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What to do With Kids Who Always Want, Plead, Beg or Demand

I was shopping for a child relative’s gift and was looking at items in the toy section of a large department store. Near me were a mother and her son who appeared to be about seven. He was pleading with her to buy him a toy he really wanted and the begging began to escalate in intensity. In response to each request, her responses also increased in intensity as she would reply NO and the offer a reason. Some of this mother’s reasons included: “we have no money,” “your father is on a business trip and he needed to take our extra money with him,” “you already have that kind of toy laying on your bedroom floor,” “you don’t play with what you have,” “I’m tired of buying you toys,” “you don’t appreciate what you have,” “your birthday is coming,” “stop asking for things,” and on and on and on. Standing next to this drama and hearing it all play out was excruciating. But deep inside of me was the natural urge to want to stop his pleading by doing exactly what this mother did next… she bought him the toy! When kids keep demanding something and the parent is already stressed and tired, the natural urge is to yell and get angry, or give in to the child’s demands to stop the noise. Here are two things you can do to curb the “I want that” demands. SET UP A MONEY MANAGEMENT PROCESS. Taking a look at this problem from the child’s perspective; they have little or no control over spending money and you have given in to their requests in the past. The solution is to set up a money saving/spending plan that they can control. Whenever you take your child shopping with you, allow him/her to take whatever they have in the ‘spending’ envelope to buy something. Your responsibilities are to help them set up this system, ensure that it is maintained (supervise it in the beginning) and to approve what they spend it on. HELP YOUR CHILD CREATE A DREAM BOOK. Buy your child a composition book (black and white cover and what we used in school) that you can find in the office supply isle of most department or convenience stores. Tell your child that this is going to be his/her ‘dream book’ where he/she can record all of the things he/she desires. Encourage your child to draw pictures of what they want or cut out pictures from magazines and fliers to paste into the new dream book. When your child sees something a friend has or in a television commercial, you simply say “put it in your dream book.” You are not responsible for fulfilling their dreams, your job is to teach them HOW to dream. With the holidays upon us, now is a good time to implement some changes to keep the “I WANT IT” demands from overwhelming you. Finally, avoid arguing with your child and certainly don’t give in. Doing so reinforces the behaviour (demanding) that drives you crazy. When they ask for something you’re not willing to provide, tell them that and don’t use the word NO. Simply say one time, “I’m not willing to buy that today,” and nothing more. Avoid giving excuses if you know they aren’t going to accept them. Saying NO seems to move them to demand even more.

October 24, 2024

Managing Stress As A Teen

How do we define stress? Simply put, it’s an emotion… but it’s one of the most damaging and harmful ones we experience if it’s left unchecked! If it’s not addressed, it can affect not only your mental, but your physical health too. Many adults are of the opinion that teens don’t really know what true stress is. They are wrong! Stress is an emotion that can be experienced by new-born babies, toddlers and human beings of all ages. The things that make us stress may differ, but that doesn’t make it any less real. So, what makes you stress? Some of the most common factors that teens report as influencing their stress levels are: Parental expectation: “Did you do well in the test? Are you trying your hardest? I don’t like what you’re wearing. I don’t like how you’re behaving; did you make 1st team? I thought you were a leader…” Peer pressure: (the old favourite), Ask her out, smoke this, drink that, take one of these, sneak out, study later… From yourself: I’m too fat, I’m too skinny, I don’t dress properly, I don’t get enough respect, I don’t go out enough, I don’t study hard enough… Good stress vs bad stress. It’s important to remember that even though stress is uncomfortable, it’s not always bad. Stress can help us deal with tough situations. A lot of stress changes our bodies quickly and helps us react to an emergency. A little stress keeps us alert and helps us work harder. Unfortunately, a lot of stress is going to make doing these things harder. So, the key is to find a balance between enough and too much. Stress is a survival tool. When we are stressed, our brain triggers a hormone release and sends something called Cortisol running through our system. This helpful little guy prepares our body to react to stressors, such as physical danger. Normally, you’d run from danger or fight it, using up that juice in your system. Unfortunately, when we stress ourselves out so much as a result of perceived challenges, we are filling our body with cortisol and often don’t use it to power our behaviour. So what happens? You have this emotional supercharge running through your veins and brain, with nowhere to go, just hanging around causing harm, premature grey hairs and messing with your other hormones. Manage that stress. Learn to understand your stress, where it comes from and how to relieve it or avoid it. Ask yourself if there are people or situations in your life that are just not worth the stress and see if you can avoid them. If you can’t, learn to manage their impact on you. Speak to your parents about what motivates you and what stresses you to the point of collapse. If that doesn’t work, take the unknown out of the equation and show them how much work you are doing or can do in a given day. Let them know that you’re already trying your best and need their support instead of pressure. Go for a run, lift a weight, eat properly and sleep better! Know that it’s up to you to change the circumstances that cause you to stress, because once you’ve got that figured out, you can chill.

October 24, 2024

How having Twins makes a better You!

Chances are whether you are expecting twins are already have them, you constantly hear about the challenges in having twins, along with some colourful commentary. There may be challenges along the way, but having multiples is special and amazing and can teach you so much about yourself. Here are some moms comments on what they have learnt about themselves since having twins. I enjoy every moment of life so much more I never knew I had so much love in me I have become a lot more easy going and have learnt to over look a lot, as long as my kids are happy, a messy house doesn’t stress me out as much as it did when I had just one child Patience……Lots and lots of patience I have become an expert in routines and time management Able to get so much more done in a short period of time – less time wastage Popularity has increased! Its like being a celebrity as people stare, smile and want to stop and talk to you the minute they spot the twin stroller Doing tasks faster than I imagined I could I have learnt not to sweat the small stuff and let go a little. I have also learnt to have fun again, through and with my boys Managing time for hubby and 2 year old twins is a big struggle Coping and multi tasking skills. Having twins plus 1 has taught me to cope with 3 kids on my own without getting over worked and just generally your strategic mind really gets into gear Having twins has taught me to adapt and give individual attention to each of the twins as if they were singletons My OCD has taken a back seat as I have learnt the world won’t end if everything is not clean / perfect / finished all the time I use my time better, worry less, do more laugh a lot!!!! I lost the super mom idea and had to ask for help especially when they were little. At age 3 I have to observe more , cant jump in to fight their fights for them. I have learnt grace, compassion and patience I have learnt I control everything, I’ve learnt not to sweat the small stuff and I’m actually a far more chilled person for having had twins I’ve learnt to ask for help, though I still battle with this sometimes, I like to do things myself, with twins it isn’t always possible and now with a 3rd even harder!! I have learnt to adjust our expectations and just go with the flow – they’re three now and at least we got out the other side with honour and sanity intact Having twins has taught me that I am capable of far more than I ever thought possible. I didn’t know if I would be able to survive twins, plus a 2 year old and a 4 year old with autism. But the twins are 6 months now and somehow we made it work and sometimes even have a lot of fun doing it Twins give you super powers. You can multi task like a pro. You get patience like you cant believe.You have this amazing overwhelming feeling of happiness and love. You cope with less because you have more. Twins don’t have a routine they have a drill sergeant behind them. One wrong move and there is chaos

