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The Benefits of Play

A commonly used phrase these days is: “Play is the work of children”. Some people may wonder how play can be classed as work when the two terms have totally different connotations. However, when it comes to children, play is the way that they learn and without play, their learning is compromised. Thus, just in the same way that we need to work, and study, and be mentored and develop greater proficiency in our roles at work, so too do children need to play to develop greater competency in life. The longer they engage in one play activity or theme, the more they develop the ability to concentrate for longer periods, and this is in fact a large reason why many children find it difficult to concentrate – they never have the opportunity to lose themselves in one thing – they often flit from one task to another or engage in passive tasks like watching TV. When they encounter challenges in their play, they have the chance to work through their frustrations and they have the opportunity to problem solve. When they set up and structure their own games and environment, they learn to plan and organise. When they invite someone else to play with them, they learn to communicate, take turns and compromise. When they concoct complicated stories, they develop their vocabulary and imagination, and will become better essay-writers when they are older. When they are able to act out difficult situations that have happened in real life, they are able to work through the feelings that they experienced in the situation. Not only does play improve their social and emotional skills, it can also improve their future scholastic performance. If their games involve climbing, swinging, swimming, rolling and jumping, their core muscle strength will improve, which will improve their endurance for sitting and working at a table. The more endurance and stability they have, the better their focus, and the better their fine motor skills. If they play with things like play-dough, sand, pegs, tongs and finger paint, it can help develop their fine motor skills. This in turn sets up a foundation for legible and efficient writing later. If they build puzzles and play with Lego and blocks, their spatial skills will develop, which will help with reading at a later stage. Play builds the foundational skills for academic learning, and this foundation allows children to feel skilled and competent, which leads to confidence when entering a formal learning environment. As we all know, a house with an unsteady and poorly-built foundation is not nearly as stable as one with a solidly-built foundation and this is just as true for our children. If they are not equipped for the expectations they are faced with as they get older, their self-esteem suffers, and many children nowadays suffer from anxiety.

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Avoid the Procrastination

Having a plan is always a good idea, however not everything goes according to plan, therefore considering the everchanging world we live in, adaptability becomes more important every day. The need for planning remains imperative to avoid procrastination, discourse and discouragement. The 6 steps below can provide guidance on creating a plan that suits your lifestyle: Step 1 – Organise your living/working space This will not only with assist with decluttering your space but also your mind. Having an organised space will motivate you to accomplish other tasks.  Step 2 – What needs to be done? Write down all the tasks you need to complete. At this stage the focus is the end game, what you want to achieve.  Priority of tasks, scheduling and resources needed to accomplish these tasks are not important at this stage.  Step 3 – Prioritise your tasks and resources Assign a deadline to completing each task, this will assist with prioritising your attention to what needs to be accomplished first.  Be aware of what resources are needed to accomplish these tasks efficiently and effectively. This will also assist with prioritising the completion of tasks.  Display your tasks as a reminder of what needs to be achieved.  Example: Matriculate Cum Laude Step 4 –  Set SMART goals Creating SMART goals will assist with achieving every goal set. Below is a framework of what should be included in a goal. Specific Don’t generalise what needs to be achieved, the more specific the task the easier it is to achieve. Measurable  How can a task be completed if there’s nothing to measure it against? Including a measurement aspect to a goal assists with knowing how much you’ve achieved. Attainable  Is this goal physically and mentally attainable? Do you have the capabilities to achieve this goal? Relevant The goal created needs to assist with achieving the ultimate task mentioned in step 2. Time Include a period as to when this goal needs to be completed. This assists with scheduling and integrating other tasks that must be achieved.  Write your goals down and display it as a reminder of the tasks ahead.  Example: To Achieve 90% in English every school term. Step 5 – How to achieve your goals? Create as many tactics that work together needed to achieve the set goal.  Example: Read over English work covered in class as homework.   Read over work that will be covered in the next class.  Step 6 – Visual schedule Create a visual schedule to look at as a reminder of what needs to be done and to tick off tasks to create a sense of accomplishment. Include free/leisure time into your schedule and ensure that enough time is planned to complete a task incase the “unpredictable” happens and you need to adapt your plan to suit these changes.  Technology has blessed us with applications that provide some of these steps however the act of writing your tasks down and displaying it in your working space can be more motivating to complete these desired tasks. It creates a greater sense of order and achievement.  Remember to always enjoy what you do as there is no point to doing something that creates stress and unhappiness. This however goes hand in hand with a good plan that balances your time fairly and realistically.  Written by: Abbotts Colleges

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KEEP PACIFIERS CLEAN WITH THE FANTASTIC LOVE RANGE OF NURSING ACCESSORIES

Chicco, global leaders in nursing care, bring trendy babies a funky new look for 2019 in the form of the Fantastic Love range of nursing gear. Available for a limited time only, the Fantastic Love range is a great start to nursing for young moms that not only have style and flair, but also care about the best quality items for her little one. One of the most important parts of soothing with your child is ensuring the basic hygiene of pacifiers.  Babies have a knack of dropping everything and it’s not uncommon to see moms dipping pacifiers in glasses of water whilst at a restaurant or even more common, having a cleansing suck on it herself before popping it back in baby’s mouth. With the Fantastic Love range of products, the unicorn pacifier holder provides an egg-shaped haven for the pacifier when baby has had enough.  Also, a pacifier clip can safely and conveniently clip the dummy onto the child’s clothes and keep it off the floor when they inevitably decide to spit it out. Both items come with gorgeous non-scratch, animated unicorn designs on them in either pink or blue and can be matched up with any of the other items in the Fantastic Love range. All products retail at R129 and are available at selected Pick ‘n Pay stores, www.takealot.com and other retailers.  Limited units in SA.

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Never do tomorrow what you can do today…

“Or is this always true?” asks many a procrastinator. Most children, especially teenagers have mastered the art of procrastinating – a big word for putting off everything that seems like work and rather spending time on electronic devices. According to Tim Pychyl, a Procrastinating Researcher at Carlton University, Ottawa, Canada, it is quite simple: People procrastinate to do tasks that they find aversive. Tasks are generally considered aversive if they are: Boring or mundane  Children will usually find tasks boring if it is below their level of skill or not challenging enough. Frustrating  A child with poor fine motor skills who for example have to lace small beads on a string will most probably resist. Difficult   Just as tasks should not be below a child’s level of skill, it should also not be too difficult. “Fear of Failure” is a powerful form of procrastination. “I will rather not start than show you that I cannot do it.” Not interesting or fall within their specific interests Children have different talents and we all like doing the things that we like and are good at. A child will happily prepare for the exams for a subject that they find interesting, but will avoid the subjects they don’t like.  Unstructured  This one is for the teachers and parents. Children thrive in structured environments where they feel secure. They are therefore more likely to complete tasks that are well structured. Having said all of this, we all know that unfortunately, some tasks just need to be done, whether you find them boring, too difficult or are not interested in them. Studying for exams comes to mind… Don’t despair. Here’s a few tips that you can use to help your children (and yourselves) to “grab the bull by the horns” and get it done. 1. Just start  The most important thing is to start. No wonder Nike chose ‘just do it’ as their payoff line. A child that is not willing to start studying will do anything to delay the start, from cleaning their own rooms to sharpening pencils …  A good rule to help your child start is to select the task that takes the least time to complete. If your child for instance has to write an essay on Global Warming (boring!) and have ten math sums to complete, rather start with the math. Completing a task gives a sense of achievement.  “When you start entertaining thoughts such as: ‘I’ll feel more like doing this tomorrow,’ ‘I work better under pressure,’ ‘There’s lots of time left,’ I can do this in a few hours tonight’, let that be a flag or signal or stimulus to indicate that you are about to needlessly delay the task, and let it also be the stimulus to just get started.”  David Allen “Getting things done: The Art of Stress-free Productivity” 2. Turn a boring task into a little competition or game Practising mental math, for example, can be boring for someone who only likes to do problem solving.  Compete against your child to make it fun. For example: How many times tables sums can be done correctly in two minutes? 3. Break challenging tasks into smaller chunks That essay on Global Warming is quite challenging as it involves research, drafts, searching for images, actually writing or typing it and making a list of references.  If you break this one task into five more doable tasks, it will not seem that daunting. For this method to be successful though, you have to start in advance and then complete only one or two of these tasks per day. 4. Make a “To-Do” list Ticking off a task that has been completed gives an enormous sense of achievement.  With exams approaching, the “To-Do” list will be the study schedule, with small tasks for every day, that can be ticked off.  5. Remove all distractions Nothing distracts from a task at hand as interruptions. We are all guilty – checking the phone every time it peeps, constantly checking new emails, having the TV on in the background and the list goes on … Allow breaks after every 20 minutes for “distractions”, but be careful to break for too long. After a ten-minute break the enormity of the task at hand will return and the vicious cycle of procrastination will start again. It is true that some of us work better under pressure (i.e. an excuse for procrastination), but if a child understands the value of tackling tasks head-on early in their lives, they will be saved from many stressful hours meeting deadlines later in life. So, before you put off another task – remember what Anthony Robbins said: “The only impossible journey is the one you never begin.” Information adapted from: http://alifeofproductivity.com/why-you-procrastinate-10-tactics-to-help-you-stop/

