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Mental Health and the NICU Mom: The Silent Battle Behind the Glass

If you’ve ever walked through a neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), you’ll know the atmosphere – quiet, sterile, filled with tiny machines keeping even tinier lives stable. What you might not see, though, is the emotional toll it takes on mothers standing behind that glass. For many moms of premature babies, the NICU isn’t just a place of healing – it’s a battlefield of fear, hope, and heartache. Studies suggest that up to 70% of mothers with babies in NICU experience symptoms of anxiety or depression, and a significant number show signs of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) even months after discharge. “Having a baby in NICU can be one of the most emotionally isolating experiences a mother faces,” says Sr Londe, independent midwife and Vital Baby South Africa’s trusted advisor. “You’re told to be strong, to hold it together. But inside, you’re scared and feel powerless.” Unlike traditional postpartum depression, which often develops after birth, NICU-related mental health challenges can begin immediately; triggered by medical uncertainty, feelings of guilt, or the inability to bond physically with your baby.“You may only be allowed to touch your baby for minutes at a time,” says Sr Londe. “That separation can deeply impact bonding and confidence.” Feeling numb, struggling to sleep even when your baby is safe, replaying traumatic moments, or feeling disconnected from your child – these are all warning signs of trauma or depression. And yet, many mothers dismiss them.“There’s still a stigma around maternal mental health,” says Sr Londe. “We need to normalise the conversation and remind mothers that they’re not alone.” Talking to your healthcare provider, joining a support group, or connecting with a therapist who specialises in perinatal mental health can make a world of difference. Hospitals are also increasingly introducing peer-support programmes where NICU graduates’ parents help new families navigate the emotional maze. “It’s okay to need help,” says Sr Londe. “You’re not failing as a mother, you’re processing an extraordinary experience.” As the conversation around maternal mental health grows, brands like Vital Baby are helping raise awareness that caring for moms is as important as caring for their babies. Because behind every incubator, there’s a mother who needs healing too.

December 8, 2025

Ten Beautiful Gifts to Give Your Child This Christmas

Christmas at Dibber is a season of wonder – where hearts open wide, twinkling lights shine bright, and each child’s joy becomes the most cherished gift of all. As parents begin the search for the perfect presents, it’s worth remembering that the most unforgettable gifts aren’t always the biggest or flashiest. They’re the ones steeped in care, imagination, and connection. “Children remember how we make them feel far more than what we put under the tree,” says Ursula Assis, Country Director of Dibber South Africa. “A gift that inspires, comforts, or encourages creativity can leave a deeper impact than anything wrapped in gold paper.” Here are ten thoughtful gift ideas that bring the spirit of Christmas alive –to delight little ones, encourage meaningful moments, and reflect the joy of South African summer holidays. 1. A Book That Opens New Worlds Stories are powerful gifts. They take children to places their feet cannot yet go – from magical forests to the shores. Choose homegrown favourites like Nal’ibali tales, Stories from the Kalahari, or The Adventures of Shaka Zulu. Books inspire curiosity and imagination – core traits nurtured at Dibber. 2. A Memory Jar Fill a decorated jar with handwritten notes: things you love about your child, fun ideas for holiday adventures, or memories from the past year. Children light up when they see their lives reflected back with joy. “It’s a beautiful way to strengthen connection and self-esteem,” says Assis. 3. Outdoor Adventure Gear In sunny South Africa, adventure awaits just beyond the front door. Wrap up a pair of kiddie binoculars, a magnifying glass, or a bug explorer kit, and plan a walk through your local nature reserve. When gifts become gateways to shared experiences, children remember them for life. 4. A Homemade Christmas Treat Box Celebrate the season with a box of sweet South African treats – think peppermint crisp tart balls, koeksisters, or milk tart cupcakes. Involve your little one in the baking, wrapping, or decorating. “Food made together tastes better – and builds those magical festive memories,” Assis smiles. 5. A Craft Kit for Creative Joy Gifting a child the tools to create is like gifting them a window into themselves. A craft kit – filled with beads, paints, or clay – encourages expression, fine motor skills, and confidence. Include patterns inspired by local designs or eco-friendly materials for extra learning. 6. A Family Experience Gift Why not gift a memory? Surprise your child with a family pass to Gold Reef City, the Two Oceans Aquarium, or a boat trip along Durban’s harbour. “When families explore together, they grow closer,” says Assis. “These shared experiences say ‘you matter’ more than any toy ever could.” 7. A Personalised Keepsake A gift made just for them – like a Christmas bauble with their name or a storybook featuring them as the main character – tells a child: You are special. These keepsakes often become treasures they carry through childhood and into adulthood. 8. A Musical Instrument From marimbas to mini djembes, a small instrument can awaken a world of rhythm and expression. Music builds coordination and emotional expression – and turns up the fun at any family braai! “Music unites generations – we’ve seen it time and again in our classrooms,” adds Assis. 9. A Gardening Kit Include tools, gloves, and seeds for sunflowers, basil, or even Spekboom – South Africa’s own carbon-cleaning plant. Children love watching something grow under their care, and the gift becomes a symbol of patience, pride, and environmental awareness. 10. A Gift That Gives Back Gifts that support a cause are perfect for instilling kindness. Choose a handcrafted toy made by a local artisan or donate a book to a literacy charity in your child’s name. These acts of giving teach empathy – and fill hearts with true holiday warmth. The Greatest Gift of All? Time and Togetherness Whether it’s wrapped in ribbon or woven into a memory, the most meaningful gifts are those that nurture children’s hearts and minds. “Christmas is a time to slow down, connect, and focus on what really matters,” says Assis. “At Dibber, we call this heart culture, where love, learning, and laughter lead the way.” This festive season, let your gifts reflect more than just joy, let them plant seeds of wonder, confidence, and love. Merry Christmas!

December 5, 2025

Smoking and pregnancy – should I quit

If you’re an avid smoker you’re probably wondering if being pregnant means you should wave your smoking habits goodbye. Unfortunately, even if your health isn’t enough for you to stop, your baby’s health should be. What can happen to my baby if I keep smoking? Smoking during your pregnancy is harmful to your unborn baby. The chemicals in cigarettes are both damaging to you and your baby; nicotine and other harmful poisons increase the risk of health problems for unborn babies. Second hand smoke, vaping and e-cigarettes are all still damaging to your baby’s health and should also be avoided (or quitted). You may need to designate your house a non-smoking area, and ask any friends and colleges not to smoke around you. So what exactly does smoking do to your unborn baby? Smoking lowers the amount of oxygen available to your growing baby and nicotine damages the baby’s brain and lungs. Smoking can make it harder to conceive, and if you do fall pregnant, can lead to miscarriages or stillbirth. Babies can be born premature, have a low birth weight, or be born with birth defects. Smoking during pregnancy can also affect your baby’s health after they are born, leading to cases of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, asthma and other respiratory problems and infections. Help – I am really struggling to quit! Even if you have decided that quitting is in both of your best interests, this may be easier said than done. If you are pregnant already it is best to quit without using any medication, as this is healthier for you and your baby. You also won’t be able to transition to vaping or e-cigarettes, as these too, are harmful and usually contain nicotine, which is damaging to health. In order to quit for good, try avoid the triggers that make you want to smoke, and try find something else that you can do when the craving kicks in. Get the support of your family and friends, or join a stop-smoking group or self help plan. Whatever your plan is to stop, you can be sure that both you and your child’s health will benefit from it.

December 4, 2025

The Benefits of PLAYMOBIL – Through the Eyes of a Qualified Play Therapist

As we approach the final month of 2025, many of us are looking forward to slowing down, taking a break from busy routines, and enjoying long-overdue quality time with our loved ones. The festive period gives parents and caregivers the chance to connect with their little ones without the usual rush of work, school, and extra-murals. As an occupational therapist, play therapist, and mom to young children, I’m always searching for Christmas gifts that are durable, well-designed, and genuinely support my children’s development. In a world where screens are everywhere, I want toys that pull my kids into real, meaningful play — toys that encourage creativity, communication, and imagination. When I discovered the PLAYMOBIL range, I knew I had found exactly that. From an OT perspective, I look for toys that naturally support development — and PLAYMOBIL does exactly that. The small pieces and detailed scenes encourage fine-motor skills, hand–eye coordination, and focused attention. Children also practise executive functioning skills like planning, sequencing, and flexible thinking as they explore different storylines and decide what happens next. As a play therapist, I love how PLAYMOBIL supports emotional regulation and social skills. Imaginative play brings up a range of feelings, and it gives parents the perfect chance to guide their children through frustration, excitement, problem-solving, and teamwork. Whether children are acting out everyday scenarios or creating entire worlds, they’re building communication, empathy, and confidence without even realising it. Symbolic or pretend play is one of the richest ways children learn — and every PLAYMOBIL set mirrors real-life experiences. Kids get to make sense of their world through storytelling, role play, and imagination, which is incredibly valuable for emotional and social growth. And then, putting my professional hats aside — what do I look for as a mom? I want toys that last, that excite my kids, that draw them into hours of screen-free fun, and that bring our family together. I want toys that spark creativity, promote role play, and — most importantly — feel like pure joy. PLAYMOBIL ticks every one of those boxes. PLAYMOBIL toys are made from child-safe, non-toxic ABS plastic and are incredibly long-lasting. A quick browse on the PLAYMOBIL website (www.playmobil.co.za) shows just how many themes and sets there are — something for every child, every interest, and every stage of imaginative play. They’re wonderful for families, and I highly recommend them for therapists looking to add meaningful play tools to their practices. Anyone choosing a PLAYMOBIL gift this Christmas can feel confident that they’re giving a child a fun, engaging, and developmentally supportive play experience. PLAYMOBIL — Inspiring Imagination Through Play. Available at select Toy Kingdom and Hamleys stores, Takealot online, and your favourite independent toy store.For a complete list of stores where you can find PLAYMOBIL visit www.playmobil.co.za/find-a-retailer/Sign up at www.playmobil.co.za for their regular newsletters and get up-to-date information on new product releases. Taryn Schneider has a BSc in Occupational Therapy from UCT and a Master’s degree in Child-Centred Play Therapy from Roehampton University in the United Kingdom. She works in private practice in Gardens, Cape Town. Taryn uses a practical and functional approach to managing emotional and behavioural challenges in children. She aims to empower parents by helping them understand their children holistically, enabling them to support and manage their children more effectively at home. Taryn also enjoys working closely with teachers to support children emotionally in the classroom and to help them understand how emotional well-being impacts school performance. 083 434 0126 / [email protected]

December 2, 2025

How The Elf on the Shelf Makes School Breaks Easier, Happier, and a Little More Magical!

