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Counsellors vs Psychologists: What is the Difference?

Individuals in the helping professions are primary caregivers who directly engage with members of the public when they most need help. In the mental health realm of the helping professions, numerous roles combine to offer clients options depending on the type of help they seek. However, with so many options available, from clinical or educational psychologists and psychiatrists to registered, wellness, pastoral care or general counsellors, choosing the most suitable one can be overwhelming. In the mental health field, the various options available to clients sometimes overlap, but they still each have their own speciality. Knowing more about what each field offers can make it easier to choose the most appropriate care. Pathology-based Care Let’s start by looking at the field of psychology. Psychologists and psychiatrists specialise in pathology-based assessment, diagnosis, and treatment. Psychology is generally based on the biomedical model, which assumes a biological foundation for clients’ symptoms. Certain types of psychology are not founded on the biomedical model, but instead use the biopsychosocial or social models. These approaches look at other factors contributing to the client’s condition, like the interplay between psychological, biological and social factors. Within the field of psychology, there are numerous specialisations, each with its own scope of practice.  Types of Psychologists Especially relevant to parents are educational, clinical and counselling psychologists. Educational psychologists focus on the way people learn, learning preferences, how people interact with education, and child development. They may also draw on the impact of social, cultural, cognitive and emotional factors on education. In South Africa, many educational psychologists work as school or child psychologists.  School psychologists focus on the learner within the school environment. They help learners adapt to new phases in the school system, and with the emotional, social, behavioural or academic challenges they face in school. Clinical psychologists assess and diagnose clients who struggle with mental health challenges like depression, schizophrenia, and personality or behavioural disorders. They also offer treatment based on their speciality, for example, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), and can provide treatment plans. Some schools employ registered counsellors instead of psychologists, and there have been appeals to allow Association of Supportive Counsellors and Holistic Practitioners (ASCHP)-registered counsellors to work in schools, too.  Counselling psychologists often employ talk therapy to treat clients experiencing major life changes, emotional or behavioural disturbances, stress and anxiety, trauma, and relationship issues. They work in various spheres like healthcare, government, schools, and private practice. Counselling psychologists may work with families, individuals, communities and couples.  Registered counsellors are on the front lines of mental health care, working in communities to make care more accessible. They work from a similar, pathology-based perspective as counselling psychologists. According to SACAP, the minimum requirements for registered counsellors are either a BPsych or Equivalent degree.  If clients require pharmacological interventions, they must be referred to psychiatrists. Psychiatrists are medical doctors specialising in mental health and are trained to diagnose, treat and prevent mental health problems.  Salutogenic Care The fundamental difference between counselling and psychology is one of approach. While the latter is based on the idea that there is something in the client to be fixed, the former focuses on working with the whole person, both their strengths and challenges. The six founding principles of counselling are beneficence, empathy, autonomy, justice, confidentiality and nonmaleficence. As such, counselling is centred on the client and everything they bring to the situation. Counsellors work holistically, using clients’ strengths to overcome their challenges, and often provide proactive steps to work through the situation.  Counsellors work with clients with emotional, behavioural, social, relationship or other challenges. Many counselling clients face difficulties in their daily lives with anxiety, stress and depression, substance use, relationship stresses or when undergoing major life changes. Just like psychologists, counsellors also specialise in different fields, like wellness, addiction, relationships, trauma, etc. For more information on the different types of counselling available in South Africa, have a look at this article by Melissa van Hal of Holistic Awareness and EduHelp Support Learning.  To decide which professional would be best suited, clients are encouraged to consider a number of factors. Do they seek formal assessment and diagnosis? Do they want a prescription for pharmacological interventions? Do they want a particular kind of therapy? Do they want to learn practical coping strategies?? Other considerations include location, whether they want to meet someone in person or online, what their budget allows, and the timeframe in which they require help.  The mental health sector of the helping professions offers options to help any type of client deal with the various challenges they face. By providing clients with information, referring them to the most suitable colleagues and being open and honest about our scope of practice, mental health practitioners can create a network of care to the benefit of our own clients and the broader community.  An extract of this article was published in the EduHelp/Holistic Awareness newsletter.  By Loudine Heunis

May 7, 2025
Parenting Hub

What society is learning from  ‘Adolescence’

In just over a month since its mid-March release, Netflix’s Adolescence, the British television psychological crime series created by Stephen Graham and Jack Thorne, has racked up over a 114 million views, and that tally is still on the rise. The four-episode series is a fictional drama, but many viewers across the world are resonating with the story as a true and chilling account of modern life. Jaco van Schalkwyk, Founder of The Character Company (TCC), a non-profit organisation working with boys with absent fathers, who is also a parent, says, “Adolescence is in effect, a pure horror story for parents, teachers and mentors. However devastating the series is to watch; it has instigated an outpouring of conversations globally, and in South Africa, as if people are instinctively recognising a modern societal truth at the heart of this fictional story. “At TCC, we are hoping that these strong reactions and hard conversations make some positive impacts in moving the needle forward for boys’ well-being in ways that makes both them and girls safer in the world.   “For me, Adolescence brings home how common it is for today’s adults to be disconnected from the child’s world and completely behind the curve when it comes to the dangers lurking in children’s digital lives.” A “whydunnit” rather than a “whodunnit” story of the brutal murder of a girl by her 13-year-old male classmate, Adolescence offers audiences no easy or definitive answers. Instead, it highlights the complicated convergence of enduring patriarchal, masculinity norms and gender issues with the contemporary themes of children’s unfettered and unsupervised internet access, cyberbullying, the incel culture of the manosphere and the impacts of misogyny influencers such as Andrew Tate, who even gets name-checked in episode two by a Detective Sergeant investigating the case. Jaco says, “One of the reasons why Adolescence is making such an impact on viewers is that the protagonist Jamie Miller is an ordinary boy from an ordinary home in an ordinary middle-class community. He has a loving family; he’s intelligent, a solid achiever at school with no history of troubling behaviour. His problems in life are just the same as any adolescent boy – self-consciousness at his changing body, grappling with masculinity and his standing in the male hierarchy, and of course, contending with how to successfully relate to girls. There are no bad parents, abusive circumstances or socio-economic disadvantages to blame or explain the terrible tragedy that has unfolded.” The impacts of ‘Adolescence’ so far There have been a wide range of reactions to Adolescence with charities which call for social media and device bans for children reporting an uptick in support for their causes in some countries. British Prime Minister, Sir Keir Starmer instigated an Adolescence conversation in Parliament, and Sir Gareth Southgate went viral for a speech calling for positive male role models to step up for boys. More and more schools are calling for device bans, and masculinity researchers are calling for a reframing of the ‘crisis of masculinity’ and more resources. All these hard conversations, and many of the ideas stemming from them hold merit, but there’s also a society-wide call to also address issues in modern parenting and schooling. Jaco says, “While Jamie did not have bad parents, they were disconnected from his reality – in a very ordinary way. They thought that because he was mostly off the streets and in his bedroom on his computer that he was safe. I think this is a common mistake modern parents make. “Because we are not using social media in the same ways and because we aren’t in gaming chatrooms, we don’t understand the dangerous world our children are living in. Because we are always so busy and so tired, we don’t have the bandwidth to be fully intentional about connecting with our children – it’s as if we have lost the roadmap to find our way into their world. Because we are also addicted to our phones, we don’t have digital hygiene rules in our homes, and we don’t model healthy online behaviours.” Adolescents, with their developing pre-frontal cortices of the brain, are particularly trying to discover and work out the pathways to becoming adults – if parents, teachers and mentors are not engaging meaningfully with them in this pursuit, they will surely find other role models to use as their guides. After all, the Andrew Tates of the world have business models based on filling this very gap for vulnerable boys and young men. TCC (The Character Company) identifies 3 lessons from Adolescence for parents, teachers and mentors: Jaco concludes, “I think audiences have responded so viscerally to Adolescence because it is a society-wide cry for help. To withstand the powerful influences and impacts of the digital world, our children desperately need strong, clear values, more open and transparent in-person communication, and the kind of intentional connections that satisfy their whole-person needs for understanding, guidance, direction and recognition. Teachers, parents and role models need to be clear that today’s children need our time and the quality of attention from us that is full of meaning and relevance to their lives.”