Impaq

Mother tongue education matters

Your husband is transferred to a small town and you have some difficult choices to make – one of which is where your children will be going to school. Your eldest is in Grade 1 and your youngest in Grade R. There are two schools in town. You head to the first school – it is your first choice as it offers education in your native language. When you arrive, there is no-one in sight. You eventually find someone to show you around. The school is neglected… The classrooms don’t have tables or chairs, the paint is peeling, and the gardens haven’t been tended in some time.  There are more than 40 children per class, you are told, and they sit on the floor. It’s definitely not what you had in mind for your children. You greet politely and leave, hoping that the other school will be better.  Upon your arrival you are greeted warmly. Everything is neat and tidy, the buildings and gardens are well maintained, and everyone you pass is friendly. This is exactly what you had in mind! There’s just one problem… the language of tuition.  After careful consideration you decide that, as your children are still young, they should have no trouble learning a new language. But things turn out to be harder than you anticipated. As parent you can still handle the phonetics and grammar, but trying to understand Maths in another language is a nightmare, not to mention Life Skills!    Your children often tell you that they don’t understand the teacher and you realise that, if you continue on this path, they may be held back. The worst part is that you can’t really help them with their schoolwork. You consider your children to be quite smart, but both fail their first term.  Native language teaching In South Africa, there is a struggle over schools that want to protect their native language. This is understandable. After all, children’s best chance at a successful education is being taught in their mother tongue. It is what they know and are comfortable with.    Unfortunately, many children are disadvantaged – and end up failing – when they are educated in a different language. While schools are increasingly offering a variety of languages in the Foundation Phase, the main languages of instruction from Grade 4 to 12 remain English and Afrikaans.  The development of all the official languages of South Africa is one of the most important factors in ensuring all children having a fair and equal chance at educational success.  By Hilda Erasmus, Foundation Phase specialist

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Puzzles are important for early childhood development

We all know that there is a lot of research on how puzzles help young minds develop. When your child is alone with a simple puzzle from an early age the following basic skills are being built: Physical skills – from holding the puzzle pieces to turning them until they fit  Cognitive skills as this a problem solving exercise Emotional skills as puzzles teach patience and reward after completion  We have found the Oops Range of puzzles to be an absolute must for all our readers. Old school wooden puzzles really are easier for young child to grasp and best of all, you are able to keep them clean.  The Oops Range of puzzles play an important role in the development of spatial awareness which proves to be beneficials once your little one heads off to school. Would you believe that by introducing puzzles to your little one that this provides over all better muscle-growth and provides a full brain workout for your child. The reason for this is that puzzles force your little one’s brain to work on both sides thus increasing their cognitive function. The Oops Range of puzzles are also cut at different thicknesses therefore helping your child to start understanding proportion.  The Oops Build a House comprises of 20 pieces and is suitable for 12 months and up.  This range is available from Takealot, Loot and selected Kids Emporium Stores

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10 THINGS YOU NEVER KNEW ABOUT STAR WARS RESISTANCE

Want the inside scoop on Disney’s stellar new animated series, Star Wars Resistance? Look no further! Here are our top 10 intergalactic facts on the high-flying space adventure…  STAR WARS SECRET NUMBER ONE…  THE CREATOR’S HIGH-FLYING FAMILY HISTORY INSPIRED THE SHOW! “The idea for Star Wars Resistance came out of my interest in World War II aircraft and fighter pilots,” reveals the show’s creator, Dave Filoni. “My grandfather was a pilot and my uncle flew and restored planes, so that’s been a big influence on me. There’s a long history of high-speed racing in Star Wars, and I think we’ve captured that sense of excitement in an anime-inspired style, which is something the entire team has been wanting to do for a long time.” STAR WARS SECRET NUMBER TWO…  THE STORY OF THE NEW SERIES TAKES PLACE BEFORE THE FORCE AWAKENS!  Iconic characters from the Star Wars universe appear in the ace new animation, including fan-favourites such as Captain Phasma, General Leia Organa, Poe Dameron and BB-8. Executive producer Athena Portillo explains: “Because this story takes place six months prior to The Force Awakens, it makes sense to see some of the characters people know and love. That’s why we’ve included Leia, Poe, Phasma and BB-8. In Star Wars Resistance, we’re talking about the rise of the Resistance and the rise of the First Order, so it’s important to bring these characters into the story.” STAR WARS SECRET NUMBER THREE…  THERE ARE PLANS TO INCLUDE MORE ICONIC STAR WARS CHARACTERS!  The executive producers remain tight-lipped about the names of any other legacy characters scheduled to appear in the animated series – but it’s definitely a possibility that fans will see more. “There’s always potential for more, but we don’t want to spoil any surprises,” admits executive producer and head writer, Brandon Auman. “We want people to come back and watch Star Wars Resistance, so there will be lots of surprises – but we won’t spoil the fun. You’ll definitely see lots of cool elements in the show.” STAR WARS SECRET NUMBER FOUR…  THERE WILL BE LOTS OF NEW ALIENS AND WORLDS IN STAR WARS RESISTANCE! “It’s really cool to bring characters into the story that already exist, but it’s lots more fun to create new worlds, new aliens and new heroes,” reveals Brandon Auman. “That’s the most fun aspect of creating a new show like this. We get to create all these new pieces of the galaxy, and they can all spin off into other media. Hopefully, we’ll see them again in other novels and other movies!”  STAR WARS SECRET NUMBER FIVE…  IT’S A TEAM EFFORT TO COME UP WITH THE CHARACTER NAMES! “It’s a mammoth effort to come up with the names of the new characters,” explains Athena Portillo. “I think Dave Filoni already had a couple of names in his head when we started work on the project, but it was a group effort to come up with the rest. I remember creating a list of everybody’s thoughts on what these characters should be called. It was huge! People from Disney and Lucasfilm would send over their top five selections, or their top three, and we’d eventually decide on one.”  STAR WARS SECRET NUMBER SIX…  SOME OF THE NAMES HAVE CHANGED ALONG THE WAY! Tons of animated action of Star Wars Resistance takes place on a refueling station called Colossus, but the iconic new location didn’t always have the same name. “It took us a really long time to come up with the name of Colossus,” recalls Brandon Auman. “Originally, it was just called The Platform – but we knew we wanted to come up with something better than that. Every once in a while, someone will still refer to it as The Platform or The Station – but it wasn’t until deep into season one that we finally landed on Colossus.”   STAR WARS SECRET NUMBER SEVEN…  THE BACK-STORIES OF THE CHARACTERS WILL SOON BE REVEALED IN THE SHOW!  Keep your eyes peeled for secret hints to the characters’ back-stories in Star Wars Resistance. “As the series moves forward, you get more insight into the main characters,” reveals executive producer and supervising director, Justin Ridge. “More and more information is uncovered as we go along, so you’ll soon start to see the core of who they are and their motivations. You’ll also see how these factors impact their decisions and their relationships with other characters. We reveal who they are, why they’re there and what they’re doing, which ultimately affects the larger storyline, too.”  STAR WARS SECRET NUMBER EIGHT…  THE SHOW EXPLORES NEW AREAS OF THE GALAXY! Most of the story of Star Wars Resistance takes place on a water planet called Castilon, which is a brand new addition to the Star Wars universe. “It’s a whole new world, which is really cool,” explains Brandon Auman. “However, we’re not always on the water planet. We do go off and see other places to get a glimpse of what else is out there, especially in the Outer Rim. It’s exciting to see more and more of the galaxy uncovered.”  STAR WARS SECRET NUMBER NINE…  TAM RYVORA WAS THE FIRST NEW CHARACTER CREATED FOR THE SHOW! The first new character designed in the eye-catching cartoon style of Star Wars Resistance was Tam Ryvora; a hotshot mechanic at the heart of the story. “There was a lot of exploration when we were coming up with the design of the new characters in the show,” reveals Justin Ridge. “It takes a lot of time to create something from scratch, but Tam was the first.”  STAR WARS SECRET NUMBER TEN…  IT TAKES UP TO A YEAR TO CREATE EACH EPISODE OF THE ANIMATED ADVENTURE! The creation of a new Star Wars series is no easy feat. “From start to finish, it takes about a year to create an episode,” admits Brandon Auman. “That’s how long it takes from the very first writers’ conference – where we discuss stories ideas – through to post production.

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To honour the one who raised you is a gift

This year, Mother’s Day falls on Sunday, 12 May. Mother’s Day is an opportunity to give the person who raised you and played the role of mother in your life something nice to uplift their spirits. It’s a day to honour a nurturer who raised you, your children, or other children in the community with a meaningful gift. It is never too early to get a Mother’s Day gift; thoughtful gifts make the rest of the week all the more enjoyable for the recipient. Mothers have great influence in society and in the absence of our biological mothers, we find that our guardians, aunts, grandmothers, sisters and sometimes brothers end up playing the role of mother in our lives. These non-biological mothers also deserve to be celebrated on Mother’s Day and that is why NetFlorist has dedicated Mother’s Day 2019 to thanking all the people who raise children, nurture others, and take people under their wing. Apart from Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day is NetFlorist’s biggest occasion of the year. All mothers should be acknowledged and thanked often, but especially on Mother’s Day! The online florist and flower delivery site is getting ready to help South Africans from all walks of life celebrate mothers.  Every year, there are thousands of Mother’s Day gifts sent by friends, family, and partners to brand new moms whose children are a little too young to send gifts. Mother’s Day is a time to honour all the women in your life who have supported and nurtured you, so while you’re choosing the perfect gift for your own mom, don’t forget about your grandmother, mother-in-law, and all the other influential women in your life.  Mom’s don’t always have a wishlist of what they want for Mother’s Day, luckily NetFlorist created gifts to suit all kinds of moms, from the working mom, the perfectionist mother, home-schooling mom, the unpredictable mom, to the best friend mom, the sister-mom, the brother-mom and the gogo-mom. 

