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Emotional Intelligence In Childhood

In a nutshell, emotional intelligence is the ability to recognise, understand and control one’s thoughts and feelings. In addition, emotional intelligence refers to the ability to communicate feelings in an appropriate manner and to have the ability to empathise with the feelings of others, thereby interacting with others on an emotional level. When children and adolescents (and adults for that matter!) have high levels of emotional intelligence they will: Have a good self-concept as they will really know themselves; They will have a good understanding of their feelings, so they will be able to deal with for example, patterns of thinking which may not be constructive; Be more resilient to setbacks; Have a good ability to problem solve; and they will have the ability to be self-motivated, and thus find it easy to set goals for themselves, problem solve and deal with conflict effectively.

Maz -Caffeine and Fairydust

The Artificial Road To A Miracle Baby – An Inspiring Journey

I heard about Kerry and Michelle’s story through a mutual friend. Something about their story broke my heart and warmed it at the same time. I think sometimes we take for granted how easy the road to pregnancy for some of us are, without sparing a thought for those around us who might not be so lucky.  Kerry and Michelle are a wonderful couple from Cape Town going through a journey of a lifetime and I hope we can all spare them a thought and send amazing positive vibes their way. I find their strength and positivity so inspiring. This is their story as told by Kerry… In September 2013 we decided that we would start trying for our first baby. We got started right away deciding that Kerry would be the one to carry the baby and we would find an anonymous donor at the Cape Fertility Clinic. We started off with saving for the procedure and taking all of the required vitamins, healthy dieting and no drinking or smoking to get Kerry’s body in tip top shape. We managed to get our first appointment with Dr Heylen at the Cape Fertility Clinic in late January 2014 after being bumped up the waiting list. The initial check up was perfect and we were all set for our first Artificial Insemination (AI) in early February. Unfortunately for the first time in her life, probably due to a lot of stress (we had a car accident that week), Kerry did not ovulate and the procedure was cancelled. We started on Clomid which could only be found at Wynberg Pharmacy. It made Kerry very moody and caused terrible hot flushes- we were optimistic that all would go well the second time around. After four failed inseminations – all with two to three beautiful follicles and a perfect uterus lining, Dr Heylenwas not happy and suggested surgery to see what was happening… The surgery (Laparoscopy & Hysteroscopy) was scheduled at Kingsbury Hospital in June 2014. Dr Heylen is one of the very best fertility surgeons in Cape Town and he assured us that any problems he found, he would be able to fix and we would have our baby. He made us feel very confident… Unfortunately we found that Kerry’s Fallopian tubes were completely closed at the base. It was very likely that she was born with this, as there was no damage at all. This is something neither Dr Heylen or his staff had ever seen. It was pointless to fix and our best option would be IVF. We did an follow-up Hysteroscopy to see how severe the blockage was and where exactly it was located. This showed that there was 0% possibility of natural conception as all of the contrast fell out and nothing went into the Fallopian tubes. At this point we had put in about six months,  R36 000 and many emotions – still no good news. We were understandably very desperate at this stage. The IVF journey was not easy at all, we completely understand why Dr Heylen started us off on AI. The procedure cost about R42 000 and was a very painful and time-consuming process. It consisted of three painful and complicated injections daily, many vaginal scans checking the follicle growth and an extremely painful egg retrieval procedure (by far the worst part as it was very painful and Kerry could only take Panado). The egg retrieval went very well and we retrieved eight perfect eggs, seven fertilized and made it to a perfect five-day embryo. On day five we put back two of the perfect five-day embryos with the hopes of a twin or singleton pregnancy. The procedure was perfect and Dr Heylen confirmed that at most we would have was twins, but more likely a singleton. We asked what the odds of having triplets were with the two embryos and he said it was literally none, he had never seen it in the decades he has been a fertility doctor and the odds were radically against this ever happening. The two week wait began again… This time slightly shortened as we were already five days in. On 27 July 2014 we did a sneaky home pregnancy test two days early, we promised we wouldn’t as we have done so many and each time we have been utterly devastated- but this time we came back with a positive result! We were over the moon, but still nervous in case it was a chemical pregnancy. On 29 July 2014 we did the blood test and got a BHCG of 167, quite high for this stage and from here we were already suspecting that we were going to have twins. The follow up test on 1 October 2014 gave us a result of 654, which was again quite high and showed all was going well. All we had to do now was wait for the first scan at 5-6 weeks. The 2-week wait was agonizing as we couldn’t wait to see our baby and confirm if it was twins or not. This was also quite an adjustment period for us as we had expected some morning sickness and other pregnancy symptoms but not to such an severe extent. Kerry was sick every morning and evening and nauseous all day. She was losing weight rather than gaining and her belly and breasts were growing rapidly. The 6-week scan finally came and we got the extremely wonderful news that we were indeed expecting twins! Everything looked perfect – size, heartbeats and placement… we were so excited! We had confirmation that there were just two fetuses and everything was perfect as there was no chance they could split now. Another long three week wait for the final follow up scan with Dr Heylen at nine weeks was too much to handle and Michelle moved the appointment from Monday 6 October to Friday 3 October. It was at this appointment that everything changed and the pregnancy went from happy and exiting to absolutely terrifying. Dr Heylen told us that one of the embryo’s must have split shortly after implantation and as they are so small it was missed on the first scan. We now had triplets, two identical (Monochorionic-Diamniotic) and one fraternal. There was a brief moment of excitement where we were thinking ‘Wow! we have three babies!!’ but that was over as soon as Dr Heylen started talking. He explained that identical Monochorionic-Diamniotic twins by themselves is very complicated and dangerous as they share a placenta and they can get a condition called Twin To Twin Transfer Syndrome. This is

Megan Kelly Botha

Circumcision

When we found out that we were expecting a boy, my husband acted as if a great weight had been lifted from his shoulders. He had an intense fear of raising a teenage girl who would PMS and end up liking and dating… boys! I have a sister and many female cousins, so there is no denying that my knowledge of boys and what to expect when you’re raising one is lacking. One of the most challenging decisions that I have had to make, as a mom of a boy, was whether to make the cut –circumcision. I am all about creating community and have found that when it comes to teething, rashes, and fevers, you will find an abundance of moms sharing their stories and experiences. But when I had to come to terms with circumcising my 10 day old son, there is all the complicated, medical information available but no real-life stories. It puzzles me that in this day and age, we still hide over a trivial word like “penis” and “vagina”. There is a list of reasons why circumcision is considered, they range from religion, cultural beliefs and hygiene. Some articles suggest that daddy and baby should look the same to avoid confusion, in the nearby inquisitive years. My husband’s argument was that he’d feel more comfortable having it done, as he wouldn’t even know where to begin when it came to cleaning an un-circumcised penis, that he worried about our son being confused in locker rooms or worse, teased. I suggested that we wait until he was older but after speaking with an adult, who was forced to have it done in his adulthood, he mentioned how painful it was and how much more complicated the procedure could become. You are probably wondering why I would be discussing circumcision with other men, but I wanted to know, is this as important as my husband was making it out to be. Turns out, it is! There are several emotions that I experienced going through this process. I was filled with anxiety that tethered to the insides of my stomach. I couldn’t quite picture handing my son over to someone, who’s intention was to take a blade to his penis. I set to Google who didn’t soften the punch when explaining the procedure. Anger settled in, when I tried discussing my concerns with my husband who wouldn’t hear the other end of it. I was so livid that he was all for handing over my baby, it just made no sense that he could be okay with this! Sadness was closely followed by acceptance when I realized that this is happening, that the following day, I would walk into a hospital where I would pass my son over to a stranger, who I would need to trust. On the day, I was greeted by very friendly nurses who took my son from me, they undressed him and put a numbing cream on him. The doctor took time in explaining what would happen in each step of the procedure. He didn’t laugh at my insecurities when I asked him how many circumcisions he had done, or would my son really be grateful in the future? After everything was explained, I signed the documentation and went for coffee, while we waited for the cream and Ponado to settle in. We went back, handed Axl over and left the room. He encouraged that we go for coffee and return in 20 minutes. We did so. I expected to return to an upset baby who would just want boob and the comfort of his mom’s arms, but instead, I returned to a sleeping baby being cradled by a nurse. The doctor explained that there would be blood in his next nappy change, and that there would be a yellow bandage that should stay on for a few days but that he’d see us in a week, and if it still hadn’t fallen off, he’d remove it. We weren’t to bath him, but needed to keep him clean. I had complete heart failure for the first nappy change. The sight of blood coming from my baby was all too much, and surely something had to be wrong!? The doctor had given me his private cell number, but I felt pretty lame calling him – as it is, I had quizzed him with a half dozen unmentionable questions, that still make my cheeks flush. On day 6, his bandage came off and even though the doctor had told me to expect it. I called my husband in panic, explaining that his penis looked “weird” and pinkish. It was expected that it would be pinkish, but I didn’t really know what to expect it to look like. Remember, I was brought up with girls! We put Vaseline on, after every nappy change, to stop the nappy from sticking, and continued for about 2 weeks after the procedure, to ensure everything was healed. I remember for our 1 week check-up, the doctor said my son has such a good looking penis. I mean, what is that even? What makes a penis good looking, doctor? Remember the emotional rollercoaster that I mentioned, earlier? Turns out that it continues. I am both humoured by my journey and how I reacted, but more so, grateful! I am glad that my husband asked for our son to be circumcised, and I am sure my son will be too. At the end of the day, it is done and will never be a concern in the future whether he is being clean about his habits, or whether he has infections that can lead to more serious issues. I wish that more moms would share their stories, to help comfort and support other moms. Circumcision is a big decision to make, especially when you’re sleep-deprived and new to motherhood, with very little knowledge on the male anatomy. It is scary that you only have 8-14 days after birth, to make that

Bill Corbett

How To Give Your Kids A Life-Long Damaging Complex

The little boy was unhappy for some reason and threw himself on the floor in the grocery store, blocking the path of several customers pushing carriages. His mother grabbed him by the arm and dragged him off to the side and out of the other shoppers’ way, scolding him for the outburst. The strongest word I heard her say was in her sentence, “Shame on you for being so rude!” The word was SHAME. For some, it may be a very normal word that they’ve heard often. I’ve heard it used to lift some up above others; “He played so well on the field that he put the others to shame.” I’ve heard other adults say, “For shame, for shame!” A man once shared with me that he first felt the effects of shame when he was very young. At preschool age, he and his male playmate were swimming in a wading pool in the back yard and decided they didn’t need to wear their swim trunks. When his grandmother saw what the two boys had done, she ran out to them and screamed “Shame on you,” sent the playmate home, and dragged her grandson into the house. This man revealed that he was forced to feel shame many times throughout his childhood and it left a painful feeling inside that was hard for him to describe. Hearing that word made him feel bad, damaged, broken, and less than others. He said it carried over into his marriage, impacting his intimacy and his self-esteem. Looking up the definition of the word in the dictionary will define the word as; the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, or ridiculous. It is that painful feeling that can have lasting effects on the person being shamed for his or her actions. That pain can actual alter the way a person lives out their daily life. Instead of using shame to control your child, use unconditional love; remain calm, explain why certain actions aren’t OK, and be cognizant of a child’s emotions. When the boys decided to take off their swim trunks, grandma could have calmly given them a choice to wear their trunks to keep swimming, or return home. Then some time later, calmly explained to them why that rule is important. When that little boy in the grocery store had his meltdown, his mother could have gently removed him from the middle of the isle and held him until he calmed down. She could have refrained from speaking to him because children having tantrums are unable to interpret the words they hear. Forcing a tantrum to stop by using shame is not a healthy method for discipline.

