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The importance of career guidance early in high school

Many students reach senior high, or even Matric and beyond, without knowing what career they would like to pursue after school. Unfortunately, leaving this planning too late can cause great stress for both parents and students, and will likely limit one’s potential options, an education expert says. This is why early career guidance is vital during the early high school years – firstly to determine a student’s passion and purpose, and then to align their high school path to future qualification opportunities. “Career guidance allows students to be fully informed about their choices, and to make strategic decisions that will broaden their opportunities and set them up for success throughout their academic journey and career,” says Dr Bronwyn Le Ann Batchelor, Head of Faculty: Law at The Independent Institute of Education, SA’s leading private higher education provider. “While many parents and guardians adopt a ‘wait-and-see’ approach, the reality is that insufficient early exposure to relevant career guidance puts students at risk of making ill- or even misinformed education and career choices. Without adequate awareness of their abilities, potential opportunities, and the structural challenges to employment, the challenges of transitioning to higher education and the world of work can become daunting,” Dr Batchelor says that having a clear idea of one’s general future direction, helps students establish the path towards a meaningful career, as well as find purpose in their school studies. “Once you know what qualifications will be required for your future career field, you can then work your way back to ensure you pursue the correct subjects and perform in line with the entry requirements at higher education institutions. “For example, if you want to enter a legal career and ultimately become a lawyer – whether an attorney or an advocate – it is important to know that the only qualification that allows this progress is the Bachelor of Laws (LLB) degree. Students who are not adequately informed may incorrectly believe that they can enter a legal career with a Bachelor of Commerce in Law or a Bachelor of Arts in Law. Although these degrees allow further progression and articulation to a Bachelor of Laws (LLB) degree, it is only the Bachelor of Laws (LLB) degree that would allow ultimate entry into the legal profession.” Staying with the legal example, students who aspire to run their own law firm and have been given proper guidance will know that it may be necessary to opt for a longer study route to ensure they obtain all the necessary entrepreneurial, business, management, and legal subject matter expertise. This could include completing a Bachelor of Commerce in Law first and after that pursuing a Bachelor of Law “A career is more than just a job; it is a lifetime pursuit that provides fulfilment, purpose, and financial stability. The importance of choosing a career lies in its ability to provide direction and focus for your life goals and aspirations,” says Dr Batchelor. “In high school, students are often only aware of the popular and common career choices or those which their social circle or family are associated with, whereas there are many more career opportunities in today’s working world with this list growing daily.” Career guidance normally begins with an assessment of a student’s skills, interests, and strengths. This information is then used to identify potential career paths that may be a good fit. A career counsellor may provide information about various occupations, such as job requirements, growth potential, and earning potential. They may also help students explore education and training options and offer advice on how to gain relevant work experience. “The good news is that career guidance is accessible to everyone,” says Dr Batchelor. “Any reputable higher education institution will have a career guidance or counselling office. We therefore encourage students to make an appointment and consult with a counsellor as early on in their high school education as possible, in order to ensure that they are fully equipped to make subject choice decisions that align with the entry requirements into the qualification they need to fulfil their academic and career aspirations.”

November 8, 2024

Premature birth – what to expect

Expecting a baby is an exciting time of your life, and you want to make sure that you do as much as you can to make sure your new child is as healthy as possible. Premature birth is something you want to try to avoid or manage as carefully as possible. In many cases the cause is unknown, and according to The World Health Organisation, one in ten babies are born preterm. A birth is considered premature when a baby is born before the 37th week of pregnancy. The final few weeks in the womb are important to your baby’s full development, so being born prematurely can lead to longer hospital stays, short term, and long term complications. Why does it happen? Some of the more common risk factors which contribute to preterm births are having had a premature birth before, you’re pregnant with twins/multiples or you have issues with your uterus or cervix. However, often the cause of preterm birth often can’t be identified. Your health is also a factor that impacts on your likelihood to have your baby prematurely. Smoking during your pregnancy (which is not recommended), diabetes, high blood pressure (which can develop into preeclampsia) and being over or under weight are all potential premature birth causes. To try and avoid preterm birth you can talk to your doctor about any existing health issues, such as depression, diabetes or high blood pressure) before getting pregnant – this way you can manage any problems with a treatment plan. Waiting 12 months between pregnancies and eating healthy (making sure that you get the correct prenatal vitamins needed) can also help prevent premature birth. What if my baby is born preterm? If your baby is born prematurely they are at risk for long and short term complications. Many preterm babies lead completely healthy lives, however, the more premature and underdeveloped your baby is when they are born, the more likely they are to have issues. If your baby is born prematurely they may be put into a neonatal intensive care unit into an incubator. Some babies will spend longer in the unit than others, this all depends on when they are able to live without medical support.

November 8, 2024

ZURU Brings the Ultimate Outdoor Toys for a Fun-Filled Summer

Get Ready for a Summer of Adventure with ZURU’s XSHOT, Bunch O Balloons, and Robo Alive As the warm summer months approach, ZURU is excited to introduce the perfect lineup of outdoor toys designed to make this season unforgettable. Whether it’s backyard water fights, eco-friendly water balloon battles, or thrilling robotic creatures, ZURU has something for everyone. With their innovative range, families can gear up for endless fun in the sun, making the most of every moment outdoors. XSHOT Electric Water Blaster: The Ultimate Water Fight Companion The XSHOT Electric Water Blaster is a must-have for any summer adventure. With its advanced electric mechanism, this water blaster takes water fights to the next level by allowing kids to fire continuously without the need for manual pumping. Offering powerful performance, it boasts a long-range water stream of up to 29m and a high-capacity tank, perfect for those extended water battles. “The XSHOT Electric Water Blaster is a game-changer in the outdoor toy market. Its electric power makes it easy for kids to use, and the fun never stops thanks to its incredible water capacity,” says Glenn Ambrose, ZURU’s Country Manager. “Parents love it because it’s durable, while kids are thrilled with its high-tech features.” Bunch O Balloons: Eco-Friendly Fun with Reusable Water Balloons The iconic Bunch O Balloons range continues to lead in the water balloon market with its innovative design that allows for quick filling of up to 100 water balloons in just 60 seconds. For 2024, ZURU is introducing reusable water balloons that are eco-friendly and designed for endless fun. Simply fill, throw, and refill—these balloons reduce plastic waste, making them the perfect choice for environmentally conscious families. “Water balloon fights have never been this fun or easy. With Bunch O Balloons, we’re not only creating memorable moments but also ensuring we reduce environmental impact,” explains Ambrose. “Our reusable balloons are a huge hit with both kids and parents, offering sustainability without sacrificing fun.” The Bunch O Balloons range has proven to be a summer staple, with over 2 billion balloons sold worldwide. Its popularity continues to soar, driven by its convenience and commitment to eco-friendly play. Robo Alive: Bringing Water Activated Outdoor Play to Life For kids who love a little extra adventure, ZURU’s Robo Alive water activated range offers life like robotic creatures that when placed in water come alive, adding an exciting dimension to outdoor play. From a great white shark perfect for the pool, to realistic fish, turtle and a boat, these toys combine outdoor fun with the fascination of robotics. Ambrose adds, “Robo Alive is perfect for kids who want something unique and interactive. Our robotic creatures move just like real animals, capturing the imagination of children while keeping them active outdoors.” Innovative Play, Unforgettable Fun ZURU continues to lead the toy industry with its cutting-edge innovations and commitment to high-quality play experiences. According to global market trends, outdoor toys, particularly water-based products, have seen a 30% increase in demand, as families increasingly seek out active, outdoor activities for their children. The XSHOT, Bunch O Balloons, and Robo Alive ranges are designed to keep kids engaged, active, and entertained throughout the summer season. “As we approach the festive season, these toys will undoubtedly be on the top of every child’s wish list,” concludes Ambrose. “They offer exciting, innovative ways for kids to play outside, and parents can feel good knowing they’re choosing products that are both fun and sustainable.” Available at leading toy retailers nationwide.

November 7, 2024

Blushproof® Q & A

As a local manufacturer of period panties, we thought we’d answer some common questions about our business just to explain who we are and what we do. Q: How long has Blushproof® been in operation? Blushproof® started as an idea in September 2020, with our first sales being in August 2021. I have a tween daughter at junior school and so was thinking about her, and her friends’ introduction to puberty and my own experiences. I had also seen some of the alternative menstrual products that were being offered overseas. This coincided with an increased awareness of environmental issues after learning that each person uses approximately 14,000 pads and tampons during their menstrual years, which all end up in landfills and water systems. Q: Who founded Blushproof®? I, Thandi Hartmann, founded the company. I’m married with two children, living in Johannesburg. I obtained a B.Comm in the 1990s and later did a MBA to support me working in a number of corporates in Johannesburg and London. Shortly after having children, I took the decision to step back from my career to focus on raising my family. In 2020 (that COVID time where we all had lots of time on our hands!) I came across period panties and was amazed that such a wonderful alternative existed. I knew this was something I wanted to bring to the girls and women of South Africa. Q: How has Blushproof® expanded over the years? In 2020 I explored the topic of the menstrual product options for young girls and women and thought about what matters to them, as well as the issues that are relevant in South Africa at this time. I started thinking that period panties could be an effective solution – easy to use whilst having a lower impact on the environment. I also wanted to see if I could help (in some small way) to create jobs in our country. Finally, I believed that period panties could play a role in fighting “period poverty” by providing cost effective solutions to girls and women with limited means and limited access to other sanitary products. So the challenge started… Whilst I have a strong IT systems background and passion for the product, I had no experience in setting up a clothing manufacturing business. My team and I have learnt as we go and have had to “course correct” a few times along the way. It’s been an exciting journey so far, made possible by the support of friends and family and enabled by the tech world we live in. This has meant that it has been possible to set up Blushproof® as an E-commerce business that sells and delivers directly to consumers nationwide. Q: What is Blushproof’s® approach to creating the best product in the community? I decided that I wanted my business to try its hand at manufacturing locally, so that I could control the product quality and achieve the aim of providing local employment. It’s been exciting for me to design the product range, import the right materials in the right quantities and then produce the Blushproof® period panties that I believe in. Plus, making locally has ensured that our sizing fits our Rainbow Nation, rather than trying to squash uncomfortably into Chinese imports. The fact that we offer exchanges and give outstanding customer service certainly sets us apart from the large retail chains. Q: What new products can customers expect from Blushproof®? This is a tough one. If it were up to me, I’d be creating new products every month but this isn’t the best way to run a business. Our customers have their absolute favourites so I’ve learnt to focus on making what the customers actually want. We’ll certainly look at designing and making gym shorts, pyjama shorts and expand our swim range over time but right now, we’re focusing on what we do best. Q: How does ordering from Blushproof® work? Since our business is primarily online, customers simply go onto our website, choose the products they want, add them to cart and pay. They can choose between collecting from our Joburg workshop or having us ship their blushproofs nationwide. We might look at getting into shops over time but again, we’re focused on our core business for now. Q: Will/does Blushproof® offer any special programs for its customers? When customers sign up on our website for our newsletters, they always get the inside scoop on what’s new and promotional offers from discounts to free goodies to prizes. We love the support we get from our followers and like to reward them when we can. Q: Do you plan on opening any Blushproof® in person stores, or introducing your product in other stores and if so who? I’d love to get to a point where customers can come into our workshop to choose their items and pay right away. Although this already happens to a limited degree (we have to have the right style, size, absorption and colour in stock for this to happen) I’d love to have everything available all of the time. Once we get to this point, I’ll look at possibly getting into a few stores (we actually already sell our products through TigerLilly). It all comes down to whether or not it makes good business sense. Of course we have lots of small business owners already selling our products, like salons and spas, as well as swim schools. I’m being approached more and more by people wanting to expand their product offering and am honoured that they choose to include Blushproof® products. Oh, and we have an Affiliate programme whereby our customers become an affiliate and when someone uses their referral link to make a purchase, that person gets a discount and the affiliate gets a commission. It’s a win-win for everyone! Q: What brings Blushproof® joy? Gosh, I’d have to say it’s the positive reviews and feedback. Our customers truly find our products to be life-changing. That’s really such a wonderful thing to know as a business owner

November 7, 2024

Managing Sibling Rivalry: Strategies to Encourage Cooperation at Home

Sibling rivalry is a natural part of family life, but without proper management, it can become a source of ongoing conflict and tension. Disagreements among siblings are normal and even healthy, as they teach children about sharing, conflict resolution, and emotional regulation. However, it’s important to guide these interactions in positive ways that encourage cooperation and mutual respect. With the right strategies, parents can help turn rivalry into opportunities for personal growth and stronger sibling relationships. Understanding the Root of Sibling Rivalry Sibling rivalry often stems from competing for parental attention, differences in personalities, or feelings of jealousy and insecurity. Children may feel that their sibling receives more praise, privileges, or affection, leading to resentment. Understanding these root causes allows parents to address underlying issues before conflicts escalate. Effective Strategies to Encourage Cooperation Tip: Focus on each child’s unique strengths by celebrating their individual achievements. Example: Use phrases like, “What solution do you both think is fair?” or “How can we solve this together?” Family Rule Idea: “We use kind words with each other, even when we disagree.” Fun Idea: Introduce a “sibling teamwork jar,” adding a token each time they cooperate. When the jar is full, celebrate with a special treat or outing. Quality Time Idea: Schedule “date days” with each child to do an activity they enjoy. Example: “I love how you shared your toys with your sister today. That was very kind!” Conversation Starter: “How do you think your brother felt when you took his toy without asking?” Activity Idea: Rotate responsibility for planning a family day, allowing each child to contribute their ideas. Conclusion: Turning Rivalry into Lifelong Friendship Managing sibling rivalry is an ongoing process that requires patience, empathy, and consistency. By focusing on cooperation, teaching conflict resolution, and fostering positive sibling experiences, parents can help their children build strong, supportive relationships. These early lessons in empathy, teamwork, and respect will not only benefit them at home but also prepare them for healthy relationships throughout their lives. With a little guidance, sibling rivalry can evolve into lifelong friendship and mutual respect, creating a more peaceful and connected family environment.

November 6, 2024

From pages to possibilities : How to inspire a love of reading in your child

In South Africa, the ability to read for meaning is a critical skill that remains elusive for many children. According to the Reading Panel 2030 report, a staggering 78% of Grade 4 learners cannot read for meaning in any language. This alarming statistic underscores the urgent need to foster a love of reading among students to ensure their academic success and personal development. “Reading is foundational to learning and personal growth. It enhances vocabulary, improves comprehension, and stimulates imagination. Moreover, reading is linked to better academic performance across all subjects. For South Africa, where educational disparities are significant, promoting reading can be a powerful tool to bridge the gap and empower future generations,” says Kassandra Strydom, Academic Advisor: Foundation Phase at ADvTECH, Africa’s leading private education provider. Strydom emphasises that in a world dominated by social media and mobile devices, keeping a child’s interest in reading can be challenging. However, she underscores that this is a vital responsibility for parents. “By integrating reading into daily life from a young age, and making it an enjoyable activity, parents can help their children develop a lifelong love for reading, thereby improving their prospects of personal and academic achievement,” she says. Strydom notes that the findings of the Reading Panel 2030 report highlight the critical need for efforts to ensure that all children in South Africa can read for meaning by 2030. And while the Department of Education committed to addressing challenges identified in the report at a recent session where Basic Education Minister Siviwe Gwarube delivered the keynote address, the mammoth task could not be left to educators alone, she said. “Schools and teachers play an important role in teaching students how to read, but few are equipped to instil a genuine love for reading by the time children begin formal education. This essential passion must be nurtured at home to create a supportive environment where students can thrive once they master their ABCs.” Strydom says parents play a pivotal role in nurturing a child’s love for reading, and says it can be done by: CREATING A READING-FRIENDLY ENVIRONMENT & LEADING BY EXAMPLE Second-hand books are often very affordable, and libraries are free, making it easy for families to fill their homes with a diverse selection that caters to their child’s interests and reading level. Choosing books together can be a fun and exciting activity, providing valuable parent-child bonding time. Once the books have been selected, engaging in paired or shared reading experiences can enhance this connection. Creating opportunities to read together in a relaxed and intimate setting—whether snuggled on the couch or curled up in bed—makes reading feel special. This not only fosters a love for reading but also connects the activity to positive emotions and quality time spent together. By modelling positive reading habits and setting aside dedicated reading time each day, parents can help cultivate a lifelong passion for books in their children. USING TECHNOLOGY WISELY Excessive screen time can negatively impact children’s development, prompting many schools to limit mobile phone usage to create more focused learning environments. To balance screen time at home, families can implement “reading timeouts” that benefit both child and parent. While there are numerous reading apps and platforms that can make reading engaging, it’s important to choose those that offer personal learning pathways, allowing children to explore content beyond just reading. These apps can foster deeper engagement with reading material by connecting it to real-world situations and encouraging critical thinking. However, it’s essential to also incorporate non-screen reading to ensure children develop a well-rounded love for literature alongside their digital experiences. MAKING READING AN INTERACTIVE EXPERIENCE When fostering a love for reading, it’s important to ensure that the experience is interactive. Encourage children to engage with books before diving into the text by taking time for ‘picture walks’, where they can flip through pages and explore the illustrations. This approach helps minimise distractions and prepares them for a more focused reading experience. Consider using the “5 W” principle—asking who, what, when, where, and why questions about the book—to spark discussion and curiosity. Before reading, ask children what they think the story might be about, and always include the follow-up question, “How do you know that?” This encourages them to articulate their thoughts and develops metacognition—thinking about their thinking—making the reading experience richer and more meaningful.

November 6, 2024

Everything you need to know about a Urinary Tract Infection

Understanding urinary tract infections (UTIs) is very important as they are among the most common infections in females worldwide. Experts estimate that around 40% of women will experience a UTI at least once in their lives. Around 25% of these women will experience what doctors call a recurring infection, an infection which comes back at least twice in six months. Most cases of UTIs are not considered medical emergencies. However, untreated infections can move up the urinary tract and cause damage to your kidneys. Understanding UTIs is the first step towards prevention. To help you, we have put together answers to some of your most frequently asked questions: 1. What is it? A UTI is an infection in any part of your urinary tract, from your kidneys down to your bladder and urethra. Most infections develop in the lower urinary tract but can travel higher and become more serious if left untreated for too long. 2. What are the symptoms? Some of the most common symptoms include: 3. Can poor hygiene cause a UTI? Studies show that UTIs are generally not a sign of poor overall hygiene. However, some experts have found a link between intimate area washing techniques and increased risk of UTIs. Like wiping, washing from back to front can increase your risk of moving the E.coli bacteria responsible for UTIs to your urethra. The soap used can also increase your risk. Scented and coloured bath products are more likely to cause more irritation. 4. How do UTIs develop? UTIs occur when bacteria enter the urinary tract, rise to the bladder and cause infection. UTIs are about 30 times more common in women since their urethra is much shorter than in men. The most common bacteria to cause UTIs is E. Coli, which can live in the bowel. Much like colds, some people are more susceptible to UTIs and should take extra care to avoid behaviours that are linked to UTIs, such as wiping back to front, wearing synthetic underwear, or holding in their urine for prolonged periods. 5. Is there a difference between a UTI and a bladder infection? A bladder infection, also known as cystitis, is a type of UTI that specifically affects the bladder. A UTI is a broad term that refers to an infection in any part of the urinary system, including the kidneys, ureters, bladder, and urethra. A bladder infection on the other hand is in the bladder alone. Essentially, while all bladder infections are UTIs, not all UTIs are bladder infections. 6. How can I treat a UTI? In uncomplicated cases, over-the-counter medications like Canephron can be used to treat both the symptoms and the cause of a UTI. However, it is always important to consult a healthcare professional if you are experiencing the symptoms of a UTI. Canephron is an effective non-antibiotic prevention and treatment for UTIs. By addressing both the underlying cause and the symptoms of UTIs, Canephron offers comprehensive support for your urinary health. Canephron is clinically proven to treat the cause and manage the symptoms of UTIs in adults and children from 6-years-old. In cases where you may have gone without treatment for too long or are experiencing any complications, doctors will prescribe antibiotics. These can be used with Canephron to help relieve the symptoms of UTIs. In addition to medication, doctors recommend drinking plenty of water to help flush bacteria out of the urinary tract If you find yourself suffering from a UTI, speak to your doctor about Canephron’s 4-in-1 action, or look out for us at Clicks, Dischem, or any leading pharmacy or shop online.

November 6, 2024

Important Questions to Ask Your Child’s Audiologist

Empowering Your Child’s Hearing Health Journey As a parent, it is essential to advocate for your child’s hearing health. If you are concerned about your child’s hearing, preparing for appointments with an audiologist can make a significant difference in understanding your child’s condition and ensuring that your child receives the best care possible. Here are some of the critical issues to consider, and why they matter. CHOOSING AN AUDIOLOGIST Finding the right audiologist is a key step in caring for your child’s audiological needs. Audiologists who work with children should be caring, supportive of your questions and need for knowledge, and careful to take the time to fully understand your child’s home and school experience. Choices that you make together must be underpinned by an attitude of child- and family-centred care. The assessment and management of hearing loss in children can differ to management of the same issues in an adult, so your chosen audiologist should demonstrate care and knowledge about your child’s ‘whole person’ environment! What Can We Expect from a Hearing Test? Knowing what may be involved in a hearing evaluation can help ease your (and your child’s) apprehension, making it comfortable to ease into the assessment. So read this link to find out more about a common testing process. Then, also ask: What Type of Hearing Loss May My Child Have? Understanding whether your child has normal hearing, or whether a sensorineural, conductive, or mixed hearing loss is present, is crucial. This knowledge helps you comprehend the underlying cause/s and the most suitable management options. You can follow this up with: What Are the Management Options for Hearing Loss? If a hearing loss is identified, different management options are available to help your child function more effectively. Hearing aids are often appropriate ways to restore adequate sound when a hearing loss is permanent or semi-permanent because access to sound is essential for language and academic development. You may also be referred to an ENT or GP if the problem is amenable to treatment. Transient problems represent opportunities to return hearing to normal, quickly. Be empowered to make informed decisions about your child’s care! Ask questions like: How Do I Know What Type of Hearing Aid is Best for My Child? If semi-permanent or permanent hearing loss is identified, you may be exploring hearing aid options with your audiologist. Hearing aids come in a variety of styles and technologies, suitable for different acoustic, aesthetic, or contextual needs. These differences can also affect affordability. Knowing which options may suit your child’s lifestyle and hearing needs ensures that the best benefits may be achieved. Also, ensure that your audiologist explains your child’s full management plan, including the frequency of visits, regularity of device adjustments, and maintenance or servicing requirements. Good management is likely to result in a continuously good hearing experience. How Can We Protect My Child’s Remaining Hearing? Good hearing habits are essential to preserve your child’s remaining hearing and prevent further deterioration. Your audiologist should advise you about hearing safety so that you can protect your child’s hearing function. This may include bespoke hearing or ear protection. What Should We Do If My Child’s Hearing Changes? Monitoring your child’s hearing subjectively (through your own observation of their responses) and objectively (with regular hearing assessment) ensures that you can alter your plan if your child’s hearing circumstances change. Problems can be tiny (such as a blocked tube or dead battery) to significant (such as an ear infection). Your audiologist can teach you to troubleshoot problems for self-maintenance or help you to check your devices. A good audiologist will also advise you about what signs and symptoms to look for that may require a consultation. Are There Support Groups or Resources Available? Connecting with other parents and families with similar experiences can provide emotional support and practical advice. Often, audiologists can provide you with details for local or online support groups and useful parent resources. You can be properly empowered, uplifted, and encouraged by the right professional to support your child’s hearing needs throughout childhood. Our NB Hearing & Balance Team Is Here to Support Your Family Being proactive and informed about your child’s hearing health is vital. By asking these questions and asserting your needs, you can make informed decisions that ensure your child receives the best possible care. If you are ready to take the next step in your child’s hearing health journey, schedule a consultation with one of our NB Hearing & Balance audiologists. We have convenient locations across the Cape Peninsula, including Wynberg, Durbanville, Sea Point, Hout Bay, and Noordhoek.

November 5, 2024

Effective Strategies for Managing Intense Emotions in Children

Managing intense emotions in young children, especially when they manifest as anger or frustration, can be challenging for any parent. Dibber International Preschools is committed to providing parents and educators with practical strategies for handling these situations effectively. With a focus on children aged 0 to 6 years, Dibber is helping families across South Africa support emotional growth and foster positive behaviours. “Emotional regulation is a skill children can learn from an early age,” says Ursula Assis, Country Director of Dibber International Preschools. “By teaching children ways to understand and manage their feelings, we are equipping them with tools for life, allowing them to navigate their emotions with resilience and empathy.” One of the key principles behind managing intense emotions in children is validation. When a child has a meltdown or displays aggressive behaviour, the initial step is acknowledging their feelings rather than jumping straight into discipline. Simple affirmations like, “I can see you’re upset,” help children feel understood and can reduce the intensity of their emotions. Assis explains that grounding techniques are also highly effective. “For instance, the ‘Five Senses Activity’ encourages children to identify something they can see, hear, touch, smell, and taste. This practice helps shift their focus from overwhelming emotions to the present moment, providing an immediate calming effect.” Observing patterns and identifying triggers that lead to emotional outbursts is another valuable approach. “If a child becomes irritable when hungry, it’s best to avoid challenging conversations or activities during that time,” Assis advises. “This approach not only helps parents manage child aggression but also teaches children the importance of self-awareness.” Dibber encourages parents to discuss emotions with their children during calm moments, helping them recognise the physical and mental signs of intense emotions. By teaching children to notice when their body feels tense or when specific thoughts accompany frustration, parents empower them to use self-regulation techniques. Deep breathing, counting, or taking a momentary break are all strategies that can prevent emotions from escalating. “Children learn so much by watching their parents. When parents model healthy emotional regulation, they demonstrate that it’s okay to feel strong emotions and that there are positive ways to handle them. These shared practices turn self-regulation into a bonding experience and a valuable learning opportunity,” says Assis. Through strategies like grounding techniques, validation, and modelling, Dibber International Preschools is helping parents and educators manage child aggression effectively. “Our goal is to foster an environment where children learn to navigate their emotions with confidence and compassion. These early lessons in emotional regulation lay the foundation for resilient, well-rounded individuals.”

November 5, 2024

Why are newborns soothed by being contained and touched?

What can be more relaxing than a body massage, heavy workout at the gym, sitting in a hot tub or falling asleep in a moving car (being the passenger of course)? All these experiences result from stimuli to our senses of touch and of body position. This is referred to as proprioception. When we receive proprioception input, Serotonin is released, a comforting and soothing hormone/chemical in the body which provides a general sense of calmness and well–being. Proprioception is information received from our muscles and joints which tells us more about our position and movement in space. This sensory system is stimulated by deep pressure touch, movement against resistance and vibration. These stimuli are naturally experienced by the foetus in utero where their environment offers neutral warmth, constant deep pressure and resistance due to the elasticity and confines that the womb provides. Since the proprioceptive and touch systems are the first senses to develop after conception, they are quite advanced at birth. Hence, input to these systems can play a vital role in stress release, calming a newborn, and promoting good sleeping habits – nothing better than what a caregiver can wish for! The following are a few ideas on the use of proprioception to calm your newborn: If your baby is still not settling, please see your doctor or physical therapist for further advice on your particular baby’s needs. nurtureOne ™ products are available at https://nurtureone.co.za as well as a range of well-baby clinics and local baby shops – see the stockist tab on the website for your nearest. ABOUT nurtureOne ™: Researched, designed and developed by medical practitioners. Endorsed by Occupational, Sensory and Developmental Therapists. nurtureOne ™ are dedicated to helping parents provide a tranquil, secure resting environment for their newborns, promoting a seamless integration of baby into our world. For more information, please visit https://nurtureone.co.za https://www.facebook.com/nurtureonenesting https://www.instagram.com/nurtureOneNesting By Jen Spiro

