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Help your toddler survive your divorce

Divorce is unpleasant, emotional and can be a downright hurtful experience. The problem is that we sometimes forget that we aren’t the only ones experiencing this pain. Often our children suffer an unnecessary degree of hurt as a result of our incompatibility with our chosen partner… Some tips: Consistency This is a watchword for the divorcing parent! With toddlers, parents must be mindful of the need for consistency in the child’s life. This is not the time to drag them from house to house. If at all possible, they should stay in familiar surroundings with the noncustodial parent visiting there. Communication At this age, the toddler understands more than they are often given credit for. They can comprehend that one parent has left the home, but not understand why. At this age, their concept of time is also arbitrary. Your child may ask you when they are going to see their daddy, or why their daddy isn’t here anymore. No matter how many times you have to give them the answers, don’t get frustrated with them, as their world is very confusing at this time. This ties back into consistency, as you become their source of understanding and answers. Conflict If you have to argue or “debate passionately”, make sure to do it in a way that doesn’t cause your child undue fear or concern. Remember, you are the adults in this situation and you have a responsibility to your child, to reduce as much harm as this separation is causing, as possible. Behaviour Toddlers often test their boundaries by saying “No” to adults or testing limits, such as hitting or throwing. This behaviour and acting out can increase during the divorce process as a result of confused boundaries and definitions in the family environment. Toddlers need clear, consistent rules (back to consistency!) that are enforced in a loving way. Empathy Toddlers don’t have a very developed sense of empathy and tend to be concerned primarily with how their own needs are to be met. In the event of divorce, their sense of security becomes more self-oriented and their concern is about whether or not they will be secure, if they will be loved and nourished. Emotions As your toddler becomes more aware of their own feelings, they learn to express them through words and play. As tensions increase in the household due to impending divorce, they may become more reactive. Strong feelings are hard for them to manage and moderate. Don’t forget to let them know that its ok to feel them, but remember to help them manage the intensity by proper displays of your own emotional state, as well as appropriate levels of affection and understanding towards your child. Why do divorce rates increase? There are several reasons that have been put forward as to why there could be an increase in the number of divorces being seen. Here are just a few! Time of year There is a commonly recognised trend that causes a spike in divorce numbers around January and February. The assumption here is that partners who are already discontent often reach a decisive point after having to spend prolonged holidays with their partners over the festive season. This seems to galvanise many into initiating divorce proceedings in the New Year. Empowerment With the increase in awareness of rights according to the constitution of South Africa, more women have become more empowered and are less likely to remain in abusive or undesirable relationships. In the past, many women would remain in unhappy relationships as they felt that they did not have another option, but in current times, a better degree of knowledge and understanding of women’s’ rights could be contributing to the rise of divorce. No-fault divorce South African law provides for no-fault divorce based on the “irretrievable breakdown” of the marital relationship. Couples no longer need to prove that one person is at fault. They can simply say that the marriage relationship has broken down. In essence, it has become much easier to secure a divorce on clear and available legal grounds, with less procedure than in the past. Traditional roles In the past, traditional roles played a strong part in maintaining the marital unit. Partners did not question their lot in the marriage as openly and as a result, there was less open conflict. This is not to say that there was more happiness, merely less interpersonal disagreement. With the blurring of the definition of these roles, there is a rise in open disagreement, ending too often in divorce. Greater social acceptance In certain cultural groups in South Africa, divorce has long held an extremely shameful cloud over the divorcee, especially for the former wife. This has resulted in shunning and community abandonment, which served to discourage others from initiating proceedings. The more accepting the societies become of the concept; the more individuals are willing to pursue it as a route out of an undesirable marriage. Less guilt It is not uncommon these days for couples to wait 10 years before having children. As a result, many do not feel the same degree of guilt over “breaking up” the family unit, or over causing children distress. The disclaimer “at least there aren’t kids involved” can be heard echoing through the divorce courts.

October 30, 2024

10 Essential Tips To Prevent Poisoning In Your Home

I was recently prescribed some analgesics for a small day procedure. That afternoon, when I got home, I placed the packet of meds on my dresser and later found my daughter sitting on the floor inspecting the packet. My heart stopped! This careless mistake could have had devastating consequences. Unfortunately poisoning data in South Africa is lacking. One study dating back to 2012 found that the most common cause of accidental poisoning in SA children is pesticides. However, the list of potential poisons throughout our homes is extensive; here are just a few more obvious ones: Medications Household cleaners and disinfectants Cosmetics and toiletries Insect and rodent repellants Weed killers and other outdoor chemicals Swimming pool chemicals Flea and tick shampoos and other products for pets I have put together a list of some useful tips to prevent accidental poisoning at home. Some of them may seem fairly obvious but as I have recently experienced it is easy to forget. Keep all potential household and other hazards in their original containers. DO NOT transfer into coke bottles or Tupperware’s. Make sure seals of potential hazards are tight and secure before locking away. Please note that child resistant packaging of medications is NOT childproof. Keep potential hazards locked away in the highest cupboard with a childproof lock. The cupboard should even be high for you, as little minds can get quite creative with boxes and stools and climb up onto countertops. Keep potential hazards out of reach of children when in use and never leave bottles or buckets unattended. Never call medicine sweets/candy. This is a common mistake parents make in order to get their kids to take medicine when sick. This could lead to a child one day consuming an entire bottle of ‘sweets’. Never leave your handbag lying around and be extra cautious when you have visitors over as many people keep painkillers in their bags. Alcohol is often overlooked and is very dangerous to your little ones if consumed in excess. Keep alcohol out of reach of children especially when hosting parties. Any kind of battery can be dangerous if leaking or ingested. Keep remote controls and other battery containing devices away from children. If you are unsure about whether or not a household item is hazardous, assume it is and keep it locked away. Things that seem harmless are most often extremely dangerous. Most importantly TEACH your children about the dangers! It may be a good idea to identify what potential hazards you have in your home. Do a check of every room in the house including your garage and make sure your home is safe. RESOURCES Balme, K., Roberts, J.C., Glasstone, M., Curling, L. & Mann, M.D. (2012) The changing trends of childhood poisoning at a tertiarychildren’s hospital in South Africa. South African Medical Journal. [Online] 102 (3), pp. 142-146. Available from: http://www.scielo.org.za/scielo.php?script=sci_arttext&pid=S0256-95742012000300023&lng=en&tlng=en [Accessed 8 August 2018]. Veale, D.J.H., Wium, C.A. & Müller, G.J. (2012) Toxicovigilance I: A survey of acute poisoning in South Africa based on Tygerberg Poison Information Centre data. South African Medical Journal. [Online] 103 (5), pp. 293-297. Available from: http://www.samj.org.za/index.php/samj/article/view/6647/5054 [Accessed 8 August 2018].

October 29, 2024

WHY DO CHILDREN LIE?

The question of why children lie begs the greater question of why any of us lie. If you think back to the last time you lied (and I’ll bet my life you can think of a time), look at what was going on internally and this will give you a good idea of why your children do it and how to avoid it in future. Now before we get to that, let me just say that we all have all traits. We are all liars sometimes and every one of us will be pushed to lie under certain circumstances. So firstly, please never label your child as a liar. Once we apply a label to a child they are more likely (not less) to repeat this behaviour and to incorporate it into their sense of self as they grow up. ALL children lie sometimes (as do ALL adults). Ok, so it’s normal to lie sometimes, but why, and why do some lie more often? Going back to why we all do, lying is a fear-based behaviour. The child believes, for whatever reason, that if they tell the truth it will result in more pain than pleasure. And where do they get this message? From us, of course. We’re constantly giving kids unconscious messages that telling the truth will get you in trouble. “Who ate the sweets?” “I did” “Right, go to your room”. Sound familiar? What we need to get into the habit of doing is praising truth-telling and taking responsibility more than we punish “bad” behaviour. If our children own up and say that they “did it” we should be actively praising this behaviour and pointing out that while the behaviour is not ok with us, we’re really impressed that they told the truth. Children will only lie if they are afraid of our reaction to the truth. I know that many people worry that if they take this approach they will be too soft on the bad behaviour and will end up with unruly kids. One of the fundamental structures for well-behaved, compliant children is being their primary attachment (which implies complete trust, openness and closeness). If your children trust you completely and feel connected to you and loved no matter what they do they will actually be less likely to produce so called “bad” behaviours in the long run. Of course they will make mistakes along the way and present “negative” traits (like we all do) including lying, but this will not develop into any kind of delinquency if that adult-child connection is in place. And part of keeping it in place is keeping the lines of communication open and allowing your children to tell the truth and know they will be safe. I think this is a fundamental skill to work on when your children are little and to instil a sense of open communication and acceptance BEFORE they become teenagers. Once our kids hit the teen years, if we’ve shut off honest communication, we are in for a different level of trouble with our children lying to us about things that can be life threatening, or where they really could use our adult help and guidance. The next time your child lies to you think about why they would be afraid to tell the truth and then instead of punishing them for lying, rather address the rift in your relationship.

