My Breastpump

When to buy a breast pump

Mothers often ask me when should I buy a breast pump? The answer to this really depends on why you would need a breast pump. Many moms have one ready in their hospital bag and others wait until they are ready to go back to work to purchase a breast pump. Many mothers are given the advice that they should not start pumping for the first 6 weeks. This is good advice if the mother can get her baby to latch and breastfeed directly, which many mothers are able to do. If the direct breast feeding is working, then there is no need to add pumping. However, if the mother is having difficulties with direct breastfeeding or is separated from her baby, using a double electric breast pump like the Ameda Mya Joy, is recommended.  Therefore, my recommendation is based on the reason why you would need the breast pump.  To give more context, I had both my babies early. The first birth was an emergency. I was not prepared, I had nothing packed and definitely did not have a breast pump ready. It was very difficult for me to get a breast pump as I was in ICU, I was helped by a friend that brought me one. However, with my second baby I was ready and had a pump waiting even though she also came even earlier than her brother. The difference in stress levels of having a breast pump and not was massive. So, for mothers of twins or high-risk pregnancies, I would recommend that you have a breast pump ready at the birth of your baby/ies. The reason for this is if your baby needs to go to Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) then you can start stimulation of your breasts and pumping with in the 1-6 hours as recommended. This will help you to increase your milk supply and provide milk for your baby/ies as they need it, while also building up a milk stash for when they start needing more. When a mother is separated from her baby like with having a baby in the NICU, she still needs to stimulate her breasts as often as if the baby was drinking directly from her. So, this generally works out to 10 to 12 times in 24 hours. That is a lot of stimulation! Many moms many find it overwhelming to hand express or to use a manual or single pump. In the case of a premature infant the use of a hospital grade double electric breast pump like the Ameda Mya Joy is ideal. It is such a time saver because you express both breast at the same time, effectively halving the time that you need to pump at each session. Which also makes it more possible to pump more often. By using the Ameda Mya Joy hospital grade breast pump your pump’s motor is strong enough to pump as often as needed and it will be better able to empty your breast as needed. It also has a 2-year warranty which will cover you during your breastfeeding time.  Other mothers may wait to buy a breast pump for when they return to work. In this case I would recommend that they give themselves at least a month to get used to pumping and how they respond to the pumps different settings. This way they can build up a breast milk stash and be confidant with pumping before they go back to work. It is also a great idea to get a few boxes for the My Breast Milk Storage Bags (https://www.mybreastpump.co.za/product/MBPSG), so that you have them ready and are able to freeze any extra milk.   There are some instances where a mother may need a breast pump in her early days- before the 6-week suggested time. This would be if she is struggling with getting a deep latch and her nipples are very sore or damaged. Pumping during this time would help the mother to protect her milk supply while her nipples healed. This would also give her time to practice getting a deeper latch or solving her breast-feeding issue. If this is the case the mother does not need to wait for 6 weeks before she starts to pump because pumping is indicated and will protect and support, her milk supply.  Another time to get a breast pump is if they are on special. If you know that you will be needing a breast pump, then why not get it as a discounted rate. Look out for the Ameda Mya Joy specials on Takealot, our website www.mybreastpump.co.za and also at baby shows like Mama Magic and The Flair Mother and Baby Show. We continually look to make new and interesting promotions including extra useful items for moms. 

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SACAP BOOSTS SCHOOL LEAVERS’ VOCATIONAL OPTIONS

SACAP (South African College of Applied Psychology) has announced the 2022 launch of two new Higher Certificate educational programmes in its Management and Leadership faculty offering school leavers a vocational pathway into the South African business sector.  The SACAP Higher Certificates in Business Management and Human Resources Management are accredited, one-year programmes that include industry-oriented content and applications so that graduates are fit to enter the workplace. While a Higher Certificate qualification can make up for a Matric without a Bachelor’s pass and serve as a bridge into a degree educational program, it is also relevant to those who want to make a career change or update their skills-set.  The new SACAP Higher Certificate programmes builds on the success of their popular Higher Certificate in Communications and Counselling, and augment SACAP’s overall portfolio of Higher Certificates, Bachelor’s and Honour’s degrees. Lee-Ann Drummond, SACAP’s Head of the Management & Leadership Faculty says, “The new Higher Certificate programmes are a form of bridging into the B.App.Soc.Sci providing a certain number of transferable credits.  However, they are distinct from the first year of the B.App.Soc.Sci and are NQF5 qualifications with a distinct purpose and learning outcomes.  As such, they are independent, coherent and academically credible as a qualification focused on vocational skills-building.” What can you do with a Higher Certificate in Human Resources Management? This programme with its real-world focus equips students with the knowledge and skills needed to provide administrative support to HRM services in industry and to execute various human resource functions in the workplace. The qualification is a gateway for further higher education but is also relevant to those wanting to enter the workforce, and those needing to upskill in the field of HRM.  Drummond says, “With SACAP’s strength in Applied Psychology, this programme emphasises putting ‘human’ back into HRM through understanding people and the value of human capital in the workplace.  It’s ideal for those returning to the workplace and needing to update their skills; for entrepreneurs who need to build HR capacities in their start-up companies and for school leavers who want to acquire vocational skills and begin building their careers in business.” What can you do with a Higher Certificate in Business Management? This qualification is aimed at building foundational business management skills based on an understanding of basic business management theories.  It’s a comprehensive programme to acquire the skills needed to competently assist and support a variety of business management functions in the workplace.  Drummond says, “Once again the design of the Higher Certificate educational programme is based on providing highly relevant, industry-oriented content and to help students develop practical skills so that they are work-ready and capable of building careers, upskilling or taking a pathway to further studies.” The full-time CHE-accredited SACAP Higher Certificates in Business Management and Human Resource Management are available at SACAP’s Online campus and each comprise of nine modules and 120 credits over one year.  Registrations for 2022 are open now. To find out more or enrol SACAP Higher Certificate in Human Resources Management To find out more or enrol SACAP Higher Certificate in Business Management

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Party Time! How to plan a successful kids party

Many of us go to great lengths to plan the ‘perfect party’ for our children. Whether you enjoy planning a lavish complicated affair or a small simple one there are a few pointers you can keep in mind to ensure that it’s a huge success. Firstly remember the party is for the children!!!  Don’t go over the top on the food, décor and drinks to impress the adults at the party – its not about them. Get creative!  You don’t need to stick to themed character plates and napkins or available party décor in the shops.  There are many ways in which you can throw a great party for your child without breaking the bank. Chat to your child and find out what type of theme they want.Your son loves Dr Seuss but there is no themed decor available. Work on the decor and food using the colours instead. Plastic or tin buckets, paper plates and napkins come in loads of different plain colours. Look for images and ideas according to your theme on the internet that you can printout and include in your decor. Make the birthday child feel special  Thinking of my own children, they live for their birthday and start counting down the days till the next one from the time their last birthday finishes. Let them wear a special birthday badge or birthday crown or a special outfit which they have picked out for their day to make them feel that extra bit special. Keep them entertained Children will remember a birthday party in which they had fun – not how clean your house was.  (Refer to my first point about the party being about the children). The way to ensure this is to make sure there is plenty to do and keep them entertained.  Again, no need to break the bank. Bring out the old school party games like pass the parcel, musical chairs and pin the tail on the donkey. Children still loves these games and its a great way to keep the kids entertained and an opportunity for them to win their own little gifts as well. Snack attack There is no need to go crazy on the food. Keep it small and simple. It is a much better idea to spend more time and money on the entertainment than the snacks. Offer some healthy snacks such as fruit, small muffins and sandwiches. I would advise a party for children three years and younger, keep the snack table a bit higher so parents can control what their little one eats. Don’t forget the manners  Your child’s birthday party is a great time to remind them to say their please and thank you’s and waiting their turn. Discuss this with your child before the party starts and they get caught up in the excitement of the day. A good idea is to discuss the matter of gifts with your child before guests start arriving. If you would prefer gifts not to be opened during the party, you and your child should arrange a safe spot where gifts can be kept.

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Four Tips to Support Kids Hygiene in Post-Covid School Life

With the country finally opening up, businesses, entertainment venues and schools will see more people than ever coming into contact with each other since the onset of the Covid-19 pandemic.  While grown-ups should have the presence of mind to adhere to healthy hygiene protocols, children may need a bit of extra help in staying safe from viruses and bacteria at school, especially when using high-traffic areas like toilets. Nobuhle Ngubane, Senior Brand Manager at Domestos South Africa, offers parents the four following tips on protecting their children from germs during this crucial time of transition. 1.      Educate Them  Knowledge is power, and you might be surprised at how much informationchildren, even those as young as two years old, can retain. Make sure to talk to them, repeating terms like germs, cleanliness, washing hands, water, soap, sanitising and so on. Make it fun – use songs and pictures – to each them about social distancing and how to clean up thoroughly. 2.      Ask Teachers  Do not be shy about engaging with teachers on the hygiene protocolsinside the school, particularly where toilets are concerned. It’s important to be aware of how frequently cleaning takes place – especially considering that the facilities are used by hundreds of learners throughout the day. Aim to be helpful rather than confrontational – share information and resources and express understanding for the load educators have to bear.  3.      Equip Them  While your child’s school may already have thorough cleaning protocols you can always help your child further by packing a safe and mild sanitiser spray bottle and a small pack of wipes that they can use to wipe their hands after coming into contact with surfaces that may have germs.  4.      Keep them Healthy  As much as you can keep external surfaces clean, your child’s bestdefence is a healthy diet and even supplements, where necessary. As always, reinforce the need to wash hands before and after eating, using soap or sanitiser, and wiping with clean paper towels.  The reality is that millions of learners around the country attend schools without adequate ablution facilities. This not only affects their health but their ability to learn due to the proven negative psychological impact of poor sanitation. Over the past 10 years, Domestos has led the charge on addressing unsafe sanitation and poor hygiene in schools, impacting over 5 million children through school refurbishments, school toilet maintenance programs, as well as participating in an educational program that educates learners on good hygiene and sanitation habits in over 15 000 public schools around the country. You can also get involved in this fight against the sanitation crisis.Purchase a 750ml Domestos bleach bottle, and R1 will be donated towards helping over 1 million learners gain access to clean and safe toilets.