October 24, 2024

IS YOUR CHILD READY FOR BIG SCHOOL? HOW READINESS IS DETERMINED TODAY

In recent years, the approach to determining school readiness has undergone significant changes. Traditionally, school readiness assessments in Grade 0 focused heavily on evaluating whether children met specific academic and developmental benchmarks. However, this method often overlooked the individual growth and unique strengths of each child. Today, there is a shift towards a more holistic and supportive approach, emphasising continuous growth and tailored support, an education expert says. “The modern approach places less emphasis on traditional assessments and more on measuring and supporting student growth over time,” says Lynda Eagle, Schools Academic Advisor at ADvTECH, Africa’s leading private education provider. “This shift recognises that each child develops at their own pace and has unique strengths and areas for improvement. By focusing on growth, educators can better support students as they progress, extending their strengths and providing scaffolding where needed.” THE MEANING OF SCHOOL READINESS School readiness is an assessment of the degree to which a child is prepared to enter school and succeed in a learning environment, explains Eagle. When considering school readiness there is a range of developmental areas – all inter-linked – that need to be considered: academic/cognitive, social, emotional and physical. Collectively, a healthy development across these areas will indicate that a child is ready and able to adapt and thrive in their new setting, she says. “School readiness is not just about knowledge. It involves a child’s ability to adapt, to manage their emotions, to positively interact with others and to follow routines.” AREAS OF DEVELOPMENT Children’s development will differ according to the child’s age and stage of development. The various elements considered are broadly defined as follows: Physical: This includes both fine and gross motors skills that facilitate the child’s ability to control their body movements with increased accuracy and precision. The development of these skills ultimately prepares children for handwriting (letter and number formation) and the more physical activities required when participating in sport – such as running, jumping, and throwing a ball. Cognitive development: Is the ability of the child to process and demonstrate their understandings of foundational skills through problem-solving, the following of instructions, the sequencing of events, and the ability to reason and apply what they have learned to new situations. Social development: This considers the child’s ability to interact with others, to share, take turns, engage in collaboration and cooperate with others. Do they understand social cues, and are they able to interpret and respond appropriately to social cues, and recognise emotions? Emotional development: This involves the ability of the child to self-regulate and manage their emotions and behaviours. It facilitates the building of the child’s self-confidence and ability to work independently – to make sound choices and to operate in a community effectively. BEYOND TRADITIONAL ASSESSMENTS – DETERMINING WHAT IS BEST FOR THE CHILD “When we fail to consider the age and developmental stage of a child, we risk trying to grow or develop their skills before they are ready, or before they have had the necessary foundational experiences, which can have a lifetime impact if there is a rush towards achieving school readiness,” says Eagle. “An overemphasis on academic skills can lead to moving to abstract concepts without providing enough concrete experiences. Measuring and judging students against uniform pre-determined norms or standards fail to recognise their unique needs, talents and dispositions. This approach places undue pressure on both the adults and students in an attempt to meet these milestones and often at the expense of developing important essential or soft skills”. Additionally, failing to consider cultural contexts means that norms are based on standards that do not align with the child’s unique experiences. “Fostering a competitive environment can place pressure on a child’s well-being, sense of belonging and identity. When a child is labelled as not ready, it implies they are not worthy, leading to judgment rather than nurturing.” Eagle says parents and educators need to take a balanced approach by determining whether the school is ready for the child, and whether it can work with a framework that recognises the rights of the child – adapting and designing learning experiences that address gaps and challenges. “Rather than ticking boxes to determine school readiness (or not), it is our duty to focus on the child’s emotional, social and mental health – where they feel safe then they will be open to learning. We must be flexible and adaptive – to be inclusive and affirmative in our actions and behaviours – this includes the language that we use. The overriding recognition should be that children don’t mature or learn in the same ways. That is okay, and simply requires us to adjust accordingly.”

October 23, 2024

Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids…

Did you know that in the languages of Sweden, Norway and Finland, where they experience long snow-filled winters, there are as many as 180 snow and ice related words. That’s a lot of ways to talk about something we just call, well, snow and ice. Imagine how differently snow would appear to you if you had so many ways to describe it rather than just cold, wet and white! Now think about how much richer your child’s emotional life would be if they could describe what they were feeling with more words than just happy, sad and mad. The thing is, the labels that we apply to our emotions do more than just help us to communicate with others what is going on in our internal world. They also help us to understand how to process and cope with what is going on and assist us in directing our behavior appropriately.For example… If you are just “sad”, then you might have only two options… cry and/or wait it out. But if you differentiate sadness into loneliness, boredom, grief, tiredness, melancholy, nostalgia, heartbrokeness or disappointment, then you suddenly have a few more options. You can phone a friend to alleviate loneliness; you can hop onto Pinterest for some craft ideas if you’re bored; you can take a nap if you’re tired; or adjust your expectations if you’re disappointed.Our emotions are the language of the unconscious mind and are there to help us to live more authentic, fulfilled lives by directing our attention to things that need to be addressed, by changing our physiology for survival, and by drawing our attention to the things that bring us joy so that we can do more of them. The more in tune we are with these messages, the more likely we are to live a rich, meaningful existence.Think of this as a relationship between yourself and this other aspect of your mind. The relationship is going to be a fairly shallow one if you only know a few words of the other partner’s language!So the main key to helping children to develop emotional intelligence is to develop their emotional vocabulary. Happy, sad and mad are fine when you’re three, but not when you’re 13 or 23 (or even 53!). Get out that dictionary. Start by making a long list of all the feeling words you can find. Keep adding to this as you discover more. Turn these into a daily emotional tracking chart that the whole family can use. Play emotional charades by placing all your newly learned words into a hat and each family member picking one and acting it out to see if the others can guess the feeling. Load a thesaurus onto your phone and every time you want to describe how you feel find another 5 ways of saying that which would more accurately describe your state. Read to your kids and discuss how the characters are feeling. Engage your children in emotional discussions. Really really listen to what they are saying and see if you can find the perfect word to sum it all up. Consider making up your own words if the perfect word doesn’t exist yet. Adding “hangry” to our vocabularies to describe the irritation that comes when you haven’t eaten enough has helped us to take the right action in the situation (i.e. instead of punishing the child that is lashing out, we give them a snack!). Language helps us to process our world, to interact with others and to express our needs and desires. Emotional language assists us in understanding ourselves, having empathy for others, directing our behavior appropriately, and managing our internal state. Transform snow into a damp, piercing and ghostly environment where you are engulfed by its icy transparency… and transform your child’s emotional world into as colourful a landscape. Emotionally intelligent kids need a vocabulary that is rich enough to express the depth of their internal world.

October 23, 2024

Teaching Study Skills: Whose Responsibility Is It Anyway?

Exams bring its fair share of stress and pressure. It is a time when teachers, parents and children feel overwhelmed by the volumes of work that need to be covered in class and committed to memory at home. Parents often feel that teachers should provide more guidance about how to study. Teachers feel that they have mountains of content to cover and do not have enough time to review the content as well. This leaves one wondering, who will show a child how to get through all the topics on their exam scope? Too Little, Too Late There is no magic trick to replace making and spending enough time to review work covered in class well in advance. Children’s busy afternoon programmes barely leave them with enough time to complete their homework for the following day. If a child only completes homework and skims over work for weekly tests without making summaries of the work covered in class, it leads to huge chunks of content to be covered prior to the exam. Mom, is it perhaps time to help your child to cut down on afternoon activities? Keywords are Key Making summaries of work covered in class needs to be done on a consistent basis. It reduces the workload prior to exams. When the key points have been highlighted and summarised, the child only has to focus on what has already been selected as the most important content. The child can then use the keywords to formulate sentences in his/her own words. Children often think that they have to repeat the words of the textbook verbatim. However, it is more important to retell the facts in a way that makes sense to them. Mock Tests Help your child to set his/her own test paper by formulating their own questions with answers. This will help them feel more prepared and less anxious before their exams. Chrizelle Prinsloo is the owner of Kip McGrath Education Centres, Walmer. She has a background in psychology and has taught in mainstream and special-needs schools both locally and abroad. Chrizelle is passionate about helping children gain confidence in their own abilities and about finding different ways to help them learn.

October 23, 2024

ARE YOU ENCOURAGING YOUR CHILD TO REBEL WITHOUT KNOWING IT?

Control and freedom. We all want both. We like to feel some sense of power and authority and we definitely want the feeling that nobody has power or authority over us – freedom. These apparently contradictory ideas are actually one. What we all really want, the true control we want to yield, is the power over ourselves – to be able to direct our time and our lives and to be able to pursue what is most meaningful to us without interference from others. What we want is to control our own freedom. And parenting is the place where our misguided attempts to control others (instead of our own lives) plays out the most. If we sit quietly with our own frustration and anger and disappointment that we are directing towards our children and their behaviour; If we truly allow these feelings to surface without attack; If we go deeply into the pain underlying them, what we find is that our futile attempts to control our children always come from our own unresolved issues. Children pulse with their own life-force, with their own goals and dreams and desires. Children, too, have the innate desire to control their own freedom. But when we, the adults, are not living authentic lives then we feel the need to squash the freedom we see in them. We need to make them conform to the same societal expectations that killed our inner joy, to let go of childish fantasies and ‘grow up into the real world’. We create all sorts of control mechanisms – punishments, shaming, coercion, rewards and the giving or withholding of approval – and then agree on these as a society to justify our own sense of disillusionment with how our lives have panned out. We believe that our underlying motivation is pure: That we want our children to grow up and fit into society and be liked and acceptable. What we don’t realise is that the very techniques that we use to entice our children into conformity are the same things that will initiate their rebellion. Nobody can suppress their inner authenticity for long periods of time. Teenage rebellion is absolutely essential in a society that manipulates and coerces children into being something they are not; And is totally absent in communities that allow children freedom. What looks like successful control in childhood – a well-behaved, obedient child – is the perfect fertile soil for that teen rebellion. Control can never be an external factor. True control must always come from within. It must arise from living a life where we are true to ourselves and also allow others to be true to themselves. Children (and adults) who are internally free and happy and living on purpose never put obstacles the paths of others. It is fear that lies behind all other-control. And what we fear as parents is that our children will become unruly, unlikable delinquents. And our fear converts into control, which converts into rebellion, and we unwittingly create the very thing we are afraid of. Let your children be. But first, let yourself be. Take some time as you head into this new year to assess your life. Are you doing what you really want to do? Is your life meaningful and joyous and filled with engaging challenges? Are you free, or have you succumbed to the power of some authority? Do you wake in the morning excited to see what the day brings? There is a lot we can learn from our children if we stop trying to make them like us and instead we see if we could possibly be more like them. Start controlling your own life and your own freedom and you will see that letting go of control in terms of your children is not something you need to do, but something that will come naturally as you live a more authentic life. Sow the seeds of freedom in your own life and you will stop sowing the seeds of rebellion in theirs.