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5 Key Tips For All Moms Who Need To Practice Pumping On the Go

5 Key Tips For All Moms Who Need To Practice Pumping On the Go If you are a busy lady (and let’s admit it, in the 21st century who of us aren’t!) and need to practice pumping on the go, all you need to do is follow these five simple tips. For whatever reason, you may not always be able to express in your place of comfort. Whilst you may feel most at ease on your couch or in the confines of your own home, this isn’t always possible. Therefore, here is a quick guide to how to handle pumping on the go! #1: Get Yourself and Electronic Breast Pump Which Is Portable  The last thing you need is a cumbersome pump with multiple pieces and the need for a plug point. If you travel frequently, finding yourself a compact pump with a rechargeable battery is key. The Medela Mini Electric is perfect for these situations. It is light weight and small enough to fit into a hand bag. #2: Privacy Is Key Even though breastfeeding is a natural, beautiful thing, some moms feel more at ease in a secluded pumping area. If you need to pump in your office, have a chat with your employer before hand and arrange a private room with a door which closes dedicated to you. If you’re out and about, and find yourself in a pinch, a place such as a family change room is great. Another thing to look out for internationally are breastfeeding pods. Many international airports and malls are beginning to place pods for moms to be able to feed their babies/ express. #3 Find Something TO Stimulate Your Senses Let’s be honest. Pumping away from your usual place of comfort can be difficult at first. Therefore, you may need to find a stimulant to encourage your let down. Pictures of their baby have been found to help a mom with this quite easily. Keep a blanket which smells like them, or better yet, record videos of your baby to have their cries and coos encourage your let down! #4: Keep Cleaning Products At Hand You will need to ensure that you have things such as disposable nursing pads, cleaning wipes and even possible a pumping bra available to streamline this process. Anything that will help you during and after your pump is essential for pumping on the go. #5: Make A Plan To Store your Milk After If you will be pumping away from your home, you need to make a plan to store your milk. Firstly, have the right storage materials on hand. Something like a portable milk bottle or the Medela milk storage bags would be ideal in this situation. Be sure that you will have access to a fridge, as well as a cooler bag to transport your milk when you leave your destination.

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UNIVERSITY OPEN DAYS: LOOK BEYOND BANNERS & BALLOONS TO MAKE THE BEST CHOICE

In coming weeks, public universities and private institutions across South Africa will host a series of Open Days – events meant to showcase their offering to prospective students from the Matric Class of 2019. An education expert says it is essential that learners intending to study next year attend as many Open Days as possible to ensure they make an informed study choice, but more than that, they need to go with a strategy in hand to ensure they look beneath the surface to understand what their likely experience may be at a particular institution or campus. “This is a very exciting time for Matrics, who for the first time will be able to get some real-life insights about life on campus and what their future might be like in coming years after school,” says Wonga Ntshinga, Senior Head of Programme: Faculty of ICT at The Independent Institute of Education, SA’s largest and most accredited private higher education institution. “So we advise Grade 12s to determine without delay when various institutions will be hosting Open Days – an online search will suffice – and then make the effort to attend as many as possible.” Ntshinga says there are many benefits to attending an open day, including 1) to get greater clarity on an institution’s offering 2) to visit different faculties at an institution 3) to speak to representatives of the institution who will be able to help you determine which qualification is a good fit if you are still uncertain 4) to get a feeling of life on a specific campus and 5) to weigh up the offering – academic and otherwise – of different institutions. But he says there is one thing that prospective students must remember when attending Open Days, and that is to keep a level head and not get too starry-eyed by the fanfare of the day. “Open Days are the perfect opportunity to get first-hand experience of a campus and its students, staff and academics. But the first rule of Open Day is to remember that Open Day might not be representative of every other day. Universities put their best foot forward to impress and attract future students, but you have to be savvy and ask the right questions, as well as make the observations that will help you with this major decision.” Ntshinga says prospective students should spend enough time on a campus to get a good look around, and listen to their gut feel while doing so. “Look at the campus grounds, visit the library and the IT lab, note the condition of sports facilities, lecture rooms and even the toilets. If, for instance, an institution’s restrooms are questionable on an Open Day, chances are that they will be the same or worse during the rest of the year. “If lecture rooms and the general environment look tired, dilapidated and unkept on this day, it is unlikely they will look better any other day of the year.” If you get a good feeling about what you observe on campus, the Open Day then presents an opportunity to ask the important questions of university representatives, to gauge whether your degree will help you make a smooth transition to the workplace post-graduation, Ntshinga says. To make that determination, learners should ask the following: 1)    WORK-READINESS: How much practical, work-integrated experience is incorporated into the curriculum? Any good institution, whether public university or private, must have adequate practical learning integrated into the curriculum, and not focus purely on academics. 2)    INDUSTRY-RELEVANCE: Is there close cooperation between the faculty and lecturers, and is current industry practice reflected in the curriculum? Employers look for graduates who they know will be able to make a contribution from the first day on the job, which is why they recruit at those institutions that best prepare students for the real world of work. 3)    STUDENT SUPPORT: What can you expect in terms of support – administratively, academically and post-qualification? Good institutions will have excellent student support from before you sign up until after you graduate, and this support can make a real difference in your higher education experience as well as your career. “Doing your groundwork in the coming month, by identifying and attending Open Days at institutions you’ve been considering, as well as others you may not yet have considered but which  may well turn out to be the right fit, will make a huge contribution to your ability to evaluate your options properly,” Ntshinga says. “Additionally, you may be exposed to opportunities and qualifications you have not considered before, and which may resonate with you. Open Days are essential to making the best choice for your aspirations and provide insights that desktop research rarely does, so make the best of this limited window of opportunity.”

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CHICCO PRESENT THE FANTASTIC LOVE NURSING RANGE

Chicco, the 360 degree approach to all things baby, was recently taken over by Prima Baby and launched on a larger scale into South Africa. With that, comes a whole new exciting range of products that are accessible for every moment and milestone of your child’s first years. Introducing Fantastic Love – a fun approach to nursing from newborn and up that brings the fantastic to life through ponies, pandas and unicorns. Unique, top quality products with gorgeous designs will now be available for a limited time only. Perfect for baby showers, baby gifting and just for that mom who wants to spoil their little one. Included in the range are: Physio Soft pacifiers that each come with their own unique clear case with a soft satin heart on it, either in pink or blue.   Well-being Feeding bottles in 150, 250 or 330ml, all with gorgeous designs of ponies, pandas or unicorns on them (non-scratch).  All available in either pink or blue. Soother holders – compact and handy little soother holders that keep baby’s dummy clean and safe when traveling – also available in pink or blue. Pacifier clips – in small unicorn shapes.  Keep baby’s soother attached to their clothes with this cute little convenient accessory. Teethers – a yummy gummy soother in a unicorn shape, these pink or blue teethers will be your child’s best friend through tough teething times. All products retail at R129 and are available at selected Pick ‘n Pay stores, www.takealot.com and other retailers.  Limited units in SA.

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Helping your child prepare for exams

Start early, make a schedule, get enough exercise (and sleep!) and review past papers. These are all great tips to prepare your child for writing exams. But sadly these are most of the time only applicable in theory. As a mother of two sport-crazy boys, I’ve learnt that preparing your children for exams and assessments require far more. Because writing exams are by default stressful, I’ve decided to share a few techniques and great apps to help you and your kids study smarter and to take the stress out of writing exams.  Many studies have proven that, especially for younger children, formal assessments are stressful and the results are not necessarily a fair reflection of the child’s understanding of the work. While starting early and drafting exam schedules sound like great techniques, in reality it can become quite tricky to implement with young, not-so-eager-to-study kids who would rather play xBox, sport or even clean their rooms than actually sit and study. So let’s make it more practical: How should a child actually study? If this is your child’s first exam, he or she will need guidance, but sometimes an older child, who has written many exams, may benefit from a new approach.  These are some ideas to make studying easier for you and your child. Encourage your children to use as many of their senses as possible when studying to ensure maximum retention: Read through all the pages allocated for that day’s studying – preferably out loud. If you child is an auditory learner, let him or her record themselves while reading the text. This exercise of reading with meaning is crucial as it helps to give a bigger picture of the topic that has to be studied. Not all children study with notes, but it is definitely advisable to encourage your child to make notes in some form or another. Some children make lists, some make mind maps, some may write down only key words. Children making notes for the first time will need help as they tend to write down everything at first. Something that I found worked very well is helping your first-time-note-maker by writing simple questions which they then must answer by searching for answers in the text. These questions and answers can then be used as notes to study from. Just beware of the ‘perfect-notes’ trap. Do not spend so much time making perfect notes that there is no time left to actually study the notes!  Allow your child enough time to memorise and understand the notes just made. It should take an average Grade 4 child about 30-45 minutes to memorise one page of notes (which should represent about 3 to 4 pages in their books). Break this into two 20/25 min sessions with a 10 min break in between. Test retention immediately, if possible. Up to Grade 7 your child will definitely benefit if you are available to take a few minutes after a day of studying to check if they have retained the information studied. This will give you an indication if the study time was spent productively or not, and also if the study load (as set out in the schedule) is too little or too much for your child. The day before the exam, study only from the notes or listen to the recordings of your notes. Then do a past paper or mock exam paper to highlight any areas that still need attention. Super study schedules A schedule is an important part of exam preparation as it gives you a complete overview of exactly what needs to be done and how much time you have left. A schedule also give you a sense of accomplishments when you are able to draw a line through a day and know that you have achieved your goal. Your help will be needed with compiling the schedule, maybe even for your older child. Planning is an advanced skill that some children only learn a lot later in life. A few tips and ideas on schedules: Start by studying the subjects first that you write last in the exam. Effectively this means that at least your child would have gone over the work he or she writes at the end of the exam, when they would not be that eager to study anymore. Schedule time to makes notes and to study the notes. It is advisable to only make the notes for the topic or pages allocated for that day and then to study those notes. If possible, break each subject into topics and study a topic in a session. This will give a more coherent picture and understanding of the work. Do not over-estimate your child’s ability to study a lot of work in a short period. Rather allow for more time and more breaks than you think are necessary. Remember that normal school activities like sport and cultural activities will continue and should be factored into the schedule. The schedule should be updated and amended when necessary. The schedule should end two days before the exams start. The day before, only the subject/s written the next day should be revised. Download these brilliant apps to help you set up a schedule: My Study Life  This app provides a complete schedule and calendar solution and has a separate section where exams can be scheduled. It is relatively easy to use and reminders can be activated or de-activated for classes, exams or tasks. 30/30 30/30 allows you to set timers to complete specific tasks. The interface is sharp and innovative, allowing users to control the app easily with swipes and gestures. 30/30 Can also give you a better understanding of how long it really takes to do certain things. This is less of an exam planner and more of a timer that ensures you do not spend more time than planned on a specific task. myHomework myHomework is simple, reliable and works even without an Internet connection. Like the other apps, you can set tasks

