Bill Corbett

Four Questions to Ask Before You Discipline

In my work with parents and teachers on solving behavior challenges with children, I help them identify the problem, possible causes of the behavior, and then possible solutions for eliminating it. My goal is to send the adults away with a few simple step-by-step techniques they can implement immediately to bring about quick change at home or in the classroom. Here are four key questions to ask yourself to help you identify a current behavior issue and some common sense solutions to solve them. QUESTION # 1: Why can’t the behavior occur? Adults react unnecessarily when children behave in ways that annoy or embarrass the adult, or add more chaos to their already stressed state of mind. Adults also react in this manner in response to feelings of fear that the child may fall down or get hurt in some fashion. Stop before you react unnecessarily and ask yourself, “What is the worst that could happen if I don’t react?,” or “Why can’t my child do what she’s doing at the moment?” Let go of the urge to control everything and everybody. Avoid arranging the outcomes of everyone’s behavior. QUESTION # 2: How would the child know not to behave this way? Children see the world from a different perspective than adults, and adults unfairly assume or expect children to see it from theirs. Carefully examine the models that your children have around them to learn from and be sure to set good examples that teach what you want them to learn. Encouraging a child to read frequently, for example, works best when they see the adult reading, too. Create agreements ahead of time and set up rules before activities begin, not in the middle of them. Yes, this will require you as a caregiver to think ahead and predict behavior situations that could be challenging. QUESTION # 3: What unmet needs might the child be demonstrating? In many instances, both children and adults demonstrate surprising behaviors as a way of getting unmet needs satisfied. The little boy constantly drawing may be exhibiting his need to draw and create. Creating appropriate opportunities for him to draw and color may be all that is necessary to eliminate the problem. Giving a bossy child the opportunity to lead family activities may satisfy his need to be in charge. And relaxing over a tween or teen’s experiments with her appearance that doesn’t endanger her will satisfy her need to explore her own identity in a healthy way. Have you ever behaved in curious ways to satisfy any unmet needs of your own? QUESTION # 4: Is there a purpose to this behavior for the child? Both children and adults find ways to act out to create more purpose in their life. The little boy picking the fights with his brother discovered that it brought his busy grandmother into the room in hopes of her taking his side. The little girl who had once again become a baby was most likely responding to the jealousy she may have felt of having to share her parents with her new sibling. And my own son found a new way to annoy others by experimenting with sounds he could make with his voice. Before you get angry and behave badly as a caregiver, step back for one moment, take a deep breath, and ask yourself these four questions. Perhaps the answers they offer may allow you to see the behaviour differently and provide you with an opportunity to choose an alternate response that will get you more effective results.  Behavior is usually a result of what has been learned through imitation or getting unmet needs or purpose satisfied. Avoid the urge to react and think of ways you can be proactive instead to avoid or eliminate challenging behaviours.

November 21, 2025
Toptots Head Office

Top ways to balance work and parenting

We all know that parenting can be a delicate juggling act at the best of times. Whether it is organising day-care, scheduling doctor appointments, making sure they are getting their five a day – being a parent is a lot to handle and think about. Throw a career into the mix, and often balls can start dropping. Here are five ways to not only help you manage your time but make sure that both your children and your job get the attention they need. Switch off This advice comes from some of the most successful business people in the world. Segment your time. When you are at work, focus solely on the tasks at hand. With that level of focus and concentration, you will be able to do your job more efficiently. The same applies at home. Make sure you switch off your work notifications when possible. Give your children and yourself the attention you all deserve when it is time to do so. Schedule This is a biggie! The more organised you are, the more time you have. For your children, for your job, to grab a coffee with a friend. There are many apps you can download to help you manage your and your families’ schedules. Some of them can even be shared amongst family members, so everyone that needs to can lend a hand. Make sure you have all the info you need at the touch of a button. Dentist appointments, Toptots classes, grocery lists and more. Knowing everything that needs to be done is one step closer to getting everything you need done! Prep time Most working parents swear by this. Whether packing lunches the night before or taking a few hours on a Sunday to meal prep for the week – using the time you have to give you breathing room during the crazy periods (AKA, bath and dinner time) is a smart use of time. Again, there are many online tools to assist you in things like meal prepping – use them to give you a helping hand. Time for you A burnt-out parent is not going to have the energy and capability to get anything done. Never mind spending quality time with their children. It is essential that you put yourself on the top of your ‘take care of’ list. Make sure you schedule time to do things you love, see friends and family and look after yourself. Happy parents make happy children.  Delegate You don’t need to do it all yourself. Everyone needs help, whether it be from a partner, parent or friend. There are always people around that are willing to lend a hand; you just need to reach out to them. Learning to let go of tasks, delegate responsibilities and ask for help with help to ease your load to focus on the things that matter – yourself and your children! Toptots Early Learning SA