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Remove Toxic People From Your Circle

In a recent article I wrote listing 25 tips for entrepreneurs, one stood out that I thought was worth rewriting for parents who read my column. It has to do with cleaning out for the holidays and I don’t mean cleaning out the house. It’s more along the lines of cleaning out your closest circle of people for your own emotional health. Here’s how it came about. One night my wife and I were leaving a business social event. We couldn’t help but share with each other on the drive home, the lingering feelings we had after listening to a few other couples, bicker with each other and complaining to the rest of us. None of them had anything encouraging to say and the experience made us want to leave. That’s the night several years ago that we decided together on two very important things going forward. Our first important decision, as parents and entrepreneurs, was to surround ourselves only with encouraging and supportive people. Over the next few days we began ‘cleaning house’ by listing all the adults in our lives who we felt were toxic. These are the people who complained and berated others, bickered with each other in front of others, and the ‘doubting Thomas’ who usually tell you every reason why your new idea won’t work. The second thing we did was to promise each other to always speak respectfully and kind to each other, not only in front of the kids, but out in public as well. This was especially important if the other was absent. We promised never to air any issues we have with each other in public and to address them in private. This included not making each other the butt of a joke or busting on each other in humiliating or embarrassing ways. To cultivate a relationship and life as good parents and as entrepreneurs, it’s critical to remain positive, encouraging and to always focus on gratitude for all of the gifts that appear in our lives each day. Steer clear of the ‘crabs’ that will always try and pull you down to join them in their misery or misfortune, and to pass this all on to our kids. So here are some additional guidelines we came up with for ourselves. Surround ourselves with positive and encouraging people. This was a difficult task to perform, limiting who we would invite to socidal events. Unfortunately, it meant eliminating some family members. Add statements of gratitude to our blessings before family meals. Take notice of all the little things that others did for us and recognize the gifts that appeared in our day that helped us in some way. Send out hand-written thank you notes (not emails) each week to anyone who helped us solve a challenge or provided service to us in some capacity. As parents, we owe it to our children to understand the difference between encouragement and discouragement and how to manifest what they need to develop their own resiliency.

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Childhood Overweight And Obesity

When it comes to the low down on healthy eating and weight loss, most of what we read in the media, and what is portrayed on television, is directed at adults with little attention focused on children. But what about our children and where do they stand in the battle against the bulge? Childhood obesity: The problem we are facing South Africa has been experiencing an increase in obesity over the past 2 decades, especially among children and adolescents and is reaching epidemic proportions. According to the International Obesity Taskforce one out of every 10 children is overweight.  13.5% of South African children (between ages 6-14 years) are overweight and/or obese. Scary about this statistic is that it is higher than the global prevalence of 10%. It is further estimated that 1 in 5 children is either overweight or obese. Research show that girls are more likely to be overweight or obese. Ironically in developing countries like South Africa, where underweight and poor growth have been the main health concerns in children, overweight and obesity are now becoming significantly prevalent as a consequence of a poor diet and energy dense foods combined with increased sedentary activity. Childhood obesity is a serious medical condition that affects children and adolescents. It occurs when a child is well above the normal weight for his/her age and height. Childhood obesity is particularly troubling because the extra kilo’s often start kids on the path to health problems that were once confined to adults, such as diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. What causes childhood obesity Although there are some genetic and hormonal causes of childhood obesity, most excess weight is caused by kids eating too much and exercising too little. Children, unlike adults, need extra nutrients and calories to fuel their growth and development. So if they consume the calories needed for daily activities, growth and metabolism, they add kilo’s in proportion to their growth. But children who eat more calories than needed, gain weight beyond what’s required to support their growing bodies. However the picture is much more complex when one takes a look at all the risk factors involved in the development of childhood obesity. Many factors, usually working in combination, increase your child’s risk of becoming overweight. These risk factors include: Genetic conditions: These rare genetic diseases and hormonal disorders predispose a child to obesity. They include conditions like Prader-Willi syndrome, Bardet-Biedl-syndrome, Cohen syndrome and affect a very small proportion of children. Diet: Regular consumption of high-calorie foods e.g. foods high in sugar and fat, together with low fruit and vegetable consumption. Inactivity: Sedentary kids are more likely to gain weight because they don’t burn calories through physical activity. Inactive leisure activities, such as watching television or playing video games, contribute to the problem. Family factors: It is well known that obesity ‘runs in families’. If a child comes from an overweight family he/she may be genetically predisposed to put on excess weight, especially in an environment where high-calorie food is always available and physical activity isn’t encouraged. For children under the age of 10, if one parent is obese, it doubles the chances of the child developing adult obesity. If both parents are obese, there is an 80% chance that the child will be obese. Psychological factors: Some children over eat to cope with problems or to deal with emotions. How to tell if my child is overweight or obese? Do you know when to be concerned about your child’s weight? Of course, all children gain weight as they grow older. But extra kilo’s – more than what’s needed to support their growth and development – can lead to childhood obesity. Not all children carrying extra weight are overweight or obese. Some children have larger than average body frames. Children normally carry different amounts of body fat at the various stages of development. So you might not know just by looking at your child if his/her weight is a health concern. One of the tools that we use to determine if your child is obese/overweight is the Body Mass Index (BMI) chart.  By calculating your child’s BMI you will be able to determine where they fall on the BMI-for-age chart. Using the chart, your child’s BMI is compared to that of other children of the same sex and age. Cut-off points on these growth charts, help identify overweight and obese children. You can calculate your child’s Body Mass Index (BMI) for their age and gender by the following equation: Current weight (kg) ÷ (Height x Height) = BMI. E.g. 30kg ÷ (1.35 × 1.35) = 16.5 kg/m.  Then plot the number you have obtained against your child’s age on the chart below. This will serve as an indication of their nutritional status i.e. if they are overweight or obese and is it important that a paediatric dietitian evaluate your child. Your dietitian can give you advice on your child’s specific dietary needs and help you to make sure that they are receiving a nutritionally adequate diet and one that is right for them, while losing weight. International cut-off points for body mass index for overweight and obesity by sex between 2 and 18 years (adapted from Cole et al., 2000) e (years) Overweight (kg/m) Obese (kg/m)   Boys Girls Boys Girls 2 18.41 18.02 20.90 19.81 3 17.89 17.56 19.57 19.36 4 17.55 17.28 19.27 19.15 5 14.42 17.15 19.30 19.17 6 17.55 17.34 19.78 19.65 7 17.92 17.75 20.63 20.51 8 18.44 18.35 21.60 21.57 9 19.10 19.07 22.77 22.81 10 19.84 19.86 24 24.11 11 20.55 20.74 25.10 25.42 12 21.22 21.68 26.02 26.67 13 21.91 22.58 26.84 26.76 14 22.62 23.34 27.63 28.57 15 23.29 23.94 28.30 29.11 16 23.90 24.37 28.88 29.43 17 24.46 24.70 29.41 29.69 18 25 25 30 30 Middle circumference is another important tool that is used to determine your childs’ risk of developing disease e.g. diabetes or heart disease. If you are worried that your child is putting on too much

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Raising Happy Teenagers: How Mindfulness and Meditation Practices Can Help Build Coping Skills for Life

Everyone wants their daughter to be happy. Yet, when girls start to focus on perfection and their body image, they may ignore their true strengths. New brain science reveals that relaxation skills can be useful in showing girls how to feel happy from the inside out. Happy Teenagers and Sulky Adolescents: What’s Going on in a Teenage Girl’s Brain? A curious thing happens when our little girls start to become teenagers. Not only do girls begin to bloom in so many ways, they often start to pull away. It’s not uncommon for parents to wonder: “What happened to my happy, carefree girl?” It may be a comfort to know that the shift you see in your daughter’s personality and mood is not just about hormones. In fact, it’s so much more than that. Her brain is undergoing an amazing rewiring process which happens during the teen years. With the right experiences, new and emerging neural connections allow her to stretch her abilities and develop into a thoughtful, empathetic and creative human being. The Desire to Conform Can Prevent Teenage Girls from Discovering How to be Happy with Who They Are A part of this growing-up process also means that girls will naturally compete and compare themselves to other girls. This is an evolutionary behavioural trait that allows them to adapt to the world. It also means that girls begin to look outward for affirmation of their self-worth, body confidence and sources of happiness. Fitting in and being accepted can become more important than being with family or enjoying once-loved childhood hobbies. All of a sudden, girls may shift from thoughtful self-reflection, creativity and tuning in, to tuning out from an authentic sense of self. Often what makes children happy is pursuing their individual hobbies and interests, but for many teenage girls it’s more important to be like everyone else. The need for peer approval can diminish their ability to draw on their developing sense of identity. Friendship groups and the media can create beliefs around beauty and being cool, fuelling the myth that perfection leads to happiness. Buying into these myths can reinforce something called ‘negativity bias’ in the brain; making us super-sensitive to differences and causing us to see them as flaws or dangers. For example, many girls start to believe they can only be happy if they… Are skinny Have bigger boobs Are super trendy Have a boyfriend Get straight As Get 100 Likes on their profile pics It’s important to help girls to realise that ticking items off these “wish lists” isn’t the key to everlasting happiness. In fact, it’s impossible to feel happy all the time because feeling happy is a momentary experience. Instead, the key is to savour those happy moments, appreciate them, remember them, and reflect on them. Encouraging girls to consider the joyful instants during their week helps them appreciate that life has its ups and downs. Next Steps: Ten Ways to Help Raise Happy Teenagers Dr Willard offers simple ways for parents to help their daughters feel positive and get more joy out of life: Be calm. Demonstrate thoughtful responses in your own daily life rather than immediate reactions. If your daughter gets a bad grade at school, don’t get cross but offer to sit down with her and go through steps on how she might improve next time. Take deep breaths when you feel stressed. When you are calm, children are often calmer – they can understand how to be happy even when plans fall through by following the example you setting. Take perspective. When challenges come up for your daughter, especially around body image, help her take a step back. For example, if she doesn’t like her thighs, acknowledge her feelings, but help her ‘zoom out’ by pointing out that her strong thighs make her a faster runner. Take gentle care of your body. Exercise regularly and make healthy meals. By encouraging these healthy habits and by practicing them yourself, your teen will in all likelihood also adopt them and so take care of her body and be more conscious of all the great things her body allows her to do. This will nurture body confidence. Make time to have meals together. Spend time outdoors. Go for a walk and take in the sights and sounds around you. Have a technology-free zone in the house. Keep all cell phones, iPads etc. charging in one spot and don’t allow them in bedrooms. Screens on these devices keep the brain awake and interrupt natural sleep rhythms. Show kindness to others. Show that you are thankful for the little things. Even when life may seem stressful. Celebrate the best parts of the day and share things to be happy about.   To read more articles like this visit the Dove Self-Esteem website: http://selfesteem.dove.co.za/

Amanda Rusch

Healthier Holidays: A time For Learning

Holidays and Christmas are upon us, which means our kids are hit with a double whammy of loads of free time combined with a glorious array of Christmas treats to indulge in. This is a valuable time to teach our little ones lifelong habits to keep a moderate, healthy, balanced diet even throughout the silly season – a time when even grow-ups tend to lose their heads about food and health! Firstly remember that this is a natural time for treats and indulgences. Creating rigid rules around how many mince pies or chocolate balls are allowed will only create a feeling of deprivation and may lead to food sneaking or overeating when at friends’ houses. Don’t create drama about the difference between “healthy” foods and “unhealthy” foods – quite simply, most kids don’t care, and this will only make those forbidden pleasures more enticing. Encourage the idea that all foods are equal, and cultivate a moderate intake of all sorts of foods: “Gingerbread men are a delicious part of Christmas and of course we will enjoy them, but turkey meat and roast vegetables and nuts are also delicious Christmas treats so let’s have some of them too!” Remember the great thing about kids is that they don’t yet have a preconceived idea of what a Christmas tradition is, so you can create your own and make healthier habits an exciting part of your family’s Christmas. Christmas cheer is about so much more than the food, so place great emphasis on non-food activities. You can even make a Christmas calendar with a different festive activity scheduled for each day: Putting up decorations together, singing along to Christmas Carols and attending Carols by Candlelight, Christmas treasure hunts, creating homemade gifts, enjoying crafts such as painting or clay with a Christmas theme, dressing up, going to see Christmas lights, reading the story of Jesus’ birth. Create your own advent calendar with healthier treats, or even include non-food surprises in the calendar such as a challenge for the day or small inexpensive gifts such as marbles or stickers. Put a Christmas spin on healthy foods and sell them as being just as exciting as the marzipan and chocolate: Have lunch as a “picnic” by the Christmas tree Use fruit pieces to create Christmas tree shapes Make treat bags as a craft project (using anything from Christmas gift wrap to fabric), and decorate them with a Christmas theme, then filling them with nuts, dried fruit or biltong as a Christmas snack every day Using Christmas cookie cutters to shape sandwiches, cheese slices or even to mould starches Putting red or green food colouring into otherwise white foods such as pasta or porridge (for the adventurous child and parent!) Getting the kids involved in choosing red and green foods for meals (e.g. tomato sauce on meat with broccoli) The best thing you can do for your little people during this season is model healthy food behaviours and create an environment that supports healthy behaviours. Don’t buy tins and tins of treats and then forbid everyone from touching them. Buy appropriate quantities – a small pudding for the family, a pack of 6 mince pies for a family of 6. If you buy a bigger quantity, or even better, if you are baking, take the excess and use it as a lesson the gift of giving – take your children to hand out treats at retirement homes, orphanages or a charity of your choice. Even driving about and giving Christmas treats at traffic lights or to neighbours can be a valuable lesson and will have the bonus of removing the foods from your home. Eat a healthy balanced diet throughout the season to model to your children a moderate way of enjoying Christmas foods, and avoid negative food talk such as “I shouldn’t have any more”, “I’m cheating on my diet” or “I’m being very naughty by having an extra slice of cake”. Remember: a neutral, moderate attitude to all foods is important for fostering healthy habits. In the meantime, use all this free time to go wild with lots of fun physical activity! Go for bike rides, walks, play games in the garden or games on your Wii. Create activities that will require movement such as scavenger hunts or decorating large areas. This will benefit you and your little people. Of course you can try healthier ways of preparing traditional Christmas foods, like baking a sugar free Christmas cake or gluten-free shortbread (no end of recipes for this online or in cook books). There is nothing wrong with trying this and it will benefit the whole family physically. However, it is more important to use this time to teach your children (and maybe some adults!) to exercise moderation and balance with eating, and to cultivate a healthy, happy and moderate relationship with all food ranging from carrots to cookies. This is a lesson they will benefit from for the rest of your lives. Have lots of fun during this special time with your children!