The December school holidays are long, full of energy, and can often leave parents wondering how to keep children entertained, engaged, and inspired—without spending every day running activities or relying on screens. That’s where The Elf on the Shelf comes in. More than a festive tradition, your Scout Elf becomes a small, magical companion that helps create moments of joy and surprise throughout the holidays. Ready to make your mornings merry, magical, and stress-free? Here are seven ways The Elf on the Shelf can bring a little extra sparkle to your festive season: 1. Start the Day with a Spark of Magic A Scout Elf brings anticipation into the mornings. Each night, your Scout Elf returns to the North Pole, and in the morning, they reappear somewhere new in your home. Whether perched on a shelf, resting on a kitchen counter, or “reading” a tiny book, the Scout Elf’s new spot sparks excitement, curiosity, and joy. These small surprises can set a positive tone for the day, giving children a moment to pause, wonder, and smile before the day begins. Here’s a glimpse into how @baileygeorgiades brings the Scout Elf tradition to life in her home, filling each day with festive joy. 2. Introduce Gentle Structure Long summer days can feel unstructured for children. Your Scout Elf can provide subtle guidance without pressure. For example, a small note next to your Scout Elf can suggest a creative activity for the day, such as drawing a festive picture, or helping with a quick household task. The Elf on the Shelf becomes a fun way to encourage routines, responsibility, and mindfulness, while still keeping the magic alive. 3. Keep The Elf on the Shelf Moments Simple You don’t need elaborate setups or complicated props. Children are delighted by simple, relatable scenarios. A Scout Elf sitting inside a shoe, peeking from a cereal shelf, resting in a sunny spot, or even taking a “cooling break” in the fridge can create just as much excitement. Simplicity is often the key to creating memorable mornings without extra stress. 4. Inspire Creativity and Independent Play Without touching your Scout Elf—so its magical powers remain intact—children can still engage with the tradition by creating little surprises nearby: leaving a tiny note for their Scout Elf, crafting paper decorations, or building a festive scene. These activities spark independent, imaginative play while giving parents a few peaceful moments during busy days. Want to see the magic in action? Here’s how @elena_pappas and her family enjoy their Scout Elves during the festive season. 5. Encourage Positive Behaviour December is full of excitement, and sometimes high energy can lead to tension. A Scout Elf can reinforce positive behaviour in a gentle, playful way. Your Scout Elf might leave a note praising a kind action or appear in a tidy space as if “noticing” the effort. This helps children understand that thoughtfulness, helpfulness, and cooperation are appreciated—even during busy holiday months. 6. Add Variety with Accessories The Scout Elf experience can be brought to life even further with the Elf Pets, Claus Couture, and Polar Props collections. Outfits, tiny props, and festive companions help keep the tradition fresh and exciting, giving each elf a unique personality and playful scenario. Best of all, these additions create magical mornings without any extra stress for parents. 7. Capture the Joy The true magic of The Elf on the Shelf is in the reactions: wide eyes, surprised giggles, and delighted laughter. These authentic moments become lasting memories, whether you capture them in photos or simply enjoy them as a family. Adopt Your Scout Elf and Bring the Magic Home The Elf on the Shelf brings joy, creativity, subtle structure, and a little calm to the busy December holidays. If you’re ready to start this heartwarming tradition—or continue one your family already loves—you can adopt your Scout Elf at select Toy Kingdom, Exclusive Books, and Hamleys stores, Takealot online, and your favourite independent toy store. A small companion from the North Pole may be the easiest, most meaningful addition to your holiday season this year.

December 1, 2025

Music all year round: Why School of Rock Parktown North Is the Gift That Keeps Giving

At School of Rock Parktown North, we don’t just teach kids how to play instruments, we help them build confidence, creativity, community, and lifelong skills. As the year winds down and festive energy sets in, many of you are probably looking for enriching activities that give you and the kids more than just a hobby. Here’s why the School of Rock experience is a perfect fit for the season! Beyond Notes: The Many Benefits of Music Education Music isn’t just fun; it’s transformative. Learning an instrument or singing can improve language development, memory, concentration, and even academic performance. Why School of Rock Parktown North Does It Differently At School of Rock Parktown North, we believe that learning music should be fun, social, and purposeful. Our model combines individual lessons with band rehearsals and live-performance opportunities, giving kids a real chance to experience what it’s like to be in a rock band. Holiday Workshops for Kids: December & January This festive season, our Holiday Workshops give children a fun, structured way to explore music while school is out. Open to both new and current students during December and January, these workshops offer: Whether a child is picking up an instrument for the first time or expanding existing skills, our workshops provide inspiration, fun, and confidence through music. Please pop us an email at [email protected] or Whatsapp us on 074 322 2000 for more info and to book a slot! Corporate Year-End Workshops & Team- building events School of Rock Parktown North also offers corporate and adult-focused workshops that are perfect for companies looking for a creative way to celebrate the end of the year. These sessions are designed to be fun, team-oriented, and stress-relieving: These workshops offer a unique, memorable way to close out the year; combining music, collaboration, and a little bit of festive cheer. Reach out at [email protected] or Whatsapp us on 074 322 2000 for more details. A Great Time to Start (or Re-Start) With the new year around the corner, there’s no better time to explore what music can offer. Whether you or your child has never touched an instrument, are looking to deepen skills, or want a creative team-building experience, School of Rock Parktown North is ready to welcome you all with open arms. Let music be more than a gift this holiday!

December 1, 2025

The First Signs of Labour

If you’re expecting your first baby you’ve probably read up a little (or a lot) on pregnancy and birth process. Labour is something you’ve probably wondered about and seeing as every pregnancy is different, many moms experience different labour signs. However, there are a few tell-tale signs to look out for that you are about to meet your new baby soon. What to look (or feel) out for You may be worried that you won’t distinguish normal late pregnancy signs from the fact that you’ve started labour. Luckily your due date should give you an indication of when you could expect your baby to arrive, but this won’t always be the case. Here are some indicators that your baby is on the way. One of the more obvious signs of labour beginning is regular contractions. This will be different to the Braxton Hicks contractions you may have been experiencing leading up to this point. Labour contractions are longer, stronger and more frequent – when they come every 5 minutes you should call your doctor or midwife. Another sign your baby is on her way is your cervix dilating or beginning to open. This can start happening in the days or weeks before you deliver. Your baby will also move down into your pelvis during this time – which is known as your baby dropping. When your labour begins, the mucus plug which seals your cervix opening comes away. This jelly-like pink mucus is known as a show, and you may notice it when it passes out your vagina. Lower back pain, diarrhoea and looser feeling joints are all other signs that your labour may be starting. Another sign is your water breaking, this can happen in a gush but a trickle is more likely, most moms-to-be go into labour within 24 hours of their water breaking. Be sure to keep your birth partner in the loop about how you are feeling mentally and physically around the time of your birth. If you are at all worried about your baby or experience anything abnormal be sure to let your doctor know as soon as possible.

November 28, 2025

Questioning Questions: Why your child needs to ask ‘why’…

There comes a time in the life of every parent when you wish the word “Why” had never been invented. I recall with my own kids how a 5-minute bedtime story suddenly became a 30-minute ordeal: The bear went over the mountain.Why?To get to the other side.Why?To visit his friend.Why?Because he was lonely.Why?Well, if you’ll let me carry on reading we’ll find out. Ok, so sentence number two… It was a lovely warm day.Why? You know how the story goes! So before you move on from why, I have two more why questions for you… Why do kids stop asking questions? And why is it important for us to encourage them to continue? There are three main reasons that children stop questioning. The first is that we discourage the questions. Understandably we get tired of answering a million why’s every day and our tone and attitude towards questioning becomes quite clear. Children get the message that their questioning is annoying. Perhaps they even get the message that they are annoying. The second is that we encourage a very narrow, limited way of thinking. We give definite answers and we don’t explore possibilities. We train our children to think like we think; to believe what we believe; to do things the way they have always been done. The third is that we are afraid of (and so teach our kids to be afraid of) making mistakes. Children learn that there is a right and a wrong answer to any given question and it is bad to give the wrong answer – this will be met with red lines on your page, bad marks, failure and disappointment. But why would we want to encourage this questioning when it drives us nuts? Well, because the quality of your life is directly related to the quantity and quality of the questions that you ask. Questions open doors, they explore new possibilities, they take us outside of limiting beliefs and outdated ways of thinking and being. Questions really are at the very fabric of being alive. They imply curiosity and interest and enthusiasm and a willingness to learn and grow. It is when we stop questioning and start assuming that we know the answers that our life light goes out. We become conditioned and trained and dull and habitual. We stop seeking alternative ways of thinking and being and doing and we become mundane. And our lives become mundane. And then we learn to complain instead of questioning. We whine about the hamster wheel of life without questioning how to get off it. We moan about our relationships instead of seeking alternative answers to how to engage. We hate our jobs but we don’t question why we have ended up where we are and what different choices we could make. It becomes ingrained in us to fear asking questions. We still have that child within that doesn’t want to be annoying, that doesn’t want to be the one to ask a stupid question, what is terrified of the consequences of getting the answers wrong. And so we live small. And constricted. And below our full potential. If we want our children to live rich, fulfilling, exciting lives then we have to encourage questions. We need to encourage the “why’s” of the 4 year old to everything we say, and the “why’s” of the teenager to everything we do. We need to embrace a questioning attitude to our own lives and habits and choices. We need to step out of our comfort zones and risk failure and all the learning that comes with it. Here are some tips to get you going… When your child asks you why they have to do or not do something never answer with “because I said so”. If you have a good reason, explain it to them. If you don’t, then start questioning why they have to do it yourself. (You may find that there are many things you expect just because your parents did it that way or someone else told you it should be that way). Question everything that you believe. From the most basic daily trivialities (the wall is solid) to the most fundamental life issues (I was born) to the things that limit you (I am not good enough) and see what happens. Some lines of questioning can allow you to let go of stagnation and move into new realms, and others may strengthen what you already believe. Either way there will be a depth to your life where previously you were just floating on the surface. Don’t answer all your child’s questions. Teach them how to find answers in the world and send them on a journey of exploration and curiosity. Point them in the direction of knowledgeable people, send them to the library, show them how to use search engines, help them to set up experiments. Be a model of excitement in finding out the answers to things you don’t know and how much you learn along the way. Ask your child questions. Ask deep, open ended, thought provoking questions. Even to the little ones. Encourage them to ponder things; to not need to come up with quick answers; to not know the answer at all. As much as possible, refrain from showing irritation when your child asks questions. If you’re really not up for it, let them know you’ll be happy to continue later. Treat all failure as an exercise in learning. Tell your kids about Edison failing hundreds of times before figuring out the light bulb. Give them examples from your own life where you got something wrong and it helped you to grow. When they get something wrong help them to focus on what they can learn and how this can help them to grow. If your child asks deep and meaningful questions about life / themselves / God / etc, don’t give them a standard practiced response. Rather turn the question back to the questioner. Say something like, “Wow,

November 27, 2025

What If My Child Won’t Take No for an Answer?