October 22, 2024

Common First Aid Myths

I am often surprised by how some of my patients manage their injuries before they come to the emergency room. I think my own mother is also guilty of practising some really strange methods whilst I was growing up. Over the years, medical advice and management has evolved. What may have made sense years ago is now out of date and has been replaced with more sound research and often logic. Here are just a few of the first aid practices and myths that I have seen over the years.

October 22, 2024

THE TOP SEVEN ADVANTAGES TO EARLY CHILDHOOD EDUCATION

As parents consider the best path for their child’s development, early childhood education and care stand out as essential building blocks for future success. Ursula Assis, Country Director of Dibber International Preschools, emphasises the profound impact of early learning on a child’s cognitive, social, and emotional development. “Learning begins at birth, and the experiences children have in their early years lay the foundation for lifelong learning. At Dibber, we recognise that tapping into a child’s natural curiosity through structured learning and social interaction offers remarkable benefits,” says Assis. Early childhood care and education provide numerous developmental advantages beyond the classroom. From literacy and numeracy skills to nurturing independence and social interaction, the advantages of early learning experiences are transformative. Here are the top 7 advantages of early childhood education and care: Literacy and Numeracy Skills Early exposure to a structured curriculum helps children easily grasp fundamental concepts like letters and numbers. “A well-designed early education program ensures that children build a strong foundation in literacy and numeracy, essential for future academic success,” explains Assis. Independence Being introduced to a world outside of their home environment allows children to develop independence. They learn to explore, solve problems, and make decisions in a safe and supportive setting. Socialisation Early learning centres provide valuable opportunities for children to socialise with their peers. “Socialisation is critical for children as they learn the basics of teamwork, cooperation, and empathy through interactions with other children of the same age,” says Assis. Confidence Encouraging teachers play a significant role in helping children feel seen and heard. When a child’s contribution is valued, their confidence and self-esteem grow. “At Dibber, we are committed to fostering an environment where children feel empowered to express themselves,” adds Assis. Routine A structured daily routine helps children feel secure and in control of their environment. Knowing what to expect throughout the day supports emotional well-being and helps children manage transitions more smoothly. Lifelong Learning Early childhood education cultivates a positive relationship with learning by making learning enjoyable and stimulating. “When children develop a love for learning early on, they become eager to explore new ideas and challenges throughout their lives,” Assis highlights. Exposure to Diversity Early childhood education introduces children to a diverse world. They meet peers and educators from various cultural, religious, and social backgrounds, helping them appreciate diversity and fostering a sense of unity in difference. “Exposure to diversity from a young age allows children to develop a global mindset, which is invaluable in today’s interconnected world,” notes Assis. The holistic benefits of early childhood education cannot be overstated. Children develop crucial life skills, improve their academic readiness, and build strong social connections, all within an environment that encourages play-based learning. “As we continue to provide high-quality education at Dibber International Preschools, we are dedicated to giving children the opportunity to grow, learn, and thrive in a nurturing environment that supports their development in every aspect of life,” concludes Assis.

October 22, 2024

Pregnancy, your body and your baby – week 39 of your pregnancy

You’re now one week away from week 40 – the final week of your pregnancy. Strange to think back 39 weeks, where you wouldn’t even have known you were pregnant. Lots has changed since then, and a lot will continue to change before and after birth. Your body at week 39 At this point, you’ll definitely be feeling your pregnancy. Braxton Hicks contractions, leaking colostrum from your nipples and the frequent urge to urinate may all be part of your daily life. You may be having trouble sleeping, struggling with pelvic and back pain, and your vaginal discharge may be tinged with pink or brown as the blood vessels n your cervix rupture. It is possible to be diagnosed with preeclampsia in your last weeks of pregnancy. This is high blood pressure in pregnancy and is accompanied by protein in your urine and swelling of the hands and feet. Vomiting, nausea and dizziness are also symptoms you may have preeclampsia, and if you suspect you have it you’ll need to contact your doctor right away. Your baby at week 39 Your baby is now roughly the size of a honeydew melon and is considered full term if they’re born this week. At this point, their lungs are producing surfactant so that when they take their first breath, the air sacs won’t stick together. Things you should keep in mind at week 39 You may be wondering if you can still keep doing light exercise, or what you can do to keep active during this time. Exercise in late pregnancy is still doable and is a good idea if you’re feeling up to it. Although you may be worried about damaging your growing baby, exercise during this time is beneficial as it can help strengthen your body for delivery and birth. That being said, it’s important to clarify what you plan on doing with your doctor, and focus on short, low-intensity exercises such as certain yoga and water aerobics.

October 21, 2024

6 Must-read tips for successful expressing

Ultimately, the reason why you are expressing will determine how long you carry on for and/or how much milk is expressed Whether you express to keep your baby guzzling breast milk while you’re at work (or step out), or you express because your little one struggles to breastfeed, we can all agree on one thing… … it’s hard work. Think: Time (so.much.time), fluctuations in milk supply and a million little parts, not to mention bottles, that need to be washed, assembled and kept track of. But, that doesn’t mean it’s not doable – especially if your follow these six tips, courtesy of Vicki Scott (baby feeding and well-being advisor at Philips AVENT): 6 Must-read tips for successful expressing Practice makes perfect – or certainly improves how easily you can express! Try to express at the same time every day for a few days (after baby’s first feed of the day is a good time) Stimulate the let-down reflex before you start to pump, if the milk does not flow very easily. Do this by having a warm bath or gently massaging your breast with the flat of your hand. Good to know: Expressing from one side whilst feeding from the other is effective, as baby does the job of stimulating let-down for you! If using a manual pump, depress the lever as far as is comfortable; hold for a second or two, release, then repeat. Find a rhythm which feels natural – you are trying to mimic your baby suckling at the breast in order for your milk to begin to flow. When your milk begins to flow, slow down the pumping rhythm a little to suit you Continue pumping until the milk flow ceases, then swap to the other side.When flow on the second side ceases, return to the first It may be helpful to continue to gently massage the breast towards the nipple throughout, as this could help with let-down The reason why you are expressing will determine how long you carry on for and/or how much milk is expressed Remember… As with breastfeeding, successful expressing depends on various factors. Being relaxed, comfy and unhurried is key to a successful pumping session! Expressing is not always an accurate indication of how much milk you make– and baby is far more efficient at extracting milk from your breast than a pump is! Author: LARA BESTBIER Writer. Creative. Word-nerd. Aspiring photographer. Oh, and mom to the only little girl more demanding than me. Parenting editor at All4Women (e-mail me at lara@all4women.co.za).

October 21, 2024

BALANCING SCREEN TIME WITH PHYSICAL ACTIVITY

Balancing Screen Time with Physical Activity: Wingu Academy’s Blueprint for Success In an increasingly digital world, where screen time is an unavoidable part of daily life, finding the right balance with physical activity is essential for maintaining overall health and wellness. At Wingu Academy, we recognize the importance of this balance and are committed to ensuring that our students remain active and engaged, both online and offline. Our innovative approach combines cutting-edge technology with a focus on physical health, creating a holistic educational experience that supports students in every aspect of their lives. The Screen Time Dilemma The rise of online learning has introduced new challenges, particularly concerning physical health. Extended periods of screen time can lead to issues such as eye strain, poor posture, and a sedentary lifestyle. These challenges are compounded by the lack of regular physical activity, which is crucial for maintaining physical and mental wellbeing. At Wingu Academy, we understand these concerns and have proactively developed strategies to integrate physical activity into our students’ daily routines. As part of the efforts to balance daily routines, Wingu Academy has made available the year-long fitness club as part of the club offering at Wingu Academy. This ensures physical activity is seamlessly incorporated into our online learning environment. Striking the Balance Between Screen Time and Physical Activity At Wingu Academy, we recognize the importance of balancing academic engagement and physical well-being in an online learning environment. Our year-long fitness club is designed to encourage students to incorporate regular physical activity into their daily routines, countering the sedentary nature of online learning. The fitness club offers students a variety of activities, including yoga, strength training, and cardiovascular exercises, that can be done from the comfort of their homes. This program runs throughout the academic year, ensuring that physical health remains a priority. The club not only promotes exercise but also fosters a community where students can share their progress, set fitness goals, and stay motivated. By integrating this fitness initiative, Wingu Academy addresses the challenge of screen time overload, helping students build habits that support both their physical and mental health. Regular physical activity has been shown to enhance focus, improve cognitive function, and reduce stress, all of which contribute to a more holistic and balanced educational experience. Experience Wingu Academy’s Unique Approach Join us for our Open Day on October 5th at the Wingu Academy South Suburbs Campus to discover firsthand how we empower students for the future with an innovative, world-class education that prioritises wellness. Meet our team, explore our programs, and see how we’re making a meaningful difference in students’ lives. Register today and take the first step towards a healthier, more balanced, and empowering educational journey!