October 29, 2024

Halloween

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October 28, 2024

A Bump To The Head: When Should You Worry?

I have attended to many children in the ER who have taken a tumble. In the US, falls account for around half the injury-related ER visits in children under 5 years of age. Most of these falls involve furniture such as changing mats, high chairs, baby walkers and beds. Parents are almost always concerned about head injuries. Majority of head injuries from a fall are usually minor. Children under one who fall are more likely to sustain head injuries regardless of the height from which they fall. Whereas older children are more prone to extremity fractures. This is because an infant’s head is much larger than the rest of their body. As a child grows, their head mass becomes more proportional and they develop upper body strength, which enables them to brace falls with their arms or legs. WHEN TO SEE A DOCTOR If your child is awake, alert and behaving normally after a bump to the head with no other signs and symptoms then he or she will most likely be fine and you don’t have to rush to hospital right away. It’s a good idea to observe your child for 1-2 days afterwards, since symptoms of a brain injury may present late. Seek Medical Attention: For any bump to the head in an infant; If your child has lost consciousness, even if brief; If your child has any signs and symptoms of a concussion (see below); If your child is inconsolable; If your child is vomiting; If your child is difficult to wake; If your child has a seizure; and/or If you suspect a broken bone. If your child has had a bad fall and you suspect a neck injury DO NOT move your child. Call an ambulance right away! Always trust your gut. If you are unsure rather head straight to your nearest emergency room. CONCUSSION A concussion is a brain injury caused by a blow to the head. The signs and symptoms may be vague and may even take a few days to develop. It’s important to know that not all concussions cause a loss of consciousness. Concussions can be more difficult to diagnose in children, as they are not as vocal about their symptoms. Children older than 2 years will show more behavioural symptoms. Signs & symptoms will therefore depend on age and include but are not limited to: Irritable and fussy; Unusually sleepy; Crying more than usual; Change in appetite; Nausea and/or vomiting; Lack of interest in play; Headache; Confusion; Child is unsteady on his or her feet; Sensitivity to light and noise; Blurred or double vision; Dizziness; Unusual speech e.g.: slow or slurred; Poor concentration and memory; and/or Problems with co-ordination. DIAGNOSING A CONCUSSION The doctor will do a thorough evaluation. A CT scan and MRI cannot diagnose a concussion. A CT scan will however, most likely be ordered to exclude a brain bleed or skull fracture depending on the mechanism of injury and presenting symptoms. The majority of falls in children are caused by modifiable factors and are therefore preventable. It’s impossible to bubble wrap our kids and we shouldn’t have to. Falls and tumbles can teach our children valuable lessons, but we can spend time baby proofing our homes and being more cautious to prevent serious injury. Remember to always buckle your baby in their high chair and never leave him or her unattended on a changing mat, not even for a second – it takes seconds for an accident to happen. RESOURCES Burrows, P. et al. (2015) Head injury from falls in children younger than 6 years of age. Arch Dis Child, [online] 100 (11), pp. 1032-1037. Available from: https://0-www-ncbi-nlm-nih-gov.innopac.wits.ac.za/pmc/articles/PMC4680174/ [Accessed 3 October 2018]. CDC (2017) Traumatic Brain Injury & Concussion [online]. Available from: https://www.cdc.gov/traumaticbraininjury/symptoms.html [Accessed 3 october 2018]. Chaudhary, S. et al. (2018) Pediatric falls ages 0–4: understanding demographics, mechanisms, and injury severities. Inj Epidemiol, [online] 5 (suppl 1). Available from: https://0-www-ncbi-nlm-nih-gov.innopac.wits.ac.za/pmc/articles/PMC5893510/ [Accessed 3 October 2018]. Kendrick, D. et al. (2015) Risk and Protective Factors for Falls From Furniture in Young Children Multicenter Case-Control Study. JAMA Pediatr, [online] 169 (2), pp. 145-153. Available from: https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/1939058 [Accessed 3 October 2018]. Samuel, N. et al. (2015) Falls in young children with minor head injury: A prospective analysis of injury mechanisms. Brain Injury, [online] 29 (7-8), pp. 946-950. Available from: https://0-www-tandfonline-com.innopac.wits.ac.za/doi/full/10.3109/02699052.2015.1017005 [Accessed 3 October 2018].

October 25, 2024

Managing Stress As A Teen

How do we define stress? Simply put, it’s an emotion… but it’s one of the most damaging and harmful ones we experience if it’s left unchecked! If it’s not addressed, it can affect not only your mental, but your physical health too. Many adults are of the opinion that teens don’t really know what true stress is. They are wrong! Stress is an emotion that can be experienced by new-born babies, toddlers and human beings of all ages. The things that make us stress may differ, but that doesn’t make it any less real. So, what makes you stress? Some of the most common factors that teens report as influencing their stress levels are: Parental expectation: “Did you do well in the test? Are you trying your hardest? I don’t like what you’re wearing. I don’t like how you’re behaving; did you make 1st team? I thought you were a leader…” Peer pressure: (the old favourite), Ask her out, smoke this, drink that, take one of these, sneak out, study later… From yourself: I’m too fat, I’m too skinny, I don’t dress properly, I don’t get enough respect, I don’t go out enough, I don’t study hard enough… Good stress vs bad stress. It’s important to remember that even though stress is uncomfortable, it’s not always bad. Stress can help us deal with tough situations. A lot of stress changes our bodies quickly and helps us react to an emergency. A little stress keeps us alert and helps us work harder. Unfortunately, a lot of stress is going to make doing these things harder. So, the key is to find a balance between enough and too much. Stress is a survival tool. When we are stressed, our brain triggers a hormone release and sends something called Cortisol running through our system. This helpful little guy prepares our body to react to stressors, such as physical danger. Normally, you’d run from danger or fight it, using up that juice in your system. Unfortunately, when we stress ourselves out so much as a result of perceived challenges, we are filling our body with cortisol and often don’t use it to power our behaviour. So what happens? You have this emotional supercharge running through your veins and brain, with nowhere to go, just hanging around causing harm, premature grey hairs and messing with your other hormones. Manage that stress. Learn to understand your stress, where it comes from and how to relieve it or avoid it. Ask yourself if there are people or situations in your life that are just not worth the stress and see if you can avoid them. If you can’t, learn to manage their impact on you. Speak to your parents about what motivates you and what stresses you to the point of collapse. If that doesn’t work, take the unknown out of the equation and show them how much work you are doing or can do in a given day. Let them know that you’re already trying your best and need their support instead of pressure. Go for a run, lift a weight, eat properly and sleep better! Know that it’s up to you to change the circumstances that cause you to stress, because once you’ve got that figured out, you can chill.

October 24, 2024

Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids…

Did you know that in the languages of Sweden, Norway and Finland, where they experience long snow-filled winters, there are as many as 180 snow and ice related words. That’s a lot of ways to talk about something we just call, well, snow and ice. Imagine how differently snow would appear to you if you had so many ways to describe it rather than just cold, wet and white! Now think about how much richer your child’s emotional life would be if they could describe what they were feeling with more words than just happy, sad and mad. The thing is, the labels that we apply to our emotions do more than just help us to communicate with others what is going on in our internal world. They also help us to understand how to process and cope with what is going on and assist us in directing our behavior appropriately.For example… If you are just “sad”, then you might have only two options… cry and/or wait it out. But if you differentiate sadness into loneliness, boredom, grief, tiredness, melancholy, nostalgia, heartbrokeness or disappointment, then you suddenly have a few more options. You can phone a friend to alleviate loneliness; you can hop onto Pinterest for some craft ideas if you’re bored; you can take a nap if you’re tired; or adjust your expectations if you’re disappointed.Our emotions are the language of the unconscious mind and are there to help us to live more authentic, fulfilled lives by directing our attention to things that need to be addressed, by changing our physiology for survival, and by drawing our attention to the things that bring us joy so that we can do more of them. The more in tune we are with these messages, the more likely we are to live a rich, meaningful existence.Think of this as a relationship between yourself and this other aspect of your mind. The relationship is going to be a fairly shallow one if you only know a few words of the other partner’s language!So the main key to helping children to develop emotional intelligence is to develop their emotional vocabulary. Happy, sad and mad are fine when you’re three, but not when you’re 13 or 23 (or even 53!). Get out that dictionary. Start by making a long list of all the feeling words you can find. Keep adding to this as you discover more. Turn these into a daily emotional tracking chart that the whole family can use. Play emotional charades by placing all your newly learned words into a hat and each family member picking one and acting it out to see if the others can guess the feeling. Load a thesaurus onto your phone and every time you want to describe how you feel find another 5 ways of saying that which would more accurately describe your state. Read to your kids and discuss how the characters are feeling. Engage your children in emotional discussions. Really really listen to what they are saying and see if you can find the perfect word to sum it all up. Consider making up your own words if the perfect word doesn’t exist yet. Adding “hangry” to our vocabularies to describe the irritation that comes when you haven’t eaten enough has helped us to take the right action in the situation (i.e. instead of punishing the child that is lashing out, we give them a snack!). Language helps us to process our world, to interact with others and to express our needs and desires. Emotional language assists us in understanding ourselves, having empathy for others, directing our behavior appropriately, and managing our internal state. Transform snow into a damp, piercing and ghostly environment where you are engulfed by its icy transparency… and transform your child’s emotional world into as colourful a landscape. Emotionally intelligent kids need a vocabulary that is rich enough to express the depth of their internal world.