Boomerang

RIGHT ON TRACK! AS THOMAS & FRIENDS FIND A NEW HOME ON BOOMERANG

World-famous children’s animated show brings its fourth major revamp, in its illustrious 75-year history, to Boomerang Africa. Climb aboard for a series of all-new adventures with Thomas the Tank Engine! Thomas & Friends: All Engines Go is set to premiere on Boomerang Africa on Monday, 4 April 2022. The brand-new series, with an entirely new storytelling approach, promises to bring even more fun-filled adventures with vibrant 2D animation and compelling new characters while visiting exciting new locations and learning about teamwork and friendship! The Island of Sodor is home to the biggest, silliest, most musical and toot-ally awesome-est adventures with your number one pal, Thomas the Tank Engine. He is joined by some familiar friends, including Percy, Diesel, Gordon, Nia, a tank engine from Kenya in Africa, and Sir Topham Hatt, along with fresh faces like Kana – the first electric train in Sodor, and the best fix-it crew, Carly the Crane and Sandy the Rail Speeder. But it doesn’t end there. This new series sees a one-hour movie special offering viewers an action-packed adventure with new characters and a collection of new songs in Thomas & Friends: Race for the Sodor Cup, which premiers on Sunday, 17 April @ 06h30 CAT.  “Thomas and his stories have held a special place in the hearts of children across the globe, and we are proud to make Boomerang Africa the new home for Thomas &Friends: All Engines Go. Thomas will be centre stage in the brand-new series. We will see the world through his young eyes,” says Ariane Suveg, VP Kids’ Channels France, French-speaking territories, Africa & Israel. “More playful and relatable than ever before, his competitive spirit will be readily apparent as he strives to be the Number One Tank Engine through more physical comedy and music, play, trial and error, all while just enjoying being a kid!”  Thomas and Friends: All Engines Go is the fourth major revamp ever of the world-famous children’s animated show in its illustrious 75-year history. Brand-new to Boomerang Africa, the show incorporates 26 fun and entertaining social-emotional, cognitive, and physical learning moments throughout the series, including friendship, taking turns, teamwork, self-help, and empathy, a perfect show to entertain and engage the little ones whilst moms and dads enjoy the nostalgia brought on by the show!  Fred Soulie, Senior Vice President and General Manager, Mattel Television, says: “This new creative direction for the classic Thomas & Friends franchise is crafted to appeal to contemporary audiences, yet still maintain the beloved characters’ core ethos: the value of friendship. Thomas & Friends: All Engines Go features stories that are both timeless and timely, with themes that will resonate with children, parents and caregivers alike.” Mattel also gives the gift of playtime fun where kids can make their favourite moments from Thomas & Friends: All Engines Go come to life with a new range of Thomas & Friends toys. Don’t miss out on all the abso-toot-ly, off-the-rails fun with Thomas & Friends: All Engines Go on the new Cartoonito morning block on Boomerang Africa from Monday, 4 April at 06h50 CAT.

Clever Me

HOW WEIGHTED BLANKETS AND TOYS HELP WITH SLEEP, ANXIETY AND CONCENTRATION IN CLASS

Weighted blankets and toys are designed to help children and adults with difficulties such as anxiety, hyperactivity and sleeplessness to attain a calm and relaxed state. The added weight provides deep pressure input, which is interpreted by the proprioceptive system. Our proprioceptors are sensory receptors located in our muscles and joints. This system helps us feel the position of our bodies in space. Proprioceptive or ‘deep pressure’ input is calming and organising to our bodies. For the same reason, we like firm hugs when we are in distress, bite our nails or chew gum when we are anxious, and why babies suck dummies and fingers. All of these activities are using the proprioceptive system for calming. Deep pressure is also an essential part of child development. It is present for the entire period in utero and helps keep baby content in the womb. When the baby is born, they are no longer held within the tight cocoon of the womb space. Providing the same kind of pressure to their bodies helps them feel comforted and secure. It also helps to carry them over during sleep cycles, meaning they won’t need to wake up for comfort when moving from one sleep cycle to the next. Weighted blankets also provide what is called a ‘grounding effect’. They help children and adults to feel safe and secure at night, by helping them feel more grounded. There is also less chance of rolling over and the blanket slipping off, or your child kicking it off at night and then crying to be recovered. For toddlers and children, the extra weight when carrying the toy or blanket stimulates the proprioceptors, giving them more opportunity to learn about their body position in space. Heavy muscle work by carrying these items is also calming and organizing. Weighted items also provide input to the tactile system-our sense of touch. While light, unexpected touch is alerting and can be irritating, deep, constant touch is calming and comforting. Children often need this constant deep touch to remain calm, and stay asleep. Weighted items can also be very effective within the school environment. Weighted lap pads are designed to be worn over the lap in class by the restless, fidgety or anxious child. The weight helps the child remain seated for longer periods, and can benefit concentration. CleverMe lap pads are made with a plush surface for extra touch input for the child to feel and stroke for a calming input. Feely tags are also an added option, which allows children to ‘fidget’ without disrupting others. Our weighted toys are fun and colourful monsters, that can be carried around for ongoing calming input. They are great for ‘safe spots’ where children learn to regulate themselves by calming down during melt downs. They are also popular among therapists!

Koa Academy

KOA ACADEMY HIGHLIGHTS THE ADVANTAGES OF AN IEB EDUCATION IN A GLOBALISED WORLD

The pandemic years shut down a lot, but also created unexpected openings and many digital escalations. For instance, school choice has been irrevocably changed across the world.  Online school may not be the solution for every child, or every family, but many got a taste for the greater flexibility and wider scope in education that can be offered in the digital realm.  When it comes to decisions about school, geography has ruled supreme, but this is no longer the case.  Going the digital school route, parents can place more emphasis on other considerations such as the different curriculum and assessment systems that can help set your child up for success. Koa Academy, a high engagement online school is IEB-accredited.  The Independent Examinations Boards (IEB) governs the curriculum and assessment standards of private educational institutions in South Africa.   Koa Academy’s Principal, Mark Anderson says, “The IEB offers internationally recognised qualifications which are becoming increasingly important to today’s South African parents who are raising kids likely to become global workers, or who may want international study options available to their children once they have finished school.  Many see the advantages in their children achieving an IEB National Senior Certificate that is well-recognised as equivalent to the UK’s AS Level.” Proudly South African, the IEB has an impressive track record with many of their NSC and Advanced Programmes in Mathematics and English graduates going on to study at elite international universities.  While that might not be an aspiration of all parents, the benefits of an IEB qualification have come into focus in this era of globalization.  Parents do want their children to have an education that opens doors for them when it comes to further studies and employability.  Anderson says, “Opportunities for remote working are increasing vastly and we want our children to be able to join the pool of global workers so that use their talents wherever and however they can in a world of work that is rapidly changing and radically evolving. There’s no doubt that solid international recognition for your school qualification can be a significant enabler of modern careers, which is one of the reasons that Koa has opted for the IEB system.  However, it is important to note that the IEB also has a particular style and system of teaching and assessing that is also a significant advantage. It’s less about memorisation and more about the application of learning which sets kids up better for success at university which has a similar approach.” Discover Koa Academy here.

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DJ Zinhle and Cici team up with Pampers over a R 1 million ECD boost

Pampers South Africa has teamed up with celebrity moms DJ Zinhle and Busisiwe “Cici” Thwala to donate 1000 scholarships to SmartStart to support early childhood learning in South Africa.  The celebrity partnership with Pampers was launched last year through #MamaUyindlovu campaign which celebrated single moms in South Africa and the role that all parents played in their children’s lives during the lockdowns, especially single moms who had to do it all alone. Pampers created a special video where Cici shared how she created special moments and brought the world home to her son during lockdown. “My son spent most of the first year of his life in lockdown so I was worried about him not being able to learn through exploration because we couldn’t step out. Children learn through play and spending time with other children. So, I’m very excited now that the world is now opening up and he can attend playgroups and playdates to help his growth and development.” said Cici. In South Africa, it is estimated that, in the poorest 40% of households, only 20% of birth to four-year-old children attend some form of out-of-home care. Pampers hopes that through their partnership with SmartStart they can provide learning opportunities to more children to provide support to families, especially single mom-headed families and help little ones unlock their potential in our post lockdown world through access to quality learning programmes. SmartStart’s franchised programme is delivered through playgroups, day mothers and Early Childhood Development (ECD) centres that all seek to improve children’s readiness for learning, school performance, and overall life success. “Forming relationships with an organisation, such as Pampers, is very important to address inequality and access to education at an early age,” Grace Matlhapi said, Smart Start CEO.   “We look forward to driving this partnership even in years to come to help to unlock South Africa’s potential,” concluded Rajat Gupta, Senior Brand Director at Pampers.

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Cognitive Development Activities for Primary School Kids

A child’s primary school years are some of the most important in terms of their cognitive development. If developmental foundations are not established at this crucial age, then it will become very difficult to harness these skill sets later on in life.  A child’s physical, social and emotional development has a direct impact on the adult they will become. In order to maximise a child’s future well-being, it is vitally important to practice developmental activities at a primary school age. Whilst an effective primary education will give a child a significant developmental boost, children will further benefit from a home environment that also focuses on stimulating these essential skills.  In this article, we will look at the different stages of cognitive development and provide practical ideas to help harness essential skills at each stage.  Cognitive Development When we refer to development areas we aren’t just talking about academics. Cognitive development refers to how a child thinks, how they understand concepts and their problem-solving abilities. John Piaget’s theory of cognitive development highlights four key stages that a child progresses through in their developmental years.  As a child develops and engages with the world around them, they continually build their knowledge base and adapt these learned concepts to accommodate new information. Piaget defined the four stages of cognitive development as: Sensorimotor stage: birth to 2 years Preoperational stage: ages 2 to 7 Concrete operational stage: ages 7 to 11 Formal operational stage: ages 12 and up The Sensorimotor Stage From birth until around the age of two a child undergoes dramatic physical and sensory developmental changes. As infants and toddlers interact with the world around them, they continuously learn new skills and begin to understand how the world works. Most of a child’s experience at this early stage occurs through basic reflexes, their senses and motor responses. From crawling to walking to learning to talk and expressing their emotions, the cognitive development that occurs during the infant to toddler years involves a great deal of noticeable growth.  There are many activities that parents can engage their children in at this early age based on their developmental progress. A six-month-old baby will enjoy different activities to an 18-month-old so it is important to engage in age-appropriate activities that are stimulating to the child.  The Preoperational Stage Piaget refers to the age of two until around seven as the preoperational stage. In these years, children begin to think symbolically and learn to use words or visuals to represent objects. At this age, a child has not fully developed empathy and they often struggle to see things from the perspective of others. Whilst they are beginning to communicate and comprehend concepts more effectively they still tend to think about things as very “black and white” and struggle to find exceptions to situations.  The most notable and important developmental milestones that occur in this stage are language and imagination. Whilst they may be able to communicate and understand basic concepts at this stage, children between the ages of two and seven may still struggle with basic logic and understanding the idea of constancy.   Parents who want to stimulate their child’s preoperational development can engage in activities that encourage language development, listening skills and creativity.  The Concrete Operational Stage Piaget referred to the age between seven and eleven years as the concrete operational stage. During this stage, a child’s thinking becomes more logical and organised.  While children are still very concrete and literal in their thinking at this point in their development, they do begin to use logic in their decision making and they begin to develop empathy and consideration for others. Whilst IQ was previously considered as a benchmark in a child’s educational success, studies in recent years have shown that developing a child’s EQ can have a direct correlation to academics and long term success.  Children at this stage of development would benefit from enrolling in activities and courses that stimulate social-emotional learning. The Formal Operational Stage From the age of around twelve, a child begins to think more abstractly and is able to apply reason to hypothetical problems. At this age, children also begin to think more about moral, philosophical, ethical, social, and political issues that require theoretical and abstract reasoning. They start seeing multiple potential solutions to problems and think more scientifically about the world around them. This abstract thinking ability allows a child to systematically plan for the future and hypothesise potential outcomes.  Online courses that teach principles of robotics and coding will be beneficial as they teach children how to solve complex problems through trial and error. Children at the operational stage will also benefit from developmental activities like playing board games, baking and volunteering activities.  It’s a qualitative process… Piaget did not believe that each stage of a child’s development was a quantitative process. In other words, he did not believe that each stage simply added more information to their existing knowledge base. Instead, he believed that the process was qualitative and that there are fundamental changes in how a child thinks. It is not simply a process of adding more information but rather the changing of thought processing patterns and abilities to comprehend the world around them.  How can parents aid in their child’s development? Many parents might be daunted by the idea of adequately equipping their child during the early development years. It is important to note that whilst most children will develop these essential life skills in a natural progression, there is a direct correlation between education and cognitive development. Ensuring that your child’s education provides a platform for them to learn according to their unique personality and strengths will further aid their cognitive development. 