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What to do if you’re child is the bully

Bullying at school is common and the source of much misery and discomfort for many students and their parents in turn. The effects can be long lasting for the victim’s health and wellbeing, sometimes even having fatal consequences. Teachers are trained to help combat this anti-social behaviour and parents as well as students have access to many outside support structures that give guidance on how to overcome the effects of bullying.   Parents, often, only see their child as a possible victim and therefore, guide their child on how to avoid being bullied. It is rare for parents to consider that their child might be the bully. This is understandable; after all, acknowledging that your child is a bully, is possibly an indictment on you as a parent. Sadly, we are well aware that bullying at schools is rife; someone is doing it. Frighteningly, it could very well be your child. One should recognise and acknowledge this possibility and remedy such behaviour patterns immediately. Your child could see denying the occurrence or ignoring the problem as acceptance of this anti-social behaviour. The long-term consequences of being a bully are scary. Bullies are prone to mental illness later in life. They continue to be aggressive and even violent. According to stopbullying.govbullying is a risk factor for depression and thinking about suicide. Children who bully others, are bullied, or both bully and are bullied are more likely to think about or attempt suicide than those who are not involved in bullying at all. Therefore, if you notice some of the following signs, it is time to step in and get help for your child as mentioned by Sheeri Gordon on Tips for addressing bullying by your child(2019): Your child is often in the company of other bullies Your child is constantly criticising and insulting other children to the extent that they feel belittled and offended Your child is regularly violating the school’s code of conduct and in trouble at school  Your child actively invites kids over but turns down a couple that used to be included Your child is obsessed with being popular Your child is aggressive physically and/or verbally Your child is uncompassionate and has no concern for those that suffer  Your child avoids you and spends too much time alone at home Address the bullying without delay; don’t hope that it will stop. Your child must know that you explicitly disapprove of the behaviour and that they will be disciplined. It must be clearly understood that bullying is inexcusable. However, the appropriate disciplinary measures can only be taken if you know why your child is bullying someone else. Identify the reasons, for example, your child may be bullying others because they want to be part of a popular group. You should address the importance of keeping the right company and not succumbing to peer pressure. Remember to let the punishment fit the crime. A knee jerk reaction is likely to make matters worse.   Taking away privileges is a tried and tested form of discipline for teens and is very effective. For example, you can take away electronics, watching TV and the privilege of attending parties or special events. The list is endless. Ensure that that you don’t give in at any point and stick to the length of time that the privilege will be revoked.  Collaborate with the school and show full support for the school’s code of conduct.  Don’t attempt to rescue them from the consequences of their actions. Once this is done, your child will expect that you will always do so and will not take responsibility for their actions.  Determine the details of your child’s bullying behaviour. Are there skills your child is lacking that may prevent future bullying incidents like anger management and impulse control? Seek professional assistance if required. Don’t dispel the value of a session or two with a psychologist if need be. Avoid humiliating or shaming your child, especially not in front of anyone else. Letting family members and friends know about what is going on, will not help. In fact, it could prove only to worsen the behaviour. Keep it private and the solution will be more easily achieved. Remember, praise may be public; but punishment, always private. Talk about the consequences of bullying; be sure your child takes the time to really think about how he would feel if he was on the receiving end. When children learn to see things from a different viewpoint, they are less likely to bully again. Raising your child’s emotional intelligence and instilling empathy will go a long way in preventing bullying. So consider carefully, your own actions and utterances as a parent; children most often, unwittingly emulate their parents.  When bullying is identified early and addressed appropriately, it usually won’t happen again. However, don’t automatically assume that this is the case. Instead, monitor your child’s conduct and continue to discipline him if necessary. If given the right skill set, most children who bully others can change. Stopping your child from bullying others can take some time, it’s not an overnight solution. Written by: Sedhoorajan Padayachee, Principal at Abbotts College Northcliff

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There’s Always More Than Meets the Eye with New Transformers BotBots

Not long ago, and somewhere close by, a glowing mist filled with Transformers power called ENERGON came down from the sky and covered a shopping mall. The objects inside were brought to life as little Transformers robots. These bots can hide in plain sight as everyday objects, meaning no one knows what a bot is and what’s not! Mischievous, funny, and super silly, say hello to new Transformers BotBots!   Hidden BotBots characters are little mystery figures with big personalities!  2-in-1 Collectable BotBots charactersare around 2-cm tall and have two fun modes converting from totally normal items you’d find in a shopping mall – like a backpack, football or a doughnut – to adventurous little robots. BotBots convert between modes in three to five simple steps and have movable parts to imagine fun stories and adventures. Each bot belongs to a themed team based on the type of store they belong in. Meet the Backpack Bunch, Sugar Shocks, Techie Team, Jock Squad, Greaser Gang, Shed Heads, Toilet Troop, and Lost Bots.  Enjoy an exciting unboxing surprise with the BotBots mystery blind bag – pop them out to see what’s inside.  BotBots are also available in a five-pack assortment.   Look for all the BotBots Series 1 assortments (each sold separately, subject to availability) and start building your BotBots collection!  There are over 190 BotBots to collect in 2019 – these sharable, swappable, tradable BotBots are great fun for everyone.  Find hidden BotBots at Checkers, Toy Adventures, Toy Kingdom, Toys R Us, Toy Zone and Takealot.com    @TransformersSouthAfrica   #FindTheBots Meet the Transformers BotBots: Greaser Gang is a team of greased up and chilled out rulers of the food court who put the fast in fast food.  Series one Greaser Gang characters include Shredder Jack, Duderoni, S’up dawg, Spud Muffin, Angry Cheese, Hawt Diggity, Fottle Barts, and Twerple Burple Jock Squad is crew of super sporty bots who love to win and are always ready to gear up and get their game faces on. Series one Jock Squad characters include Laceface, Batsby, Kidd Klobber, Pucksie, Fitness Monster, and Arctic Guzzlerush.  Techie Team is a cutting-edge crew of got-to-have-it phones, gadgets, electronics, and gamer gear. Series one Techie Team characters include: Screen Fiend, Chilla Gorilla, Skillz Punk, S.A. Cheez, Raddhax, Fomo, Goob Toob, and Dr. Moggly Toilet Troop is a clean-up platoon of bathroom defenders who take care of business by cleaning the bathroom and beyond. Series one Toilet Troop characters include: Sergeant Scrubadub, King Toots, Sudsbeard, Nobeeoh, Stinkosaurus Rex, Poo Sham, and Frohawk. Sugar Shocks are a squad of sweet treats who share their own unique sugar rush and kick things into overdrive. Series one Sugar Shocks characters include Sippy Slurps, The Plop Father, Waddlepop, Lolly Licks, Remorsel, Sprinkleberry D’uhnut, Unilla Icequeencone, Cocoa Crazy, and Nrjeez. Also discover the Backpack Bunch, Shed Heads and Lost Bots with even more exciting characters to find.   Download the BotBots series one collectors guide and start collecting! Transformers and all related characters are trademarks of Hasbro.

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DISNEY CHANNEL MAY 2019 PROGRAMMING HIGHLIGHTS

KIM POSSIBLE – THE MOVIE Disney Channel Original Movie premiere Friday 3rd May at 16:00 Kim Possible is back! May sees the premiere of a great new Disney Channel Original Movie, based on the much-loved animated series, which is airing on Friday 3rd May at 16:00.  In this comedic action-adventure, a live-action transformation of the original series, newcomer Sadie Stanley stars as the iconic teen hero, Kim Possible, along with Sean Giambrone (ABC’s The Goldbergs) as her best friend and sidekick, Ron Stoppable. The friends embark on their freshman year at high school, while also saving the world from evil villains. DCOM Kim Possible – The Movie premieres on Friday 3rd April at 16:00 on Disney Channel PENNY ON M.A.R.S Season two premiere episodes Weekdays from 6th to 17th May 2019 at 15:35 Penny on M.A.R.S returns to Disney Channel this month, with the launch of season two on weekdays from Monday 6th to Friday 17th May, at 15:35.  Penny is the 16 year old secret daughter of a famous female pop star. She auditioned for a prestigious performing arts school with her best friend Camilla, who knows her secret. They were both accepted, and looked forward to a new life. But things got complicated when they both fell for the same boy. In the season two launch episode, entitled A New Friend (Monday 6th May at 15:35), Seb has just found out the truth about Bakia and the stolen song, and he doesn’t want to see Penny any more.  Premiere episodes of Penny on M.A.R.S. season two air on weekdays from Monday 6th to Friday 17th May, at 15:35, on Disney Channel. MIRACULOUS TALES OF LADYBUG AND CAT NOIR Premiere special Friday 3rd May at 15:10 Fans of Miraculous Tales of Ladybug and Cat Noir have a special treat in store this May – a double episode length special entitled Heroes’ Day. (Friday 3rd May at 15:10) It’s Heroes’ Day in Paris and everyone must do a good deed. But Marinette hasn’t had time to take care of hers, overwhelmed by her missions as Ladybug – and the nightmare is just beginning. Hawk Moth puts the plan he’s been preparing for so long into action by re-akumatizing all his former villains! To face them, Ladybug and Cat Noir end up at the head of a team of superheroes. Will they manage to defeat the incredible army of super-villains? Or will Heroes’ Day become Villains’ Day? Miraculous Tales of Ladybug and Cat Noir: Heroes’ Day premieres on Friday 3rd May at 15:10 on Disney Channel. RAPUNZEL’S TANGLED ADVENTURES Premiere episodes  Weekdays from Monday 20th May to 6th June at 06:25 Rapunzel is back! May sees further premiere episodes from the second season of Rapunzel’s Tangled Adventures, on weekdays from Monday 20th May to 6th June at 06:25. Mandy Moore and Zachary Levi reprise their roles as Rapunzel and Eugene (Flynn Rider) in the fun-filled animated series based on the hit Disney movie and the famous fairy tale. In the episode entitled The Brothers Hook (Tuesday 28th May at 06:25) Rapunzel tries to lift everyone’s spirits by taking them to see Hook Hand in concert, but the reunion of the Hook Brothers brings up bad memories for Hook Foot. Premiere episodes of Rapunzel’s Tangled Adventures air on weekdays from Monday 20th May to 6th June at 06:25 on Disney Channel. BUG JUICE: MY ADVENTURES AT CAMP Series premiere episodes Weekdays from 27th May to 7th June at 17:15 Disney Channel’s brand new series Bug Juice: My Adventures at Camp launches this month, with premiere episodes from 27th May to 7th June at 17:15. Follow a group of kids at summer camp as they experience life away from home, make new friends, learn new activities from archery to drama, and create memories. In the episode entitled Tacos For Breakfast (Wednesday 29th May at 17:15) Opposite Day turns Wazi on its head! The kids eat dinner for breakfast and get filthy in a food fight. P4 gives Guido a makeover that causes him to miss the boys. Premiere episodes of new series Bug Juice: My Adventures at Camp air from 27th May to 7th June at 17:15 on Disney Channel.

