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New Dad’s roles

The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Know that it’s normal to have fears – there is no simple way to prepare for parenthood and all new parents (yes Moms too!) have some concerns or fears about their new role. Learn as much as you can about your baby’s daily routine and offer to help out with activities you are comfortable doing. Make “Daddy Time” a special time every day by spending one-on-one time talking, reading or singing to the baby – work with Mom to build these activities into the daily routine. Offer to attend your baby’s doctors’ visits whenever possible – it helps you learn about your baby and provides a second set of ears to hear what the doctor has to say. Be actively involved in providing a safe environment for the baby – help keep an eye out for safety hazards. Make sure your baby is never exposed to second-hand smoke and has a drug free place to live. Be gentle with the baby – never shake your baby or toss them in the air. Be mindful of how you talk and act around the baby – a gentle voice and kind gestures are always best. Support from Mom to Dad The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Ask Mom to teach you to do things you may not know how to do yet – this way you can help out and support her as you learn about your new baby. Once you’re comfortable, offer to watch the baby so Mom can get some extra rest – this gives you time with the baby while supporting Mom as well. Take care of yourself, get regular check-ups and exercise daily – work to stay healthy for the newest member of the family. Set a good example and keep smoking and drugs out of your baby’s home. Talk with Mom about how she feels about herself after her pregnancy – she may need your support and encouragement to resume intimacy and sex since things like her self-image and her body may have changed. Treat Mom to small gifts and simple gestures that tell her that you care about her – these will help her understand that she is still special to you even if she is feeling tired and her self-image has changed. Emotional aspects for Dad The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Especially in the first few weeks after birth, use compassion when dealing with both Mom and baby. They both have just been through a difficult experience and your compassion will go a long way in supporting them as they move into the next part of their journey. You may often find yourself in new and challenging situations where you have the choice to either laugh or cry – choose humour, it helps everyone survive and thrive during challenging times. Life doesn’t always prepare us for our role as a parent so as a new Dad you will often find yourself in new situations with no rulebook – rise to the occasion by using your creativity and imagination to overcome new challenges. Remember that patience is a virtue – this is especially true when you have a newborn, so remember to slow down, take a deep breath and relax before you react to trying situations. Always keep in mind that much of what you are doing in the early days after the birth of your baby is a form of service for both baby and Mom – don’t see it as a negative, rather see it as a time for you to develop a new leadership role as you offer yourself in service to others. Dad comforting a crying baby The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. As a first step, always make sure your baby has been fed and changed and that they are comfortable – if so then go on to the next steps to soothe them. Swaddling: holding a baby close can help them feel more secure, so snuggle them in a soft blanket. Side/Stomach: holding your baby on their side or stomach may help calm them. Shhh: making this noise often helps sooth your baby. Sucking: is very comforting for your baby, so if it’s not feeding time, give them a pacifier to suck on. Swinging: gentle movement is often soothing to a baby, so gently rock them in your arms or put them safely in an infant swing. Remember that even though it may be frustrating, it’s important for you to be patient and gentle with your baby. Use this time to bond with your baby and allow Mom a much-needed break from her role as a caregiver. Getting Dad involved The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Talk with Dad about his thoughts, feelings and concerns regarding his role in caring for your newborn – this will help you understand his comfort level. Get Dad involved in your baby’s care – he may need help in learning how to hold the baby or change diapers so include him in as many of the day-to-day activities as you can. Have Dad help with a night feeding when possible – if you are breast feeding consider pumping a feeding ahead so he can take one feeding for you during the night. Have him talk, read or sing to the baby every day – build these activities into your baby’s daily routine. Involve Dad in doctors’ appointments whenever possible. Ask Dad

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Don’t let the flu catch you – be informed and prepared

As autumn approaches, so does the flu season. Influenza, also known as ‘flu’, is an acute respiratory illness caused by an infection of the respiratory tract with the flu virus. There are four types of flu viruses: A, B, C and D. Most seasonal outbreaks of flu are as a result of the A and B viruses. Respiratory infections, including flu, can pose serious health risks, especially for vulnerable groups such as young children, the elderly and those with chronic conditions. That’s why Bonitas Medical Fund has created the Respiratory Illness Hub – a go-to resource for all South Africans, addressing everything related to your respiratory health, including flu.  From prevention and symptoms to treatment and support, you’ll find all the information you need to take control of your respiratory wellbeing. To find out more, visit www.bonitas.co.za/Respiratory-Hub Let’s face it, flu is extremely unpleasant. Symptoms develop anywhere from 1 to 4 days after infection and last up to a week. Then there is usually a sudden onset of fever, muscle pains, body aches, a dry cough, sore throat, runny nose, headache and feeling tired or unwell. In severe cases, flu can lead to serious complications requiring hospitalisation, with pneumonia being the most common. Annually in South Africa, around 40 000 people are hospitalised due to flu, and the virus is linked to approximately 11 500 deaths per year. ‘The flu viruses are typically in circulation just before the winter months, so the best time to get a flu shot is in early April,’ says Dr Themba Hadebe, Clinical and Managed Care Executive at Bonitas Medical Fund.  How is flu spread? The virus is spread from person to person, through inhaling of infected respiratory droplets from sneezing, coughing or talking. You can also be infected by touching objects or surfaces that the flu virus is on and then touching your mouth, eyes or nose. Will the flu vaccine prevent flu? Think of the flu shot as preventive care: While the vaccine won’t always prevent you or your family from getting the flu, it can prevent severe and secondary illnesses related to the flu. Why a flu shot every year? All viruses mutate – meaning the genetic material of the cell changes – but not at the same rate. Some mutate very quickly, including the flu virus. The formula for each year’s vaccine is tailored to the specific type of flu that is circulating. Currently, there are subtype A(H1N1) and A(H3N2) influenza viruses. ‘Which is why we recommend an annual flu vaccine’ says Dr Hadebe.  2025 flu symptoms: Will the flu shot give me flu? No! Flu vaccines are currently made either with flu vaccine viruses that have been ‘inactivated’ and are not infectious or with no flu vaccine viruses at all. Some side effects may occur like redness, tenderness and swelling where the vaccine was given but this is mild and will only last a few days. These are infinitely preferable to a bad case of flu.  Who should get a flu vaccine? Everyone should get a flu vaccine but particularly those at higher risk including:  Who should NOT have the flu vaccine?  What about children – when should I take my child to see a doctor for their symptoms?  Reach out to your paediatrician, doctor or clinic within 24 hours of your child displaying flu symptoms, if your child:  In general, it’s a good idea to be seen by a medical professional if your child has a fever that has lasted more than 3 days and/or appears dehydrated. Go to the emergency room immediately if your child: How do I keep my child healthy during flu season?  The first and best action you can take to keep you and your family safe and healthy during flu season is annual flu vaccines. Dr Hadebe recommends everyone has a flu shot*. He says children can be vaccinated from 6 months of age but recommends you speak to your healthcare worker about when to start vaccinating against flu.    How can I prevent spreading the flu?  There are several ways you can reduce the risk of spreading flu if you are ill: Dr Hadebe says, ‘Flu can lead to various complications, such as pneumonia, bronchitis, sinus infections, ear infections and worsening of chronic medical conditions like asthma or heart disease. Complications are more common in high-risk groups.’  ‘Flu viruses spread very quickly from person to person’, he says. ‘Even if the flu vaccine is not 100% effective, it will reduce your risk of getting flu, and if you do get it, it will be a great deal milder.’  Remember your GP should always be your first port of call *All Bonitas beneficiaries qualify for 1 flu vaccine per year. *Elderly members, aged 65 years and over, qualify for 1 pneumococcal vaccine every 5 years.

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Postpartum bleeding – what is normal?

Giving birth to your baby after 9 months can be a relieving, beautiful and exciting experience. Postpartum your body will still be going through adjustments for a while, and as you care for your new baby, you’ll need to remember to take care of yourself as well. Postpartum bleeding, also known as lochia, is normal after both vaginal and c-section births, however, it is best to know what is and isn’t common in post birth bleeding. Normal postpartum bleeding Lochia is similar to menstruation in the way in which it is made up of blood and tissue, it’s just heavier and longer lasting – it should stop between 4 and 6 weeks after giving birth. Initially, your bleeding will be heavy. This first phase of postpartum bleeding is known as lochia rubra and you’ll experience this in the first 3 to 4 days. Bleeding will be red to reddy brown and you may have small clots. In the next few days after birth your lochia will decrease in volume. Lochia serosa lasts 4 to 10 days and during this period your blood will darken in colour and become more watery. Blood clots should get smaller and disappear. Finally you’ll experience lochia alba, which usually lasts about another 1 to 2 weeks, but can be up to 28 days. Discharge will be yellowy white in colour, you may see pinkish or brown stains on some days. There should be no smell other than what you would experience during a normal period – a strong odor can be a sign of an infection. When to reach out to your doctor Even though lochia is normal, if you are bleeding heavily this can indicate that you have a postpartum haemorrhage. If your bleeding is heavy a week after birth, you experience fever or chills, a tender abdomen or foul-smelling discharge, you’ll need to seek medical assistance.

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Shining the spotlight on TB

Worldwide, TB has returned to being the world’s leading causes of death from a single infectious agent. This followed three years in which it was replaced by Covid-19. It is also the leading killer of people with HIV/AIDS and a major cause of deaths related to antimicrobial (in TB’s case antibiotic resistance.) Each year, we recognise World TB Day on March 24. This annual event commemorates the day, in 1882, when Dr. Robert Koch announced his discovery of Mycobacterium tuberculosis, the bacillus (bacteria) that causes tuberculosis (TB). What is TB?  It’s a disease that mainly affects the lungs but can also be found in any other body organ. It is caused by an organism (germ) called Mycobacterium tuberculosis which is found in the sputum coughed up by someone with TB of the lungs. It usually destroys the soft tissue of the lungs, resulting in difficulty breathing and blood can be coughed up in severe cases. If untreated, TB can cause death. World stats About a quarter of the global population is estimated to have been infected with TB, 5 -10% display symptoms and develop the disease.  Yes, it’s curable ‘It is important to remember that TB is curable, says Dr Themba Hadebe, Clinical and Managed Care Executive at Bonitas Medical Fund. ‘However, we all need to be more aware of how contagious it is, the symptoms, the importance of getting medical attention and sticking to the treatment programme.’    Where is the highest incidence of TB? TB is the leading cause of death, from a single infectious agent, with over 25% of these occurring in the African region. Multi-drug-resistant strains, which do not respond to first-line antibiotics, continue to emerge, putting at risk public health strategies which aim to reduce incidence and mortality. Tackling TB head on The South African National Strategic Plan (NSP) aims to control the spread of TB, with an ambitious goal of zero new TB infections and deaths by 2032. Clinical data from the World Health Organization (WHO) indicates that there are still too many people falling ill and dying. ‘TB also has a big impact on the economy, not only in terms of healthcare expenses but lost productivity due to absenteeism and the direct and indirect costs to business,’ says Dr Hadebe. ‘We know that not everyone has access to private medical care but public healthcare facilities offer free testing and treatment. The most effective testing method is a sputum sample or a chest x-ray.  How is TB contracted? The disease is passed on from one person to another as germs spread into the air via microscopic droplets if an infected person sneezes, coughs or releases saliva. The incubation period is 6 weeks. Stop it before it starts  TB preventive therapy (TPT) is a course of medication that reduces the risk of developing TB disease. It’s a critical public health measure in South Africa, where TB and HIV are prevalent.  How does TPT work?  TPT eliminates the TB bacteria before they can damage organs and cause illness but is only effective if given when there is no active TB disease.  Can you have TB and not be sick? Yes, TB can be ‘latent’ – it’s in your body but not active. This means you can’t spread it but, if your immune system becomes weak, (for example with HIV/AIDS), TB can become active.  What are the symptoms? It is important to note that TB is particularly difficult to diagnose in children but the symptoms can present as a cough for two weeks or more, loss of energy and appetite and quite often a mild fever.  Who is most at risk? People living with HIV/AIDS, living in the same house as someone who has had or has TB, anyone who has had active TB in the last two years, pregnant women, children under five, iabetics, people in informal settlements, undernourished people, alcoholics, smokers, mineworkers and prisoners  Treating TB Medication must be started as soon as possible and be taken regularly. It takes six months for TB to be cured completely but, within two weeks of starting treatment, you are no longer contagious. If treatment is missed, the risk of a drug-resistant strain of TB is possible, which is difficult to treat and requires a longer treatment period. Multidrug-resistant TB (MDR-TB) remains a public health crisis and a health security threat. Only about two in five people with drug resistant TB accessed treatment in 2023. What can you do? TB in the workplace If any employees or co-workers display TB symptoms, they should stay home and limit contact with others until the results from a TB test are known. Once a person has been on TB treatment for 2 weeks, they are no longer infectious and can continue to work. Dr Hadebe says, ‘If you are concerned about your health or have been exposed to TB, you must get tested urgently.’

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The First Signs of Labour

If you’re expecting your first baby you’ve probably read up a little (or a lot) on pregnancy and birth process. Labour is something you’ve probably wondered about and seeing as every pregnancy is different, many moms experience different labour signs. However, there are a few tell-tale signs to look out for that you are about to meet your new baby soon.  What to look (or feel) out for  You may be worried that you won’t distinguish normal late pregnancy signs from the fact that you’ve started labour. Luckily your due date should give you an indication of when you could expect your baby to arrive, but this won’t always be the case. Here are some indicators that your baby is on the way.  One of the more obvious signs of labour beginning is regular contractions. This will be different to the Braxton Hicks contractions you may have been experiencing leading up to this point. Labour contractions are longer, stronger and more frequent – when they come every 5 minutes you should call your doctor or midwife.  Another sign your baby is on her way is your cervix dilating or beginning to open. This can start happening in the days or weeks before you deliver. Your baby will also move down into your pelvis during this time – which is known as your baby dropping.  When your labour begins, the mucus plug which seals your cervix opening comes away. This jelly-like pink mucus is known as a show, and you may notice it when it passes out your vagina.  Lower back pain, diarrhoea and looser feeling joints are all other signs that your labour may be starting. Another sign is your water breaking, this can happen in a gush but a trickle is more likely, most moms-to-be go into labour within 24 hours of their water breaking.  Be sure to keep your birth partner in the loop about how you are feeling mentally and physically around the time of your birth. If you are at all worried about your baby or experience anything abnormal be sure to let your doctor know as soon as possible. 

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When it’s not flu’….  

While the ‘official’ flu season may still be a month or two away, reports indicate a rise in respiratory illnesses like the flu, Respiratory Syncytial Virus (RSV), and Human Metapneumovirus (HMPV), suggesting an early start to the respiratory virus season, with these viruses circulating earlier than usual.  Respiratory infections can pose serious health risks, especially for vulnerable groups such as young children, the elderly and those with chronic conditions. That’s why Bonitas Medical Fund has created the Respiratory Hub – a go-to resource for members and non-members -talking about all things related to your respiratory health. From prevention and symptoms to treatment and support, you’ll find all the information you need to take control of your respiratory wellbeing. www.bonitas.co.za/Respiratory-Hub. Respiratory illnesses that are NOT flu and for which there is no vaccine What are the most common? Dr Themba Hadebe, the Clinical and Managed Care Executive at Bonitas Medical Fund says, ‘both RSV and HMPV are being detected at increasing rates, potentially indicating a broader respiratory illness surge and are more common in young children and older adults.’ Are these respiratory diseases restricted to the winter months? Studies show that in temperate regions, HMPV mainly spreads in late winter and spring, at the same time as other common respiratory viruses such as seasonal flu and RSV. RSV is highly contagious and the season in South Africa usually runs from February to May. However, it continues to spread at lower levels and can make some people sick all year around. According to The World Health Organization (WHO), it spreads like other common cold viruses do, through infectious respiratory particles that circulate through the air. This means you can catch the virus when you are in contact with a sick person or sharing a closed space with them. You can also get infected by touching contaminated surfaces like doorknobs or handles and then touching your eyes, nose or mouth.  Why are these viruses a concern? Early increases in respiratory viruses can put added strain on healthcare systems, especially for vulnerable populations like young children and older adults.  Symptoms  Coughing, wheezing, runny nose, sore throat, fever, fatigue, muscle pain, loss of taste or smell and breathing difficulties. Who’s at risk? Children under 5, adults over 65 and people with weakened immune systems. While anyone can catch HMPV and RSV, infants, older adults and those with health conditions like immunosuppression, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) and asthma are at higher risk for severe illness. Extra care should be taken to protect at-risk groups and health care workers from any respiratory infections. How to prevent getting them  How are they treated? Is there medical prevention?  At the moment no. Two new RSV prevention strategies are being considered for licensing and use in South Africa, namely nirsevimab and a maternal RSV vaccine. Dr Hadebe says, it is the time of the year to take precautions against all respiratory diseases. ‘Not only do these respiratory diseases make you feel ill and put added strain on the healthcare system but they can compromise your long-term health. Prevention is always best, so we urge you to follow the guidelines to avoid contracting any of these viruses and also to have a flu vaccine. While the vaccine won’t always prevent you or your family from getting the flu, it can prevent severe and secondary illness related to the flu.’   For more health tips and resources on respiratory illnesses, visit the Respiratory Hub on the Bonitas website: www.bonitas.co.za/Respiratory-Hub Remember: Your GP or clinic is your first healthcare port of call.

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Physical Touch & Newborns- Why is this so Important

The birth of your baby is a beautiful and special moment in both of your lives. You may be wondering about your newborn’s senses, while they are born with all necessary senses, some are less precise than others and develop as your baby grows. Physical touch is an important aspect of your child’s growth, coming from your womb, where they are tightly cocooned in your womb. Skin to skin contact offers benefits to both you and your baby, and touch is one of the senses that can help comfort your baby, making them feel more secure and helping strengthen the bond between the two of you. Why is touch important? Touch enables your baby to learn more about the world, bond with their mother and learn communication skills, as touch and body language will be the first way that you can ‘speak’ to one another. Breastfeeding is an important part of this, as your baby then spends time in her mother’s arms. The benefits of touch goes beyond the physical. Contact between mom and baby has been shown to lower cortisol levels, which in turn benefits the functioning of the immune system.  Children that are deprived of touch can be more aggressive with other conduct disorder problems. What is swaddling? Coming from a tightly packed womb, you’ll find that your baby is comforted by touch and close cuddles. Swaddling your baby in a blanket is also another technique that you can use on young babies to help them feel more secure, as it stops them from upsetting themselves from their own startle reflex. It’s important that your newborn finds their new world a comfortable and soothing place. Swaddling is an old technique, and beyond helping your little one feel safe and secure, your baby is likely to sleep better and will be kept nice and cosy in their blanket. If you decide to swaddle your baby it’s best to do so from birth, as opposed to introducing it when they are older as this can increase the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. Using the proper techniques when swaddling is also important, as incorrect wrapping can lead to issues.

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Rush Extreme and Discovery Vitality: Active Family Fun with Health Benefits

Rush Extreme, South Africa’s leading indoor adventure park, has teamed up with Discovery Vitality to make family fun both active and affordable in Cape Town and Johannesburg. This exciting partnership now offers Discovery Vitality members the opportunity to earn vitality points at Rush, making it easier for families to enjoy thrilling activities that promote physical fitness. Whether it’s bouncing on trampolines, scaling climbing walls, or navigating ninja obstacles, every visit to Rush provides significant health benefits in a fun, social environment. One of the standout attractions at Rush is the trampoline activities, which is more than just fun – it’s a powerful workout. Trampoline activities are a fantastic way to enhance cardiovascular fitness, build endurance, and improve balance and coordination. Just a few minutes of jumping can engage multiple muscle groups, strengthening legs, core, and even upper body stability. Studies have shown that trampoline exercises can burn more calories than running, while being gentler on joints, making it ideal for kids and adults who need safe yet active play. Through Rush’s partnership with Discovery Vitality, members can enjoy an active family environment, encouraging families to incorporate more active play into their weekly routines. The Ninja Warrior Obstacle Course at Rush further enhances physical fitness by offering activities that require agility, strength, and mental focus. Inspired by the popular show, this obstacle course challenges kids to climb, swing, and balance through a range of obstacles, building flexibility and resilience along the way. It’s a perfect fit for Discovery Vitality members looking for fun ways to stay active while earning Vitality points (100 points every time you sign in for a session on the Vitality iPad!) for their participation, rewarding healthy choices with a host of Vitality incentives. In addition to trampolines and the Ninja Warrior course, Rush’s Dodgeball Arena provides a dynamic team environment, allowing kids to build coordination and teamwork skills. Playing dodgeball on trampolines takes the classic game to new heights – literally! Kids jump, dodge, and aim in a high-energy activity that promotes cardiovascular health while encouraging social interaction and friendly competition. For Discovery Vitality families, this arena provides a space for regular activities that are both fun and rewarding. With locations in Cape Town and Johannesburg, Rush provides Discovery Vitality families with a convenient and affordable way to stay active together. This partnership makes it easy for families to engage in regular physical activity in a safe, supervised environment, while earning Vitality points! The collaboration between Rush Extreme and Discovery Vitality embodies a shared commitment to healthy living, ensuring that families have access to fun, fitness, and wellness-focused entertainment in every visit. Book your visit to the indoor adventure park in Cape Town here and in Greenstone here.  For more information about Rush Extreme’s exciting activities, locations, and how you can earn Discovery Vitality points, visit their official website at www.rushsa.co.za.

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TEARS Foundation Launches Soothing the Nation campaign

In South Africa we have great laws addressing our gender-based violence (GBV) problem, but we fall very short on implementation and accountability. As a result, very few of these laws help with the aftermath of rapewhilethe body and mind try to process the devastation of sexual violence.   Our system is broken and subsequently there is very little trust in it and often people do not know where to turn to in order to get help. “To help victims get the support they need, we need to change the way we view and help survivors. They are not a statistic or a trend. They are broken people who, besides carrying the trauma of abuse, often also carry the burdens of not being believed, the stigma, the shame, the self-blame, and the fear of retaliation,” says Mara Glennie, founder and CEO of TEARS Foundation and a GBV survivor and advocate.  All these factors work together to silence the victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, rape, child abuse and all other forms of GBV, despite the countless calls for victims to speak up about their abuse, to break the silence, to take action. It is no surprise that these are sometimes not heeded when victims might not know who they can trust to hear them, believe them and help them without judgement.  TEARS Foundation, one of South Africa’s foremost anti-GBV organisations, now proudly launches the Soothing the Nation campaign — a deeply moving initiative designed to confront the country’s gender-based violence (GBV) crisis – by taking a step back and letting people know that there is in fact somewhere for them to turn… a place they can trust. The work done by TEARS Foundation by offering free, confidential help 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, acts as a soothing lullaby that can be heard across the nation by survivors of all types of abuse.  TEARS Foundation has become a national symbol of hope. The organisation is celebrated for its pioneering work in crisis intervention, survivor advocacy, counselling, and education, creating pathways to safety and recovery for countless individuals. Its robust network connects survivors to emergency shelters, medical care, child-friendly centres, and legal assistance. Their team provides hands-on support with police follow-ups, protection order applications, and strategies for safely exiting abusive environments. Leveraging innovative technology, TEARS Foundation connects survivors to critical resources through multiple platforms, ensuring help is always just a call or click away: By combining innovation, compassion, and tireless dedication, TEARS Foundation ensures that no survivor faces violence alone. The Soothing the Nationvideo was produced by creative communications agency DarkMatter, with assistance from sound engineer Kevin Leicher at Jazzworx and Johannesburg Queer Chorus on vocals. Watch the full version of the video here 

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Sun Safety for Babies: Protecting Delicate Skin in Summer