November 5, 2024

Screen Time Struggles: How to Set Healthy Limits for Your Kids

In today’s digital age, screens are everywhere—whether it’s tablets, smartphones, laptops, or televisions. For parents, managing screen time has become a constant struggle. While technology offers educational benefits and entertainment, too much screen time can impact your child’s physical, emotional, and social well-being. Striking the right balance is key. Here’s how to set healthy limits on screen time for your kids while still allowing them to enjoy the benefits of technology. 1. Set Clear Boundaries The first step to managing screen time is to set clear rules about when and where screens can be used. For example, you might decide that there are no screens allowed during meals or that screen time is only permitted after homework and chores are finished. By creating clear boundaries, you help your child understand when it’s appropriate to use screens and when it’s time to engage in other activities. Tip: Involve your kids in setting these rules so they feel part of the process. This can lead to better cooperation and less resistance. 2. Create a Screen Time Schedule Having a set screen time schedule can help prevent overuse. Whether it’s one hour of screen time on weekdays and two hours on weekends or tech-free days, a schedule helps maintain balance. You can also create time slots for educational versus recreational screen use. A visual schedule on the fridge or in your child’s room can serve as a helpful reminder. Tip: Use parental control apps to monitor and manage your child’s screen time, especially if you’re not always able to supervise. 3. Encourage Screen-Free Zones Designating areas in your home where screens are off-limits can help reduce over-reliance on devices. For example, bedrooms and dining areas can be screen-free zones to encourage better sleep and family interaction. By creating spaces where screens are absent, you promote healthier habits and a more mindful approach to screen use. Tip: Lead by example—try to make your bedroom or meal times screen-free too, so your kids see it as a family effort. 4. Offer Engaging Alternatives One reason kids often turn to screens is that they’re bored. To combat this, provide engaging alternatives that capture their interest. Encourage activities like reading, outdoor play, crafts, board games, or family outings. When kids have fun, engaging options, they’re less likely to default to screen time. Tip: Rotate the activities to keep things fresh and exciting. Offer new books, plan different outings, or organize themed craft days. 5. Use Screen Time as a Reward Rather than allowing unlimited screen access, you can use screen time as a reward for completing tasks such as homework, chores, or other responsibilities. This teaches your kids that screen time is a privilege earned through good behavior, not a default activity. Tip: Create a point system where kids can earn extra screen time by completing tasks, or trade their points for special rewards like movie nights or extra gaming time. 6. Monitor Content Quality It’s not just the amount of screen time that matters—it’s also about what your kids are watching or playing. Focus on content that is age-appropriate and educational. Many apps, shows, and games are designed to promote learning, creativity, and problem-solving skills, so prioritise these over purely entertainment-focused content. Tip: Watch or play along with your child occasionally to ensure the content is appropriate and help them engage critically with what they’re consuming. 7. Balance Screen Time with Physical Activity A sedentary lifestyle can develop if kids spend too much time on screens. Encourage physical activity by balancing screen time with outdoor play or sports. You can introduce a rule that for every hour spent on a screen, an hour must be spent moving around. This ensures that kids get enough physical exercise to stay healthy and active. Tip: Plan family activities that encourage physical movement, like biking, hiking, or even dancing in the living room! 8. Have Tech-Free Family Time Making space for tech-free family time is a great way to reinforce connection and communication. Whether it’s playing a board game, cooking together, or going for a walk, spending time without screens allows the whole family to bond and recharge. Plus, it models the importance of balance and helps kids develop a healthy relationship with technology. Tip: Establish a tech-free hour before bedtime or during weekend mornings to allow for more meaningful interactions. 9. Educate Your Kids on Healthy Tech Use Teach your kids about the impact of excessive screen time on their health, such as its effects on sleep, attention, and posture. When children understand why screen limits exist, they’re more likely to respect them. Explain how too much screen time can interfere with other important activities like homework, hobbies, and spending time with friends and family. Tip: Use age-appropriate resources, like videos or articles, to help explain the benefits of healthy tech habits. 10. Be Flexible Lastly, remember that every family is different, and it’s important to remain flexible with your approach. Screen time limits don’t have to be rigid; they can adjust based on what’s happening in your child’s life. For example, they may need more screen time for school projects or during long car rides, but less during family vacations or when they have friends over. The key is finding a balance that works for your family. Conclusion Managing screen time doesn’t have to feel like a battle. With clear boundaries, engaging alternatives, and open communication, you can help your kids develop a balanced relationship with technology. By teaching them healthy habits now, you’ll empower them to make better decisions about screen use as they grow older. So, embrace the benefits of technology, but ensure that it fits within a broader lifestyle that includes active play, family time, and creativity. After all, a healthy balance is the ultimate goal!

November 4, 2024

Teen Titans Go! Season 8 plus Beast Boy: Lone Wolf

🚨 New Adventures Alert! 🚨 Join Robin, Cyborg, Starfire, Raven, and Changeling in Teen Titans Go! as they show what life’s like when they’re not saving the world! 🌍💥 Ever wondered what superheroes do in their downtime? From epic mishaps to hilarious pranks, you won’t want to miss a moment of their quirky daily lives in this laugh-out-loud comedy! 😂 Plus, follow Beast Boy on his wild solo adventures in 10 brand-new episodes! 🐾✨ 📅 Premiere: Monday, 4 November 2024⏰ Tune-in: Monday to Friday at 16:55 CAT📺 Available on DSTV Catchup until 11 December 2024! Get ready for some super-powered fun!

November 4, 2024

Home Schooling with Educ8 SA

What Does Educ8 SA Offer? For those unfamiliar, Educ8 SA is an online resource platform designed for learners aged 2 through their entire educational journey and even into tertiary studies. We provide a variety of outstanding programs, including: Various educational paths GED and Advanced American High School Diploma (AHSD) Our fees start at just R450. We pride ourselves on being affordable, flexible, and personalised, ensuring a user-friendly experience. Our offerings for ages 2-6 are particularly noteworthy. These packages are designed to save you money while delivering an all-inclusive bundle that covers all subjects in one cohesive program. The curriculum is themed weekly and includes lesson plans and printouts. For our preschool program, we offer a total of 46 weeks: 36 core weeks plus 10 bonus holiday weeks, featuring over 4,000 pages. This program is designed to be progressively challenging and is perfect for homeschooling. Additionally, we provide a 14-day free trial period. What is Covered in Primary School Levels? Our curriculum can either supplement other programs or stand alone as a complete curriculum. It encompasses: – Math – Numbers – Reading – Science – Social Studies – Phonics – Letters – Foundational Reading – Spelling – Language/Grammar – Vocabulary – Writing – Assignments We focus on personalised learning and include engaging elements such as badges, games, contests, messaging features, daily challenges, and daily comics. Moreover, we offer a “Find and Fix” feature to help identify and address learning gaps. Our platform includes around 26 subjects and provides progress monitoring, diagnostic tests, assessments, and test preparation. The fees for primary school levels are only R450 per month. What is Covered in High School Levels? In high school, the offerings change slightly. Our primary school levels conclude at Grade 8. At this point, students may choose between the GED or the AHSD. For the GED: For the AHSD: The Advanced American High School Diploma (often referred to as the College Prep or Honors Diploma) is equivalent to the Cambridge A Levels (matric) or SA Grade 13. Our Final Thoughts We encourage you to reach out to Educ8 SA, especially as this is a crucial time of year for parents and students in South Africa. While some families are satisfied with the schooling system, others are exploring new curriculum options. Educ8 SA is here to answer all your questions. We are conducting an online drive to address any inquiries you have regarding the Bela Bill and other educational matters. With many teachers being let go—around 2,500 in the Western Cape, about 11,000 in KwaZulu-Natal, and even more in Gauteng—the need for supportive educational alternatives is greater than ever. Please contact us at: 084 685 2138 info@educ8sa.net www.educ8sa.com

November 4, 2024

Holiday Travel Tips for Families

The holiday season is a magical time filled with celebrations, gatherings, and the joy of being with loved ones. However, it can also be one of the busiest and most stressful periods for families planning to travel. Whether you’re heading to Grandma’s house, a tropical vacation, or a winter wonderland, thoughtful planning can help make your holiday travels smoother and more enjoyable. Here are some essential holiday travel tips for families to ensure a stress-free experience. 1. Plan Early One of the keys to successful holiday travel is planning ahead. Book your flights, accommodations, and rental cars as early as possible to secure the best rates and availability. The earlier you plan, the more options you’ll have for travel times and locations. Create a checklist of what you need to book and accomplish before the trip, including packing lists, itineraries, and travel documents. 2. Choose Your Travel Times Wisely Traveling during peak holiday times can lead to long lines and crowded airports or roads. If possible, try to schedule your travels during off-peak times. Flying on Christmas Day or the day after New Year’s, or leaving early in the morning or late at night, can help you avoid the busiest travel days. If you’re driving, consider hitting the road early in the morning or later in the evening to dodge heavy traffic. 3. Pack Smart Packing efficiently is crucial for family travel, especially when you have kids in tow. Use packing cubes or separate bags for each family member to stay organised. Make a packing list for everyone to ensure nothing gets left behind. Don’t forget to pack essentials like snacks, water bottles, toys, and comfort items (like blankets or stuffed animals) to keep children entertained during the journey. 4. Keep Essentials Accessible When traveling with kids, having essential items within easy reach can make a huge difference. Keep important documents, snacks, medications, and entertainment (like tablets or colouring books) in an easily accessible bag. If you’re flying, consider using a backpack for easy access to items during security checks and boarding. 5. Engage Kids in the Travel Process Involve your children in the travel planning process to build excitement. Discuss the travel route, the destination, and activities you have planned. Encourage them to help pack their own bags and choose a few toys or games to bring along. This engagement can help them feel more connected to the journey and reduce anxiety. 6. Embrace Flexibility Travel can be unpredictable, especially during the holidays. Flight delays, traffic jams, or last-minute changes can happen, so it’s important to stay flexible and maintain a positive attitude. Build extra time into your travel schedule to account for unexpected delays, and be prepared to adjust your plans if needed. This mindset can help reduce stress and make the journey more enjoyable. 7. Create Family Traditions Use travel time to establish fun family traditions. Whether it’s singing holiday songs, playing travel games, or sharing stories about past holidays, these activities can help create lasting memories. Consider starting a new tradition, such as a “travel journal” where each family member can write about their experiences, thoughts, and favourite moments from the trip. 8. Stay Healthy and Hydrated Travel can disrupt regular routines, so it’s essential to prioritise health during the holidays. Encourage your family to stay hydrated, eat nutritious meals, and get plenty of rest. If you’re flying, remind kids to wash their hands frequently or use hand sanitiser to prevent the spread of germs. If traveling by car, make frequent stops to stretch and enjoy some fresh air. 9. Be Mindful of Safety Ensure the safety of your family while traveling by keeping emergency contact numbers, health insurance information, and any necessary medical supplies readily available. If you’re flying, talk to your kids about airport security procedures and what to expect, helping to ease any anxiety they may have. Always keep an eye on your children in crowded places and establish meeting points in case anyone gets separated. 10. Enjoy the Journey Finally, remember that the holiday season is about creating joyful memories with your loved ones. Embrace the journey as part of your holiday experience, not just a means to an end. Take time to enjoy the sights along the way, engage in meaningful conversations, and cherish the moments spent together. The laughter, stories, and shared experiences will be what you remember most. Conclusion Holiday travel can be an exciting adventure for families, filled with opportunities to bond and create cherished memories. By planning ahead, staying organised, and embracing flexibility, you can navigate the challenges of holiday travel with ease. So pack your bags, gather your loved ones, and get ready to embark on a memorable holiday journey! Safe travels!