May 6, 2025
DIBBER SA

Benefits of Learning Multiple Languages: A Parent’s Role in Language Development

In an increasingly connected world, multilingualism is emerging as one of the most valuable skills a child can develop. At Dibber International Preschools, language learning is seen not only as a tool for communication but as a vital pathway to cognitive, social, and cultural development – beginning in the early years of life. “Children have a natural ability to absorb language from a very young age,” says Ursula Assis, Country Director of Dibber International Preschools. “When families and educators support this journey together, children not only learn to speak more than one language, but also gain confidence, empathy, and cognitive flexibility that stays with them throughout their lives.” The Cognitive Edge Research consistently shows that children who are exposed to multiple languages benefit from improved memory, problem-solving skills, and mental agility. Switching between languages encourages cognitive flexibility and enhances the brain’s executive function – an ability linked to academic success. Cultural Understanding Through Language Language is deeply tied to culture, and learning more than one language offers children a window into other ways of life. Bilingual children often display a heightened sense of empathy and understanding. “By encouraging language learning, we also nurture children’s appreciation for diversity. This is especially important in South Africa, where embracing cultural richness is part of our national identity,” says Assis. Long-Term Academic and Career Benefits Multilingualism has been linked to better literacy, stronger academic performance, and improved writing and reading comprehension. In the long term, bilingual individuals are more competitive in the global workforce. “Whether our children become doctors, designers, or diplomats, knowing more than one language gives them a powerful advantage,” Assis adds. Supporting Language Development at Home Parents play an essential role in fostering language development. Reading bilingual books, singing songs, and conversing in both languages are simple yet effective ways to reinforce language learning. “Consistency, encouragement, and playfulness are key. Children learn best in environments where language is part of daily routines and joyful moments.” Dibber’s Commitment to Language-Rich Learning Language learning is embedded in a play-based, holistic approach at Dibber International Preschools. Through songs, storytelling, and culturally inclusive practices, children are supported in their language acquisition journey while developing emotionally, socially, and intellectually. “The ability to understand and speak more than one language gives children the tools to thrive in a multicultural world. It’s a gift that empowers them for life,” concludes Assis. For more information about Dibber International Preschools and how we support language learning in early childhood, visit www.dibber.co.za.

May 6, 2025
Sandton City

Sandton City creates family-friendly facilities- Iconic mall puts families first with thoughtful upgrades

Sandton City, Africa’s most iconic shopping destination, has elevated its shopping experience with a complete refurbishment of most of its bathrooms, ensuring ultimate comfort, convenience, and choice for visitors. The upgrades include dedicated nursing rooms and purified water dispensers outside each bathroom, promoting sustainability, by encouraging bottle refills and reducing single-use plastic.   Additionally, upgraded floor and wall tiling provides a sleek, modern aesthetic, while improved lighting creates well-lit and inviting spaces. The size of the toilet cubicles has been increased for added comfort and accessibility. Push-activated taps have been installed to accommodate individuals with upper limb disabilities. Privacy screens strategically placed in male bathrooms now provide added discretion. As an extension of its commitment to family-friendly shopping, Sandton City offers a full baby care lounge featuring a kitchen, baby change area, feeding rooms, and a play zone, making parenting on the go more convenient. This lounge is situated on the lower level, at entrance 4 near Checkers, and is free-to-use. For easy access to this facility, dedicated mom and tots parking bays, located the centre’s main near entrances, are marked in bright colours for easy identification, adding another layer of convenience.  Sandton City thrives on being an unparalleled, world-class retail destination. With over 374 stores, the centre houses an array of highly sought-after local and international brands. To cater to evolving shopper needs, Sandton City recently welcomed Mio Mondo, South Africa’s first luxury kids and baby store, offering a curated selection of designer brands such as Kenzo, Moschino, Karl Lagerfeld, all geared for ages 0 – 16. Parents can also shop a host of family-focused retailers including Dis-Chem Baby City, Koco Bino, Cotton Kids, Keedo, and Naartjie, offering special baby and kids’ apparel and lifestyle products. “At Sandton City, we are always looking for ways to enhance the shopper experience, ensuring that every visitor, whether they’re parents with young children, business professionals, or international tourists, enjoys a world-class environment,” says Dimitri Kokinos, General Manager of Sandton City. “These latest upgrades reflect our commitment to comfort, convenience, and sustainability, reinforcing Sandton City’s position as Africa’s most prestigious retail destination.” For more information and regular updates go to www.sandtoncity.com or follow Sandton City on social media @sandtoncitymall. 

May 5, 2025
Vital Baby

Postpartum Depression – Why So Many Suffer in Silence

Bringing a baby into the world is often portrayed as a time of joy and excitement, but for many South African mothers, the reality is far more complex. Postpartum depression (PPD) affects an estimated 1 in 3 new mothers in South Africa, yet many suffer in silence due to stigma, lack of awareness, and limited access to support. Understanding the signs, causes, and solutions for postpartum depression is crucial in ensuring that mothers receive the care they need. Postpartum depression is more than just the “baby blues.” While temporary mood swings and exhaustion are common after childbirth, PPD is a serious mental health condition that can persist for months if left untreated. Symptoms include extreme sadness, anxiety, irritability, loss of interest in activities, changes in sleep and appetite, and difficulty bonding with the baby. Sr Londekile Ntsiba, an independent midwife and Vital Baby’s trusted advisor, explains: “New mothers are expected to be overjoyed, but many struggle with overwhelming emotions, guilt, and exhaustion. Unfortunately, the fear of being judged prevents many women from seeking the help they need.” Several factors contribute to the high rates of postpartum depression in South Africa: The good news is that postpartum depression is treatable, and support is available. Encouraging open conversations about mental health and ensuring that mothers receive the right care can make a significant difference. For mothers struggling with postpartum depression, it’s important to seek help as soon as possible. Here are some essential support resources in South Africa: Sr Londe adds: “No mother should have to go through this alone. By raising awareness and providing accessible support, we can help more women find the strength to heal and enjoy motherhood.” Postpartum depression is a serious but treatable condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, reach out for help. By breaking the silence and fostering a culture of understanding, we can ensure that South African mothers receive the support they need to thrive.

May 5, 2025
Bonitas – innovation, life stages and quality care

The lowdown on diabetes in children and teenagers

The diagnosis of type 1 diabetes in children can be overwhelming, especially in the beginning. Suddenly you and your child – depending on your child’s age – must learn how to count carbohydrates and monitor blood sugar levels and give injections. But even though there is no cure, it can be managed.  Diabetes is a chronic disease, characterised by high levels of blood glucose. ‘In type 1 diabetes your immune system, the body’s system for fighting infection, attacks and destroys the insulin-producing cells of the pancreas,’ explains Dr Themba Hadebe, Clinical Executive at Bonitas Medical Fund. ‘It can lead to serious damage to the heart, blood vessels, eyes, kidneys and nerves. However, advances in blood sugar monitoring and the delivery of insulin have improved blood sugar management and quality of life for children with type 1 diabetes.’ Statistics currently show that there are close to 5 000 adolescents that live with Type 1 diabetes in South Africa. Type 1 diabetes can be either: Hyperglycaemia: When your blood sugar levels are too high. It is the hallmark of diabetes onset and it usually continues to occur on and off after you start treatment Hypoglycaemia: Sugar levels are too low. This usually occurs as the result of diabetes treatment, particularly insulin administration which lowers blood sugar How does diabetes in children and adolescents start? It can come on suddenly or gradually in children and teens and parents often aren’t aware of the symptoms or patterns that point to a potential diabetes diagnosis. Symptoms may be similar to those of flu but, if diabetes is the cause, the sooner it’s diagnosed, the better. Symptoms of Hyperglycaemia: High blood sugar Increased hunger The body’s cells are not able to utilise glucose for energy due to a lack of insulin or insulin resistance, leading to a craving for more food. Dry mouth: A dry mouth is one of the most common symptoms which can cause trouble chewing, swallowing or speaking, dry cracked lips, sores or infections in the mouth or a furry, dry tongue Frequent urination (especially at night):  Excess glucose in the blood spills into the urine, drawing water with it and increasing the frequency of urination. This in turn increases thirst Weight loss:  Despite increased food intake, the body starts breaking down fat and muscle for energy, due to the lack of insulin Fatigue: The body’s cells cannot use glucose for energy efficiently, leading to feelings of tiredness and fatigue Blurry vision: High sugar levels in the blood can damage the tiny blood vessels in the eyes, causing fluid to seep into the lens, potentially causing blurry vision Slow-healing sores or frequent infections:  Over time, high blood sugar levels narrow your blood vessels, slowing blood circulation and restricting much needed nutrients and oxygen from getting to the wounds. As a result, even small cuts and wounds may take weeks or months to heal Fruity-smelling breath: The breakdown of fat for energy produces ketones, which can cause a fruity smell in the breath Ketoacidosis: This is when blood sugar levels are very high and the body starts making ketones. It is a very serious condition that needs immediate in hospital treatment, sometimes in the intensive care unit. If not treated right away, there is a  risk for diabetic coma. A child with a diabetic coma loses consciousness because of brain swelling due to very high blood sugar levels Symptoms of Hypoglycaemia: Low blood sugar  Trembling: Low blood sugar levels trigger the release of adrenaline, which causes shakiness Sweating:  The body’s response to low blood sugar includes releasing adrenaline, which can cause sweating Hunger: The brain detects low blood sugar and signals the body to eat Irritability or moodiness: Low blood sugar levels can affect brain function, leading to mood changes Fatigue: The brain and muscles are deprived of glucose, leading to feelings of tiredness Paleness: The body’s stress response to low blood sugar can cause blood vessels to constrict, leading to paleness Headaches: The brain is sensitive to changes in blood sugar levels, low levels can cause headaches How is type 1 diabetes treated? A daily dose of insulin is needed to keep the blood glucose level within normal ranges. Insulin is given either by injection or via an insulin pump. Your child’s healthcare provider will show you how to give your child insulin with either method.  Dr Hadebe says, ‘to make it easier for children and adolescents to monitor glucose levels and administer insulin the Scheme offers Insulin Pump Therapy and Continuous Glucose Infusion Monitoring device (CGM) to members under the age of 18.’ Eating the right foods to manage blood glucose levels. This includes timing meals and counting carbohydrates Exercise Regular blood testing Regular urine testing for ketone levels How can I help my child live with type 1 diabetes? The diagnosis affects the entire family emotionally – there are various support groups and organisations for children with Type 1 diabetes and their families. A younger child may not understand all the life changes, such as glucose monitoring and insulin injections, this can lead to anxiety and depression. They may feel different from their peers, try to treat them as a normal child, with managing diabetes as just one aspect of their daily life. Ask your healthcare provider for more information and call them if you need help.  Also ensure they are following the treatment plan and are eating the right foods, exercising and testing their blood and urine.  Early detection and comprehensive management are key to ensuring children with Type 1 diabetes lead healthy, fulfilling lives. Remember that your GP is your first port of call for all your healthcare needs. 