October 23, 2024

Common First Aid Myths

I am often surprised by how some of my patients manage their injuries before they come to the emergency room. I think my own mother is also guilty of practising some really strange methods whilst I was growing up. Over the years, medical advice and management has evolved. What may have made sense years ago is now out of date and has been replaced with more sound research and often logic. Here are just a few of the first aid practices and myths that I have seen over the years.

October 22, 2024

Supa Strikas Rookie Season PLUS Supa Strikas Freestyle Challenge

Rookie Season is here, and Shakes is back to where it all began! Join our youngest Supa Strikas star on his wild ride as he tackles betrayal, searches for his dad, and takes on epic soccer challenges. Will he conquer the Super League Trophy and impress his sister? ⚽️ Plus, catch Shakes going head-to-head with freestyle football champs Lia Lewis and Tobias Becs! Watch as they show off jaw-dropping moves like thigh pops, splits, sole swipes, and more! ⚽️ Premiere Monday 21 October 2024 ⏰ Tune-in Monday to Friday @ 17:50 CAT Available on DSTV Catch-Up until 5 December 2024

October 21, 2024

Ninjago: Dragons Rising

In this epic series, worlds collide as legendary realms suddenly merge into one, but the fusion is far from stable! ✨ Enter a Spinjitzu Ninja Master, who’s on a mission to train a brand-new generation of heroes to rise up and defend the land. Their quest? To track down the powerful Elemental Dragons , mystical creatures with the power to save the planet. But beware—evil forces are lurking, ready to harness the same dragon energy for their own wicked plans, threatening to destroy this newly-formed world! ⚡ Will our young heroes succeed, or will darkness prevail? Get ready for an action-packed adventure full of twists, teamwork, and ninja moves! Premiere Saturday 19 October 2024 ⏰ Tune-in Weekends 08:05 CAT Available on DSTV Catch-Up until 17 December 2024

October 18, 2024

HOW TO ENCOURAGE A GROWTH MINDSET IN CHILDREN

Have you heard of a growth mindset? It’s become somewhat of a buzzword lately and that’s because it really does make a difference to a child’s ability to learn something and their confidence in trying new things. A fixed mindset is one in which we say things like: “I can’t do that” or “I am not good at something”. It’s the belief that our abilities are fixed – that we are either clever or not, either sporty or not. The growth mindset is the opposite. With a growth mindset we acknowledge that we can always improve with a bit of effort. We understand that our brains are not fixed, but constantly changing; that our abilities are not just genetic but influenced by what we do. We see that it is possible for all people to learn new things, even though it may be more of a challenge for some. Why does this matter? Well, with a fixed mindset a child is less likely to try new things, and more likely to give up when something gets difficult – which can seriously limit their options in life. It also leads to misidentification and self-handicapping – protecting themselves from failure by either not investing their self-esteem or identity into something difficult, or having a good excuse ready for falling short. So here are ten tips for maintaining and encouraging a growth mindset: Expose your children to information on how the brain changes and learns. Teach them that intelligence grows like a muscle and it needs challenge in order to get the right exercise. Don’t praise cleverness – praise effort. Focus on a child’s hard work rather than on the outcome of that work or on fixed measurements like IQ. Encourage failure. Praise children for giving something a go and for having the courage to face challenges. Let them celebrate their failures as a sign of being brave enough to try. Show them how failure leads to growth. Avoid superhero worship. Focus on everyday people who do amazing things through hard work and struggle. Tell them stories of your own doubts and challenges and how you made it through. Teach them to say, “How can I?” instead of “I can’t”. Using a question opens up creative thinking and stops the brain from giving up on the problem. Teach them to add “…yet” to the end of things they can’t do. For example, “I can’t do maths… yet”. This helps them to focus on what they still need to do to master something rather than on their current inability. Give them examples of others who have failed and succeeded e.g. basketball players missing more goals than they hit. Give them examples of where they have failed and succeeded e.g. struggling with a new computer game that they now play effortlessly. 10. Acknowledge their frustration when they are doing something difficult without jumping in and doing things for them. Everything is difficult at first. Our kids often don’t get good role models of this because they see us doing things that we’ve done for years and years and of course these things look easy. Then they try to do these same things and struggle. We need to remind them that we also struggled once. In fact, everyone struggles to some degree with a new task. But with practice and a dedication to continue, everything gets easier. We were all born with the ability to learn and grow – not just some people.

October 18, 2024

How To Be Angry Without Destroying Your Kids’ Self-Confidence

All too often I hear parents trying to repress their anger around their kids. Now this is not only unhealthy for you (repressed emotions actually create illness within the body) but it is also not great for your kids to grow up believing that some emotions are simply not ok to have. All emotions are a part of our human journey, and are messages from our unconscious mind regarding things we need to pay attention to or change in our lives. Having said that, it is also worth noting that telling your child that THEY are making YOU angry, sad, irritated (or even happy) is simply too much responsibility to place on another human being, particularly a little one! No one can MAKE you anything. Think about squeezing an orange. What comes out? I’m hoping that you’re saying “orange juice”! Not guava juice or pear juice or cherry flavoured Coca-Cola! Why? Because you only get out what is already within. So if your kids are pushing your buttons and there’s anger coming out, well then that’s what is within. Take responsibility for your own emotions. Own them – they’re yours. However, this does not mean that you are not allowed to experience these emotions, and even experience them very strongly in the presence of your children. So how do we express strong negative emotions without damaging our kids and making them feel responsible for us and our emotional state? How do we teach them to take responsibility for THEIR own emotions and not blame you or their siblings or teachers or life for how it is that THEY are feeling? It all starts with the little one-letter word “I”. “I am feeling soooo angry right now”, “I am feeling more and more and more irritated, so irritated that I could just scream”, “I am feeling ridiculously happy, like the luckiest person in the world”. As opposed to: “You are making me very angry”, “You are irritating me”, “You make your mom sooo happy”. Can you see the difference? And these can be said with as much emotion or volume as you feel is appropriate. You can even step it up in ways that they can relate to and that gives them some warning about where you’re at… “I am about as angry as a pea right now… Now I’m as angry as a small cat… AND NOW I’M AS ANGRY AS A LARGE ELEPHANT!!!” They will get the message. They will learn when to step away. They will learn how to experience strong emotional states themselves without lashing out at others. What they won’t learn is to take responsibility for you. What they won’t learn is to blame. What they won’t learn is to beat themselves up for your inner state. This builds emotional maturity, responsibility and self-confidence. All emotions are ok, but how we choose to express them is what makes the biggest difference.

October 17, 2024

How Safe Are Teething Gels?

Every baby is different but common symptoms associated with teething include, mild irritability, drooling, low-grade fever and loss of appetite. If your baby is inconsolable or has a high fever chances are this is not due to teething. Teething should not make your baby very sick but rather very unhappy.