While some sunlight is important for bone and muscular development and the immune system as it helps the body create vitamin D, particularly in children, too much sunshine is dangerous and can cause sunburn. Research shows that just one blistering sunburn during childhood hugely increases your risk of developing skin cancer later on. So, sun safety for babies and children is vitally important! Especially in our harsh South African sun.  Since young skin is not as effective at protecting itself as adult skin, it must be especially protected from UV rays. Babies up to one year old should never be exposed to direct sunlight. Let older children get used to the sun gradually, and always use a sunscreen with a high SPF factor, as well as protective clothing and shade.  TIPS FOR SUN PROTECTION So, why is a baby’s skin so much more sensitive than an adults? BABY SKIN – A SENSITIVE CLOAK Babies are miraculous yet very vulnerable beings since, in contrast to adults, their skin lacks important protective functions.  The topmost layer of a baby’s skin is around 20% thinner than an adult’s. In the first few months of life, your baby’s skin lets more moisture pass through and dries out faster, making it prone to irritation and inflammation. The cells of baby skin are smaller and not as close together, which makes the skin more porous. Baby skin hardly produces any sebum (oily secretion) before puberty. Perspiration is not able to regulate a baby’s body temperature as effectively as it does in adult age. The acid mantle (fine slightly acidic film on the skin) only begins to develop after a baby has been born.  Sensitive baby skin requires particular care and protection in the first year of life. That’s why it is so important to use baby care products which are tailored to the special needs of baby skin. German family-owned skincare brand sanosan, newly launched in South Africa, uses only nature’s very best ingredients for the most delicate skin in the world to ensure clinically confirmed maximum tolerability. Their scientifically tested products contain no nasties, and more than 90% natural ingredients to keep your little one, and the environment, safe.  Sanosan Baby Sun Cream SPF 50+ is a top-tier sunscreen designed specifically for delicate baby skin including broad range of UVA+UVB protection SPF 50+. With its pleasant texture, this cream absorbs quickly for easy application. It does not leave a white cast or sticky residue, making it ideal for everyday use. This cream delivers 24 hours of nourishing care, making it suitable for babies, children, and adults alike. With its gentle formula, Sanosan Baby Sun Cream helps maintain skin hydration while protecting against sun damage, allowing for worry-free outdoor playtime. Plus, its microplastic-free, and safe for our oceans  – winwin!  More info on Sanosan Baby Sun Cream SPF 50+  High level of protection: High level of skin care: High level of safety: With respect for our oceans: Sanosan Baby Sun Cream SPF 50+ – RSP R307 Sanosan is available from selected Babies R Us Stores and Clicks Baby and Online stores, amazon.co.za, takealot.com, Makro Online  For more info visit https://sanosan.com  Follow: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SanosanSouthAfrica/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sanosan_safrica/  Sanosan is available from selected Babies R Us Stores and Clicks Baby and Online stores, amazon.co.za, takealot.com, Makro Online 

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Why should I breastfeed my baby, and what if this is not an option?

Breastfeeding is important to your baby’s health and is the safest and healthiest thing that you can feed your little one. It is recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) you should feed your baby exclusively with breastmilk for the first six months. Unfortunately, some moms can’t breastfeed due to medical or health reasons. Read on if you want to know the benefits of breastfeeding, or if you can’t breastfeed your baby, here are some healthy alternatives. What are the benefits of breastfeeding?  Breastfeeding is the perfect way to get all the nutrients needed to your baby, as well as being a special bonding experience between mom and child. Breast milk is optimally suited to babies providing all the right nutrients, vitamins and minerals, being easily digestible and helping protect your baby by providing important antibodies. Baby’s who are breastfed have less ear infections, issues with diarrhea and respiratory issues. Benefits of breastfeeding include lowering your baby’s chance of getting infections and breastmilk can also help lower instances of asthma and eczema, and is thought to lower the risk of diabetes as well. Not only is breastfeeding good for your baby, but it’s also good for you. It helps your bond with your baby as your body releases the hormone oxytocin, which helps your uterus reduce to its pre-pregnancy size as well as lowers stress levels. And it’s an added bonus is that breast milk is cost effective and easily available. The only thing lacking from breast milk is vitamin D, and you can supplement this to your little one from birth. What are alternatives if I can’t breastfeed? Sadly some moms aren’t able to breastfeed their babies due to not having enough breastmilk supply, being on medication that could damage their baby’s health and, infectious diseases such as HIV. Although it’s hard not to be able to breastfeed, remember this won’t stop you bonding with or providing nutrients for your baby. The best alternative to your own breast milk is donated breast milk. However, if you are struggling to find adequate supply you can make use of baby formulas. In South Africa, the South African Breastmilk Reserve and Milk Matters supports breastfeeding moms through the provision of donated milk.  SABR focuses on helping premature babies under the age of 14 days, and Milk Matters supports babies in neonatal intensive care units (NICUs) in the Western Cape.

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The Festive Favourite that avoids a diet disaster come the new year!

But instead of priming a diet disaster come the new year, you really can deck the halls, line your stomach and, above all, bulletproof your wellbeing over the festive season by adding loads of fresh mushrooms to your table – while not skimping on flavour or festive feels in any way! The key is embracing blendability – and a bit of balance and self-control at the dessert table too. But mushrooms have you sorted on the starters, mains, sides and snacks! Mushrooms are very low in calories, cholesterol and salt, while being titans of taste. And all you have to do is halve the meat in any recipe you are cooking and substitute with finely chopped mushrooms for all the flavour and meaty-mouthfeel, and a whole lot more good health.  Added fungi feasting points:  • Fresh mushrooms are amazingly budget-friendly when compared to meat.  • Mushrooms are readily available in every supermarket. • Mushrooms can easily be used to stretch a meal like potjie to feed a bigger crowd – just chuck a punnet or two into the pot! • Mushrooms are extremely versatile, and easily adaptable to most cooking methods and cuisines.  • Mushrooms are a marvellous meat substitute. Grill a few over charcoal with your usual braai marinade and you’ll be blown away! • Mushrooms have a unique nutrient profile, providing nutrients found in animal derived foods like meat, fish and chicken, and plant derived foods such as grains and vegetables. • Mushrooms are a mainstay of the Mediterranean diet, which is considered the healthiest lifestyle and eating plan in the world.  • Along with moderate exercise, studies show that eating mushrooms can improve your mood.  • Mushrooms are incredibly delicious! In Central and Eastern Europe, mushrooms are a big part of Christmas Eve celebrations, with mushroom soup always served in Germany and fungi-filled pierogi or uszka on every Polish table.  But what about at home here in South Africa? Well mushrooms make themselves welcome in every situation. If you’re braaiing, give Mixed Mushroom Braai https://rebrand.ly/n8fioz8 a try, with sides of Spicy Chicken Livers, Baby Buttons & Creamy Samp https://rebrand.ly/fep2yf3 or Cheesy Mushroom & Spinach Loaded Polenta https://rebrand.ly/ybu60ih, and make a giant bowl of Mushroom Chakalaka https://rebrand.ly/boehhep for your meats.  And don’t forget the other big flavours of South Africa. Maybe some Mushroom, Pea & Potato Samoosas with Mint & Yoghurt Dipping Sauce https://rebrand.ly/qyw59dx for that end-of-year party and a Mushroom & Mince Bobotie https://rebrand.ly/haxu7zv for the Christmas table.  Then there are refreshing cold lunch salads like Grilled Mushroom, Chicken & Papaya Salad https://rebrand.ly/5u3p77y, late night messy-hand treats like Portabello Shawarma https://rebrand.ly/1kzp479 and those little-bit-fancy kuir-snacks from Mushroom Hummus with Sesame Mushroom Topping https://rebrand.ly/w69b6tu to Mushroom Summer Rolls https://rebrand.ly/u4ge6hp.  Come Christmas Eve, Mushroom & Kingklip Ceviche https://rebrand.ly/2pqn6yq should hit the spot after a day of baking and getting ahead on dishes like Festive Mushroom Wellington & Cranberry Sauce https://rebrand.ly/vajgf83, which promises all the right kind of Big Day drama. So for your health, for your waistline and for your overall mood, this festive season, whenever your tummy rumbles, go to https://rebrand.ly/b3k3tok to fill your mouth with a mushroom! Mushroom & Walnut Tart Serves 8-10 Ingredients: Crust: Filling: To serve: Method: For the crust: For the filling: Image and Recipe Credit :  The South African Mushroom Farmers’ Association

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The Journey to Generation None: Building Safer Futures for South African Women and Children

At 1st for Women, we know that addressing gender-based violence (GBV) requires not only immediate action but also a long-term commitment to dismantling the cultural mindsets that allow such violence to persist. Our five-year strategy to tackle GBV in Diepsloot exemplifies our dedication to creating an environment where future generations can live free from fear, writes Seugnette van Wyngaard, Head of 1st for Women Insurance. This commitment is why we’re proud to have launched our Generation None campaign for this year’s 16 Days of Activism, envisioning a world where the next generation will be free from the shadow of violence that’s affected too many for too long. Our approach in Diepsloot is grounded in a partnership network designed to address GBV from multiple angles. Through programmes implemented by Action Breaks Silence and REPSSI, we’re reaching young people in schools—starting as early as grade two—to help shift the cultural attitudes that underpin GBV. By educating students on concepts like self-esteem, empathy, and healthy boundaries, these school-based programs aim to address the root causes of gender-based violence by challenging ideas around gender roles, masculinity, and patriarchy. Think of it as a proactive, preventive approach. Because, as research shows, if we want to foster new mindsets and behaviours, we need to reach people when they’re young. This is why our focus is on equipping today’s youth with values that encourage respect and equality—values that will become deeply ingrained as they grow into adulthood. We’re seeing firsthand how this approach impacts communities. By emphasising respect and understanding in schools, we’re already witnessing reductions in behaviours like bullying. This progress reflects that if we can help young people understand the importance of treating others with dignity and empathy, we can set the groundwork to reduce not just bullying but future incidents of gender-based violence. However, we also recognise that prevention alone is not enough. GBV survivors in Diepsloot need immediate support and access to justice, which is why our network also includes essential resources for those affected today. Tears Foundation, for example, provides a 24-hour support system that survivors can contact anytime for immediate assistance, assisting over 133,000 users in the last year alone. Lawyers Against Abuse is another critical partner in our mission, providing legal assistance and counselling to over 890 GBV survivors since the programme began. In the past year alone, LvA has supported survivors in 84 criminal cases, including 53 cases of sexual violence, 27 cases of assault, and three cases of child abuse. Beyond legal help, LvA has also reached over 2,000 young people through GBV awareness campaigns, promoting a community-wide culture of support and vigilance. One of the most significant additions to our work in Diepsloot is the Post-Violence Clinical Care Centre (PVCC), which opened in May 2024. To date, 132 survivors have received medical and counselling assistance in this dignified, safe space designed specifically for survivors of GBV. Unlike conventional police facilities, the PVCC is equipped with trained counsellors and medical staff who can provide immediate trauma support, enabling survivors to give clear statements and begin their journey toward justice. This facility is a critical step in helping to overcome barriers to reporting, which is often hampered by a lack of appropriate infrastructure and support in public institutions. By ensuring that survivors feel protected, respected, and cared for from the moment they report an incident, the PVCC is a model of how holistic support should look. The infrastructure and partnerships we’ve established in Diepsloot reflect a carefully considered strategy that prioritises both prevention and response. Our hope is to bring this model to other areas in South Africa. As we collect data and measure the impact of this program, we’ll be better equipped to replicate it in other communities that need it most.  Diepsloot is a challenging environment, but that’s precisely why we chose it. If this program can make an impact here, we believe it can make an impact anywhere. To date, our Foundation has supported nearly 67,000 people in Diepsloot through our flagship schools and community programs. We understand the daunting statistics around GBV in South Africa. Fewer than 7% of incidents are reported to the authorities—a figure that underscores the urgent need for facilities like the PVCC, where survivors can feel respected, protected, and empowered to speak out. Our commitment remains to make these essential resources as accessible as possible. By supporting both present and future generations, we’re striving toward a South Africa where the next generation will be able to live without the threat of GBV. The Generation None campaign captures this vision perfectly. Through focused investment, compassionate care, and a long-term strategy, we are hopeful that the landscape of GBV prevention and support will change for the better. At 1st for Women, we believe that every woman deserves a life free from violence. Our work in Diepsloot is one step forward in that journey, and we remain steadfast in our mission to ensure this becomes a reality across South Africa.