November 21, 2025
Toptots Head Office

Top 5 ways to encourage your toddler to speak

Milestones are often reached at different times by different children. Speech is one of them. If your young toddler is on the verge of speaking, starting to babble, and you want to help them along – try these tips 1. Talk  A lot. You may not think this, but your child can already start taking language cues. They are listening to you. So describe what you are doing, point at objects and say their names  out loud. Verbalise as much as you possibly can. Just hearing you form words will get them to talk that much faster. 2. Make it fun  When children are enjoying what they are doing, they learn so much more from it (this is really what the Toptots classes are built on too). When you are actively trying to teach them to say certain words, make them words they will enjoy. For example, if they love animals then the word dog or cat.  3. Keep it simple Don’t try to teach them more than two words at a time. They won’t be able to retain the information. Keep it short and sweet, and use repetition to help them remember the sounds. Keep to single syllable sounds so as to not overwhelm them. 4. Make them ask  This is for toddlers that have the ability to talk but would rather point at things (this is very common). If your child can say the word water, but would rather point at the tap, then wait for them to say it before pouring it. This starts the ball rolling on language development and expression. 5. Use music.  Children love music, and can often remember melodies better than words. When the two are combined, the music helps children decipher sounds better. Play songs they enjoy in the car, at home, and make it a fun experience to try and sing along! Your toddler’s ability to speak depends largely on their environment and home life. Try to include as many spoken opportunities for them as possible, and commit to taking time each day to run through simple words with them. 

November 20, 2025
Toptots Head Office

Kangaroo care and its benefits

You may have heard the terms “skin-to-skin” or “kangaroo care” when it comes to interacting with a newborn baby. It refers to the amazing benefits that have been found when a mother has the opportunity to place their newborn baby skin-to-skin straight after birth. It also refers to skin-to-skin contact during the newborn phase from both mother and father. Of course, birth can be an unpredictable time – and that includes the need for doctors or nurses to have to handle your baby immediately after birth for medical reasons or for the baby to be placed in an incubator. If these things occur, skin-to-skin does not have an expiry date when it comes to your baby and can take place as soon as it is medically safe to. Here are just some of the scientifically proven benefits of kangaroo care: Skin-to-skin contact helps regulate a baby’s temperature. When mom/dad and baby are skin to skin, the parent’s chest temperature adjusts to warm up a cool baby, or cool down a too-warm baby. This phenomenon is called “thermal synchrony.” Skin-to-skin contact increases the paternal bond. One study followed mothers and babies who experienced skin-to-skin contact right after delivery compared to mothers who only viewed their child briefly immediately after birth. Days later the mothers who had skin-to-skin contact were shown to be more comfortable caring for and handling their babies. One year later those same mothers were found to touch, hold and interact with their children more. Skin-to-skin contact can help keep heart and breathing rates stable. Newborns panic when they are separated from their mother immediately after birth. That separation causes stress, which can increase both heart and breathing rates. Being skin to skin with their mother reduces stress and helps keep a baby’s heart rate and breathing normal. Babies cry less when they are skin to skin with their parent. Being close to their parents is natural for babies. Studies show that babies cry less when skin to skin with their mothers than babies who have been separated from mom. Human touch is an integral part of brain development. Touch and movement have been shown to be the basic building blocks for brain and social development. Early skin-to-skin contact helps to set a pattern for continued holding, carrying and touching. Moms who have early skin-to-skin contact breastfeed more and longer. When babies are placed skin-to-skin on their mother after delivery, research has shown that they follow a series of steps to familiarise themselves with their mother, eventually making their way to the breast on their own to begin breastfeeding. The research results are so strong, in fact, that the American Academy of Pediatrics now recommends that immediately after delivery all healthy infants be placed in direct skin-to-skin contact with their mothers as soon as possible and at least for the first hour. How to Hold Your Baby Skin to Skin: Find some good times throughout the day when skin-to-skin works best for you, your baby, and your partner. This might be during feedings (whether by breast or bottle), right before a bath, or just before putting pyjamas on for bedtime. Place your baby in a nappy only. Moms remove your bra. Hold your baby directly against your bare chest. Make sure your baby’s head is turned to the side, so he or she can easily breathe, and hold your baby close enough for you to kiss the top of their head. Your body will keep them warm. It’s fine to drape a thin blanket over your baby’s back. All you need to do after that is sit quietly and enjoy being close and together.