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HOW TO AVOID BREAST LEAKAGE MISHAPS

Breast leakage is something which many mothers fear. Whilst this is not a sure fire expectation for all moms who choose to breastfeed, it is more common than one would think. But fear not, there is absolutely nothing to worry about, if you know how to be prepared. Read on below to see how you can prepare for breast leakage easily. When You Can Expect Breast Leakage  Many moms only expect their milk to come in once their baby is born. However, your breasts will begin lactating during your third trimester of pregnancy. Whilst you will not actually physically express milk, your breasts will begin to produce it. This could lead to a leakage problem when you least expect it. Leaking breasts can be expected from then until you decide to stop breastfeeding your child.  How To Treat The Problem Breast leakage can’t be cured, but it can be helped. One of the best things a mom can have in her pre-baby birth arsenal is a set of breast pads. You can pick up either disposable or reusable pads, both of which have their own merits. However, having a pair such as the Medela machine washable re-usable breast pads can end up saving you a lot of money overall. All you need to do is wear these pads over your nipple, under your bra throughout the day. If your breast begins to produce milk, the pad will soak it up, meaning you don’t need to face any unsightly spills.  Never Give A Second Through To Breast Leakage Again With comfortable breast pads in tow, you never need to worry about a spill again. Better yet, the Medela pads were designed in a discrete, comfortable easy to wear shape. Be sure to pick up a pair of these incredible pads today and never worry about breast leakage again. 

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BABY FEEDING MYTHS DEBUNKED

There are a few baby feeding myths in circulation, which will definitely be forced on you as a new parent. However, this is where we step in to help you separate the fact from the fiction. Take a look below to see our top baby feeding myths and how we have debunked them for you! #1 Baby Feeding Myth: Fruit Juice Is A Healthy Hydration For Your Baby This is a common mistake made by parents. Fruit juice – especially highly processed kinds – contain massive amounts of sugar. This can lead to unnecessary tooth decay in your baby. Babies younger than a year should not be given fruit juice at all and children should be limited to their intake.  #2 Baby Feeding Myth: They Don’t Know When They’re Full Many parents tend to over feed their children in fear of them not having enough to eat. However, this is a dangerous practice. Force feeding your baby is never a good idea as this will cause them to develop unhealthy relations with food later on. if your child turns away from their meal and are hesitant to eat trust them that they are full. #3 Baby Feeding Myth: Honey Is A Healthy Sweet Treat No, no and no. giving honey to a baby under 12 month old can lead them to develop an illness called botulism. Rather avoid this sweet treat until they are much older.  #4 Baby Feeding Myth: Avoid Allergenic Foods Whilst Breastfeeding This is also is a common mistake amidst breastfeeding moms. Did you know that you are encouraged to eat high allergen foods whilst breastfeeding? This actually helps your child develop anti-bodies against allergies, making them stronger to them at a later stage. This was proved as per the following study; Pitt et al. Reduced risk of peanut sensitization following exposure through breast-feeding and early peanut introduction. J Allergy Clin Immunol. 2018;141(2):620-625.e1.

Bonitas – innovation, life stages and quality care

Ten tips for flu and Covid-19 vaccines

The seasons are changing and with winter on its way, which heralds the start of the ‘flu season’. We chat to Dr Morgan Mkhatshwa, Head of Operations at Bonitas Medical Fund on why a flu vaccine is recommended, not just by the Scheme but also the World Health Organization (WHO). 1.Why should I get a flu vaccine? Although the flu vaccine will not eliminate your risk of developing flu, it helps reduce your chances of severe infection. Annually, seasonal influenza (flu) kills around 11 500 people in South Africa which is why it is a good precautionary measure to take.  2.How are Covid-19 and flu viruses similar?  WHO says that Covid-19 and influenza viruses are similar in disease presentation. ‘Firstly, they both cause respiratory disease, which presents a wide range of illness from asymptomatic or mild through to severe disease and death.  ‘Secondly, both viruses are transmitted by contact, droplets and any material that can carry infection. As a result, the same public health measures such as hand hygiene and social distancing is recommended.’  3.What are the essential differences between Covid-19 and flu?  Flu is an acute viral respiratory infection, transmitted by the influenza virus.  There are three types of influenza, namely Influenza A, B and C. Covid-19 and influenza are essentially different viruses with SARS-CoV-2 being a newly discovered coronavirus that causes Covid-19.  4.Why do I need a flu shot every year? The flu virus changes every year, this means last year’s vaccine will not keep you safe this year. The vaccine helps your immune system fight off the virus by producing antibodies – the soldiers in your body that battle the flu virus. 5.What vaccines have been developed for 2022? The flu vaccines available for this year are: The Vaxigrip Tetra, Influvac and Influvac Tetra. 6.Can I get the flu vaccine and a Covid-19 vaccine together? As per the National Covid-19 Vaccination Programme Circular 3 of 2022, the answer is yes. However, it is recommended that if you decide to have both vaccines at the same time, then one should be on the left arm and one on the right. 7.Who should get a flu vaccine? It is recommended that anyone in the High-risk groups including: Healthcare workers  Individuals over 65 years of age  Individuals with chronic diseases – or comorbidities – for example: Cardiac disease, hypertension, stroke, diabetes, asthma, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, kidney diseases, etc.  Pregnant women  People living with HIV/AIDS  8.Who should NOT have the flu vaccine? Individuals who are allergic to eggs or egg proteins as the manufacturing process for the vaccine involves the use of chicken eggs  Infants under 6 months of age – the vaccines are not licensed for use in such young children  Individuals who may have had a severe reaction to a flu vaccine in the past – if you are unsure discuss with your healthcare provider  Individuals who may be suffering from flu symptoms already  9.Will the flu shot give me a mild flu? According to the Centre for Disease Control (CDC), ‘A flu shot cannot cause flu. Flu vaccines are currently made either with flu vaccine viruses that have been ‘inactivated’ and are not infectious or with no flu vaccine viruses at all. The most common side-effects from the vaccine are soreness, redness, tenderness or swelling where the shot was given. Serious allergic reactions to flu vaccines are very rare.’  10.Still not convinced?  Flu viruses spread very quickly from person to person.  Even if the flu vaccine is not 100% effective against the current flu strain, it will reduce your risk of getting flu and, if you do get it, it will be a great deal milder.  More importantly, by having the flu vaccine you protect others, who may be vulnerable family members, small babies, the elderly or those who are immune compromised.  As with Covid-19, the more people vaccinated the closer we can get to ’herd immunity’. 

Syllabis Learning

How to Adjust from Traditional school to Independent Learning

Thinking about making a change to your child’s method of education? Or perhaps you have already decided to change to homeschooling, or what we prefer to call Independent Learning? This could be due to various reasons, some of which may include wanting to remove your kids from a negative school environment, to protect them from bullying, or giving them the freedom to learn in a progressive way that may be more appropriate for them. An environment where creativity is nurtured and celebrated, a method of schooling that better prepares your child for his or her future. Let us offer you peace of mind as you transition to what we believe to be a brilliant way to educate your kids. Here are some valuable tips to ease the transition from traditional school to Independent Learning: 1. Include your kids in the conversation  Talk about this decision with your whole family, share your goals with your children and listen to their excitement and concerns. Identify what your education goals are, and the endless possibilities you can achieve by them learning independently. 2. Legalities Homeschooling is legal in South Africa and only grade1 to 9 are required to be registered for homeschooling with the Department of Basic Education (DBE). Withdrawing your child from school and registering him or her as a homeschooler with the DBE is a relatively easy process and a Syllabis consultant will guide and help you with all the necessary steps once you have purchased a Syllabis curriculum. 3. Try not to mimic school at home Trying to recreate the school environment for your child is a trap that many parents easily fall into. Consider this in your schedule or approach and try not to separate your role of teacher and parent. It helps to integrate your learning and teaching into your parenting and lifestyle. 4. Give yourself time to adjust and de-school Realize that it may take some time for your children to find their feet so give them some room to breathe. Every child is different so make decisions and schedules that fit with your child’s needs. Some kids take a few weeks to adjust, and some may take a few months, try enjoying being together as a family again and work slowly into new routines. 5. Set up a daily schedule You will want to create a basic schedule for your new homeschool day. Having a basic plan in writing will aid in the transition process. It will also help you stay on track and feel like you are getting the necessary things accomplished. Even if you do not stick to your schedule like glue, having something basic in writing will greatly aid your organization.  6. Decrease the time spent in “official” school Mainstream school requires 6-8 hours of schooling while if your child focuses, he or she will soon realize that school can be done in 2-3 hours a day, leaving hours to be spent doing extra-curricular activities or spending time on hobbies or playing. 7. Increase the breaks in-between subjects Who says school must take place in 8 hours? A lot of independent learners have found shorter study times, interspersed by frequent breaks, can boost productivity.  8. Adapt as you go Observe your family as you go and continue to adjust to what works best for you. You’ll be amazed at how much you learn about your children’s personalities and abilities and how best they learn.  9. Sign up for extra-curricular activities Sign up for sporting and extra-curricular activities, to stay active and social. We can aid with extra-curricular activities like Online Music School, Life Coaching, English Pronunciation and Reading Skills program, Golf instruction, Marshall Arts, video Gaming, 3D Printing, Medical School, and Driving School. 10. Take advantage of a support network While you are transitioning from traditional school to homeschool you may have questions, take advantage of the support your curriculum provider provides. Syllabis will guide you through the full transition and provide in-depth support and guidance. One of the fundamental services we offer is our tutoring service- Syllabis Tutoring has been a leading provider of tutoring services in South Africa since 2014. While our focus at that time was 1 on 1 personalised tutoring, we have expanded to offer the following products and services around tutoring: 1 on 1 in-person tutoring 1 on 1 online tutoring Group tutoring – online or in-person Study skills course – online or in-person Learners License K-53 Language tutoring Why Choose Us? All our tutoring packages come bundled with our world-class e-books, and progress reporting system. We offer a pricing option on average 20% less than our competitors. Independent Learning teaches learners to become independent and allows them the space to become more creative thinkers and doers. It gives them the freedom to learn by their own rules and work by their own schedule, as well as the freedom to soar ahead academically! Syllabis Tutoring Solutions: Cutting Edge Home Based, Group and Virtual Tutoring Solutions in South Africa. Contact us on 087 150 9461 Today.