October 21, 2024

Supa Strikas Rookie Season PLUS Supa Strikas Freestyle Challenge

Rookie Season is here, and Shakes is back to where it all began! Join our youngest Supa Strikas star on his wild ride as he tackles betrayal, searches for his dad, and takes on epic soccer challenges. Will he conquer the Super League Trophy and impress his sister? ⚽️ Plus, catch Shakes going head-to-head with freestyle football champs Lia Lewis and Tobias Becs! Watch as they show off jaw-dropping moves like thigh pops, splits, sole swipes, and more! ⚽️ Premiere Monday 21 October 2024 ⏰ Tune-in Monday to Friday @ 17:50 CAT Available on DSTV Catch-Up until 5 December 2024

October 21, 2024

HOW TO ENCOURAGE A GROWTH MINDSET IN CHILDREN

Have you heard of a growth mindset? It’s become somewhat of a buzzword lately and that’s because it really does make a difference to a child’s ability to learn something and their confidence in trying new things. A fixed mindset is one in which we say things like: “I can’t do that” or “I am not good at something”. It’s the belief that our abilities are fixed – that we are either clever or not, either sporty or not. The growth mindset is the opposite. With a growth mindset we acknowledge that we can always improve with a bit of effort. We understand that our brains are not fixed, but constantly changing; that our abilities are not just genetic but influenced by what we do. We see that it is possible for all people to learn new things, even though it may be more of a challenge for some. Why does this matter? Well, with a fixed mindset a child is less likely to try new things, and more likely to give up when something gets difficult – which can seriously limit their options in life. It also leads to misidentification and self-handicapping – protecting themselves from failure by either not investing their self-esteem or identity into something difficult, or having a good excuse ready for falling short. So here are ten tips for maintaining and encouraging a growth mindset: Expose your children to information on how the brain changes and learns. Teach them that intelligence grows like a muscle and it needs challenge in order to get the right exercise. Don’t praise cleverness – praise effort. Focus on a child’s hard work rather than on the outcome of that work or on fixed measurements like IQ. Encourage failure. Praise children for giving something a go and for having the courage to face challenges. Let them celebrate their failures as a sign of being brave enough to try. Show them how failure leads to growth. Avoid superhero worship. Focus on everyday people who do amazing things through hard work and struggle. Tell them stories of your own doubts and challenges and how you made it through. Teach them to say, “How can I?” instead of “I can’t”. Using a question opens up creative thinking and stops the brain from giving up on the problem. Teach them to add “…yet” to the end of things they can’t do. For example, “I can’t do maths… yet”. This helps them to focus on what they still need to do to master something rather than on their current inability. Give them examples of others who have failed and succeeded e.g. basketball players missing more goals than they hit. Give them examples of where they have failed and succeeded e.g. struggling with a new computer game that they now play effortlessly. 10. Acknowledge their frustration when they are doing something difficult without jumping in and doing things for them. Everything is difficult at first. Our kids often don’t get good role models of this because they see us doing things that we’ve done for years and years and of course these things look easy. Then they try to do these same things and struggle. We need to remind them that we also struggled once. In fact, everyone struggles to some degree with a new task. But with practice and a dedication to continue, everything gets easier. We were all born with the ability to learn and grow – not just some people.

October 18, 2024

Ninjago: Dragons Rising

In this epic series, worlds collide as legendary realms suddenly merge into one, but the fusion is far from stable! ✨ Enter a Spinjitzu Ninja Master, who’s on a mission to train a brand-new generation of heroes to rise up and defend the land. Their quest? To track down the powerful Elemental Dragons , mystical creatures with the power to save the planet. But beware—evil forces are lurking, ready to harness the same dragon energy for their own wicked plans, threatening to destroy this newly-formed world! ⚡ Will our young heroes succeed, or will darkness prevail? Get ready for an action-packed adventure full of twists, teamwork, and ninja moves! Premiere Saturday 19 October 2024 ⏰ Tune-in Weekends 08:05 CAT Available on DSTV Catch-Up until 17 December 2024

October 18, 2024

How Safe Are Teething Gels?

Every baby is different but common symptoms associated with teething include, mild irritability, drooling, low-grade fever and loss of appetite. If your baby is inconsolable or has a high fever chances are this is not due to teething. Teething should not make your baby very sick but rather very unhappy.

October 17, 2024

Surviving school exams with less stress & more focus

We’re into the last term of the school year, and that means exam time for learners from Grade 4 all the way up to Grade 12. While there’s a lot at stake for children in the upper Grades, even the younger ones going into their first or second exam seasons can feel pressure to perform. Parents too, can feel heightened anxiety as their children are put to the test, and this can be a disruptive time when it comes to all-round family well-being. Doryce Sher, a qualified pharmacist, aromatherapist and the founder of Aromatic Apothecary, says, “It’s high stakes over the next couple months for families; both challenging and exciting. This tension may not necessarily be about the importance of every mark but navigating the exam period well and generally getting good results builds a child’s confidence. So, it’s natural that parents feel invested in their children performing as well as possible in the end-of-year exams. All this can lead to a pervasive exam stress with both children and parents feeling overwhelmed and anxious.” According to Doryce these are aspects of emotional well-being and mental health where aromatherapy solutions particularly come to the fore. She says, “Nature provides us with healing plants that provide fast-acting, effective relief. From calming down in the moment and keeping anxiety at bay, to energising and re-focusing on what matters, we can use aromatherapy solutions such as the Aromatic Apothecary Stress-less nasal inhaler and the Wake Up & Focus nasal inhaler to quickly shift our mood, navigate the ups and downs, keep on track with our goals and get through a stressful time like exam season by performing at our peak instead of struggling.” Doryce’s top tips for less stress and more focus during exams include: A calm and comfortable study environment – Younger learners will need parents focused support with their study planning, while older children need quiet, organised spaces for studying at home, free of distractions and demands. Parents may need to adjust their child’s chores and family responsibilities so that they can prioritise their study and exam schedule. Maintaining a balanced, healthy lifestyle – Some of the most important support parents can provide is to encourage their child to maintain balance. Younger children might need parents’ help to get through their study time and stay focused on learning and revising. For high schoolers, studying without breaks, skipping meals, cutting off all social interactions and sleepless nights will not result in peak performance at exam time. Parents need to enable healthy eating, regular study breaks, daily exercise, some social interaction and sufficient sleep. Keeping your balance – Parents need to be mindful of their own expectations and anxieties. In line with reasonable expectations for their age, it’s important that your child manages themselves as much as possible when it comes to their study time. It’s not your job to drive their performance, but to support it. Communicating with care – Be careful of not inflaming situations. Expect some ups and downs, and don’t overreact in tough times. Open and non-judgemental conversations will help mitigate anxieties, lower the temperature and return more quickly to being focused on solutions. See your role as being encouraging, offering emotional support and reassurance. Providing a safe space for your child to express their feelings can only happen if you are in control of your own. Less stress is a decision and an action – Managing stressful moments is active not passive; not just mental but physical too. You need to do something to effectively shift out of the anxious state. Doryce says, “We know that the best way to deal with stress and anxiety is through deep breathing – it’s a failsafe, it always works. Often though, we are not in a state where we can master deep breathing. The Aromatic Apothecary Stress-less nasal inhaler sparks deep breathing, but it also gives you a scent infusion of a unique lavender, neroli and chamomile blend that is instantly calming and relaxing. The beauty of it is that it is safe to use repeatedly, whenever you need it. So, you can keep it in your pocket, school bag or on your desk and reach for it every time you start to feel overwhelmed. Stress and anxiety at exam time arise in the amygdala region in the brain, causing increased levels of cortisol in the body. Negative thought patterns, self-doubt, and fear of failure are all symptoms of exam anxiety. This mental noise impairs concentration, memory recall, and disrupts sound decision-making. Expect the stress and have coping strategies and tools like the Aromatic Apothecary Stress-less nasal inhaler to hand. It’s good for both children and their parents and can be used before bed to induce relaxation and restful sleep. Keep the focus on what matters – Younger children are still learning about the importance of exam time, and they will most likely need parental support to gently help them focus on their studies. For older learners, long hours spent studying, late nights and worries can all affect concentration and levels of fatigue. When your child sits down to study or write an exam, they want a mind that’s sharp and energised. Aromatic Apothecary Wake Up & Focus nasal inhaler is a safe, natural way to combat tiredness and lethargy, and to experience a mental boost. The unique blend of geranium, lemon, peppermint and rosemary is refreshing and invigorating as it quickly lifts concentration and alertness. Together with the Aromatic Apothecary Stress-less nasal inhaler, it puts you in charge and helps you moderate the ups and downs of a challenging time. The quick and easy inhaler format means that it can be slipped into a pocket and used quickly and discreetly for instant relief. It is safe to use whenever you feel like your concentration is slipping. Doryce concludes, “Perhaps the greatest meaning that we can find in a trial of life such as exam time, is that it is not so much the marks we get out of it, but