November 20, 2025
Parenting Hub

Tips for Breastfeeding in Public: Confidence and Comfort

Breastfeeding is a natural and healthy way to feed your baby, but doing so in public can be a daunting experience for many mothers. Concerns about privacy, societal judgment, and personal comfort can create anxiety, making it challenging to breastfeed confidently outside the home. This article provides tips to help breastfeeding mothers in South Africa feel more comfortable and confident when breastfeeding in public, ensuring a positive experience for both mother and baby. Understanding Your Rights Before diving into practical tips, it’s essential to understand your legal rights regarding breastfeeding in public. In South Africa, the law protects the right to breastfeed in public spaces. According to the South African Department of Health, mothers are encouraged to breastfeed their children wherever and whenever needed. Knowing and understanding these rights can empower you and reduce anxiety about potential confrontations or negative reactions. Choose Comfortable Clothing One of the most practical steps to increase comfort while breastfeeding in public is choosing the right clothing. There are several options designed to make breastfeeding easier and more discreet: Nursing Tops and Dresses: These garments have hidden openings or panels that allow easy access for breastfeeding without exposing too much skin. Button-Down Shirts: These provide quick access to the breast and can be paired with a nursing bra for additional convenience. Nursing Bras: These bras have cups that can be easily unclipped and folded down, making breastfeeding more straightforward and comfortable. Choosing clothing that you feel comfortable and confident in can significantly impact your breastfeeding experience in public. Practice at Home Practicing breastfeeding at home can help you feel more confident when you need to do it in public. Find a comfortable position and practice using any nursing covers or specific clothing items you plan to wear outside. This practice can help you become more adept at handling your baby and adjusting your clothing discreetly. Use a Nursing Cover or Blanket If you prefer more privacy while breastfeeding in public, a nursing cover or blanket can be helpful. These covers are designed to drape over your shoulder and provide a barrier between you and the public. Some nursing covers even have adjustable necklines, allowing you to maintain eye contact with your baby while ensuring privacy. While nursing covers can provide a sense of security, it’s important to remember that they are not necessary for everyone. Some mothers and babies find them uncomfortable or restrictive. Choose what works best for you and your baby. Find a Comfortable Spot When breastfeeding in public, finding a comfortable and relatively private spot can make the experience more enjoyable. Many public places now offer designated nursing rooms or areas specifically designed for breastfeeding mothers. If these are not available, look for quieter, less crowded spots where you can sit comfortably. Some places to consider include: Cafes or Restaurants: Many establishments are breastfeeding-friendly and may have a quiet corner where you can nurse your baby. Parks: A bench under a tree can provide a peaceful spot for breastfeeding. Stores with Fitting Rooms: These can offer privacy if you feel uncomfortable breastfeeding in a more open area. Responding to Public Reactions Despite the increasing acceptance of breastfeeding in public, you may still encounter negative reactions or comments. Knowing how to respond can help you stay confident and calm. Here are some tips: Stay Calm and Polite: If someone confronts you, respond calmly and politely. You can inform them that you have the legal right to breastfeed in public. Focus on Your Baby: Remember that your baby’s needs come first. If you encounter negativity, focus on your baby and try not to let it affect your confidence. Have a Response Ready: Prepare a simple, respectful response in case someone comments on your breastfeeding. Something like, “I’m just feeding my baby. Thank you for understanding,” can be effective. Build a Support Network Having a support network can significantly boost your confidence when breastfeeding in public. Connect with other breastfeeding mothers through local support groups, online forums, or social media. Sharing experiences, tips, and encouragement with others who understand what you’re going through can be incredibly empowering. Educate Yourself and Others Education plays a crucial role in normalising breastfeeding in public. The more informed you are about the benefits of breastfeeding and your rights, the more confident you will feel. Additionally, by educating those around you, you can help create a more supportive environment. Share Information: Share articles, research, and personal stories about breastfeeding with family and friends to help them understand its importance. Advocate for Breastfeeding-Friendly Spaces: Encourage local businesses and public spaces to provide designated breastfeeding areas and support breastfeeding mothers. Use Distraction Techniques If your baby is easily distracted by the environment when breastfeeding in public, consider using distraction techniques to keep them focused. Some strategies include: Maintaining Eye Contact: Making eye contact with your baby can help them stay focused on breastfeeding. Covering Your Baby’s Head: A lightweight blanket or nursing cover can block out visual distractions and help your baby concentrate on feeding. Stay Hydrated and Nourished Breastfeeding can be physically demanding, so it’s essential to stay hydrated and well-nourished. Carry a water bottle and healthy snacks with you when you go out. Staying hydrated and maintaining your energy levels will help you feel better and more confident while breastfeeding in public. Practice Self-Care Finally, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Being a new mother can be overwhelming, and it’s important to prioritise self-care. Make time for activities that help you relax and recharge, whether it’s taking a walk, reading a book, or spending time with loved ones. The more relaxed and confident you feel, the more comfortable you’ll be breastfeeding in public. Conclusion Breastfeeding in public can be a positive and empowering experience with the right preparation and mindset. By understanding your rights, choosing comfortable clothing, practicing at home, and finding supportive environments, you can build the confidence needed to nurse your baby wherever you go. Remember that breastfeeding is a natural and essential part of motherhood,