If you’ve said no firmly and you’re child is wearing you down, avoid doing what many parent do when they are tired and overworked; giving in just to stop the pleading and begging. Doing so might stop the noise that’s adding to your stress, but it will also teach your child to repeat this behaviour anytime they receive a NO from you (and others) in the future. BE FIRM, STAY CALM, AND REMAIN QUIET So let me get right to the punch on this question. If your child is asking for something you can’t or won’t give to them and they won’t stop drilling you for it, calmly tell them that you’re not willing to discuss this issue any further and remain completely quiet if they try to engage you further. Be ready and willing to talk to them about any other subject, just not this one. WHAT IF YOUR CHILD HITS YOU IN RESPONSE? If this occurs, the answer is to tell them firmly, “No one is allowed to hit me,” and remove yourself from your child’s access immediately. This means you must go to another place in the house to be away from your child in the moment. If this isn’t easy to do, do your best to remove yourself from your child. Do not hit your child back and avoid yelling or punishing them. Doing so will only reward your child by reacting. WHAT IF THE CHILD CAUSES PROPERTY DAMAGE? Some parents have reported that when they left the area to be away from their child, the child became so angry that they caused some damage to something in the house. While there is a risk that this could occur, it is better to have property damage then physical damage to you or your child. If their behaviour becomes this extreme in response to a no, you should consider seeking help immediately from your child’s paediatrician or a family therapist. OTHER IDEAS TO CONSIDER When your child asks for something and you know that your NO may cause a meltdown, guide your child to a calendar and set a date and time in which the two of you will sit down and discuss the request. They may not be happy with this response, but it will tell them that the door isn’t completely closed on their request. This is also a great technique if what they are asking for is big and you need more time to think about it or research their request, such as piercings, dating, cell phones, etc. Finally, try replacing the word NO with one of these two phrases: “I’m not willing ____________,” or “I’m not ready for you to ___________________.” They put the ownership on you and not on your child. It is also less likely that your child will feel less driven to change your NO into a YES by arguing. When you demonstrate power over your own “will,” or state that you’re NOT READY for them to do something, you don’t have to have a reason for it, or even a date as to when you’ll be ready. Simply tell them they can ask again to see if things have changed.

November 26, 2025

Reflecting on Parenting Goals: Seven Meaningful Ways to Reset Before the Holiday Season

As families prepare for South Africa’s big holiday season, Dibber International Preschools is encouraging parents to take a mindful pause and reflect on their parenting goals. According to Ursula Assis, Country Director of Dibber South Africa, creating space for reflection during this busy period can bring renewed balance, intention, and joy into family life. “Reflection isn’t about judging what we did right or wrong, it’s about recognising growth, reconnecting with what matters most, and creating the kind of home environment where both children and parents can thrive,” says Assis. “The holidays are a perfect opportunity to do this together as a family.” Below, Assis shares seven gentle yet practical techniques to guide parents as they reflect on their parenting journey before the new year begins. 1. Take Care of Yourself First A child’s emotional balance often mirrors that of their caregivers. When parents take time to rest and recharge, it positively influences the tone of the household. Whether it’s hiking scenic trails in Pretoria, enjoying a family picnic at Zoo Lake, or simply playing board games indoors, moments of calm connection help restore harmony. 2. Avoid Over-Planning While planning is helpful, over-scheduling family activities can create unnecessary stress. Assis advises parents to “allow for flexibility and spontaneous moments of joy.” Unstructured time often brings the most meaningful family connections. 3. Pause and Reflect Before the festive rush takes over, take a quiet moment to think about your year in parenting. Ask questions like, “When did I feel most connected to my child?” and “What challenges helped us grow?” This mindful reflection nurtures self-awareness and strengthens family bonds. 4. Celebrate Small Wins Not every success needs to be big. Noticing your child’s daily progress—like sharing a toy or learning a new word—builds confidence and gratitude. “Acknowledging these small victories boosts your child’s self-worth and reinforces positive parenting habits,” says Assis. 5. Listen to Your Child’s Perspective Children experience the world differently. Invite them to share their thoughts about the year – what made them happy, what they’d like to do more of. “Listening to your child’s perspective teaches empathy and makes them feel valued,” Assis notes. 6. Set Realistic Goals for the New Year Ambition is good—but so is balance. Instead of overwhelming children with lofty expectations, focus on achievable goals. “When children see consistent encouragement rather than pressure, they develop confidence and resilience,” says Assis. 7. Create New Family Traditions Turn reflection into a shared family ritual—like everyone sharing one thing they’re grateful for at the Christmas table or during a beach braai. These small acts foster connection, mindfulness, and appreciation that last long after the holidays end. “When we pause and reflect with love and curiosity,” Assis concludes, “we set the stage for more mindful parenting—and a happier, more harmonious start to the year ahead.”

November 25, 2025

Are You Raising a Praise Junkie?

Extensive research has been done to show the amazing results of praise. It can motivate both adults and children to perform exceedingly well, but to do it for the goal of obtaining the praise, not for the joy of achieving or the pleasure of the activity. I first learned of the term ‘praise junkie’ when I read Nurture Shock (2009; Twelve), a book that offers new research-based thinking about children. The authors state that the use of praise is becoming the solution for modern-day parenting that caregivers offer to their children as a way of soothing the anxieties the children experience throughout their day. More and more parents seem to strive to “make things all better,” so that their children experience less stress. And over-praised children don’t grow up to be ‘unmotivated softies’ as some have claimed, but instead, researchers have found that they actually become more competitive and overly focused on tearing others down. So if praising our children is discouraged, what are we supposed to do? The answer lies in our response to our child’s accomplishment. Instead of making sure that every child receives a trophy, the key is in how we respond to our child individually. Instead of saying “I’m proud of you,” the most effective parental response is “What did YOU think of the game,“ or “Tell me all about the picture you drew.” But there is more to this story; allow me to explain. I’m often asked if praise is bad for children and my response has been that it has a time, a place and a season. I see certain types of praise being necessary in three specific situations: in teaching young, egocentric children learn new social skills (hygiene, chores, etc.), when working with some children with disorders (such as those on the Autism spectrum) and in situations for turning around unhealthy family relationships. In most of these types of situations however, there is a season. Eventually, the awarding of smiley faces on behaviour charts or rewards for accomplishing new tasks should stop. Eventually, many autistic children can move past the daily rewards for better cooperation at home and in the classroom as their development progresses. And if the work is done, unhealthy family relationships can be restored, leading to less praise and rewards. When praise is not or no longer needed, encouragement (as you indicated) is needed instead. Praise is one person’s judgment of another. Even the words “Good Job” or “Attaboy” are someone’s evaluation of another person’s creation or performance. Encouragement is the technique of having that creating or performing person to say “Good Job” with their own voice. It coaches them to step back and assess what they did, and make internal decisions such as: “Am I happy with what I created?” “Will I do it again?” “Do I love doing this” “Does it fulfil me?” “What will I do with what I created?” When my children were young, I made the switch to stop the praise and instead, use encouragement. I tried it, sort of as an experiment to see what would happen. When my children came up to me with a picture they had drawn or a castle they built and said to me, “Look Dad, look at my picture.” Instead of saying to them “Good Job,” I said “Wow, tell me all about it.” In that moment, they would describe what they had created and I would avoid providing my opinion. My job was to be there in that moment and listen. In the beginning, using this new response to whatever they wanted to show me, they would sometimes ask me, “What do you think Dad?” My response would always be, “I like it, but what do YOU think about it.” To wean them off the praise society and my parents taught me, I would always pass it back to them. Because what they thought of their own creation was more important than mine. Eventually, my children stopped asking me and stopped hanging their pictures on the refrigerator and instead, started hanging them on their bedroom walls or putting them in albums for them to enjoy. They stopped placing them in public places in hopes of obtaining good words from others. When report cards came home, instead of taking it and reading it, I would hand it back to them and say, “Read it to me.” They would then read off their grades and I would listen. Encouragement requires lots of eye contact, much facial expression and few words. After they had read their grades, I would ask them specific questions to bring out more about the report card, never once applying my opinion. I would ask questions like what grade were they most proud of and which grade might they change and why. If they expressed a desire to bring up one grade or another, I would coach them into coming up with ideas and in many cases, I would offer to help in some capacity, still never applying my opinion of them or their grades. Today I’m watching my three children live their lives according to what they enjoy and according to their own opinions of their accomplishments. They are not performing or creating for other people, they are doing what they love to do for the love of doing the act, not doing it to please others. I urge all parents to use more encouragement and less praise, every day!

November 25, 2025

Help! My Kids Won’t Stop Fighting!