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Too Much Caffeine When Cramming For Finals Poses Health Risk To Students

Exam season is upon us and soon hundreds of thousands of students across the country will be pulling caffeine-fuelled all-nighters in an attempt to cram a year’s worth of information into their heads, but a pharmaceutical company warns of caffeine-induced anaphylaxis or allergy. Mariska van Aswegen, spokesperson of allergy medicine provider, Pharma Dynamics says with final exams looming, the next month or so is going to be particularly stressful for students. “Whether intentional or not, many students tend to leave studying for finals till the 11th hour resulting in many nocturnal hours spent slumped over a desk in last-minute preparation. This is when stimulants such as coffee and energy drinks become the go-to in order to help students stay awake and alert,” she says. But too much caffeine can lead to caffeine-induced anaphylaxis or caffeine allergy toxicity, especially in sensitive individuals. Van Aswegen explains that a caffeine allergy can be deceptive. “The allergic person may experience typical symptoms associated with an allergy which includes sneezing, difficulty breathing, hives an itchy or swollen mouth and tongue, heart palpitations, dizziness or eczema, but these physical cues are often accompanied by psychiatric responses. Depending on how much caffeine is consumed, symptoms of caffeine allergy – also termed by some as a cerebral allergy – can range from mild to severe which include lack of concentration and comprehension, aggression, hyperactivity and disorganised thought processes. “Students may diagnose their symptoms as a sign of overtiredness making them reach for yet another cuppa or energy drink, which may provide minor relief, but it just continues to jeopardise the body,” cautions van Aswegen. She says a caffeine allergy is difficult to detect and can take several hours for symptoms to become apparent. Caffeine is also the last thing you associate the response with. Doctors in turn also rarely diagnose caffeine allergy because few know of it and aren’t likely to ask about your caffeine consumption. Although many people drink coffee, energy drinks and cola, which contain large doses of caffeine, some may not realise that they are actually allergic to it. Symptoms may vary depending on how strong a person’s allergy to caffeine is. “How you react to caffeine has a lot to do with how much caffeine you are used to drinking. People or students in this case who aren’t used to consuming lots of caffeine on a regular basis can be much more sensitive or allergic to its negative effects. The converse may also be true. According to medical literature, the longer a person is exposed to an allergen, the greater the chances of developing an allergy to the substance. “Once this happens, those allergic to caffeine can’t adequately metabolise it. Consequently, they experience hypersensitivity or inflammation in certain organs. So, it pays to know your limits with caffeine.” Her advice to students studying for end-of-year exams is as follows: Ditch the caffeine for H2O. Water gives the brain the electrical charge it needs for all brain functions including thought and memory processes Eat a well-balanced diet of fruit and vegetables at least a week prior to and during exam time Take a five minute break every hour to allow your body to produce more glucose – the fuel you need for studying. Rather opt for snacks such as almonds, blueberries, avocados, fatty fish and yoghurt Get enough sleep and avoid the all-nighters. Studies show that all-nighters impair reasoning and memory for up to four days. Review the toughest material right before going to bed the night before the test which makes it easier to recall the information later Avoid distractions such as listening to music, SMSing or tweeting while studying as this will limit your ability to retain information “By drinking three caffeinated energy drinks a day, students could be ingesting more than 500mg of caffeine or 1.5 times the amount of caffeine that is regarded as safe for adult consumption. Two to three cups of coffee (300mg of caffeine) a day is considered safe and teenagers should limit themselves to no more than 100mg of caffeine a day,” says van Aswegen.

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I Am Woman, Stroke Affects Me

Stroke is the second biggest killer of women in South Africa. It is estimated that about 150 women suffer a stroke in South Africa every day. That is a stroke every 10 minutes. These statistics alone highlight the massive impact of stroke on women. This is why the Heart and Stroke Foundation SA (HSF) is joining forces with the World Stroke Organisation in its global campaign: “I am woman, stroke affects me” to raise awareness about stroke in women. A stroke is also known as a “brain attack” and can injure the brain like a heart attack can injure the heart. It happens when the blood supply to part of the brain is interrupted. When that happens, part of the brain doesn’t get the blood and oxygen it needs, causing damage and results in the person experiencing the symptoms of stroke. Stroke doesn’t discriminate; it affects us all, so why do women have a higher stroke mortality rate than men? “Women are more likely to die when suffering a stroke than men. In fact, every year, 4000 more South African women die because of a stroke than men and our unhealthy lifestyles are largely to blame,” says Dr Vash Mungal-Singh, CEO of the Heart and Stroke Foundation SA. “Up to 70% of our women are overweight or obese and almost half of our women are physically inactive which increases their risk of having a stroke.” Added to this, high blood pressure is the biggest risk factor for strokes and 1 in 3 women in South Africa have high blood pressure. It is vital that South Africans regularly check their blood pressure and lower their salt intake as a high salt diet is a key contributor to high blood pressure. “The statistics are worrying,” says Dr Mungal-Singh. “But by making small changes to your lifestyle, you can vastly reduce your chances of having a stroke in the first place. Up to 80% of stroke and heart disease can be prevented by adopting a healthy diet and lifestyle,” she says. When asked why more South African women are dying of strokes than men, this is what Professor Alan Bryer, Head of the Division of Neurology and of the Stroke Unit at Groote Schuur Hospital and the University of Cape Town had to say: “Women share the traditional risk factors for suffering a stroke with men. However, more women than men suffer from migraines with aura, atrial fibrillation, depression, emotional stress, metabolic syndrome and obesity. These factors increase the risk of a stroke. In addition, there are gender specific risk factors that can further explain the higher incidence of strokes in women. These include high blood pressure during pregnancy, hormone replacement therapy and contraceptives. Lastly, smoking interacts with these gender specific risk factors to make women more susceptible to suffering a stroke.” Professor Bryer’s remarks are aligned with the American Stroke Association Guidelines and Dr Mungal-Singh echoes his sentiments. Additionally, the Global Stroke Bill of Rights was launched on 21 October at the Opening Ceremony of the 9th World Stroke Congress in Istanbul. The document identifies the aspects of care that are important for all stroke survivors and caregivers from across the world. World Stroke Organisation (WSO) President Stephen Davis states, “It is now time that all stroke patients and caregivers around the world have their own Bill of Rights. The Bill of Rights forms the basis to ensure that every patient has access to all elements of appropriate stroke care, to optimise their best chance of survival and recovery. The WSO is calling on governments, ministries of health and healthcare systems, with the support of key opinion leaders and stroke advocates, to rise to this challenge and ensure that the Bill of Rights is fully supported and implemented.” To support the launch of the stroke Bill of Rights, the Heart and Stroke Foundation is also launching an online stroke manual, ‘My stroke: a practical manual for stroke patients’. A first in South Africa, the manual was developed in partnership with Professor Bryer and the Heart and Stroke Foundation, and is a comprehensive resource to support stroke survivors and their families. The manual and Bill of Rights are both available online on the HSF’s website: www.heartfoundation.co.za.  

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What Is Dyslexia Really? Part 1

The term dyslexia was coined from the Greek words dys, meaning ill or difficult, and lexis, meaning word. Spelling and writing, due to their close relationship with reading, are usually also included. According to popular belief dyslexia is a neurological disorder in the brain that causes information to be processed and interpreted differently, resulting in reading difficulties. Historically, the dyslexia label has been assigned to learners who are bright, even verbally articulate, but who struggle with reading; in short, whose high IQs mismatch their low reading scores. When children are not as bright, their reading troubles have been chalked up to their general intellectual limitations. What does it look and sound like? One of the most obvious tell-tale signs is reversals. People with this kind of problem often confuse letters like b and d, either when reading or when writing, or they sometimes read (or write) words like “rat” for “tar,” or “won” for “now.” Another sure sign is elisions – that is when a person sometimes reads or writes “cat” when the word is actually “cart.” The person may read very slowly and hesitantly, read without fluency, word by word, or may constantly lose his place, thereby leaving out whole chunks or reading the same passage twice. The person may try to sound out the letters of the word, but then be unable to say the correct word. For example, he may sound the letters “c-a-t” but then say “cold.” He may read or write the letters of a word in the wrong order, like “left” for “felt,” or the syllables in the wrong order, like “emeny” for “enemy,” or words in the wrong order, like “are there” for “there are.” He may spell words as they sound, for example “rite” for “right.” He may read with poor comprehension, or it may be that he remembers little of what he reads. The person may have a poor and/or slow handwriting. Some misconceptions Because of the erroneous belief that the brain cannot change, it was historically believed that dyslexia is “incurable”: “Dyslexia is like alcoholism … it can never be cured” (Clark, M., & Gosnell, M., “Dealing with dyslexia,” Newsweek, 22 March 1982, 55-56.) Advocacy groups, in the rush to generate public awareness for the condition of dyslexia, with the cooperation of a compliant media, have perpetuated the belief that a host of famous individuals such as Albert Einstein, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Edison, Walt Disney, Winston Churchill and Hans Christian Andersen were dyslexic. The folk myth – the “affliction of the geniuses” – continues to be spread despite the fact that knowledge of the definition of dyslexia and the reading of any standard biographies would immediately reveal the inaccuracy of many such claims. For example, as educational psychologist Dr Coles points out, Einstein’s reading of Kant and Darwin at age thirteen is hardly representative of individuals who are currently labelled dyslexic. New technology sheds new light By the turn of this century, the advancement in technology has made it possible for scientists to see inside the brain, resulting in the knowledge that the brain is plastic. New connections can form and the internal structure of the existing synapses can change. New neurons, also called nerve cells, are constantly being born, particularly in the learning and memory centres. A person who becomes an expert in a specific domain, will have growth in the areas of the brain that are involved with their particular skill. Even if the left hemisphere of a person’s brain is severely injured (in 95% of people the left hemisphere controls the capacity to understand and generate language), the right side of the brain can take over some language functions. With fMRI-scans et cetera it has now been confirmed that – as was always suspected – there are indeed differences between the brains of dyslexic persons and good readers. More and more research studies, however, suggest that the cause-effect relationship should be reversed, i.e. that these differences might not be the cause, but the effect of the reading difficulty. Using brain imaging scans, neuroscientist John D. E. Gabrieli at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology have found that there was no difference between the way poor readers with or without dyslexia think while reading. The study conducted by Dr Gabrieli involved 131 children, aged 7 to 16. Following a simple reading test and an IQ measure, each child was assigned to one of three groups: typical readers with typical IQs, poor readers with typical IQs, and poor readers with low IQs. During the test, researchers used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) to observe the activity in six brain regions identified as being important in connecting print and sound. The results indicated that poor readers of all IQ levels showed significantly less brain activity in the six observed areas than typical readers. But there was no difference in the brains of the poor readers, regardless of their IQs. Another study, published online in the Journal of Neuroscience, researchers analysed the brains of children with dyslexia and compared them with two other groups of children: an age-matched group without dyslexia and a group of younger children who had the same reading level as the children with dyslexia. Although the children with dyslexia had less grey matter than age-matched children without dyslexia, they had the same amount of grey matter as the younger children at the same reading level. Lead author Anthony Krafnick said this suggests that the anatomical differences reported in left-hemisphere language-processing regions of the brain appear to be a consequence of reading experience as opposed to a cause of dyslexia. One must also consider that neurological differences do not equal neurological disorders and disabilities. We now also know that there are differences between the brains of people who can juggle and people who cannot juggle, between the brains of people who can play a musical instrument and people who cannot play a musical instrument. Then logically there will be differences between the brains of people who read