Parenting Hub

Preparing children with ADHD for the new school year

The new school year is an exciting time – new experiences, new learning, and new friends. Yet, for a child with ADHD, it typically spells academic pressure and school stress.  Nicole Jennings, spokesperson for Pharma Dynamics says the transition back to school can be fraught with anxiety, for both children and parents. “If your child is at school full-time, on the hybrid model or doing online schooling exclusively, structure, routine and predictability is key to making the transition back to school as smooth as possible.”  Here she cites essential tips to get the school year off to a flying start: Resume or review medication. Some children go on a medication vacation over the holidays or they adjust their dosage. Therefore, ensure that your child’s medication is resumed, readjusted or reviewed for the school year. Collaborate with the teacher. Meet your child’s teacher as soon as you can to discuss your child’s needs, and any challenges that they may have experienced last year. Help your child get organised. With impaired executive function and poor time management, prioritise getting your child organised. For younger kids, this can be in the form of a visible calendar where they can see their schedule for the day and week.  For your older child or teen, develop an organisational system together; set up binders, folders and diaries before school starts. If your child forgets the steps for getting ready in the morning, for example, put up visual prompts to jog their memory. Work out a method with your child for checking homework completion, e.g. sitting down to tell you about the homework and to show you when it’s completed or listing homework tasks on a whiteboard and marking them off when they have been done. If your child finds assignments daunting, break it down into smaller, more manageable chunks, and work out a plan of action with them. Then, let them diarise the dates for delivery.  4.Organise your home environment. Set up a study area and an organisational system to make your home conducive for studying. Keep their school bag and stationery supplies in a set place. Let them lay out their school and sports uniforms before going to bed, for example. 5.Settle your child into their weekday morning and bedtime routine. Children with ADHD generally struggle with falling asleep and waking up early, so make sure they get enough sleep. As the school year progresses, let them review their work before bedtime as this technique helps with processing and retaining information. 6.Plan your child’s extra mural activities. Understand your child’s interests and hobbies and encourage extramural activities that will boost their confidence and give them an opportunity to excel. Regular exercise is particularly important for your child, considering its role in managing ADHD symptoms, so either include sport as part of extra mural activities or schedule time for your child (and yourself) to exercise on a regular basis. 7. Start developing your child’s metacognition. Metacognition, defined as “thinking about your thinking,” is an important tool for developing self-awareness and self-regulation around one’s cognitive ability. With metacognitive practices, you become aware of your strengths and weaknesses. As a learner; you recognise your knowledge and abilities; you know what your weaknesses are, and adapt your learning strategies and resources accordingly. This is an excellent tool for ADHD-diagnosed children, of all ages, and parents can guide their children in developing these practises. Here are a few points to start the coaching process:  8.1. Ask open-ended, process-oriented questions about their thinking process, such as: What are you thinking? Why did you do it that way? Why did you react the way you did? How could you handle that differently? How do you intend to study? How do you know when this (task) is finished? 8.2. Have conversations with your child about learning, strategies and resources they intend to use, and how to determine what’s working well or not.  8.3. Model the practise to your child by explaining to them how you monitor your learning, how you adjusted your thought processes, and what the outcome was as a result.  9. Build confidence and morale. School is challenging for the ADHD- diagnosed child and their self-esteem will take a knock. Parents and caregivers can also be very critical at times and point out weaknesses. Remember to focus on your child’s strengths, and use positive reinforcement tools to build their self-esteem.  10.Create calm and connection. A child’s development is significantly impacted by their parents’ stress levels. While parenting an ADHD child is stressful, it’s important that you don’t transfer your own stress onto your child. Creating low stress environment by practising self-control during stressful situations will give your child the security they need to thrive.  As a trusted provider of central nervous system medication and understanding the difficulty parents face when raising children with ADHD, Pharma Dynamics has partnered with leading health tech company, Augmental Technologies, to launch an innovative app, geared at empowering parents. “The Tracto app allows parents to invite teachers, healthcare professionals and other caregivers of a child’s care team to monitor symptoms and side-effects collaboratively, stay on track by setting reminders for medication, activities and assessments and to keep a digital history of their child’s care journey and response to different stimuli. “Beyond medication and behavioural therapy, a well-coordinated care team is at the heart of an effective treatment plan for children with ADHD,” says Jennings. Pharma Dynamics’ Tracto app can be accessed via either Google or Apple app stores or downloaded here.

Bonitas – innovation, life stages and quality care

SYMPHYSIS PUBIS DYSFUNCTION (SPD) AND HOW TO DEAL WITH IT

Symphysis pubis dysfunction or SPD is pain in your pelvis, which is caused by the relaxing of ligaments in the pelvic bones too early before birth. Many aspects of pregnancy can cause discomfort, and SPD is one of them. Here are the signs of SPD and what you can do if you think you to alleviate your discomfort if you are suffering from it.  What is SPD and what causes it? Not all moms-to-be will experience SPD but it is thought to be fairly common in pregnancy. SPD is a pain in the symphysis pubis (which can range from moderate to serve) caused by the relaxing and stretching of the ligaments around the pelvic bone. Pain can be brought on by opening your legs, walking up stairs or even turning over in bed, and this may be accompanied by a clicking/grinding sensation in the pubic area.  The cause of SPD in pregnancy is the hormone relaxin, aptly named as it relaxes your joints and ligaments to make it easier for your baby to come out at birth. SPD happens when these hormones come into play too early. Not only that but you’re shifting centre of as your baby grows, which can cause main in your lower back and pelvis as your body shifts to accommodate your little one.  What can I do to relieve SPD  Living with SPD can be uncomfortable at best, so you may be wondering what you can do to help alleviate some pain. Being fit before pregnancy can help, as stronger glute and abdominal muscles can help support your pelvis. Physiotherapy can help manage SPD pain, as a physio will be able to work with you as your pregnancy and pain levels change. Speak to your doctor first, as they may have recommendations for you. Your pelvis should return to normal between 4 and 12 weeks after birth

Halo Dish Covers

The Basic Guide to Meal Prep for Busy Moms

Every busy mom has had this moment at some point in their lives – the fantasy that plays out in their head where the picture perfect world exists and all they have to do on a busy weekday night is to open the freezer, pull out a pre-packed meal, heat and eat.  This isn’t the perfect world, though and reality tends to be a LOT different. For the majority of us, the real world looks like unwashed dishes, hangry kids and half the ingredients for tonight’s dinner still sitting on shelves at the nearest supermarket. The stress truly is enough to warrant popping open a bottle before Wine O’Clock (which according to a recent survey is 6:59pm, by the way).  But there are options! You could: Hire a full-time live-in chef Order takeout every night. Learn how to Meal Prep.  Now before you throw in the proverbial towel and start looking through your options on UberEats, take a minute to read through this guide to make dinner time a whole lot easier for next time.  Let’s start with the basics… What is meal prep? Meal prep is the process of preparing food ahead of time so that it’s readily available at mealtime and can be easily assembled to create full meals.  Meal prep differs from meal planning in that one requires making a decision about what meals will be served versus the other, that requires the actual preparation of ingredients for the meal. Either way, both processes are required steps in this guide.  What are the benefits? For busy moms, it can be a real juggling act to get good, healthy food on the table. By planning your meals out and prepping them beforehand, you can help ease your ‘mental load’ while preparing more nourishing meals, freeing up more time and saving money in the process.  How to begin meal prepping Let’s face it – efficient meal prepping can be overwhelming and won’t happen overnight. It’s a process that takes a lot of work but this is what I’ve found works for me: 1.Meal Plan Use an app, a piece of paper or a printable template to outline what meals you want to prepare for the week.  Top tip: Don’t feel the need to have a different meal at every interval. Oats three times a week for breakfast is perfectly okay. In fact, it’s encouraged, seeing as oatmeal can be prepared and covered with a dish cover overnight until it is ready for serving the next day.  2.Go through your pantry / cupboards  Once you’ve laid out your meals, you may be tempted to hit the grocery store right away. PAUSE. First take a look at what you have in your kitchen. You might find that you already have all the items needed for a full meal. In that case, simply adjust your meal plan accordingly.  This also presents a perfect time to clean out your fridge 😉 3.Head to the grocery store I highly recommend making use of a list here!  Ensure that you’ve listed down everything needed to create the meals on your meal plan and get to shopping. Top tip: If possible, try to shop during off-peak hours to avoid long lines and hoards of humans.  4.Prep your storage containers  If you plan on meal prepping consistently, you’ll want to invest in reliable containers that are durable and easy to clean. I prefer glass to plastic.  You’ll also want to invest in some reusable homeware, such as cotton dish covers, in order to keep food protected as it cools and also keep condensation at bay. These dish covers come highly recommended.  Top tip: Pull these out shortly after grocery shopping to remind you to begin your meal prep as soon as possible.  Chop veggies, prepare grains and prep your food for the week Now it’s time to get into the real work! This can look different each week but the basic premise is to make sure that all the chopping, dicing and boiling is done.  Top tip: Don’t be reluctant to use frozen fruits and veggies as these can go a long way.  Soak grains overnight and cover with a dish cover to allow for easy cooking the following day. Avoid preparing grains more than four days from the time you plan on serving them as they tend to degrade pretty quickly.  If you are preparing potatoes ahead of time, plan to eat them within the first few days of cooking.  5.Bake, cool, store If you are baking and roasting food, make sure that these items have cooled completely before putting them in the fridge. This is where dish covers really come in handy, as they allow food to cool without condensation and eliminate harmful toxins that may be absorbed into your food from plastic wrap. 6.Place your meal plan on the fridge and enjoy your week Having a meal plan and food prepped can truly be life changing. And guess what? You won’t have to answer the question of what’s for dinner? anytime soon, because it’s posted on the fridge! Everyone wins! Being a mom can mean a lot of things but being a magician when it comes to food doesn’t have to be one of them. By putting in the necessary effort and planning ahead, you can save time, money and be a lot less overwhelmed. 

Koa Academy

HOW DO SCHOOLS DEVELOP SKILLS FOR THE UNKNOWABLE FUTURE?