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DISNEY JUNIOR MAY 2019 PROGRAMMING HIGHLIGHTS

P. J. MASKS                                                         Premiere short episodes                                                                Weekdays until Friday 3rd May at 16:25 PJ Masks is one of the most popular shows on Disney Junior, so fans will be delighted to hear that premiere short episodes will air in May on weekdays until Friday 3rd May at 16:25.  In the first of these episodes, entitled Space Race (Wednesday 1st May at 16:25), when Luna Girl steals a Moon Crystal from the PJ Masks, the race is on to get it back! Premiere P.J. Masks shorts will air in May on weekdays until Friday 3rd May at 16:25 on Disney Junior.  MUPPET BABIES                                   Premiere episodes                                                    Weekdays until Friday 10th May at 10:00 The Muppet Babies continue their adventures on Disney Junior this month, with premiere episodes until Friday 10th May at 10:00. The youngsters have fun solving problems in their imagination from the safety of their nursery. Premiere episodes air on weekdays until Friday 10th May 29th at 10:00. In the episode Card Shark (Thursday 2nd May at 10:00) after Piggy keeps cheating at a board game, Rizzo gives her a run for her money. Premiere episodes of Muppet Babies air on weekdays until Friday 10th May at 10:00 on Disney Junior. GIGANTOSAURUS                                  Premiere episodes                                                                  Weekdays until 17th  May at 16:00 Disney Junior’s brand new series, Gigantosaurus, launched last month, and continues this month with premiere episodes on weekdays until 17th May at 16:00.    In this great new show four curious young dinosaur friends explore the mystery of Gigantosaurus, the largest, fiercest dinosaur of all, as they face their individual fears and work together to solve problems. In the premiere episode entitled The Island/Don’t Cave In (Wednesday 1st May at 16:00) timid Bill and brave Rocky end up stranded on an island, however Rocky suddenly becomes the scared one! Then Trey warns the little dinos about a cave monster named Shriekasaurus. Premiere episodes of Gigantosaurus air on weekdays until 17th May at 16:00 on Disney Junior.  CLAUDE                                                      Premiere episodes                                                                    Weekdays Monday 6th to Friday 24th May at 13:00 Beret-clad dog Claude returns to Disney Junior this month, with further escapades in the seaside resort of Pawhaven, on weekdays from Monday 6th to Friday 24th May at 13:00. In the episode entitled Welcome to Pawhaven/Home (not quite) Alone (Monday 6th May at 13:00) Claude interrupts the making of Pawhaven’s tourist video. Claude and Sir Bobblysock deal with a squatting squirrel.The voice cast for this show includes Simon Callow, Jane Horrocks, Shane Richie and Su Pollard. Premiere episodes of Claude air on weekdays from Monday 6th to Friday 24th May at 13:00. VAMPIRINA                                                  Season premiere episodes                                                                Monday 27th to Friday 31st May at 17:30 Season two of Vampirina swoops onto Disney Junior this month, with premiere episodes from Monday 27th to Friday 31st May at 17:30. In the season launch episode, entitled Franken-Wedding (Monday 27th May at 17:30) Vee has the most important job at Frankenstein and the Bride of Frankenstein’s wedding!  Premiere episodes from season two of Vampirina air on weekdays from Monday 27th to Friday 31st May at 17:30 on Disney Junior.  FANCY NANCY CLANCY                        Premiere episodes                                                    Monday 13th to Friday 24th May at 17:30 Fancy Nancy Clancy is back on the channel this month, with premiere episodes on weekdays from Monday 13th to Friday 24th May at 17:00.  Nancy is a girl who loves anything fancy, including extravagant clothes, tutus, fairy wings and Christmas lights. She uses fancy words, some French, and thinks her family is rather ordinary! In the episode entitled Vive La Revolution/Million Dollar Minnow (Monday 13th May at 17:00) a neighbourhood climbing tree is declared off-limits, Nancy and friends protest. Nancy dreams of becoming a synchronized swimmer, but is afraid of water.  Premiere episodes of Fancy Nancy Clancy air on weekdays from Monday 13th to Friday 24th May at 17:00 

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Educational opportunities for brilliant young minds

This time of the year is an exciting period for learners who have dared to dream of studying in the United States of America. From December to March, universities like Yale, Princeton and Duke send out feedback to hundreds of thousands of students who have applied for a spot on their prestigious campuses. Harvard alone received a record 42 743 applications this year, of which it typically accepts less than 5%. More and more South Africans are setting their sights on an exclusive overseas education. The internet has broken down many of the barriers to information that previous generations faced, while the desire for diverse student pools has made top-ranked campuses increasingly cosmopolitan. The trend is also in part due to the arrival in the country of educational mentoring companies such as Crimson Education, who assist high school students to navigate unfamiliar and rigorous applications processes successfully. “The key to a strong application is to prepare well, understand what makes a great application, and to demonstrate passion and initiative. Understanding what makes you unique will help you stand out,” says Rebecca Pretorius, Country Manager of Crimson Education in South Africa. The company employs strategy consultants, tutors and mentors, who are graduates and students from top-ranked universities, to help gear a student’s high school years towards landing a spot at their dream campus. Top-ranked universities offer excellent facilities, educators, alumni networks and opportunities to work on cutting-edge research projects, or intern at global companies. They also have the resources to provide substantial financial aid to those who need it. Some universities, including the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) and Princeton, use a need-blind acceptance system. They send out acceptance letters without knowing the financial resources of the applicant; “All accepted candidates are seen as deserving of a spot, and the institution undertakes to help fund them,” says Pretorius. “Young people are very pragmatic about education in this globalised world. They realise that a top-ranked degree is a great launching pad for achieving their career goals – which are often entrepreneurial and geared towards solving a problem back home that they care about,” says Pretorius. For Crimson Education, a big name is less important than finding the right fit for each learner. Their consultants use a specialised algorithm developed in-house to help students to successfully navigate a pool of over 4 000 institutions, the top 100 of which are all considered world-class. “We create a balanced shortlist of universities for each student to apply to, maximising the chance of acceptance to your dream school, while minimising the risk of rejection,” says Pretorius. The company itself has unexpected roots that explain its reverence for youthful ambition and brilliance. It was founded in New Zealand in 2013 by two high school students, Jamie Beaton and South-African born Sharndre Kushor. Now, aged 23 and 24 respectively, they oversee operations in 24 cities worldwide. Beaton is a Rhodes Scholar at Oxford, having completed his undergraduate and a double masters at Stanford Business School in a mere four years. Kushor studied Population Health while steadily growing the company and honing its model for team-led mentorship. “The model developed by Jamie and Sharndre, with its focus on individual interests and passions, has achieved a 100% success rate – with all of our students landing a spot at least one of their top eight university choices,” says Pretorius. The company has helped to secure over 330 offers to the top 50 universities in the United States, 133 of which are Ivy League. Over the years, their students have secured $45.7-million in scholarships. South African students and parents who are inspired by the idea can attend one of the company’s information sessions by emailing [email protected].

