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Setting boundaries – how to draw the line before it gets blurred

First, we need to look at why we need to set boundaries? Boundaries are the rules you set, about how others are allowed to treat you. The purpose of setting a healthy boundary is to protect and take good care of you, as well as, the relationship with others.   Whether it be in relationships, at work, at home or at school, they are crucially important to your personal well-being, as well as that of others. Why then, are we afraid of setting boundaries if they are there to protect us? Everyone is different Something that affects you might not be a big deal to someone else. This could make you feel like your boundaries are wrong.  Fear of Rejection  You might feel afraid to enforce your boundaries because it might upset someone else  Effort Enforcing boundaries can feel like a lot of work, so you might be tempted to ignore issues in the hopes that they will go away on their own. It is thus unfortunately easy for lines to get blurred.  These adapted guidelines from psychcentral.com may help you in the process of setting healthy boundaries: Enjoy some self-reflection To successfully introduce and set boundaries, it’s key to understand why they’re each important to you and how they will benefit your emotional well-being. Sometimes stuff happens to people that makes them feel uncomfortable, but they’re not sure why. The first step in having healthy boundaries in any situation is spending the time to explore what’s happening to you and why you feel uncomfortable. Start small If you don’t have many boundaries in place already, the prospect of introducing more might seem overwhelming — so build them up slowly. Doing so allows you to take things at a more comfortable pace, and it provides time to reflect on whether it’s heading in the right direction or if you need to make some tweaks. Set them early  It can sometimes be hard to start putting boundaries in, especially in pre-existing relationships. Rather set them straight away. By setting boundaries and expectations from the very beginning, everyone knows where they stand, and feelings of hurt, confusion, and frustration can be lessened. Be consistent Letting boundaries slide can lead to confusion and encourage new expectations and demands among those around you. Try keeping things consistent and steady. This helps to reinforce your original thresholds and beliefs, and it ensures those lines remain clearly established. Create a framework Boundaries may vary, depending on the type of relationship. However, if you find it helpful, there’s no reason not to have a few basics in place that can be adapted accordingly. Feel free to add extras In some aspects of our lives, there may already be boundaries in place, but consider these the minimum. Setting boundaries in certain aspects of your life, may lead to more productivity and feeling empowered. Be aware of social media These platforms allow for more communication than ever, but they’ve also encouraged some considerable boundary blurring. Oversharing can become a concern, especially on public platforms where family and friends may post personal information or photos that we don’t want shared publicly. If you deem a particular action as boundary-crossing in real life, your concerns are no less valid when it occurs digitally. Talk, talk, talk Communication is critical in the world of boundaries, especially if someone consistently oversteps yours. While you might need to raise your concerns, these discussions need not be confrontational. By approaching the situation relevant to the circumstances in context, it may prevent confrontation, resentment or awkward situations before it becomes a concern. Be your biggest champion For boundaries to have a strong foundation, you need to show yourself a bit of love. A lot of it comes down to self-worth and self-value. If this is lacking, you may find it difficult to set and enforce boundaries to protect yourself. Changing your internal dialogue will make you feel more deserving. Gain some perspective  Not having boundaries can be detrimental to our mental health, but going too far and over-thinking them can also impact our emotional well-being. It’s good to have boundaries, but don’t be dictated by them. Sometimes you’ve just got to go with your gut instinct. We can forget that we’re actually quite good at navigating most things and are quite intuitive as human beings. Also, flexibility is not always a bad thing, as long as it justifies a positive outcome.  Recognizing the boundaries of others In addition to setting your own boundaries, it’s important to appreciate those of others, too — even if they’re different from your own. Repeatedly violating boundaries can breed resentment and contempt, and cause people to withdraw. So, take a moment to consider what may be important to the other person. On a final note Don’t feel guilty about setting boundaries. They’re essentially a form of self-care, and we actively look to incorporate other elements of this into our lives daily — from eating a balanced diet to exercising. This should not be different! At Wingu Academy we have a dedicated Wellness Hub to assist in both academic and mental well-being. The Wellness Hub offers a range of free resources to parents, learners, as well as staff members to support personal growth and well-being. Read more about setting boundaries at: https://psychcentral.com/lib/10-way-to-build-and-preserve-better-boundaries#recap

October 25, 2023
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Why we made the switch from brick-and-mortar to online homeschooling