May 1, 2025
Parenting Hub

How to Keep Your Relationship Strong After Having Kids

Welcoming a child into your family is a profound and joyous event, but it also brings significant changes that can challenge even the strongest relationships. The transition to parenthood requires couples to adapt to new roles and responsibilities, which can sometimes strain their bond. However, with intentional effort and understanding, it’s possible to maintain and even strengthen your relationship after having children. Understanding the Challenges The arrival of a child often shifts the dynamics of a relationship. Sleep deprivation, increased responsibilities, and reduced personal time can lead to stress and misunderstandings. Research indicates that couples often experience a decline in relationship satisfaction after the birth of their first child, with the joys of parenting sometimes overshadowed by the added responsibilities. en.wikipedia.org Effective Communication Open and honest communication is the cornerstone of any strong relationship, especially after becoming parents. Discussing feelings, concerns, and expectations with your partner regularly fosters mutual understanding and prevents resentment from building up. Dr. Carly Snyder, a reproductive and perinatal psychiatrist, emphasises the importance of setting aside daily time to talk and share feelings, which can significantly impact relationship satisfaction. parents.com Prioritise Couple Time Amid the demands of parenting, it’s crucial to carve out time for each other. Whether it’s a scheduled date night or a simple walk together, these moments help maintain your connection and remind you of your bond beyond parenthood. Small gestures of intimacy, such as affectionate messages or notes, can also make a significant impact. parents.com Share Responsibilities Equitably dividing parenting and household duties ensures that neither partner feels overwhelmed. Sharing responsibilities fosters teamwork and prevents feelings of imbalance, which can lead to tension. The concept of “mankeeping,” where women take on the emotional burdens of their male partners in addition to household tasks, has been identified as a factor that can lead to burnout and resentment. Balancing the relationship requires open communication, sharing responsibilities, and setting healthy boundaries. adelaidenow.com.au Seek Support Don’t hesitate to seek support from family, friends, or professional counsellors. External support can provide relief and offer new perspectives on managing challenges. Marriage coaches Bridgette Reed and her husband emphasise the importance of clear communication, self-awareness, and considering therapy to help couples navigate the challenges of parenthood while maintaining a strong relationship. parents.com Embrace Flexibility Parenthood is unpredictable, and flexibility is essential. Being adaptable in your routines and expectations can reduce stress and promote harmony in your relationship. Experts suggest that there’s no one-size-fits-all strategy and stress the need for couples to find a balance that works for their individual situations. They also highlight the importance of communication and flexibility in maintaining healthy partnerships while parenting young children. parents.com Maintain Individual Interests While parenting requires collaboration, maintaining individual interests and personal time is equally important. Encouraging each other to pursue personal passions contributes to personal fulfilment and enriches your partnership. Engaging in hobbies, exercise, or social activities outside of parenting responsibilities helps maintain a sense of self and prevents burnout. Physical Intimacy and Affection Physical closeness, whether through intimacy, cuddling, or simple touch, plays a significant role in maintaining a strong relationship. While exhaustion and stress can impact a couple’s physical connection, making an effort to show affection can help strengthen emotional bonds. Small, meaningful touches, such as hugs or a gentle hand squeeze, can release oxytocin—the “bonding hormone”—which helps maintain emotional closeness. Conclusion By implementing these strategies, couples can navigate the challenges of parenthood while keeping their relationship strong and fulfilling. Parenthood brings about profound changes, but with open communication, shared responsibilities, and intentional efforts to prioritise your partnership, your relationship can thrive in this new chapter of life. Sources

April 30, 2025
Parenting Hub

Breaking the Good Kid/Bad Kid Labelling Cycle

Labelling children as “good” or “bad” is a common practice that can have significant implications on their development and self-perception. This dichotomous labelling not only oversimplifies complex behaviours but also influences how children view themselves and their abilities. Breaking this cycle requires a conscious effort from parents, educators, and caregivers to adopt more nuanced and supportive approaches to child development. Understanding the Impact of Labels Labels such as “good” or “bad” are often assigned based on a child’s behaviour in specific situations. While seemingly harmless, these labels can lead to: According to labelling theory, individuals subconsciously notice how others see or label them, and their reactions to these labels over time form the basis of their self-identity. It is through this social process of labelling that behaviours are reinforced, influencing an individual’s self-concept and social identity. (Wikipedia – Social Conditioning) The Role of Social Conditioning Social conditioning plays a significant role in how labels are assigned and perceived. From a young age, children are conditioned to conform to societal norms and expectations. Behaviours that align with these norms are often labeled as “good,” while those that deviate are labeled as “bad.” This conditioning can limit a child’s ability to express themselves authentically and develop a healthy self-concept. Margaret Mead’s theory of social development suggests that one’s identity is shaped by outside forces. While the self exists at birth, initial interactions influence the development of one’s identity. As individuals interact with various groups, starting with family and extending to friends, they develop their perception of self. This process highlights how external labelling can significantly impact self-identity. (Wikipedia – Social Conditioning) Moving Beyond Dichotomous Labels To break the cycle of labelling children as “good” or “bad,” consider the following strategies: 1. Focus on Specific Behaviours Instead of assigning labels, address specific behaviours. For example, instead of saying, “You are being bad,” say, “Running indoors can be dangerous; please walk.” This approach separates the child’s identity from their actions. 2. Use Positive Discipline Positive discipline focuses on guiding and teaching rather than punishing. It emphasises understanding the reasons behind a child’s behaviour and addressing underlying needs. This approach helps children learn appropriate behaviours without feeling shamed or labeled. (Wikipedia – Positive Discipline) 3. Encourage a Growth Mindset Promote the belief that abilities and behaviours can change with effort and learning. Encourage children to see challenges as opportunities for growth rather than as reflections of their character. 4. Provide Constructive Feedback Offer feedback that is specific, actionable, and focused on improvement. Instead of labelling a child as “good” or “bad,” provide guidance on how they can improve their behaviour or skills. 5. Model Desired Behaviours Children learn by observing adults. Model the behaviours you wish to see, and acknowledge your own mistakes to show that learning is a continuous process. 6. Avoid Comparisons Comparing children to their siblings or peers can reinforce labelling and negatively impact self-esteem. Focus on each child’s individual strengths and areas for growth. 7. Create an Inclusive Environment Foster an environment where all children feel valued and understood. Encourage empathy, cooperation, and respect among children to reduce the tendency to label each other. The Importance of Language The language used when communicating with children significantly impacts their self-perception. Common phrases, even when well-intentioned, can be problematic. For example: It’s crucial to use supportive, guiding language to foster children’s confidence and emotional well-being. (Parents – Things You Should Never Say to Your Child) Challenges in Modern Parenting Modern parenting trends often involve avoiding the word “no”, fearing it may harm children’s self-esteem or suppress their curiosity. However, experts emphasise the importance of setting boundaries for children’s safety and cooperation. The word “no,” when used thoughtfully, helps establish necessary limits and teaches cooperation, vital for future social interactions. Balancing warmth with boundaries is crucial for healthy child development. (The Guardian – Why “No” Became a Dirty Word in Parenting) Conclusion Breaking the cycle of labelling children as “good” or “bad” requires a conscious effort to focus on specific behaviours, use positive discipline, and promote a growth mindset. By being mindful of the language used and the potential impact of labels, parents, educators, and caregivers can foster healthier self-perceptions in children. This approach not only supports individual growth but also contributes to a more empathetic and understanding society. Sources