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Helping Your Child Cope With Anxiety

Do you find that your kids become overly anxious around exam time? I love anxiety – in fact, I consider it to be a great friend – and I’d like to help you and your kids to love it too. You see, anxiety is a very specific kind of fear – fear of the future. And considering the future has not yet happened, it is a fear that we don’t know how to handle because there’s nothing we can do about something that hasn’t happened yet. What our minds are doing with anxiety is giving us a warning sign that we are thinking about something that we DON’T want to happen. Anxiety is like the little red flag to help us to focus on something more positive. Now most of us are thinking incessantly and on auto-pilot and we’re not often aware of what we’re thinking or even that we’re thinking at all. And yet our thoughts have a very direct and profound influence on how we feel. So our minds have this wonderful in-built system to help us to think about things that will flood our systems with positive, life-affirming chemicals rather than the rush of adrenaline that comes with fear. The trick here is to change the way that we view anxiety. If you can teach your kids that that “horrible” feeling is actually a trusted friend and to understand the language of this new friend, it will be a tool that will help them for life. Every time they feel that feeling it is a red flag telling them to go and take a look at their thoughts. What they’ll find is that they are imagining the worst – in their minds they are seeing themselves failing the exam or not being able to answer the questions or the teachers setting impossible tasks or something along those lines. Step one is to understand that the future has not yet happened. The only place that the future exists at this moment is in your own mind so you can imagine it to be good or bad – both are just thoughts in your head. You can’t possibly know what is going to happen or not happen, so you may as well imagine something good. What I get my clients to do is to actually imagine themselves flying above the timeline of their lives out into the future to just past the SUCCESSFUL outcome of the event they are worrying about. This is just a trick of the mind to focus on something positive and it works wonders with kids. Step two is to label your thoughts as just that – thoughts. Not truth, not fact, not inevitability. Just imagination. Kids can even label the part of their mind that thinks negatively – give it a name like “Moaning Minnie” or “Anxious Ant” and talk back to it with the positive side of the mind (which can also be given a name or character, like “Successful Susan” or “Positive Panther”). This helps kids to realize that there is always more than one way to look at a situation and looking at the negative side is just a habit that can be changed. Step three is to take damning statements and turn them into positive questions. So something like “I’m going to fail this exam” can become a question like “How can I definitely pass this exam?” Our minds respond very well to questions and tend to automatically seek out answers. So if we ask a positive question, we will find a positive solution. This also helps kids to define what they’re really worried about and take action on something specific rather than thinking in generalized negative statements. And the beginning point to all of this is the anxiety itself. Like a trusted friend, redirecting us to positivity and reminding us every time we stray from being in control of our own minds. Whenever I feel anxiety I first stop and thank my mind for keeping me on track to a wonderful, positive, relaxed and happy life. I hope you and your kids will too!

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The Benefits Of Breastmilk For A Premature Baby

All babies will benefit tremendously from breastmilk. But, for a premature baby, these benefits are so much more important. No other nourishment can compare to breastmilk and your preemie will need all the nourishment he can get. Your breastmilk is tailor made for your baby and for this specific time. What this means is that the milk that you are producing right now is special ‘preemie milk’ formulated just for your premature baby. Preterm milk contains higher concentrations of fat, energy, protein, calcium, potassium, magnesium, sodium, chloride and iron. It is very different to the milk that a mother of a full term infant would be producing, No other milk can come close to what you are making and as your baby grows and develops, so your milk will change and develop too. Even though your baby may have come a little early, your body can and will continue to nurture and nourish him every step of the way. Whats in it? Immunoglobulins: Immunoglobulins are large protein molecules produced in the lymph tissue, these function as antibodies in the immune system. During the last trimester of pregnancy, immunoglobulins cross over the placenta and are stored by your baby. These are then used to protect a newborn against infections for up to 6 months following birth. Now while your prem baby may not benefit from this in utero, you can still provide him with immunoglobulins through breastmilk. Since premature babies are more susceptible to infections and disease, this is a very important benefit. Protein: Protein is vitally important for growth and development in your baby. Babies need protein in order to maintain, repair and make new cells. There are two types of proteins present in breastmilk – Casein (20-40%) and Whey (60-80%).  The remarkable balance of these proteins is what makes breastmilk so easy to digest. This means that your baby is using less energy for digestion and is therefore able to use more energy for growth. Fat:Fat is an absolute necessity for your baby. Fats aid in brain development, absorption of fat-soluble vitamins and this is of course your baby’s primary source of calories. Long chain fatty acids are crucial for brain, retina and development of the nervous system. Carbohydrates:Lactose is the primary source of carbohydrate in human milk. Many make the mistake of assuming lactose is bad for the human body, when it is actually very important – especially for your preemie. Lactose helps to minimise the amount of unhealthy bacteria in the stomach which in turn improves the absorption of minerals such as calcium and magnesium. Lactose will also promote growth of healthy bacteria in your baby’s gut. Minerals: Sodium, potassium, calcium, magnesium, iron and zinc (to mention a few) are all present in breastmilk, the amazing thing is that breastmilk also contains facilitators for each of these minerals making absorption of minerals that much more efficient. Calcium: Builds strong bones, promotes healthy nerve and muscle function, helps blood clot, and helps the body convert food into energy. Iron: Important for healthy brain, cognitive and neurological development. Iron is also a key component of haemoglobin, a protein which helps red blood cells deliver oxygen from the lungs to tissues throughout the body. Magnesium:Keeps bones strong and the heart rhythm steady, supports the immune system, and helps maintain muscle and nerve function. Potassium: Works with sodium to control the body’s water balance, which helps maintain blood pressure. Assists with muscle function and heart rhythm and, in later years, may reduce the risk of kidney stones and osteoporosis. Zinc:Needed by more than 70 enzymes that aid digestion and metabolism, and essential for growth. In summary, breast milk is hugely beneficial for your preterm baby because of its unique protein structure, its ability to promote fat absorption, and its pattern of fatty acids that promote growth and development both physically and neurologically. Unlike any other milk. Some may argue that growth is slower for babies who are fed breastmilk than those who are fed artificial milk, however,  this growth rate is generally extremely close to the rate that a child would continue to grow in utero. Now, while you are focusing on giving your baby the best of the best, you may not realise that you are doing exactly the same thing for yourself. Psychologically, moms who provide breastmilk for their babies feel more connected to them, bond better with them and feel more fulfilled in their role as a mother. You may not be unable to hold or even touch your baby for the time being, but you are still able to feed him. You are still able to provide him with the best possible nutrition, you are able to manufacture food for your child that no other human on earth can replicate. In this way, you are able to bond with your baby, in this way you are able to touch him and impact his life, in this way you are able to give him everything that he needs in this very moment. You are his mom and you are doing a fantastic job!

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Making Mental Health Matter

Discovery Health and SADAG (South African Depression and Anxiety Group) are proud to announce they will be holding a one day workshop on ‘Making Mental Health Matter” facilitated by the world renowned CBT (cognitive behavioural therapist) expert Prof Stefan Hofmann in both Johannesburg (4 November) and Cape Town (6 November). We would like you to nominate a member of your staff, who you feel would benefit most from attending this one day media workshop with both international and local speakers will be discussing depression, social phobia, substance abuse, trauma/PTSD, phobias and suicide. As well as case studies sharing their own real-life stories. With International Guest Speaker, Prof Hofmann, a Professor at Boston University’s Clinical Programme, is coming to South Africa specifically to update press and media interested in mental health journalism about CBT. He is a world leading CBT specialist, with a interest in Social Phobia, Anxiety and Schizophrenia. He will be focusing on why psychological treatments, such as CBT, are so effective for anxiety and mood disorders? This is a rare opportunity for journalists to learn more about modern CBT, some of the areas he will discussing are: Why are psychological treatments, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, effective for anxiety and mood disorders? How can we translate knowledge from basic neuroscience into practical techniques? How can psychological treatments be made more culturally sensitive in order to enhance their efficacy, dissemination, and acceptability? Why is it important for your reporter to attend?  Not a day goes by without reports of suicide, trauma – which leads to post-traumatic stress – and simply the galloping rate of depression in our country and worldwide.  The effects of which are enormous and impact not only on business, but on families – on your readers, listeners and viewers. SADAG will provide you with info sheets, stats related to South Africa and lists of professionals and case studies to interview for your stories. For those coming to Johannesburg from ‘out of town’, all travel and accommodation will be paid for. Please come back to us as soon as possible as we need to confirm travel and accommodation details. This workshop will go a long way to arming these reporters with the skills and understanding of writing on complex mental health issues, as well as giving them invaluable local and overseas sources to utilize on an ongoing basis.  

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Educating Your Child About Sex And Safety

You may feel uncomfortable and out of your depth discussing these topics, but it’s extremely important, as research shows that children who receive sex ed and learn about sexual boundaries and safety are less promiscuous and safer than their uneducated peers. It’s natural for children to be sexually curious, and if you don’t tell them, they’ll learn from someone else (often the wrong info)! Children who don’t understand sexual boundaries are far more likely to be sexually abused or molested. Child sex offenders often try to break personal boundaries, gain trust and normalise sexual activity between adults and children. If you’ve taught your children about personal boundaries, they’re more likely to pick up that what the adult is doing is wrong and disrupt the grooming process, reducing their risk of being sexually exploited. Knowledge is power – ignorance may be harmful! How do children learn about sex? Their sexual knowledge and behaviour is strongly influenced by their age, what they observe (including the sexual behaviours of family and friends) and what they are taught (including cultural and religious beliefs concerning sexuality and physical boundaries). As Heather Coleman, PhD said, “Young people do not wake up on their 13th birthday, transformed into a sexual being overnight. Even young children are sexual in some form.” So, how do you go about teaching your child? Firstly, respecting children’s personal boundaries teaches them how they should expect to be treated. Some parents or adults cross these boundaries without realising how unsafe and insecure it makes children feel. Obvious transgressions are telling children sexual jokes, showing them sexually explicit material, sharing personal sexual information, engaging in sexual activity in the presence of children or with children, touching future erogenous zones e.g. breasts, buttocks, penis, vulva. Less obvious: washing your child’s genitals when they’re old enough to wash their own, ignoring or disregarding the child’s right to privacy, opposite sex parents walking around naked when child is developing, undressing child in public, opposite sex parents sleeping in same bed as child, discussing child’s development with other people, telling child that sex or body parts and body functions are dirty, evil or nasty, making sexual comments about others in front of child and using poor judgment when taking child into a public toilet. What should we teach children, and when? Parents will have an idea of how much information their child should get by the questions they pose, as each child has different maturity levels. Don’t worry about giving too much info, as your child will ignore what they aren’t ready to hear. Here’s a general guideline: Grade 0-3 Grade 5-6 Grade 7 Simple answers to all questions about the body, private parts and bodily functions (using correct terms) Boys and girls are different and must treat each other with respect Simple explanation of how babies are made, grow in mother’s uterus and about the birth process Touching your own private parts is called masturbation. It can feel nice, but is only done in private. What to expect and how to cope with the changes of puberty (including menstruation and wet dreams) Basics of reproduction, pregnancy and childbirth   Start talking about safer sex, i.e. abstinence, birth control, importance of using condoms, risks of sleeping around, sexually transmitted diseases/  HIV and pornography   Children must learn that sex is meant to be an expression of love and that there’s no room for violence in a relationship. Boys must learn that gentleness isn’t a sign of weakness and girls must learn that it’s okay to be assertive and they’re allowed to say no! All children must learn that transactional sex is wrong and they must tell an adult what is happening. Discuss the difference between safe touches (which are comforting, pleasant and welcome) and unsafe touches (which are intrusive, uncomfortable, unwanted or painful). Explain that their body belongs to them and that it’s sexual abuse when someone touches their private parts or asks them to touch their private parts (even if it’s someone they know). Tell them that children have the right to say NO to being touched, even by grown-ups and that if an adult tells them to keep a secret they should say NO, and immediately tell an adult they trust. Discuss the difference between safe and unsafe secrets and who to tell when boundaries are crossed. Create “circles of safety” by drawing a small circle in the middle of a paper plate with your child’s name in it. Then draw another circle around that and write the people who they should tell if they’re feeling unsafe. Next draw an outer circle with other people or organisations your child may contact. Include phone numbers and addresses if necessary. This should help your child to feel safer, protected and secure (a bit like a cocoon). Create a password to be kept secret from everyone and used when necessary, e.g. if you’re delayed at work and have to ask someone else to collect your child from school or arrange for someone to babysit your child in your absence. The adult must be told the password and the child told to request the password before they go with the adult or let him/her into their home, even if they are known to the child. You must reiterate that if an adult tries to force them to go with them, they should remember the three important words: RUN, YELL and TELL.