October 17, 2024

HEALTHY MEAL IDEAS FOR CHILDREN

Healthy eating is an important lesson you can teach your children. The example you set is the best way to help your kids make smart food choices and to develop a positive relationship with food. A healthy, balanced diet is not just good for kid’s bodies, it’s good for their brains, too. The right foods can improve brain function, memory, and concentration. Like the body, the brain absorbs nutrients from the foods we eat, and these 10 “superfoods” can help children boost their brainpower. Fatty fish, such as salmon, is a good source of omega-3 fatty acids that are needed for brain growth and function. Getting enough of these fatty acids can help kids improve their mental skills. TRY: Make salmon sandwiches (on whole wheat bread) instead of tuna for a healthy alternative. Eggs are a great source of protein, and their yolks have choline, an important nutrient for memory development. TRY: A homemade breakfast wrap, loaded with veggies for a quick and healthy breakfast before school. Kids love peanut butter, and that’s a good thing since this healthy snack is packed with vitamin E, an antioxidant that protects nerve membranes. It also has thiamin, which is good for the brain, and glucose which gives energy. TRY: Peanut butter makes a great dip for fruits such as bananas, and for veggies such as celery. Whole grains such as breads and cereals provide glucose, an energy source the brain needs. Whole grains also contain B vitamins, which are good for the nervous system. TRY: Add whole grains to most meals by switching to whole grain breads, wraps, and crackers. Oats and oatmeal are excellent sources of energy and brain “fuel.” Oats are packed with fiber to help keep kids feeling full so they don’t snack on junk food. They are also an excellent source of vitamins E, B complex, and zinc to help kids’ brains work their best. TRY: Oatmeal can be a base for almost any topping such as apples, bananas, blueberries or even almonds. Berries can help improve memory and are packed with vitamin C and other antioxidants. Seeds from berries also contain omega-3 fats that help with brain function. Look for strawberries, cherries, blueberries, and blackberries – the more intense the colour of the berry, the more nutrition it has. TRY: Berries can be used in smoothies or just as they are for healthy snacks or desserts. Bean, beans, good for the heart… so the saying goes. They are also good for kid’s brains since they have energy from protein, complex carbohydrates, fiber, and vitamins and minerals. They can keep energy levels high. Kidney and pinto beans are good choices as they contain more omega-3 fatty acids that other bean varieties, which are important for brain growth and function. TRY: Add beans as a salad topper, as filler for lettuce wraps, or even add them to spaghetti for a more nutritious meal. Vegetables with rich, deep colour are an excellent source of antioxidants to keep the brain cells healthy. Some veggies to include in your child’s diet are tomatoes, sweet potatoes, pumpkin, carrots, or spinach. It’s easy to sneak veggies into spaghetti sauces or soups. TRY: Replace potato or corn chips in your child’s lunch with baked sweet potato wedges or easy-to-snack-on veggies such as sugar snap peas or baby carrots. B vitamins are necessary for growth of brain tissue, neurotransmitters, and enzymes, and dairy products are a good source for these nutrients. Low fat milk or yogurt is great sources of protein and carbohydrates foe the brain. Dairy is also an excellent source of vitamin D, which children and teens need in greater amounts than adults. TRY: Low-fat cheese sticks make a great to-go snack and are a good source of calcium. Lean beef or meat alternatives are excellent sources of iron, which helps kids maintain energy and focus in school. Beef is also a good source of zinc, which aids memory. Vegetarian kids can get their iron from black bean and soy burgers. Beans have what is called nonheme iron, which needs vitamin C to be absorbed so have them eat their veggie burgers or beans with good sources of vitamin C such as peppers or orange juice. TRY: Grilled lean-meat kabobs or grilled black bean burgers make a tasty and healthy alternative to regular hamburgers and hotdogs for your next braai!

October 16, 2024

Healthy Eating Habits for Children

Healthy eating is an important lesson you can teach your children. The example you set is the best way to help your kids make smart food choices and to develop a positive relationship with food. A healthy, balanced diet is not just good for kid’s bodies, it’s good for their brains, too. The right foods can improve brain function, memory, and concentration. Like the body, the brain absorbs nutrients from the foods we eat, and these 10 “superfoods” can help children boost their brainpower. Fatty fish, such as salmon, is a good source of omega-3 fatty acids that are needed for brain growth and function. Getting enough of these fatty acids can help kids improve their mental skills. Make salmon sandwiches (on whole wheat bread) instead of tuna for a healthy alternative. Eggs are a great source of protein, and their yolks have choline, an important nutrient for memory development. Try a homemade breakfast wrap, loaded with veggies for a quick and healthy breakfast before school. Kids love peanut butter, and that’s a good thing since this healthy snack is packed with vitamin E, an antioxidant that protects nerve membranes. It also has thiamin, which is good for the brain, and glucose which gives energy. Peanut butter makes a great dip for fruits such as bananas, and for veggies such as celery. Whole grains such as breads and cereals provide glucose, an energy source the brain needs. Whole grains also contain B vitamins, which are good for the nervous system. Add whole grains to most meals by switching to whole grain breads, wraps, and crackers. Oats and oatmeal are excellent sources of energy and brain “fuel.” Oats are packed with fiber to help keep kids feeling full so they don’t snack on junk food. They are also an excellent source of vitamins E, B complex, and zinc to help kids’ brains work their best. Oatmeal can be a base for almost any topping such as apples, bananas, blueberries or even almonds. Berries can help improve memory and are packed with vitamin C and other antioxidants. Seeds from berries also contain omega-3 fats that help with brain function. Look for strawberries, cherries, blueberries, and blackberries – the more intense the color of the berry, the more nutrition it has. Berries can be used in smoothies or just as they are for healthy snacks or desserts. Bean, beans, good for the heart… so the saying goes. They are also good for kid’s brains since they have energy from protein, complex carbohydrates, fiber, and vitamins and minerals. They can keep energy levels high. Kidney and pinto beans are good choices as they contain more omega-3 fatty acids that other bean varieties, which are important for brain growth and function. Add beans as a salad topper, as filler for lettuce wraps, or even add them to spaghetti for a more nutritious meal. Vegetables with rich, deep color are an excellent source of antioxidants to keep the brain cells healthy. Some veggies to include in your child’s diet are tomatoes, sweet potatoes, pumpkin, carrots, or spinach. It’s easy to sneak veggies into spaghetti sauces or soups. Replace potato or corn chips in your child’s lunch with baked sweet potato wedges or easy-to-snack-on veggies such as sugar snap peas or baby carrots. B vitamins are necessary for growth of brain tissue, neurotransmitters, and enzymes, and dairy products are a good source for these nutrients. Low fat milk or yogurt is great sources of protein and carbohydrates foe the brain. Dairy is also an excellent source of vitamin D, which children and teens need in greater amounts than adults. Low-fat cheese sticks make a great to-go snack and are a good source of calcium. Lean beef or meat alternatives are excellent sources of iron, which helps kids maintain energy and focus in school. Beef is also a good source of zinc, which aids memory. Vegetarian kids can get their iron from black bean and soy burgers. Beans have what is called nonheme iron, which needs vitamin C to be absorbed so have them eat their veggie burgers or beans with good sources of vitamin C such as peppers or orange juice. Grilled lean-meat kabobs or grilled black bean burgers make a tasty and healthy alternative to regular hamburgers and hotdogs for your next braai!

October 15, 2024

Grapes PLUS 8 other things your toddler can choke on

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October 15, 2024

Barney’s World

Say hello to Barney, the lovable, singing, and dancing purple dino who’s all about spreading love! In this brand-new animated series, Barney teams up with his dino pals Billy and Baby Bop , along with their three kid besties! Together, they dive into fun-filled, silly adventures at the local playground , where Barney helps them explore big feelings, self-love, and how to care for others and their community. ❤️ Get ready for a heartwarming journey of friendship and fun! Premiere Monday 14 October 2024 ⏰ Tune-in Monday to Friday @ 16:15 CAP Available on DSTV Catch-Up until 25 November 2024