April 30, 2025
Parenting Hub

Why Playdates Are Just as Important for Parents as Kids

Playdates have long been recognised as essential for children’s social, emotional, and cognitive development. They offer opportunities for kids to engage in unstructured play, develop friendships, and learn vital social skills. However, the significance of playdates extends beyond the benefits they provide to children; they are equally crucial for parents. This article explores the multifaceted advantages of playdates for both children and their caregivers, highlighting how these interactions foster community, support mental health, and enhance parenting skills. Benefits of Playdates for Children Before delving into the advantages for parents, it’s essential to understand why playdates are vital for children: The Overlooked Benefits of Playdates for Parents While the advantages for children are well-documented, playdates also offer significant benefits for parents: Navigating Challenges in Parent Playdate Interactions While playdates offer numerous benefits, they can also present challenges for parents: Strategies to Maximise Playdate Benefits for Parents To fully harness the advantages of playdates, parents can consider the following strategies: Conclusion Playdates are more than just a time for children to play; they are pivotal in fostering a supportive community for parents. Through these interactions, parents can combat isolation, share knowledge, and build lasting relationships that enrich their parenting journey. Recognising and embracing the dual benefits of playdates can lead to a more connected, informed, and resilient parenting experience. Sources:

April 29, 2025
Parenting Hub

The Importance of Hydration for Growing Kids

Ensuring that children maintain proper hydration is crucial for their overall health and development. Water plays a vital role in numerous bodily functions, including temperature regulation, digestion, and cognitive performance. Despite its importance, many children do not consume adequate amounts of water daily, leading to potential health risks. This article delves into the significance of hydration for growing children, the recommended daily water intake, the consequences of dehydration, and practical strategies to encourage healthy drinking habits. The Role of Water in Children’s Health Water is indispensable for various physiological processes that are especially critical during a child’s growth years: Recommended Daily Water Intake for Children The amount of water a child needs can vary based on age, activity level, and environmental factors. While individual requirements may differ, general guidelines suggest: These recommendations include water from all sources, such as beverages and food. It’s important to note that active children or those in hot climates may require additional fluids to stay adequately hydrated. verywellhealth.com Consequences of Inadequate Hydration Failure to maintain proper hydration can lead to dehydration, which poses several health risks: Children are more susceptible to dehydration than adults due to their higher body water content and metabolic rate. Factors such as fever, vomiting, diarrhoea, and excessive sweating can exacerbate fluid loss. verywellhealth.com Strategies to Promote Healthy Hydration Habits Encouraging children to develop regular drinking habits is essential for preventing dehydration and promoting overall health: Addressing Challenges in Maintaining Hydration Despite best efforts, ensuring children drink enough water can be challenging: Recognising and Managing Dehydration Early identification of dehydration is crucial for prompt intervention: Conclusion Hydration plays a pivotal role in the health and development of growing children. By understanding the importance of adequate fluid intake and implementing practical strategies, parents and caregivers can foster healthy hydration habits that support children’s physical and cognitive well-being. Proactive measures, education, and attentive monitoring are key to ensuring children thrive in their daily activities. Sources

April 29, 2025
Parenting Hub

When Should Kids Start Doing Chores? Age-Appropriate Tasks

Introducing children to household chores at an early age fosters responsibility, independence, and a sense of contribution to the family unit. Assigning tasks that align with their developmental stage ensures safety and promotes skill development. Below is a guide to age-appropriate chores for children: Toddlers (Ages 2-3) Source: The Spruce Preschoolers (Ages 4-5) Source: WebMD Early Elementary (Ages 6-7) Source: American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry Tweens (Ages 10-12) Source: GoHenry Teenagers (Ages 13-18) Source: Wonderful Life Farm Assigning chores not only aids in the smooth running of the household but also equips children with essential life skills, preparing them for future independence. Sources:

April 28, 2025
Parenting Hub

When to Worry: Baby Milestones That Might Need Extra Attention

Monitoring your baby’s developmental milestones is crucial for ensuring their healthy growth. While each child develops at their own pace, certain delays may signal the need for further evaluation. Here’s what to watch for and when to seek professional advice. Understanding Developmental Milestones Developmental milestones are behaviours or physical skills seen in infants and children as they grow. These milestones are categorised into: Significant delays in one or more of these areas may indicate a developmental delay. Read more on Wikipedia. Key Milestones and Potential Red Flags While variations are normal, certain delays may warrant attention: If you notice these signs, consult your paediatrician for an evaluation. Factors Influencing Development Several factors can impact a child’s development: Steps to Take if Concerned Conclusion Being attentive to your baby’s development is essential. Early detection and intervention can significantly enhance your child’s growth and quality of life. If you’re unsure about your child’s progress, seeking medical advice early can make all the difference.

April 28, 2025
Parenting Hub

Why Kids Love Watching the Same Shows on Repeat (and Why It’s Okay)

Children often exhibit a strong preference for watching the same television shows repeatedly, a behaviour that can puzzle and sometimes concern parents. However, this tendency is rooted in developmental benefits and serves various psychological and cognitive functions. Understanding the reasons behind this repetitive viewing can help parents appreciate its value and manage screen time effectively. The Comfort of Familiarity Repetition provides children with a sense of predictability and security. In a world that is often new and unpredictable to them, familiar shows offer a safe environment where they know what to expect. This familiarity can be especially comforting during times of change or stress, helping to regulate emotions and provide stability. Enhancing Comprehension and Learning Repeated viewing allows children to grasp narratives and concepts more deeply. Each repetition offers an opportunity to understand the storyline better, recognise nuances, and anticipate outcomes, which enhances comprehension skills. This process mirrors how repetition is used in educational settings to reinforce learning. For instance, the children’s program “Blue’s Clues” was designed with repetition in mind. Research indicated that repeated viewings of the same episode improved children’s problem-solving abilities and increased audience participation. Children became more skilled at solving similar problems not presented in the episode after multiple viewings. This approach demonstrated that repetition could foster empowerment and engagement in young viewers. en.wikipedia.org Building Confidence and Mastery When children watch the same show repeatedly, they become familiar with the content, which can boost their confidence. Anticipating what happens next and understanding character motivations provide a sense of mastery. This mastery is satisfying and encourages them to apply similar skills in new situations, promoting cognitive development. Emotional Regulation and Coping Mechanism Familiar shows can serve as a tool for emotional regulation. Children may turn to beloved programs to soothe themselves when they are upset or anxious. The predictability of the content provides a calming effect, helping them manage their emotions more effectively. Parental Perspectives and Nostalgia Many parents are turning to TV shows from the ’90s and early 2000s for their children as a gentler alternative to today’s stimulating programming. Classic shows like “Franklin,” “Little Bear,” and “Max & Ruby” offer a calming and soothing viewing experience, appealing to parents seeking a break from fast-paced content. These slower-paced shows can enhance children’s focus and emotional regulation, making them developmentally beneficial. parents.com Cognitive Benefits of Repetitive Viewing Watching certain types of television content, such as game shows like “Jeopardy!” and “Wheel of Fortune,” can boost cognitive health. These shows enhance problem-solving skills, improve memory, and strengthen the mind by requiring viewers to pay close attention and process information quickly. Engaging in these activities can boost mental acuity and help with accessing stored information faster, which is particularly beneficial for older adults. nypost.com Recommendations for Parents While repetitive viewing has its benefits, it’s essential to maintain a balanced media diet. Here are some recommendations for parents: In conclusion, children’s inclination to watch the same shows repeatedly is a natural behaviour that supports various aspects of their development. Recognising the benefits of this repetition can help parents make informed decisions about media consumption and appreciate the positive role it plays in their child’s growth. Sources