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The Slim Down On Dieting

Winter has come and gone and perhaps, like most people, you gained a few extra kilos over the past few months? Now all those layers of clothing must be shed and so must the extra weight. So what diet will it be this time?The fact of the matter is this:  no matter which diet one chooses to follow, it will fail 98% of the time. Why diets don’t work The reason diets don’t work, no matter which one you contemplate, stems from the fact that diets are a short-term solution to a long-term problem. “Going on a diet” implies that sometime in the future you will be going off that diet. If the diet relies on willpower you will generally not do very well. And when you fail it is not uncommon to put yourself down, have self-esteem plummeting and your weight rising.Diets are also doomed to fail if they eliminate, or dramatically limit, a major macronutrient like carbohydrates or fats. Such diets are out of balance, and, sooner or later, our bodies begin craving the nutrients they have been denied. So what is the answer to this obesity epidemic that will allow us not only to lose weight but to lose it permanently? Insulin resistance The most significant reason diets fail is because they do not address the major underlying cause of weight gain, which is insulin resistance. What most people call cravings or emotional eating is really a carbohydrate addiction and the result of spiking blood sugar by eating high glycemic carbohydrates. These are foods that spike our blood sugar faster than spooning sugar on to our tongues. High-glycemic carbohydrates include common foods such as bread, cereals, chips, crackers, pretzels, potatoes, rice cakes, white rice, sugar and white flour. Eating these foods rapidly raises and over stimulates the release of insulin. Insulin’s primary job is to transport blood sugar into the cell where it is utilized to create energy, or to be stored as fat or glycogen. This process drives the blood sugar level back down just as fast as it went up; however, it generally drops back into a low blood sugar range or hypoglycemic range resulting in uncontrollable hunger, usually craving another high-glycemic meal or snack. The vicious cycle starts all over again leading to overeating and over time our cells become insulin resistant and just cannot utilize all the calories from our meals and snacks. Therefore, many calories are diverted to the fat cells of the abdomen where they are stored as fat. Reset your body With insulin resistance you cannot lose weight permanently no matter what you do and the only hope is to reset your body by developing a permanent healthy lifestyle that improves your insulin sensitivity. This lifestyle would consist of a healthy diet that does not spike blood sugar: a diet combining good low-glyemic carbohydrates, good fat and good proteins. It would include a modest consistent exercise program and a good supplement program. Without ever going hungry one can lose weight permanently and at the same time improve blood pressure and cholesterol levels and experience increased focus and energy. If you need guidance then consult a health practitioner who can put you on this path to health and vitality. Remaining overweight is clearly not the path to feeling fit and fabulous.  

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Quit Smoking This Spring

Spring is such a wonderful time of new beginnings and lovely fresh foliage and sweet scented flowers. What better time to quit smoking so that you too can smell the roses. And what better incentive to give up smoking than knowing the positive effects that quitting will have on your health. Benefits of quitting Smokers often hide behind the argument that because they have smoked for such a long time, in health terms there is little to gain by stopping. Nothing could be further from the truth. The American cancer website lists several health benefits that may result from quitting, ranging from short-term to long-term. Here are a few of them: Within 20 minutes, your blood pressure readings will return to the level that they were before your last cigarette and the temperature of your hands and feet will return to normal. Within 8 hours, the carbon monoxide level in your blood will return to normal. Within 2 – 12 weeks, your vascular system and circulation will improve and your lung function will improve by 30%. Within 1 – 9 months, the small hair-like projections that grow on the inner surfaces of your lungs and respiratory tract that are responsible for clearing your lungs of mucous will regrow thus improving your ability to clear your lungs and cope with infections and toxins. One year later, your risk of a heart attack will decrease by 50%. Five to 15 years later, your risk of stroke will decrease to that of a non-smoker. Ten years later your risk of developing lung cancer will be 50% of that of a smoker. But what changes will you actually feel? Within a few days, you’ll probably begin to notice the slow return of your sense of smell and taste. You’ll breathe easier, and your smoker’s hack will begin to disappear, while your energy levels improve day by day as you gradually regain your vitality of days gone by. But best of all, you’ll be free from the mess, smell, inconvenience, expense and dependence of cigarette smoking. Quit smoking aids There are different options when it comes to things that could help you quit. Of course for me the prescription drugs such as Zyban and Chantix are an absolute no-no due to some potentially dangerous side-effects. Then there is the electronic cigarette that delivers nicotine to the user via a vapor that is inhaled into the lungs. These only qualify as a smoking alternative, not a quit aid. They do not cure the addiction or the habit. When we quit smoking, it is counter-productive to substitute a nicotine delivery device that looks, for all intents and purposes, just like the cigarettes we are working so hard to break free of. Furthermore the risks associated with electronic cigarettes are largely unknown at this point. They are largely untested and because they are not regulated, the amount of nicotine in them can vary, as well as other possibly harmful chemical ingredients. For this reason I cannot recommend them. The only quit smoking remedies I do recommend are herbal products, provided they are 100% natural and their safety has been confirmed. Find one that not only reduces nicotine cravings but also the symptoms of nicotine withdrawal which include stress, anxiety and irritability.

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True Or False: You Cannot Breastfeed and Sleep well?

A big resounding FALSE! I recently spoke to 11 beautiful women about teaching their children how to sleep well and I was astounded by how many of them believed that they could not teach their children how to sleep well if they had chosen to breastfeed. Breastfeeding and Good Sleep are not mutually exclusive. You can be successful at both! Breastfeeding and Sleeping: A fresh perspective: You can breastfeed and teach your children good sleeping habits as well. Breastfeeding your baby to sleep ALL the time will make your baby rely on feeding to fall sleep, resulting in them waking up more frequently at night. A baby might be able to drop night feeds (healthily) from as early as between 10 and 12 weeks. Even if you breastfeed, it is advisable that you do not co-sleep with your baby as it increases your baby’s risk of SIDS. Breastfeeding in public is one of the most controversial subjects in our society: Recently Facebook has come under fire for removing photos of mothers’ breastfeeding their children, citing offensive content in violation of the Facebook Terms of Service. Facebook claimed that these photos violated their decency code by showing an exposed breast, even when the baby covered the nipple. This action was described as hypocritical, since Facebook took several days to respond to calls to deactivate a paid advertisement for a dating service that used a photo of a topless model. Dads can make or break breastfeeding: Studies show that the more supportive partners are, the longer the mother is likely to continue. Supplementing or TOP-UP feeding will not make your baby sleep better (insert gasp here!). The amount of lactose in breast milk is not affected by the mother’s diet. This means the mother cannot influence the amount of lactose in her milk by reducing or eliminating dairy foods When it comes to sleep, nutrition plays a vital role in your child’s sleep habits. It isimperative to provide adequate feeding to your baby.  

Lynne Brown

Do Sunscreens Really Prevent Skin Cancers?

Not long now and you may be heading off to your summer holiday at the sea, which brings me to the topic of sunscreens.  Being a sun-worshipper myself, with a strong belief in the therapeutic properties of sunlight, I will never be convinced that it is not good to get a healthy dose of the sun every day. It is essential for health, for life and for happy moods! Yes, too much sunlight can cause sunburn, and sunburn is a risk factor for skin cancer. But then one would assume that since sunscreens help prevent sunburn, they should reduce the risk of skin cancer too, right? Yet no study on melanoma or basal or squamous cell carcinoma has shown convincingly that sunscreens prevent the formation of new skin cancers or reduce the risk of melanoma. A few theories as to why this is so, have been put  forward, which include: The sorts of people who use sunscreen (e.g. fair-skinned) are generally at enhanced risk of skin cancer to begin with. Use of sunscreen makes people think they are not getting burned so they stay in the sun longer Sunscreen blocks out the UVB needed for Vitamin D production, but allows in the UVA, considered the melanoma culprit. Sunscreen blocks the manufacture of vitamin D which is linked to cancer-protective effects. The potentially carcinogenic effect of certain chemicals used in sunscreens More evidence pointing to sunscreens being the problem rather than the solution are these three astounding facts: Melanomas most commonly occur in countries that are less sun-exposed Are more common in indoor workers than outdoor workers and Most melanomas do not occur in typically sun-exposed parts of the body. I “pale” at the potential consequences of the current “keep your children out of the sun or slathered from top to toe in sunscreen” trend on the long term health of our children. Just to give you an example of how powerful sunscreens are, apparently a sunscreen with an SPF of 8 can reduce your ability to make vitamin D in your skin by more than 95%. Low vitamin D levels can cause bone disease and is linked with enhanced risk of cardiovascular disease and, yes you have guessed it, several forms of cancers. More than 200 epidemiological studies have confirmed that the anti-sun propaganda may well have led to a chronic deficiency of vitamin D, which may be contributing to increasing cancer incidence, including melanoma. You will be amazed to know that even in South Africa average serum vitamin D levels are dropping to levels insufficient to protect us against cancer and other degenerative diseases. Furthermore the recommendation that we should avoid the midday sun and rather get our sun exposure before 10am and after 3pm has also been reversed.  To maximize your vitamin D production and minimize your risk of malignant melanoma, the middle of the day (roughly between 10:00 a.m. and 1:00 p.m.) is the best and safest time. During this time you need the shortest exposure time to produce vitamin D because the protective UVB rays are most intense at this time- approx 15 minutes for light skins but longer for dark skinned people. As the sun goes down, the UVB is filtered out much more than the dangerous UVA. So get outdoors in the sun during the peak hours but DO NOT get burnt. Expose as much of your skin as possible till a slight pink colour says its time to cover up again. If you need to be in the sun for long periods cover up with a T-shirt and hat. Apply the same rules to your children. It is also a good idea to have your vitamin D levels checked by means of a simple blood test and if your levels are below 50ng/mL, and being in sunlight often enough is not an option for you, then it would be wise to take an oral vitamin D3 (not D2) supplement. Look for cholecalciferol and depending on how low your level was, take between 1000 and 5000IU daily.