At a recent Koa Academy & Fully Alive webinar for parents, Koa Academy Principal, Mark Anderson took a deep-dive into what schools need to be doing now to prepare our kids for a future of work that is ever-changing and deeply uncertain. He says, “As parents and grandparents, we were schooled in times when the world of work changed gradually and mostly, predictably.  It’s a different, rapid-paced, and uncertain world for our current digital natives, who may in a few years’ time find themselves job-seeking or job creating in the metaverse.  This very different future of work demands different skills and qualities, and schools today need to be adaptive in helping them develop the characteristics and having youthful experiences that will set them up for fulfilment and success in their adult lives.”  Fully Alive founder, Meg Bruyns was the guest co-presenter at the webinar, and she works regularly with teens and parents to support the development of personal skills that help each of us get what we need and want from life.  Meg says, “Having purpose and clarity around our strengths, interests and passions is a vital roadmap, and school education can play an important role in fostering this in individual children.  Different skills have come to the fore in the digital age, such as reflective thinking and critical thinking.  Employers have very different needs from today’s employees – and young people have very different expectations and demands of work.” Once regarded as ‘soft’ skills which were not necessary but nice to have, the capabilities to solve problems and create solutions, to communicate, collaborate and work as a team now feature at the top of the lists of essential 21st Century skills.  Mark says, “For businesses, the abilities to be flexible and agile are superseding characteristics such rule-following and acquiescence.  So, the question is how do schools provide environments where children have varied opportunities to develop these important competencies?” To find out about some of the practical ways that Koa Academy has implemented to enable kids to develop skills for the unknowable future watch the Koa Academy and Fully Alive Future of Work webinar here

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WHAT TO EXPECT FROM YOUR BREAST CHANGES DURING (AND AFTER) PREGNANCY

Breast changes within a pregnant woman are truly incredible. The topic of breast development is one which is grossly misunderstood. Most women have an incorrect knowledge of how their own body develops. For most of ladies, it is assumed that by the time they have gone through puberty, that their breasts are fully developed. But this is wildly incorrect. Puberty is actually just the beginning of breast development.  Within this article, we will discuss the actual development cycle of a woman’s breasts and what changes she can prepare herself for both during, and after pregnancy. You Ain’t Seen Nothing Yet! How Breasts Develop After Puberty Many people link breast development to size. Simply put, this is the wrong measure to take. Whilst a woman’s breast size will remain relatively the same from puberty up until pregnancy, the real development happens within the tissue itself. Breasts actually continue to develop every time a woman menstruates. When it is that time of the month, a lady’s breasts begin to produce small amounts of secretory tissue. This is the tissue that allows milk production to take place. This cycle will go on until a woman either reaches the age of about 34, or she falls pregnant. Naturally, another question arises in light of this knowledge. If a woman is consistently creating additional tissue, why do the breasts not get bigger as she gets older? Well, the breast actually replace the older cells within them when creating the new ones. As such, the old cells are replaced by the new. This is also why a lady’s breasts become incredibly sensitive during this time.  In a nutshell, the body only begins to develop a woman’s breasts from the end of puberty onwards. But, what happens when you fall pregnant? Breast Development During Pregnancy Pregnancy is truly a miraculous time for a woman. Multiple changes begin to happen within your body. Your hormones sore, your bodily functions begin to change, but above all, a tiny being begins to grow within you.  This period can be seen as your breast development heyday. During this time, your breasts will grow into full maturity. And it all begins after month one of falling pregnant. The first notable thing a woman will experience is the sensitivity of her breasts. This is actually one of the most common first signs of pregnancy. This is caused by the sudden change in hormones within her body. Within the first four to six weeks, the breasts will be particularly sensitive – similar to how they feel during a period. For the first trimester of her pregnancy, a woman’s breasts will remain sensitive. Visible Physical Changes The next change is one you will physically be able to witness. During pregnancy, breasts may go up by a cup size. This change happens particularly in first time mothers. Some ladies even go up by two sizes during this time. You will start to see the beginning of this growth from about six to eight weeks into pregnancy. Breasts may also begin to feel particularly itchy during pregnancy. This is due to the tightness of the skin within the area as the breasts grow. Some women have even developed stretch marks on their breasts during pregnancy from the sudden growth. Areola Changes Another physical indication of breast change during pregnancy are prominent veins. When pregnant, a woman’s breasts may begin to show large, blue veins running through them. This is attributed to the act that the veins will expand to accommodate extra blood flow of the growing breast tissues. Don’t be alarmed if you notice this on yourself – it is completely natural and will fade once you have given birth and stopped breastfeeding. Additional colour changes to expect occur within the areolas. During pregnancy, it is common for a woman’s areolas to become slightly larger, and darker in colour. Your areolas will also develop pronounced bumps, known as Montgomery’s tubercles. These are oil producing glands which are common within pregnancy, and help lubricate the nipples during this time. Tissue Changes  As far as changes are concerned, the first thing which begins to change in the tissue structure are the amount of milk ducts within the breast. The hormones released during pregnancy send messages to the breast structure informing it of the need to increase the number of ducts – as feeding will soon begin. As such, a burst of ducts begins to develop within the breast tissue.  Lactocytes are another tissue addition within the breasts during pregnancy. These are actually the milk production cells. Naturally, the body will need to develop these as they are the power houses behind breastfeeding. Other Changes The next set of changes do not necessarily happen within all women. Firstly, there is the possibility of the breasts leaking. During the third month of pregnancy, a woman’s body begins to produce the liquid substance known as colostrum. This is also known as liquid gold, as it contains nutritional value second to none for babies. However, during the last few months of pregnancy, the breasts may actually leak a tiny bit of colostrum. This happens frequently in some women, may start earlier in others, and may not occur for some moms. If you experience a breast leakage, don’t be ashamed. Invest in a few disposable breast pads and wear these during this time. Another pregnancy change could be that of lumpy breast tissue. Some ladies may develop umps within the breasts during pregnancy. This can commonly be associated to milk-filled cysts beginning to appear. These should subside once the woman begins to pump r breast feed. How to Deal With Breast Changes During Pregnancy Breast changes can be uncomfortable for some women. Even if they are not causing discomfort to you, there is something every pregnant woman needs to invest in; nursing bras. Nursing bras or apparel is a must have for all moms to be. These are designed to optimize comfort both during pregnancy and after. They also allow for easy feeding when your little one

Bill Corbett

4 THINGS TO DO WITH AN EXPLOSIVE OR ANGRY TEEN

Before I go any further on this topic, it’s always a good idea to seek professional help with a child or teen who frequently becomes explosive and angry when told no. Keep in mind that this column is not a substitute for psychotherapy or family counselling. The advice that I offer is supplemental parent coaching that can help in many situations. The subject of today’s article is a common issue that many parents bring to me in my parent coaching practice. Generally, the child is usually anywhere from 7 to 14 years of age and often explodes at the smallest of problems, especially when they are told they can’t have or do something. The child is also likely to take out their anger on the parent or a sibling. So while you’re waiting for the appointment with your therapist regarding this problem, here are four things you can do immediately. Help them find their place in the family. A large majority of these children tend to be first born. For many years, they enjoyed being in the family ‘spotlight’ and getting all of their parents’ love and attention. But as other children joined the family, they lost their place and don’t like it. By getting angry with limits and boundaries, they found a new and inappropriate way to fit in by becoming vocal and angry. Help them regain their position as the oldest child by seeking their help, their advice, and their assistance. Find purposeful ways for them to be in charge of activities that helps with the other children, such as reading to them, teaching, or mentoring. Allow them to have a few more privileges than the others so they will feel special and valuable to you. Stop doing too much for your child. The triggers that cause the explosive episodes are sometimes over the parent trying to get the child to wake up in the morning, dressing them, controlling laundry, or getting them out of the house in the morning. If you’re trying to control the outcome of everything, stop. Some parents struggle with turning some responsibilities over to their children and many children or teens don’t like being controlled. Acknowledge good behaviour more often. It’s unfortunate that it’s normal for many parents to point out when their children aren’t doing what they should, more often than pointing out when they ARE doing something good. Make it your mission to make a bigger deal of when your children are behaving or doing as you’d like them to do. Spend more time with the explosive child. His behaviour may be his way of telling you that he doesn’t feel loved by, or important enough to, you. Schedule a date with each of your children (especially the explosive child) every week, even if it means for just a few minutes. Avoid taking him or her out to buy them something. The date should be about the experience of being together, not showering them with material things. Finally, when the anger comes out, don’t give it value by trying to stop it or by fighting back. Remain calm, stay quiet, and be ready to listen.

Bill Corbett

SETTING LIMITS CAN BE PAINFUL

One day my 9-year-old daughter called me at my office to tell me that she had left her lunch money at home again and needed me to bring it to her. This typical forgetfulness by my children was quite annoying but something I thought I was supposed to resolve as a father.  On my ride to the school, I couldn’t help but think about the inconvenience.  More importantly, I suddenly became concerned about how responsible my daughter would eventually be as an adult if I was constantly remembering for her or rescuing her. That evening, I gathered my three children for an impromptu family meeting to discuss a few changes that would take effect immediately.  I announced that from now on, they were solely responsible for remembering to bring with them any items they needed for school that day — lunch money, homework, and school projects.  I advised them that unless it was required for health and safety reasons, I was no longer willing to run home and retrieve what they left behind.  My responsibility as a dad teaching his children about limits required me to draw a personal boundary. During that meeting, I also took the time to help them come up with ideas that would enable and empower them to remember on their own. For the next few weeks, my plan worked and the kids were so proud of themselves with their new sense of responsibility — until one day, my 9-year-old daughter called the office.  Expressing worry and distress, she told me she had left a book report poster due that day on the dining room table.  She described to me how much time and effort she had spent working on it the night before.  She then confirmed that she was aware of my new “dad rule” about leaving things at home, but pleaded with me to bring it to her or she would receive a bad grade on the assignment.  She promised that this would be the last time that she would ever call me for anything like this.  My initial feeling at that moment was that I could go and get it for her, “just this one time,” because I loved her so much and didn’t want her to fail.  But I knew that doing so would violate my boundary and teach her that limits are set to be broken.  One of the hardest moments while raising our kids was my decision to tell her that I was abiding by the new family rule, and I was unwilling to retrieve the poster.  I wished her a good day, hung up the phone, and cried in my office.  As it turned it out, the teacher agreed to give her partial credit for the assignment if she brought it in the very next day; my daughter remembered for herself from that moment on. Raising cooperative and responsible children requires teaching them about clear, respectful limits and boundaries.  It helps them to become self-sufficient and teaches them personal responsibility.  Our children want to know “who’s flying the plane” and it’s up to us to show them we’re the pilot!

Bill Corbett

DEALING WITH YOUR CHILD’S POWER STRUGGLES

Power struggles develop every day at work, at the store, and even jockeying for that spot in the parking lot.  Just look around you the next time you’re out driving; someone cuts you off, blocks you from entering a lane, or rides your bumper.  Initiating a power struggle is a way of expressing the frustration of being overpowered by others, the feeling of having little or no power, or being ignored and forced into feeling insignificant.  It makes us want to push back for our own power.  The same goes for children.  When they feel overpowered or insignificant, and want something from us (or know we want them to cooperate), they then initiate a power struggle. What to Do When They Want Something from You. Here’s a technique for situations when a child asks for something repeatedly until you cave in.  It might be a cookie right before mealtime, a toy while in the store, something they want to play with, or a place they want to go.  When your child first asks for the item you don’t want him to have, be firm and loving by stating, “I’m not willing for you to have that right now.”  Avoid saying “No” because it might encourage him to try harder to make you say “Yes.”  Using the term “willing” sets up a personal boundary and avoids defiance.  Children who throw fits to get what they want have been taught to do this by adults around them who have given in to their demands.  If he drops to the floor and goes into a meltdown, let it happen.  It indicates that you are winning and he is simply using another technique to get you to crack.  If you can learn to do this on a regular basis, you will actually teach your child that you mean what you say.  He may throw more fits in the beginning as a way of expressing, “I don’t like this new thing you’re doing,” but he will eventually learn to respect you for your boundaries.  The most valuable lesson he will learn from your actions is creating respectful boundaries with others. What to Do When You Need Their Cooperation. Solutions to handling a power struggle when you want something from them are very different.  I suggest replacing commands or orders with clear and appropriate choices.  For example, instead of saying, “It’s time to take your bath,” give him a choice by saying, “Would you like mommy to give you your bath or grandma?”  I remember picking up my granddaughter from the day care center one day and I could sense that she was overtired.  I knew she would not respond cooperatively to my request to get into her car seat so I offered a choice.  I said to her in a cheerful voice, “Would you like grandpa to put you in your seat or would you like to do it yourself?”  Immediately she declared with a whine that she would do it herself and strapped herself in.  Giving your child choices makes her feel powerful and creates less need to struggle with you.