April 25, 2025
Twinkl

Discover the Magic of Twinkl Literary Classics for Little Learners

Step into a world of wonder and imagination with the Twinkl Literary Classics for Little Learners range — a beautifully curated collection of timeless tales thoughtfully adapted to ignite a love of reading in young children. This range offers a gentle introduction to some of literature’s most cherished stories, designed to nurture curiosity, empathy, and a lifelong passion for books. Why Introduce Classic Literature to Little Learners? In an age where digital distractions are everywhere, sharing classic stories with children opens a door to rich storytelling traditions, diverse cultures, and timeless life lessons. These beloved tales connect readers to historical contexts, moral dilemmas, and universal themes, helping children explore complex emotions and understand the world through different perspectives. Reading classic literature at a young age can also enhance language development and vocabulary, introducing children to beautiful, expressive language they may not encounter elsewhere. The vivid imagery and memorable characters spark imagination and creativity, encouraging children to dream big and think beyond their immediate surroundings. Moreover, these stories help build resilience and moral reasoning as children witness characters navigating challenges, making difficult decisions, and growing through adversity. This not only fosters empathy but also empowers young readers to see themselves as capable of kindness, bravery, and perseverance in their own lives.  Thoughtfully Adapted for Young Readers The Twinkl Literary Classics for Little Learners range carefully reimagines classic tales to suit young audiences. We’ve simplified intricate subplots, adjusted complex themes, and ensured the language remains accessible and engaging for early readers — all while preserving the heart and essence of each original story.  Sensitive and Age-Appropriate Storytelling We understand that some classic tales touch on challenging themes like loss, conflict, or hardship. Rest assured, any sensitive content has been handled with care, softened to align with the emotional maturity of younger readers. When pivotal to the plot, these themes are presented gently, providing an opportunity for meaningful conversations without overwhelming little minds. Shared Reading and Meaningful Conversations Reading these stories together can be a special bonding experience. As you turn the pages with your child, you can explore big ideas, answer curious questions, and encourage thoughtful discussions. This shared experience helps foster critical thinking and emotional growth, allowing children to reflect on the story’s characters, choices, and underlying messages. Sparking a Lifelong Love of Literature Above all, the Twinkl Literary Classics for Little Learners range is designed to inspire joy and wonder. We hope these adaptations become treasured favourites in your home, laying the foundation for a lifetime of literary exploration. After all, stories have the power to captivate, comfort, and empower — and every child deserves the chance to discover the magic of books. The range of Twinkl Literary Classics for Little Learners can be found here: https://www.twinkl.co.za/l/yxsux

April 25, 2025
Parenting Hub

How to Help Your Child Through Friendship Struggles

Friendships play a pivotal role in a child’s emotional and social development. They provide companionship, support, and a sense of belonging. However, it’s common for children to encounter challenges in their friendships, leading to feelings of isolation or distress. As a parent, understanding how to support your child through these struggles is essential for fostering resilience and social competence. Understanding the Importance of Friendships in Childhood Friendships during childhood are more than just playmates; they are fundamental to a child’s growth: Given these benefits, it’s concerning that recent studies indicate many children face difficulties in forming and maintaining friendships. A poll by C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital revealed that one in five parents reported their child had few or no friends, with 90% of these children expressing a desire for more friendships. parents.com Common Friendship Challenges Among Children Children may experience various obstacles in their social interactions: Understanding these challenges is the first step in providing effective support to your child. Strategies to Support Your Child Through Friendship Struggles Navigating Parental Involvement Balancing involvement in your child’s social life is crucial. Overstepping can hinder their ability to develop independent social skills, while under-involvement may leave them feeling unsupported. The key is to guide without controlling, offering support while allowing your child to navigate their social world. A recent poll indicated that many parents are concerned about their children’s friendships, with some organising playdates or enrolling their children in activities to facilitate social connections. However, experts emphasise the importance of allowing children to form their own friendships to develop autonomy and social competence. parents.com Understanding Modern Challenges: The “Too Cool” Culture Recent trends, such as the emergence of the “Too Cool” (TC) culture, have introduced new challenges in children’s social landscapes. This phenomenon involves exclusive cliques that engage in behaviours like bullying, leading to increased anxiety and social issues among children. Experts highlight the role of social media in exacerbating these behaviours, making it essential for parents to educate their children about healthy friendships and the impact of exclusionary behaviours. couriermail.com.au The Role of Schools in Supporting Friendships Educational institutions play a significant role in fostering healthy peer relationships. Many schools implement programs that promote emotional intelligence, empathy, and conflict resolution skills. Collaborate with your child’s school to ensure they are receiving support in developing these essential skills. Conclusion Helping your child navigate friendship struggles is a multifaceted process that involves open communication, teaching essential social skills, and providing appropriate support while encouraging independence. By understanding the challenges and implementing supportive strategies, you can empower your child to build and maintain meaningful friendships that contribute to their overall well-being. Sources

April 24, 2025
Parenting Hub

Why Kids Need More Outdoor Play (and How to Make It Happen)

In today’s fast-paced, technology-driven world, children are spending more time indoors than ever before. Increased screen time, structured schedules, and safety concerns have contributed to a decline in outdoor play. However, outdoor play is crucial for a child’s physical, mental, and emotional well-being. It promotes healthy development, enhances social skills, and fosters a deeper connection with the natural world. This article explores the importance of outdoor play and provides practical ways for parents and educators to encourage kids to spend more time outside. The Benefits of Outdoor Play 1. Physical Health and Development Outdoor play provides children with plenty of opportunities for movement, which is essential for their physical health. Activities such as running, climbing, jumping, and balancing improve: According to the Centre’s for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), children should get at least 60 minutes of physical activity per day to support healthy growth and development【1】. Outdoor play naturally encourages kids to be active, reducing their risk of childhood obesity and related health issues. 2. Mental and Emotional Well-Being Spending time in nature has been linked to reduced stress, anxiety, and depression. Studies show that exposure to green spaces improves children’s mood, concentration, and self-esteem. The American Psychological Association (APA) highlights that outdoor play helps regulate emotions, making children more resilient in handling everyday challenges【2】. Additionally, children who engage in unstructured outdoor play experience lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol, helping them feel calmer and more balanced【3】. 3. Cognitive and Academic Benefits Outdoor play stimulates curiosity, creativity, and problem-solving skills. When children explore nature, they encounter new sights, sounds, and textures, encouraging critical thinking and sensory development. Research from Harvard University suggests that time spent outdoors improves attention span and memory, which translates to better performance in school【4】. Activities such as building forts, observing insects, and playing in the dirt ignite a child’s imagination and encourage self-directed learning. 4. Social Skills and Emotional Intelligence Outdoor play provides opportunities for children to interact with peers, develop friendships, and practice cooperation. Through group games, role-playing, and shared adventures, kids learn essential social skills such as: Studies show that children who engage in regular outdoor play are more likely to develop strong interpersonal skills and form positive relationships【5】. 5. Connection to Nature and Environmental Awareness Regular exposure to nature helps children develop a sense of responsibility and appreciation for the environment. Kids who spend time outdoors are more likely to: According to the National Wildlife Federation, children who play outside frequently are more likely to care about protecting the planet as they grow【6】. Barriers to Outdoor Play Despite its numerous benefits, many children struggle to get enough outdoor time. Some common barriers include: Understanding these barriers is the first step toward creating solutions that encourage outdoor play. How to Encourage More Outdoor Play 1. Make Outdoor Play a Daily Habit 2. Provide Engaging Outdoor Activities Make outdoor play fun and exciting by offering different activities, such as: These activities stimulate creativity and keep kids engaged. 3. Organise Playdates and Group Activities Children are more likely to enjoy outdoor play when they have friends to play with. Plan: Social play helps kids develop relationships and look forward to outdoor activities. 4. Create an Inviting Outdoor Space Make your backyard or local park a fun and safe environment for play: A child-friendly space encourages regular outdoor engagement. 5. Lead by Example Children imitate adult behaviour, so if they see parents enjoying outdoor activities, they’ll be more inclined to join. 6. Limit Screen Time To create a balance between screen time and outdoor play: Conclusion Outdoor play is not just a fun pastime—it’s a critical part of a child’s development. It supports physical health, mental well-being, social skills, and cognitive growth. Unfortunately, modern lifestyles have significantly reduced children’s exposure to nature and free play, but parents and educators can take intentional steps to reintroduce outdoor activities. Sources

April 24, 2025
Parenting Hub

Mom Brain is Real – Here’s Why and How to Cope

The term “mom brain” often refers to the forgetfulness and mental fog that many mothers experience during pregnancy and postpartum. While sometimes used humorously, this phenomenon has scientific underpinnings that validate its existence. Understanding the causes of “mom brain” and adopting effective coping strategies can help mothers navigate this challenging period. Understanding “Mom Brain” During pregnancy and the postpartum period, women undergo significant hormonal fluctuations that lead to structural and functional changes in the brain. Research indicates that these changes, such as reductions in grey matter volume, are associated with enhanced maternal behaviours and emotional bonding with the infant. These adaptations prepare mothers for the demands of caregiving but can also result in cognitive changes commonly referred to as “mom brain.” parents.com Additionally, the transition to motherhood involves new responsibilities, sleep deprivation, and increased stress, all of which can contribute to feelings of mental fog and forgetfulness. Coping Strategies for “Mom Brain” Recognising that “mom brain” is a real and common experience can alleviate self-imposed pressure. By implementing these strategies, mothers can support their cognitive health during this transformative period. Sources:

April 23, 2025
Parenting Hub

Teaching Kids About Personal Space and Boundaries

Understanding and respecting personal space is a fundamental social skill that children need to develop for healthy interactions. Teaching these concepts early fosters empathy, self-awareness, and respectful relationships. Understanding Personal Space Personal space refers to the physical area surrounding an individual that they consider their own. Encroachment into this space without consent can lead to discomfort or anxiety. Children may not inherently understand these boundaries, making it essential to teach them explicitly. Strategies for Teaching Personal Space and Boundaries By implementing these strategies, parents and educators can effectively teach children about personal space and boundaries, promoting respectful and empathetic interactions. Sources:

April 23, 2025
Impaq

Autism Awareness Month: Autism Spectrum Disorder and the Need for Effective School Alternatives

Autism spectrum disorder. It’s a complex topic, to say the least, and one that presents countless challenges to the parents, caregivers and teachers of affected children. While designated days like World Autism Awareness Day in April is an important part of creating awareness about autism, the challenges remain plentiful. Not least among the challenges is finding a suitable school for the child on the spectrum. The reality for many hundreds of children on the spectrum is that they simply have to cope in a mainstream environment, due to the lack of options. One alternative in this regard is home and online learning as it provides structured, curriculum-aligned education that can simply and effectively be tailored to meet the individual needs of the learner in question.  Education today is about putting the needs of the learner first, which starts with the acknowledgement that the days of a one-size-fits-all approach are both outdated and simply no longer necessary. Alternative options, like homeschooling, bear exploring if we are serious about ensuring our children get a relevant education, while taking the needs of the learner and his/her family into consideration.  A common concern for parents considering homeschooling is whether their child will miss out on social experiences. The reality is that home and online schooled learners often have more flexibility to engage in activities outside of a school setting. Joining homeschooling groups, sports clubs, or online communities can help learners build strong social connections.  For families with children involved in sports, music, or other demanding activities, home and online schooling provides the flexibility to balance education with personal passions. It also allows for real-life learning experiences that bring lessons to life in ways that textbooks cannot. Importantly, homeschooling does not mean children need to be formally educated by their parents. Parents, or caregivers, play a supporting role in homeschooling, and do not need to take on the role of teacher.  One of the biggest challenges in traditional schooling is that every child is expected to learn at the same speed. Some children grasp concepts quickly and feel unchallenged, while others need more time and may fall behind. Homeschooling removes these pressures, allowing learners to master subjects at their own pace. This creates a deeper understanding of the material and fosters a love for learning, rather than just studying to pass exams. Unlike in a traditional school where subject choices can be limited by resources, home and online schooling offers learners more flexibility to explore their interests. Whether it’s advanced mathematics, coding, creative arts, or entrepreneurship, learners have the freedom to shape their education in a way that aligns with their future aspirations. This personalised approach makes learning more meaningful and engaging. Ultimately, parents know what’s best for their child. If homeschooling aligns with your family’s needs, trust your decision and embrace the flexibility, quality, and opportunity it offers. By Louise Schoonwinkel, MD at Optimi Schooling of which Impaq is a registered trademark

April 23, 2025
Parenting Hub

YouTube vs. Kids’ Brains: How to Balance Screen Time

In today’s digital age, platforms like YouTube have become integral to children’s lives, offering educational content, entertainment, and avenues for creativity. However, excessive screen time has raised concerns among parents, educators, and health professionals regarding its impact on children’s cognitive development, physical health, and overall well-being. Striking a balance between the benefits of digital media and the potential risks associated with prolonged screen exposure is crucial. The Appeal of YouTube to Young Minds YouTube’s vast array of content caters to various interests, making it particularly appealing to children. From educational videos and tutorials to entertainment and gaming channels, the platform offers endless possibilities for exploration. This diversity, coupled with the platform’s algorithmic recommendations, can lead to extended viewing periods, often without children realising the passage of time. Potential Impacts of Excessive Screen Time While digital platforms provide valuable resources, excessive screen time can have several adverse effects on children: Expert Recommendations for Screen Time Health organisations have provided guidelines to help parents manage their children’s screen time: The Role of YouTube Kids To address concerns about inappropriate content, YouTube launched YouTube Kids, a platform designed to offer child-friendly videos. However, reports have highlighted that even on this platform, some harmful content can slip through its filters. Paediatricians recommend that parents manually adjust settings and remain vigilant about the content their children access. parents.com Strategies for Balancing Screen Time Achieving a healthy balance between screen time and other activities involves several strategies: The Importance of Open Communication Engaging in open dialogues with children about screen time is essential. Discussing the reasons behind screen time limits and involving children in setting these boundaries can lead to better adherence and understanding. Experts emphasise that instead of imposing rigid limits, focusing on balancing screen use with other activities and involving kids in creating boundaries fosters healthier habits. parents.com Conclusion YouTube and similar platforms offer valuable content that can contribute positively to children’s development when used appropriately. However, it is imperative to balance screen time with other essential activities to ensure holistic growth. By setting clear boundaries, encouraging diverse activities, and maintaining open communication, parents can help their children navigate the digital world safely and healthily.

April 22, 2025
DIBBER SA

Every Child Belongs: Growing Hearts and Minds at Dibber

“Parenting in the early years is an adventure. One moment, you’re watching your child turn snack time into a science experiment, and the next, you’re untangling playground disagreements. But beyond the daily chaos, one of the most valuable lessons we can teach our children is how to embrace others—quirks and all. “At Dibber, we believe in nurturing hearts and minds for the future. That means raising children who don’t just exist alongside others but truly see, value, and respect them. Inclusion isn’t just a concept—it’s a way of life, and it starts in early childhood. “As an educator, a special needs parent, and someone who is autistic myself, I understand inclusion from multiple perspectives. I’ve seen firsthand the joy and growth that happens when children are given the space to connect with those who experience the world differently. But I’ve also encountered moments that remind me of the work still to be done—like when a parent once said, “That child has something wrong in his head and needs to be removed” about my son. Statements like this come from a place of misunderstanding, and that’s exactly why we need to keep having these conversations. “We all see our children as perfect in their own way. But every child has challenges, a unique way of thinking, and moments of joy and struggle. Some differences stand out more than others, and too often, children who communicate, learn, or express emotions differently are misunderstood. Rather than approaching differences with fear or judgment, we can choose curiosity and kindness. “Early childhood is the foundation of lifelong learning. If we want to build a more inclusive society, we have to start by fostering inclusion in the places where children spend their earliest years. At Dibber, we see every child as competent and full of potential. That means we don’t just include children with diverse needs—we celebrate them. “If your child has a disagreement with another, instead of immediately assigning blame, take a moment to ask, “What happened?” Encourage them to consider different perspectives. Autism, ADHD, sensory processing differences—these aren’t things to be ‘fixed.’ They are simply different ways of experiencing the world, and when we talk about them openly, they become a natural part of life. “Children naturally gravitate toward those who are similar to them, but true growth happens when they form relationships with those who see the world differently. When we help children build friendships based on understanding rather than sameness, we give them a skill that will serve them for life. “Imagine telling a child who wears glasses that they can’t be part of a school because their eyesight isn’t ‘normal.’ It sounds absurd. Yet, when it comes to neurodivergent children, exclusion still happens too often. The truth is that inclusive education benefits everyone. It teaches patience, adaptability, and social skills that matter in the real world. Like our communities, our schools should reflect diversity’s beauty—not just a narrow version of it. “To the parent who once questioned my child’s place in school, let me reassure you: His mind is just fine. In fact, it’s filled with creativity, curiosity, and insights that might surprise you. The real challenge isn’t his brain—it’s a world that sometimes struggles to make room for different kinds of minds. “So, if your child has a neurodivergent classmate, take a moment. Instead of jumping to conclusions, encourage them to ask questions and be open. Teach them to be kind, not cautious, to be inclusive, not indifferent. Because one day, they will grow up and enter a world filled with people who think and experience life in all sorts of ways. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if they were prepared for that? Imagine if a child knew how valuable they are. “Inclusion isn’t about charity; it’s about humanity. As parents and educators, we have the power to raise a generation that sees the value in every mind, every perspective, and every person. Let’s make the most of that opportunity. “One day, your child may have a friend who communicates differently, a colleague who approaches problems from a new angle, or a partner who sees the world in a unique way. The empathy and understanding they learn now will shape how they navigate life later. So, let’s teach them to appreciate—not just accept—differences. Because the world isn’t made for only one kind of mind, and neither should our schools, our communities, or our hearts.” By Kelly Eyre, Quality and Pedagogy Lead, Dibber South Africa