October 14, 2024

BARNEY DANCES BACK ONTO SCREENS IN BRAND NEW BARNEY’S WORLD PREMIERING ON CARTOONITO AFRICA ON 14 OCTOBER

Get Ready to Join the Fun and Feel the Love All Over Again! Mattel’s beloved purple dinosaur Barney returns to our screens in an all-new animated series, Barney’s World, starting 14 October on Cartoonito Africa! It’s time to dust off your dancing shoes and get ready for some dinosaur-sized fun because everyone’s favourite purple dinosaur, Barney, is back! After 14 years, the lovable dino returns to the screen in the all-new animated seriesBarney’s World, premiering Monday, 14 October 2024, on Cartoonito Africa. In this exciting new series co-produced by Mattel Television and Corus Entertainment’s Nelvana, Barney and his friends embark on colourful, music-filled adventures that teach kids timeless lessons about friendship, kindness, and self-love. Set in magical and fun locations—from a splash pad and enchanted forest to a desert pirate island—Barney’s World is sure to spark imaginations across Africa. And guess who’s back? Joining Barney are the dynamic duo of Baby Bop and Billy, plus three new kid besties: Mel, Vivie, and David! Together, they dive into silly, imaginative play while learning that everyone is special in their own way. Packed with 25 new songs, 52 episodes, and endless adventures, Barney’s World is the perfect way to introduce a new generation to the purple dinosaur’s charm. Meet the Dino Crew Barney (voiced by Jonathon Langdon from Trap, ZOMBIES) – Always ready for fun, Barney uses his big purple magic to turn everyday moments into grand adventures. He’s a great listener who helps kids explore their big emotions—whether they’re feeling happy, sad, or anything in between! Baby Bop (voiced by Bryn McAuley from Hotel Transylvania: The Series) – A performer at heart, Baby Bop knows all about feelings and is a true advocate for expressing them, no matter how big or small. Billy (voiced by Jonathon Tan from My Little Pony: Tell Your Tale, Let’s Go, Bananas!) – This high-energy dino loves a good challenge and always brings the noise (and action) to the group! Mel (voiced by Diana Tsoy from Peter Pan & Wendy) – A quick-witted, competitive kiddo who’s always up for a game and some friendly rivalry. Vivie (voiced by Ella Paccioco, vocal start) – Full of creativity and care, Vivie is the nurturing soul of the group with a huge imagination. David (voiced by Jayd Deroch-T) – Empathetic and thoughtful, David is the kind-hearted glue that keeps the gang close. What to Expect? A whole lot of fun, friendship, and life lessons! With magical moments, sing-along tunes, and unforgettable stories, Barney’s World will have both kids and parents feeling the love. It’s a show that brings back all the nostalgia of the beloved Barney we grew up with while adding fresh new adventures for today’s little ones. So, mark your calendars and don’t miss Barney’s World on Cartoonito Africa starting Monday, 14 October 2024 at 16:15 CAT. It’s time to fall in love with Barney all over again!

October 11, 2024

Yes, men can get breast cancer

Dr Salomine Theron, a radiologist at the SCP Radiology and Dr Lizanne Langenhoven, who specialises in the treatment of breast cancer, talk about breast cancer in men, how prevalent it is as well as the radiology behind the diagnosis, treatment and surveillance for recurrence. ‘It may come as a surprise that men can develop breast cancer,’ says Dr Langenhoven. ‘In fact, about 1% of all breast cancer cases are diagnosed in men. Unfortunately, men often present with more advanced disease, because they are not aware that they can develop breast cancer in the first place.’ Dr Theron says radiology plays a pivotal role in the diagnosis and treatment of breast cancer in both men and women. However, there is a difference in terms of radiology’s initial role in screening for breast cancer. ‘In women over 40, we recommend an annual mammography,’ she says. ‘In other words, looking for cancers which are asymptomatic. So even if there are no changes to your breast visibly or a lump, we still screen for anything that may develop into breast cancer or has already. ‘In men, that is not standard practice’ Here radiology is diagnostic and the referral is as a result of a lump in the breast, under the arm, there’s puckering or nipple pain. The mammogram differs too. It is a single mammogram image of each breast so that a comparison can be made. In men, it will also include breast ultrasound and evaluation of the lymph nodes under the armpit. Dr Theron says, ‘the imaging of a lump may also be incidental. For example, when we do any form of CT imaging on the chest in a male, even when creating images of the lungs, we always look at the soft tissue in the breast area. If we see an asymmetric nodule with an irregular shape (almost like a star) we alert the patient’s healthcare provider, even though that wasn’t the reason for the CT scan’. Is a breast lump always in men always cancer? ‘No,’ says Dr Langenhoven, ‘About 50% of males develop small lumps in each of their breasts during puberty, usually behind the nipples which can be tender. This is called gynecomastia – colloquially a ‘stony’ and it’s perfectly normal. It usually goes away as they finish puberty. ‘Breast cancer, on the other hand, usually presents as a firm nodule in one breast that is not tender. There are some men who present with inflammatory breast cancer, where the breast is red, swollen and tender. This is however, a rare but aggressive type of invasive breast cancer in which cancer cells block lymph vessels in the skin.’ She says, ‘the first message is one of awareness. Men can develop breast cancer. And that they should see their GP if they become aware of a lump in their breasts which feels firm and asymmetrical or if the breast becomes red, swollen and tender.’ The second message is one of precaution Women and men can inherit the harmful BRCA1 or BRCA2 gene mutation that belong to a class of genes, known as tumour suppressors and have an increased risk of breast cancer. Dr Langenhoven says, ‘I have a patient in my practice who presented with a hard lump on his left breast. Because he was aware of his family’s history of breast cancer, he went to his GP for an examination. A mammogram and biopsy confirmed the diagnosis of breast cancer. She says men with these genes should always be assessed by a genetic counsellor. In addition, should you have a family member diagnosed with male breast cancer, prostate cancer below the age of fifty or ovarian cancer (women), you should seek the opinion of a genetic counsellor to discuss the possible genetic risk and the option of genetic testing. Prevention is better than cure.’ The role of radiology in diagnosis ‘A suspicious lump or mass can only be definitively diagnosed by a biopsy,’ says Dr Theron. She explains that there are three biopsy options: Ultrasound guided core biopsies, where a sample of tissue or blood is taken for testing by a pathologist and a marker is left in the lesion or lump where the sample was taken A fine needle aspiration (FNA) is a procedure to obtain a sample of cells from your body for testing by a cytologist for cancer cells usually of a lymph node or occasionally of a breast mass A vacuum-assisted biopsy can produce slightly larger samples of tissues which is sent to the pathology lab If there is no lump visible on ultrasound, only suspicious calcification on the mammogram, stereotactic guided vacuum biopsy will be done. Put simply, a mammogram will help us find the abnormality to biopsy If the lump is very small or has a cystic component, an ultrasound guided vacuum assisted biopsy will be performed Radiology at every stage of cancer care ‘Radiology is integral to breast cancer management beyond diagnosis, providing critical information that guides clinical decisions at every stage of care,’ says Dr Theron. ‘This includes staging of the disease, it allows for precise treatment planning, guiding surgical procedures, effective monitoring of treatment responses, early detection of recurrence, all of which are essential for improving patient outcomes.’ Male breast cancer treatment Men with breast cancer are treated exactly as their female counterparts. Based on the type of breast cancer and the extent (stage), treatment options include chemotherapy, hormone withdrawal therapy, targeted therapies, immunotherapy, surgery and radiotherapy. ‘Even though only one in a hundred diagnosed cases of breast cancer is men,’ says Dr Theron, ‘we still urge men and of course women to check themselves regularly and to see a doctor if they feel or see any changes in their breasts.’ Early detection can save your life.

October 9, 2024

Help to remove barriers this October for breast cancer survivors

There’s something so gratifying, almost magical, about the way mushrooms fruit from mycelium to food heroes in mere weeks. And it’s true too for the immense love and support expressed by South Africans to breast cancer survivors through the Power of Pink campaign, which annually affirms that we are all stronger together! Each October, during Breast Cancer Awareness Month, Pick n Pay stores collaborate with the South African Mushroom Farmers’ Association (SAMFA) – and the public, of course – to offer hope and dignity to underprivileged breast cancer survivors in need of reconstructive breast prostheses by raising funds for Reach for Recovery’s (R4R) Ditto Project. This non-profit uses the proceeds from the yearly Power of Pink campaign – R1 from each pink punnet of mushrooms sold during October at PnP stores – to buy individually fitted and colour co-ordinated silicone breast moulds for women who have undergone a life-saving mastectomy but cannot afford breast reconstruction. This is just one of the services offered by R4R, which is run entirely by volunteers who themselves are breast cancer survivors. “It’s important for breast cancer survivors to share their journey to remind each other that there is hope, that breast cancer is not a death sentence,” explains Nirri Moethilalh, Chairperson of R4R’s Durban branch. In 2024, this lively band of survivors supported and visited over 6300 breast cancer patients in state hospitals, handing out more than 2882 care bags filled with information and support items, all funded by the Power of Pink campaign. But most notably, 868 state patients who had mastectomies and no medical aid, have been fitted with prostheses at no cost to them through the Ditto Project. These silicone forms sell for more than R3500 per mould on the open market but are procured by R4R at an average price of R881 per unit. “We have done more than we thought we could, but we can see how much we still have to do because there are thousands of women in dire circumstances and in desperate need of our support,” notes Stephné Jacobs, R4R National Chairperson. “The experience of witnessing the impact of the Ditto Project, which has been making waves in South Africa since 2011, has been incredible,” she adds. “We are elated at the ongoing support of the Power of Pink campaign so that many more under-served South African breast cancer survivors can be reached.” This is a sentiment mirrored by SAMFA Chairperson, Ross Richardson. “We are once again encouraged by the work of R4R and the willingness of ordinary South Africans to uplift those among us who don’t have many resources. We thank, in advance, each individual who picks up a pink punnet of mushrooms in October and adds it to their shopping cart. We thank you for your participation and solidarity, for standing alongside breast cancer survivors, and for being stronger together.” Fresh mushrooms have been linked to lower breast cancer risk for some time. The Beckman Institute at the City of Hope Cancer Center, California, in 2010 indicated that eating 10g of mushrooms per day – that’s just one button mushroom – more than halved the risk of developing breast cancer. More recently, a 2021 systematic review and meta-analysis of observational studies published in the peer-reviewed ScienceDirect, stated that, “Higher mushroom consumption was associated with lower risk of total cancer. Higher mushroom consumption was also associated with lower risk of breast cancer.” This October we ask you to be inspired by the work of R4R, who are in turn inspired by the words of author Emily Maroutian: “If you want to know where to find your contribution to the world, look at your wounds. When you learn how to heal them, teach others.” Pink punnets of fresh mushrooms will be on shelf all Pick n Pay stores throughout the month of October. Please buy generously, for your health and for the Power of Pink.