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Chase the happiness highway this festive season

We all need to eat, to sustain life and for the pure enjoyment of it. A delicious meal can reset your thinking as well as give you energy. And mushrooms have a lot to offer when it comes to good food, good mood, good life.  Mom was right when she told you to eat your greens because they’re good for you. And while mushrooms are technically fungi, rather than vegetables, they hold the same eating and nutrition pluses as plants.  A study by the University of Kent and the University of Reading found that uplifting your health by eating good-for-you mushrooms, fresh vegetables and fruit, and taking part in regular exercise, can indeed make you a happier and healthier person. Now we all know what foods we should eat for optimal health and mood, but we simply don’t do it. Mushrooms offer an amazing quick-fix to this conundrum, because they’re not only easily accessible and budget-friendly, they are also delicious and amazingly versatile, adapting to all sorts of dishes and cooking styles! But most importantly, mushrooms are simple to ADD to your meals, rather than a hard-to-stomach subtraction. Feel like pizza? Choose sliced mushrooms as one of your toppings. A braai with friends? Marinate and chargrill big brown mushrooms in place of some of the meat you’d ordinarily serve. Making a stir-fry, pasta dish or stew? Throw in some fresh mushrooms. It’s no extra effort but always a positive mental and lifestyle choice.  Often when we want to feel better, we reach for the sweets and cakes, but nutrient dense foods like mushrooms will actually do more for your long-term mindset. Some of the reasons mushrooms are a mental health marvel, include:  Vitamin D Fresh mushrooms were lauded in a recent CNET article titled, 8 Foods That’ll Make You Happy, According to Science. The reason? Vitamin D. “Mushrooms are packed with vitamin D, which has been linked to antidepressant qualities and may boost your mood,” states the article. “If you’re vegan or vegetarian, you’re in luck, since mushrooms are the only non-animal-derived food source with a substantial amount of vitamin D that’s bioavailable (the body can easily absorb it). To get the most vitamin D benefit from mushrooms, expose them to sunlight for a few hours before cooking.” Vitamin B6 A study published in 2022 in The National Library of Medicine “concluded that vitamin B6 actively helps in relieving symptoms that accompany depression and anxiety, making it an important supplement to be added to our daily lives.” And you guessed it, fresh mushrooms are a good source of B6.  Selenium  Mushrooms deliver a significant amount of the antioxidant selenium, which has long been associated with brain health, with studies mentioning benefits that range from lowering inflammation in brain cells to dementia support. According to WebMD, “research shows selenium’s antioxidant properties fight cell damage that may worsen brain and nervous system diseases like Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s, and multiple sclerosis.”  Ergothioneine A 2021 study at Penn State College of Medicine that looked at mushroom consumption and individuals’ mental health, and considered the information from more than 24 000 US adults between 2005 and 2016, collected from that country’s National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey, reported a connection between individuals eating moderate-to-high levels of mushrooms and depression. “Higher mushroom intake gave participants lower odds of experiencing depression or depression symptoms, compared to those who ate a low amount of or no mushrooms,” noted the authors. The lead researcher, Djibril Ba, then went on to says that “mushrooms are the highest dietary source of ergothioneine, an amino acid that works as an anti-inflammatory agent. Inflammation has been linked to depression, anxiety and other mood disorders, so this inflammation-fighting nutrient may help combat these common mental health woes.” Clearly fungi brings the chill, feeds the mind and boosts your happy days!   And while happiness is not one of those things we can really strive for directly, it’s certainly a byproduct of good living, including eating well – and that means great flavour, fullness and overall satisfaction too.  Chase the happiness highway with tasty mushroom meals from https://bit.ly/31Tza3V. Then add some exercise and time with good friends to the mix, serving up happy-to-share classics like Mushroom Loaded Nachos with Homemade Queso https://rebrand.ly/x6hbo4g to get those good vibes going.  ______________________________________________________________ Mushroom Loaded Nachos with Homemade Queso (cheese sauce) Serves 8 INGREDIENTS For the cheesy sauce / queso: 2 Tbsp butter1 small onion, finely diced3 garlic cloves, grated 2 tsp ground cumin½ tsp cayenne pepper2 cups full cream milk1 Tbsp cornstarch300g cheddar cheese, finely grated Salt, to taste  For the nachos: 500g corn tortilla chips2 chicken breasts, cooked and shredded1 onion, finely diced2 garlic cloves, grated 1 Tbsp Mexican spice mix / Taco seasoning 500g mixed mushrooms, sliced (baby button, portabellini & white button) 1 x 400g tin crushed italian tomatoes 1 x 400g tin black beans, drained & rinsed Olive oilSalt and pepper, to taste  Optional nacho sides for serving:Guacamole, sour cream, tomato & onion salsa, fresh coriander, grilled corn METHOD For the cheesy sauce / queso: Heat butter in a medium saucepan over medium heat. Add onion and garlic. Cook, stirring occasionally, until onions are tender but do not brown. Add cumin and cayenne pepper and cook until fragrant.  Stir in all but ¼ cup of the milk and bring to a bare simmer. With the remaining ¼ cup of milk whisk in the cornstarch until smooth.  Add cornstarch slurry to the pot and whisk it through. Whilst simmering, continue to whisk and cook the cornstarch into the mixture for 2 minutes until thickened and mixture coats the back of a spoon.  Turn off the heat and switch to a spatula. Adding a handful at a time, sprinkle in the cheddar and stir until it is fully dissolved. Do not add too much at a time. If you need to increase the heat, switch the burner on to the lowest setting to help the melting along. Continue adding the cheese until it has all melted.  Cover the queso with a lid while preparing the rest of the

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1st for Women Insurance Unveils Generation None Campaign for 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence

1st for Women Insurance today launches its Generation None campaign, an initiative aimed at eradicating gender-based violence (GBV) to create a safer, more just future for South African women and girls. Taking place throughout the annual 16 Days of Activism, the campaign is premised on the fact that 28,000 girls will be born in South Africa during this period, and asks us to consider ‘How many of them will experience GBV?’ ultimately landing the point that: ‘it’s up to us to ensure it’s none.’ Despite the troubling statistic that one in three South African women will endure gender-based violence in her lifetime, Generation None envisions a future where none of these girls will grow up to be part of that statistic. This future—Generation None—represents 1st for Women’s commitment to a society in which no woman experiences violence simply for being a woman. The campaign calls for all individuals, communities, and corporations to take a stand to make this vision a reality. “For over 15 years, 1st for Women has been dedicated to fighting GBV and supporting victims through various initiatives and programs. We have raised more than R100 million to support GBV victims and prevention projects, but we know our work is far from over,” said Seugnette van Wyngaard, Head of 1st for Women Insurance. “Generation None is our commitment to amplifying the voices of those fighting for change and creating a safer society for future generations. Together, we can turn ‘1 in 3’ into ‘none.’” At the heart of Generation None is a vision of a future free from GBV. This mission emphasizes that ending GBV requires a united effort and a firm commitment to ensure: Introducing the Generation None Time Capsule To mark the Generation None commitment, 1st For Women will be unveiling a symbolic Time Capsule project that allows South Africans to make a tangible commitment today for a future free of GBV. The Time Capsule invites participants to: Each message, pledge, and post becomes part of a larger movement, a reminder to future generations that South Africa took a stand against GBV, actively working toward a world in which girls are free from harm and fear. “This campaign is more than just a vision — it’s our call to action,” added van Wyngaard. “Generation None represents the world we all deserve—one free from violence against women. Together, we can create this future.” The Generation None campaign ultimately serves as a promise, a responsibility, and an invitation to every South African to take action. Join us in shaping a violence-free world for these 28,000 baby girls, and for every girl yet to be born.

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What to do if you get sunburnt this summer

When it comes to sunburn, prevention is better than cure. The sun’s rays are incredibly dangerous, and for those of us living on the African continent, summer can be brutal on our skin. Not only are we at risk of getting a painful sunburn, but we are also at risk of developing skin cancer. Each of us should do everything we can to prevent getting sunburnt, particularly during summer, when we are most at risk. This includes applying SPF daily, wearing protective clothing, and avoiding the sun during peak hours. However, we are only human, and even the most diligent of us slip up sometimes. Developing a sunburn should not be a part of your annual summer holiday, but if you do get one, it’s essential to know how to ensure your skin heals quickly.  Why does our skin get sunburnt? When our skin is exposed to too much UV (ultraviolet) light, it results in sunburn. The primary source of UV light is the sun, however, artificial sources such as tanning beds may also burn the skin. The sun’s UVA rays can penetrate the deeper layers of the skin, leading to premature ageing and DNA damage. On the other hand, UVB rays penetrate the skin more superficially and are responsible for sunburn.  When exposed to the sun, we are at risk of developing sunburn, long-term skin damage, and skin cancer. Everyone can get sunburnt, regardless of age, gender, or ethnicity, so it’s essential to take steps to protect yourself when you go outdoors.  What are some of the symptoms of sunburn? The most apparent symptom of sunburn is redness, particularly in fair skin tones. The skin may feel hot to the touch, painful, itchy, or tender, and in severe cases, there may be swelling or blistering.  When does a sunburn require medical attention? Do not underestimate the power of the sun. A bad sunburn can be life-threatening if not treated. You should seek immediate medical attention if you experience severe symptoms such as chills or fever, headaches, blistering, nausea, muscle cramps or dizziness.  How can you treat a sunburn at home? In most cases, a sunburn can be treated at home, but the discomfort will take some time to be alleviated. Here’s what to do:  Stay out of the sun—This may seem obvious, but the worst thing you can do is expose your sunburnt skin to further damage. Stay indoors while your skin heals, or wear protective clothing if you need to go outside. Drink lots of water – Sunburnt skin draws fluid to the skin’s surface, so your body will need more water than usual to avoid dehydration.  Take cool showers or baths – The cold water will help soothe your skin. Don’t rub your skin when you get out; pat it dry gently to avoid further pain and irritation. Do not apply ice as it may worsen the damage. Take painkillers if necessary. Ibuprofen or aspirin can be taken to relieve pain and swelling. Wear loose clothing – Tight-fitting clothing irritates burnt skin and may cause unnecessary friction. Avoid perfumed products – Fragrances, scented soaps, or lotions should not be applied to sunburnt skin as they may cause irritation. Apply a cooling gel with healing properties – Lamelle Research Laboratories recently launched Helase Rescue Repair Gel, an after-sun skin saviour that can be used by the whole family.  Helase Rescue Repair Gel is intended to nourish, repair, and soothe sun-exposed skin. The product’s potent anti-inflammatory, antioxidant, and cooling agents work rapidly to reduce the extent of the injury. It reduces and soothes redness, heat, and irritation and turns off damaging free radicals if you’ve been overexposed to the sun. Not only does it offer immediate relief from discomfort, but it also limits the damage done by sun exposure.  Directions for use: Apply the required amount of product to the affected area two to three times a day until the redness has subsided. In severe cases of sun exposure, there may be a slight stinging sensation that quickly subsides. Once the Rescue Repair Gel has fully absorbed, additional moisturisers should be added to the affected area over it. Lamelle Serra Soothing Cream is an ideal option for extremely dry, inflamed, and sensitive skin. Be patient – Sunburn is uncomfortable and takes time to heal. Allow your body to heal naturally – do not pick at your skin or blisters, and once it begins to peel, do not rub, tug at or pull the skin.  Protecting your skin from the sun should be a priority all year round, but it becomes increasingly important during summer when the sun’s UV rays are at their most dangerous. Be vigilant regarding sun protection, especially with young children whose skin is highly vulnerable. 

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Here’s that show-stopping dish you want for your festive table!

It’s almost that time of year again! We’re planning our end-of-year holidays and, equally important, the holiday menu!  You’ll be pleased to know that mushrooms are especially great for this time of year.  They’re robust and substantial enough to keep you going, delicious enough to have more and light enough not to ruin the next feast scheduled. PLUS our Twice Baked Mushroom Souffle is a winner – not only because it is a showstopper but because it is really easy to make….. Do we need to say more? The recipe is below the image and if you need more mushroom inspiration for the holidays, our website has it all. Check out www.mushroominfo.co.za Enjoy the cooking and the togetherness this Festive Season! Twice Baked Mushroom Soufflé Image and Recipe Credit the South African Mushroom Farmers’ Association Serves 6 Ingredients: Method: Bake for 15 – 20 minutes until puffed up once again and the cream has thickened and caramelised. Serve straight away with a lightly dressed green salad on the side. 