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Review: Child’s Farm Body Products

Child’s Farm Hair and Body Wash The Child’s Farm Hair and Body Wash is perfect for sensitive and eczema prone skin. This item is wonderful when you, as a parent, are in a rush and need to wash your child’s hair as well as body. Child’s farm hair and body wash come with the most desirable scents that leave you smelling sweetly all day long. This product is only in use of organic items such as organic essential oils and fruits with no artificial colours; this product is free from parabens, SLSs, and mineral oils, with over 98% naturally derived ingredients. What this product doesn’t tell you is how comfortably soft and clean your skin becomes. This product uses blackberry and organic apples as well as argan oil to clean through grime, gently moisturise and to make kids smell fab! The directions are easy as all you need to do is pour some luscious hair and body wash over your hair and body; scrub, scrub, scrub; and rinse away all of your dirt. This product is highly suitable and perfect for newborns and upwards. Each bottle holds 250 ml of liquid. This bottle also contains lovely, funny images to entertain your little ones during their bath time. Note that if this product causes irritation, wash with copious amounts of water. If the irritation carries out then stop using this product. However, this product is safe and no parent is needn’t to worry. RDA is proudly supported. Child’s Farm Shampoo Is wonderful for sensitive and eczema prone skin. This item is fantastic for creating the best smelling aroma for your hair as well as cleansing the germs out of your hair, turning your hair into shiny, soft locks. Child’s farm shampoo comes with the most desirable scents that leave you smelling sweetly all day long. This product is only in use of organic items such as strawberries, organic mint oil and argan oil giving comb-tastic results every time. This product is proudly supporting RDA. There are to be no artificial colours; this product is free from parabens, SLSs, and mineral oils, as well as contains organic essential oils with over 98% naturally derived ingredients. What this product doesn’t tell you is how silky and cozily clean your hair turns out! The directions for this product are extremely easy to follow. Plop this best selling scents upon your scalp and give yourself a thoroughly soft massage before rinsing off. This product is highly suitable and perfect for newborns and upwards. Each bottle holds 250 ml of liquid. This bottle also contains lovely, funny images to entertain your little ones during their bath time. Note that if this product causes irritation, wash with copious amounts of water. If the irritation carries out then stop using this product. However, this product is greatly safe and no parent is needn’t to worry.

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Medela Breastmilk Storage Bags

The Medela breastmilk storage bags are an excellent product for all parents to use. This product is perfect for all breastfeeding moms, as it will allow you to pre-pump and store any milk which you need to. Read on below for everything you need to know on the Medela breastmilk storage bags now. When You Would Use A Storage Bag A lot of moms begin to pre-pump their milk as they prepare to go back to work. This will allow your creche or care taker to feed your baby when you are not there. It will also allow you to maintain your milk supply, even though you may not be breast feeding.  Milk storage bags give mothers many benefits in use: They are easy to store and do not take up too much space within your fridge They are easy to transport They can be frozen to preserve your milk for longer As you can see, these bags are the dream must haves for all pumping moms! Features Of The Medela Breastmilk Storage Bags The Medela breastmilk storage bags have a lot to offer to moms, however, how do you know you can trust them? Take a look at their full features below: Free From Harmful Materials: all Medela Breastmilk storage bags are made with no BPA in them, making them safe for you and your baby. Capacity: one bag is able to store 180ml of milk Double Zip: the double zipper feature of the bag ensures that it is sealed securely, preventing any leakage Durable: the bags are made from durable materials ensuring that they will last in your freezer Get The Medela Milk Storage Bags Now As you can see, the Medela milk storage bags are a great product for all moms out there. Whether you want to freeze and store your milk long term, or just express and store whatever baby doesn’t drink during a feed, these are the ideal storage products for doing so!

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Making memories with your children

You don’t need an extravagant vacation to make a lifetime of memories with your children. When my son was two years old we went on a family holiday to Portugal, he was very excited about going on a plane. He enjoyed the flight and thought this was all very exciting but the carrying of luggage bags, staying at various homes of family and friends, not having our own bed to sleep in and not having our family routine was too overwhelming for him. He soon felt insecure and was not as excited about being on holiday. Two years later we immigrated to Portugal where our daughter was born, we made it a priority to do something exciting with them outdoors. We would make sure that every weekend and one day during the week after work we would have a family outing. In summer we would go to the beach and even in winter we would walk along the beach Picnic in the park Picnic by the lake on the mountain Visit museums and castles Go to various play parks where they could ride their bikes and climb on the jungle gyms One day I decided to camp in my living-room, the children brought their sleeping bags and their toys and my wife and I slept on the floor while they slept in between us and I must say that they were so excited. Although it was not comfortable it was worth seeing them so excited. This is a moment that I will always treasure with my children. This made me realise that you don’t have to always go out of your home to have a family adventure. Children treasure having quality time with their parents and these are memories that they will always treasure. A few suggestions: Have a camp out in your garden Board games evening Play hide and seek Picnic in the garden Movie and pyjama day Gardening day (plant vegtables and let them see it grow) Family baking day Go for a adventure hike Visit a nature reserve HOME is a special place for children and gives them a sense of belonging and security Contributed by Jose De Sousa of Clamber Club Sports – LynnwoodCell: 063 682 2520Email: [email protected] Website: www.clamberclub.com

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6 Parenting Tips To Get Your Kids Listening

Being a parent brings many joys and along with those joys comes challenges. It is not always easy or simple teaching our children the things they need to know to keep them safe along with all the other skills they are going to need in life. My biggest frustration has always been how to get my kids to listen while still keeping myself calm and patient. I don’t want to be that nagging screeching mother. It has sometimes felt like nothing I do gets my kids to listen. Here are some of the things that I have learned that help my kids to listen: Are Their Needs Met? Now this may seem like it has nothing to do with getting your children to listen but it is actually really important – if my kids needs are not met they become grumpy little creatures that create mayhem everywhere they go. This is particularly true of my son that has just turned 5 years old. If he has not eaten properly or he is tired he is sure to melt down and there is absolutely nothing that can be done about it. If my kids are bored, excited, hungry or tired I can’t expect them to behave perfectly or listen properly. As far as possible I try and be prepared for anything. I have toys, books, coloring books, crayons, spare clothes and emergency snacks and drinks in my car. This means that I can mostly meet their needs whenever and wherever we are. If we are sitting in a restaurant that has no play area and the food is taking too long I can whip out a book to entertain them and if they are getting hungry I can give them a quick snack to keep them going until their meal arrives, instead of moaning at them to sit still and to keep the noise levels down You will be amazed at how just this one thing can change a situation around. One of the challenges I have often had as a work from home mom is that my kids just want my attention. Instead of pushing to get my work done first I do something with them and I will let them know that I need to work afterwards and what is expected of them while I work. I get them started on that activity before I get going with my work. Their needs have then been met and then I can get some work done. Get Their Attention The next important thing is to get down to their level and talk to them. Get yourself down to their eye level and hold their hands, then ask them to look at you while you talk to them. Holding their hands will keep them focused on you while you talk. Once you have spoken to your children ask them to repeat back to you what you have said to make sure that they did in fact listen and to ensure that they properly understand what you have said. Yes you may be busy and trying to get something done so calling out for them to stop what they are doing may seem like the simple and easy way to do things but it really serves no purpose and you will most likely land up moaning, groaning, nagging and even yelling. Taking a few moments to get their attention properly and talk to them once will be much more effective. Use Positive Talk If you feel like what you are saying is going in one ear and out the other it probably is. If you want your children to listen try changing the way that you speak. Turn negatives into positives and see what a difference it makes. Your child will not enjoy hearing you saying this like “stop it”, “don’t do that”, “no” and similar negative statements. Instead replace those with positive statements that tell your children what they should be doing instead of what they shouldn’t be doing. Rephrasing something like “don’t bounce the ball in the house” to “please play with your ball in the garden” can make such a difference to the way that your child processes the information. Your child is much more likely to listen and follow your instructions when they are phrased in a positive way and the message is clear. Think about it – if you tell your child not to bounce the ball in the house are you telling your child what they should be doing instead? Explanations Very often children don’t understand why they can’t do something. Let’s take something very simple like the example of bouncing the ball in the house. If you tell your child not to bounce the ball in the house it is a negative statement that does not teach your child why it is important to play with their ball outside. It may take something as simple as explaining to your child that bouncing the ball and throwing the ball in house can lead to things in the home being broken. Broken things can result in dangerous situations such as being cut by broken glass. You can use situations as a way to explain to your children why you don’t want them to do something instead of just telling them what they shouldn’t be doing and leaving it at that. Use Books and Videos To Teach Your Children Lessons Children love reading books and watching videos. Look for fun books that teach your children lessons – they are sure to take these things in and start to understand things in a better way. There are also lots of free Youtube videos that teach lessons to kids. Children absorb information better when they are enjoying themselves and when it doesn’t seem like a lesson to them. There are so many amazing books that can teach your children lessons (like the importance of listening) and the values that are important to you as a family. Reading to your children is also a wonderful way of bonding with your

Impaq

The Notre Dame fire and its impact on society

The world watched in shock as the famous Notre Dame cathedral went up in flames on the evening of 15 April 2019, with pictures of the event – representing the untimely ‘death’ of an irreplaceable monument in human history – spreading like wildfire on social media.  Hundreds of firefighters struggled for many exhausting hours to contain and extinguish the fire; they finally had it under control in the early hours of 16 April. Despite their best efforts to prevent the destruction of the building, the cathedral’s famous spire collapsed onto the roof, causing significant damage. The roof, which dates back to 1160, was one of the oldest surviving structures of its kind in the world; from a historical perspective it was priceless. With its roof destroyed, the authenticity of the Notre Dame was lost forever. The question is now whether the Notre Dame can be restored, or whether the damage is too extensive. On the morning following the fire, an architectural historian commented that “if the vaults start to crack and fall down, then the building is going to be lost. We’d be talking about rebuilding, not repair”. (1)  You may be wondering why this event received so much international attention, and why the people of the world were so emotionally moved by it. The answer is simple: The Notre Dame cathedral is an example of Medieval Gothic splendour – a true masterpiece of building endurance, excellent craftmanship, and dedication to the Christian faith. It housed invaluable ancient relics and works of art.  For Christians worldwide, the timing of the fire was significant; it happened shortly before the religious commemoration of the Pasga and the execution of Jesus Christ.  Irrespective of religion, the Notre Dame is regarded as an international icon – it is an architectural and historical marvel, and a must-see attraction for people visiting France. It was also the inspiration for Victor Hugo’s novel Notre Dame de Paris, translatedas The Hunchback of Notre Dame.  The Notre Dame cathedral is viewed by many as a symbol of human civilisation. It is a significant historical landmark that has stood for more than 800 years and has been treasured for its craftmanship, aesthetic and intrinsic value for centuries; as donations to repair the building pour in from all over, it is evident that it is also treasured by modern society. It was valuable then and remains valuable now. An unforeseen event such as this often leads to a re-evaluation of and a need to protect and preserve what is important to us as a society. It makes us realise that history is created on a daily basis – we are currently experiencing the significant events that future generations will study. At Impaq, we pride ourselves on remaining current. We invest significant time and effort in modernising and updating our lesson materials and services to ensure that our curriculum keeps pace with what is happening in the world By Ilse Stickling.