Parents generally see their children as wonderful gifts from the heavens but children don’t always see each other in that same light. They first see their primary caregivers, and the love and attention they get from them, as a limited commodity. They then see their siblings as competition for that love and attention and sometimes feel they have to fight for it. When a new child enters the family, the oldest or older children sometimes feel as if they have been dethroned and now have to share their parents with this new child. This can bring about feelings of animosity and jealousy between children. To deal with this problem effectively, parents can find ways that will allow the older child to become a teacher or leader to the younger child(ren). You can also give the older child special privileges and give them special time with you, such as one-on-one dates to help them feel like they haven’t lost their place in the family. Fighting and other forms of sibling rivalry also occur as a result of these feelings. Avoid racing into every little argument or disagreement. If you do, it will teach your children to create problems just to get you involved. It will also train them that they are NOT accountable for stopping fights and working things out, it teaches them instead that YOU are responsible for doing that. Because you ARE responsible for keeping everyone safe, sometimes the only solution is to just separate them. This is especially true for when toddlers and preschoolers hit one another or begin to fight. It just means they’ve had enough of that other person for a while and they want them out of their space. Avoid using punishments like time out and avoid taking sides. When a conflict breaks out, just separate both of them. It doesn’t matter who started it or who did what, just separate them in different spaces to be apart. And during this moment of behavior management, remain calm and talk very little. You can easily transfer your own negative feelings into the relationship between the children. Sometimes the conflict between the children is actually an imitation of what’s going on with the adults.

November 24, 2025

Top ways to balance work and parenting

We all know that parenting can be a delicate juggling act at the best of times. Whether it is organising day-care, scheduling doctor appointments, making sure they are getting their five a day – being a parent is a lot to handle and think about. Throw a career into the mix, and often balls can start dropping. Here are five ways to not only help you manage your time but make sure that both your children and your job get the attention they need. Switch off This advice comes from some of the most successful business people in the world. Segment your time. When you are at work, focus solely on the tasks at hand. With that level of focus and concentration, you will be able to do your job more efficiently. The same applies at home. Make sure you switch off your work notifications when possible. Give your children and yourself the attention you all deserve when it is time to do so. Schedule This is a biggie! The more organised you are, the more time you have. For your children, for your job, to grab a coffee with a friend. There are many apps you can download to help you manage your and your families’ schedules. Some of them can even be shared amongst family members, so everyone that needs to can lend a hand. Make sure you have all the info you need at the touch of a button. Dentist appointments, Toptots classes, grocery lists and more. Knowing everything that needs to be done is one step closer to getting everything you need done! Prep time Most working parents swear by this. Whether packing lunches the night before or taking a few hours on a Sunday to meal prep for the week – using the time you have to give you breathing room during the crazy periods (AKA, bath and dinner time) is a smart use of time. Again, there are many online tools to assist you in things like meal prepping – use them to give you a helping hand. Time for you A burnt-out parent is not going to have the energy and capability to get anything done. Never mind spending quality time with their children. It is essential that you put yourself on the top of your ‘take care of’ list. Make sure you schedule time to do things you love, see friends and family and look after yourself. Happy parents make happy children. Delegate You don’t need to do it all yourself. Everyone needs help, whether it be from a partner, parent or friend. There are always people around that are willing to lend a hand; you just need to reach out to them. Learning to let go of tasks, delegate responsibilities and ask for help with help to ease your load to focus on the things that matter – yourself and your children! Toptots Early Learning SA

November 21, 2025

Tips for Breastfeeding in Public: Confidence and Comfort

Breastfeeding is a natural and healthy way to feed your baby, but doing so in public can be a daunting experience for many mothers. Concerns about privacy, societal judgment, and personal comfort can create anxiety, making it challenging to breastfeed confidently outside the home. This article provides tips to help breastfeeding mothers in South Africa feel more comfortable and confident when breastfeeding in public, ensuring a positive experience for both mother and baby. Understanding Your Rights Before diving into practical tips, it’s essential to understand your legal rights regarding breastfeeding in public. In South Africa, the law protects the right to breastfeed in public spaces. According to the South African Department of Health, mothers are encouraged to breastfeed their children wherever and whenever needed. Knowing and understanding these rights can empower you and reduce anxiety about potential confrontations or negative reactions. Choose Comfortable Clothing One of the most practical steps to increase comfort while breastfeeding in public is choosing the right clothing. There are several options designed to make breastfeeding easier and more discreet: Nursing Tops and Dresses: These garments have hidden openings or panels that allow easy access for breastfeeding without exposing too much skin. Button-Down Shirts: These provide quick access to the breast and can be paired with a nursing bra for additional convenience. Nursing Bras: These bras have cups that can be easily unclipped and folded down, making breastfeeding more straightforward and comfortable. Choosing clothing that you feel comfortable and confident in can significantly impact your breastfeeding experience in public. Practice at Home Practicing breastfeeding at home can help you feel more confident when you need to do it in public. Find a comfortable position and practice using any nursing covers or specific clothing items you plan to wear outside. This practice can help you become more adept at handling your baby and adjusting your clothing discreetly. Use a Nursing Cover or Blanket If you prefer more privacy while breastfeeding in public, a nursing cover or blanket can be helpful. These covers are designed to drape over your shoulder and provide a barrier between you and the public. Some nursing covers even have adjustable necklines, allowing you to maintain eye contact with your baby while ensuring privacy. While nursing covers can provide a sense of security, it’s important to remember that they are not necessary for everyone. Some mothers and babies find them uncomfortable or restrictive. Choose what works best for you and your baby. Find a Comfortable Spot When breastfeeding in public, finding a comfortable and relatively private spot can make the experience more enjoyable. Many public places now offer designated nursing rooms or areas specifically designed for breastfeeding mothers. If these are not available, look for quieter, less crowded spots where you can sit comfortably. Some places to consider include: Cafes or Restaurants: Many establishments are breastfeeding-friendly and may have a quiet corner where you can nurse your baby. Parks: A bench under a tree can provide a peaceful spot for breastfeeding. Stores with Fitting Rooms: These can offer privacy if you feel uncomfortable breastfeeding in a more open area. Responding to Public Reactions Despite the increasing acceptance of breastfeeding in public, you may still encounter negative reactions or comments. Knowing how to respond can help you stay confident and calm. Here are some tips: Stay Calm and Polite: If someone confronts you, respond calmly and politely. You can inform them that you have the legal right to breastfeed in public. Focus on Your Baby: Remember that your baby’s needs come first. If you encounter negativity, focus on your baby and try not to let it affect your confidence. Have a Response Ready: Prepare a simple, respectful response in case someone comments on your breastfeeding. Something like, “I’m just feeding my baby. Thank you for understanding,” can be effective. Build a Support Network Having a support network can significantly boost your confidence when breastfeeding in public. Connect with other breastfeeding mothers through local support groups, online forums, or social media. Sharing experiences, tips, and encouragement with others who understand what you’re going through can be incredibly empowering. Educate Yourself and Others Education plays a crucial role in normalising breastfeeding in public. The more informed you are about the benefits of breastfeeding and your rights, the more confident you will feel. Additionally, by educating those around you, you can help create a more supportive environment. Share Information: Share articles, research, and personal stories about breastfeeding with family and friends to help them understand its importance. Advocate for Breastfeeding-Friendly Spaces: Encourage local businesses and public spaces to provide designated breastfeeding areas and support breastfeeding mothers. Use Distraction Techniques If your baby is easily distracted by the environment when breastfeeding in public, consider using distraction techniques to keep them focused. Some strategies include: Maintaining Eye Contact: Making eye contact with your baby can help them stay focused on breastfeeding. Covering Your Baby’s Head: A lightweight blanket or nursing cover can block out visual distractions and help your baby concentrate on feeding. Stay Hydrated and Nourished Breastfeeding can be physically demanding, so it’s essential to stay hydrated and well-nourished. Carry a water bottle and healthy snacks with you when you go out. Staying hydrated and maintaining your energy levels will help you feel better and more confident while breastfeeding in public. Practice Self-Care Finally, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Being a new mother can be overwhelming, and it’s important to prioritise self-care. Make time for activities that help you relax and recharge, whether it’s taking a walk, reading a book, or spending time with loved ones. The more relaxed and confident you feel, the more comfortable you’ll be breastfeeding in public. Conclusion Breastfeeding in public can be a positive and empowering experience with the right preparation and mindset. By understanding your rights, choosing comfortable clothing, practicing at home, and finding supportive environments, you can build the confidence needed to nurse your baby wherever you go. Remember that breastfeeding is a natural and essential part of motherhood,

November 20, 2025

Kangaroo care and its benefits

You may have heard the terms “skin-to-skin” or “kangaroo care” when it comes to interacting with a newborn baby. It refers to the amazing benefits that have been found when a mother has the opportunity to place their newborn baby skin-to-skin straight after birth. It also refers to skin-to-skin contact during the newborn phase from both mother and father. Of course, birth can be an unpredictable time – and that includes the need for doctors or nurses to have to handle your baby immediately after birth for medical reasons or for the baby to be placed in an incubator. If these things occur, skin-to-skin does not have an expiry date when it comes to your baby and can take place as soon as it is medically safe to. Here are just some of the scientifically proven benefits of kangaroo care: Skin-to-skin contact helps regulate a baby’s temperature. When mom/dad and baby are skin to skin, the parent’s chest temperature adjusts to warm up a cool baby, or cool down a too-warm baby. This phenomenon is called “thermal synchrony.” Skin-to-skin contact increases the paternal bond. One study followed mothers and babies who experienced skin-to-skin contact right after delivery compared to mothers who only viewed their child briefly immediately after birth. Days later the mothers who had skin-to-skin contact were shown to be more comfortable caring for and handling their babies. One year later those same mothers were found to touch, hold and interact with their children more. Skin-to-skin contact can help keep heart and breathing rates stable. Newborns panic when they are separated from their mother immediately after birth. That separation causes stress, which can increase both heart and breathing rates. Being skin to skin with their mother reduces stress and helps keep a baby’s heart rate and breathing normal. Babies cry less when they are skin to skin with their parent. Being close to their parents is natural for babies. Studies show that babies cry less when skin to skin with their mothers than babies who have been separated from mom. Human touch is an integral part of brain development. Touch and movement have been shown to be the basic building blocks for brain and social development. Early skin-to-skin contact helps to set a pattern for continued holding, carrying and touching. Moms who have early skin-to-skin contact breastfeed more and longer. When babies are placed skin-to-skin on their mother after delivery, research has shown that they follow a series of steps to familiarise themselves with their mother, eventually making their way to the breast on their own to begin breastfeeding. The research results are so strong, in fact, that the American Academy of Pediatrics now recommends that immediately after delivery all healthy infants be placed in direct skin-to-skin contact with their mothers as soon as possible and at least for the first hour. How to Hold Your Baby Skin to Skin: Find some good times throughout the day when skin-to-skin works best for you, your baby, and your partner. This might be during feedings (whether by breast or bottle), right before a bath, or just before putting pyjamas on for bedtime. Place your baby in a nappy only. Moms remove your bra. Hold your baby directly against your bare chest. Make sure your baby’s head is turned to the side, so he or she can easily breathe, and hold your baby close enough for you to kiss the top of their head. Your body will keep them warm. It’s fine to drape a thin blanket over your baby’s back. All you need to do after that is sit quietly and enjoy being close and together.