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Cwebeni gets a lifeline of water

In many rural villages across South Africa, access to clean, running water is not a convenience – it’s a lifeline.  For the villagers of Cwebeni in rural Port St Johns in the Eastern Cape, fetching water for drinking, cooking and bathing is a daily struggle.  It requires long, exhausting and treacherous walks along a narrow path to a spring, while balancing buckets. Today (November 21) there is cause for celebration as the lives of this local community are being transformed, thanks to the provision and activation of a borehole and access to running water. The need The village of Cwebeni of around 400 households and 3 000 residents, face many challenges. There are few employment opportunities and little access to basic services – such as clean water, sanitation and road infrastructure. They have not had water in the communal taps for the last eight years. This means locals, including the elderly, walk up to 5km every day to access water from a water hole they share with the livestock.  ‘The entire community has suffered because we don’t have easy access to water,’ says Zuzukeli Duna, Principal of Cwebeni Junior Secondary School.  ‘Without water, daily tasks like cooking, bathing and growing food in our gardens are very difficult. A borehole would make a significant difference to us. It will greatly improve life for thousands of people in our community as well as the 361 learners at our school.’ ‘For many of us, water is readily available, so we don’t stop to think what life would be without it,’ says Dr Imtiaz Sooliman of Gift of the Givers.  ‘But access to water is a human right and, without it, communities face huge challenges including the threat of diseases, poor hygiene and malnutrition. Clean water and sanitation go hand in hand with dignity.’ Which is why when Gift of the Givers visited Cwebeni on a hunger alleviation intervention and were alerted to this crisis, they stepped in and approached Mr Duna for permission to drill on the school grounds to look for a good source of water. ‘We always attempt to place boreholes at institutions, such as schools, to secure the infrastructure,’ explains Dr Sooliman.  ‘This provides a solution for both the school and community as we extend the water outlets to outside of the school property, so that the community can benefit too.’ The intervention Gift of the Givers began exploring the possibility of a borehole and approached Bonitas Medical Scheme for funding, as part of the Scheme’s ongoing commitment to community upliftment. Feasibility studies were conducted in March, drilling began in April when water was found, yielding 960 litres per hour. The borehole, at a depth of 200 metres, was completed in July and is solar powered. The pump and control box are run off 4 x 430-watt solar panels and the system has a 1.1 kw solar motor and a Dab 24-1/37 pump. The borehole has been lined with a PVC casing to lessen the risk of collapse and 2 x 5 000 litre storage tanks are on site, as well as two taps – one inside the school grounds and the other outside for community access. Due to the water testing results showing elevated levels of coliform bacteria and to provide  safer and better-quality water, 4 x UV lights have been installed to kill the bacteria. However, it is recommended that water be boiled for drinking. The perfect partnership The partnership between Gift of the Givers and Bonitas began in 2018, the key objective: To provide relief to the most vulnerable and marginalised communities, specifically in the field of healthcare interventions.   Lee Callakoppen, Principal Officer of Bonitas says, ‘It’s wonderful to be able to make a difference in the lives of the villagers of Cwebeni. This precious resource is essential to every aspect of life. Water provides the chance for a brighter, healthier future and no one should be denied this fundamental right. ‘This project – and others – rolled out with Gift of the Givers, reinforces our commitment to being the medical aid for South Africa.   It’s the perfect partnership, as we have the same passion and drive to assist where it is needed most. We have over 65 000 members based in the Eastern Cape and so are pleased to support this Province, in a small but meaningful way and help change lives.’ Impacting lives ‘We are so grateful to Gift of the Givers and Bonitas for undertaking this project,’ says Duna.  ‘Life has been tough, especially during the winter but we’re so happy that we now have a borehole and access to running water within the village. It is going to make the lives of our community so much easier’.   Dr Sooliman says, ‘The simple act of turning on a tap and seeing water flowing, inspires hope and possibility for a more prosperous life.’ Future investment Bonitas has committed to continuing to work with Gift of the Givers on projects that help impact the lives of vulnerable and marginalised communities, with a bias towards health interventions and access to clean water. 

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Building Healthy Sleep Habits for Kids of All Ages

Quality sleep is essential for children’s growth, development, and emotional well-being. However, getting kids to establish healthy sleep routines can sometimes be challenging, especially with varying needs at different ages. This guide provides practical tips to create age-appropriate sleep habits that help children thrive. Why Sleep is Important for Children Sleep Recommendations by Age The amount of sleep required varies by age: Healthy Sleep Tips for All Ages 1. Create a Consistent Sleep Routine 2. Foster a Comfortable Sleep Environment 3. Age-Specific Strategies 4. Monitor Nutrition and Activity How Parents Can Support Better Sleep When to Seek Help If your child experiences frequent sleep disruptions, insomnia, or signs of sleep disorders (like snoring or night terrors), consider consulting a paediatrician or sleep specialist. Conclusion Healthy sleep habits are essential for children’s physical, emotional, and cognitive well-being. By implementing consistent routines and age-appropriate strategies, parents can support their children’s sleep and overall development. Prioritising good sleep practices now will establish lifelong habits that benefit kids well into adulthood.

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Coping with Parental Burnout: Self-Care Tips for Busy Moms and Dads

Parenting is one of the most rewarding experiences in life, but it can also be incredibly demanding. With the pressures of work, household responsibilities, and the never-ending needs of children, many parents find themselves feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. This phenomenon, known as parental burnout, can lead to feelings of frustration, fatigue, and even resentment. However, with the right strategies, parents can manage burnout and prioritise their well-being. Here are some self-care tips for busy moms and dads to help navigate the challenges of parenting. 1. Recognise the Signs of Burnout The first step in combating parental burnout is recognising the signs. Common indicators include chronic fatigue, irritability, feelings of inadequacy, and a lack of enthusiasm for activities you once enjoyed. If you find yourself experiencing these symptoms, it’s essential to acknowledge them and take proactive steps to address your needs. 2. Prioritise Self-Care Self-care is not selfish; it’s essential. Here are some self-care practices that can make a difference: 3. Set Boundaries Learning to say “no” is crucial for maintaining balance. It’s okay to decline invitations or limit commitments that add unnecessary stress to your life. Setting boundaries around work and personal time can help you manage your responsibilities more effectively. 4. Create a Support Network Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Surround yourself with a supportive network of family, friends, or parenting groups. Sharing your feelings and experiences with others can provide relief and help you feel less isolated. Consider setting up a regular coffee date or virtual hangout with fellow parents to discuss challenges and share advice. 5. Schedule Quality Family Time While it’s important to take time for yourself, connecting with your children can also be a great stress reliever. Plan activities that everyone enjoys, whether it’s a family movie night, game day, or an outdoor adventure. Quality time together can strengthen bonds and create lasting memories, reminding you of the joys of parenting. 6. Seek Professional Help If feelings of burnout persist and interfere with your daily life, consider speaking with a therapist or counsellor. Professional support can provide valuable coping strategies and a safe space to express your feelings. 7. Establish Routines Creating a daily routine can bring structure to your day and make managing responsibilities feel less overwhelming. Involve your children in setting up a family schedule that includes chores, homework, and downtime. This not only lightens your load but also teaches your kids valuable skills. 8. Make Time for Hobbies Don’t forget to nurture your interests outside of parenting. Whether it’s reading, painting, gardening, or any other hobby, taking time for yourself can recharge your energy and creativity. 9. Limit Screen Time While technology can be a helpful tool, excessive screen time can contribute to feelings of burnout. Set aside specific times for social media and entertainment, allowing more room for real-life connections and activities. 10. Practice Gratitude Take a moment each day to reflect on what you’re grateful for. Keeping a gratitude journal or sharing positive experiences with your partner or family can shift your focus from stress to appreciation, fostering a more positive outlook. Conclusion Parenting can be a tough job, and feeling burnt out is not uncommon. By implementing these self-care strategies, busy moms and dads can reclaim their energy, reduce stress, and foster a more positive parenting experience. Remember, taking care of yourself is not just beneficial for you—it also sets a healthy example for your children. Embrace the journey of parenthood with the understanding that prioritising your well-being is key to being the best parent you can be.

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School and work lunchbox ideas from Krazy Kiwi Kookbox!

School and work lunchbox ideas from Krazy Kiwi Kookbox! 1. Quinoa and Veggie Power Bowls Ingredients: Instructions: 2. Chicken and Avocado Wraps Ingredients: Instructions: 3. Greek Yogurt Parfait Ingredients: Instructions: 4. Veggie and Hummus Pita Pockets Ingredients: Instructions: 5. Brown Rice Sushi Bowls Ingredients: Instructions: 6. Chickpea Salad Ingredients: Instructions:

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Time to screen men too, for osteoporosis?

Did you know that 1 in 5 men is at risk of a fracture from osteoporosis in South Africa (vs 1 in 3 women)? This alarming statistic – from the National Osteoporosis Foundation (NOFSA) -made dietitian, Yolandé Venter, choose to do her masters’  thesis* on diet and lifestyle risks in men with low bone density. Together with Dr Jaco du Plessis, a radiologist at SCP Radiology, they discuss osteoporosis in men, imaging to determine bone mineral density and the treatment for it.   Osteoporosis usually progresses without symptoms and sometimes your bones are so fragile that a simple sneeze or small stumble results in a fracture, commonly in hips, spine and wrists.  Often unjustly called an ‘old women’s disease’, it actually affects men in a surprisingly large way. Venter says, ‘even though fewer men seem to be at risk of developing osteoporosis, it is still a problematic percentage.’ With 15 years’ experience as a clinical dietitian, she says a healthy body weight plays a pivotal role in the prevention of osteoporosis. ‘If you are underweight, it increases the risk of osteoporosis and if you are overweight, your level of vitamin D is reduced, which can cause or worsen osteoporosis’. What is osteoporosis?  A healthy bone viewed under a microscope, looks like honeycomb. Osteoporosis, put simply, is when the ‘holes and spaces’ in the honeycomb increase in size.  Your bone mineral density (BMD) can be determined by radiologists through a diagnostic radiology exam used to measure bone mineral content and mass. It is usually performed with an X-ray, called a DEXA scan – commonly found in clinics and hospitals – or with a computed tomography (CT) scan of the bones.   A computer tomography (CT) scan produces a 3D image, as opposed to the normal 2D image of a DEXA. The CT scan is more precise and gives detailed information about bone quality and microarchitecture, diagnoses osteoporosis and other conditions. However, the DEXA uses a low radiation exposure making it safe for routine screening and follow-up. ‘The amount of radiation is minimal,’ says Dr du Plessis, ‘it’s equivalent to 1 or 2 days of background radiation at sea level.’  Osteopenia vs Osteoporosis  Osteopenia and Osteoporosis are both conditions measured on the scan and characterised by decreased bone density that is less than usual for your age. Osteoporosis is far more severe in terms of implications for bone health. Measuring bone density ‘We measure your BMD by comparing it to that of a healthy, young adult. The result will tell us how much lower (or higher) your bone mass score,’ explains Dr du Plessis. ‘Software is also used to calculate a predicted 10-year fracture risk for a major osteoporotic fracture and a hip fracture. The result is a T-score. The aim is to prevent fractures later in life by maintaining healthy bone mineral density. Fractures in the elderly population are a significant cause of morbidity and mortality.’ Dr du Plessis says, ‘Understanding and managing both conditions is crucial for maintaining bone health and preventing fractures in both men and women. SCP Radiology reports a 317% increase in referrals for men over the last five years for a CT scan.  That may be indicative of a greater awareness of the dangers of osteoporosis in men.’   What causes low bone density? Risk factors for osteoporosis include those you can’t change – such as age, genetics, ethnicity, medical conditions associated with bone loss  and those you can: Tobacco use, alcohol abuse, high caffeine intake, sedentary lifestyle, poor dietary habits, low calcium and vitamin D intake, low body weight, low muscle mass. Men who are on medical treatment for breast or prostate cancer are also at an increased risk of osteoporosis and should discuss regular bone health screening with their medical practitioner.  Male ‘menopause’  Men develop the male form of menopause, called andropause, as they age.  During andropause, men lose bone density in the spine at a rate four times greater than in the rest of the body. Andropause also lowers testosterone levels, which affects bone health and increases the risk of bone fractures. Stress Said to be the root of most diseases or medical conditions, osteoporosis is no different. Stress can play a significant role in bone loss as an excess of the stress hormone cortisol depletes vitamin D and calcium in the body. Venter says, ‘literature clearly demonstrates that prevention and treatment of osteoporosis significantly reduces fracture risk.  An observational study by Kern et al (2005) showed that hip DEXA screening was associated with a 36% lower hip fracture incidence during six years of follow-up, compared with standard medical care.’  Mortality rate after hip fracture The one-year mortality rate after hip fracture is actually high. Research shows that more men than women die after an osteoporotic fracture. Looking at the statistics, it is clear that osteoporosis represents a major public health burden, yet it does not seem that wider screening efforts are being implemented.’ Treating low bone mineral density This can be done through medication such as bisphosphonates, hormone-related therapy and other bone-building medications or through lifestyle changes. This includes an adequate intake of calcium and vitamin D, regular weight-bearing exercise, quitting smoking and limiting alcohol. Regular screenings and proactive lifestyle changes can significantly mitigate the risks associated with these conditions. ‘There is no need to be harbouring this silent disease,’ says Dr du Plessis, ‘when radiography for screening can put you on a path to wellness.’   *Thesis title: The level of knowledge, attitudes and behaviours regarding diet and lifestyle related risk factors in men who have been diagnosed with osteopenia and osteoporosis.