April 22, 2025
Parenting Hub

What’s in a Baby’s Name? The Psychology Behind Name Choices

Choosing a baby’s name is a significant decision that reflects cultural, social, and personal factors. This article explores the psychological aspects influencing how parents select names for their children. 1. Cultural and Societal Influences Names often mirror societal trends and cultural values. For instance, the recent shift among celebrities toward traditional names like “Jack” indicates a desire for stability and familiarity in uncertain times. The Sun 2. Implicit Egotism and the Name-Letter Effect Psychological research suggests that individuals have a preference for letters in their own names, a phenomenon known as the “name-letter effect.” This implicit egotism can influence major life decisions, including career choices and places of residence. en.wikipedia.org 3. Nominative Determinism The concept of nominative determinism proposes that people might gravitate toward professions that fit their names. While debated, some studies suggest that a person’s name can influence their life choices and behaviours. en.wikipedia.org 4. Desire for Uniqueness vs. Tradition Parents often balance the desire for unique names with traditional ones. The trend of choosing “Ivy League” names exemplifies this, where names like “Brooks” and “Vivienne” are selected for their classic charm and perceived sophistication. nypost.com 5. Family Dynamics and Emotional Connections Family relationships and emotions play a crucial role in naming decisions. For example, some parents wish to honour deceased relatives by naming their children after them, which can lead to complex family discussions. parents.com 6. Socioeconomic Aspirations Names can reflect parents’ aspirations for their children. Choosing names associated with success or higher social status can be a way for parents to express their hopes for their child’s future. Conclusion The psychology behind baby name choices is multifaceted, influenced by cultural trends, personal preferences, societal norms, and psychological phenomena. Understanding these factors can provide insight into how names shape and reflect individual identities.

April 22, 2025
Twinkl

Why Reading with Your Child Matters

Many parents treasure bedtime stories as part of their child’s nighttime routine. It’s a cherished moment to snuggle up and unwind after a busy day, but the benefits of reading together go far beyond relaxation. With World Book Day 2025 on the horizon in April, it’s the perfect time to reflect on the incredible impact reading can have on your child’s development — and to discover the wonderful world of Twinkl’s Book Boma collection.  The Magic of a Bedtime Story Setting the Tone for Sleep: A predictable bedtime routine is essential for children, helping them transition from a day full of activity to a calm and restful state. Reading a story signals to their brain that it’s time to wind down, promoting better sleep — especially when this routine is consistent. Building Language and Vocabulary: Storytime exposes children to new words and phrases, enriching their vocabulary and strengthening communication skills in a natural, engaging way. Fostering a Love for Reading: Reading regularly with your child can cultivate a lifelong passion for books. Letting them choose a story or two adds excitement and ownership to the experience, encouraging them to look forward to reading. Boosting Listening Skills: Sitting still and paying attention to a story helps children develop their listening abilities — an essential skill for learning and social interactions. Strengthening Parent-Child Bonds: The closeness of cuddling up with a story makes children feel loved and secure. This one-on-one time nurtures your relationship and provides your child with the attention they crave.  Lowering Stress and Anxiety: The soothing sound of a parent’s voice can calm an anxious mind. Reading aloud provides comfort and security, promoting relaxation and emotional well-being. Creating a Safe Space for Conversations: For older children, reading together can open the door to important conversations. A story might spark discussions about school, friendships, or feelings they might otherwise struggle to express. Accessing Books Doesn’t Have to Be Expensive You don’t need to spend a fortune to build a home library. Public libraries are treasure troves of stories, and second-hand bookshops are filled with affordable finds. But if you’re looking for a convenient, digital option, Twinkl’s Book Boma collection offers an amazing range of ebooks — perfect for reading on tablets or computers. These books are designed to engage young readers with captivating stories and beautiful illustrations, making them ideal for bedtime or anytime reading. Plus, they’re easily accessible, so you can browse and pick a story together without leaving home.  Celebrate World Book Day 2025 with Your Child World Book Day, celebrated annually, is a global event dedicated to the joy of reading. It’s a wonderful opportunity to introduce your child to new books, dress up as their favourite characters, and participate in fun reading activities. Why not mark the occasion by exploring Twinkl’s Book Boma collection or visiting your book store? You could even start a new tradition of reading a special story every World Book Day — creating memories that last a lifetime. At the heart of it all, reading with your child is about connection. It’s about sharing laughter, adventures, and precious moments that strengthen your bond. Whether you’re discovering a brand-new ebook or revisiting an old favourite, the time you spend reading together is a gift that will shape your child’s future. So, grab a book, snuggle up, and let the stories begin — because every page turned is a step toward a brighter, more imaginative world. Learn more at : https://www.twinkl.co.za/l/17wjho

April 17, 2025
Bonitas – innovation, life stages and quality care

Safe cribs and playpens to use when travelling

The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Make sure the mesh is less than 1/4 inch in size so it’s smaller than the buttons on your baby’s clothing. Make sure the mesh is in good repair without any tears, holes or loose threads that your baby can get caught on. Make sure the mesh is fully attached to the top rail and bottom of the bed so there are no holes for the baby to get caught in. Make sure there are no bare, missing or loose staples or nails. When in doubt throw it out – don’t use cribs or bedding that might pose a risk to your baby. It’s your job to keep them safe! Fire safety for home with newborn The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Check your smoke detectors and carbon monoxide detectors to make sure they have fresh batteries and are in working order – install them in your home if you don’t have them already. Check your fire extinguishers to make sure they are in working order – purchase them if you don’t have one on each floor of your home already. Make sure clothing and bedding meet fire safety standards – information on their fire safety rating should be on labels and tags. Insist that your home be smoke free to prevent your baby’s exposure to second-hand smoke and also as a fire prevention measure since cigarettes are a common cause of home fires. Review or update your fire escape plan to include your new baby – review the plan with everyone in the household. For more information on fire safety visit websites like the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC). Fire safety prevention in home with newborn The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Do a fire safety walk-through of your entire house, check for burnable substances near heat sources, frayed or damaged electrical cords, matches or lighters within reach of children and other situations that may be a fire hazard. Never leave space heaters of any type unattended and turn them off while you are asleep. Never store flammable liquids like paint thinner, charcoal lighter fluid or gasoline in the house and always keep them a safe distance from heat sources. Check all mattresses, bedding and sleep apparel for your baby to make sure they meet fire safety requirements – this information should be on the product label. Early warning of a fire is key to keeping your family safe, so make sure your smoke detectors and fire extinguishers meet local codes and are in working order. Be prepared and have a fire escape plan that is understood by and has been practiced by the entire household, it could save lives in a fire emergency. For more information on fire safety visit websites like the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC). Newborn safety tips The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. Never leave your baby alone for even a minute unless they are in a secure place like a crib or playpen. Make sure you follow safe sleep recommendations when putting your baby to bed. When in the car always use a safety approved rear-facing car seat that is specifically made for newborns. Never ever leave your baby alone in a car – be especially careful during warm or cold weather. Always use safety approved car seats, cribs and toys – if they are hand-me-downs or you are buying them used, choose items that still have a safety tag attached and check to make sure they haven’t been recalled. To prevent burns never carry hot liquids or food while you are holding your baby. Pet safety and newborns The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of the end-user and should not replace a doctor’s opinion. If you have a dog, know that certain breeds may require extra caution with a newborn – German Shepherds, Rottweilers and Pit Bulls account for more than 50% of fatal dog bites. Always closely supervise infants when in the presence of dogs even if they are not one of the above breeds – they may experience jealousy and have other unexpected reactions to a new member of the household. Keep in mind that some pet reptiles can carry infections, like Salmonella, so keep turtles, snakes and lizards away from children under 5 years of age to prevent the spread of infections. Small pets like rodents should be kept away from newborns and infants to prevent bites or the spread of Salmonella and other possible infections. Other issues: Make sure your pet is healthy – take them to the veterinarian for a check-up and any needed vaccinations before the baby is born. Keep your pet’s nails trimmed. For cats and dogs especially, you may need to work to prepare them for the new member of the family – for example, invite friends with babies over if your pets aren’t used to children – supervise their interactions as they learn about these new additions to their world. New situations can be stressful to pets so be patient and understanding with them as they adjust to the changes in their life – scolding and punishment will only add to their stress. There are many things you can do to ensure a smooth transition, so contact your local Humane Society or other animal-focused organization for additional suggestions on preparing your pets for the arrival of your new baby. Newborns and sun exposure The following information is to be used as a guide to and at the discretion of

April 17, 2025
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What’s the Right Age for a First Smartphone?