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Discover a Natural Boost from Nature’s Pharmacy to Bring Your New Year into Focus

Each start of a new year is a chance to reset our health, stay balanced and reach for new goals. It is also a busy time as we return to work, school, and our daily commitments for the months ahead. If you are reaching for clarity, calm, focus and motivation to get you tuned up for the year, consider a natural boost from Nature’s own pharmacy. The simple, yet effective, power of aromatherapy’s concentrated oils and fragrances will guide and support you through cranky mornings, midday stress , afternoon fatigue and late night lags without the need for caffeine or chemicals. The efficacy of natural aromatherapies to soothe our senses, calm our minds and refresh our outlook with renewed focus, among their many other natural health remedies, has been clinically proven by trusted scientific sources in studies dating back to 2013, but their effects as a natural everyday remedy have been celebrated by human beings since 3 500 BC. The beauty of aromatherapy is that just as each person is unique in mind, spirit, and physiology, so too is each scent from nature’s cornucopia of essences, herbs, flowers and plant extracts which make up the medicine cabinet of these aromatic medicines and treatments. SOiL Essential Oils provides a complete organic apothecary of fragrances and remedies to choose from which have been homegrown on the SOiL farm in South Africa and sourced from the best organic growers from around the world, for you to discover, enjoy and blend for your own personal remedy range in easy reach and which is guaranteed to be easier on your pocket. As we move into a greener and more sustainable world, discover natural health with the affordable benefits of SOIL Essential Oils which can be used as a scent on your skin, to fragrance a room using an ultrasonic diffuser or as a pure aromatherapy oil or roller which you can carry with you in a small bottle wherever you go. Since SOil Essential Oils are concentrated, you only need a few drops to receive their healing benefit, making them go a long way on your journey through school studies, work goals and family and home harmony throughout the year 2022. Brain Fog… or FOCUS? Organic Peppermint Oil (10ML – R60.00)refreshes and stimulates, to reduce stress and headaches. This essential oil is stem-distilled from a partially dried plant, with menthol as its primary constituent, for a powerful cooling and calming effect, whether inhaled or applied to your skin.  ORGANIC ROSEMARY OIL(10ML – R60.00)A well-known aromatic herb; Rosemary has been used medicinally for centuries. Considered a tonic for the central nervous system, Rosemary stimulates the brain, relieves headaches, and helps improve memory. FOCUS  (10ML – R60.00)Expertly formulated by SOiL’s certified aromatherapist, this certified organic blend of 100% PURE essential oils contains Lemongrass, Rosemary and Black Pepper essential oil to help invigorate and stimulate your mind. Fatigue… or ENERGY? ORGANIC REVIVE REMEDY ROLLER(11ML – R40.00) Geranium and Grapefruit balance and lifts the spirits while Rosemary and Basil refresh the mind, helping to boost your energy levels. Apply this revive remedy to your pulse points. ENERGY (10ML – R120.00) This organic blend of SOiL Clary Sage, Lime, Cypress and Black Pepper essential oil will support you to stimulate mental faculties and energise your body. Stress… or CENTERED CALM? ORGANIC RELAX REMEDY ROLLER (11ML – R40.00) Clary Sage, warming Marjoram, Lavender and Chamomile calm the nervous system, promote tranquility, and help relieve tension headaches. This remedy roller is ready to pop in your bag or briefcase for instant relief when you need to stay in your center. ORGANIC FRANKINCENSE OIL (10ML – R100.00) Obtained from steam distillation of the gum resin, Frankincense has been used for 1000’s of years as incense where its centering aroma slows the nervous system and promotes a feeling of calm and introspection. A few drops in an essential oil burner can aid concentration and meditation. Frankincense is also excellent for dry and mature skin and is said to preserve a youthful complexion and prevent wrinkles. From the SOiL farm to your family, experience natural and certified aromatherapy oils and skincare which is organically grown and bottled to be safe for the whole family.  ENDS/ SOiL is available at Dis-Chem, Wellness Warehouse and online at www.faithful-to-nature.co.za, www.takealot.com and www.soil.co.za. 

Toptots Head Office

Being flexible and regulating emotions

The world we live in is fast-paced and unpredictable. We are exposed to constant changes, unmet expectations, challenging situations and unexpected bumps in the road. Our personality has a large role to play in the way that we manage these situations i.e. type A versus type B personality’s.  However, we all need to develop resilience to cope with whatever life throws at us. Resilience is developed through being exposed to these changes or challenges, having the tools to cope with them and then successfully working through them. Thus, we build confidence that when the next challenge comes along, we will be able to cope with it. Being flexible is the ability to change how you think about things (i.e. not being rigid in your thinking) and to deal with changes in your plans and expectations. Self-regulation is the ability to manage your behavioural and emotional responses to these situations. Inflexibility often = emotional outbursts. Between 2 and 5 years a child can shift actions based on changing rules e.g. run outside, but not inside; understand turn-taking; shift attention; cope with small changes; be comfortable with new people and places, though may want parents close by; be fairly flexible in their play time. By 5 years, they should be able to play cooperatively with other children. By 6 to 9 years, have a good awareness of the consequences of their actions; understand the difference between needs and wants; have more of an understanding of time. After this they should be able to separate their actions and feelings and take more responsibility for their actions. How do we identify challenges with flexibility and emotional regulation? The following behaviours may be observed: Getting upset if they can’t be first in the line. Tattles on others who aren’t following the rules. Has difficulty coping with sudden/ unexpected changes. Takes a long time to adjust to a new routine. Is not comfortable with new people or in new places. Will only eat food prepared/ set out in a particular way. Has difficulty transitioning between tasks. Has difficulty transitioning between what they want to do and what someone tells them to do. Is overly-emotional and has difficulty calming down. Over-reacts to situations. Want to be in charge of games/ boss other children around. Can cope for the morning at school, but have meltdowns at home because they have used up all their reserves. How to encourage more flexibility and emotional control:  Have a consistent daily routine (not rigid, but just based on the important things) so that they have a general sense of security and safety within that routine. Try not to encourage habits that will make life difficult for your child and cause disappoint or meltdowns if they can’t be maintained e.g. only eating off a certain plate or only drinking from a certain cup etc. Encourage your child to make small changes to increase their adaptability e.g. “every Friday, we are all going to eat off paper plates” or if they only like one type of cereal, help them to find another alternative cereal that they will find acceptable. Prepare them for changes, so that they can learn to handle them calmly i.e. give them a 5 minute and then a 1 minute warning before they have to change activities e.g. from watching television to going for a bath. If it’s a big change e.g. going to a new school, prepare them by showing them pictures of the school, the uniform etc. This makes change seem far less intimidating. When they do cope well with a change or a new situation, make a point of praising them for it e.g. “You were so brave on your first day of school, and you’ve already made a new friend!” Implement fun changes e.g. sleeping outside in the tent for a night; eating a picnic in the garden; trying out different foods together; going to different shopping centres or play venues; stop somewhere nice on the way home from school now and again etc. IMPORTANT FACT: In pre-school aged children, their mood can still be affected a great deal by their physical state. Therefore, this needs to be considered and taken into account. If a child is tired or hungry or over-stimulated, they will find it harder to cope with changes and will be more prone to meltdowns. Choose your moments i.e. don’t implement big changes when they are tired!  Teach your children a vocabulary of feeling words, so that it is easier for them to express when they are tired or scared or frustrated.Don’t give in to tantrums… this reinforces that tantrums work to get what you want!

CambriLearn Online Education

Is your child’s education future-proof?

As the online world and technology advance, parents need to consider that the career pathways that their children will explore may look very different to what they knew growing up. One can assume that the demand for coding related jobs will remain strong in the future. Programmers are required in almost every field and enrolling your child in a Robotics or Coding course will introduce them to a wide variety of career opportunities.  Just as our children’s potential career pathways change, so the approach and content that is taught to them at school needs to be updated to adapt to the ever-changing industries of the future. Many schools do not offer subjects like Robotics and Coding and in these instances, it would be wise to enrol your child in an online learning platform, like CambriLearn, which offers supplementary courses that children can complete in addition to their current schooling curriculum.  Children who complete Robotics, Coding or Programming courses have shown improved:   creativity and problem-solving abilities social and emotional skills career development language learning and communication skills understanding of science and math concepts willingness to learn In this article, we will take a look at the long term benefits of enrolling your child in a Robotics or Coding course.  Creativity and problem-solving abilities It is a common misconception that in order to develop creative skills, a student needs to be affluent in drawing, painting or artistic practices. By promoting an environment for children to think freely and creatively, robotics teaches children how to be creative in their thought processes and problem-solving strategies. The traditional classroom model focuses on lectures and worksheets. Instead of parrot learning theorems, robotics teaches children how to find new ways to solve the same equations. Whilst brainstorming robotic concepts children will be faced with obstacles in their creation process that will encourage them to come up with solutions to overcome these challenges.  Robotics teaches children to work through complex problems, to see things analytically and it improves their problem-solving abilities.  Social and emotional skills Building a robot is a complex task that takes patience and courage. Robotics provides an ideal environment for a child to work through complex puzzles and teaches them how to handle making mistakes. In Robotics, mistakes are welcomed as they usually reveal crucial information that is needed to solve the problem at hand. This teaches children to keep going, even when they fail, and allows them to experience the rewards associated with perseverance.  Coding isn’t only about the app, software, robot or digital solutions. Coding is a multidisciplinary field where students will gain knowledge and tools that go way beyond the pure line of code. Career development In education, the acronym STEM stands for science, technology, engineering and maths. It is estimated that the number of STEM-related occupations will grow 8% by 2029, compared with 3.9% in other occupations. One can assume that the demand for STEM-related qualifications and experience will remain strong in the future. Programmers are required in almost every field and robotics is a valuable skill to introduce children to a digital career pathway.  Being computer literate is now mandatory in many job roles and it has become a necessity for a child to learn essential computer skills.  A robotics course teaches children to become more comfortable and confident in a field of technology. This helps promote critical thinking skills, boosts self-confidence and sets them up to explore a career in technology.  Language learning and communication skills Teaching a child coding and robotics can have the same associated benefits as language learning. When students learn to code, they learn how to communicate with a computer and practice a new language. This improves their language learning abilities and communication skills. Robotics offers children the opportunity to express their thoughts and ideas, which is a fundamental component of communication. With practice, the child becomes more comfortable in these skills of self-expression.  Robotics also teaches children how to interact and work together in a group. It highlights the importance of getting input from all members of the team in order to achieve a common goal. This promotes important listening skills and teaches children to show respect for their peers.  Science and math concepts Robotics takes a different approach to teaching children science and math concepts that would otherwise be difficult for them to understand. These concepts give children practical examples of lessons that were previously learnt from a textbook and help promote a more hands-on learning environment.  It comes as no surprise that children who enrol in a robotics or coding course will develop stronger maths skills as they learn to apply coding concepts in a real-world context. Robotics and coding teach computational thinking such as logic, analysing data, and breaking down problems into more manageable parts. This style of thinking is also required when solving maths and science equations.  Promotes a love of learning Decades of research link creativity and problem-solving with learner motivation. When a child is goal-focused and experiences the feeling of achieving a defined objective, they become more motivated in their learning and become inspired to continue on the path of acquiring new skills and knowledge.  Children learn better when they have an active interest in the subject matter. Robotics is FUN and therefore assists in promoting an environment where children want to learn. This helps de-stigmatise science and math education concepts and helps instil a love for learning – throughout their schooling career.   Parents, it’s time to ask yourself the question, is your child’s education future-proof? 