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Drugs And Our Children

The American Academy of Paediatrics (AAP) Committee suggest that infants as young as two years old need to be screened for high cholesterol, and children as young as eight years old should be put on prescription statin drugs. In a nutshell, they were saying: Research in children and adolescents has demonstrated that some potential risk factors for cardiovascular disease may be present at a young age and paediatricians must initiate the lifelong approach to prevention of cardiovascular disease in their patients by considering pharmacological intervention for patients 8 years and older. These guidelines were approved by the FDA even though statin drugs have never been tested on young children. In other words our own 8 year old children would be the guinea pigs! Some physicians warned that the AAP is being hasty in its recommendations, given the lack of data on the long-term effects of statins in children and uncertainties about the ultimate benefits for younger statin starters. “To be frank, I’m embarrassed for the AAP today,” Lawrence Rosen, MD, from Hackensack University Medical Center in New Jersey, told the New York Times. “Treatment with medications in the absence of any clear data? I hope they’re ready for the public backlash.” New guidelines Fortunately these recommendations were replaced with a recommendation for cholesterol screening for all children age 9-11 with a retest at age 17, even in the absence of risk factors for heart disease. Is the conventional medical profession likely to follow this advice and place children as young as 9 years old on statin drugs, even without a single safety test having ever been conducted with children taking these powerful chemicals? Given the potential risks of harm from statins such as disruption of hormone production, including sex hormones, loss of cellular energy and muscle function, kidney failure, erectile dysfunction, mental confusion, amnesia and many more, is this what we want to see in our 9 year old boys and girls? The so-called specialists on the AAP committee say: “Kids are getting fatter, laying the groundwork for a future of cardiovascular disease unless something is done to stop the cascade”. Yes of course, something needs to be done  but does it have to be a drug intervention? What about a simple nutritional and weight management intervention? Treat them, don’t drug ‘em What if these children really do have high cholesterol? Well a nutritional therapist’s approach would firstly look at the underlying health problem in this case. Chances are that a child diagnosed with high cholesterol at the age of nine may have been a victim of dietary abuse. To imbalance a child’s cholesterol at such an early age would usually require the consumption of large quantities of junk food, processed and fried foods and trans fatty acids  with a dangerous lack of plant-based nutrients. A diet high in fresh, raw vegetables and fruit, sufficient fibre and the right proteins and fats, including omega-3 essential fatty acids, will achieve good results in a matter of weeks. Fresh, non-processed, living foods is what is needed here to reverse potential heart disease and normalise cholesterol. Behavioural drugs Children are also increasingly being prescribed drugs to manage behavioural problems. Does this mean children are becoming increasingly difficult to control or perhaps we are breeding Ritalin-deficient children? The redefinition of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) in 1994 led to a near doubling of the number of children diagnosed with this condition and an equal increase in the sales of Ritalin. In this crazy world we live in, what could be nicer than indulging in a bit of day dreaming? Yet today a dreamy child is diagnosed as having an illness and medical aids very kindly pay for their drug treatment. A disruptive child may quiet down on this medication and everyone thinks the problem has gone away, meanwhile the underlying issues remain unaddressed. A startling new study of thousands of Canadian children should make us think hard. It found that overall, these drugs have no long-term benefits whatsoever. If anything kids on Ritalin had worse outcomes than others. (However, for a small percentage of children, effective treatment for ADHD is a lifesaver and we should not lose sight of this.) Conclusion Are we creating a generation of druggies? Today it is not uncommon for school children to be taking powerful medical drugs just like their parents. Please keep your children drug-free and safe using nutrition and natural medicine and remember: Children need love, especially when they do not deserve it.

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Confessions Of A Sleep Therapist

There is a saying that goes: “The cobbler’s children go unshod”. Simply put, the son of the shoemaker has no shoe…. Very often, the cobbler spends so much time looking after his customers’ needs that he has no time for his children’s. I often find myself in the same predicament. Imagine the pressure I feel when we go on holiday with friends. Because I am a sleep therapist, everyone assumes that my child never, ever, EVER wakes up. So when my little fella has a rough night, I feel like I am under the spotlight, and that my friends might be changing their opinions of my chosen passion. Or when we have friends over for a grown-up meal, my child decides that playtime extends beyond 7pm, leaving me pink-faced while explaining how he usually goes down without any fuss. Luckily, my mom’s sage remarks that children are God’s way of keeping us humble have really helped me to take child-rearing, and sleep-training, in my stride. My best laid plans for a solid sleep routine can go awry in an instant! My child remains a two year old, and toddlers will test boundaries continuously. I am NOT a supermom (as hard as it is to admit!), and with that realisation, I have decided to share some of my confessions about parenthood and my son’s sleep patterns. And once you read these, I am sure it’ll bring back memories of your own faux pas’ concerning raising your little ones… I once forgot my son in the car I once stopped to pick-up my domestic worker shortly after my son was born and I forgot him in the car! I was so new to parenting that I completely forgot I had a child! (Don’t judge me J) I gave my son sedatives to make him sleep Before I became a sleep specialist, and before I knew there was help (or that programmes existed to help parents craft the children’s sleep habits) I took a nurse’s advice and sedated my child to get him to fall sleep. I could not take the 45 minute wake-ups anymore and I was desperate. What made me feel even worse, was that the sedatives did not even help! I often sneak into my son’s bedroom to watch him sleep I know I must be disturbing his sleep patterns, but sometimes I just can’t help myself and silently sneak into his room and watch him sleep. I don’t think I can ever grow tired of his peaceful, relaxed little face. Maintaining a disciplined sleep pattern is just too much of an effort sometimes Consistency is incredibly important for all children; especially toddlers. However, when our family recently spent a few nights’ camping in the Kruger National Park, we had to share a tent with our toddler. Bedtime came, and the excitement of seeing wild animals for the first time, coupled with being able to hear every word the adults were saying was too exciting for him, which caused bedtime to become a disaster. Instead of staying consistent with our sleep “rules” I gave him some milk before bedtime, thinking it would keep my sanity during our time of relaxation (insert gasp here). However, we paid the price. We woke up five times during that night with the little guy asking for more milk. On the second night, we reverted to our better judgement and stuck to the routine he was accustomed to and our little sleep superstar slept his usual 11 hours without a peep… IN A TENT! Hail the routine! Sometimes Barney becomes my best friend If you have been following my newsletters you know that I am not an advocate of any television before bedtime. But on days when the line in Pick-‘n-Pay is too long, when road construction has made me late for ALL my meetings, when my e-toll account arrived in my post-box…. These are the days that I require a mere 10 to 15 minutes of recollecting myself during the so-called “suicide hour”. During this time I cuddle my toddler on the couch and realise that  Barney’s “I love you, you love me” song makes for a lovely mantra while mentally deciding what to prepare for dinner. Today is about celebrating your efforts at raising children! You are doing the best you can, and rest in the fact that you already know what’s best for them. Laugh about your shortcomings and mistakes, and enjoy the journey of helping these little people grow up to be responsible, well-adjusted adults. Viva parenthood!

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Is Grassfed Really Better?

A lot of us are horrified by how animals are treated in feedlots and as a result, there is a decided trend toward pasture-raised animals. The newly-instated Grass-fed Association of South Africa, with its aim to establish an environmentally friendly and economically viable grass-fed meat industry, bears testimony to this. There are many reasons why grass-fed is indeed better, not the least of which the fact that putting beef cattle into feedlots and feeding them grains, goes completely “against the grain” for these animals. Grazing animals such as cattle, sheep and buck are endowed with the ability to convert grasses, which we humans cannot digest, into flesh that we are able to digest. They can do this because they possess a rumen, a 45 or so gallon fermentation tank in which resident bacteria convert cellulose into protein and fats. They are, on the other hand, very inefficient at converting corn and other grains, so we have to do this feedlot thing on a massive scale to feed all the meat-eaters of the world. However, it’s still cheaper and faster, so our meat supply is now almost all feedlot meat. But the unnaturally fast weight gain of animals in feedlots could not be achieved without enormous quantities of corn, soy-based (read GM) protein supplements, antibiotics and other drugs, including growth hormones. Apparently up to 70% of all antibiotic use around the world is on animals. This leads directly to the development of antibiotic-resistant bacteria with new “superbugs” increasingly rendering our antibiotics ineffective for treating disease in humans. We are brainwashed into believing that “grain-fed” beef is nutritionally superior, but is it? Producers are even rewarded higher grades for well-marbled flesh which is what you will get in grain-fed beef, however is this better for us? Marbled flesh is simply fat that can’t be trimmed off, as it lies within the flesh. A sirloin steak from grass-fed beef may have as little as half the fat of a steak from feedlot beef. However what’s even more important is the kind of fat. The high, imbalanced levels of omega-6 fat in grain and corn-fed animals tends to promote inflammatory processes, insulin resistance and interference with omega-3 fat metabolism. The fat in grass-fed meat is rich in desirable omega-3 fats, also found in  coldwater fish, flaxseeds and walnuts.  A grass-fed steak typically has about twice as many omega-3s as a grain-fed steak. Sadly though, when cattle are taken off grass and shipped to a feedlot to be fattened on grain, they immediately begin losing the omega-3s they have stored in their tissues.  Meat from pastured cattle may also be up to four times higher in vitamin E than feedlot meat, and much higher in conjugated linoleic acid (CLA), a nutrient associated with lower cancer risk. There are also environmental benefits to grass-fed beef – it is far less polluting, with their droppings becoming nutrients for the next pasture. Grain we feed our feedlot cattle accounts for a staggering amount of fossil fuel energy and vast quantities of chemical fertilizer. So grass-fed beef certainly has its advantages, but it is typically more expensive, and I’m not at all sure that’s a bad thing. Most of us eat far too much meat anyway! Meatless Mondays? What a brilliant idea! Grassfed vs Organic vs Natural It’s important to remember that organic is not the same as grass-fed. You may find organic beef and dairy products that are hormone- and antibiotic- free but the animals still spent their lives in a feedlot simply eating organically grown grain. What about the “natural” label? All that usually means is that the animal was raised in a feedlot but without growth hormones and antibiotics added to their non-organic feed. There can still be as many as 100 cattle, weighing from 350 to 600kgs, living in a pen the size of a basketball court.

Lynne Brown

Vitamin Antagonists

Do you think you eat healthily enough and yet you are still prone to frequent occurrences of infections and other health challenges? Perhaps your nutrient intake and the nutrients your body makes are, to a significant degree, being cancelled out by vitamin antagonists. A vitamin antagonist is essentially the same thing as an antivitamin. It is a substance that blocks or inhibits the chemical action of a vitamin in the body. Processed foods are one of the main causes of vitamin loss in our bodies, with refined white sugar and flour being top of the list of culprits that deplete our vitamin stores. However there are many other vitamin antagonists such as artificial stimulants, drugs and, above all, stress. Stimulants Caffeine for example depletes the body of the B vitamins. The high tannin levels in tea can also cause iron depletion if drunk in excess. Alcoholic beverages deplete B vitamins as well as vitamin C from the body. It is also well known that cigarette smokers have lower Vitamin C levels than non-smokers do. A single cigarette can deplete as much as 35 mg of Vitamin C from the body. Calcium & phosphorus are also depleted in cigarette smokers. Our bodies need sustainable energy, not energy artificially boosted by the short-lived highs from these negative stimulants. When one’s metabolism is stimulated artificially many enzymes, vitamins and minerals are used. These artificial stimulants whip up the heartbeat and flow of blood and oxygen to the different parts of the body and brain. It is like throwing benzene on a fire: The fire will burn higher and brighter, but only for a short time, after which it will be completely burned out and the body feels a loss of vitality and energy. Drugs Drugs or medicines are serious stress producers in the body. Because vitamin C reacts with any alien substance in the bloodstream, all drugs can be considered to be vitamin C antagonists. Birth control pills are anti-vitamins, especially of riboflavin, B6, B12 and folic acid. Aspirin interferes with digestive processes and can result in stomach bleeding. It may result in especially high losses of Vitamin C and A, folic acid and calcium and potassium. Diuretics are drugs prescribed medically to promote weight reduction, or to relieve pressure of retained fluids. They work by increasing the flow of urine which in turn results in great losses of B and C vitamins and the minerals potassium and magnesium. All laxatives, including the herbal types, are vitamin antagonists. Mineral oil, commonly used as a laxative, absorbs the fat soluble vitamins A, D, E, K which are then eliminated with the stool together with calcium and phosphorus. Beta blockers, drugs taken mainly for hypertension, decrease nocturnal melatonin, a naturally occurring hormone which basically tells your body to go to sleep, and this probably accounts for some of these agents causing insomnia.Statins (cholesterol lowering drugs) reduce production of an enzyme known as Co-enzyme Q10 which is, ironically, essential for heart health. Antibiotics suppress the growth of the beneficial or friendly bacteria population in the gastrointestinal tract and consequently the synthesis of vitamin K and may result in yeast infections and gastric problems.Antacids containing aluminium hydroxide can result in bone demineralization due to decreased absorption of phosphates. Anticonvulsants given to epileptics may result in folate, vitamin B12 and D deficiencies. Cortisone is an antagonist of vitamin B6 (pyridoxine) and blood-thinning medications may destroy vitamin A in the body. The solution This has been only a partial listing of a few specific vitamin antagonists or antivitamins. We know that all drugs and medications have side-effects, some of them serious. In many cases these may simply be the result of deficiencies in specific nutrients that these drugs have created in your body. If you’re a coffee or Coke addict or need to be on drugs for a specific health condition then it would be a good idea to supplement with a good quality whole food multivitamin and mineral supplement which should cover most of the bases. Alternatively consult a nutritionally-based health care practitioner to determine deficiencies that your specific medication or lifestyle may be causing and address these accordingly Stress Finally the greatest thief of all, robbing the body of nutrients and producing many free radicals, is stress. We might not come face to face with a lion everyday but we do experience numerous everyday stresses. Surgery, accidents, overly exhausting work or exercise, lack of sleep, exposure to extremes of heat or cold and emotions such as fear, hatred, anger, worry and grief, all produce great levels ofstress in the body. The B vitamins, vitamin C as well as proteins and minerals, are all depleted and/or can not be assimilated as a result of stress. And don’t think for a minute that the other vitamins can be properly or fully utilized when the body is under stress—they can’t!