November 1, 2024

Pregnancy, your body and your baby – week 40 of your pregnancy

Congratulations, you’ve reached the milestone that you’ve been counting up to from the beginning. It may feel surreal to think that 40 weeks ago you had your last period and now you’re about to welcome your new baby into your life. The third trimester of your pregnancy may have been fairly difficult, as your baby and belly take up more room, and your body adjusts to accommodate your growing little one. Your body at week 40 At week 40 your body is ready to give birth after housing and growing your baby for 9 months. So close to birth you may notice changes in your baby’s fetal movement, however, they will still be moving around, so if you notice a big decrease in movement, contact your doctor. Until birth, you’ll experience typical pregnancy symptoms, including leg cramps, back and pelvic pain, trouble sleeping and diarrhoea, which is normal close to birth. Your baby at week 40 At week 40 your baby is now full-term. When your baby is born you’ll notice that they are covered in a mixture of blood, vernix and amniotic fluid. On average, baby’s at week 40 weigh about 3,5 kg and they’ll be roughly the size of a pumpkin. Even though they are just about to be born, the lungs, liver and brain are still developing. Things to keep in mind at week 40 Labour can be overwhelming, and it’s important to remember that you can do this. While your doctor will have given you a due date, it is possible that your baby won’t arrive on the dot. So make sure that you keep aware of the signs of labour and have your birth plan, hospital bags and any additional plans ready (such as making sure you have someone to look after your other kids if you have).

November 1, 2024

Introducing Sanosan baby skincare range

ntroducing Sanosan baby, kids, and mum’s skincare range in Southern Africa! This skincare range truly cares for you and the planet – every product is designed to be as safe and gentle as possible for your baby. With over 35 years of expertise and a commitment to clinical excellence, Sanosan’s products are rigorously tested and certified under strict European regulations. They are free from parabens, silicones, paraffins, SLS / SLES and phenoxyethanol, and their eco-friendly formulas are 90% natural and use green electricity. When creating their formulas, Sanosan pays the utmost attention to a high proportion of natural ingredients. They only use active ingredients that are specially tailored to your baby’s skin. Natural milk protein is the central ingredient in Sanosan and is especially nourishing for the skin. Precious substances like organic olive oil and organic olive extract complement these formulations. Sanosan stands for: Cleansing: Two products in one: ideal for gently cleaning baby’s delicate skin and fine hair. 93 % ingredients of natural origin. Benefits of the formulation: Sanosan Bath & Shampoo 200ml – RSP R116,81 Milk protein ensures that even washing your baby is more gentle. All cleansing products contain active washing substances. But even the mildest washing substances can attack the protective film on a baby’s skin and upset its balance. The milk protein in Sanosan protects against this. Did you know? Sanosan cleansing products contain mild surfactants and preserve the natural protective function of the skin. We do not use SLS (sodium lauryl sulphate) or SLES (sodium laureth sulphate). Sanosan Bath & Shampoo 500ml – RSP R199,00 Two products in one: ideal for gently cleaning baby’s delicate skin and fine hair. 93 % ingredients of natural origin Sanosan Shampoo 200ml – RSP R116,81 With natural milk protein – the best from milk for healthy baby skin. Ideal for gently cleaning baby’s fine hair. For silky, easy to comb hair. 93 % ingredients of natural origin. Benefits of the formulation: Safety first: outstanding compatibility with babies’ skin – clinically tested Milk protein ensures that even washing your baby’s hair is more gentle. All cleansing products contain active washing substances. But even the mildest washing substances can attack the protective film on a baby’s skin and upset its balance. The milk protein in Sanosan protects against this. Did you know? Sanosan cleansing products contain mild surfactants and preserve the natural protective function of the skin. We do not use SLS (sodium lauryl sulphate) or SLES (sodium laureth sulphate). With organic olive extract. Milk protein ensures that even washing your baby is more gentle. All cleansing products contain active washing substances. But even the mildest washing substances can attack the protective film on a baby’s skin and upset its balance. The milk protein in Sanosan protects against this. Did you know?Sanosan cleansing products contain mild surfactants and preserve the natural protective function of the skin. We do not use SLS (sodium lauryl sulphate) or SLES (sodium laureth sulphate). With organic olive extract. Care: Your baby’s skin is something very special because its range of functions is not yet fully developed. With the right care, you can support the development of your baby’s skin. Milk protein is nature’s little miracle with a big impact. This is why we use this special ingredient in our Care Lotion. The amino acid chain in milk protein forms a protective layer on baby skin; this considerably reduces moisture loss. Sanosan Care Lotion also contains panthenol and chamomile. They both have a soothing effect on baby’s skin and are traditionally used in baby care. Did you know? Precious ingredients pamper and soothe your baby’s skin and provide moisture 24 hours a day. With natural organic olive oil of the highest quality. Does not contain the preservative phenoxyethanol. Sanosan Care Lotion 500ml – RSP R229,00 For the perfect care of baby’s delicate skin. Moisturises for 24 hours. 96 % ingredients of natural origin. Nappy Change: Sanosan Nappy Cream 150ml RSP R174,89 Sanosan Nappy Cream is a rich cream with a high zinc content. It forms an antimicrobial barrier and keeps baby’s bottom dry. Sanosan Nappy Cream does not only contain milk protein, the key ingredient of Sanosan baby products, but also zinc with its excellent characteristics especially for the nappy zone. Did you know? All Sanosan nappy care products help to keep your baby’s bottom dry to avoid inflammation. The zinc content has antimicrobial properties and reduces the growth of microorganisms. Benefits of the formulation: Baby’s skin requires particular care and protection in the first year of life. Special baby care products help to support the not yet fully matured protective function of the skin. Less is more when caring for sensitive skin that is prone to allergies. That is why Sanosan pure+sensitive formulations were especially developed for this type of skin, and tested by leading dermatologists. Anything that could irritate baby’s sensitive skin has been avoided. Sanosan Panthenol Nappy Cream protects and soothes baby’s sensitive skin. It forms a protective layer that repels moisture from the skin. The balancing formulation with the particularly high content of panthenol of 5% and vitamin E soothes the skin and supports its own regeneration. The stressed skin is supplied with sufficient moisture and is protected against dehydration. Sanosan Panthenol Nappy Cream has been clinically tested by an independent dermatological institute and awarded the 5-star Dermatest seal. The five-star seal represents the original DERMATEST® premium segment and means that the product has been successfully tested for at least four weeks under dermatological supervision. Maximum safety for babies with allergy-prone skin. Sanosan KIDS: Sanosan Shower & Shampoo Banana 400 ml – RSP R188,90 Fantastic banana fragrance and proven quality. 93 % ingredients of natural origin. Fun & quality with Sanosan Shower & Shampoo Banana. Kids and mums love it. Children love our cool rabbit Sani and the fruity banana fragrance. Mums love the rich care formula with organic olive extract, milk protein and especially mild cleansing substances that protect childrens’ delicate skin from drying out. Joyful colours, a cool design and mild

November 1, 2024

WHAT TO DO ABOUT KIDS CUSSING

Why do kids and teens cuss and what can we do about it effectively? Here are a couple of reasons and some suggestions on what you can do about it. These suggestions may not be appropriate for all children, all families or all situations. They are simply suggestions that you might be able to use, depending on your situation with your kids. It may be a learned behaviour. Children learn by watching, listening and experimenting. If they are exposed to inappropriate language, it is sometimes normal for them to try it out themselves as experimentation. If they get a big reaction from others around them, it could motivate them to repeat it. Oftentimes, young children aren’t really sure what the words mean, they just like the reaction it brings on. For starters, be sure that your children are not being exposed to inappropriate movies, music or video games. Also be sure that your children are not witnessing abusive interactions between those involved in unhealthy relationships. This experience for them can teach them that bad behaviour and bad language are both acceptable. It may be a sign of an unmet need. In addition to basic survival needs such as food, water, sleep, and medical care, children have a series of higher level needs such as love, attention, power and safety. If these needs aren’t being met, a child could adopt inappropriate behaviours as attempts to get these needs met. In other words, a child who is not getting an adequate amount of love and attention by use cussing to get any attention they can. If your child is intentionally using bad language, ask yourself, “What could my child be trying to tell me by using those words?” Could she be doing it because she is angry about a change in the family? Has there been a divorce or a death involving any of her caregivers? Does she get plenty of opportunities that help satisfy her need to feel important and valuable to you? Ask yourself, “How is my relationship with my child? Have I been too busy for him, or have I been distracted, distant or angry? Have I been yelling and punishing too much?” If any of these conditions currently exist, the child’s use of cuss words maybe garnering him inappropriate attention from you by getting you to react. Negative attention is better than no attention at all. If your child has picked up bad language from a playmate, limit play time with that other child or increase supervision when they are together. If your child has learned it somewhere else, limit his or her exposure to that source. And if it’s a sign that your relationship with your child is lacking, spend more undistracted and quality time with your child. More often than not, a child’s challenging behaviour is actually communication. Whether you’ve found the source or not, create moments of closeness with your child to talk about the cussing. State your position that the words they are using are not acceptable to you and are not allowed in the family. Without too much ‘drilling,’ ask them why they use those words. Work cooperatively with them to come up with other words they can use instead. Finally, be calm, patience and loving. Be sure that you are setting a good example.

October 31, 2024

Does your child suffer from low self-esteem?