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Positive discipline

When talking about discipline in schools, modern trends use buzz-words such as “Positive discipline”; “Values-based education” and “Character guides rather than codes of conduct”. The aim of these “different” or “new” approaches is to focus on rewarding and encouraging positive behaviour, rather than focusing on punishing negative behaviour. Children learn to cultivate habits, approaches and values, that are not only relevant to the classroom or school grounds, but to society, the adult world, and life. It might be too early to say in some instances, but it appears, through the experiences of teachers, that this “new” approach is working. Positive discipline is based on the idea that there are no bad children, just good and bad behaviour. Below are a few tips to assist with positive reinforcement when disciplining your child: Create understanding rather than fear. Creating fear in a child, to stop them from repeating what they did will not completely stop them. They will still want to do it again. If you explain to them why “what they did” was wrong or inappropriate, there’s a higher chance of them not wanting to do it again. During this engagement understanding on both sides should be encouraged. The parent also needs to understand why their child did what they did.  Control yourself not the child Children strive for independence throughout their childhood. Give them the power and responsibility to make their own decisions and control their own behaviour. Don’t compare  Comparing children to others will encourage them to behave more defensively, resent their actions or themselves and lose confidence in themselves. Allow them to own their actions and don’t associate their behaviours with other children.  Don’t shame your child Discussing your children’s behaviour to others in front of them is not an effective way to express your concern, rather have this discussion in private. Children don’t need to be reprimanded multiple times about the same incident by other individuals.  Focus on their good qualities Nobody likes to be told that they’re wrong however constructive criticism is an effective method for self-reflection and behaviour change. Use your child’s good qualities to overcome their bad qualities. 

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Chicco Manual and Electric Breast Pumps

With 61 years as global leaders in the world of baby products, Chicco has perfected the art of the quality nursing item.  Whether breast feeding exclusively, or expressing for later feeds, there comes a time in every busy mom’s life when she will need to pump milk.  Nutrition is key and with everyone knows breast milk is ultimately the richest form of nutrition you can give your child – yet sometimes one just needs a break from hungry mouths and little emerging teeth. Chicco has two of the best solutions for expressing moms.  Whether using the high-tech electric breast pump, or the conventional, yet reliable manual pump, both items are essential nursery items – particularly if moms need to start working again.  The electric breast pump is a mother’s best ally.  With ten settings to choose from, there is a pressure that will work best for you. The pump has an LED light that enables night-time pumping without waking co-sleeping partners or children and the pumping mechanism is gentle on breasts, allowing nipple repair and reduced engorgement. The manual pump is an effective, delicate and practical device that is quiet and allows for mom to pump at work or whilst out and about as it is a small and discreet item.  It connects directly to a 150ml milk container which can be popped directly into the fridge. Available at Baby City, selected Kids Emporium stores, Takealot.com, Loot.co.za and other baby retailers.

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Review: Chicco Home Bottle Warmer

A simple solution to warming up your baby’s bottle as well as baby food.  If you are looking for a convenient, easy to use and safe solution to warm up your baby’s food, this is the product for you.   There are only 2 settings – one for bottles and one for baby food – so simple! The unit comes with a handy strainer, so that you can simply lift the strainer up to raise the baby bottle out of the water, thus reducing the chance of being burnt.  The bottle warmer will keep baby’s food or milk warm for up to an hour and will automatically switch off – which is wonderful news when you are busy with your new born.  Top Tip, when food & milk is warmed up gradually, it helps preserve the properties of the milk thus ensuring that no nutrients are lost along the way. Available at Baby City, selected Kids Emporium stores, Takealot.com, Loot.co.za and other baby retailers. Disclaimer: Breastfeeding is always recommended

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How To Get Your Kids To Go To The Dentist

We’ve all been there as a child—apprehensive, maybe even afraid of the dentist. Now as a parent, you face the other side, helping your child beat their fear of the dentist. The good news is, there are many things you can do to make the experience more enjoyable for them so that the next time they need a checkup, they go with a lot less fuss. Here are some of the things you can do to get your kids to go to the dentist. Start Dental Visits Early Many kids fear the things they don’t know. If you take them to the dentist early enough, they will be used to it long before many of their friends are.  As soon as they get their first teeth, you can introduce them to the fact that there is nothing to worry about. Let Them Talk to a Dentist There is nothing wrong with calling your dentist and informing them of your child’s apprehensions. A lot of the time, they will welcome a visit so they can discuss the process with your child. Even if they don’t end up being treated that day, it can go a long way towards helping future visits. Use a Family-Friendly Dentist. Some Dentists will be friendlier than others. Given this, you want to make sure you find one that specializes in family treatments, so you know your kids are in good hands. In terms of being family friendly, North Pointe dental options are abundant. Enquire before you visit your office of choice and see how they can make your child more comfortable. Do Not Use Bribery It can be tempting to offer a reward for visiting the dentist. This can add to the tension they are feeling. If you tell them that if they don’t cry, they can have X, then they will think about why they might cry just as much as the reward. Also, any offer of a sugary reward isn’t a great idea, for obvious reasons. Give the Dentist Space There is nothing wrong with holding your child’s hand if they ask, or even if you feel like you want to. What you shouldn’t be doing is interfere if they make a fuss about the situation. The dentist will be well versed in how to help your child feel more relaxed. It will be easier for them to do so if they are given the room to. Encourage Good Oral Hygiene If you encourage your child to develop good teeth care habits, then they will better understand why a trip to the dentist is necessary. Help your child to see that a dentist will work to keep their teeth healthy. Although it can be a stressful time for both parent and child, a few simple steps can go a long way. Your future trips to the dentist will run a lot smoother when you know how to help.

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Listening to Learn

Even though we use the words hearing and listening interchangeably, the difference in meaning is significant.  Hearing is a sense. Listening is a learned skill.  Hearing is the process, function, or power of perceiving sound.  Listening is paying attention to a message in order to hear it, understand it, and physically or verbally respond to it.  SEVERAL THINGS MUST HAPPEN FOR US TO LISTEN EFFECTIVELY:  Sound waves carry spoken words to our ears. Sound travels through the outer ear canals (without obstruction) and then through the eardrum and middle ear without being distorted by fluid from colds, infection, or allergies.  Sound then travels from the middle ear through the inner ear (which must be functioning properly as well) along the auditory nerve to the brain.  Finally, the brain compares what it hears to previously stored sounds and words in order to make sense of the message and respond accordingly. “Listening is a crucial skill for young children to acquire. Listening is one of the basic building blocks of language and communication and particularly in the early years of education, one of the main vehicles for a child’s learning.” Eleanor Johnson Auditory processing disorder (also known as central auditory processing disorder or CAPD) is a condition that makes it hard for kids to recognize subtle differences between sounds in words. It affects their ability to process what other people are saying.  DEFINING AN AUDITORY PROCESSING DISORDER: Your child passes a hearing test but is diagnosed with an auditory processing disorder. Children with auditory processing disorders typically have normal hearing. But they struggle to process and make meaning of sounds. This is especially true when there are background noises. Researchers don’t fully understand where things break down between what the ear hears and what the brain processes. But the result is clear: children with auditory processing disorder can have trouble making sense of what other people say. Typically, the brain processes sounds seamlessly and almost instantly. Most people can quickly interpret what they hear. But with an auditory processing disorder, a glitch delays or “scrambles” that process.  To a child with CAPD, “Tell me how the chair and the couch are alike” might sound like “Tell me how a cow and hair are like.” The problem lies with understanding the sounds of spoken language, not the meaning of what’s being said. Some educators and other professionals’ question or doubt a diagnosis of CAPD. Not all professionals see it as a specific disorder. The medical profession didn’t start seriously studying CAPD in children until 1977. Four decades later, there’s still confusion about CAPD. The number of children with CAPD is estimated to be between 2 – 7 percent. Some experts estimate that boys are twice as likely as girls to have auditory processing disorder, but there’s no solid research to prove that. WHAT ARE SYMPTOMS OF AN AUDITORY PROCESSING DISORDER? “The kids we see are having difficulty following directions,” explains Rachel Cortese, a speech-language pathologist at the Child Mind Institute. “They ask for repetition a lot. They seem to just kind of miss things in conversations. From testing we know that their ear is hearing the signal. It’s attending to the auditory information. But they have glitches when the brain is not assigning meaning—or the right meaning—to that signal.” The term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening. Although researchers do not agree on the exact hierarchy of skills, they generally agree on what skills are essential for auditory processing success (Cochlear Americas, 2009; Johnson et al., 1997; Nevins & Garber, 2006; Roeser & Downs, 2004; Stredler-Brown & Johnson, 2004).  Children with CAPD can have weaknesses in one, some or all of these areas: AUDITORY AWARENESS • Auditory Awareness – the ability to detect sound  • Sound Localization – the ability to locate the sound source  • Auditory Attention / Auditory Figure-Ground – the ability to attend to important auditory information including attending amid competing background noise. It would be like sitting at a party and not being able to hear the person next to you because there’s so much background chatter  AUDITORY DISCRIMINATION • Auditory Discrimination of Segmentals – the ability to detect differences between specific speech sounds. The words seventy and seventeen may sound alike, for instance • Auditory Discrimination of Environmental Sounds – the ability to detect differences between sounds in the environment  • Auditory Discrimination of Suprasegmentals – the ability to detect differences in non-phoneme (sound) aspects of speech including rate, intensity, duration, pitch, and overall prosody  AUDITORY IDENTIFICATION • Auditory Identification (Auditory Association) – the ability to attach meaning to sounds and speech  • Auditory Feedback/Self-Monitoring – the ability to change speech production based on information you get from hearing yourself speak  • Auditory Discrimination of Segmentals – the ability to detect differences between specific speech sounds. The words seventy and seventeen may sound alike, for instance • Phonological Awareness (Auditory Analysis) – the ability to identify, blend, segment, and manipulate oral language structure  AUDITORY COMPREHENSION • Auditory Comprehension – the ability to understand longer auditory messages, including engaging in conversation, following directions, and understanding stories  • Auditory Closure – the ability to make sense of auditory messages when a piece of auditory information is missing; filling in the blanks  • Auditory Memory – the ability to retain auditory information both immediately and after a delay  • Linguistic Auditory Processing – the ability to interpret, retain, organize, and manipulate spoken language for higher level learning and communication CHILDREN WITH APD USUALLY HAVE AT LEAST SOME OF THE FOLLOWING SYMPTOMS: Find it hard to follow spoken directions, especially multi-step instructions Ask speakers to repeat what they’ve said, or saying, “huh?” or “what?” Be easily distracted, especially by background noise or loud and sudden noises Have trouble with reading and spelling, which require the ability to process and interpret sounds Struggle with oral (word) math problems Find it hard to follow

