Understanding Your Child’s Anxiety (And When to Worry)
Anxiety is a normal and even helpful emotion—especially for children. It helps them stay alert, solve problems, and develop self-awareness. But when anxiety becomes overwhelming or persistent, it can interfere with daily life, friendships, school performance, and overall wellbeing. As a parent, knowing the difference between “normal” childhood fears and a possible anxiety disorder is key. What Does Anxiety Look Like in Kids? Anxiety can show up in many forms. While some children express their worries openly, others may internalise them, leading to physical symptoms or behavioural changes. Common signs of anxiety in children include: It’s important to note that anxiety is often developmentally appropriate at certain ages: Most of the time, these worries pass with support and reassurance. But sometimes, they linger—and intensify. When Should You Start Worrying? Here’s when anxiety might be more than just a passing phase: ✅ It interferes with daily life. Is your child avoiding school, social situations, or family outings because of their anxiety? ✅ It’s persistent. Most childhood fears come and go, but if the anxiety lasts longer than 6 months or gets worse, it may need attention. ✅ It causes distress that seems out of proportion. All kids get nervous, but extreme reactions to routine events may be a red flag. ✅ There’s a family history. If anxiety or other mental health concerns run in your family, your child might be more susceptible. ✅ Your gut is telling you something’s off. You know your child best. If something feels “not quite right,” don’t ignore it. What You Can Do as a Parent Here are some steps you can take to support your anxious child: 🔹 Validate their feelings without amplifying them. Say things like, “I can see this feels really scary for you,” instead of “Don’t be silly.” 🔹 Help them name the worry. Younger kids may respond well to turning anxiety into a character or giving it a silly name: “Oh, Worry Worm is visiting again!” 🔹 Model calm behaviour. Kids absorb your reactions. Breathe deeply, speak gently, and avoid showing panic when they’re anxious. 🔹 Create a worry time. Some children feel better if there’s a set time each day when they can express their concerns. 🔹 Avoid enabling avoidance. Encourage gradual exposure to fears instead of letting your child skip everything that causes anxiety. 🔹 Stick to a routine. Predictability helps anxious kids feel safer. When to Seek Help If anxiety is disrupting your child’s ability to function—academically, socially, or emotionally—it may be time to consult: With support, children can learn to manage anxiety and build confidence. Early intervention makes a big difference—and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Sources:
