Happy Family Organics, makers of ready-to-eat, nutritious and delicious organic meals, is not only changing the way babies and children are nourished in South Africa and around the world, but they are also changing the lives of young orphans in Tanzania through their Happy Family Children’s Village (HFCV).
parents have come to (unconsciously) rely on the buying of material gifts to let their children know that they love them while not fully understanding the negative implications of these well-meaning gestures.” She adds that joy in receiving material gifts and especially if the gifts are guilt-driven is most often short-lived and children are all too frequently left feeling confused, alone, miserable and frustrated and, in some cases, even a bit depressed. You see, it is not the receiving of many material gifts that they seek!
Often breastfeeding and sleep are thought to be part of two different worlds. Many people will tell you that your child won’t be able to sleep through the night until you stop breastfeeding. Tell that to my daughter who was breastfed until she was 12 months old, and slept through from when she was 4 months old!
Our favourite Tom-e doll is now available as a comforter for your little one. This product is ideal for the younger baby.
To be a strong reader has multiple benefits for your child. One of the most important things parents can do to ready their pre-schoolers for their academic careers, is to encourage a love for reading and stories. Proficient readers cope better at school, even in this digital age. In a recent household survey by Statistics SA (http://www.statssa.gov.za/?page_id=1854&PPN=P0318 Page 10), it was found that a third of South African parents have not told stories to their children and that 50% have never read a book to their children. Those little ones that have missed out and are at a distinct disadvantage when starting their school careers.
Multi-cloth toys are a great way to get a very young child using their sensory skills. A soft, easy-to-hold cloth with different textures, colours and shapes attached, they are available in 3 adorable characters – Molly Cuddly Turtle, Arthur Funny Dino and Daisy Cuddly Butterfly. All unisex and completely safe for even the youngest of children, Chicco’s Baby Senses multi-cloths are available across South Africa now at Takealot, Babies R Us, Loot, Kids Emporium and selected Pick and Pays.
When your child turns 6 it usually means that it’s their last year in preschool. In a year, your child will need to start primary school, but how do you know that your child will cope with the formal demands of school? Or be able to function to his/her full potential? As a parent, you may have lots of questions about this new phase in your child’s life. You would want to know that your child is ready to start their learning journey. If your child is not ready, it could influence his/her academic performance.
Chicco’s Baby Senses range of toy is a developmentally engaging range of colourful toys that range from simple multi-cloths to rattles, teethers, puzzles and much, much more. All designed with early development in mind, the range is bright and stimulating and offers a toy for every stage of your child’s first year.
PLAY! This may seem obvious, but it is essential to a child’s development. Sometimes we focus so much on what we should or shouldn’t be doing and look at everything as work, but play is a child’s work. This is how they explore their world. Play teaches them important physical skills such as coordination, balance and muscle control. These set the foundation for more complicated physical skills such as kicking a ball while running, skipping and doing cartwheels. Again these may seem like trivial skills but they are essential to a child’s development and set the stage for academic success.
Baby Senses Vibrating Monkey Rattle and Giraffe Rattle are two of the cutest and most entertaining baby rattles on the market right now. Baby Senses is a developmental range of colourful toys that engage and stimulate children from as young as three months and the two rattles are both engaging with features such as teething rings, crinkly textures and a vibration on the Vibrating Monkeys leg. Soft enough to even cuddle, the two rattles are ideal to stimulate curiosity and bright enough to engage baby’s vision.
Sometimes. Moms and Dads get so bogged down with the routines of the day that they forget to have fun with their children.
Winter is coming and those little feet need to be kept warm. Our toddler slippers are made from cotton denim with a soft polar fleece inner lining to keep little feet toasty warm. All our slippers have grip soles to keep your little one safe when running around. Available in an array of sizes
From the moment your baby is born, she starts to learn about her environment. She does this by using her senses. Hearing, seeing, smelling, touching and tasting, gets her senses working and this in turn, gets her brain learning.
Youniverse is the cars eat that starts at 9kgs and follows your child up to 36kgs – that’s almost 12 years of age! With car seat laws becoming stricter all the time, young or light children need the protection that only a solid shell can give against impact. The Youniverse is a sturdy, ever-growing car seat that can be adjusted with every inch of your child’s growth. Reclining with simple movements, comfortable with extra padding and Italian style and quality make it a favourite amongst parents globally. Installed with Isofix and seat belts.
Many parents make the mistake of assuming that a reward system involves extravagant items. There are rewards that are effective and will cost you nothing.
My husband and I travelled with our two-year-old on a long-haul flight to London. Having bought a seat for our restless bundle of energy was, in our case, the best thing ever. Eleven hours plus on our laps would have been too much to handle. We very quickly learnt what to do and what NOT to do.
There are numerous benefits linked to having a family dogas a pet and teaching kids how to take care of dogs. Young children can learn valuable life lessons when they are taught from an early age how to take care of an animal: 1. Responsibility Younger children can help by participating in feeding, exercise, playing, grooming and showing affection. 2. Trust Pets make trusted companions for children and this could be the first step towards teaching your child how to build relationships. 3. Compassion Caring for an animal entails showing understanding, compassion and empathy, all valuable lessons on how to take care of others’ and their basic needs. 4. Bereavement When a family pet passes away your child will experience the pain of losing a beloved pet, but it also teaches them how to cope during the bereavement phase. 5. Respect Children learn how to have respectfor others by learning how to touch a pet gently, learning not to disturb them while eating or sleeping and tending to their daily needs. 6. Self-esteem Dogs love you unconditionally and this can have an immense effect on a child’s self-esteem accompanied with the satisfaction of sharing responsibility of taking care of an animal’s needs. 7. Loyalty There is no match for a pet’s loyalty and in turn the child learns how to have loyalty towards their furry friend 8. Physical activity Taking the dog out for a walk and playing with themenables a child to be more physically active than a child without a dog. 9. Patience It takes time to bond with a new pet and through this the child learns to have patience. 10. Social skills Taking a dog out for a walk and interacting with other pet-lovers can be a wonderful ice-breaker and improve your child’s social skills. How do you know the time is right for teaching kids about dogs? Younger children can not be expected to take care of a family pet without assistance, especially children under the age of five years old. They can help of course, but most of the caring will be done by you. Young children are often too rough and doesn’t really understand yet how to handle a pet gently and they may end up injuring the dog and become injured themselves when the pet reacts. Children from the age of 3-4 years old must be monitored when spending time with a pet and even children under the age of ten must not be expected to take care of a pet on their own. When an older child expresses the need for a pet, it is the perfect opportunity to discuss the responsibility of taking care of a pet as well as setting up expectations before the time about what their pet-care responsibilities is going to be. When you do decide to get a pet, make sure you include your child in the process of getting a dog and let them help with choosing the right pet for your household. Tips on how to teach your child to interact responsibly and safely with their dog companions: Introducing the puppy to the child When a new puppy is brought into the home it is essential to teach a child about the rule of “no touch, no talk, no eye contact”. The introduction between the child and the puppy must be suspended until the child’s excitement has blown over and he is in a calm state of mind and capable of focusing on adult instruction. Avoid allowing the child to make the first move. Ensure that your child’s energy levels are stable and keep an eye on the puppy’s reactions. Once you are happy that the situation is under control and safe, you can teach your child how to show affection. Playtime Ground rules must be set for off-limits playing for example, the child must understand that its not ok to pull the puppy’s tail or ears. Be vigilant for signs of rough play and immediately correct the child or redirect his energy when the need calls for it. Always keep an eye on the body language of the puppy and step in when you think the puppy had enough playtime. Never leave a young child without supervision with a puppy. Cleanliness and health issues Children are more susceptible to pet-related illnesses than us grown-ups. Here are a few tips that can help keep your child healthy: Make sure the puppy has regular visits to the Vet. Teach your child to wash his hands thoroughly before and after playing with the puppy. Avoid playtime near areas where the puppy relieves himself. Dog excrement must be picked up and disposed of regularly. Other safety tips relating to dog interaction Children should never approach unfamiliar dogs. Not all dogs are used to young children, therefore it’s better to practice caution beforehand. Dogs that are restrained or behind fences are often more likely to attack. Children should be taught that it’s never ok to tease or reach for a dog that seems harmless because they are “out of reach”. Children should not approach a stray dog without adult supervision. The right way is to call an adult to assist with a dog that looks injured or lost. Teach your child the right body-language for child-dog interaction: Teach them how to be calm, allowing the dog to approach first. They should never back a dog into a corner. When they are touching the dog, they must stroke under the chin or on the cheek. Discourage young children from trying to hold a dog. An innocent hug may be perceived as a threat. Dogs have sensitive hearing and an unexpected squeal from your little one may overwhelm them or startle them. A soothing voice will make the dog feel at ease and allow you child to have a calm mindset. Be on the look-out for signals that the dog is displaying that his had enough of play. Look for pacing, flattening of the ears, tucking their tails, retreating, bearing teeth, growling
It occurred to me the day I went back to work after my maternity leave that I didn’t know any other emergency number besides 10111. Thankfully I have never had to use this but I couldn’t risk leaving my daughter at home with her caregiver without leaving a more comprehensive list of important numbers by the phone. The last thing you want to do in an emergency is dial the wrong number. In the US, the UK and Europe there is only one toll-free number to call from any landline or mobile phone. In South Africa, things are not as simple. Unfortunately there isn’t one single number for an emergency. I spent a really long time searching the web and making a couple of phone calls but I finally managed to put together this simple list. It is vital that you as parents and/or caregivers know what number to dial when and it is perhaps even more important that your little ones know this too. USING YOUR CELL PHONE: Any emergency nationwide – 112 (this number will still work even if you have no airtime) USING YOUR LANDLINE OR CELL PHONE: Police/Fire – 10111 Nationwide ambulance (public EMS) – 10177 Netcare 911 (private EMS) – 082 911 ER 24 (private EMS) – 084 124 Poison Information Centre – 0861 555 777 Remember, before making that emergency call, try to stay calm. You also need to have important information ready such as, the type of emergency, details of any injuries and the exact location of the emergency needing attention. A list of Emergency Numbers can be downloaded for free from my resources page. It may be a good idea to stick this on your fridge or somewhere nearby the phone.
Independence is defined as freedom from the control, influence, support and aid of others. This is something that we all strive for, having the independence to live our lives free from being dependent on others. It is the knowledge that wherever we go and whoever we are with, we are capable and competent. We can trust our ability to make our own choices and plan our actions accordingly. The more successfully we negotiate challenges and succeed at tasks, the more self-confident we feel and the greater our self-esteem becomes.
There have been many studies that focus on the importance of infant stimulation. It is a well-known fact that impoverished environments, under stimulation and the lack of rich and varied experiences can impair children’s development in all areas. Thus, there are many projects that focus on helping these communities and giving them the tools through training and equipping them to be able to change the cycle. But what about over stimulation? It has been shown that environments that overwhelm children with stimulation beyond their current capacities interfere with the brain’s potential, much in the same way that under stimulation does. Our society has become increasingly focused on stimulation. Expensive early learning programs, competitiveness and early achieving have become the norm. We have so over scheduled our children with activities that they do not have time to simply be kids and play. We do not expect a 5 month old to walk or run, why do we then expect a 5 year old to read and write? Many children have not developed or practiced their creativity one should through boredom, as they have not had the chance to be bored. There is actually no evidence that any of this has yielded smarter, better, super babies. In fact, priming infants with stimulation that they are not ready for may cause them to withdraw, thereby threatening their interest in learning and creating conditions much like stimulus deprivation. In addition to this parents may become disappointed when despite the excessive stimulation, their children do not become little geniuses. This creates the danger that parents may view their children as failures at an early age. This in turn could result in infants being robbed of a healthy psychological start while also depriving parents of pleasurable and relaxing interactions with and participation in their children early years. The question this leaves us with is, what would the best conditions be? Let kids be kids. Do not put too much pressure on them or expect them to do things that are not age appropriate. The ideal is to provide age-appropriate moderate stimulation in a loving environment with lots of social interactions. This has proven to be much more beneficial than expensive toys and gadgets. The Skidz Clever Activity boxes provides a program focusing on this exact finding. Each set contains all the equipment needed to complete over 100 activities in each box. The age ranges are as follows: 0-6 months 6-12 months 12-18 months 18-24 months 2-5 years. For more info or to purchase your box go to www.skidz.co.za or follow us on facebook at www.facebook.com/skidzsa
Fold & Go is the brand new car seat that folds up into a compact unit and can be stored in the boot of the car when not in use. An Isofix-installed car seat, the new iSize regulation no longer categorizes children according to weight but rather to height now, and puts significant new safety demands on high back booster seats, making the Fold & Go one of the safest car seats on the market.
As you watch your baby develop into a toddler and their personality starts to take shape, you might want to change a few things in their room. Changing a baby’s room to a toddler’s room can be easier than starting afresh. Let your toddler’s personality guide you in choosing a theme and then decorate accordingly.
The number of children presenting with Sensory Integration Difficulties is increasing significantly. It is important that these difficulties are identified early and dealt with timeously as they have a large impact on a child’s functioning in the classroom, at home and in social settings.
Winter is here and so are coughs, colds and flu. Common colds and flu are both caused by viruses and share many of the same symptoms however colds are usually milder and do not cause any serious complications. More than 200 viruses can cause a cold whereas the flu is caused by the Influenza virus. This is why there is no vaccine available for the common cold.
“Core strength” has been a buzz word in the health industry the last few years, but its importance cannot be undermined especially in children. “The core muscles consist of the abdominal, hip and back muscles who work together to stabilize and align the trunk and pelvis during static and dynamic movements,” explains Clamber Club Expert and Biokineticist, Shehnaaz Bhabha.
Process art is all about the experience children have when they are creating. We encourage it at Toptots to enable the child to explore and be exposed to different mediums. Process art needs to be open ended and the child should be left alone to explore and create without any adult interference. Children learn through play and open-ended activities – this gives them the chance to explore and ask questions and see how things work. Process art is all about the actual process and not the end product.
When you are pregnant or have a newborn everyone tells you that time passes by quickly so enjoy it! Then you endure sleepless nights, colic and you think can time please start passing faster so that my child can just get out of this phase and so we wish each difficult milestone away and forget to cherish it. All too soon you wake up one morning and realise your child is now in her final year at school and time really has passed by so quickly. You look back at small handprints and stick figure drawings and you wish you could have that time back, a time when she was just your little girl throwing tantrums and getting dirty in the sandpit. It’s so easy to get caught up in the whirlwind that’s life that we forget about the small things. Take the time to make handprints and foot prints, date them and stick a photo taken on the same day next to it. You forget how small she was when you look back at those tiny prints. Keep a record of milestones achieved and things your little one has done. They will take great delight in reading about themselves when they are teenagers. Keep a record of where you lived, who their friends were and what they loved to play with the most. This becomes a really special keepsake if you keep them all together in a file. Those first drawings that others refer to as scribbles reflect her developing sense of self. Keep samples of these and watch how she learns about her body and how it functions in space. The three year old stick figure she drew is very different from the one she drew at four years of age. Use small photo albums to create books about her favourite things. This is a great way to help with language development and one day she can look back at all her favourite things when she was two, three and four years old. Video those songs and funny things they say and save them on a hard drive. This way you will be able to cherish them forever. Remember these years really do fly by and as they get older there are new memories to be made but keeping and making these mementos from babyhood will allow you to look back and see why she has turned out to be such a stunning young adult. Raising well rounded children takes more than just feeding them, it takes time to be there in body and mind.
Choosing a school for your little one should not be a last minute, hasty decision. Start looking at least three months before you need to enter your child, if you are looking to place a baby. If you want your child to join a good school when they turn three, you should start looking at birth. This may seem ludicrous but the top Pre-Primary schools have waiting lists several years long! The first decision is whether to place your child in a school near home or near your place of work. Small children suffer from many little illnesses and most schools want a sick child to go home as soon as possible. Choose a school that is close enough for someone to fetch them promptly if they fall ill. No matter how loving the care at school, a sick child just wants the comfort of home. Choose a school whose hours suit your schedule. If the school closes at 5.30pm, you must be able to reach it with time to spare, regardless of the traffic. Does the school open early enough for you to get to work? You cannot leave a small child outside the gate and assume that someone will take responsibility! There are so many places of care to choose from at the moment that you may be bewildered by the choice. Take the time to visit the school unannounced. Check the security first, it should not be possible for you just to drive in. Are there cameras at the door and an entrance procedure? Next, how are you greeted and dealt with by the receptionist? This should be efficient, friendly and with an offer to show you the school, either then or by appointment. An appointment does not mean they have anything to hide; good schools have to allocate time and staff to deal with parents effectively. Is the reception clutter free and efficiently run? Are the admittance forms neatly printed and requesting sufficient background detail on your child? When you look around, watch the children. Under-fives should be playing freely and busily with clean, unbroken toys that are well displayed to enable choice, or engaged in activities that are stimulating creativity or enhancing number or literacy skills. There should be no worksheets or cloned art work. Is the classroom clean and attractive, with good natural light and ventilation? Is there sufficient space for the children? Crowded rooms lead to fights and stress. Has the teacher (who should be SACE registered) an assistant to manage bathroom visits, messes and to support play? Is there evidence of an overall theme that the children are investigating? Are there good quality books in a comfy spot for reading? Are the carpets and floors clean? Beware of schools that are too tidy and immaculate as this could mean that the equipment is for display, not the children’s use. Children should be aware of your presence but not clamouring for your attention. What is your language policy for your child? If they are to attend Primary school in a specific language, they will be at an advantage if their early years are spent in the same language. This does not mean that you should forsake your home language. Bi-lingual children have a cognitive advantage, but do not confuse your child by subjecting him/her to a constant mixture of languages. Choose a school that will help your child enter grade 1 with a strong vocabulary and comprehension, as well as an ability to engage in their intellectual education with understanding. What do you require in the way of meals? Not all schools serve breakfast, lunch and snacks and the price should reflect what is provided. Check out the kitchen, the kitchen staff and the certificates from the local authority indicating that the school is licenced to provide meals. Look at the menus. Is there sufficient variety and fresh fruit and vegetables? Ask about who feeds the little ones and how meals are conducted for the older ones. Are the children forced to eat their meals? Can the school cater for genuine allergies, (Not fussy eaters!) If your child is still a baby, check the policies on formulas, nappies, wet wipes etc. If the school supplies everything, it may be a little more expensive but well worth your while in terms of convenience. Look at the nappy changing areas, where everything should be neatly labelled and the area safe and well ventilated, with proper disposal facilities. Potty training areas should be bright and welcoming, with small toilets for children aged two plus. Are the baby rooms warm enough for the babies to play and crawl on the floor and not be kept in a cot all day. Who provides the cot linen and how often is it washed? There should be a nursing sister available for very young babies, as well as well-trained carers who will talk to and stimulate your child. The outdoor area should have grass, sand, water, shade and wheeled toys, as well as safe climbing and swinging equipment, appropriate for the different age groups. Children are stimulated by their environment so the garden should be attractive, bright and well supervised. Gross motor development underlies all other development at this age so there should be a minimum of an hour per morning and afternoon set aside for active, outdoor play. Last but not least, the atmosphere of the school should be welcoming and child friendly. Do not be swayed by the latest technological devices and lessons if the staff seem aloof and uncaring. With proper research your child should be happy and well stimulated in the chosen environment until it is time for Big School. Written By: Barbara Eaton (Academic Development Co-ordinator of ADvTECH Pre-Primary Schools)
I had a call from a concerned parent yesterday and I realised again how hard it is to bring up a baby in today’s world. As first-time parents you are so afraid of doing the wrong thing and not getting it right that we forget to trust our instincts when raising our children. Remember milestones are an indication that all is well developmentally. It’s not a list to be rushed through. A child must spend time in each phase in order to develop all areas of his intellect. The less time he spends playing with gadgets, the better for him. So, ask yourself the following question: Is someone or something allowing him to be able to do this? (Sit/ walk/jump/ draw etc.) If you get a YES, then you know it might hinder him developmentally. Support seats, walkers and jolly jumpers are all allowing him to be in a position that he should not be able to be in at this stage. If he could sit/ walk/ jump he would be able to do it on his own. Help him strengthen his muscles to be able to do just that. Put your baby on the floor and less time in constraints or in mom’s arms. Your child needs to be working on those large muscles so that he can control the small muscles later on. Yes, we are living in a world where you have to be technologically savvy and our children are exposed to IPads and other electronic devices, but at what expense? It’s now even more important than ever before that we limit the use of electronic devices in the early toddler years. Toddlers need to spend most of their day playing, using their imagination, running, jumping and drawing. All these experiences help them to sit still later at school. His “job” is to strengthen his gross motor muscles so that the fine muscle control (to hold my pen and read across a page) will work optimally later. Pushing a child to perform is not the answer. A child that can use the IPad/ computer / cell phone at three is not a genius. He is a child who might have problems later on at school with midline crossing/ fine motor control/ reading etc. Limit devices/ gadgets to 30 min a day and let him be a child. It is the only time he has to be carefree.
Being a parent of an eighteen-year-old that has just started university, I again realise how important it is for us as parents to set them up for success but also allowing them to fail along the way. Now I am sure you are saying – why set them up for failure? To be able to function in an adult world one day we need to have learnt that life in general has consequences. If as an adult, you don’t meet deadlines etc. you will ultimately be fired! We all want what’s best for our children but sometimes we lose the plot a little and forget that we are training them to be independent, well-functioning adults one day. At 18 months we can start to teach them about life. It’s very easy to start giving your child the incorrect message very early in life – Its fine – mom will do it if you can’t cope! But remember mom won’t always be there and can’t go into the workplace to sort out her child’s life for her. I am sure we have all heard parents praise their children excessively. Mia picks up her toys and is such a clever girl! Mia was not “clever” when she put away her toys, she did what you would expect her to do and the more appropriate praise is to thank her for putting away her toys. Do you do the hoopla when your husband puts his coffee mug into the kitchen sink? Teach your children about choices very early on in life. Do you want an egg, or do you want cereal for breakfast? Be careful of not saying what would you like for breakfast …? as the answer might be chocolate! Giving them the opportunity helps them to be able to make choices one day when they are older. Don’t fret when she wants to wear the pink dress over orange pants. Everyone will know you did not dress her. More importantly does it matter. She feels great and confident in her choice. Life has consequences. If you don’t pick up your toys I will, but they will go into a black bag not to be seen for at least a few weeks. If you choose the summer dress and it’s raining you will get cold. I can guarantee next time she will take your advice and take a jersey and NO she will not get sick, you get ill from viruses not just a few goose bumps. Consequences learnt! Lack of discipline can impact on a child reaching his full potential and will most probably contribute to a lower self-esteem, as he thinks he can’t do this without help. Raising a confident, well-adjusted child takes guts from you as a parent to allow them to face the consequences of their choices. It’s too late to start at 13 you have by then lost the window of opportunity. How can you expect a teen to make the right choices if she has never been allowed to make any choices in her life? She has to be confident that she can choose and cope with the consequences of a wrong choice. It’s not easy but I know you can do it! After all you want what’s best for your child.