November 20, 2025

How Safe Are Teething Gels?

Every baby is different but common symptoms associated with teething include, mild irritability, drooling, low-grade fever and loss of appetite. If your baby is inconsolable or has a high fever chances are this is not due to teething. Teething should not make your baby very sick but rather very unhappy.

November 19, 2025

How To Be Angry Without Destroying Your Kids’ Self-Confidence

All too often I hear parents trying to repress their anger around their kids. Now this is not only unhealthy for you (repressed emotions actually create illness within the body) but it is also not great for your kids to grow up believing that some emotions are simply not ok to have. All emotions are a part of our human journey, and are messages from our unconscious mind regarding things we need to pay attention to or change in our lives. Having said that, it is also worth noting that telling your child that THEY are making YOU angry, sad, irritated (or even happy) is simply too much responsibility to place on another human being, particularly a little one! No one can MAKE you anything. Think about squeezing an orange. What comes out? I’m hoping that you’re saying “orange juice”! Not guava juice or pear juice or cherry flavoured Coca-Cola! Why? Because you only get out what is already within. So if your kids are pushing your buttons and there’s anger coming out, well then that’s what is within. Take responsibility for your own emotions. Own them – they’re yours. However, this does not mean that you are not allowed to experience these emotions, and even experience them very strongly in the presence of your children. So how do we express strong negative emotions without damaging our kids and making them feel responsible for us and our emotional state? How do we teach them to take responsibility for THEIR own emotions and not blame you or their siblings or teachers or life for how it is that THEY are feeling? It all starts with the little one-letter word “I”. “I am feeling soooo angry right now”, “I am feeling more and more and more irritated, so irritated that I could just scream”, “I am feeling ridiculously happy, like the luckiest person in the world”. As opposed to: “You are making me very angry”, “You are irritating me”, “You make your mom sooo happy”. Can you see the difference? And these can be said with as much emotion or volume as you feel is appropriate. You can even step it up in ways that they can relate to and that gives them some warning about where you’re at… “I am about as angry as a pea right now… Now I’m as angry as a small cat… AND NOW I’M AS ANGRY AS A LARGE ELEPHANT!!!” They will get the message. They will learn when to step away. They will learn how to experience strong emotional states themselves without lashing out at others. What they won’t learn is to take responsibility for you. What they won’t learn is to blame. What they won’t learn is to beat themselves up for your inner state. This builds emotional maturity, responsibility and self-confidence. All emotions are ok, but how we choose to express them is what makes the biggest difference.

November 19, 2025

Why do children lie?

The question of why children lie begs the greater question of why any of us lie. If you think back to the last time you lied (and I’ll bet my life you can think of a time), look at what was going on internally and this will give you a good idea of why your children do it and how to avoid it in future. Now before we get to that, let me just say that we all have all traits. We are all liars sometimes and every one of us will be pushed to lie under certain circumstances. So firstly, please never label your child as a liar. Once we apply a label to a child they are more likely (not less) to repeat this behaviour and to incorporate it into their sense of self as they grow up. ALL children lie sometimes (as do ALL adults). Ok, so it’s normal to lie sometimes, but why, and why do some lie more often? Going back to why we all do, lying is a fear-based behaviour. The child believes, for whatever reason, that if they tell the truth it will result in more pain than pleasure. And where do they get this message? From us, of course. We’re constantly giving kids unconscious messages that telling the truth will get you in trouble. “Who ate the sweets?” “I did” “Right, go to your room”. Sound familiar? What we need to get into the habit of doing is praising truth-telling and taking responsibility more than we punish “bad” behaviour. If our children own up and say that they “did it” we should be actively praising this behaviour and pointing out that while the behaviour is not ok with us, we’re really impressed that they told the truth. Children will only lie if they are afraid of our reaction to the truth. I know that many people worry that if they take this approach they will be too soft on the bad behaviour and will end up with unruly kids. One of the fundamental structures for well-behaved, compliant children is being their primary attachment (which implies complete trust, openness and closeness). If your children trust you completely and feel connected to you and loved no matter what they do they will actually be less likely to produce so called “bad” behaviours in the long run. Of course they will make mistakes along the way and present “negative” traits (like we all do) including lying, but this will not develop into any kind of delinquency if that adult-child connection is in place. And part of keeping it in place is keeping the lines of communication open and allowing your children to tell the truth and know they will be safe. I think this is a fundamental skill to work on when your children are little and to instil a sense of open communication and acceptance BEFORE they become teenagers. Once our kids hit the teen years, if we’ve shut off honest communication, we are in for a different level of trouble with our children lying to us about things that can be life threatening, or where they really could use our adult help and guidance. The next time your child lies to you think about why they would be afraid to tell the truth and then instead of punishing them for lying, rather address the rift in your relationship.

November 18, 2025

Dibber Shares Practical Strategies to Address Year-End Fatigue for Parents and Preschoolers

As year-end fast approaches, Dibber International Preschools, a leading preschool provider, offers clear and practical strategies to help parents and their children manage the challenges of burnout. Parenting is a rewarding yet demanding role, and both parents and preschoolers can feel the strain of modern life’s demands. Dibber is committed to supporting families with actionable advice to promote balance and well-being. “Parenting is a fulfilling journey, but it can be challenging at times,” says Ursula Assis, Dibber Country Director. “At Dibber, we view ourselves as an extended family, partnering with parents to create a supportive environment where both children and caregivers can flourish.” Understanding Parental Burnout Parental burnout is an overwhelming state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion and can arise from financial stress, work-life balance challenges, lack of support, or unrealistic expectations. It’s a common issue, with 65% of working parents reporting burnout, according to recent surveys. Dibber encourages families to adopt practical strategies to regain energy and focus. Parental Burnout Strategies Dibber provides the following tips to help parents recharge: Supporting Preschoolers Through Burnout. Young children can also feel overwhelmed by busy schedules or high expectations. Dibber’s approach to preventing preschool burnout includes: “At Dibber, we strive to support families every step of the way,” adds Assis. “Our educators create a nurturing environment where children feel secure and parents feel supported. We’re more than a preschool—we’re a community that grows together.” Dibber invites parents to explore these strategies and connect with their local preschool community for support. For more information about Dibber’s programmes and family resources, visit https://www.dibber.co.za or follow Dibber on Facebook, Instagram or LinkedIn.

November 17, 2025

Help your toddler survive your divorce

Divorce is unpleasant, emotional and can be a downright hurtful experience. The problem is that we sometimes forget that we aren’t the only ones experiencing this pain. Often our children suffer an unnecessary degree of hurt as a result of our incompatibility with our chosen partner… Some tips: Consistency This is a watchword for the divorcing parent! With toddlers, parents must be mindful of the need for consistency in the child’s life. This is not the time to drag them from house to house. If at all possible, they should stay in familiar surroundings with the noncustodial parent visiting there. Communication At this age, the toddler understands more than they are often given credit for. They can comprehend that one parent has left the home, but not understand why. At this age, their concept of time is also arbitrary. Your child may ask you when they are going to see their daddy, or why their daddy isn’t here anymore. No matter how many times you have to give them the answers, don’t get frustrated with them, as their world is very confusing at this time. This ties back into consistency, as you become their source of understanding and answers. Conflict If you have to argue or “debate passionately”, make sure to do it in a way that doesn’t cause your child undue fear or concern. Remember, you are the adults in this situation and you have a responsibility to your child, to reduce as much harm as this separation is causing, as possible. Behaviour Toddlers often test their boundaries by saying “No” to adults or testing limits, such as hitting or throwing. This behaviour and acting out can increase during the divorce process as a result of confused boundaries and definitions in the family environment. Toddlers need clear, consistent rules (back to consistency!) that are enforced in a loving way. Empathy Toddlers don’t have a very developed sense of empathy and tend to be concerned primarily with how their own needs are to be met. In the event of divorce, their sense of security becomes more self-oriented and their concern is about whether or not they will be secure, if they will be loved and nourished. Emotions As your toddler becomes more aware of their own feelings, they learn to express them through words and play. As tensions increase in the household due to impending divorce, they may become more reactive. Strong feelings are hard for them to manage and moderate. Don’t forget to let them know that its ok to feel them, but remember to help them manage the intensity by proper displays of your own emotional state, as well as appropriate levels of affection and understanding towards your child. Why do divorce rates increase? There are several reasons that have been put forward as to why there could be an increase in the number of divorces being seen. Here are just a few! Time of year There is a commonly recognised trend that causes a spike in divorce numbers around January and February. The assumption here is that partners who are already discontent often reach a decisive point after having to spend prolonged holidays with their partners over the festive season. This seems to galvanise many into initiating divorce proceedings in the New Year. Empowerment With the increase in awareness of rights according to the constitution of South Africa, more women have become more empowered and are less likely to remain in abusive or undesirable relationships. In the past, many women would remain in unhappy relationships as they felt that they did not have another option, but in current times, a better degree of knowledge and understanding of women’s’ rights could be contributing to the rise of divorce. No-fault divorce South African law provides for no-fault divorce based on the “irretrievable breakdown” of the marital relationship. Couples no longer need to prove that one person is at fault. They can simply say that the marriage relationship has broken down. In essence, it has become much easier to secure a divorce on clear and available legal grounds, with less procedure than in the past. Traditional roles In the past, traditional roles played a strong part in maintaining the marital unit. Partners did not question their lot in the marriage as openly and as a result, there was less open conflict. This is not to say that there was more happiness, merely less interpersonal disagreement. With the blurring of the definition of these roles, there is a rise in open disagreement, ending too often in divorce. Greater social acceptance In certain cultural groups in South Africa, divorce has long held an extremely shameful cloud over the divorcee, especially for the former wife. This has resulted in shunning and community abandonment, which served to discourage others from initiating proceedings. The more accepting the societies become of the concept; the more individuals are willing to pursue it as a route out of an undesirable marriage. Less guilt It is not uncommon these days for couples to wait 10 years before having children. As a result, many do not feel the same degree of guilt over “breaking up” the family unit, or over causing children distress. The disclaimer “at least there aren’t kids involved” can be heard echoing through the divorce courts.