When a child suffers from low self-esteem, it will almost always carry on into their adulthood if not addressed. Simple things such as meeting new people can be very difficult, as well as taking on challenges, valuing their own opinion and much more. It is so important for parents to understand just how crucial healthy self-esteem in a child can be because they have a crucial role to play in the development of their children’s sense of self-worth. If your child has a low self-esteem, parent intervention can prevent the following being carried through to adulthood. Poor communication skills: A child with low-esteem is likely to grow into an adult that has difficulty in communicating with others; whether it is with their spouse, coworkers or peers, as they often do not feel secure and confident with what they say and may be afraid to express themselves. Negative thoughts and feelings: Since a child with low self-worth will regularly have negative thoughts and feelings about themselves and even others, it will likely carry through into adulthood. Unfortunately, the difference in adulthood will be that they are more likely to keep their feelings internalised rather than expressing them. Hot temper: An adult with low self-esteem may have a hot temper. This is usually because of the frustration and constantly simmering negative thoughts that they experience. These bubble below the surface and spill over fairly readily when provoked. Blaming others: Instead of taking responsibility for things going wrong, they are often quick to blame others. This avoidance of responsibility takes blame from them and puts it onto others. For a while, they are able to feel buoyed up and justified. Difficulty with relationships: Relationship difficulty is common when your child takes their low self-worth into adulthood. It is hard to truly love and dedicated yourself to another when you don’t truly love yourself. What they end up giving to their partners is a less than whole self, often putting strain on the relationship. Keep in mind that while some of these signs may or may not carry through into adulthood, everyone is impacted differently. A child who has a low self-esteem won’t always be an adult with low self-esteem. Self-esteem is not a black-and-white-all-or-nothing matter. There are varying degrees of self-esteem or self-worth. A child can have very low self-esteem or just a little self-doubt which will impact how they transform into adults.

October 31, 2024

Halloween

Cartoonito is getting spook-tacular for Halloween with a lineup of spine-tingling fun! Get ready for a frightful feast of episodes from Zig & Sharko, Masha and the Bear, CoComelon, Mr. Bean, and more! Programming Highlights: Masha and the Bear Silly Sundays Lucas the Spider ️ Toad & Friends Mr. Bear CoComelon Zig & Sharko The Adventures of Bernie Bugs Bunny Builders (including a NEW episode, S2 Ep. 45 ‘Spellbound’) ️ Grizzy & the Lemmings Batwheels Kingdom Force Dino Ranch Thomas & Friends Looney Tunes Cartoons Tune in for ghoulishly good fun! Premiere 31 October 2024 ⏰ Tune-in Thursday 31 October from 15:10 CAT

October 30, 2024

Help your toddler survive your divorce

Divorce is unpleasant, emotional and can be a downright hurtful experience. The problem is that we sometimes forget that we aren’t the only ones experiencing this pain. Often our children suffer an unnecessary degree of hurt as a result of our incompatibility with our chosen partner… Some tips: Consistency This is a watchword for the divorcing parent! With toddlers, parents must be mindful of the need for consistency in the child’s life. This is not the time to drag them from house to house. If at all possible, they should stay in familiar surroundings with the noncustodial parent visiting there. Communication At this age, the toddler understands more than they are often given credit for. They can comprehend that one parent has left the home, but not understand why. At this age, their concept of time is also arbitrary. Your child may ask you when they are going to see their daddy, or why their daddy isn’t here anymore. No matter how many times you have to give them the answers, don’t get frustrated with them, as their world is very confusing at this time. This ties back into consistency, as you become their source of understanding and answers. Conflict If you have to argue or “debate passionately”, make sure to do it in a way that doesn’t cause your child undue fear or concern. Remember, you are the adults in this situation and you have a responsibility to your child, to reduce as much harm as this separation is causing, as possible. Behaviour Toddlers often test their boundaries by saying “No” to adults or testing limits, such as hitting or throwing. This behaviour and acting out can increase during the divorce process as a result of confused boundaries and definitions in the family environment. Toddlers need clear, consistent rules (back to consistency!) that are enforced in a loving way. Empathy Toddlers don’t have a very developed sense of empathy and tend to be concerned primarily with how their own needs are to be met. In the event of divorce, their sense of security becomes more self-oriented and their concern is about whether or not they will be secure, if they will be loved and nourished. Emotions As your toddler becomes more aware of their own feelings, they learn to express them through words and play. As tensions increase in the household due to impending divorce, they may become more reactive. Strong feelings are hard for them to manage and moderate. Don’t forget to let them know that its ok to feel them, but remember to help them manage the intensity by proper displays of your own emotional state, as well as appropriate levels of affection and understanding towards your child. Why do divorce rates increase? There are several reasons that have been put forward as to why there could be an increase in the number of divorces being seen. Here are just a few! Time of year There is a commonly recognised trend that causes a spike in divorce numbers around January and February. The assumption here is that partners who are already discontent often reach a decisive point after having to spend prolonged holidays with their partners over the festive season. This seems to galvanise many into initiating divorce proceedings in the New Year. Empowerment With the increase in awareness of rights according to the constitution of South Africa, more women have become more empowered and are less likely to remain in abusive or undesirable relationships. In the past, many women would remain in unhappy relationships as they felt that they did not have another option, but in current times, a better degree of knowledge and understanding of women’s’ rights could be contributing to the rise of divorce. No-fault divorce South African law provides for no-fault divorce based on the “irretrievable breakdown” of the marital relationship. Couples no longer need to prove that one person is at fault. They can simply say that the marriage relationship has broken down. In essence, it has become much easier to secure a divorce on clear and available legal grounds, with less procedure than in the past. Traditional roles In the past, traditional roles played a strong part in maintaining the marital unit. Partners did not question their lot in the marriage as openly and as a result, there was less open conflict. This is not to say that there was more happiness, merely less interpersonal disagreement. With the blurring of the definition of these roles, there is a rise in open disagreement, ending too often in divorce. Greater social acceptance In certain cultural groups in South Africa, divorce has long held an extremely shameful cloud over the divorcee, especially for the former wife. This has resulted in shunning and community abandonment, which served to discourage others from initiating proceedings. The more accepting the societies become of the concept; the more individuals are willing to pursue it as a route out of an undesirable marriage. Less guilt It is not uncommon these days for couples to wait 10 years before having children. As a result, many do not feel the same degree of guilt over “breaking up” the family unit, or over causing children distress. The disclaimer “at least there aren’t kids involved” can be heard echoing through the divorce courts.

October 30, 2024

10 Questions to ask a Nanny in an Interview

This is always a very difficult decision for a mom. You have been at home for thee months on maternity leave or maybe even longer and now its time to return to work. You are now tasked with finding someone that will love and care for your child the same way that you do. So you have what you think is “ supper nanny “ sitting on the couch in front of you, and you are wondering what questions you should ask her to help you decide what makes her different from everyone else These are some of the most advisable questions, but at the end of the day a mom always goes with her gut. You are preparing a bottle of formula, do you put the water or formula in first ? surprising a lot of childminders think they should put the formula in first. Then how do you mix the formula ? So Basically how to prepare a bottle, someone who is fully trained and experience childminder should be able to give a full demonstration or explanation Have you done a first aid course ? if she yes, present her with a scenario and ask her what she would do What did you like about the last family you worked for ? not “ why did you leave ? “ that brings negativity rather listen to how positive she is, does she speak kindly of their children, does she glow when she speaks about them. How would you stimulate my child? you want to see if she knows about age appropriate games and if she knows how to draw up a weekly schedule of activities involving arts and crafts, outdoor play, good old traditional games, nursery rhymes and she should be using items in the home to do this. How long do you want to work for my family ? ideally you want a long term relationship. Many childminders now go on to get drivers license’s and at a later stage become an Aupair for the family. They drive the children around and run errands for the family. What type of discipline will you use on my child ? You want to see if she understands the concept of time out. Best is to ask what type of discipline she used in previous homes. When my baby is crying what will you do ? If your child is awake the best is to give your child to her hold in the interview, especially if she does start crying. Second to that is you want know what motions does she use for example, does she put the baby on her back, or rock the baby etc. How many children have you taken care of at one time? most homes have 2 – 3 children now days. However there is often a domestic worker to help and the mom could also be at home to help. You want to understand how many she took care of totally on her own. When changing a nappy which way do you wipe ? depending on whether you have a boy or a girl she should know a girl you wipe front to back to back. You could also ask her to change your child’s nappy during the interview to see how she does it. Questions aside have conversation with the lady, you want to understand her and her lifestyle, where she comes from, her life story. How many children does she have, who looks after them, is she married, how often does she go home, are her parents still alive, does she have siblings, does she want to study anything ( they love to do courses if you offer to help better themselves it is the start to a good relationship ). You are judging her character at the end of the day, you can always train her on the smaller things that need polishing up.

October 30, 2024

WHY DO CHILDREN LIE?

The question of why children lie begs the greater question of why any of us lie. If you think back to the last time you lied (and I’ll bet my life you can think of a time), look at what was going on internally and this will give you a good idea of why your children do it and how to avoid it in future. Now before we get to that, let me just say that we all have all traits. We are all liars sometimes and every one of us will be pushed to lie under certain circumstances. So firstly, please never label your child as a liar. Once we apply a label to a child they are more likely (not less) to repeat this behaviour and to incorporate it into their sense of self as they grow up. ALL children lie sometimes (as do ALL adults). Ok, so it’s normal to lie sometimes, but why, and why do some lie more often? Going back to why we all do, lying is a fear-based behaviour. The child believes, for whatever reason, that if they tell the truth it will result in more pain than pleasure. And where do they get this message? From us, of course. We’re constantly giving kids unconscious messages that telling the truth will get you in trouble. “Who ate the sweets?” “I did” “Right, go to your room”. Sound familiar? What we need to get into the habit of doing is praising truth-telling and taking responsibility more than we punish “bad” behaviour. If our children own up and say that they “did it” we should be actively praising this behaviour and pointing out that while the behaviour is not ok with us, we’re really impressed that they told the truth. Children will only lie if they are afraid of our reaction to the truth. I know that many people worry that if they take this approach they will be too soft on the bad behaviour and will end up with unruly kids. One of the fundamental structures for well-behaved, compliant children is being their primary attachment (which implies complete trust, openness and closeness). If your children trust you completely and feel connected to you and loved no matter what they do they will actually be less likely to produce so called “bad” behaviours in the long run. Of course they will make mistakes along the way and present “negative” traits (like we all do) including lying, but this will not develop into any kind of delinquency if that adult-child connection is in place. And part of keeping it in place is keeping the lines of communication open and allowing your children to tell the truth and know they will be safe. I think this is a fundamental skill to work on when your children are little and to instil a sense of open communication and acceptance BEFORE they become teenagers. Once our kids hit the teen years, if we’ve shut off honest communication, we are in for a different level of trouble with our children lying to us about things that can be life threatening, or where they really could use our adult help and guidance. The next time your child lies to you think about why they would be afraid to tell the truth and then instead of punishing them for lying, rather address the rift in your relationship.