Abbotts Colleges

Motivating your teenager in preparations for examinations

Parents are often just as stressed, as their teenagers are when it comes to preparing for and writing examinations. Books and articles on the subject are limitless and easily accessible – try Googling it. The problem is, that there is just so much to read, that by the time you are done, your child would have finished schooling. The advice given in these articles is very much the same. They all speak about planning, goal setting, study methods, working environment, nutrition, rest and communication. You are bound to pick up handy hints from any article you read. You will soon realise that the advice in most articles is relatively obvious and is probably something that you would have figured out for yourself anyway. Sedhoorajan Padayachee, Principal at Abbotts Colleges Northcliff believe that it would be more helpful for parents to understand how their teenage children think and what they want during this challenging phase of growing up. If this is better understood, then motivating teenagers to study becomes a far easier task. Like all subjects in the technologically advanced world we live in, literature on understanding teenage behaviour is also exhaustive. I can however, refer you to a short and very informative article on the subject by Dr Debmita Dutta (30 December 2018) Dr Dutta reminds us that the three things teenagers want most are freedom, independence and respect. She goes on to explain that most teenagers are not motivated to study because they see studying as an unending drudgery; they believe that even if they study they will not have freedom or independence and still risk the chance of being reprimanded and not respected. Dr Dutta further proposes that parents: 1. Motivate their children to learn rather than perform 2. Don’t bribe or punish their children to learn 3. Be patient sensitive and understanding 4. Allow and encourage lots of physical activity 5. Explain the “why” behind what teenagers are studying 6. Don’t compare their child to others 7. Encourage the company of adults other than the parents 8. Give their teenagers mental challenges 9. Do not try to control 10. Allow friendships 11. Do not criticise 12. Do not be grumpy and complain 13. Show their passion not their worry 14. Do not pressurise teenagers with praise 15. Stop panicking and looking disappointed. All of the above recommendations are substantiated in the article, which is a must-read. Parents are advised to always be around, if possible, when their children are studying. Leaving them alone is strongly discouraged as this could be interpreted as neglect and indifference. Just be around for moral support without creating the sense that you are policing them. Besides, by just being around, the temptation for your teenager to do something else during study time will be discouraged. You may feel that it is premature to offer this kind of advice now, considering that it is so long before the June examination. Parents and students have become accustomed to receiving guidance on examination preparation three or four weeks before the examination. This is probably why students do not do as well as they are capable of. Examination preparation should not start a few weeks before the examination. It should start at the beginning of the year in the classroom from day one. Students must listen to their teachers with intent all day, every day. Encourage your children to pay attention in class ensuring that nothing distracts them. More than half the battle is won in the classroom. Absence must be discouraged at all cost, unless it is unavoidable. Students believe that they will make up for lessons missed on their own – this is not the same as receiving instruction from the teacher. This is the first step to successfully preparing for the examinations. Stress and anxiety can be avoided if preparation is constant and not crammed just before an examination. Inculcate these good habits in your teenager and you will pave the way for their success. Written by: Sedhoorajan Padayachee, Principal at Abbotts College Northcliff

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Chicco Bottle warmer and milk containers

With 61 years as global leaders in the world of baby products, Chicco has perfected the art of the quality nursing item. We all want convenience when it comes to feeding times, yet it’s not always easy when working, or bringing up other children. Chicco has a great solution for moms of newborn and younger babies when it comes to storing and warming food.  The Chicco bottle warmer is a simple, fast and safe way to warm up feeding containers in a convenient and speedy fashion. The warmer keeps food warm for up to an hour and even comes with its own internal support system to help elevate smaller bottles and feeding containers.   Another way to store food, especially milk, is with the simple Chicco 150ml milk container.  With tight seal lids, food can be stored by expressing directly into the containers.  Pureed foods are also easily store and frozen in these little jars.  They come in packs of 4. Together this combo of convenience makes heating, storing and freezing food one less stress in a busy mom’s life. Available at Baby City, selected Kids Emporium stores, Takealot.com, Loot.co.za and other baby retailers.

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How mindfulness can improve parent well-being

It’s the nature of parenting that the many delights and joys we find in our children are interwoven with stresses, anxieties and frustrations that can drain from us, enormous amounts of physical, mental and emotional energy.  Somatic psychologist and best-selling author of The Mindful Body, Noa Belling points out that finding ways to top up our energy can make all the difference to our well-being and how we treat our children.  Noa describes a zone of well-being that we aspire to be living in.  It’s also referred to as a zone of resilience or a window of tolerance. “In this zone we feel well and happy,’ she says. “We feel cool, calm, collected and connected to others. We feel like we can cope with life’s ups, downs and busy-ness. At these times we’re effective at getting things done; we are well-attuned to our children; we rebound quickly from setbacks and if things get tough, we can more easily find creative ways to address our challenges.  In the zone of well-being, we are best version of ourselves.”  The reason for this increased capacity is that our brain is actually functioning better when we’re relaxed and feeling well.  We have better access to the more evolved parts of our brains which helps us think intelligently and creatively, and make better choices.   By contrast, when we’re outside our zone of well-being, feeling overwhelmed, out of control or really angry or upset; we are flooded with stress hormones and the primitive brain parts take over to offer urgent survival responses such as fight or flight.  Noa says: “Parents can recognise this in outbursts shouted with full fury, such as: “I have had enough of this! Go to your room! Stop or there is no iPad for a week!  Or even perhaps, smacking your child or lashing out with insults. From our brain’s point of view, when we feel this way it overrides our rational intelligence as well as our ability to think creatively, to see the bigger picture and to come from a place of love.  Sometimes our angry reaction does help to make things happen or get our message across. But all too often, when we feel pushed over the edge, parents can be left feeling shaken, helpless and regretful of their actions. Quite simply when we have a strong relationship with our zone of well-being, we become better parents and healthier of mind and body.” Unfortunately the rigours, not just of parenting, but of demanding, fast-paced modern life as well, result in many of us finding ourselves outside the zone of well-being more often than not.  However, Noa points out that we do not need to be at the mercy of this.  “We can deliberately connect with and strengthen our zone of well-being and resilience by making time for things that help us feel well,” she says. “These include well-known strategies like healthy eating, regular exercise, quality time with family and friends, feeling purposeful in life, and getting enough sleep. There are also simple, mindful strategies that we can use on-the-spot and weave into our days to help us plug back into this zone when we have spun out of control. By making a regular practice and developing mindful habits, benefits accumulate to strengthen our zone of well-being, literally rewiring our brains for the long term. Then we become less likely to spin out of control and if we do, we bounce back more quickly.”  Parents can use these on-the-spot strategies adapted from Noa Belling’s The Mindful Body to connect with and strengthen their zone of well-being: Hand to chest – Place a hand on your chest to remind you to come from love. This is a great one to use in the midst of chaotic moments. Soon as you realise you are all worked up, pause for a few seconds, place a hand on your chest where it feels best and allow a good deep breath. Touch releases oxytocin, our cuddle and intimacy hormone, quickly lowering our stress hormone levels and helping us think more clearly. This helps us feel kinder and more compassionate towards ourselves and those around us. Soon as you feel a shift, release your hand and carry on with your day from this more connected, kinder place.  Make this a family practice by teaching this simple strategy to your children and take a moment to do it together when they are stressed and overwhelmed. Remember to breathe! Pausing to take a few deep breaths now and again can help oxygenate both body and brain. This can give us a boost of energy and remind us to release pent up tension. Using a body scan with this can help, pausing now and again through your day to scan your body for tension and breathing nice fresh air through your body and being. This can be a quick reset that can help you feel more in control. Again, it’s a valuable strategy for children too. Mark transitions lovingly through good eye contact and a habit of a hello and goodbye hug for those in your family. This is a suggestion by relationship expert Stan Tatkin that has mutual benefit to both people involved in the hug. The body contact stimulates oxytocin to help us feel calmer in ourselves and more connected with each other. It also can help us change gears into our zone of well-being in just a few seconds, which can go on to last for a while after especially if we savour the feelings for as long as possible.  Orient to the present moment. The more we live in the moment instead of in our thoughts about the moment, the less we can complicate our lives with unnecessary worries. If you are feeling overwhelmed or mentally frenetic, pause for a few seconds to notice your surroundings through your five senses. Notice the sights, sounds and smells as well as the taste in your mouth. Touch a couple of objects in your vicinity and place

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