November 17, 2025

Kids Behaving Badly When Mom’s In Charge

First of all, it’s not just moms. It seems to be whoever the female primary caregiver is; grandmothers, stepmoms, foster moms, adoptive moms and others. Believe it or not, when you learn what causes this, you may feel delighted that it happens to you. Here’s a typical scenario; the kids are home with mom and she begins finding it difficult to get their cooperation. Meltdowns are occurring and someone’s having a fit. Suddenly, dad arrives and the mood of the kids changes instantly. They run to greet him at the door and seem delighted to see him. He even gives them some instructions and they seem to comply. Immediately, his wife feels resentful that they are suddenly behaving completely different than they were just moments before he walked into the house. The meltdowns have subsided and the tantrums have disappeared. She may even be feeling angry toward him for suddenly getting smiles, laughter and cooperation. I’ve even witnessed this transition in reverse. The setting is the preschool classroom in which the child is playing contently or cooperating with the teacher. Then, mom arrives to pick up her child from school and the child runs to greet mom. She’s distracted on her cell phone or begins conversing with the teachers, and in an instant, the child throws himself down on the floor and a tantrum begins. The mystery around this behavior change has to do with the effect the mother, or the primary female caregiver, has on her child at the moment. Her presence creates an atmosphere of comfort and safety that is conducive to the child revealing the true emotions they may be feeling at the moment. In other words, the child feels safe enough to share what they are feeling deep inside. Unfortunately, few moms know this and mistakenly take the child’s actions, words or behaviors personal. She then gets sucked into the emotions the child is feeling and soon power struggles and arguments get triggered as she attempts to get her needs met in the moment. An important solution to this frustrating problem was offered in the famous book by author and speaker Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, and then later, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families. The 5th habit is to seek first to understand, then be understood. In other words, if you desire cooperation from your child in a moment when it appears you’re not going to get it, take the time to see the moment from the child’s perspective. Through your own silence, observation and open ended questions, determine what your child needs in the moment and satisfy them.

November 12, 2025

How to raise a problem solver

Are you as worried as I am about the children of the new generations and their ability to solve problems? With the increase in the number of helicopter parents (parents who “swoop” in to make everything all better) and a generation of highly sensitive kids, how well are our children going to be able to identify and solve their own problems? This isn’t actually a new problem but it seems to be getting worse. Many years ago I taught college courses part time and it was back then that I noticed an increase in the number of parents coming to see me during my office hours, complaining about the grade I gave their young adult child. Instructors today tell me it’s gotten even worse, with some parents even popping in to see the class for themselves. Making the commitment to raising your children to become problem solvers first requires that you accept the fact that every problem can only have one owner. That person must be held responsible for solving the problem but can certainly seek out and incorporate help from others around him or her to solve the problem. If your teenager puts a dent in the family car, she owns that dent. She may obviously need help in getting it fixed, but she still owns it. To begin with, every time your child or teen comes to you with a problem, you must first determine yourself whether your child owns the problem or you own the problem. If you own the problem, take immediate measures to solve it quickly. If your child owns the problem, be ready to help him or her solve the problem. The following incident is an example to learn by. My son came running into the house one Saturday, holding his arm and complaining about a small abrasion from a fall he took out in the yard. A quick examination of the boo-boo and a few questions left me feeling confident that there was no internal damage and there really wasn’t any blood that I could see. Because I did not feel that there was anything I needed to do that my child couldn’t do for himself, it became his problem to fix. I first acknowledged that the minor scrape was a problem for him by saying to him, “It looks like your arm might hurt.” He nodded. I then helped him begin problem solving by saying to him, “What do you think you could do to make that arm feel better?” My coaching him to solve the problem felt uncomfortable to him so he said, “You’re my Dad, YOU do something.” I replied with, “You’re right, I am your Dad and I’ve always done things in the past, but this time, I want to know what YOU think you can do to make that arm stop hurting.” Instantly, my son said to me, “Can we wash it off and put a bandage on it?” I replied with a smile, “What a great idea! I could help by getting the box of bandages down from the cabinet for you.” Within a matter of minutes and of course, with some “Ouches!” he washed the boo-boo and applied the bandage, and off he ran to continue his play outside. Today that young man is in his early 20s and solving problems every day as a much sought after restaurant manager! Let your children and teens solve their own problems with your guidance and coaching, while you’re nearby to help them do it. What problems will YOU begin letting your child solve on his or her own today?

November 12, 2025

Decoding Baby Eczema

For many South African parents, few things are more stressful than watching their baby’s delicate skin flare up with redness, dryness, or tiny itchy patches. Baby eczema, also called atopic dermatitis, affects up to 1 in 5 children worldwide — and while it’s common, it can leave parents feeling worried and overwhelmed. But the good news is, with the right skincare routine, baby eczema is manageable. And no, it doesn’t mean your little one will always struggle with sensitive skin. “Parents are often surprised to learn that baby eczema is not a sign that they’re doing something wrong,” says Karen Van Rensburg, spokesperson for Sanosan South Africa. “It’s a common skin condition linked to an underdeveloped skin barrier, and the key is to protect and strengthen that barrier with gentle care.” Baby eczema usually shows up between two and six months of age. It can appear on the face, behind the ears, on the arms, legs, or even the chest. The skin becomes dry, red, itchy and, in some cases, scaly. “Triggers vary,” explains Van Rensburg. “It could be heat, dry air, soaps with harsh ingredients, or even certain fabrics. Understanding what sparks your baby’s flare-ups is an important step in managing the condition.” So what can parents do at home? Here are some dermatologist-approved tips: 1. Keep baths short and sweet Stick to lukewarm water and limit bath time to 5–10 minutes. Avoid bubble baths and fragranced soaps. 2. Moisturise immediately after bathing Lock in hydration by applying a fragrance-free, gentle moisturiser while your baby’s skin is still slightly damp. 3. Choose your products wisely Opt for creams specifically designed for sensitive baby skin. Look for formulas enriched with natural oils, chamomile, or panthenol — like those found in Sanosan’s baby skincare range. 4. Watch the wardrobe Dress your baby in soft, breathable cotton and avoid scratchy fabrics like wool. Always wash new clothes before wearing. 5. Spot and soothe flare-ups early At the first sign of redness or irritation, apply a gentle, protective cream to calm the skin. 6. Don’t overheat the room Babies with eczema are often sensitive to heat. Keep the nursery cool and use a humidifier if the air feels very dry. 7. See a healthcare professional when needed If the rash is severe, infected, or your baby seems very uncomfortable, always seek medical advice. “Parents sometimes think stronger products will ‘fix’ eczema faster,” says Van Rensburg. “But baby skin is incredibly delicate. Harsh ingredients strip away natural oils and make things worse. Gentle, consistent care is far more effective in the long run.” Baby eczema can feel daunting, but with the right care and patience, most little ones outgrow it as their skin barrier matures. In the meantime, gentle skincare, lots of cuddles, and a watchful eye on triggers can make the world of difference. “Think of it as supporting your baby’s skin while it learns to protect itself,” Van Rensburg adds. “You’re not just treating eczema — you’re helping build a healthy foundation for life.” Sanosan focuses on natural ingredients and gentle formulas for healthy skin. Using active ingredients specially tailored to your baby’s skin, natural milk protein is the central ingredient in Sanosan and is especially nourishing. More than 90 % of the ingredients are of natural origin such as organic olive oil, and the formulations are biodegradable. Safety first: all products are clinically tested and are free from parabens, silicones, paraffins, SLS / SLES and phenoxyethanol. For more info visit sanosan.co.za

November 11, 2025

Supporting families facing bullying with a viable alternative

The recent Milnerton High School incident has pushed a hard truth into the spotlight: for many children, bullying is unfortunately not a once-off event, but a daily reality. Parliamentary oversight members who visited the Milnerton school recently spoke of a “culture of bullying” in many schools across the country, and highlighted the absence of comprehensive anti-bullying policies and adequate psychosocial support – all concerns that resonate with many parents. At Impaq, we recognise that families should not have to choose between safety and learning. If a child’s wellbeing is at risk, home education provides a recognised pathway while keeping academic standards intact. “Children deserve to feel protected and confident in their learning environment in order to learn, and not have to worry about bullying or other issues they may face to be able to thrive,” says Louise Schoonwinkel, MD at Optimi Schooling, of which Impaq is a registered trademark. “This is why families explore various options, including home education and online schooling, to provide an environment that is conducive to learning.” What an alternative route changes practically A move to home or distance education changes three things at once: Social development still matters – here’s how it works A common misconception is that leaving a school campus means losing social growth. In practice, families curate safe social touchpoints such as community sport and arts, structured study groups, volunteering, or faith-based youth programmes. Impaq also celebrate big milestone events, and recently hosted two matric farewells for more than 600 home and online learners. Coping strategies Bullying has severe implications for your child’s mental health. If your child is struggling with anxiety issues, due to bullying, some coping strategies can help ease your child’s fears, including: “The aim isn’t to ‘opt out’ of education and take a child out of school immediately,” Schoonwinkel emphasises. “Rather, we advise families to choose a pathway that protects learning and dignity at the same time. When the environment improves, many families are so happy that they choose to stay and continue with homeschooling, while others choose to re-enter a mainstream school. Both are valid options – it just means that families at least feel they have options, they are not alone, and they don’t have to be stuck in a difficult situation.” A reassurance to families “If your child is in distress, you do not have to wait for an incident to occur before making the decision to home educate your child,” Schoonwinkel concludes. “Homeschooling is a credible, practical option, and for many families it has been the turning point. We see learners who chose an alternative mode of education regain stability, rebuild their confidence, and engage deeply with their work.” Explore alternative options to create a thriving environment for your child. Impaq’s registrations for 2026 are open – reach out to the team for more information.