October 29, 2024

10 Essential Tips To Prevent Poisoning In Your Home

I was recently prescribed some analgesics for a small day procedure. That afternoon, when I got home, I placed the packet of meds on my dresser and later found my daughter sitting on the floor inspecting the packet. My heart stopped! This careless mistake could have had devastating consequences. Unfortunately poisoning data in South Africa is lacking. One study dating back to 2012 found that the most common cause of accidental poisoning in SA children is pesticides. However, the list of potential poisons throughout our homes is extensive; here are just a few more obvious ones: Medications Household cleaners and disinfectants Cosmetics and toiletries Insect and rodent repellants Weed killers and other outdoor chemicals Swimming pool chemicals Flea and tick shampoos and other products for pets I have put together a list of some useful tips to prevent accidental poisoning at home. Some of them may seem fairly obvious but as I have recently experienced it is easy to forget. Keep all potential household and other hazards in their original containers. DO NOT transfer into coke bottles or Tupperware’s. Make sure seals of potential hazards are tight and secure before locking away. Please note that child resistant packaging of medications is NOT childproof. Keep potential hazards locked away in the highest cupboard with a childproof lock. The cupboard should even be high for you, as little minds can get quite creative with boxes and stools and climb up onto countertops. Keep potential hazards out of reach of children when in use and never leave bottles or buckets unattended. Never call medicine sweets/candy. This is a common mistake parents make in order to get their kids to take medicine when sick. This could lead to a child one day consuming an entire bottle of ‘sweets’. Never leave your handbag lying around and be extra cautious when you have visitors over as many people keep painkillers in their bags. Alcohol is often overlooked and is very dangerous to your little ones if consumed in excess. Keep alcohol out of reach of children especially when hosting parties. Any kind of battery can be dangerous if leaking or ingested. Keep remote controls and other battery containing devices away from children. If you are unsure about whether or not a household item is hazardous, assume it is and keep it locked away. Things that seem harmless are most often extremely dangerous. Most importantly TEACH your children about the dangers! It may be a good idea to identify what potential hazards you have in your home. Do a check of every room in the house including your garage and make sure your home is safe. RESOURCES Balme, K., Roberts, J.C., Glasstone, M., Curling, L. & Mann, M.D. (2012) The changing trends of childhood poisoning at a tertiarychildren’s hospital in South Africa. South African Medical Journal. [Online] 102 (3), pp. 142-146. Available from: http://www.scielo.org.za/scielo.php?script=sci_arttext&pid=S0256-95742012000300023&lng=en&tlng=en [Accessed 8 August 2018]. Veale, D.J.H., Wium, C.A. & Müller, G.J. (2012) Toxicovigilance I: A survey of acute poisoning in South Africa based on Tygerberg Poison Information Centre data. South African Medical Journal. [Online] 103 (5), pp. 293-297. Available from: http://www.samj.org.za/index.php/samj/article/view/6647/5054 [Accessed 8 August 2018].

October 29, 2024

NURTURING WELLNESS AND BALANCE AT WINGU ACADEMY

Nurturing Wellness and Balance at Wingu Academy: A Holistic Approach to Online Learning In the fast-paced world of online education, Wingu Academy recognises that student wellness and balance are paramount. We understand that success in the 4IR demands more than just academic excellence. It requires a holistic approach that nourishes the mind, body, and spirit. Our commitment to student wellbeing extends beyond the virtual classroom, with a range of extracurricular clubs and initiatives designed to foster a balanced and fulfilling lifestyle. Virtual Vitality Club: Elevate your energy and cultivate a healthy lifestyle from the comfort of your home. Our Virtual Vitality Club focuses on fitness, teamwork, and leadership skills, preparing you for exciting challenges like the MyHomeSchoolEvents, Obstacle Course Race (OCR), and our grand Wingulympics. Chef Club: Indulge your culinary curiosity and embark on a flavorful journey with the Chef Club. From baking delectable treats to crafting household essentials, we’re your kitchen companions. Join us to master the art of cooking, embrace sustainable practices, and acquire essential life skills. Oxford Health and Wellness Course: Delve deeper into the principles of wellbeing with our Oxford Health and Wellness course. Gain valuable insights into maintaining a healthy lifestyle, managing stress, and cultivating positive mental health habits. Nutrition Meets Online Learning: At Wingu Academy, we recognise the vital role that proper nutrition plays in enhancing cognitive function, energy levels, and overall well being. We’re committed to integrating healthy eating habits into our educational framework, ensuring that our students not only thrive academically but also maintain their health and vitality. These initiatives, coupled with our extracurricular clubs, exemplify our dedication to fostering a balanced lifestyle and supporting the overall wellbeing of our students. We believe that by nurturing their physical, mental, and emotional health, we empower them to achieve their full potential in the 4IR and beyond. Experience the Difference at Wingu Academy We invite you to join us for our Open Day on October 5th at South Suburbs, where you can witness firsthand how Wingu Academy is revolutionising online education by prioritising student wellness and balance. Discover the difference our holistic approach can make in your child’s life. We look forward to welcoming you and showing you how Wingu Academy is shaping the future of learning, one balanced student at a time. Experience Wingu Academy’s Unique Approach Join us for our Open Day on October 5th at the Wingu Academy South Suburbs Campus to discover firsthand how we empower students for the future with an innovative, world-class education that prioritises wellness. Meet our team, explore our programs, and see how we’re making a meaningful difference in students’ lives. Register today and take the first step towards a healthier, more balanced, and empowering educational journey!

October 29, 2024

Halloween

🎃👻 Cartoon Network is brewing up a Halloween treat with a spooky lineup! 🕸️ Get ready for eerie episodes and thrilling fun: 28 October 🐻 We Baby Bears & We Bare Bears 29 October The Amazing World of Gumball 🍎 Coach Me If You Can 🥑 Apple & Onion 🍭 Jellystone! 30 October The Amazing World of Gumball & Craig of the Creek 31 OctoberTeen Titans Go! 🎃 (including a NEW Halloween episode!) Mark your calendars and get ready for some spook-tacular fun! 🎃✨🦇 📆 Premiere Monday 28 October 2024 ⏰ Tune-in Monday to Thursday @ 15:40 CAT

October 28, 2024

5 Tips for baby’s first outing

It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed at the thought of heading out with baby, for the first time. There’s a lot to prepare for and fear, but take heart, it will probably be easier than you foresee…

October 28, 2024

Providing the 2025 curriculum option for you, register today!

What are the advantages of Home education? The Bela Bill has just been signed and there is a lot of confusion and panic among some people. However, at Educ8 SA, we are committed to providing comprehensive support and guidance on the Bela Bill. You are welcome to contact us via our WhatsApp number 084 685 2138. Our goal is to offer reassurance and assistance throughout your registration process, ensuring your peace of mind. Home education allows students to have the freedom families deserve and complete work from the comfort of their own homes. The benefits it offers are numerous. So let’s explore some of them today, we are super excited to share with you today. Its the oldest form of child education, when I think back this is what is familiar and my opinion best suited for families. So, in recent years, home education has gained significant traction as an alternative to traditional schooling. For parents considering this path and curious individuals alike, understanding the benefits and challenges of home education is crucial. Let’s start exploring the world of homeschooling and uncover its potential to transform your learning experiences. One of the most compelling aspects of home education is its flexibility. Imagine a world where your child’s education adapts to their unique learning style, their interests, and pace. This is the reality for many homeschooling families. Home education offers benefits through Educ8 SA: Academic Flexibility: Customize the curriculum to match your child’s interests and strengths. Personalized Learning: Adapt teaching methods to suit your child’s learning style, whether they’re visual or auditory learners. Flexible Scheduling: Learn at times that work best for your family, allowing for extracurricular activities and real-world experiences. How does Education promote Family bonding? Home education isn’t just about academics; it’s an opportunity to form stronger family relationships. By learning together, families create shared experiences and memories that last a lifetime. It also builds… Quality Time: Spend more time together, fostering deeper connections and understanding. Shared Learning: Parents often find themselves learning alongside their children, creating a culture of lifelong learning. Values Integration: Incorporating your family’s values and beliefs into the educational experience and even your religion. How does home schooling contribute to the learning environment? In a world where school safety is a growing concern, it has come to attention that 2500 teachers are facing layoffs due to budget constraints. This development, just shows and highlights challenges facing our educational institutions…wow its shocking. Don’t you think? But with home education it provides a secure learning environment. This safety extends beyond physical aspects to emotional and psychological well-being. Bullying: It eliminate concerns about peer pressure and bullying. Emotional Security: Create a supportive atmosphere where children feel comfortable expressing themselves and taking risks in their learning. Healthy Socialization: Engage in community activities and home school groups for positive social interactions. Home education offers unique opportunities for character development. Without the constraints of a traditional classroom, children can explore their interests, develop self-discipline, and cultivate a strong sense of self. What do I mean by this? It encourages independence and self-motivation. Helps with Critical Thinking, so developing strong analytical skills through in-depth discussions and exploration of topics. Connecting learning to practical life skills and experiences. Can you share some challenges that one may face? Yes, while home education offers numerous benefits, it’s important to address the common concerns and challenges that people raise: Socialisation: Myth vs. Reality Contrary to popular belief, home-schooled children can have rich social lives. Through home school co-ops, community activities, and sports teams, they often interact with diverse groups of people across various age ranges. Time Management: Finding Balance Homeschooling requires dedication and effective time management. Many families find success by: Creating structured daily routines Setting clear goals and expectations Utilizing time-blocking techniques And lastly navigating Legal Requirements is important. Understanding and complying with homeschooling laws is crucial. So, like I mentioned before, Educ8 SA is here is assist with great resources, Bela Bill questions and assisting you on your home schooling journey. Contact us today! 084 685 2138 info@educ8sa.net www.educ8sa.com