In today’s digital age, determining the appropriate time to introduce a child to their first smartphone is a pressing concern for many parents. Balancing the benefits of connectivity and learning opportunities with potential risks such as exposure to inappropriate content and reduced physical activity requires careful consideration. This article delves into various perspectives, expert recommendations, and real-life experiences to guide parents in making informed decisions about when to provide their child with a smartphone. Current Trends in Smartphone Ownership Among Children The prevalence of smartphone usage among children has been steadily increasing over the years. According to data from Common Sense Media, 42% of children have a smartphone by age 10, 71% by age 12, and a striking 91% by age 14. childmind.org These statistics highlight the growing integration of digital devices into the lives of young individuals, prompting discussions about the appropriate age for smartphone introduction. Expert Recommendations on the Appropriate Age Determining the “right” age for a child to receive their first smartphone varies among experts and often depends on individual circumstances. Some guidelines suggest that children under 14 should not have smartphones. research.com Additionally, a survey by The Harris Poll indicates that parents, on average, believe that 13 is an appropriate age for a child to have a smartphone, with access to social media deemed suitable around 15 years old. theharrispoll.com Parental Concerns and Considerations Parents often grapple with several concerns when deciding to provide their child with a smartphone: These concerns underscore the importance of assessing a child’s maturity and ability to handle the responsibilities that come with smartphone ownership. Alternative Approaches and Solutions Some parents opt for alternatives to smartphones to address safety and communication needs without exposing their children to potential risks: The Role of Celebrity Influence and Campaigns Public figures have also weighed in on this debate. Notably, actors Benedict Cumberbatch and Paloma Faith have pledged not to give their children smartphones until they are at least 14 years old. This commitment is part of the Smartphone Free Childhood campaign, which has garnered significant support from parents and educators alike. thetimes.co.uk Real-Life Experiences and Lessons Learned Many families have shared their experiences regarding early smartphone introduction: Balancing Benefits and Risks While concerns exist, it’s essential to acknowledge the benefits of smartphones: However, these advantages must be weighed against potential drawbacks, emphasising the need for a balanced approach. Guidelines for Parents Considering Smartphone Introduction For parents contemplating introducing a smartphone to their child, consider the following guidelines: Conclusion Deciding the right age for a child’s first smartphone is a nuanced decision that varies based on individual circumstances, maturity levels, and family values. While trends indicate increasing smartphone ownership among younger children, it’s crucial for parents to consider the potential risks and benefits. By staying informed, setting clear guidelines, and maintaining open communication, parents can help their children navigate the digital world responsibly. Sources

April 16, 2025
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Why Gratitude Should Be Part of Your Child’s Daily Routine

Incorporating gratitude into a child’s daily routine is more than just teaching them to say “thank you.” It’s about fostering a mindset that recognises and appreciates the positives in life, leading to numerous psychological, social, and physical benefits. This article explores the importance of gratitude for children and offers practical strategies to weave this valuable practice into their everyday lives. The Significance of Gratitude in Child Development Gratitude is a complex emotion that involves recognising the good in one’s life and acknowledging that these blessings often come from external sources. For children, developing a sense of gratitude is pivotal for several reasons: The Neuroscience Behind Gratitude Gratitude isn’t just a feel-good emotion; it has tangible effects on the brain. Research indicates that practicing gratitude can enhance neural sensitivity in the medial prefrontal cortex, a brain region associated with learning and decision-making. This heightened sensitivity is linked to increased altruism and empathy, suggesting that grateful individuals are more attuned to the well-being of others. Vox Practical Ways to Incorporate Gratitude into Your Child’s Routine Overcoming Challenges in Teaching Gratitude Instilling gratitude in children may present challenges, especially in a culture that often emphasises materialism and instant gratification. Here are some strategies to address these obstacles: The Long-Term Impact of Gratitude Cultivating gratitude from a young age has lasting effects that extend into adulthood. Adults who practiced gratitude as children are more likely to experience: Conclusion Integrating gratitude into your child’s daily routine is a powerful tool for fostering a positive and fulfilling life. The benefits of gratitude are vast, impacting mental, emotional, and physical health. By implementing simple yet effective practices, you can help your child develop a grateful mindset that will serve them well throughout their lives. Sources

April 16, 2025
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How to Handle a Child Who’s a Picky Eater Without Stress

Navigating the challenges of a picky eater can be a significant source of stress for parents. Understanding the underlying causes of picky eating and implementing effective strategies can transform mealtime from a battleground into an enjoyable family experience. Understanding Picky Eating Picky eating is a common phase in child development, particularly between the ages of 2 and 4. This behaviour is often rooted in a natural protective instinct, where children become cautious about new foods as they gain mobility and independence. Recognising that picky eating is developmentally normal can alleviate parental concerns and guilt. chop.edu Strategies to Manage Picky Eating When to Seek Professional Help While picky eating is typically a normal phase, consult a paediatrician if your child’s eating habits result in nutritional deficiencies, significant weight loss, or interfere with daily functioning. A healthcare professional can assess for underlying issues and provide tailored guidance. Conclusion Managing a picky eater requires patience, consistency, and a positive approach. By implementing these strategies, parents can foster healthy eating habits and reduce mealtime stress, creating a harmonious dining experience for the whole family. Sources

April 15, 2025
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Why Kids Ask “Why?” All the Time – And How to Answer

Children’s incessant “why” questions are a hallmark of early development, reflecting their innate curiosity and desire to understand the world around them. This phase, often challenging for parents and caregivers, is crucial for cognitive growth and language development. The Purpose Behind the “Why” Questions Around the age of two or three, children enter a phase where they frequently ask “why.” This behaviour serves several developmental purposes: Encouraging this inquisitiveness is essential for fostering independent thinking and a lifelong love of learning. Strategies for Responding to “Why” Questions Responding effectively to a child’s “why” questions can nurture their curiosity and support their development: By embracing and thoughtfully responding to children’s “why” questions, parents and caregivers can play a pivotal role in their cognitive and linguistic development, setting the foundation for a curious and informed individual. Sources:

April 15, 2025
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The “Two Choices” Trick: A Simple Hack to Reduce Power Struggles

Navigating power struggles with children can be challenging for parents and caregivers. One effective strategy to mitigate these conflicts is the “Two Choices” technique, which offers children a sense of control within set boundaries. Understanding the “Two Choices” Technique The essence of the “Two Choices” technique lies in presenting children with two acceptable options, allowing them to exercise autonomy while ensuring that both outcomes are agreeable to the caregiver. This approach not only reduces resistance but also fosters decision-making skills. Example: By doing so, the child feels empowered, and the task is more likely to be completed without conflict. Benefits of Offering Choices Implementing the Technique Potential Challenges Some children may attempt to choose an option outside the provided choices or resist making a decision. In such cases: By consistently applying the “Two Choices” technique, caregivers can create a more harmonious environment, reduce power struggles, and promote the development of essential life skills in children. Sources:

April 14, 2025
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Making Every Moment Count: The Value of Quality Time with Children

Amid daily schedules filled with school, work, and commitments, carving out intentional, meaningful moments with children has become more valuable than ever. While the conversation often revolves around the quantity of time parents spend with their children, it is the quality of those moments that makes a lasting impact. “Children remember how they felt when they were with you – not just how long you were there,” says Ursula Assis, Country Director of Dibber International Preschools. “A single moment of true connection can shape a child’s emotional confidence and reinforce their sense of belonging.” Quality time is about focused, genuine interaction. It’s found in the bedtime story told with enthusiasm, the walk through a local park filled with questions and laughter, or the shared task of preparing a meal together. These small, deliberate acts create memories that build trust, encourage communication, and nurture a child’s emotional well-being. Why Quality Time Matters Spending quality time with children fosters: Ideas for Creating Meaningful Moments Dibber International Preschools encourages families to integrate purposeful time together into daily routines: “Children thrive in environments where love is shown through shared experiences, not just spoken words,” adds Assis. “By being fully present in these everyday moments, parents lay the foundation for emotional resilience and a secure sense of identity.” While extended time together is ideal, what truly matters is how time is spent. Even a few meaningful minutes can have a profound effect on a child’s development. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s presence. Dibber International Preschools believes that nurturing relationships at home complements the structured, play-based learning environment offered at school. Families are encouraged to focus on connection, not perfection, knowing that each intentional moment contributes to a joyful and well-rounded childhood. To learn more about Dibber’s child-focused approach to early learning, visit www.dibber.co.za/branches.

April 14, 2025
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