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Depression and Suicide: The Unseen Killers Suicide in South Africa takes its toll

South African Stats 1)      10% of all non-natural deaths in adults and 9.5% in youth are due to suicide. 2)      +/- 23 a day, virtually 1 every hour. 3)      Nearly two-thirds of all suicide victims were aged between 20 and 39 years. 4)      Nearly 1 third of recorded suicides in SA are in Gauteng and a 1.5x increase in suicidal deaths in the Transkei over the past five years. 5)      There were 4.6 male suicides for every 1 female suicide. 6)      1 in 4 SA teens have attempted suicide. 7)      1 in 3 hospital admissions for suicide involve youth. 8)      Less than 1% of mental hospital beds are for children and adolescence. 9)      70% of South Africans who attempted suicide had a mental health disorder. 10)   75% of people will not get the mental health treatment they need. Following the recent suicides of celebrity comedian Robin William, as well as numerous South Africans across the country that have made headlines, it is important to note that at least 10% of all non-natural deaths in adults and 9.5% in youth in South Africa are due to suicide. Globally, according to the WHO, suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among 15-29 year olds, with 1 person committing suicide every 40 seconds. For every person that dies by suicide, between 10-20 people attempt it. According to Prof. Lourens Schlebusch, there are at least 23 suicides a day in South Africa – which may be underestimated due to the stigma involved in suicide. However, data on suicides and other unintentional injury deaths are not systematically tracked by any agency in the country making accurate statistics hard to come by, says SA’s largest mental health NGO, the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG). Suicide is a preventable tragedy and with appropriate help, treatment, and support, lives can be saved. Through raising awareness of the magnitude and scope of the problem, increasing psycho-social support and providing free counselling to those in need of help, and implementing grassroots suicide prevention strategies. SADAG’s Solutions to Suicide: Teen Suicide Prevention Despite the increasingly concerning rate of teen depression and suicide –  1 in 4 South African teens have attempted suicide and 1 in 3 hospital admissions for suicide involve youth – most schools don’t have counsellors or psycho-social support systems in place. SADAG initiated a school-based suicide prevention programme – Suicide shouldn’t be a secret – that goes class by class to empower youth to identify symptoms of depression and warning signs of suicide in themselves, their peers and loved ones; where to go in their communities for assistance, and how to contact SADAG. SADAG also trains teachers because giving power and advice to first-line responders helps them better cope in suicide crises. Counselling Containers in Townships There are many communities in South Africa that lack any access to mental health care. Dieplsoot is an example with an ever-increasing population of at least 200 000. SADAG has established a counselling container in Diepsloot that not only provides free counselling to residents but also outreach programmes with schools, churches, community groups, the police and clinics, and local shopping centres. Container Counselling units can help entire communities and provide easy access, education, support and save costs. A Counselling Container costs R600 000.00 per year to run, which includes providing the counsellors, phones, brochures and materials, talks and support to the members of the community. SADAG’s National Suicide Crisis Lines SADAG has been operating the national suicide prevention crisis lines (0800 567 567) for over 12 years with no funding from the Department of Health– despite the massive costs involved in helping callers on the lines. SADAG says the line needs to be available 24 hours a day but without funding this is simply not possible. “Our lines run 7 days a week from 8 am to 8pm but depression and suicidal thoughts don’t stop when our lines close”, says Chambers. Depression and suicide cross all racial, gender and socio-economic boundaries – affecting males and females, married and single, wealthy and poor, young and old. “Many people think that depression is a ‘female’ issue but statistics show that there are at least 4 male suicides for every one female suicide”, says Chambers. More education, resources and awareness by the government is needed. They need to be having with NGO’s working in the field.   Suicide is a critical issue in South Africa but it can be reduced and prevented. There is treatment for depression and other mental health issues, help is available. SADAG not only runs a 15-line toll-free counselling and referral centre but also offers community outreach, education and counselling to under-resourced communities, in schools, and in corporations. In addition, SADAG works with the South African government and medical aid schemes to increase political commitment and funding for mental health care and ensure that sufferers are treated equally. SADAG can be contacted on 0800 21 22 23, 0800 12 13 14, or www.sadag.org

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Brain Food For Exams

Our brain, a mass of fat and protein weighing about 1.4 kilograms (equal to 3 bricks of butter), is the organ that makes us human, gives us the capacity for art, language, moral judgments and rational thought. It’s also responsible for each of our personality, memories, movements, and how we sense the world. So, one would think that it is the organ that we would take the most care of. We have days dedicated to heart, kidney and bone health, but how often do we take time to appreciate our brain and make sure we are looking after it! What we eat can have a direct impact on how well our brain works. Our brain is a hungry organ and reportedly uses 20-30% of our daily energy intake. Relative to its size and weight, that is rather demanding and if we don’t take in adequate nutrition, our brain is going to go hungry. None of us feel good when we are hungry, so just imagine how your brain must feel when it goes hungry. Just by skipping breakfast alone, you can adversely affect brain functions like fluency when speaking, ability to solve problems and motivation to tackle tasks. What we need to realise is your brain works just like your car. Just like your car requires good quality petrol, oil, water, brake fluid and other components to function well, so does your brain. The nutrients key to your brains health and function include glucose, vitamins & minerals and other essential chemicals. If you want to keep your brain fit and healthy and make sure it serves you well, keep reading to learn more about food and brain health. Glucose = carbohydrate = brain power The ability to concentrate and focus comes from the adequate supply of energy – from blood glucose – to the brain. The glucose in our blood comes primarily from the carbohydrates we eat – foods including fruit, vegetables, cereals, bread, sugars and lactose in milk. Eating breakfast and regular meals containing some carbohydrate ensure you will have enough glucose in your blood. Low GI carbohydrates are the best choice as they will ensure a steady supply of glucose to your brain. Not having enough glucose in the blood makes us feel weak, tired and our minds cloudy. This may happen when we don’t eat enough carbohydrate-containing food e.g. when you are following a low carbohydrate diet or if you have an erratic eating patterns. However, though glucose ensures good concentration and focus, once your blood glucose is within the normal range, you CANNOT further boost your brain power by eating more carbohydrates and increasing your glucose levels. This will not make you smarter but only cause you to gain weight! Your dietitian would be able to guide you on how much carbohydrates you need to prevent weight gain. Choose fats wisely Our brains are made of around 40% fat, and our cells need fats to maintain their structures, therefore an adequate supply of healthy fat is needed to maintain brain health. Healthy fat choices include the mono-unsaturated fats like olive oil, avocado pear, nuts and seeds and omega 3 rich foods like pilchards, sardines, salmon, trout and walnuts. If you don’t like fish you may decide to take an omega 3 supplement. Make sure your omega 3 supplement has a high proportion of the active ingredients – Eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA) and Docosahexaenoic acid (DHA). Take up to a total of 1g/day of these essential fatty acids every day. We stock various omega-3 supplements at the practice that meets the recommended dosage. Include protein at each meal Tryptophan is one of the building blocks of protein, and has been shown to play a role in depression. Studies have shown that adding pure tryptophan to the diet of people with depression can improve their mood. Tryptophan is found in most foods like seafood, dairy, nuts, seeds and legumes, but is found in the largest quantity in turkey, chicken and red meats. Protein also contains essential nutrients and eating it little and often helps to keep us feeling full, which in turn, can prevent overeating. Fresh meat, poultry, fish, shellfish and eggs are the best sources of protein. Fill around one-third of your plate with a protein food. Don’t forget your fruit and veggies and wholegrains Wholegrain cereals, peas, beans, lentils, nuts, seeds, fruits and vegetables are rich in a range of vitamins and minerals that your body needs in order to function well. These foods are also rich in B vitamins, (including folate) and zinc, which evidence suggests is important in managing depression. Try to eat at least five different fruits and vegetables daily to get all the vitamins and minerals you need. Drink enough fluid Water makes up 85 percent of the brain weight. So, it is but natural that lack of water can lead to brain shrinkage. Researches have shown that dehydration not only shrinks the brain tissues but also adversely affects concentration and memory. So, how much water is required by the body every day? Drink water according to your body weight. Dividing your weight in kilograms by 30 gives the amount of water in litres a day. For example, if you weigh 75 kg, drink (75/30= 2.5) 2.5 litres of water spread out over a day. Be careful of caffeinated beverages though. Caffeine may affect your mood and may lead to withdrawal headaches and to low or irritable mood when the effects wear off. Drinks such as coffee, cola, energy drinks, tea and chocolate all contain caffeine. Avoid all energy drinks, and try to limit intake to three cups of coffee, or five cups of tea a day. Alcohol also has a dehydrating effect. Drinking too much alcohol can also lead to B vitamin deficiencies, and can make you more depressed or anxious. Try to limit intake to no more than two to three drinks on no more than five days per week. Try to include a super food each day Super foods

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Healthier Environments Build A Healthier Nation

This World Heart Day the Heart and Stroke Foundation SA is putting the spotlight on creating heart-healthy environments, enabling people to make positive changes that can reduce their risk of heart disease and stroke. World Heart Day is celebrated annually to raise awareness about cardiovascular disease (CVD). This year the Heart and Stroke Foundation SA (HSF), in partnership with the World Heart Federation, is putting the spotlight on creating heart-healthy environments, enabling people to make positive changes that can reduce their risk of heart disease and stroke. “South Africans are at high risk for cardiovascular disease and our unhealthy lifestyles are largely to blame,” says Dr Vash Mungal-Singh,CEO of the Heart and Stroke Foundation SA. “Up to 70% of our women are overweight or obese, one in two women and over a quarter of men are physically inactive, and 23% of our children 2 – 14 years are overweight or obese. Although the picture looks bleak, South Africans can reduce their risk by creating heart-healthy environments that encourage a healthy lifestyle”. The HSF recognises that not all individuals have the best opportunities to make heart-healthy choices. For instance, some people often lack access to healthy foods or to safe spaces to be physically active. However, all is not lost, even small changes can give big results and you can start in your home. Heart-healthy homes Put the spotlight on your home and see what you could change to make it heart-healthy. Making just a few changes can help reduce your own and your family’s risk of heart disease and stroke. Stock your home with healthy food options Limit pre-packed or processed foods that are often high in sugar, fat and salt Incorporate fresh fruit and vegetables in your meals Use less salt at home Prepare healthy school or work lunches at home Be physically active – aim for 30 minutes five times a week Limit TV watching Ban smoking in your home Recognise your CVD risk “This Heart Awareness Month we’re making it easier for South Africans to know their CVD risk by offering free blood pressure tests throughout the month of September,” says Dr Mungal-Singh. “One in three South African adults, 15 years or older has hypertension and the majority of them are unaware that they have the condition. High blood pressure is the leading cause of heart disease and strokes, and I urge all South Africans to take this opportunity to get their blood pressure tested”, she adds. Once you know your CVD risk, you can make a plan to improve your heart health and your healthcare professional can also advise on appropriate treatment options where necessary. Heart-healthy communities Ensure that your communities become places where people thrive and have opportunities to make heart-healthy choices. Start a walking club in your community, it is safer to walk in a group and can be just the motivation you need to get up and out the door Make a complaint when you see smoking zones located near playgrounds, schools or close to entrances of public buildings Cycle or walk to school or work if you can Take the stairs or go for a walk in your lunch break Ask for healthy food at your work canteen and children’s school Heart-healthy nations The HSF urges national policymakers to provide more opportunities for people to make heart-healthy choices. Provide safe environments like cycling paths and urban parks where people can be active – safely Regulate the amount and reach of fast-food advertising on TV and radio Enact legislation to tax unhealthy foods and support locally produced fruit and vegetables Ensure timely detection of CVD and cost-effective treatment to modify risk factors in high-risk individuals Book an appointment at any Clicks Clinic for a FREE blood pressure test during the month of September. Call 0860 254 257 to book an appointment. For more information about heart health, contact the Heart and Stroke Health Line on 0860 1 HEART (43278).    