October 28, 2024

Four Classic Reasons a Child Misbehaves

I’ve been working with parents and other caregivers for over 20 years, helping them find solutions to their children’s challenging behaviour s. The adults who come to me want to know what to do about the behaviour and providing them with easy-to-apply solutions is my ultimate goal. To get there, I ask the caregivers a series of questions about the behaviour and all contributing factors that will help lead me to the underlying problem that is causing the child’s challenging behaviour. According to leading psychologists, a child’s behaviour falls into one of these four primary categories. See if you can connect past or reoccurring incidents of challenging behaviour from your child, to either of these. Communications When a child is tired, grouchy, and whiny, he or she is not likely to walk up to the parent and say, “Gee dad, I’m feeling a little tired right now. Do you mind if I lie down and take a nap?” They are however, very likely to not cooperative, throw a fit, or refuse to get into the car seat. In this case, their behaviour is communication about the fact that they have had enough stimulation and need sleep. Expression of Needs On occasion I would take my 3 year old granddaughter to the mall with me and like her mother many years before; I would sometimes end up chasing her through the crowd. In a quick moment if I let go of her hand, with a mischievous smile she would run from me yelling, “Catch me grandpa!” Her giggling told me that she wanted to play with me and her way of expressing that need was to run away and get me to chase after her. This required me to firm up the boundaries on the next trip and to find more appropriate ways to satisfy her need to play. Experimentation A woman contacted me for help with her five year old. The little girl began walking around on her hands and knees, barking like a dog. She was probably experimenting with the act of pretending to be a dog, to see what it felt like, and to see what the reaction of her adult caregivers would be. The woman initially became very annoyed with the constant barking. Her scolding created a new motivation in her daughter to do it more because it became unexpectedly fun for the little girl to drive mommy crazy! Unconscious Drives Famed psychodynamic psychologist Sigmund Freud believed that processes are constantly working in the unreachable subconscious region of the mind. These processes are thoughts that can trigger emotions and behaviour s in an adult or a child. If a child is living in a situation where adult chaos is present, the chaos can become worry, fear, or anxiety for a child which can then generate challenging behaviour s for the caregivers. The adult chaos may be in the form of parents fighting, a single mother feeling and acting stressed, parents and grandparents in conflict, or even a teacher who has not been taking care of herself. Children look to their caregivers for a sense that things are OK and when they don’t appear OK, the child is likely to reflect that unstable sense through their own behaviour .

October 25, 2024

A Bump To The Head: When Should You Worry?

I have attended to many children in the ER who have taken a tumble. In the US, falls account for around half the injury-related ER visits in children under 5 years of age. Most of these falls involve furniture such as changing mats, high chairs, baby walkers and beds. Parents are almost always concerned about head injuries. Majority of head injuries from a fall are usually minor. Children under one who fall are more likely to sustain head injuries regardless of the height from which they fall. Whereas older children are more prone to extremity fractures. This is because an infant’s head is much larger than the rest of their body. As a child grows, their head mass becomes more proportional and they develop upper body strength, which enables them to brace falls with their arms or legs. WHEN TO SEE A DOCTOR If your child is awake, alert and behaving normally after a bump to the head with no other signs and symptoms then he or she will most likely be fine and you don’t have to rush to hospital right away. It’s a good idea to observe your child for 1-2 days afterwards, since symptoms of a brain injury may present late. Seek Medical Attention: For any bump to the head in an infant; If your child has lost consciousness, even if brief; If your child has any signs and symptoms of a concussion (see below); If your child is inconsolable; If your child is vomiting; If your child is difficult to wake; If your child has a seizure; and/or If you suspect a broken bone. If your child has had a bad fall and you suspect a neck injury DO NOT move your child. Call an ambulance right away! Always trust your gut. If you are unsure rather head straight to your nearest emergency room. CONCUSSION A concussion is a brain injury caused by a blow to the head. The signs and symptoms may be vague and may even take a few days to develop. It’s important to know that not all concussions cause a loss of consciousness. Concussions can be more difficult to diagnose in children, as they are not as vocal about their symptoms. Children older than 2 years will show more behavioural symptoms. Signs & symptoms will therefore depend on age and include but are not limited to: Irritable and fussy; Unusually sleepy; Crying more than usual; Change in appetite; Nausea and/or vomiting; Lack of interest in play; Headache; Confusion; Child is unsteady on his or her feet; Sensitivity to light and noise; Blurred or double vision; Dizziness; Unusual speech e.g.: slow or slurred; Poor concentration and memory; and/or Problems with co-ordination. DIAGNOSING A CONCUSSION The doctor will do a thorough evaluation. A CT scan and MRI cannot diagnose a concussion. A CT scan will however, most likely be ordered to exclude a brain bleed or skull fracture depending on the mechanism of injury and presenting symptoms. The majority of falls in children are caused by modifiable factors and are therefore preventable. It’s impossible to bubble wrap our kids and we shouldn’t have to. Falls and tumbles can teach our children valuable lessons, but we can spend time baby proofing our homes and being more cautious to prevent serious injury. Remember to always buckle your baby in their high chair and never leave him or her unattended on a changing mat, not even for a second – it takes seconds for an accident to happen. RESOURCES Burrows, P. et al. (2015) Head injury from falls in children younger than 6 years of age. Arch Dis Child, [online] 100 (11), pp. 1032-1037. Available from: https://0-www-ncbi-nlm-nih-gov.innopac.wits.ac.za/pmc/articles/PMC4680174/ [Accessed 3 October 2018]. CDC (2017) Traumatic Brain Injury & Concussion [online]. Available from: https://www.cdc.gov/traumaticbraininjury/symptoms.html [Accessed 3 october 2018]. Chaudhary, S. et al. (2018) Pediatric falls ages 0–4: understanding demographics, mechanisms, and injury severities. Inj Epidemiol, [online] 5 (suppl 1). Available from: https://0-www-ncbi-nlm-nih-gov.innopac.wits.ac.za/pmc/articles/PMC5893510/ [Accessed 3 October 2018]. Kendrick, D. et al. (2015) Risk and Protective Factors for Falls From Furniture in Young Children Multicenter Case-Control Study. JAMA Pediatr, [online] 169 (2), pp. 145-153. Available from: https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/1939058 [Accessed 3 October 2018]. Samuel, N. et al. (2015) Falls in young children with minor head injury: A prospective analysis of injury mechanisms. Brain Injury, [online] 29 (7-8), pp. 946-950. Available from: https://0-www-tandfonline-com.innopac.wits.ac.za/doi/full/10.3109/02699052.2015.1017005 [Accessed 3 October 2018].

October 25, 2024

What to do With Kids Who Always Want, Plead, Beg or Demand

I was shopping for a child relative’s gift and was looking at items in the toy section of a large department store. Near me were a mother and her son who appeared to be about seven. He was pleading with her to buy him a toy he really wanted and the begging began to escalate in intensity. In response to each request, her responses also increased in intensity as she would reply NO and the offer a reason. Some of this mother’s reasons included: “we have no money,” “your father is on a business trip and he needed to take our extra money with him,” “you already have that kind of toy laying on your bedroom floor,” “you don’t play with what you have,” “I’m tired of buying you toys,” “you don’t appreciate what you have,” “your birthday is coming,” “stop asking for things,” and on and on and on. Standing next to this drama and hearing it all play out was excruciating. But deep inside of me was the natural urge to want to stop his pleading by doing exactly what this mother did next… she bought him the toy! When kids keep demanding something and the parent is already stressed and tired, the natural urge is to yell and get angry, or give in to the child’s demands to stop the noise. Here are two things you can do to curb the “I want that” demands. SET UP A MONEY MANAGEMENT PROCESS. Taking a look at this problem from the child’s perspective; they have little or no control over spending money and you have given in to their requests in the past. The solution is to set up a money saving/spending plan that they can control. Whenever you take your child shopping with you, allow him/her to take whatever they have in the ‘spending’ envelope to buy something. Your responsibilities are to help them set up this system, ensure that it is maintained (supervise it in the beginning) and to approve what they spend it on. HELP YOUR CHILD CREATE A DREAM BOOK. Buy your child a composition book (black and white cover and what we used in school) that you can find in the office supply isle of most department or convenience stores. Tell your child that this is going to be his/her ‘dream book’ where he/she can record all of the things he/she desires. Encourage your child to draw pictures of what they want or cut out pictures from magazines and fliers to paste into the new dream book. When your child sees something a friend has or in a television commercial, you simply say “put it in your dream book.” You are not responsible for fulfilling their dreams, your job is to teach them HOW to dream. With the holidays upon us, now is a good time to implement some changes to keep the “I WANT IT” demands from overwhelming you. Finally, avoid arguing with your child and certainly don’t give in. Doing so reinforces the behaviour (demanding) that drives you crazy. When they ask for something you’re not willing to provide, tell them that and don’t use the word NO. Simply say one time, “I’m not willing to buy that today,” and nothing more. Avoid giving excuses if you know they aren’t going to accept them. Saying NO seems to move them to demand even more.

October 24, 2024

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