Blushproof®

Blushproof® Q & A

As a local manufacturer of period panties, we thought we’d answer some common questions about our business just to explain who we are and what we do. Q: How long has Blushproof® been in operation?  Blushproof® started as an idea in September 2020, with our first sales being in August 2021. I have a tween daughter at junior school and so was thinking about her, and her friends’ introduction to puberty and my own experiences. I had also seen some of the alternative menstrual products that were being offered overseas. This coincided with an increased awareness of environmental issues after learning that each person uses approximately 14,000 pads and tampons during their menstrual years, which all end up in landfills and water systems. Q: Who founded Blushproof®? I, Thandi Hartmann, founded the company. I’m married with two children, living in Johannesburg. I obtained a B.Comm in the 1990s and later did a MBA to support me working in a number of corporates in Johannesburg and London. Shortly after having children, I took the decision to step back from my career to focus on raising my family. In 2020 (that COVID time where we all had lots of time on our hands!) I came across period panties and was amazed that such a wonderful alternative existed. I knew this was something I wanted to bring to the girls and women of South Africa.  Q: How has Blushproof® expanded over the years? In 2020 I explored the topic of the menstrual product options for young girls and women and thought about what matters to them, as well as the issues that are relevant in South Africa at this time. I started thinking that period panties could be an effective solution – easy to use whilst having a lower impact on the environment. I also wanted to see if I could help (in some small way) to create jobs in our country. Finally, I believed that period panties could play a role in fighting “period poverty” by providing cost effective solutions to girls and women with limited means and limited access to other sanitary products. So the challenge started… Whilst I have a strong IT systems background and passion for the product, I had no experience in setting up a clothing manufacturing business. My team and I have learnt as we go and have had to “course correct” a few times along the way. It’s been an exciting journey so far, made possible by the support of friends and family and enabled by the tech world we live in. This has meant that it has been possible to set up Blushproof® as an E-commerce business that sells and delivers directly to consumers nationwide.  Q: What is Blushproof’s® approach to creating the best product in the community? I decided that I wanted my business to try its hand at manufacturing locally, so that I could control the product quality and achieve the aim of providing local employment. It’s been exciting for me to design the product range, import the right materials in the right quantities and then produce the Blushproof® period panties that I believe in. Plus, making locally has ensured that our sizing fits our Rainbow Nation, rather than trying to squash uncomfortably into Chinese imports. The fact that we offer exchanges and give outstanding customer service certainly sets us apart from the large retail chains. Q: What new products can customers expect from Blushproof®? This is a tough one. If it were up to me, I’d be creating new products every month but this isn’t the best way to run a business. Our customers have their absolute favourites so I’ve learnt to focus on making what the customers actually want. We’ll certainly look at designing and making gym shorts, pyjama shorts and expand our swim range over time but right now, we’re focusing on what we do best. Q: How does ordering from Blushproof® work? Since our business is primarily online, customers simply go onto our website, choose the products they want, add them to cart and pay. They can choose between collecting from our Joburg workshop or having us ship their blushproofs nationwide. We might look at getting into shops over time but again, we’re focused on our core business for now.  Q: Will/does Blushproof® offer any special programs for its customers? When customers sign up on our website for our newsletters, they always get the inside scoop on what’s new and promotional offers from discounts to free goodies to prizes. We love the support we get from our followers and like to reward them when we can. Q: Do you plan on opening any Blushproof® in person stores, or introducing your product in other stores and if so who?  I’d love to get to a point where customers can come into our workshop to choose their items and pay right away. Although this already happens to a limited degree (we have to have the right style, size, absorption and colour in stock for this to happen) I’d love to have everything available all of the time. Once we get to this point, I’ll look at possibly getting into a few stores (we actually already sell our products through TigerLilly). It all comes down to whether or not it makes good business sense. Of course we have lots of small business owners already selling our products, like salons and spas, as well as swim schools. I’m being approached more and more by people wanting to expand their product offering and am honoured that they choose to include Blushproof® products. Oh, and we have an Affiliate programme whereby our customers become an affiliate and when someone uses their referral link to make a purchase, that person gets a discount and the affiliate gets a commission. It’s a win-win for everyone! Q: What brings Blushproof® joy?  Gosh, I’d have to say it’s the positive reviews and feedback. Our customers truly find our products to be life-changing. That’s really such a wonderful thing to know as a business owner

NB Hearing & Balance

Important Questions to Ask Your Child’s Audiologist

Empowering Your Child’s Hearing Health Journey As a parent, it is essential to advocate for your child’s hearing health. If you are concerned about your child’s hearing, preparing for appointments with an audiologist can make a significant difference in understanding your child’s condition and ensuring that your child receives the best care possible. Here are some of the critical issues to consider, and why they matter. CHOOSING AN AUDIOLOGIST Finding the right audiologist is a key step in caring for your child’s audiological needs. Audiologists who work with children should be caring, supportive of your questions and need for knowledge, and careful to take the time to fully understand your child’s home and school experience. Choices that you make together must be underpinned by an attitude of child- and family-centred care. The assessment and management of hearing loss in children can differ to management of the same issues in an adult, so your chosen audiologist should demonstrate care and knowledge about your child’s ‘whole person’ environment!   What Can We Expect from a Hearing Test? Knowing what may be involved in a hearing evaluation can help ease your (and your child’s) apprehension, making it comfortable to ease into the assessment. So read this link to find out more about a common testing process. Then, also ask:  What Type of Hearing Loss May My Child Have? Understanding whether your child has normal hearing, or whether a sensorineural, conductive, or mixed hearing loss is present, is crucial. This knowledge helps you comprehend the underlying cause/s and the most suitable management options. You can follow this up with: What Are the Management Options for Hearing Loss? If a hearing loss is identified, different management options are available to help your child function more effectively. Hearing aids are often appropriate ways to restore adequate sound when a hearing loss is permanent or semi-permanent because access to sound is essential for language and academic development. You may also be referred to an ENT or GP if the problem is amenable to treatment. Transient problems represent opportunities to return hearing to normal, quickly. Be empowered to make informed decisions about your child’s care! Ask questions like: How Do I Know What Type of Hearing Aid is Best for My Child? If semi-permanent or permanent hearing loss is identified, you may be exploring hearing aid options with your audiologist. Hearing aids come in a variety of styles and technologies, suitable for different acoustic, aesthetic, or contextual needs. These differences can also affect affordability. Knowing which options may suit your child’s lifestyle and hearing needs ensures that the best benefits may be achieved. Also, ensure that your audiologist explains your child’s full management plan, including the frequency of visits, regularity of device adjustments, and maintenance or servicing requirements. Good management is likely to result in a continuously good hearing experience.  How Can We Protect My Child’s Remaining Hearing? Good hearing habits are essential to preserve your child’s remaining hearing and prevent further deterioration. Your audiologist should advise you about hearing safety so that you can protect your child’s hearing function. This may include bespoke hearing or ear protection. What Should We Do If My Child’s Hearing Changes? Monitoring your child’s hearing subjectively (through your own observation of their responses) and objectively (with regular hearing assessment) ensures that you can alter your plan if your child’s hearing circumstances change. Problems can be tiny (such as a blocked tube or dead battery) to significant (such as an ear infection). Your audiologist can teach you to troubleshoot problems for self-maintenance or help you to check your devices. A good audiologist will also advise you about what signs and symptoms to look for that may require a consultation.  Are There Support Groups or Resources Available? Connecting with other parents and families with similar experiences can provide emotional support and practical advice. Often, audiologists can provide you with details for local or online support groups and useful parent resources. You can be properly empowered, uplifted, and encouraged by the right professional to support your child’s hearing needs throughout childhood. Our NB Hearing & Balance Team Is Here to Support Your Family Being proactive and informed about your child’s hearing health is vital. By asking these questions and asserting your needs, you can make informed decisions that ensure your child receives the best possible care. If you are ready to take the next step in your child’s hearing health journey, schedule a consultation with one of our NB Hearing & Balance audiologists. We have convenient locations across the Cape Peninsula, including Wynberg, Durbanville, Sea Point, Hout Bay, and Noordhoek.

Bonitas – innovation, life stages and quality care

Pregnancy, your body and your baby – week 40 of your pregnancy

Congratulations, you’ve reached the milestone that you’ve been counting up to from the beginning. It may feel surreal to think that 40 weeks ago you had your last period and now you’re about to welcome your new baby into your life. The third trimester of your pregnancy may have been fairly difficult, as your baby and belly take up more room, and your body adjusts to accommodate your growing little one. Your body at week 40 At week 40 your body is ready to give birth after housing and growing your baby for 9 months. So close to birth you may notice changes in your baby’s fetal movement, however, they will still be moving around, so if you notice a big decrease in movement, contact your doctor. Until birth, you’ll experience typical pregnancy symptoms, including leg cramps, back and pelvic pain, trouble sleeping and diarrhoea, which is normal close to birth. Your baby at week 40 At week 40 your baby is now full-term. When your baby is born you’ll notice that they are covered in a mixture of blood, vernix and amniotic fluid. On average, baby’s at week 40 weigh about 3,5 kg and they’ll be roughly the size of a pumpkin. Even though they are just about to be born, the lungs, liver and brain are still developing. Things to keep in mind at week 40 Labour can be overwhelming, and it’s important to remember that you can do this. While your doctor will have given you a due date, it is possible that your baby won’t arrive on the dot. So make sure that you keep aware of the signs of labour and have your birth plan, hospital bags and any additional plans ready (such as making sure you have someone to look after your other kids if you have).

Doug Berry

Does your child suffer from low self-esteem?

When a child suffers from low self-esteem, it will almost always carry on into their adulthood if not addressed. Simple things such as meeting new people can be very difficult, as well as taking on challenges, valuing their own opinion and much more. It is so important for parents to understand just how crucial healthy self-esteem in a child can be because they have a crucial role to play in the development of their children’s sense of self-worth. If your child has a low self-esteem, parent intervention can prevent the following being carried through to adulthood. Poor communication skills: A child with low-esteem is likely to grow into an adult that has difficulty in communicating with others; whether it is with their spouse, coworkers or peers, as they often do not feel secure and confident with what they say and may be afraid to express themselves. Negative thoughts and feelings: Since a child with low self-worth will regularly have negative thoughts and feelings about themselves and even others, it will likely carry through into adulthood. Unfortunately, the difference in adulthood will be that they are more likely to keep their feelings internalised rather than expressing them. Hot temper: An adult with low self-esteem may have a hot temper. This is usually because of the frustration and constantly simmering negative thoughts that they experience. These bubble below the surface and spill over fairly readily when provoked. Blaming others: Instead of taking responsibility for things going wrong, they are often quick to blame others. This avoidance of responsibility takes blame from them and puts it onto others. For a while, they are able to feel buoyed up and justified. Difficulty with relationships: Relationship difficulty is common when your child takes their low self-worth into adulthood. It is hard to truly love and dedicated yourself to another when you don’t truly love yourself. What they end up giving to their partners is a less than whole self, often putting strain on the relationship. Keep in mind that while some of these signs may or may not carry through into adulthood, everyone is impacted differently. A child who has a low self-esteem won’t always be an adult with low self-esteem. Self-esteem is not a black-and-white-all-or-nothing matter. There are varying degrees of self-esteem or self-worth. A child can have very low self-esteem or just a little self-doubt which will impact how they transform into adults.