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High blood pressure is killing South Africans

South Africans have one of the highest rates of hypertension worldwide, so this Heart Awareness Month the Heart and Stroke Foundation SA is encouraging South Africans to “Beat the pressure and get tested” by offering free blood pressure tests to the public When’s the last time you got tested? Your blood pressure that is. Hypertension or high blood pressure is called the “silent killer” for a reason. People don’t usually show any signs or symptoms and once they realise that they have high blood pressure, it is often too late. In fact, one in three South African adults, 15 years or older has hypertension and the majority of them are unaware that they have the condition. High blood pressure is the leading cause of heart disease and strokes, with statistics showing that there are about 130 heart attacks and 240 strokes daily in South Africa. This year, to celebrate Heart Awareness Month, the Heart and Stroke Foundation SA (HSF) in partnership with Clicks is offering free blood pressure tests for the public at all Clicks Clinics nationwide, by appointment for the month of September, and is encouraging South Africans to: “Beat the pressure. Get tested”. Along with urging South Africans to get tested, the HSF is also encouraging South Africans to lower their salt intake by following simple steps, like adding less salt to their food when cooking, tasting their food before they add salt and adding less salt to their food at the table. “South Africans eat far too much salt, more than double the recommended daily allowance,” says Dr Vash Mungal-Singh, CEO of the Heart and Stroke Foundation SA. “And what they don’t realise is that a high salt diet is a key contributor to high blood pressure and high blood pressure is one of the leading causes for heart disease or stroke”. One also needs to take into account the cultural perceptions around salt. In many South African communities salt use and consumption is linked with health, cultural and spiritual beliefs. “In traditional, lower to lower-middle income communities, there is a widely held belief that salt has considerable health benefits, particularly in the Eastern Cape and KwaZulu-Natal. Additionally, there are some strong beliefs in rural and lower income communities that food left unsalted will be eaten by the Tokolosh,” says Dr Mungal-Singh. “In rural and township communities, salt is added liberally to food as it is considered a cheap flavourant. It is also added generously to meat to preserve it from the elements, which is particularly common amongst road side butchers. These cultural perceptions and practices around salt are another challenge we are faced with in South Africa,” adds Dr Mungal-Singh. Encouraging South Africans to lower their salt intake is important but first we need to educate them about the dangers of a high salt diet and that’s where Salt Watch steps in. Salt Watch is driven by a multisectoral coalition, supported by the National Department of Health, and is a member of World Action on Salt and Health. The HSF has been mandated as the implementing body of the Salt Watch campaign, a national public awareness and education campaign to encourage South Africans to reduce their salt intake. Fortunately, in 2013 the Minister of Health signed legislation to make salt reduction in the food industry mandatory, helping to achieve the government’s target to reduce salt intake to less than 5 g a day by 2020. This makes South Africa the first country globally to legislate salt levels to help reduce the amount of salt that the public takes in from processed foods. Every hour in South Africa, five people have heart attacks, 10 people have strokes and 10 people die from heart disease and stroke. But the good news is that 80% of these premature deaths (before the age of 60) can be prevented with a healthy balanced diet, being physically active regularly and avoiding smoking. Take your health into your hands from today by going for a free blood pressure test and lowering your salt intake. Book an appointment at any Clicks Clinic for a FREE blood pressure test during the month of September. Call 0860 254 257 to book an appointment. For more information about heart health, contact the Heart and Stroke Health Line on 0860 1 HEART (43278).

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Heart-Healthy Lunchbox Ideas To Keep Your Kids Going

Packing a school lunchbox for your child can be much healthier than giving them money for the tuckshop or sending them to school with take-away meals. These foods are usually laden with unhealthy fats, salt and sugar. A balanced, heart-healthy lunchbox can help your children ensure they are getting sufficient nutrients needed for health, improve your child’s concentration at school, and help them form healthy habits that can help protect against obesity, diabetes, heart disease and stroke later on in life. And an added bonus is that it is great for the budget too. Keep in mind these five essentials that make for a heart-healthy, balanced lunchbox: A lean protein – anything from tinned fish, a boiled egg, beans or lentils, to lean meats, such as skinless chicken or trimmed beef. A complex carbohydrate – this means choosing whole-grain or high fibre starches, such as whole-wheat bread or seed breads, whole-wheat pita breads or wraps, whole-grain crackers or whole-wheat pasta. These high-fibre options provide more fibre, vitamins and minerals and release energy more slowly. Reduced fat diary – such as low fat milk, unsweetened yoghurt or reduced fat cheese. Healthier nibbles – Try to include at least two different colours of fruits or fresh vegetables in the lunchbox. This ensures a variety of vitamins and minerals. Plain unsalted nuts provide protein as well as a good dose of essential fatty acids. Home-popped popcorn makes a great snack, or you can even include healthier treats occasionally, such as home-baked bran or fruit muffins. Water is still the best drink to include in your children’s lunchbox. Add some fresh lemon slices or mint leaves and freeze the bottle overnight as this makes for a refreshing drink, especially on those hot summer days. Here are some tips for tasty lunchboxes when you’re working against the clock: If you are short of time in the morning, prepare your child’s lunchbox the night before and keep it in the fridge so that you can simply grab it on your way out in the morning. When cooking for dinner, make a bit extra and pack the leftovers into your lunchbox for the next day.. Leftover chicken can be added to a sandwich or whole-wheat wrap with grated carrot, lettuce, tomato and a slice of avocado for a delicious meal. Keep your kitchen stocked with convenient snacks that can be added to the lunchbox: small packets of plain, unsalted nuts, dried fruit, or small tubs of unsweetened yoghurt. Don’t forget fresh fruit. These are easy to transport, take no preparation and are packed full of vitamins, minerals and fibre. Compiled by Jessica Bacon, Registered Dietitian at the Heart and Stroke Foundation SA

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Vitamin D – Are You Getting Enough

“I have never seen any medical diagnosis as widespread and so profoundly affecting peoples’ health and well-being as the current epidemic of Vitamin D deficiency.”  — Dr. Soram Khalsa, M.D.- ‘The Vitamin D Revolution‘) At a seminar held for the Association for Nutritional Therapy in Cape Town a while back, we learned that most South Africans, even those who do spend plenty of time outdoors under our powerful sub-tropical sun, are vitamin D deficient. I decided I had to put this somewhat incredible statement to the test. Being a sun worshipper who spends a lot of time in my garden, if I proved to have low vitamin D levels, then I would have to believe that most South Africans have. So I took myself off for a blood test for 25-hydroxyVitaminD (or 25(OH)D), the only reliable way to know what your levels are. Well blow me down! In the middle of our South African summer I only just made it into the 50-75 ng/ml range, recommended by Vitamin D experts. Apparently one needs to be in this range to really benefit from the protective or therapeutic properties of Vitamin D. Well now I understand why there is such a hoo-ha about vitamin D deficiency being at the root of a plethora of modern day degenerative diseases. Needless to say 2000IU per day Vitamin D3 was immediately added to my supplement regime and 6 months later, mostly Winter months, I’m thrilled to report that my level had risen to 71 ng/ml. Remember the new school of thought is that the right time to expose your body, without sunscreen, to direct sunlight is when your shadow is shorter than your height. Well have you noticed this is never the case on a Winter’s day? Not even at midday. So taking vitamin D supplements in Winter seems to be non-negotiable. I would have preferred to simply eat more Vitamin D rich foods however it is extremely unlikely one can get enough from one’s diet. Apparently two servings of fatty fish like salmon, tuna, sardines or mackerel would have to be consumed every day. Most of us would have to resort to canned fish which is definitely not ideal. There is a ton of research which links higher levels of vitamin D (and/or increased sun exposure) with reduced risk of a range of conditions including diabetes, multiple sclerosis, several forms of cancer (including skin cancer), arthritis, heart disease and depression. Ha! and we thought vitamin D was only good for keeping healthy bones and teeth! Who can expect to have low vitamin D levels? The elderly, anyone who does not get enough sun exposure and people who have cancer, heart disease, diabetes, osteoporosis, arthritis or suffer from depression. Also if you are prone to chronic fatigue, memory loss or dementia, joint, muscle and back pain, muscle weakness, bone fracture and falling risks, it can do no harm to have your vitamin D3 levels checked. Pregnant and breastfeeding women are at considerable risk of being deficient, which puts the child at risk too of future health problems. For teenagers suffering from depression a simple vitamin D deficiency may be the cause. In a recent study vitamin D supplementation in depressed teenagers resulted in increased well-being, improvements in depressed feelings, irritability, tiredness, mood swings, sleep difficulties, weakness, concentration and pain. If you decide to go for the 25-hydroxyVitaminD blood test and don’t know what to do with the results please seek advice on the appropriate vitamin D dose to supplement for your particular circumstances. It all depends on your starting level, how much sun exposure you are able to get and your present health profile and diet. Most people will need more than the generally recommended 400IU daily intake. Vitamin D supplementation is safe, however overdosing, although unlikely, can result in toxicity, so, if in doubt, rather seek professional advice. It is also very important that you take a D3 supplement as opposed to D2. If you really think about it, disease is much more likely to be due to a deficiency in some vitamin/mineral complex than in a deficiency of a drug.

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Chromium Fights Atypical Depression

The classic picture of depression is someone who doesn’t eat enough, doesn’t sleep enough and loses weight. But according to Patrick Holford, world-renowned nutritionist and director of the Brain Bio Centre in the UK, they are seeing more and more patients who are gaining weight, feel tired all the time, crave carbohydrates and experience rejection sensitivity. This form of depressive illness is known as atypical depression and affects about 40% of depressed patients. Since 1999 numerous studies have shown that people with this kind of depression often get instant relief, by taking a chromium supplement daily. One study even reports that more than 60% of the patients in the trial went into complete remission after just 6 weeks. Best news of all is that, as a non-prescriptive nutrient, chromium formulations are extremely affordable and have shown no side effects. Why it works Chromium is an essential trace mineral that enhances the action of insulin in the body. As such chromium deficiency may lead to abnormalities of blood sugar metabolism, which could result in many of the symptoms that characterize atypical depression. The typical Western diet is low in chromium because food processing and modern farming techniques may cause losses of chromium from food. Chromium keeps levels of glucose in the blood stable. Glucose is the most important nutrient for the brain and in order for our brains to work effectively we need a steady supply of it. Any imbalance in this supply results in a range of symptoms, depression being one of them. In addition to its blood sugar-regulating effect, chromium appears to alter the body’s response to serotonin, one of the major brain chemicals involved in depression. Carbohydrate cravings The authors of many of the studies have concluded that the main effect of chromium was on carbohydrate craving and appetite regulation in patients with depression. Some suggest that physicians and mental health professionals should be alert to patients who report carbohydrate craving as it may signal the possible presence of a more serious underlying medical condition, such as atypical depression. The use of antidepressants and mood stabilizers that are commonly prescribed to treat depression may worsen carbohydrate cravings. Conclusion I firmly believe that chromium supplementation offers a new treatment option for depressed patients who crave carbohydrates and for patients who often find it difficult to stay on prescribed medications because of side effects such as sexual dysfunction and weight gain. Chromium shows promise as a simple, safe and inexpensive therapy for a common and sometimes debilitating condition. As Patrick Holford puts it: “For many people chromium is the missing link”.

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