “The new shopping street features a toy store called FAO Shrieks,” explains Norton. “It’s vaguely related to a famous toy store that used to exist in New York City.” SHOP ‘TIL YOU DROP! How was the shopping street created for the animated series? “We have an artist on our team who used to be an architect,” reveals Norton. “He’s very, very good at turning ideas into reality. He created some beautiful pencil drawings of ornate, gothic buildings, which you’ll see in the show.” MONSTER MAYHEM! Prepare for some epic monster mayhem in season two. “There are lots of new monster characters who come to visit Vee and her family at the Scare B&B,” reveals Norton. WEDDING BLISS! “We have a lot of fun episodes coming up during the second season,” continues Norton. “The Frankenstein monster turns up in Pennsylvania with his bride-to-be. They plan to have their wedding ceremony in the back garden of Vampirina’s house, which is almost a disaster. Monsters from all over come as guests.” Eek! MUSICAL MAGIC! Listen out for lots of catchy new songs in upcoming episodes. “Vee’s music career in a rock trio called the Ghoul Girls really takes off in season two,” explains Norton. “We’ve even got a series of specially-made animated music videos coming out soon, which we hope will be a huge hit.” BOOK CLUB! Did you know that Vampirina was inspired by the super-successful children’s book series, Vampirina Ballerina? “It’s a very, very fun show,” concludes Norton. “You’ll quickly fall in love with Vampirina and all her friends.” MEET THE GANG! Who’s who in Vampirina? Here’s co-executive producer/supervising director Norton Virgien on the spooktacular characters in the scream-tastic series… VAMPIRINA ‘VEE’ HAUNTLEY “Vampirina is the cutest and sweetest little vampire you’ve ever met. She’s charming, cute and lovable.” OXANA HAUNTLEY “Vampirina’s mother is called Oxana Hauntley. She’s all vampire and yet she tries her very best to fit into the human world. To be honest, I think she has more trouble fitting in than the rest of her family put together!” BORIS HAUNTLEY “Boris is the world’s best dad. When he’s not flying around Transylvania as a bat, he’s always there for his little girl, Vampirina. Oxana and Boris own a bed and breakfast place in Pennsylvania called the Scare B&B. He’s the best!” GREGORIA “Gregoria is a gargoyle. She has a heart of stone, but it’s definitely warmed up over the 473 years she’s been around! Gregoria is a great double act with Demi, who is a ghost that lives with the Hauntley family. Gregoria has an up and down relationship with Demi.” NANPIRE “Vampirina’s grandma is called Nanpire The Great. She is the perfect grandmother. Nanpire is very loving and supportive, and her carry-all bag is full of magic tricks. When Nanpire starts singing and dancing, the episode goes through the roof!” GRANDPOP “Grandpop is a little tied to the old ways. It’s tough for him to live within the human world and to see his family changing. Although he has a heart of gold.” WOLFIE “Imagine the cutest little purple dog. That’s Wolfie. Except this cute little dog turns into a fully-fledged werewolf when the full moon comes out! Wolfie is a really fun character, but stay out of his way if he changes shape.” POPPY “Vee’s closest friend is Poppy. She’s very cool and hip. Poppy plays the drums in the Ghoul Girls with wild abandon. She is a great accomplice in many of Vee’s little adventures.” EDGAR “Poppy’s brother, Edgar, is an obsessed ghost and monster hunter. He plays a bigger role as the second season goes on. He lives next door to Vampirina and he’s desperate to find out what’s going on in the haunted house next door.”

May 18, 2019

About the TopTots Roller Paints

Process art is all about the experience children have when they are creating. It is important to let your child explore and be exposed to different mediums when creating art. These easy to use roller paints are perfect for the young child. Available in a set of four primary colours in an easy roll on bottle. Painting is made easy as the toddler rolls and glides the paints over the page minimising mess.

May 17, 2019

Foldscope, the science tool every child needs

Giving your child her own microscope might not be something you’ve ever considered. First of all, a microscope is a delicate instrument, more suited to a laboratory than a child’s bedroom. Then there’s the cost; a microscope can cost several thousand rand and requires specific maintenance. It’s also not portable, meaning that samples must be collected and transported home before viewing. From experience, most samples do not make it home in one piece or get lost along the way. Enter the Foldscope, a microscope that can fit in a child’s backpack, requires no maintenance, and is substantially more affordable than conventional table microscopes. At first glance, a Foldscope does not remotely resemble a microscope: it’s made from plastic-coated cardboard, is assembled by the user, and weighs next-to-nothing. To view a sample, a slide is inserted into the Foldscope and the lens is held up to the eye. It doesn’t require electricity to provide light; natural or lamp light is good enough. Best of all, it is virtually indestructible and water-resistant, making it perfect for kids and for use outdoors. A Foldscope can be taken along on any adventure, and samples can be viewed while out and about. Almost anything can be investigated, provided it can fit on a standard microscope slide. Foldscope kits come with plastic-coated cardboard slides that can be used over and over. It’s also simple to make slides from cardboard if the original slides get lost or damaged. Foldscopes were designed by Stanford biophysicist Manu Prakash, and his vision is to provide every child on the planet with their own Foldscope. The implications of providing children with microscopes are profound: by giving children a tool with which to explore a world largely unknown to them, they become empowered to take charge of their own learning. Children become citizen scientists and are given the opportunity to contribute to science in a meaningful way. A wonderful example is a child in Nicaragua who used a Foldscope to teach other children to identify mosquitos that carry the Dengue virus! In South Africa, the reality is that most schools don’t have access to microscopes. Although the national curriculum contains microscopy modules, most schools don’t cover these sections, leaving a gap in our children’s science knowledge. If a child in Nicaragua armed with a Foldscope can empower other children to play a role in their own health, imagine what our children could do! Foldscope kits are available online from www.scibuddy.co.za. Foldscopes are durable, easy-to-use, and portable, with 140× magnification. They are available as individual kits or classroom kits containing 20 or 100 units. Deluxe Individual Kits contain an extensive set of accessories to collect specimens and prepare slides. These kits are packaged in a beautiful metal case making it easy for little explorers to keep their Foldscope close at hand. To find out more about SciBuddy and Foldscope, visit www.scibuddy.co.za or their Facebook page, www.facebook.com/SciBuddySA.