October 8, 2024

Pokémon Horizons- The Series

⚡️ A new adventure begins after Ash! Join Liko and her partner Sprigatito , along with Roy, as they meet exciting characters—including the Rising Volt Tacklers—on their epic Pokémon journey! Premiere Monday 7 October 2024 ⏰ Tune-in Monday to Friday @ 17:30 CAT Available on DSTV Catch-Up 11 November 2024

October 7, 2024

Zig and Sharko

Zig and Sharko are back on their island, but there’s no time for a holiday! Zig’s still chasing Marina, and Sharko’s still protecting her—but things just got way more interesting! Marina found a magical pair of slides that give her legs some serious superpowers! ⚡ Now, the once graceful mermaid is discovering all the cool things two legs can do, and she’s loving every minute of it! ‍♀️ But as Marina becomes faster and stronger, she’s not only harder to catch for Zig, but even tougher for Sharko to protect! Get ready for more fun, action, and crazy chases! Premiere Monday 7 October 2024 ⏰ Tune-in Monday to Friday @ 16:45 CAT Available on DSTV Catch-Up 23 November 2024

October 7, 2024

Jessica’s Big Little World

Whether she’s aiming to grow a few centimetres or nail her bedtime routine , Jessica’s dream is all about becoming an independent “big girl”! “Jessica’s Big Little World” shows her brave and determined journey as she masters the skills to make her dreams come true! Premiere Saturday 5 October 2024 ⏰ Tune-in Weekends @ 08:30 CAT Available on DSTV Catch-Up 19 until November 2024

October 4, 2024

Managing hyperpigmentation: The do’s and don’ts

Hyperpigmentation is one of the most common skin concerns in South Africa and it can affect men and women of all ages, and all skin tones. Sadly, it may sometimes be difficult to treat, and those who are prone to it will likely have to manage it continuously, as unwanted dark marks may return even once they have been minimised. Hyperpigmentation is sometimes referred to as dark marks or uneven skin tone. It happens when the skin’s melanin (pigment) production is increased, and this excess melanin takes the shape of dark marks on the skin. There are various reasons why the skin may produce excess melanin, one of which is sun exposure. When our skin is exposed to the sun, it produces more melanin to protect itself (which becomes a sun tan), but sometimes the skin doesn’t produce melanin evenly, which results in dark patches. Sun-induced hyperpigmentation is especially common in fair skin tones. Sun exposure can result in dark marks, but it can also worsen hyperpigmentation caused by hormones or injury (including acne scars). So even if the sun did not cause your hyperpigmentation, it may still worsen it. Luckily, the advancement of modern technology, professional skincare treatments and skincare products means that hyperpigmentation is becoming more manageable. While there are various causes and triggers of hyperpigmentation, there are a few things that everyone can do to help prevent the formation, and treat existing areas of concern: The do’s Determine the root cause The most common cause of hyperpigmentation is sun exposure, but it is not the only one. Hormonal changes, certain medications or acne may all be to blame. To find the best solution for your hyperpigmentation, it is important to determine what is causing it. Pay a visit to your dermatologist or skincare therapist to find out what is triggering it, and how it can be treated. Avoid excessive sun exposure To prevent hyperpigmentation from worsening, it is important to stay out of the sun during peak hours (from around 10am to 2pm). This is when the sun’s UV rays are at their strongest and capable of doing the most damage. If you are going outside, be sure to cover up with protective clothing, a wide brimmed hat and sunglasses and apply sunscreen to all exposed areas. Invest in good quality products that are proven to help minimise hyperpigmentation If you have unwanted dark marks, you need to use skincare products that were specifically formulated for hyperpigmented skin. For real results, invest in a good quality range that has clinical studies to back up their claims. Lamelle’s Luminesce range intervenes with pigment formation in melasma at the skin’s DNA level and inhibits the pathways of pigment formation. The range contains a cleanser, moisturisers, eye cream and sun protection, so you can enjoy an entire regime of products aimed at managing and preventing hyperpigmentation. Add vitamin C to your skincare regime Vitamin C is widely used for its brightening benefits. It protects the cells in the skin from being injured by free radicals formed with sun exposure. It is a potent antioxidant that protects the skin from the formation on hyperpigmentation while minimising existing hyperpigmentation and increasing the skin’s radiance. Incorporate a vitamin C serum like Lamelle Correctives Vita C Lipid Serum in your daily regime. This lipid-soluble vitamin C serum offers advanced vitamin C action without irritating the skin. The don’ts Don’t leave home without applying SPF first Sun protection is our number one fighter in the combat against hyperpigmentation. No matter what time of the day it is, or how sunny it is outside, you absolutely have to apply SPF before heading outdoors. This is a non-negotiable if you’re serious about minimising existing pigmentation, or preventing the formation of new dark marks. Lamelle Helase 50 offers unique broad-spectrum protection by protecting you against effects of the full spectrum of solar radiation, including visible and infrared light. This while also mopping up damage that might be caused by the sun. Don’t try home remedies If you follow beauty content on Instagram or Tik Tok you may be familiar with some of the home remedies people use in an attempt to treat hyperpigmentation. From lemon juice to bicarbonate of soda, social media is filled with DIY skincare recipes. We recommend steering clear of these trends, as they are not proven successful, and many of them are actually harmful to the skin. Don’t scrub excessively A common myth is that exfoliating your skin regularly with a scrub will help remove stubborn pigmentation. This is entirely untrue. While exfoliation forms an important part of a healthy skincare regime, mechanical scrubs have a tendency to create micro-tears in the skin, plus, if you over-exfoliate, you may actually damage your skin barrier, cause sensitivity and end up worsening the hyperpigmentation. Opt for an enzymatic exfoliator such as Lamelle Correctives Cathepzyme once or twice a week instead. Don’t pick your skin Ever heard of post-inflammatory hyperpigmentation (PIH)? Those are the dark marks that remain behind after a pimple has healed. When you pick at blemishes, you not only put your skin at risk of infection, but you also increase your chances of developing PIH. As difficult as it may be, avoid picking at blemishes or touching them unnecessarily. Apply a treatment gel such as Lamelle Clarity Active Control twice a day and allow the blemish to heal. While hyperpigmentation is known for being tricky to manage, it is not impossible, and with the right products and lifestyle choices, you too can enjoy an even skin tone and radiant complexion. For more information, visit www.lamelle.co.za.

October 4, 2024

How to spring-clean your beauty cupboard and achieve the same results with fewer items

For a long time, we’ve been accustomed to a culture of over-consumption, in which we’re made to believe that we need more than we actually do. Think about those 12-step Korean beauty regimes, for example. Who has the budget or time to apply 12 skincare products, twice a day? While there is no doubt that material items can, in fact, bring joy and make our lives better, the reality is that we do not need to be purchasing as much as we do, and that we are all able to spend less by opting for multi-purpose items instead. This Spring, we challenge all beauty enthusiasts to spring clean their beauty cupboards, get rid of old or expired items, and replace them with less products that offer the same benefits. How do you know when it’s time to toss a beauty product? It’s not always easy to know exactly when it’s time to get rid of old cosmetics. In an ideal world, we would use every item we have until it is empty, but because many of us have a lot of products, we can’t always get through everything before it expires. Using old or expired beauty products may do more harm than good. Firstly, old products do not necessarily offer the performance or benefits that they did when they were new. A good example of this is sunscreen – when a sun protection product gets old, it no longer effectively protects the skin against UV rays. You also need to consider your skin’s reaction to the product. Old and expired products may irritate skin (especially if your skin is sensitive), and may lead to redness, itchiness, dermatitis and dehydration. Old eye makeup has been known to lead to eye infections. For this reason, it’s important to spring clean your cupboards annually. Start your beauty spring clean by getting out all your products, cleaning your drawers and cupboards and then examine each item before placing it back or getting rid of it. Here’s how to determine whether it’s a keeper: Check for an expiration date If your product has an expiration date printed on it, there is no need to wonder, so always check for this first. Check on the consistency and scent Has the product become thick or clumpy? Has it separated or has the scent or colour changed? These sorts of changes indicate that the product may no longer be safe to use. Check for the Period After Opening symbol If you take a closer look at the information printed on your product, you’ll come across a symbol of an open jar with a number, followed by the letter M. This is known as the Period After Opening symbol, and it explains when you should throw a product away after opening it. The M stands for “months”, so if it says 12M, the product is safe to use for 12 months after it has been opened. Consider how long you’ve had it Do you have a product that’s been in your cupboard for so long that you can’t remember where or when you got it? Then it’s probably time to toss it. Most products last up to 12 months once opened and used, with a few exceptions, so don’t hang onto very old items that may cause skin reactions. Now that you’ve cleaned out your beauty cupboard, you may be feeling a little overwhelmed by the number of products to replace. This is where smart shopping comes in. Don’t be fooled into thinking that you need a massive beauty kit to get the best results – strategically purchasing a few good quality, multi-functional items will yield the same results and is much kinder on the pocket (and the planet!). What are some of the must-have multi-purpose items to consider? Tissue oil Ask any beauty expert, and they will tell you that tissue oil is considered one of the most versatile beauty products on the market. It is intensely moisturising, helps minimise scars and stretch marks and can be used in a multitude of ways, including as an all-over body moisturiser, bath oil, nourishing cuticle oil, hair mask and many more. Bramley’s versatile range of locally-produced Tissue Oils are the best-selling tissue oils in SA, and with good reason! Enriched with Bramley’s signature Bio-Pharm oil and Vitamin E, they’re intensely nourishing and moisturising, plus they’re unbeatably affordable too. Wipes A pack of wipes is a must-have item in every household. From removing makeup, to cleansing hands or freshening the skin after a workout, this multi-purpose product does not always get the recognition it deserves. Bramley’s Magnolia Cleansing Wipes are made from an excellent quality woven fabric which has been infused with delicate magnolia fragrance and soothing ingredients that gently refresh skin. Packed in a convenient thirty-wipe pack with a re-sealable seal, they’re perfect for your home, handbag or desk drawer. Body butter Body butter is not just a winter skin saviour, it’s our go-to anytime our skin gets a little dry or uncomfortable. Body butter is a great overnight treatment for dry heels, dry hands, knees, elbows and other areas lacking moisture. It’s also a great post-shave product to moisturise and soothe legs after shaving, plus it’s great to apply to drier areas before your self-tan to avoid streaks and product depositing in folds. Try Bramley Body Butter (we love the Magnolia and Lavender variants!) for a moisturising skin makeover. Instantly hydrating, the gorgeous, thick texture leaves skin soft and supple. Rich in Vitamin E and Bio-Pharm oil, the intensive formulation will nourish and moisturise all skin types, whilst providing the protection your skin requires. Before you replace each and every product in your beauty cupboard this spring, take a look at the various multi-purpose products on the market and see where you can get one product that performs various functions. Not only will your bank balance thank you, but you’ll also create less waste and join the growing movement of lower consumption. Bramley products are available at PEP Stores

October 2, 2024

Reimagine play – how a plush toy can help your child with anxiety

Globally anxiety among children is increasing and is a common concern among parents. With today’s fast-paced world and exposure to new challenges, one surprisingly effective simple tool proven to help alleviate a child’s anxiety is the use of plush toys. This is according to Glenn Ambrose, Country Manager for ZURU who says that these soft, comforting companions offer more than just a cuddly presence—they can serve as powerful tools to help children manage their emotions. The World Health Organisation reports that globally, one in seven 10-19-year-olds experiences a mental disorder, accounting for 13% of the global burden of disease in this age group. Depression, anxiety and behavioural disorders are among the leading causes of illness and disability among adolescents, suicide being the fourth leading cause of death among 15–29-year-olds. The rates of stress, fear and loneliness are much higher and they keep growing. Comforting science Research published in the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry found that 40% of children use transitional objects, like plush toys, as a coping mechanism during stressful situations providing a tangible source of comfort that can help reduce feelings of anxiety and improve emotional regulation. A study conducted from 2016 to 2019 at The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported that approximately 6 million children aged 3-17 had ADHD, 5.8 million had anxiety, 5.5 million had behaviour problems and 2.7 million had depression. According to experts, weighted plush toys can help ease these stresses and anxieties. It comes as no surprise then that 70% of young children develop connections to toys or blankets. “Weighted plush toys can help with anxiety as the gentle pressure provided by the heaviness of these toys offers a calming effect, similar to the sensation of being hugged or swaddled,” says Ambrose. “This pressure has been reported to promote relaxation and feelings of anxiety or stress.” He continues: “These weighted toys can assist in regulating sensory experiences, providing a calming effect that soothes the nervous system. In addition, these ‘toys’ have the added benefit to aid in better sleep by triggering deep touch pressure.’ The benefits of plushies Plush toys can serve as more than just temporary distractions. It has been reported that plush toys can form part of a child’s routing, which provides them with a sense of predictability. This is particularly helpful if a child is facing life changes like dealing with family transitions like divorce or starting a new school. When a child hugs their plush toy, they experience the same sensation as hugging a parent, these hugs release dopamine and serotonin which in turn releases oxytocin, the hormone associated with bonding and stress relief. These self-soothing techniques provide a physiological response that aids in a child feeling calmer and more secure. Encouraging the use of a plush toy as a comforting tool is a simple yet effective strategy. While parents should seek the advice of a professional in cases of severe anxiety, these plush toys can be an invaluable part of a broader approach. Try the New Hug-a-Lumps ZURU has launched Hug-a-Lumps with eight adorable characters weighing 1.5 kilograms each with a super soft velour plush. These giant plushies give kids and adults alike, an emotional connection of a plush with the calming effect of a big hug. “The Hug-a-Lumps weighted plush stimulates stress and anxiety while stimulating relaxation, provides emotional support, reduces cortisol with an increase in dopamine and aids in focus and concentration,” says Ambrose. “Hug-a-Lumps can be a powerful ally in helping children navigate the complexities of their emotions.” “By providing comfort, a sense of security, and a safe outlet for expressing worries, the Hug-a-Lumps companions can play a crucial role in reducing anxiety and fostering emotional resilience,” he explains. “As parents, recognising the value of such simple tools in our children’s emotional toolkit is key to helping them grow into well-adjusted, confident individuals.” Hug-a-Lumps are available at leading toy retailers at a RSP of R649 for more information visit: www.zuru.com.