Syllabis Learning

How Education has Forever Changed

Reflecting on the days of lockdown in South Africa and the rest of the world, it’s clear that education has undergone immense changes that will forever alter the way that our children learn. In our internet-connected age, adults have learned that they can work from anywhere in the world and that they don’t always need to be in the office. This thought process has now begun trickling into the decision-making process when it comes to our children’s education. Ultimately we have learned that Learning really can happen from anywhere. The pandemic broke the rules on what school looks like, where and when learning occurs, and who is performing the role as teacher or facilitator. A wave of parents and caregivers have elected to homeschool because of the pandemic—and they are part of a new group that isn’t going back to traditional schooling. The crisis gave rise to a diverse swath of families that are using tech to customise their kids’ learning, and they might even change what “going to school” means in the post-pandemic world. It is becoming more apparent that the school system — a network of adult-led public and private school buildings where children and youth spend most of their days for most months of the year — is flailing. Progressive families from various racial and economic backgrounds are becoming more critical of traditional schools. Some of these families share concerns about how issues of race, class, gender, sexual orientation, ability, religion, and other identities, are dealt with in schools. They also identify a broad range of other concerns about schooling, such as: Increased academic pressures at younger and younger ages The sedentary nature of schooling The lack of focus on teaching social and emotional skills Outdated teaching practices that are not aligned with what research tells us about how children learn Standardised testing Lack of self-directed, child-led, and interest-based learning  Lack of flexibility for the individual ways in which children learn and develop The physical and emotional safety of children The number of hours spent in school  The load of homework students are expected to do Insufficient preparation for the tech jobs of the future Bullying and negative social influences While homeschooling is legal in South Africa, it has never been considered the norm, but for parents unhappy with Covid-era education, or the above-mentioned factors, homeschooling could seem like a respite from public and private schools and an opportunity to reclaim a part in their kids’ learning. Ali-Coleman, a longtime homeschooling parent and a researcher who studies African American homeschool students points out that “the pandemic was the catalyst that pushed parents to seriously consider what they really wanted their kids’ educations to look like, the roles they wanted to play as parents, and the options they had outside the default educational institutions.” If Covid-19 was the publicist for homeschooling, then the internet is the connecting force that binds long-time homeschoolers and the new crop of wired, inspired parents. Technology has not only aided a more diverse set of parents start to homeschool—it has given parents a curricular blank canvas, free from the parameters of institutionalised education. “There is absolutely no one way that people are homeschooling,” Ali-Coleman says. “And what parents are finding is this level of flexibility that doesn’t exist within these traditional school settings.” As the unknowns around the pandemic play out and as technology evolves, there is no doubt that our education landscape will experience further major changes down the line. What then is the role of education in the model of the future?  Is it to make sure kids pass tests built for a society of the past? Or is it to cultivate a generation of critical thinkers, innovators, and justice-minded self-starters who are prepared for what is looking to be a trying future? This is the conversation we should be seriously, collectively, strategically, and proactively having. It seems more and more clear that despite the hard work of so many committed educators, the traditional system of students spending 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, sitting in classrooms, learning from lectures, textbooks, and worksheets, in 50-minute subject-area blocks, largely unconcerned with issues of social or climate justice, with loads of homework to be completed in the few hours they spend at home, isn’t desirable, functional, or sustainable.  Families shouldn’t have to choose between a system that isn’t working or opting out of schooling altogether. With this new system of ‘School from Home’ becoming more and more acceptable and desired, we could build something new, different, sustainable, and altogether better for our children.

Good Night Baby

Why so dark?

Lights out is a well-known phrase over many years, indicating it is bedtime, however there is more to it than that.  Exposure to light is one of the most important factors when it comes to sleep.  Most people know it is easier to sleep when it is dark, but it is important to know that the link between sleep and light exposure goes much deeper. Before electricity, humans woke and slept in sync with the rising and setting of the sun, but now there are lights in our homes, electronics and light pollution outside have made the relationship between light and sleep much more complex.  Light has dramatic effects on sleep, influencing our circadian rhythm, melatonin production and sleep cycles.  Circadian Rhythm:  work by helping to make sure the body’s processes are optimized at various points during a 24-hour period.  Circadian rhythms throughout the body are connected to a master clock, sometimes referred to as the circadian pacemaker – located in the brain.  During the day, light exposure through the eyes causes the master clock to send signals that generate alertness and help keep us awake and active. As night falls, the master clock initiates the production of melatonin, a hormone that promotes sleep, which then keeps transmitting signals that help us stay asleep through the night.  Circadian effects vary based on the type of light and the duration of exposure. While prolonged light tends to be impactful, even short periods of artificial light can affect circadian rhythm. Melatonin production:  Melatonin is a hormone made by the pineal gland located in your brain.  It helps your body to know when it is time to sleep and time to wake up.  Your body makes more melatonin at night – it increases once the sun starts to go down.  Melatonin decreases in the morning as the sun comes up.  The amount of light you get during the day together with your body clock determines how much melatonin you produce.  It goes without saying that we need to make sure little ones have enough melatonin when it is time to sleep. Light inhibits the secretion of melatonin. “Even if you doze off, light can be detected through your eyelids and your brain won’t produce melatonin if it’s confused between night and day,” says Joyce Walsleben, PhD, associate professor at the New York University School of Medicine. “You want as much darkness in your bedroom as you can handle.”  Sleep cycles:  are a combination of different sleep stages (REM and non-REM sleep).  When exposed to light at night is disrupts the transitioning between sleep cycles, reducing the quality of sleep.  When exposed to too much light it will cause repeated awakenings, interrupting the sleep cycle and reducing time spent in deeper, more restorative sleep stages.  Studies suggest that a healthy sleep cycle is integral to maintaining a balanced mental and emotional well-being. If your quality of sleep gets affected due to even a small amount of light, then you run the risk of having sleeping issues, which are well-known for causing a range of emotional problems, including depression. Now that we understand how important darkness is, the question is  HOW dark should it be and how do we achieve that?  Have you ever visited a hotel, guesthouse or lodge where they have block out curtains?  Most people can recall how well they slept in complete darkness.  This is not only beneficial for good quality of sleep, but helps us to fall asleep easier and stay asleep.  Teaching babies and children to have good quality sleep is so important and one of the most important (and easiest) ways to do so is to make their room dark.  When closing the curtains during daytime it should mimic the night.  Not only does it signal the brain it is time to sleep, but it helps little ones to fall asleep without any distractions.  Children’s eyes are anatomically slightly different, they do allow in more light, which is why it is even more important to make sure they sleep in a dark environment most of the time. As a mom myself, I know every parent wants the best for their children and we will do what it takes to help them sleep better (I am sure I don’t have to explain to you how important sleep is).  So why not take a few minutes to do a darkness check and if needed make the changes – it will be worth it. Recommendations: Block out curtains are a great long-term investment. Request a voucher for block out curtains for your baby shower! Its THAT important. Spend the money on good quality 100% block out curtains that are made for your windows. Most shop bought curtains are not 100% block out, even if they say block out. To test whether curtains are 100% block out, take your cellphone light and shine it through the fabric – if you can see the light, they are not 100% block out curtains. Have a 3 rail system – voile, block out and then your normal curtains. Make sure the curtains cover the whole window and no light is shining in on the sides. Block out lining.  If you already have taped curtains, no need to buy new ones.  Simply order block out lining and hook it on the inside of your current curtains. An easy, cheap and effective way of blocking out light is to cover your windows with black bags, brown paper, cardboard or even aluminium foil. Block out travel blinds have suction cups and sticks to a window – what an easy and effective way to sleep better when traveling!  Take 5 minutes and switch off the lights in the room – go and stick Prestik or double-sided tape on all small LED lights in the room – eg monitor light, aircon light, humidifier light etc Keep night-lights low and on the ground so that they are not shining directly into a child’s eyes. Dimming all household lights one hour before bedtime. Keep toddlers