May 17, 2019

The critical link between extra mural activities and effective learning

Let’s consider what it takes to transform rough diamonds into the magnificence that we admire in beautifully polished, sought-after stones. Taking a ‘rock’ and making it into a thing of beauty involves processes that take place in several stages. At each stage, the diamond cutter or jeweler uses specific tools and applies different methods to bring out the unique diamond waiting within. Cindy Glass, Owner and Co-Founder of Step Up Education Centres says, “Just imagine what we would achieve if we allowed multifaceted opportunities of learning to shape and mold our children into the magnificent, unique beings they were born to be!” The very essence of being human means that we are not one-dimensional beings. We have bodies that move and an ability to think, act creatively and with great imagination, if we are allowed and encouraged to do so. “Why is it, then, that we define education in terms of academics and academic achievement alone? Why do we place so much emphasis on sitting quietly and learning from texts? What would become of a diamond’s potential if only one of the many processes was prioritised over the others?” Cindy asks. She adds that extra mural activities that involve the arts, drama, music or sports are essential to the holistic development of young minds and bodies. She emphasises the fact that children who participate in extra mural activities benefit from making new friends, finding their talents, developing self-confidence, learning social skills and increasing problem-solving and critical thinking skills. In addition, exercise ensures a healthier lifestyle, greater body confidence, a more positive outlook on life and learning, and reduced anxiety and stress. “Children who are relaxed, confident and happy are more effective learners!” says Cindy. She gives 6 helpful tips to encourage your child to participate in extra mural activities: Be excited about the available opportunities: Help your child to choose an activity that they would enjoy. Consider your child’s strengths and weaknesses and choose an activity that would add value to your child’s positive growth and development. Allow your child to make the decision: This is not about what YOU would enjoy or what you THINK your child would enjoy. Respecting differences and preferences in our families will go a long way to fostering an environment of holistic education. Encourage and insist on commitment: Unless there is a solid reason for needing to pull out of an activity (the activity is not adding any positive value). This will teach your child valuable skills in responsibility, determination and resilience. Practice makes perfect: Remind your child that learning anything new can take time and patience. Encourage creativity and imagination, determination and effort: Never forget that extra mural activities are there to encourage growth and learning. Your child is not a professional actor, artist, musician or sportsperson. Encourage fun and participation, sportsmanship and integrity. Balance is key to effective holistic learning: Academic and extra mural activities go hand-in-hand. Do NOT expect your children to do more than they are able to. This is just counter-productive and will lead to a negative learning experience. Each child is different, but nobody can keep up a schedule that leaves no room to just rest and breathe. “Just like a diamond needs a variety of processes to become a polished gem. So our children need to participate in a variety of activities to reach their full potential. Go for it!” Cindy concludes.

May 16, 2019

The Power of Positive Recognition

“I believe the children are our future. Teach them well and let them lead the way. Show them all the beauty they possess inside.” Whitney Houston We all have a need for recognition. No matter how big or how small, the words “well done” makes anyone feel proud of themselves. Unfortunately, the opposite is also true. A lack of recognition leads to feelings of inferiority and incompetence. Parents should keep in mind that children’s sense of self is shaped by the message they receive from those around them, especially their parents, teachers and caregivers. It is important to note that parents should not only give recognition for what their children achieved but also for who they are – as this is part of being loved unconditionally. When children fail but tried their best, their efforts should be praised. Children’s personal growth should not be attached to success and performance but to their efforts and their willingness to try. The best way to motivate your child to behave well and strengthen the effectiveness of any discipline is to make sure that you praise your child more often than you criticise your child. Try to catch them when they are good and comment on it. Your approval is what shapes their behaviour. Faber and Mazlish give clear guidelineson how to praise children in their book How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (1982). They advise that when you praise a child, instead of evaluating them, you should describe what you see (I see a clean floor, a smooth bed and books neatly lined up on the shelf). You should then describe what you feel (It is a pleasure to walk into this room). And thirdly, sum up your child’s praiseworthy behaviour with a word (You sorted out your blocks, your cars and animals in separate boxes – that is what I call organisation). Praising children by following these guidelines will motivate them to want to be more cooperative and to try their best. When you praise your kids, they get the message that they are loved and that what they do is acceptable and appreciated. Praising your children in this way will help them learn to recognise that what they did is special and that they can take pride in it. They can learn to praise themselves and to recognise and value their own efforts and talents. Linda van Niekerk is an educational psychologist with her own private practice in Pretoria. She works with children of all ages. Contact her on 082 567 9156 or send an email to [email protected].

May 16, 2019

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