November 11, 2025

How to choose the right medical cover in 2026

As medical schemes unveil their 2026 product ranges, South Africans face a recurring challenge. Too many options, too much jargon and the risk of choosing a plan that doesn’t fit is a reality many medical aid seekers are all too familiar with. With contribution increases averaging between 8% and 9% across the industry, getting the right balance between affordability and protection is more important than ever. “Medical aid should feel like a safety net, not a financial burden,” says Lee Callakoppen, Principal Officer at Bonitas Medical Fund. “The key is choosing a plan that works for your life and unique circumstances and understandably this is where most people get stuck.” Step one: Understand your health reality Before comparing plans, take stock of you and your family’s healthcare needs. A young, healthy individual may manage well with a hospital plan, while a family or someone living with a chronic condition may need comprehensive cover. Consider whether you rely on chronic medication, how often you see a doctor, and whether you have any upcoming procedures. Industry trends show that schemes are tailoring their products to different life stages. For instance, Bonitas’ 2026 range introduces BonCore, a digitally enabled hospital plan with day-to-day GP funding aimed at younger members, and BonPrime, which adds a savings component to improve flexibility. These reflect a broader move towards personalisation and digital access in medical aid. Step two: Compare hospital plans and comprehensive cover Many South Africans still misunderstand the difference between these two main options. Hospital plans cover costs only once you are admitted, while comprehensive plans include day-to-day benefits such as GP visits, medication, dentistry and optometry. Cheaper hospital plans might seem appealing but can lead to high out-of-pocket expenses for everyday care. Comprehensive cover, although pricier, may provide better long-term value. Step three: Check provider networks and access to care Not all medical aids give you access to the same hospitals, doctors, or specialists. Before signing up, confirm that your preferred healthcare providers are part of the scheme’s network, especially if you live outside major cities. Using out-of-network doctors often results in co-payments or full out-of-pocket charges. In 2026, several schemes have expanded digital health access, allowing members to consult virtually or through telemedicine platforms. “Bonitas has strengthened its virtual care options and preventative screening network to support early detection and intervention,” says Callakoppen, an approach gaining traction across the sector. Step four: Understand premiums, co-payments and limits It’s tempting to focus only on the monthly premium, but every plan structures its benefits differently. Some lower-priced options carry higher co-payments or strict limits on certain treatments, such as maternity, dentistry or mental health. Reading the benefit guide closely can help avoid unpleasant surprises later. “Out-of-pocket costs can add up quickly,” says Callakoppen. “We’ve seen how members who only compare premiums often end up paying more in the long run.” Bonitas’ own 2026 increases average 8.8%, with certain plans kept below that to maintain accessibility, reflecting broader industry efforts to balance affordability and sustainability. Step five: Consider additional benefits and value-added services Wellness and preventative benefits are becoming central to private healthcare. Schemes are expanding offerings such as mental health support, maternity benefits and chronic disease programmes, with many also providing access to virtual consultations and wellness apps that reward healthy living. One in three South Africans is likely to experience a mental health condition in their lifetime, which has driven several funds to increase cover in this area. For example, Bonitas has made depression a covered chronic condition and now offers access to mental health support via the October Health app. While these value-added services shouldn’t replace core cover, they can make a noticeable difference in daily wellbeing and encourage proactive healthcare management. Step six: Review your cover regularly Life changes and your medical aid should too. Whether you’re planning to start a family, switch jobs or are managing a new condition, reviewing your plan each year ensures it still fits your needs. A registered broker can help compare plans across different schemes, and their services are free to consumers. “Too many people stay locked into outdated plans because switching feels overwhelming,” says Callakoppen. “It’s worth taking the time to reassess to ensure your cover evolves as your circumstances do.” As the 2026 medical aid season is in full swing, the choice can feel daunting. But a little homework and the right expert advice can turn it into an empowering process. Understanding your health needs, your budget and how benefits actually work will help you make a decision that provides real peace of mind.

November 10, 2025

Making Play Meaningful: Simple Ways to Connect and Support Your Baby’s Development Through Everyday Moments

Picture this: the kettle is boiling, your baby is wriggling on the mat, and you start humming a tune without thinking. They look up, catch your eye, and smile. In that tiny moment, something extraordinary is happening inside their brain. What’s happening in that shared glance is pure brain magic. When your baby locks eyes with you and responds to your tune, their brain is busy wiring up networks for language, emotional regulation, and social connection. The rhythm of your voice activates their auditory and emotional centres, while the shared gaze triggers the “social brain” – regions like the prefrontal cortex and temporal areas that help us understand and respond to others. At the same time, tiny bursts of oxytocin (the bonding hormone) strengthen feelings of safety and connection. These repeated micro-moments literally shape how their brain grows – laying the foundations for communication, trust, and learning later on. So that simple sing-song moment isn’t small at all; it’s brain-building in action. The most powerful developmental tools aren’t found in expensive toys or perfectly planned sensory activities. They’re tucked into your daily routines — the nappy changes, the kitchen chats, the songs you hum in the car. As a neurodevelopmental paediatrician, I see it every day: everyday moments build extraordinary children, if they are deliberate and consistent. Its similar to “focusses” on the working muscle group in the gym. Setting an intention for an interaction rather than mindlessly rolling through routines makes all the difference. And with little ones it’s so easy – you just to switch on your awareness. Why Everyday Moments Matter From birth, your baby’s brain is making millions of new connections every second. These connections strengthen through repeated, emotionally warm experiences. When you respond to your baby’s gaze, mirror their coos, or share a laugh, you’re not just bonding – you’re laying down the neural architecture for everything that follows. These early interactions shape circuits for social connection, language, sensory processing, and self-regulation. They form the brain’s blueprint for how to love, learn, and engage with the world. The Four Developmental Domains Play is not a single skill – it’s the intersection of multiple areas of development. Understanding these domains helps parents notice growth in the everyday. Turning the Ordinary into Extraordinary 1. Talk Your Day Your voice is your baby’s favourite sound. Narrate what you’re doing in a warm, rhythmic tone. “I’m opening the cupboard. Here’s the red cup!” This simple running commentary builds vocabulary and helps your baby make sense of their world. 2. Pause and Wait After a sound, expression, or gesture — stop. Give your baby a beat to respond with a coo, a smile, a gaze. These back-and-forth forms the foundation of conversation. The pause is where the magic happens. 3. Everyday Objects are the Best Toys A spoon becomes a drumstick. A box, a racing car. A towel, a game of peek‑a‑boo. When you follow your baby’s curiosity, you’re sparking problem‑solving, motor skills, and creativity – no batteries required. 4. Engage All the Senses Let your baby feel warm water, smell cinnamon, watch leaves dance in the wind. These safe, predictable sensory adventures teach the brain how to organise information – a critical skill for emotional regulation and attention later on. 5. Routines as Rituals Bedtime, feeding, getting dressed – these can become emotional anchors. A little rhyme, a predictable song, the same gentle sequence each time. Repetition isn’t boring for a baby – it’s how their brain wires for security and learning. When to Play: Natural Windows You don’t need hour‑long sessions or complicated setups. The magic is in short, meaningful bursts sprinkled through the day: Two or three minutes of attuned, joyful interaction repeated throughout the day creates a powerful cumulative effect. Connection Over Perfection Babies don’t need flashcards. They need you. Your face, your voice, your presence. Some days will be messy. You’ll be tired. You’ll miss moments. That’s okay, and it’s the most appropriate developmental mirror for your little one. Through your normal range of emotions, your child will learn to be comfortable with the full spectrum of what it means to be human. What matters is the overall pattern of warmth and responsiveness, even when we are not our best selves. Regulated variability keeps babies interested. Take-Home Tips In Summary Every cuddle, glance, song, and playful moment is sculpting your baby’s brain. When play is woven into daily life, it becomes effortless, and profoundly impactful. You don’t have to do more. You just have to be present.

November 10, 2025

Co-Sleeping, Cribs, or Sleep Training — What Works Best?