November 20, 2025
Wingu Academy

Purpose in Progress — The Power of Intentional Education

In an age when education platforms proliferate, and content is everywhere, the difference lies in why and how we teach. At Wingu Academy, we believe education with purpose transforms lives. Intentional education doesn’t just move students through content—it shapes their thinking, builds agency, and grows capability. Recent empirical research supports the power of live online teaching. A study with pre-service mathematics teachers in China over 51 class hours found that students taught via live classes improved significantly from pre-test to post-test in areas including problem solving and mathematical methodology. This suggests that live, interactive sessions aren’t simply convenient—they’re academically effective. Purposeful education must combine human interaction, accountability, and flexibility. Wingu’s model does just that. Live classes with qualified human teachers help ensure that each learner experiences supportive feedback, immediate clarification of doubts, and dynamic interaction—something research shows increases engagement and retention. For example, a study on “Assessing the Effectiveness of Using Live Interactions and Feedback to Increase Engagement in Online Learning” found that live components and feedback mechanisms strongly correlate with higher learner performance and persistence. But not everyone can always attend live classes. That’s why Wingu complements live instruction with class recordings. Recordings allow learners to revisit complex topics, review explanations, and catch up when schedules clash. Research during the COVID-19 shift showed that many students appreciated the flexibility that recordings brought—being able to pause, rewind, and absorb at their own pace. Accountability matters as well. Real tests and exams—designed and marked by qualified educators—create solid milestones. They measure not just rote memorisation, but comprehension and application. In South Africa, for example, a study of Grade 9 mathematics found that the quality of school-based assessment strongly predicted achievement. When assessments are well designed, clear, and consistent, they contribute significantly to learning outcomes. Qualified teachers add another crucial dimension. Beyond delivering content, they interpret learner signals—facial expression, tone, confusion—and adjust accordingly. They model academic rigour, ethical behaviour, and curiosity. Research on the “Human Element in Teaching” emphasises that emotional cues, teacher empathy, and relational trust improve student motivation, self-efficacy, and social skills. Putting intent into every aspect of education—from lesson planning, teacher-learner interaction, assessment, to flexibility—culminates in progress that’s not superficial. Progress is deeper when learners understand why they learn, feel guided by a capable human, and see their growing competence. At Wingu, our commitment is to deliver education that’s intentional in every detail: live classes that spark engagement, qualified teachers who know both content and context, meaningful assessments, and recordings that support review and reflection. Purpose is our path; progress is our promise.

November 19, 2025
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