October 2, 2024

TINY TOONS LOONIVERSITY

Spring Break just got LOONY! Join Plucky, Babs, and Buster in Burrowville as Plucky becomes the new star of the town! ✨ Plus, Hamton & Sweetie’s epic adventure unfolds after missing their train! Don’t miss the fun in Tiny Toons Looniversity with your favorite toon squad! Premiere Monday, 30 September 2024 ⏰ Tune-in @ 11:00 CAT

September 30, 2024

FOUR THINGS TO DO WITH AN EXPLOSIVE AND ANGRY CHILD OR TEEN

Before I go any further on this topic, it’s always a good idea to seek professional help with a child or teen who frequently becomes explosive and angry when told no. Keep in mind that this column is not a substitute for psychotherapy or family counselling. The advice that I offer is supplemental parent coaching that can help in many situations. The subject of today’s article is a common issue that many parents bring to me in my parent coaching practice. Generally, the child is usually anywhere from 7 to 14 years of age and often explodes at the smallest of problems, especially when they are told they can’t have or do something. The child is also likely to take out their anger on the parent or a sibling. So while you’re waiting for the appointment with your therapist regarding this problem, here are four things you can do immediately. Help them find their place in the family. A large majority of these children tend to be first born. For many years, they enjoyed being in the family ‘spotlight’ and getting all of their parents’ love and attention. But as other children joined the family, they lost their place and don’t like it. By getting angry with limits and boundaries, they found a new and inappropriate way to fit in by becoming vocal and angry. Help them regain their position as the oldest child by seeking their help, their advice, and their assistance. Find purposeful ways for them to be in charge of activities that helps with the other children, such as reading to them, teaching, or mentoring. Allow them to have a few more privileges than the others so they will feel special and valuable to you. Stop doing too much for your child. The triggers that cause the explosive episodes are sometimes over the parent trying to get the child to wake up in the morning, dressing them, controlling laundry, or getting them out of the house in the morning. If you’re trying to control the outcome of everything, stop. Some parents struggle with turning some responsibilities over to their children and many children or teens don’t like being controlled. Acknowledge good behaviour more often. It’s unfortunate that it’s normal for many parents to point out when their children aren’t doing what they should, more often than pointing out when they ARE doing something good. Make it your mission to make a bigger deal of when your children are behaving or doing as you’d like them to do. Spend more time with the explosive child. His behaviour may be his way of telling you that he doesn’t feel loved by, or important enough to, you. Schedule a date with each of your children (especially the explosive child) every week, even if it means for just a few minutes. Avoid taking him or her out to buy them something. The date should be about the experience of being together, not showering them with material things. Finally, when the anger comes out, don’t give it value by trying to stop it or by fighting back. Remain calm, stay quiet, and be ready to listen.

September 27, 2024

Nipping allergies in the bud

Spring has sprung and while most of us welcome the warmer weather and seeing blossoms on trees, carpets of wild flowers and new buds, millions of people dread this time of the year because of seasonal allergies. In fact, around 27% of the world’s population suffer with seasonal allergies twice a year – during spring and autumn. Dr Themba Hadebe, Clinical Executive at Bonitas Medical Fund, gives us the low-down on seasonal allergies: What they are, how they can impact your life, avoiding triggers, how to alleviate the symptoms and when to seek help. What are seasonal allergies? Often referred to as hay fever or allergic rhinitis, these are triggered by airborne allergens, which are tiny particles that enter the body through the respiratory system. These particles include pollen released by trees, grass and weeds, mould spores and dust mites. When these allergens enter the body, the immune system mistakenly identifies them as harmful and releases chemicals, such as histamine, to fight them off. The symptoms Symptoms can last for a few weeks to several months, depending on the severity of your allergies and the length of the pollen season. Most common are: Sneezing Runny or stuffy nose Itchy or watery eyes Coughing or throat irritation Sinus pressure and headaches Fatigue Postnasal drip Ear congestion Less common symptoms include: Headaches Shortness Of Breath Wheezing Coughing If you suffer from asthma as well as hay fever, it is very likely that the seasonal allergy may trigger an asthma attack. Dr Hadebe advises asthma sufferers to take extra precautions and to carry an asthma pump. Impacting your life ‘Whatever the cause of your seasonal allergy, it can make you feel miserable,’ says Dr Hadebe. ‘Allergies can leave you feeling drained and exhausted. ‘This is usually because of disrupted sleep due to congestion and sinus issues, decreased productivity at work or school from fatigue and poor concentration, curtailed socialising by avoiding outdoor activities and compromised quality of life for those with asthma, as allergies can worsen respiratory symptoms. ‘They can cause significant discomfort, disrupt daily activities and your quality of life.’ Try over-the-counter remedies (OTC) Your pharmacist can recommend several types of non-prescription medications to help ease your allergy symptoms. Antihistamines are the first line of defence in treating seasonal allergy symptoms. They work by blocking the action of histamine Decongestants help to relieve a stuffy nose by shrinking the blood vessels in the nasal passages. However, decongestants may raise blood pressure and should be used cautiously by people with cardiovascular conditions Nasal sprays can help reduce inflammation in the nasal passages and relieve congestion Eye Drops can relieve itching, redness and watery eyes Saline Nasal Irrigation. Using a saline rinse can help flush out mucus and allergens from your nose providing relief from congestion and a postnasal drip When to see a doctor While most seasonal allergies can be managed with OTC treatments, there are times when professional medical advice is needed. You should consider consulting a doctor if: Symptoms persist despite using OTC medications regularly You have breathing difficulties, particularly if you have asthma. Sinus infections or other complications develop You experience severe reactions such as hives or swelling after exposure to allergens ‘Your doctor may prescribe stronger or more personalised treatment,’ explains Dr Hadebe. ‘Immunotherapy, in particular, can provide long-term relief by gradually desensitising the immune system to allergens.’ Managing season allergies Beyond medications, there are lifestyle changes you can make to minimise your exposure to allergens and reduce symptoms: Stay indoors during high pollen counts, especially in the morning when levels tend to peak Use air purifiers with HEPA filters to remove allergens from indoor air Shower and change clothes after spending time outside to remove pollen from your body and clothes Close windows in your home and car to keep pollen from entering Monitor allergy forecasts and take preventative measures when pollen levels are high If all else fails If your seasonal allergies are really bad and nothing else seems to work, your doctor may recommend that you have skin or blood tests to find out exactly what triggers your symptoms. This can help determine what steps you need to take to identify which treatments are likely to work best for you. ‘Seasonal allergies are a common but manageable condition,’ says Dr Hadebe. ‘With the right combination of OTC medications, lifestyle adjustments and, in some cases, professional medical advice, you can reduce the impact allergies have on your life. Always pay attention to your body’s response and don’t hesitate to seek medical advice if your symptoms worsen or persist, despite treatment.’

September 27, 2024

Budgeting with children

Having children gives you a myriad of rewards that we all get to brag about. However, what’s not often spoken about is the costs surrounding raising children. When you have a child, costs can sky-rocket if you are not careful. However, there are ways you can budget and save when you have a baby or toddler. Write your budget down One of the biggest personal finance mistakes people make is not knowing exactly where their money is going. One takeaway coffee here, another quick grocery shop there, and our budget goes out the window. Try this exercise. Carry a notebook with you wherever you go. For one week, write down absolutely everything you spend money on. From in-store shopping to online shopping. Once you have done that, you can take a realistic look at where your money is going when it comes to the small things. Is there anything on that list you don’t have to have? Then cut it out. Add these expenditures to your usual monthly debts and expenses, and you will have a great starting point to start your saving journey. Make budgeting a team effort Budgeting with your partner is essential. When you are sharing the costs of a child and a home, knowing who spends money on what is important. Sit down with your partner and have an open discussion about where money is coming in and going out. Make decisions on who is paying for certain expenses and stick to that. Savings should be an expense You should have a ‘savings’ section under your expenses. No matter how small the amount, savings should not come at the end of your budget with the thought process of ‘I will save what is left over.’ You should try and save before you spend any money. Whether it is to a savings pocket, an investment fund, or a short-term endowment policy – make putting a little money aside a priority. Cut back on expenses Once you know where your money is going, it is much easier to start cutting back on certain things. Amazed at how much money you spend on takeaways? You probably didn’t know the extent of that amount until you had it written in front of you. Go through your expenses, set aside a reasonable amount for spoils, and cut back on the rest. Baby saving tips Buy in bulk – keep a lookout for any specials on baby products and groceries and buy these in bulk. Remember to consider that your baby is growing and may need a new size nappy or different aged formula in the near future. Significant bulk purchases for savings are nappies, wet wipes, toiletries, unperishable food, and cleaning products. Make your own food – we know this is time-consuming, but bulk-making your own baby/toddler food and freezing it into portions is a fantastic money saver. Try to stick to one-pot meals that are filled with nutrients and label your freezing containers with the content and date. Google affordable meal recipes, and you will be surprised by the number of affordable meals out there. Clinic vaccinations – When vaccinating your child, take the extra time to go to your local government clinic for them. The wait may be longer, but the cost-saving is worth it. If you would like to get the vaccinations that are only available privately, then book with a private clinic for just those. Second-hand goods – It’s easy to get swept up in the mania of baby products and goods. And there may be a part of you that wants to ‘keep up with the Jones’. But we are here to tell you that your baby won’t notice whether their pram or cot is brand new or second-hand. Decide what you are willing to have second hand, then search the web and Facebook marketplace for the best deals you can find. Please just make sure that you do not pay upfront for items that you haven’t seen! Sell it – If you are not planning on having another child in the near future, as soon as your baby outgrows something – sell it!

September 25, 2024

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