Doug Berry

Help your toddler survive your divorce

Divorce is unpleasant, emotional and can be a downright hurtful experience. The problem is that we sometimes forget that we aren’t the only ones experiencing this pain. Often our children suffer an unnecessary degree of hurt as a result of our incompatibility with our chosen partner… Some tips: Consistency This is a watchword for the divorcing parent! With toddlers, parents must be mindful of the need for consistency in the child’s life. This is not the time to drag them from house to house. If at all possible, they should stay in familiar surroundings with the noncustodial parent visiting there. Communication At this age, the toddler understands more than they are often given credit for. They can comprehend that one parent has left the home, but not understand why. At this age, their concept of time is also arbitrary. Your child may ask you when they are going to see their daddy, or why their daddy isn’t here anymore. No matter how many times you have to give them the answers, don’t get frustrated with them, as their world is very confusing at this time. This ties back into consistency, as you become their source of understanding and answers. Conflict If you have to argue or “debate passionately”, make sure to do it in a way that doesn’t cause your child undue fear or concern. Remember, you are the adults in this situation and you have a responsibility to your child, to reduce as much harm as this separation is causing, as possible. Behaviour Toddlers often test their boundaries by saying “No” to adults or testing limits, such as hitting or throwing. This behaviour and acting out can increase during the divorce process as a result of confused boundaries and definitions in the family environment. Toddlers need clear, consistent rules (back to consistency!) that are enforced in a loving way. Empathy Toddlers don’t have a very developed sense of empathy and tend to be concerned primarily with how their own needs are to be met. In the event of divorce, their sense of security becomes more self-oriented and their concern is about whether or not they will be secure, if they will be loved and nourished. Emotions As your toddler becomes more aware of their own feelings, they learn to express them through words and play. As tensions increase in the household due to impending divorce, they may become more reactive. Strong feelings are hard for them to manage and moderate. Don’t forget to let them know that its ok to feel them, but remember to help them manage the intensity by proper displays of your own emotional state, as well as appropriate levels of affection and understanding towards your child. Why do divorce rates increase? There are several reasons that have been put forward as to why there could be an increase in the number of divorces being seen. Here are just a few! Time of year There is a commonly recognised trend that causes a spike in divorce numbers around January and February. The assumption here is that partners who are already discontent often reach a decisive point after having to spend prolonged holidays with their partners over the festive season. This seems to galvanise many into initiating divorce proceedings in the New Year. Empowerment With the increase in awareness of rights according to the constitution of South Africa, more women have become more empowered and are less likely to remain in abusive or undesirable relationships.  In the past, many women would remain in unhappy relationships as they felt that they did not have another option, but in current times, a better degree of knowledge and understanding of women’s’ rights could be contributing to the rise of divorce. No-fault divorce South African law provides for no-fault divorce based on the “irretrievable breakdown” of the marital relationship. Couples no longer need to prove that one person is at fault. They can simply say that the marriage relationship has broken down. In essence, it has become much easier to secure a divorce on clear and available legal grounds, with less procedure than in the past. Traditional roles In the past, traditional roles played a strong part in maintaining the marital unit. Partners did not question their lot in the marriage as openly and as a result, there was less open conflict. This is not to say that there was more happiness, merely less interpersonal disagreement. With the blurring of the definition of these roles, there is a rise in open disagreement, ending too often in divorce. Greater social acceptance In certain cultural groups in South Africa, divorce has long held an extremely shameful cloud over the divorcee, especially for the former wife. This has resulted in shunning and community abandonment, which served to discourage others from initiating proceedings. The more accepting the societies become of the concept; the more individuals are willing to pursue it as a route out of an undesirable marriage. Less guilt It is not uncommon these days for couples to wait 10 years before having children. As a result, many do not feel the same degree of guilt over “breaking up” the family unit, or over causing children distress. The disclaimer “at least there aren’t kids involved” can be heard echoing through the divorce courts.

Mia Von Scha

WHY DO CHILDREN LIE?

The question of why children lie begs the greater question of why any of us lie. If you think back to the last time you lied (and I’ll bet my life you can think of a time), look at what was going on internally and this will give you a good idea of why your children do it and how to avoid it in future. Now before we get to that, let me just say that we all have all traits. We are all liars sometimes and every one of us will be pushed to lie under certain circumstances. So firstly, please never label your child as a liar. Once we apply a label to a child they are more likely (not less) to repeat this behaviour and to incorporate it into their sense of self as they grow up. ALL children lie sometimes (as do ALL adults). Ok, so it’s normal to lie sometimes, but why, and why do some lie more often? Going back to why we all do, lying is a fear-based behaviour. The child believes, for whatever reason, that if they tell the truth it will result in more pain than pleasure. And where do they get this message? From us, of course. We’re constantly giving kids unconscious messages that telling the truth will get you in trouble. “Who ate the sweets?” “I did” “Right, go to your room”. Sound familiar? What we need to get into the habit of doing is praising truth-telling and taking responsibility more than we punish “bad” behaviour. If our children own up and say that they “did it” we should be actively praising this behaviour and pointing out that while the behaviour is not ok with us, we’re really impressed that they told the truth. Children will only lie if they are afraid of our reaction to the truth. I know that many people worry that if they take this approach they will be too soft on the bad behaviour and will end up with unruly kids. One of the fundamental structures for well-behaved, compliant children is being their primary attachment (which implies complete trust, openness and closeness). If your children trust you completely and feel connected to you and loved no matter what they do they will actually be less likely to produce so called “bad” behaviours in the long run. Of course they will make mistakes along the way and present “negative” traits (like we all do) including lying, but this will not develop into any kind of delinquency if that adult-child connection is in place. And part of keeping it in place is keeping the lines of communication open and allowing your children to tell the truth and know they will be safe. I think this is a fundamental skill to work on when your children are little and to instil a sense of open communication and acceptance BEFORE they become teenagers. Once our kids hit the teen years, if we’ve shut off honest communication, we are in for a different level of trouble with our children lying to us about things that can be life threatening, or where they really could use our adult help and guidance. The next time your child lies to you think about why they would be afraid to tell the truth and then instead of punishing them for lying, rather address the rift in your relationship.

OneAid

10 Essential Tips To Prevent Poisoning In Your Home

I was recently prescribed some analgesics for a small day procedure. That afternoon, when I got home, I placed the packet of meds on my dresser and later found my daughter sitting on the floor inspecting the packet. My heart stopped! This careless mistake could have had devastating consequences. Unfortunately poisoning data in South Africa is lacking. One study dating back to 2012 found that the most common cause of accidental poisoning in SA children is pesticides. However, the list of potential poisons throughout our homes is extensive; here are just a few more obvious ones: Medications Household cleaners and disinfectants Cosmetics and toiletries Insect and rodent repellants Weed killers and other outdoor chemicals Swimming pool chemicals Flea and tick shampoos and other products for pets I have put together a list of some useful tips to prevent accidental poisoning at home. Some of them may seem fairly obvious but as I have recently experienced it is easy to forget. Keep all potential household and other hazards in their original containers. DO NOT transfer into coke bottles or Tupperware’s. Make sure seals of potential hazards are tight and secure before locking away. Please note that child resistant packaging of medications is NOT childproof. Keep potential hazards locked away in the highest cupboard with a childproof lock. The cupboard should even be high for you, as little minds can get quite creative with boxes and stools and climb up onto countertops. Keep potential hazards out of reach of children when in use and never leave bottles or buckets unattended. Never call medicine sweets/candy. This is a common mistake parents make in order to get their kids to take medicine when sick. This could lead to a child one day consuming an entire bottle of ‘sweets’. Never leave your handbag lying around and be extra cautious when you have visitors over as many people keep painkillers in their bags. Alcohol is often overlooked and is very dangerous to your little ones if consumed in excess. Keep alcohol out of reach of children especially when hosting parties. Any kind of battery can be dangerous if leaking or ingested. Keep remote controls and other battery containing devices away from children. If you are unsure about whether or not a household item is hazardous, assume it is and keep it locked away. Things that seem harmless are most often extremely dangerous. Most importantly TEACH your children about the dangers! It may be a good idea to identify what potential hazards you have in your home. Do a check of every room in the house including your garage and make sure your home is safe. RESOURCES Balme, K., Roberts, J.C., Glasstone, M., Curling, L. & Mann, M.D. (2012) The changing trends of childhood poisoning at a tertiarychildren’s hospital in South Africa. South African Medical Journal. [Online] 102 (3), pp. 142-146. Available from: http://www.scielo.org.za/scielo.php?script=sci_arttext&pid=S0256-95742012000300023&lng=en&tlng=en [Accessed 8 August 2018]. Veale, D.J.H., Wium, C.A. & Müller, G.J. (2012) Toxicovigilance I: A survey of acute poisoning in South Africa based on Tygerberg Poison Information Centre data. South African Medical Journal. [Online] 103 (5), pp. 293-297. Available from: http://www.samj.org.za/index.php/samj/article/view/6647/5054 [Accessed 8 August 2018].

OneAid

A Bump To The Head: When Should You Worry?

I have attended to many children in the ER who have taken a tumble. In the US, falls account for around half the injury-related ER visits in children under 5 years of age. Most of these falls involve furniture such as changing mats, high chairs, baby walkers and beds. Parents are almost always concerned about head injuries. Majority of head injuries from a fall are usually minor. Children under one who fall are more likely to sustain head injuries regardless of the height from which they fall. Whereas older children are more prone to extremity fractures. This is because an infant’s head is much larger than the rest of their body. As a child grows, their head mass becomes more proportional and they develop upper body strength, which enables them to brace falls with their arms or legs. WHEN TO SEE A DOCTOR  If your child is awake, alert and behaving normally after a bump to the head with no other signs and symptoms then he or she will most likely be fine and you don’t have to rush to hospital right away. It’s a good idea to observe your child for 1-2 days afterwards, since symptoms of a brain injury may present late. Seek Medical Attention: For any bump to the head in an infant; If your child has lost consciousness, even if brief; If your child has any signs and symptoms of a concussion (see below); If your child is inconsolable; If your child is vomiting; If your child is difficult to wake; If your child has a seizure; and/or If you suspect a broken bone. If your child has had a bad fall and you suspect a neck injury DO NOT move your child. Call an ambulance right away! Always trust your gut. If you are unsure rather head straight to your nearest emergency room. CONCUSSION A concussion is a brain injury caused by a blow to the head. The signs and symptoms may be vague and may even take a few days to develop. It’s important to know that not all concussions cause a loss of consciousness. Concussions can be more difficult to diagnose in children, as they are not as vocal about their symptoms. Children older than 2 years will show more behavioural symptoms. Signs & symptoms will therefore depend on age and include but are not limited to: Irritable and fussy; Unusually sleepy; Crying more than usual; Change in appetite; Nausea and/or vomiting; Lack of interest in play; Headache; Confusion; Child is unsteady on his or her feet; Sensitivity to light and noise; Blurred or double vision; Dizziness; Unusual speech e.g.: slow or slurred; Poor concentration and memory; and/or Problems with co-ordination. DIAGNOSING A CONCUSSION  The doctor will do a thorough evaluation. A CT scan and MRI cannot diagnose a concussion. A CT scan will however, most likely be ordered to exclude a brain bleed or skull fracture depending on the mechanism of injury and presenting symptoms. The majority of falls in children are caused by modifiable factors and are therefore preventable. It’s impossible to bubble wrap our kids and we shouldn’t have to. Falls and tumbles can teach our children valuable lessons, but we can spend time baby proofing our homes and being more cautious to prevent serious injury. Remember to always buckle your baby in their high chair and never leave him or her unattended on a changing mat, not even for a second – it takes seconds for an accident to happen. RESOURCES Burrows, P. et al. (2015) Head injury from falls in children younger than 6 years of age. Arch Dis Child, [online] 100 (11), pp. 1032-1037. Available from: https://0-www-ncbi-nlm-nih-gov.innopac.wits.ac.za/pmc/articles/PMC4680174/ [Accessed 3 October 2018]. CDC (2017) Traumatic Brain Injury & Concussion [online]. Available from: https://www.cdc.gov/traumaticbraininjury/symptoms.html [Accessed 3 october 2018]. Chaudhary, S. et al. (2018) Pediatric falls ages 0–4: understanding demographics, mechanisms, and injury severities. Inj Epidemiol, [online] 5 (suppl 1). Available from: https://0-www-ncbi-nlm-nih-gov.innopac.wits.ac.za/pmc/articles/PMC5893510/ [Accessed 3 October 2018]. Kendrick, D. et al. (2015) Risk and Protective Factors for Falls From Furniture in Young Children Multicenter Case-Control Study. JAMA Pediatr, [online] 169 (2), pp. 145-153. Available from: https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/1939058 [Accessed 3 October 2018]. Samuel, N. et al. (2015) Falls in young children with minor head injury: A prospective analysis of injury mechanisms. Brain Injury, [online] 29 (7-8), pp. 946-950. Available from: https://0-www-tandfonline-com.innopac.wits.ac.za/doi/full/10.3109/02699052.2015.1017005 [Accessed 3 October 2018].