If there’s one topic guaranteed to spark debate at every baby shower, moms-and-tots group, or family WhatsApp chat, it’s sleep. Should babies co-sleep in the family bed? Should they start in a crib from day one? And what about sleep training — is it kind, or is it cruel? Ask ten parents, and you’ll likely get ten different answers. But what do the experts say, and how do these choices affect a baby’s development long-term? “Sleep is such an emotional subject because it affects the whole family,” says Sr Londe, independent midwife and trusted advisor to Vital Baby South Africa. “There’s no one-size-fits-all solution. What’s important is balancing safety, bonding, and rest — for both baby and parents.” Option 1: Co-Sleeping Co-sleeping — sharing a bed with your baby — is popular worldwide, especially in cultures that value close family bonds. Many parents say it makes night feeds easier and helps babies feel secure. Pros: Promotes bonding, easier breastfeeding, may help babies settle faster.Cons: Safety concerns (risk of suffocation or overheating), disrupted sleep for parents, harder to transition baby to their own bed later. Sr Londe explains: “If parents choose to co-sleep, it’s vital to follow safety guidelines — like keeping pillows and blankets away from the baby and ensuring no one in the bed has consumed alcohol or medication that causes drowsiness.” Option 2: Crib or Cot Sleeping Many sleep experts recommend placing babies in their own crib or cot in the parents’ room for the first six months. This offers closeness without the risks of bed-sharing. Pros: Lower risk of suffocation, easier for parents to move freely, sets early sleep boundaries.Cons: Night feeds may feel more disruptive, some babies resist being apart from mom. “Room-sharing in a crib is a safe and balanced choice,” says Sr Londe. “It allows for quick response at night while giving baby a dedicated, safe sleep space.” Option 3: Sleep Training Sleep training methods range from gentle routines (like bedtime rituals and gradual settling) to structured approaches (like controlled crying). The goal is to help babies learn to fall asleep on their own. Pros: Can improve sleep quality for the whole family, helps babies develop self-soothing skills.Cons: Controversial, as some parents worry about stress or attachment issues. Sr Londe notes: “When done gently and consistently, sleep training can be effective and doesn’t damage the parent-child bond. It’s about finding the right approach for your baby’s temperament and your family’s values.” Here’s the secret: there is no single “best” method. What works for one family may be unthinkable for another. The golden rules? “Parents often feel pressured by what they read online or hear from relatives,” says Sr Londe. “But the truth is, the best sleep method is the one that keeps baby safe and allows your family to function with as much rest as possible.” Research shows that babies can thrive whether they co-sleep, crib-sleep, or sleep-train — as long as their emotional and physical needs are met. What matters most is a loving, responsive environment. “Don’t get stuck in the comparison game,” Sr Londe adds. “Your baby’s sleep journey will be unique — and that’s okay.”

November 10, 2025

5 Minute Learning Games for Busy Parents

Fun and educational ideas that need no prep Introduction As a parent of a preschooler, finding time for learning can feel impossible when you’re juggling work, routines, and daily life. The good news is that meaningful learning doesn’t require long sessions or special materials. Short, playful five-minute activities can help children build essential skills in language, mathematics, memory, and social interaction. Research confirms that play is one of the most powerful ways children learn and grow both intellectually and emotionally. 👉Learn more about the power of play from HealthyChildren.org Below you’ll find six quick, fun learning games that need no prep and no pressure — perfect for busy parents. 1. I Spy the Letter Supports: Letter recognition, sound awareness, and vocabulary How to Play: Why It Works: Spotting beginning sounds strengthens early reading skills. Tip: Stick to simple, familiar sounds like /b/, /s/, or /m/. 2. Count the Steps Supports: Number sense, counting, and coordination How to Play: Why It Works: Everyday movement builds number awareness. 👉MIT study on preschoolers learning from math games Tip: Add fun by counting jumps, hops, or claps. 3. Sound Hunt Supports: Listening skills, sound recognition, and vocabulary How to Play: Why It Works: Focusing on beginning sounds helps children tune into how words are built. 👉More preschool games on CLCFC.org Tip: Challenge older children to find as many items as they can in 30 seconds. 4. Messy Memory Supports: Memory, attention, and observation How to Play: Why It Works: Recall games strengthen short-term memory and focus. 👉Cambridge University: The importance of play and games Tip: Use everyday items to make the activity familiar and easy. 5. Rhyme Time Rapid Supports: Language development and early reading skills How to Play: Why It Works: Recognizing rhymes builds a foundation for phonics and reading success. Tip: Begin with easy pairs like “sun/fun” and celebrate all attempts. 6. The Big Talk Box Supports: Vocabulary growth, confidence, and communication How to Play: Why It Works: Meaningful talk helps children expand vocabulary and develop social-emotional understanding. Tip: Use open-ended questions like “Why do you think that?” Why These Mini Games Work Tips for Parents Final Thoughts You don’t need fancy materials or long lessons to help your child learn. With just a few minutes of play each day, you can nurture curiosity, strengthen your bond, and build the foundation for lifelong learning. Each giggle, rhyme, and “I Spy” moment you share helps your child grow in confidence, creativity, and joy.

November 6, 2025

Take Family Fun to New Heights with Acrobranch

If you’re looking for a way to swap screen time for real-life adventure, Acrobranch is your ticket to an unforgettable outdoor experience for the whole family. Set among the trees in scenic natural locations across South Africa, Acrobranch offers a chance for kids (3 yrs+) and adults to climb, swing and zipline their way through thrilling obstacle courses – all while surrounded by fresh air, laughter, and nature. It’s not just playtime – it’s confidence-building, team-strengthening and memory-making all-in-one. What Is Acrobranch? Acrobranch is South Africa’s ultimate treetop adventure park, with over 15 years of experience bringing families closer to nature in the most exciting way possible. With 12 parks across Gauteng, KwaZulu-Natal, the Western Cape and the North West, each site offers unique obstacle courses designed for different ages and ability levels. Why Parents Love It In a world where kids are glued to screens and parents are constantly looking for ways to encourage outdoor play, Acrobranch is a breath of fresh air – quite literally. It’s an outing that gets the entire family active and laughing together. Here’s why it’s become one of South Africa’s most-loved family activities: What to Expect Each Acrobranch park features a variety of adventure courses suspended between trees, offering 2 hours of heart-pumping excitement. You’ll climb rope ladders, balance across bridges and fly through the air on zip lines – all safely harnessed and supervised. The courses are colour-coded to suit different ages and comfort levels: Safety First, Always Acrobranch takes safety seriously. Each visitor is fitted with a certified harness and connected to a continuous belay system – meaning you’re securely attached to the safety line, from start to finish. Before starting, instructors guide everyone through a detailed safety briefing and demonstration. Staff are stationed on every course, ready to assist and cheer you on when you need it most. The Perfect Spot for Parties and Events Beyond family outings, Acrobranch has become a popular venue for kids’ birthday parties, school outings, and corporate team-building days. Parks offer picnic spots and shaded areas where groups can relax and celebrate after their adventure. Some locations even have nearby cafés or catering options for added convenience. Popular events include: Find a Park Near You You’ll find Acrobranch parks scattered across South Africa’s most beautiful settings – from lush forests to scenic gardens and farms: Gauteng: Melrose | Centurion (Big Red Barn) | Modderfontein | Casalinga | Garsfontein (Tierpoort) | Pretoria NorthKwaZulu-Natal: Hillcrest (Morewood Farm & Activity Centre) | Pietermaritzburg (KZN Botanical Gardens)Western Cape: Constantia | Stellenbosch (Klein Joostenberg Farm) | Garden Route (Timberlake Village)North West: Rustenburg (The Rainhill Farm) Adventure Awaits So, if you’ve been searching for a family activity that’s exciting, safe and completely unique, Acrobranch is the perfect fit. It’s where kids discover bravery, parents reconnect with their inner child and everyone leaves with that unbeatable “I did it!” feeling. Special – Acrobranch Family Package at R 800 in total What the deal includes:– Any course selection for up to 4 people (Min. 1 Adult & 1 x Child under 18 yrs)– Climbing gloves for 4 More kiddos? No problem – add them at the normal p/p rates Book your next adventure today and experience South Africa’s most thrilling treetop playground. Call 021 201 1121Visit www.acrobranch.co.za

November 5, 2025

Discover the Future of Kids’ Safety and Connectivity — Meet the Freedom 2

It’s a Saturday morning at a bustling shopping mall in Johannesburg. Little Thando, full of curiosity, wanders off while his mom browses the toy aisle. In seconds, panic sets in — that heart-stopping moment every parent dreads. But unlike most stories, this one ends differently. Thando’s mom opens the Freedom 2 app, taps “Locate”, and within moments, she sees his exact position — just outside a nearby store. Relief floods over her as she spots him, still holding his ice cream, completely unaware of the worry he caused. In a country like South Africa, where safety is always top of mind, the Freedom 2 isn’t just a gadget — it’s peace of mind on your child’s wrist. With increasing concerns about public safety, this smartwatch gives parents a practical way to stay connected and prevent tragedy before it happens. ✅ Why the Freedom 2 is a Must-Have If you’re looking to give your child both freedom and safety, the Freedom 2 by Fabulously Fit is a standout. Designed with parents and kids in mind, this smart watch blends advanced technology with kid-friendly features — providing peace of mind for you and fun for them. 1. Stay Connected Anytime, Anywhere With full 4G support, the Freedom 2 enables 2-way voice calls, video calls, text messaging, and even WhatsApp — letting your child reach you instantly, and you keep tabs on them with ease. 2. Precision GPS Tracking for Added Safety This smartwatch uses GPS + AGPS + LBS + WiFi to track your child’s position with 5–15 metre accuracy. Set up geo-fences — get alerts when your child enters or leaves a safe zone. Review their route playback. Activate an SOS alert if they need help. All this gives you real-time confidence. 3. Dual Cameras, Smart Tools & Kid-Friendly Features Your child can snap photos or make video calls with a dual-camera setup. The watch also includes smart tools: WhatsApp, MP4 player, voice recorder, class-schedule tracker, math games — blending safety with learning and fun. 4. Durable Performance & Long Battery Life Built on Android 4.4 with 2 GB RAM + 4 GB ROM, a Nano-SIM slot for connectivity, and a robust 1 000 mAh polymer battery. It also features a 1.69″ IPS colour touchscreen (240×280 pixels) and modes for vibration, voice or silent notification — ideal for in-class use without distraction. 5. Designed with Kids in Mind A “No Disturb” mode ensures the watch won’t interrupt learning time. A pedometer and sleep monitor support wellness tracking. Remote monitor and remote shutdown features let you discreetly check that everything’s okay. 🎯 Why It Matters for Your Family Modern parenting comes with a tough dilemma — you want your child to stay connected and safe, but you don’t want to hand them a smartphone too soon. Too much screen time, access to social media, and unrestricted internet exposure can harm focus, sleep, and emotional wellbeing. The Freedom 2 offers the perfect balance. It gives parents the ability to call, message, and locate their child instantly — without placing a smartphone in their hands. Your child gets independence and responsibility; you get reassurance and control. It’s connection with boundaries — the healthy middle ground every family needs. 🛍 Get Yours Now Available in Blue, Pink, and Black, the Freedom 2 is ready to become your child’s everyday companion. Shop now at Be a Boffin

November 4, 2025

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