My Breastpump

Prematurity is not something that a mother plans for when she falls pregnant

Prematurity is not something that a mother plans for when she falls pregnant. Prematurity can happen for so many different reasons and you may have a warning or not. Sadly, it does happen to about 1 in 7 pregnancies in South Africa. This is about 84 000 babies born per year to early. As a mother of two children that were born to early, I have lived through the uncertainties, stresses and also the wins that happen when you find your self in this situation. As a result My Breastpump focuses on helping families with support and products that will help them during this time.  Mom, dad and baby soon find themselves living in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU). It becomes their focus and their everything. Mom and Dad may have limited access to the NICU due to COVID restrictions, but their heart and mind will not leave the NICU until there little one comes home. It can be a helpless feeling not being able to hold and cuddle your baby, but a mom can help her little one grow and get stronger by supplying her baby with breast milk. Breast milk is the recommend milk for all premature babes as it has among other benefits: growth hormones, specialised nutrients (mothers’ premature milk is different to that if a mother from a full-term baby), easier absorption of milk and immune factors. If a mother needs assistance with breast milk she can ask for donated breast milk. The mom can ask for information for the nearest milk bank and find out what the hospital polices are. There are several breast milk banks in South Africa: The South African Breast Milk Reserve, Milk Matters and the Net Care hospital group.  Here are some tips for mothers of premature infants that want to build up their supply. Start expressing as soon as possible after birth. The ideal time is within 1 hour but if the mother has had extra surgery or complications, she can try to start expressing within 6 hours. Hand expression can be used in the beginning and then it is recommended that the other used a double hospital grade breast pump. The reason for this is that the mother will save a lot of time by Double pumping. This may sound insignificant, but it can reduce her expression time by half or more. This will make expression more possible and not as strenuous on the mother. Double pumping also will help her to increase her milk supply sooner. She needs to aim for about 1000ml of expressed breast milk in 2 weeks. This will allow her to keep up with her infants needs and set her up for a better breast-feeding experience later. The Ameda Mya Joy is a hospital grade double electric breast pump that is ideal for exclusive pumpers like mothers who have premature babies. The Mya Joy is small, but the motor is very strong and able to empty a mother’s breast well. It is this emptying that assist the mother to increase her milk supply. The Mya Joy has 7 different flange sizes that can be used and help for comfort and better breast emptying. The Mya Joy also has a NAPPI code which can be used with some medical aids to claim back from the medical saving. Please note that this is dependent on the medical aid plan and savings. The Mya Joy Hospital Grade double electric Breastpump can be bought on Takealot and on our website  Another thing that parents may be concerned about is that it is very difficult to get the correct sizing nappies, especially for babies born before 29 weeks. My Breastpump has just launched our first premature nappy which is the My Little Prem <1.1kg, these nappies are designed to help the baby be more comfortable. This aids in better sleep and decrease in pain. Both are very important for improved growth and development. The My Little Prem Nappies are soft, light, small and have a leg cut out. The Leg Cut out is designed so that the baby can be placed in different positions and allow for correct placement of their hips. This allows for correct growth and improvement in the baby’s muscle tone. These nappies can be bought on Takealot and on our website  My Breastpump also has one on one session that a mom can book with our lactation consultant to help her with her expressing journey, transitioning back on to the breast and making sure that she maintains her breast milk supply. Topics that are covered in these sessions are: How to choose a breast pump- what to look out for How to look after your breast pump and what parts to replace often How to maintain/ increase your supply using a breast pump How to pump if your baby is in NICU How to pump if you must go back to work Cleaning and sterilizing your breast pump parts Managing your breast milk stash If you would like to book a session with our lactation consultant, please book on our website Our goal at My Breastpump is to help families that need assistance with breast feeding and expressing. We want to help you to reach your goals and walk this journey with you. Please follow our social pages on Instagram and Facebook for more information on breast feeding. 

Bonitas – innovation, life stages and quality care

DEALING WITH POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION – PLUS WAYS TO DEAL WITH MENTAL HEALTH AFTER PREGNANCY

As a new mom, the birth of your baby is a beautiful and exciting time, but there is a darker side to childbirth. Postpartum depression affects about 15% of moms after delivery, and while it is a serious disorder it can be overcome through treatment. What is Postpartum depression? Feelings of anxiety, sadness and fatigue are common after birth and are often referred to as the ‘baby blues’ and should subside within the first two weeks. However, if these feelings stick around for longer, you could be experiencing postpartum depression. Restlessness, mood swings, insomnia, irritability, disconnection from your baby and feeling of worthlessness are all red flags for postpartum depression. Some moms feel guilty or ashamed to be feeling this way, however PPD can affect any woman. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help, as PDD is treatable through both medicated and unmedicated options. What should I do if I have the symptoms of Postpartum Depression? The good news is that PPD is treatable. There are a variety of common types of treatment, which depend on the type and severity of symptoms. Treatment can include counselling, therapy groups, antidepressants and hormone therapy. Self-help groups can be helpful, as it allows you to connect with others who have experienced similar problems and stop feelings of isolation. Recovery time will also vary from mother to mother, but untreated the disorder will last much longer and can interrupt mother-child bonding. Getting help does not mean you are a bad mother, it is important to reach out if you are feeling depressed. Postpartum Psychosis In rare cases moms can develop postpartum psychosis. This should be treated as a medical emergency, and it is essential that you receive help right away.  Symptoms include paranoia, delusion and erratic/disorganised behaviour.        How to deal with mental health after pregnancy  Your mental health is critical to you and your child’s well-being. If you are worried about PPD it is important to get professional help. However, you can help your mood by slowly getting back into exercise, setting aside time for yourself and leaning on those around you for support. It is important to stay connected to family and friends so that you don’t feel alone.

Koa Academy

KOA ACADEMY TALKS THE FUTURE OF WORK

Most working parents are impacted by the rapid transformations and disruptions in the world of work. Tech innovations have turned some industries to ashes, while ushering in new behemoths.  There are already multitudes of brand-new career paths; and even the most perennial of careers are getting digital makeovers.  So rapid and relentless is this change that it is often said that we are educating our kids for work that doesn’t yet exist.   The purpose of school is to prepare our children for the real world, and what that ‘real world’ will actually entail is uncertain and unpredictable.  At a recent parent webinar, Koa Academy’s Principal, Mark Anderson highlighted how this shaping the ‘how and what’ that are children learning.  “We are educating digital natives to be digitally literate, and to be digital citizens,” he says.  Koa Academy is a high-engagement online school, and Mark believes this is a particular advantage for this young generation.  “It’s not just the world of work – all aspects of our lives are becoming digitally connected and digitally-driven.”  Koa also focuses on customized learning pathways, real-world context, soft skills and unbundled education which all play to each child’s individual strengths. “There’s an immense need for flexibility and agility in a fast-changing world and school should be a place where this is fostered and developed,” Mark says.  “The so-called ‘soft skills’ such as communication, critical thinking, problem-solving and collaboration have become top skills required by employers.” The webinar also featured Meg Bruyns, the founder of Fully Alive, who works with teams and individuals, parents and teens to help them find purpose and clarity while developing the skills needed to get the most from life and work.  Meg says, “There’s a human drive to change the future of work through pushing for meaning, purpose and making a difference.  Our young people are keen to be disruptors themselves challenging the status quo and impacting on social justice and environmental awareness.  With latest technologies in their hands, they want to push societal boundaries and go beyond what has been possible before.  So, the question is: How does their education and their youthful experience equip them for this?” You can watch the Koa Academy and Fully Alive Future of Work webinar here Discover Koa Academy here

Parenting Hub

Summer skincare de-coded

A solid skincare routine will work for you all year round, but keeping your skin healthy during summer may require some small changes. Warmer weather means different skincare challenges, like avoiding sunburn, managing excess sebum and keeping sun spots at bay. But what should you be doing and which products do you really need? Here are the answers to some of the most commonly-asked summer skincare questions.  Does my skincare routine need to change in summer? Not necessarily. If you have a skincare regime that works for you, stick to it. Some people prefer switching out heavier moisturisers for lighter lotions, or rich milky cleansers for foaming gel cleansers, but this is entirely up to you. Try a refreshing facial cleanser like Creightons Pink Grapefruit Face Wash (R69.95) which effectively removes dirt and impurities while invigorating the skin. You might also want to introduce some vitamin C skincare products to your regime, as they help brighten the complexion (sloughing away post-winter dullness) and protect against (and treat) sun-induced pigmentation. Try NIP+FAB Vitamin C Serum Fix (R295.00) which uses a powerhouse of antioxidants to leave skin brightened, refreshed and protected against environmental aggressors. Creightons Vitamin C Superfruits Skin Radiance Moisturiser (R89.95) works to enhance skin’s natural radiance, promoting a brighter, healthier-looking complexion.  While it’s important to wear a broad spectrum SPF all year, it’s absolutely essential that you include one in your skincare and body care regimes during summer. Not only will you likely spend more time outdoors, but your body will also be more exposed in summer clothing, increasing your risk of sunburn and skin damage. Piz Buin Allergy Face Cream SPF50 (R190.00) offers very high protection and contains a unique anti-irritant shield complex proven to help strengthen the skin’s resilience to the sun.  What does SPF number stand for and how many times a day should you reapply SPF? What Does the SPF Number Mean? The SPF number tells you how long the sun’s UV radiation would take to redden your skin when using the product exactly as directed versus the amount of time without any sunscreen.  So ideally, with SPF 30 it would take you 30 times longer to burn than if you weren’t wearing sunscreen. We’d recommend rather being too cautious than too carefree. If you’re bad at reapplying SPF, opt for a higher SPF to protect you for longer. We love Piz Buin Ultra Light Hydrating Sun Spray SPF30 (R279.95) which has a light and non-sticky formula that is easily absorbed. Is it ever okay to sun tan without SPF? No, this is never ok, not ever. Even the slightest darkening of the skin indicates damage. When you tan, your body produces melanin, the pigment responsible for the colour of your skin. When your skin is exposed to the sun’s UV rays, it triggers the production of melanin in an attempt to protect the skin. This results in the darkening of the skin, and serves as evidence of UV damage. Over time, sun tanning may lead to premature ageing of the skin and even skin cancer. Rather opt for a self-tan product that gives your skin a sun-kissed glow without any harm.  Australian Gold Instant Sunless Lotion (R380.00) helps your skin develop a rich, sun-kissed bronze colour in no time. It offers the perfect balance of caring and bronzing ingredients for summer-ready skin that’s healthy and nourished. If you want SPF protection while giving your skin a bronze shimmer, try Australian Gold SPF Lotion with Instant Bronzer (R280.00). It’s formulated with kona coffee-infused bronzers to leave your skin with an immediate sun-kissed glow while protecting it from the sun’s harmful UVA and UVB rays. For a soft and natural glow, try St Moriz Golden Glow Moisturiser (R150.00), which allows you to gradually build your glow by means of daily application.  Is it okay to self-tan your face? Yes, provided you use a self-tan product that is suitable for facial skin. Using self-tan on your face is a much better option than sun tanning, as it won’t put you at risk of sun burn or premature ageing. We recommend St Moriz Fast Tan Mousse (R150.00), because it allows you to control your shade. It can be washed off after an hour for a natural glow, after two hours for a medium tan and after three hours for a deeper tan. If it’s your first time using it, leave it on for an hour – you can always go darker next time round, and you won’t run the risk of going too dark the first time. Apply it using the St Moriz Tan Applicator Mitt (R99.99) to ensure your hands don’t get stained.   Can I wash my face more than twice a day in hot weather? Washing your face more than twice a day is not recommended, even in hot weather. Each time you cleanse, you remove some of the natural oils produced by your skin and cleansing too often can result in the skin being stripped of oil, leaving it dehydrated and irritable. Instead of cleansing, try spritzing your skin with some chilled water (you can keep a spritz bottle in the fridge and use it whenever necessary!).  Do I have to apply moisturiser twice a day even though my skin feels oilier? Here’s a little science lesson that might save your skin this summer: Oils moisturise, while water hydrates. Dry skin needs more oil, while dehydrated skin needs more water. If your skin does not get enough hydration, it will produce more sebum in an attempt to boost your moisture levels. The result? Oily skin with blackheads and breakouts due to an overproduction of oil. To avoid this, it’s essential to moisturise your skin twice a day, even if it feels like you don’t need it. If richer creams don’t work for you, apply a lightweight hydrating lotion instead. Try Creightons H2O Boost Hyaluronic Day Gel (R169.95), a refreshing light lotion that contains hyaluronic acid for intense hydration, and Creightons H2O Boost Overnight Mask (R169.95), a nourishing cream with hyaluronic acid which works overnight to improve the skin’s elasticity and intensely hydrate.  My skin gets oilier during summer, how

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