October 17, 2024

How To Be Angry Without Destroying Your Kids’ Self-Confidence

All too often I hear parents trying to repress their anger around their kids. Now this is not only unhealthy for you (repressed emotions actually create illness within the body) but it is also not great for your kids to grow up believing that some emotions are simply not ok to have. All emotions are a part of our human journey, and are messages from our unconscious mind regarding things we need to pay attention to or change in our lives. Having said that, it is also worth noting that telling your child that THEY are making YOU angry, sad, irritated (or even happy) is simply too much responsibility to place on another human being, particularly a little one! No one can MAKE you anything. Think about squeezing an orange. What comes out? I’m hoping that you’re saying “orange juice”! Not guava juice or pear juice or cherry flavoured Coca-Cola! Why? Because you only get out what is already within. So if your kids are pushing your buttons and there’s anger coming out, well then that’s what is within. Take responsibility for your own emotions. Own them – they’re yours. However, this does not mean that you are not allowed to experience these emotions, and even experience them very strongly in the presence of your children. So how do we express strong negative emotions without damaging our kids and making them feel responsible for us and our emotional state? How do we teach them to take responsibility for THEIR own emotions and not blame you or their siblings or teachers or life for how it is that THEY are feeling? It all starts with the little one-letter word “I”. “I am feeling soooo angry right now”, “I am feeling more and more and more irritated, so irritated that I could just scream”, “I am feeling ridiculously happy, like the luckiest person in the world”. As opposed to: “You are making me very angry”, “You are irritating me”, “You make your mom sooo happy”. Can you see the difference? And these can be said with as much emotion or volume as you feel is appropriate. You can even step it up in ways that they can relate to and that gives them some warning about where you’re at… “I am about as angry as a pea right now… Now I’m as angry as a small cat… AND NOW I’M AS ANGRY AS A LARGE ELEPHANT!!!” They will get the message. They will learn when to step away. They will learn how to experience strong emotional states themselves without lashing out at others. What they won’t learn is to take responsibility for you. What they won’t learn is to blame. What they won’t learn is to beat themselves up for your inner state. This builds emotional maturity, responsibility and self-confidence. All emotions are ok, but how we choose to express them is what makes the biggest difference.

October 17, 2024

CAMBRIDGE CURRICULUM: WHAT PARENTS NEED TO KNOW BEFORE THEY SIGN UP

Over the past decade, as the Cambridge curriculum gained popularity in South Africa, the number of schools and institutions offering this internationally recognised education pathway mushroomed across the country. However, as many parents who wanted to ensure their child received the best possible education came to realise, not all schools are equally equipped to deliver the curriculum effectively. “It is not unusual for students and parents to arrive late in their school journey only to find out that they are not ready whatsoever for their final exams, despite having performed adequately before,” says Marlene Van Der Wath, Brand Academic Head at ADvTECH Schools, Africa’s leading private education provider. She says the Cambridge curriculum has unique requirements and logistics which, if not properly understood, supported and implemented, can leave students significantly in the lurch. “We therefore encourage parents to ensure they have done their due diligence checks before enrolling their child at a school offering the Cambridge curriculum, to ensure the student is able to complete their schooling successfully and with as little additional pressure as possible,” she says. THE CAMBRIDGE CURRICULUM The Cambridge curriculum stands out as an exceptional educational path due to its comprehensive and challenging framework. It is meticulously designed to foster critical thinking, problem-solving, and analytical skills from an early age through to advanced levels. By offering a structured progression from the Early Years through Primary, Lower Secondary, IGCSE, and AS/A Levels, it ensures that students build a solid academic foundation and are well-prepared for higher education. Additionally, its global recognition opens doors to universities and career opportunities worldwide, making it an ideal choice for students aiming for academic excellence and international prospects. Cambridge also continually revises their curricula to keep up with international trends and research regarding education. KEY FACTORS WHEN EVALUATING A CAMBRIDGE SCHOOL Accreditation and recognition When selecting a school, it’s crucial to verify that it holds accreditation from Cambridge Assessment International Education. This accreditation ensures that the school undergoes regular inspections and adheres to specific quality standards. Additionally, it’s important to confirm that the school’s qualifications are recognised by South African universities and other international institutions, ensuring that students have access to a wide range of higher education opportunities both locally and globally. Qualified and experienced staff When evaluating a school, it’s important to assess the qualifications and experience of the teaching staff. Educators should have specialised training in the Cambridge curriculum and a proven history of effectively supporting students through it. Additionally, seek out schools that offer continuous professional development for their teachers, to ensure they remain current with the latest educational methodologies. Curriculum delivery and support To determine a school’s approach to delivering the curriculum, it’s important to look for a balanced method that combines both theoretical knowledge and practical application. This means that while students are learning the fundamental concepts and theories, they are also given opportunities to apply this knowledge in real-world scenarios, through activities like experiments, projects, and hands-on learning experiences. This approach helps students to better understand and retain information, making their education more meaningful and engaging. Additionally, it’s crucial to ensure that the school provides ample support for students. This can include tutoring services for those who need extra help with their studies, mentoring programmes to guide students through their academic journey, and access to resources such as well-equipped libraries and modern laboratories. These resources can significantly enhance the learning experience, providing students with the tools they need to succeed academically and develop a deeper understanding of the subjects they are studying. Also, ensure the school has access to Cambridge-approved textbooks and learning materials. Student performance and outcomes Examine the school’s historical performance, and speak to past and current students and parents. Consistently high pass rates and top grades are strong indicators that the school effectively delivers the curriculum and supports student achievement. This data can provide valuable insights into the quality of education and the effectiveness of teaching methods employed by the school. This applies not only to the top achievers, but also the students who are supported to perform to the best of their ability to improve their grades. Additionally, take into account the achievements of the school’s alumni. Investigate how former students have fared in higher education and their subsequent career paths. Successful alumni who have gained admission to prestigious universities and excelled in their professional lives reflect positively on the school’s long-term impact. This information can help parents gauge the school’s ability to prepare students not just for exams, but for future academic and career success. “Going the Cambridge route can solidly position your child for a successful academic journey and future success,” says Van Der Wath. “But choosing the right school for your child’s Cambridge education is crucial for their successful academic and personal development.”