Doug Berry

Managing Stress As A Teen

How do we define stress? Simply put, it’s an emotion… but it’s one of the most damaging and harmful ones we experience if it’s left unchecked! If it’s not addressed, it can affect not only your mental, but your physical health too. Many adults are of the opinion that teens don’t really know what true stress is. They are wrong! Stress is an emotion that can be experienced by new-born babies, toddlers and human beings of all ages. The things that make us stress may differ, but that doesn’t make it any less real. So, what makes you stress? Some of the most common factors that teens report as influencing their stress levels are: Parental expectation: “Did you do well in the test? Are you trying your hardest? I don’t like what you’re wearing. I don’t like how you’re behaving; did you make 1st team? I thought you were a leader…” Peer pressure: (the old favourite), Ask her out, smoke this, drink that, take one of these, sneak out, study later… From yourself: I’m too fat, I’m too skinny, I don’t dress properly, I don’t get enough respect, I don’t go out enough, I don’t study hard enough… Good stress vs bad stress. It’s important to remember that even though stress is uncomfortable, it’s not always bad. Stress can help us deal with tough situations. A lot of stress changes our bodies quickly and helps us react to an emergency. A little stress keeps us alert and helps us work harder. Unfortunately, a lot of stress is going to make doing these things harder. So, the key is to find a balance between enough and too much. Stress is a survival tool. When we are stressed, our brain triggers a hormone release and sends something called Cortisol running through our system. This helpful little guy prepares our body to react to stressors, such as physical danger. Normally, you’d run from danger or fight it, using up that juice in your system. Unfortunately, when we stress ourselves out so much as a result of perceived challenges, we are filling our body with cortisol and often don’t use it to power our behaviour. So what happens? You have this emotional supercharge running through your veins and brain, with nowhere to go, just hanging around causing harm, premature grey hairs and messing with your other hormones. Manage that stress. Learn to understand your stress, where it comes from and how to relieve it or avoid it. Ask yourself if there are people or situations in your life that are just not worth the stress and see if you can avoid them. If you can’t, learn to manage their impact on you. Speak to your parents about what motivates you and what stresses you to the point of collapse. If that doesn’t work, take the unknown out of the equation and show them how much work you are doing or can do in a given day. Let them know that you’re already trying your best and need their support instead of pressure. Go for a run, lift a weight, eat properly and sleep better! Know that it’s up to you to change the circumstances that cause you to stress, because once you’ve got that figured out, you can chill.

Mia Von Scha

Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids…

Did you know that in the languages of Sweden, Norway and Finland, where they experience long snow-filled winters, there are as many as 180 snow and ice related words. That’s a lot of ways to talk about something we just call, well, snow and ice. Imagine how differently snow would appear to you if you had so many ways to describe it rather than just cold, wet and white!   Now think about how much richer your child’s emotional life would be if they could describe what they were feeling with more words than just happy, sad and mad. ​ The thing is, the labels that we apply to our emotions do more than just help us to communicate with others what is going on in our internal world. They also help us to understand how to process and cope with what is going on and assist us in directing our behavior appropriately.For example… If you are just “sad”, then you might have only two options… cry and/or wait it out. But if you differentiate sadness into loneliness, boredom, grief, tiredness, melancholy, nostalgia, heartbrokeness or disappointment, then you suddenly have a few more options. You can phone a friend to alleviate loneliness; you can hop onto Pinterest for some craft ideas if you’re bored; you can take a nap if you’re tired; or adjust your expectations if you’re disappointed.Our emotions are the language of the unconscious mind and are there to help us to live more authentic, fulfilled lives by directing our attention to things that need to be addressed, by changing our physiology for survival, and by drawing our attention to the things that bring us joy so that we can do more of them. The more in tune we are with these messages, the more likely we are to live a rich, meaningful existence.Think of this as a relationship between yourself and this other aspect of your mind. The relationship is going to be a fairly shallow one if you only know a few words of the other partner’s language!So the main key to helping children to develop emotional intelligence is to develop their emotional vocabulary.  Happy, sad and mad are fine when you’re three, but not when you’re 13 or 23 (or even 53!).  Get out that dictionary. Start by making a long list of all the feeling words you can find. Keep adding to this as you discover more. Turn these into a daily emotional tracking chart that the whole family can use. Play emotional charades by placing all your newly learned words into a hat and each family member picking one and acting it out to see if the others can guess the feeling. Load a thesaurus onto your phone and every time you want to describe how you feel find another 5 ways of saying that which would more accurately describe your state. Read to your kids and discuss how the characters are feeling. Engage your children in emotional discussions. Really really listen to what they are saying and see if you can find the perfect word to sum it all up. Consider making up your own words if the perfect word doesn’t exist yet. Adding “hangry” to our vocabularies to describe the irritation that comes when you haven’t eaten enough has helped us to take the right action in the situation (i.e. instead of punishing the child that is lashing out, we give them a snack!). Language helps us to process our world, to interact with others and to express our needs and desires. Emotional language assists us in understanding ourselves, having empathy for others, directing our behavior appropriately, and managing our internal state. Transform snow into a damp, piercing and ghostly environment where you are engulfed by its icy transparency… and transform your child’s emotional world into as colourful a landscape. Emotionally intelligent kids need a vocabulary that is rich enough to express the depth of their internal world.

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Common First Aid Myths

I am often surprised by how some of my patients manage their injuries before they come to the emergency room. I think my own mother is also guilty of practising some really strange methods whilst I was growing up. Over the years, medical advice and management has evolved. What may have made sense years ago is now out of date and has been replaced with more sound research and often logic. Here are just a few of the first aid practices and myths that I have seen over the years.

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Pregnancy, your body and your baby – week 39 of your pregnancy

You’re now one week away from week 40 – the final week of your pregnancy. Strange to think back 39 weeks, where you wouldn’t even have known you were pregnant. Lots has changed since then, and a lot will continue to change before and after birth. Your body at week 39 At this point, you’ll definitely be feeling your pregnancy. Braxton Hicks contractions, leaking colostrum from your nipples and the frequent urge to urinate may all be part of your daily life. You may be having trouble sleeping, struggling with pelvic and back pain, and your vaginal discharge may be tinged with pink or brown as the blood vessels n your cervix rupture. It is possible to be diagnosed with preeclampsia in your last weeks of pregnancy. This is high blood pressure in pregnancy and is accompanied by protein in your urine and swelling of the hands and feet. Vomiting, nausea and dizziness are also symptoms you may have preeclampsia, and if you suspect you have it you’ll need to contact your doctor right away. Your baby at week 39 Your baby is now roughly the size of a honeydew melon and is considered full term if they’re born this week. At this point, their lungs are producing surfactant so that when they take their first breath, the air sacs won’t stick together. Things you should keep in mind at week 39 You may be wondering if you can still keep doing light exercise, or what you can do to keep active during this time. Exercise in late pregnancy is still doable and is a good idea if you’re feeling up to it. Although you may be worried about damaging your growing baby, exercise during this time is beneficial as it can help strengthen your body for delivery and birth. That being said, it’s important to clarify what you plan on doing with your doctor, and focus on short, low-intensity exercises such as certain yoga and water aerobics.

Mia Von Scha

HOW TO ENCOURAGE A GROWTH MINDSET IN CHILDREN

Have you heard of a growth mindset? It’s become somewhat of a buzzword lately and that’s because it really does make a difference to a child’s ability to learn something and their confidence in trying new things. A fixed mindset is one in which we say things like: “I can’t do that” or “I am not good at something”. It’s the belief that our abilities are fixed – that we are either clever or not, either sporty or not. The growth mindset is the opposite. With a growth mindset we acknowledge that we can always improve with a bit of effort. We understand that our brains are not fixed, but constantly changing; that our abilities are not just genetic but influenced by what we do. We see that it is possible for all people to learn new things, even though it may be more of a challenge for some. Why does this matter? Well, with a fixed mindset a child is less likely to try new things, and more likely to give up when something gets difficult – which can seriously limit their options in life. It also leads to misidentification and self-handicapping – protecting themselves from failure by either not investing their self-esteem or identity into something difficult, or having a good excuse ready for falling short. So here are ten tips for maintaining and encouraging a growth mindset: Expose your children to information on how the brain changes and learns. Teach them that intelligence grows like a muscle and it needs challenge in order to get the right exercise. Don’t praise cleverness – praise effort. Focus on a child’s hard work rather than on the outcome of that work or on fixed measurements like IQ. Encourage failure. Praise children for giving something a go and for having the courage to face challenges. Let them celebrate their failures as a sign of being brave enough to try. Show them how failure leads to growth. Avoid superhero worship. Focus on everyday people who do amazing things through hard work and struggle. Tell them stories of your own doubts and challenges and how you made it through. Teach them to say, “How can I?” instead of “I can’t”. Using a question opens up creative thinking and stops the brain from giving up on the problem. Teach them to add “…yet” to the end of things they can’t do. For example, “I can’t do maths… yet”. This helps them to focus on what they still need to do to master something rather than on their current inability. Give them examples of others who have failed and succeeded e.g. basketball players missing more goals than they hit. Give them examples of where they have failed and succeeded e.g. struggling with a new computer game that they now play effortlessly. 10. Acknowledge their frustration when they are doing something difficult without jumping in and doing things for them. Everything is difficult at first. Our kids often don’t get good role models of this because they see us doing things that we’ve done for years and years and of course these things look easy. Then they try to do these same things and struggle. We need to remind them that we also struggled once. In fact, everyone struggles to some degree with a new task. But with practice and a dedication to continue, everything gets easier. We were all born with the ability to learn and grow – not just some people.

Mia Von Scha

How To Be Angry Without Destroying Your Kids’ Self-Confidence

All too often I hear parents trying to repress their anger around their kids. Now this is not only unhealthy for you (repressed emotions actually create illness within the body) but it is also not great for your kids to grow up believing that some emotions are simply not ok to have. All emotions are a part of our human journey, and are messages from our unconscious mind regarding things we need to pay attention to or change in our lives. Having said that, it is also worth noting that telling your child that THEY are making YOU angry, sad, irritated (or even happy) is simply too much responsibility to place on another human being, particularly a little one! No one can MAKE you anything. Think about squeezing an orange. What comes out? I’m hoping that you’re saying “orange juice”! Not guava juice or pear juice or cherry flavoured Coca-Cola! Why? Because you only get out what is already within. So if your kids are pushing your buttons and there’s anger coming out, well then that’s what is within. Take responsibility for your own emotions. Own them – they’re yours. However, this does not mean that you are not allowed to experience these emotions, and even experience them very strongly in the presence of your children. So how do we express strong negative emotions without damaging our kids and making them feel responsible for us and our emotional state? How do we teach them to take responsibility for THEIR own emotions and not blame you or their siblings or teachers or life for how it is that THEY are feeling? It all starts with the little one-letter word “I”. “I am feeling soooo angry right now”, “I am feeling more and more and more irritated, so irritated that I could just scream”, “I am feeling ridiculously happy, like the luckiest person in the world”. As opposed to: “You are making me very angry”, “You are irritating me”, “You make your mom sooo happy”. Can you see the difference? And these can be said with as much emotion or volume as you feel is appropriate. You can even step it up in ways that they can relate to and that gives them some warning about where you’re at… “I am about as angry as a pea right now… Now I’m as angry as a small cat… AND NOW I’M AS ANGRY AS A LARGE ELEPHANT!!!” They will get the message. They will learn when to step away. They will learn how to experience strong emotional states themselves without lashing out at others. What they won’t learn is to take responsibility for you. What they won’t learn is to blame. What they won’t learn is to beat themselves up for your inner state. This builds emotional maturity, responsibility and self-confidence. All emotions are ok, but how we choose to express them is what makes the biggest difference.

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