October 16, 2024

HEALTHY MEAL IDEAS FOR CHILDREN

Healthy eating is an important lesson you can teach your children. The example you set is the best way to help your kids make smart food choices and to develop a positive relationship with food. A healthy, balanced diet is not just good for kid’s bodies, it’s good for their brains, too. The right foods can improve brain function, memory, and concentration. Like the body, the brain absorbs nutrients from the foods we eat, and these 10 “superfoods” can help children boost their brainpower. Fatty fish, such as salmon, is a good source of omega-3 fatty acids that are needed for brain growth and function. Getting enough of these fatty acids can help kids improve their mental skills. TRY: Make salmon sandwiches (on whole wheat bread) instead of tuna for a healthy alternative. Eggs are a great source of protein, and their yolks have choline, an important nutrient for memory development. TRY: A homemade breakfast wrap, loaded with veggies for a quick and healthy breakfast before school. Kids love peanut butter, and that’s a good thing since this healthy snack is packed with vitamin E, an antioxidant that protects nerve membranes. It also has thiamin, which is good for the brain, and glucose which gives energy. TRY: Peanut butter makes a great dip for fruits such as bananas, and for veggies such as celery. Whole grains such as breads and cereals provide glucose, an energy source the brain needs. Whole grains also contain B vitamins, which are good for the nervous system. TRY: Add whole grains to most meals by switching to whole grain breads, wraps, and crackers. Oats and oatmeal are excellent sources of energy and brain “fuel.” Oats are packed with fiber to help keep kids feeling full so they don’t snack on junk food. They are also an excellent source of vitamins E, B complex, and zinc to help kids’ brains work their best. TRY: Oatmeal can be a base for almost any topping such as apples, bananas, blueberries or even almonds. Berries can help improve memory and are packed with vitamin C and other antioxidants. Seeds from berries also contain omega-3 fats that help with brain function. Look for strawberries, cherries, blueberries, and blackberries – the more intense the colour of the berry, the more nutrition it has. TRY: Berries can be used in smoothies or just as they are for healthy snacks or desserts. Bean, beans, good for the heart… so the saying goes. They are also good for kid’s brains since they have energy from protein, complex carbohydrates, fiber, and vitamins and minerals. They can keep energy levels high. Kidney and pinto beans are good choices as they contain more omega-3 fatty acids that other bean varieties, which are important for brain growth and function. TRY: Add beans as a salad topper, as filler for lettuce wraps, or even add them to spaghetti for a more nutritious meal. Vegetables with rich, deep colour are an excellent source of antioxidants to keep the brain cells healthy. Some veggies to include in your child’s diet are tomatoes, sweet potatoes, pumpkin, carrots, or spinach. It’s easy to sneak veggies into spaghetti sauces or soups. TRY: Replace potato or corn chips in your child’s lunch with baked sweet potato wedges or easy-to-snack-on veggies such as sugar snap peas or baby carrots. B vitamins are necessary for growth of brain tissue, neurotransmitters, and enzymes, and dairy products are a good source for these nutrients. Low fat milk or yogurt is great sources of protein and carbohydrates foe the brain. Dairy is also an excellent source of vitamin D, which children and teens need in greater amounts than adults. TRY: Low-fat cheese sticks make a great to-go snack and are a good source of calcium. Lean beef or meat alternatives are excellent sources of iron, which helps kids maintain energy and focus in school. Beef is also a good source of zinc, which aids memory. Vegetarian kids can get their iron from black bean and soy burgers. Beans have what is called nonheme iron, which needs vitamin C to be absorbed so have them eat their veggie burgers or beans with good sources of vitamin C such as peppers or orange juice. TRY: Grilled lean-meat kabobs or grilled black bean burgers make a tasty and healthy alternative to regular hamburgers and hotdogs for your next braai!

October 16, 2024

Healthy Eating Habits for Children

Healthy eating is an important lesson you can teach your children. The example you set is the best way to help your kids make smart food choices and to develop a positive relationship with food. A healthy, balanced diet is not just good for kid’s bodies, it’s good for their brains, too. The right foods can improve brain function, memory, and concentration. Like the body, the brain absorbs nutrients from the foods we eat, and these 10 “superfoods” can help children boost their brainpower. Fatty fish, such as salmon, is a good source of omega-3 fatty acids that are needed for brain growth and function. Getting enough of these fatty acids can help kids improve their mental skills. Make salmon sandwiches (on whole wheat bread) instead of tuna for a healthy alternative. Eggs are a great source of protein, and their yolks have choline, an important nutrient for memory development. Try a homemade breakfast wrap, loaded with veggies for a quick and healthy breakfast before school. Kids love peanut butter, and that’s a good thing since this healthy snack is packed with vitamin E, an antioxidant that protects nerve membranes. It also has thiamin, which is good for the brain, and glucose which gives energy. Peanut butter makes a great dip for fruits such as bananas, and for veggies such as celery. Whole grains such as breads and cereals provide glucose, an energy source the brain needs. Whole grains also contain B vitamins, which are good for the nervous system. Add whole grains to most meals by switching to whole grain breads, wraps, and crackers. Oats and oatmeal are excellent sources of energy and brain “fuel.” Oats are packed with fiber to help keep kids feeling full so they don’t snack on junk food. They are also an excellent source of vitamins E, B complex, and zinc to help kids’ brains work their best. Oatmeal can be a base for almost any topping such as apples, bananas, blueberries or even almonds. Berries can help improve memory and are packed with vitamin C and other antioxidants. Seeds from berries also contain omega-3 fats that help with brain function. Look for strawberries, cherries, blueberries, and blackberries – the more intense the color of the berry, the more nutrition it has. Berries can be used in smoothies or just as they are for healthy snacks or desserts. Bean, beans, good for the heart… so the saying goes. They are also good for kid’s brains since they have energy from protein, complex carbohydrates, fiber, and vitamins and minerals. They can keep energy levels high. Kidney and pinto beans are good choices as they contain more omega-3 fatty acids that other bean varieties, which are important for brain growth and function. Add beans as a salad topper, as filler for lettuce wraps, or even add them to spaghetti for a more nutritious meal. Vegetables with rich, deep color are an excellent source of antioxidants to keep the brain cells healthy. Some veggies to include in your child’s diet are tomatoes, sweet potatoes, pumpkin, carrots, or spinach. It’s easy to sneak veggies into spaghetti sauces or soups. Replace potato or corn chips in your child’s lunch with baked sweet potato wedges or easy-to-snack-on veggies such as sugar snap peas or baby carrots. B vitamins are necessary for growth of brain tissue, neurotransmitters, and enzymes, and dairy products are a good source for these nutrients. Low fat milk or yogurt is great sources of protein and carbohydrates foe the brain. Dairy is also an excellent source of vitamin D, which children and teens need in greater amounts than adults. Low-fat cheese sticks make a great to-go snack and are a good source of calcium. Lean beef or meat alternatives are excellent sources of iron, which helps kids maintain energy and focus in school. Beef is also a good source of zinc, which aids memory. Vegetarian kids can get their iron from black bean and soy burgers. Beans have what is called nonheme iron, which needs vitamin C to be absorbed so have them eat their veggie burgers or beans with good sources of vitamin C such as peppers or orange juice. Grilled lean-meat kabobs or grilled black bean burgers make a tasty and healthy alternative to regular hamburgers and hotdogs for your next braai!

October 15, 2024

Grapes PLUS 8 other things your toddler can choke on

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October 15, 2024

NURTURING MENTAL WELLNESS FROM THE START : building a strong foundation for your child

October is mental wellness month, and while we often associate mental wellness with the teenage years to adulthood, it is essential to remember that nurturing a child’s mental health begins in the early years. Parenting is a journey filled with love, joy, and the responsibility of shaping a child’s emotional and mental well-being. “Fostering mental health in children starts from their very first experiences,” says Ursula Assis, Country Director of Dibber International Preschools. “By being responsive to their needs, celebrating our rich cultural heritage, and embracing mindful practices, we can help children develop the tools they need to navigate the challenges of life with confidence.” A key element of this journey is embracing South Africa’s rich cultural roots. Our traditions, languages, and stories offer a treasure trove of experiences that can help children feel connected to their identity and heritage. Whether it’s sharing folktales like the stories of Anansi the Spider or teaching simple greetings in Zulu, Xhosa, or Afrikaans, celebrating diversity from an early age fosters a sense of belonging and pride. At Dibber International Preschools, we recognise the importance of creating an environment where children feel comfortable expressing their emotions. “It’s vital for children to develop emotional intelligence early on. We create safe spaces where children can talk about their feelings, whether it’s joy, frustration, or sadness, and we give them the language they need to express themselves,” says Assis. Play also plays a central role in a child’s emotional and cognitive development. Exploring local parks, building sandcastles, or engaging in traditional South African games like “diketo” helps children develop confidence, empathy, and creativity. These outdoor activities support their mental well-being and instil a deep appreciation for nature. Nurturing healthy relationships is another cornerstone of a child’s mental health. “In South Africa, where community is deeply valued, it’s important to teach our children empathy and the importance of kindness,” explains Assis. “By fostering loving relationships at home and encouraging positive social interactions, we lay the foundation for strong connections throughout their lives.” Establishing consistent routines, especially in the early years, also contributes to a child’s mental well-being. Predictable daily rituals provide structure and security, helping children feel in control of their environment. This sense of stability reduces anxiety and teaches life skills like time management and responsibility. Mindfulness practices, such as deep breathing or listening to the sounds of nature, are also effective tools for promoting inner peace and emotional regulation. “Mindfulness is a simple but powerful way to help children manage stress and develop self-awareness. It’s a practice that benefits parents and children, creating a calm and balanced environment at home,” adds Assis. Assis also emphasises the importance of seeking support when needed. “Parenting is not a solitary journey,” she says. “Whether it’s advice from healthcare professionals, joining parenting groups, or simply reaching out to friends, asking for help is a sign of strength. When we have concerns about our child’s development, seeking guidance is crucial for their mental well-being.” Throughout the journey of parenthood, leading by example is one of the most impactful ways to instil healthy coping mechanisms in children. By demonstrating constructive ways to manage stress and healthily expressing emotions, parents teach their children essential life skills to help them navigate future challenges. Finally, celebrating milestones—big or small—reinforces a child’s self-esteem and builds a positive self-image. Whether taking their first steps or making new friends at school, recognising these achievements boosts their confidence and motivates them to keep trying. “Building a strong mental health foundation in a child’s early years is a journey of love, patience, and discovery,” concludes Assis. “By nurturing their emotional well-being and embracing the richness of our cultural heritage, we are laying the groundwork for a resilient and mentally healthy future. Every day is an opportunity to learn and grow together, and these small steps make a big difference in shaping the adults our children will become.” Written by: Kelly Eyre

October 15, 2024

Pregnancy, your body and your baby – week 38 of your pregnancy

There are now two weeks left of your official pregnancy span, however, there is even a chance that you may get to meet your little one sooner, as about 5% babies are born before or after their due dates. Your breathing may be feeling easier, as your baby moves lower down into your pelvis. But this can leave you with an increasingly shrinking bladder and smaller tasks that used to feel easy are now more difficult. Your body at week 38 Don’t be surprised if your nipples start leaking colostrum around this time. You may also be experiencing frequent Braxton Hicks contractions (which will be helping to prepare you for the real deal) and your nesting instincts may have kicked in, leaving you with a strong urge to clean and organise your house. Other common pregnancy symptoms at this time are frequent urination and pressure on your pelvis and hips as your baby has dropped lower into your abdomen. You may also be struggling to sleep, have swollen feet and ankles and your vaginal discharge may be tinged pink or brown. Your baby at week 38 Your little one is almost ready to meet the world! Your baby has probably shed the soft hair, lanugo, which covered their body (although some are born with patches). Although they are mostly fully developed, if born now, they will be considered early term. They are still continuing to add fat on their body, and the brain and nervous system are continually developing. Things to keep in mind at week 38 One of the questions you may have going through your mind, is how will you be sure that labour has started? Birthing classes are a good way to get to know what to expect, but if you haven’t been able to attend any of those, there are other ways to know that your baby is on its way. Your cervix will start dilating, which your doctor will be able to track in weekly check-ups. You may experience diarrhoea and during labour you’ll have frequent contractions which will grow stronger over time.

October 14, 2024

NURTURING STUDENT WELLNESS AND BALANCE IN THE 4IR ERA

Online Schools: Nurturing Student Wellness and Balance in the 4IR Era The Fourth Industrial Revolution (4IR) is reshaping our world at an unprecedented pace. As technology continues to advance and transform the workplace, it’s crucial to recognise that preparing students for the future goes beyond just equipping them with technical skills. Student wellness and balance are equally essential for thriving in the 4IR era. Traditional brick-and-mortar schools in South Africa often struggle to address the holistic needs of students in this fast-paced, digitally-driven environment. Overcrowded classrooms, rigid schedules, and a focus on academic performance can lead to stress, burnout, and a lack of work-life balance, hindering students’ overall wellbeing. Online schools, on the other hand, offer unique opportunities to prioritise student wellness and create a more balanced learning experience: 1. Flexible Schedules and Personalised Learning: Online schools provide students with the flexibility to create their own schedules, allowing them to balance their studies with other commitments, such as extracurricular activities, family time, or part-time work. Personalised learning pathways enable students to progress at their own pace, reducing stress and promoting a sense of control over their education. 2. Reduced Stress and Anxiety: The online environment eliminates many of the stressors associated with traditional schools, such as social pressures, bullying, and long commutes. Students can learn in a comfortable and familiar setting, fostering a sense of calm and focus. 3. Focus on Mental and Emotional Wellbeing: Online schools can incorporate mental health resources and support services into their programs, providing students with access to counsellors, therapists, and mindfulness practices. This proactive approach to mental and emotional wellbeing helps students develop coping mechanisms and resilience, essential skills for navigating the challenges of the 4IR. 4. Encouraging Physical Activity and Healthy Habits: Flexible schedules allow students to incorporate physical activity and healthy habits into their daily routines. Online schools can also promote wellness through virtual fitness classes, health challenges, and nutritional guidance. 5. Building Strong Connections and Community: While online learning can be solitary at times, online schools actively foster a sense of community and connection through virtual clubs, online forums, and collaborative projects. These opportunities for social interaction and engagement help combat feelings of isolation and promote a sense of belonging. Addressing Challenges in Traditional Schools: Traditional schools in South Africa face significant challenges in prioritising student wellness: Limited Resources: Many schools lack the resources to provide adequate mental health support or promote physical activity. Rigid Structures: Strict schedules and standardised curricula can leave little room for individual needs and interests. Social Pressures: The traditional school environment can be a breeding ground for social pressures and anxieties. Online schools, with their flexibility and adaptability, offer a refreshing alternative, allowing for a more holistic approach to education that prioritises student wellness and balance. As we prepare students for the future of work in the 4IR, it’s imperative to recognise that academic success alone is not enough. Online schools provide a unique opportunity to nurture student wellness and balance, equipping them with the resilience, adaptability, and self-care skills necessary to thrive in an ever-changing world. By prioritising the holistic needs of students, online education paves the way for a brighter and more balanced future. How Wingu Academy Supports Mental Health At Wingu Academy, mental health is not just an add-on; it’s a cornerstone of our educational philosophy. Our robust support system which includes our Special Education Needs (SEN) and Wellness units ensures that students are equipped to handle the challenges of the digital age while maintaining their emotional wellbeing. Hear from Our Students Adariano, a 12-year-old student at Wingu Academy, highlights how our flexible approach supports his personal growth: “Wingu is so flexible that it allows me to excel at what I’m good at and love. The mental health resources and the supportive environment help me stay focused and motivated.” Ane and Conrad, aged 15 and 13, also share their positive experiences: “We use extracurricular clubs like the fitness club to ensure that we maintain a healthy mind and body. It’s not just about academics; Wingu helps us balance everything and stay well-rounded.” These testimonials underscore the impact of our mental health initiatives and the importance of flexibility and support in helping students achieve their best. Join Us for Our Open Day Curious about how Wingu Academy integrates mental health support into our online education model? We invite you to our Open Day on October 5th at South Suburbs. This event will offer a comprehensive overview of our mental health initiatives, including our innovative support systems and the resources available to students. You will have the opportunity to meet our dedicated team of mental health professionals, explore our programs, and learn more from students and parents about their experiences. Event Highlights: Interactive Sessions: Learn about our mental health resources and how they are implemented in our curriculum. Meet the Experts: Engage with our team of mental health professionals and counsellors. Student and Parent Panels: Hear firsthand from those who have benefited from our approach. Visit our website to learn more about our mental health resources, and don’t miss the chance to join us for our Open Day on October 5th. Experience how Wingu Academy is revolutionising the digital classroom with a focus on mental health and wellbeing. Discover the difference our approach can make in your child’s educational journey and overall happiness. We look forward to welcoming you and showcasing how we prioritise mental health in education.

October 14, 2024

Barney’s World

Say hello to Barney, the lovable, singing, and dancing purple dino who’s all about spreading love! In this brand-new animated series, Barney teams up with his dino pals Billy and Baby Bop , along with their three kid besties! Together, they dive into fun-filled, silly adventures at the local playground , where Barney helps them explore big feelings, self-love, and how to care for others and their community. ❤️ Get ready for a heartwarming journey of friendship and fun! Premiere Monday 14 October 2024 ⏰ Tune-in Monday to Friday @ 16:15 CAP Available on DSTV Catch-Up until 25 November 2024

October 14, 2024

BARNEY DANCES BACK ONTO SCREENS IN BRAND NEW BARNEY’S WORLD PREMIERING ON CARTOONITO AFRICA ON 14 OCTOBER

Get Ready to Join the Fun and Feel the Love All Over Again! Mattel’s beloved purple dinosaur Barney returns to our screens in an all-new animated series, Barney’s World, starting 14 October on Cartoonito Africa! It’s time to dust off your dancing shoes and get ready for some dinosaur-sized fun because everyone’s favourite purple dinosaur, Barney, is back! After 14 years, the lovable dino returns to the screen in the all-new animated seriesBarney’s World, premiering Monday, 14 October 2024, on Cartoonito Africa. In this exciting new series co-produced by Mattel Television and Corus Entertainment’s Nelvana, Barney and his friends embark on colourful, music-filled adventures that teach kids timeless lessons about friendship, kindness, and self-love. Set in magical and fun locations—from a splash pad and enchanted forest to a desert pirate island—Barney’s World is sure to spark imaginations across Africa. And guess who’s back? Joining Barney are the dynamic duo of Baby Bop and Billy, plus three new kid besties: Mel, Vivie, and David! Together, they dive into silly, imaginative play while learning that everyone is special in their own way. Packed with 25 new songs, 52 episodes, and endless adventures, Barney’s World is the perfect way to introduce a new generation to the purple dinosaur’s charm. Meet the Dino Crew Barney (voiced by Jonathon Langdon from Trap, ZOMBIES) – Always ready for fun, Barney uses his big purple magic to turn everyday moments into grand adventures. He’s a great listener who helps kids explore their big emotions—whether they’re feeling happy, sad, or anything in between! Baby Bop (voiced by Bryn McAuley from Hotel Transylvania: The Series) – A performer at heart, Baby Bop knows all about feelings and is a true advocate for expressing them, no matter how big or small. Billy (voiced by Jonathon Tan from My Little Pony: Tell Your Tale, Let’s Go, Bananas!) – This high-energy dino loves a good challenge and always brings the noise (and action) to the group! Mel (voiced by Diana Tsoy from Peter Pan & Wendy) – A quick-witted, competitive kiddo who’s always up for a game and some friendly rivalry. Vivie (voiced by Ella Paccioco, vocal start) – Full of creativity and care, Vivie is the nurturing soul of the group with a huge imagination. David (voiced by Jayd Deroch-T) – Empathetic and thoughtful, David is the kind-hearted glue that keeps the gang close. What to Expect? A whole lot of fun, friendship, and life lessons! With magical moments, sing-along tunes, and unforgettable stories, Barney’s World will have both kids and parents feeling the love. It’s a show that brings back all the nostalgia of the beloved Barney we grew up with while adding fresh new adventures for today’s little ones. So, mark your calendars and don’t miss Barney’s World on Cartoonito Africa starting Monday, 14 October 2024 at 16:15 CAT. It’s time to fall in love with Barney all over again!

October 11, 2024

What To Expect As A New Parent

Being a new parent is definitely no walk in the park. Therefore, knowing what you can be expecting can make the world of difference! This is why we have put together a list of things to expect as a new parent to make things a little less daunting for you and your partner! Read on below now for a few key pointers on surviving new parenthood! Expect A Lot Of Company A new baby will generally bring a lot of different visitors. This is the time in which you will need to start setting up a few boundaries. There is nothing wrong with doing so, so don’t feel guilty in doing so. Gently let your friends and family know that you are comfortable with certain times for visiting, however, other times are off limit and strictly family time for you, baby and partner. And Then There Were Three… When a new little person enters into your life, your relationship dynamic with your partner will change. There will be a lot less ‘us’ time on the table. Therefore, it is important for you to still try to spend intimate time with your significant other. Call in the forces and leave baby with granny and grandpa for one night and take that time to appreciate each other. Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help As A New Parent Being a parent can be tough. Especially if you are a first timer. Therefore, do not be ashamed to ask for help. Remember, it took two of you to make a baby, therefore sharing the responsibilities with your partner is only fair. Be sure to enlist the help of your other half, sharing the responsibilities of your little one. If you are a single parent, ask for help from family and friends whom you trust. Converse With Your Baby Be sure to shoot the breeze with your baby. Little ones love to be conversed with. This kind of interaction has a twofold effect: you will be bonding with your baby, and they will be learning! Be Gentle With Yourself Remember, being a new parent is a challenge. It is not the easiest task for one to take on. therefore, remember to be kind to yourself. Follow the above tips to take control of your new parenting life style.

October 11, 2024

WAYS TO ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD’S SOCIAL SKILLS

Most parents agree that they want their children to reach their full potential – whatever that may be. They won’t enjoy and celebrate a child any less if it turns out that his fullest potential doesn’t involve straight A’s and being hugely successful in the sports arena. In fact, most of us will be more than pleased to see our little ones grow up to be truly happy and successful in their own unique way. As long as they live their best life – everything else is a bonus. However, ask any adult about their happiness level and whether they think they are living meaningful lives and you will soon realise that “living your best life” is not as easy as it sounds. It’s so difficult, in fact, that any practical advice to parents about things that can be done during the early years to increase a child’s chances to be happy and content as an adult one day is extremely valuable. In this post we’ll be looking at what research teaches us about cultivating social skills in our children. It is, after all, impossible for a person to be happy and successful without being able to get along with people. Here are five things that parents can do to help lay a solid foundation with regards to social skills. 1. Talk about thoughts and emotions. Studies show that children, whose parents often talk about what they and their children are thinking and feeling, are more popular, more comfortable in social situations and better able to cope with anger and disappointment. [1] 2. Deliberately work on having a sunny outlook on life. Children with the most developed preschool social skills are the ones who experience more positive emotions at home. It’s not necessary or even realistic to be constantly happy, but practice a “can-do” attitude towards setbacks and frustrations. Researchers say children suffer when parents – and particularly mothers – tend to give in to anger or despair when things don’t go according to plan. The more often children see their mothers display negative emotions, the less likely they are to view their mothers as people who can comfort them and give them advice. [2] 3. Create special opportunities for “pretend play” and join in the action every now and then. One of the most important ways in which children develop friendships during the pre-school years is by playing pretend games together. Researchers have found that children who pretend together are less likely than other children to quarrel or have communication problems. They also develop self-control and the ability to “put themselves in somebody else’s shoes”. [3] Parents who play along from time to time are doing their children a huge favour. Children are found to play for longer and at a higher level when parents encourage them. But, remember to keep the experience upbeat and don’t take over; allow your little one to take the lead. 4. Use words wisely when you discipline your child. Peggy O’Mara said, “The way we speak to our children becomes their inner voice”. What’s more, research shows that children, whose parents take the time to explain rules and discuss consequences of bad behaviour, are popular amongst their peers and they have more self-control and less conflict with peers. [4] 5. Be sensitive to your child’s emotions. One study, done by Suzanne Denham in 1997, asked children to say what they think their parents would do when they experience strong emotions in various situations, for instance when they wake up from a bad dream. The very same children who reported that their parents would comfort them and not ignore their emotions or get angry were the ones who were pointed out by teachers to be more socially skilled when they are with their friends. These children were also better able to relate to other children’s feelings and they were generally more cooperative. [5] What much of the research boils down to is that positive parental involvement is very important to their children’s social development. What’s more, discussing thoughts and emotions, whether positive or negative, helps our children to understand their own thinking and feelings, and therefore other people’s, so much better. This article is written by: The Practica Programme is a comprehensive research- and play-based home programme. This unique system has stood the test of time since 1993, and it comprises of a wooden box with specialized apparatus, parents’ guides, an advisory service and educational newsletters. From birth to 23 months of age, parents choose from a balanced selection of more than 1000 activities to develop the 14 fundamental skills age-appropriately. For children between 2 and 7 years, the 50 school readiness skills are divided into 6 groups and tackled systematically, year by year, with 10- to 20-minute games that can be adapted to a child’s level of functioning. References: Tompkins, V., Benigno, J.P., Lee, B.K., Wright, B.M. (2018). The relation between parents’ mental state talk and children’s social understanding: A meta-analysis. Social Development, 27(2), 223-246. Valiente, C., Fabes, R. A., Eisenberg, N., & Spinrad, T. L. (2004). The relations of parental expressivity and support to children’s coping with daily stress. Journal of Family Psychology : JFP : journal of the Division of Family Psychology of the American Psychological Association (Division 43), 18(1), 97–106. Goldstein, T. R., & Lerner, M. D. (2018). Dramatic pretend play games uniquely improve emotional control in young children. Developmental science, 21(4). Moreno-Ruiz, D., Estévez, E., Jiménez, T. I., & Murgui, S. (2018). Parenting Style and Reactive and Proactive Adolescent Violence: Evidence from Spain. International journal of environmental research and public health, 15(12), 2634. Denham, S. (2010). “When I have a bad dream, Mommy holds me.” Preschoolers’ conceptions of emotions, parental socialisation, and emotional competence. International Journal of Behavioral Development, Feb. 301-319.

October 11, 2024

8 Different types of moms we all know (which one are you?)

… some of us breastfeed, some of us don’t. There are moms who let their babies ‘cry-it-out’ and those who won’t.

October 10, 2024

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