The following account is the story of a parent, Engela Janse van Rensburg, who decided to make the switch from a brick-and-mortar school to online homeschooling and she has never looked back! “Here’s a riddle for you: What is the most in-demand occupation – no, let me rephrase – profession, in the entire existence of the human race? Which profession needs no qualification, has the lowest monetary reward yet has the highest impact on the human race, and the highest emotional reward? Parenting! Any parent will tell you that the privilege of having a child and the joy that it accompanies, is something very special. But, with this privilege comes a number of choices you have to make. At the birth of your child, you are given a clean slate and you as the parent have to decide what is written on that slate, since this will form the foundations of that little human being entrusted to you.   I call these choices the three C’s: Choice of morals and values; Choice of religious beliefs and Choice of education. And it is in this third choice, Education, that many parents faced a new challenge the last couple of years since the global pandemic struck. Three years ago parents who decided to homeschool their children were seen by many as the ‘different’ ones. Two years ago parents who never thought of homeschooling their children, were suddenly faced with a challenge: how do I ensure continuous education for my child, how do I keep my child safe and healthy and protected against an enemy no one can see (Covid-19)? And just like many other families, we were faced with the same questions. When we started to do research, we realised that education entered its own “industrial revolution” phase. We were standing in front of three options: homeschooling where the support from the school was only administrative and I will have to teach my child; a school where classes were presented on a set timetable and the only difference between the online school and a brick-and-mortar school, was that he was at home and did his lessons online; and the third option was a combination of the first two: online lessons combined with self-study. We realised that with both parents also in education and working long hours, there was no time for us to teach our son, although we had the knowledge. It was also for our son a much easier transition from what he knew to something totally different.   Two years later we have settled into our new lifestyle and in the process we have learned a lot of lessons. Time management became very important and it was a skill that I had to teach my son. I had to show him how to plan his term, his week and his day. I had to show him how to plan when to start with an assignment to make sure it is completed and submitted on time. He had to learn how to take responsibility and attend classes, even though he has the freedom to make that choice.  In a brick-and-mortar school, parents are so much less involved in the day-to-day activities of their children. With an online school, I became involved in what happened in my child’s education on a daily basis. I check on his daily classes, I look at his performance and results when assessment results are released and I assist with his revision planning. Then there is of course the technical side – make sure he has access to Wi-Fi during load-shedding, make sure the printer is working, make sure the laptop is still on standard.   The biggest change in our lives was that we became so much more involved in our child’s education. But it also brought another concern with it – we had to make sure that the social development  of our son was still taken care of. It is so important to remember that your child still needs contact with his peers and that he can still interact with them outside the academic sphere. It is very easy for a child to become totally isolated and if both parents are working, this can happen very easily.   Whether your choice is homeschooling or an online school, any parent will have to remember that your view about your child’s education will have to change. You need to become more involved in the education and social development of your child. Both you and your child will have to focus on time management, your communication about his education will have to be daily and maybe the most important before you even venture into this new adventure is that you have to make sure your child has the right personality to make a success of it. We are very fortunate. Our son is a self-starter, a self-motivator, and can work independently. Our transition was very easy. In the first year, both of us had to get used to the technical aspects and he had to learn time management skills – which learners do not learn in brick-and-mortar schools. But after 9 months at an online school, I did not need to create his calendar anymore or remind him about tasks. Today, two years later, we have an independent 14-year-old who is far above many first-year university students when it comes to planning his academics and taking responsibility for it.  Do I recommend it? Absolutely! Why? I wrote on that slate given to me the following objectives to instil in my son: independence, responsibility, work ethic, confidence, self-trust, and high-quality education. What is the downside? Social interaction in the form of sport or cultural activities takes a lot more effort, planning and involvement with the homeschooling/online schooling community. When should you not do it? When you think it is an easy way out of “school” or when your child is not yet emotionally mature enough to take responsibility for engaging with their schoolwork. It is not an easy way out – it will take commitment from both you as a parent as well as your

June 15, 2022
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Relationship building with home education providers is a priority for the Gauteng Department of Education – Wingu Academy’s invite for in-depth collaboration

The Gauteng Department of Education (GDE) conducted a meeting with homeschooling and online school providers on the 2nd of June 2022. This is the first meeting where the GDE reached out to service providers in the home education sector as part of stakeholder engagement and relationship building. Chriselda Mosibudi-Makhubela, the Director for Independent Schools at the Gauteng Department of Education, expressed the objective of amplifying the voices of learners that are home educated, as well as those of the key stakeholders to work towards turning around the prior views on home education.      South Africa has seen a surge of online schools opening in response to the COVID-19 pandemic. Some online schools were already established pre-pandemic due to a natural growth in the home education market inherent in the country, whilst others developed in response to the perceived demand in the market for online schooling.  In the US, online schools have been well attended for a few decades already and have seen mature and well-developed online schools emerge as viable and important alternatives for numerous students across the states. Pre-pandemic there were over 375 000 students between the ages of 6 and 18 attending state-wide full-time online school programmes, a number that has almost doubled for the 2021-2022 school year in the US.  In South Africa, the numbers are not that clear and pre-pandemic estimates of 100 000 homeschoolers have increased dramatically to more than 300 000 according to the Department of Education. Chriselda Mosibudi-Makhubela has previously indicated that up to 4% of learners can be home educated in South Africa. The director also expressed that the GDE is very interested in doing research to learn more about home-based education and to improve on assessment and curriculum provision in Gauteng, especially for home education.   With the growth in the interest in home-based education, accelerated by the pandemic, many online schools have emerged. At the meeting on the 2nd of June it became evident that clearer guidelines and frameworks are required to establish a minimum standard to ensure that all learners get the best possible education from homeschooling providers and online schools. The different curriculum providers and homeschooling providers present at the meeting had varying levels of maturity of internal processes, curriculum delivery, and assessment structures.  Wingu Academy was encouraged to see that our processes and standards are high and aligned to policy and guidelines available and we are excited to share what we have found to be effective in our approach to online distance learning. Wingu Academy is formally inviting collaboration with national and local departments of education and wishes to support the core values that Director Chriselda Mosibudi-Makhubela shared at the meeting of “excellence, compliance and relationship building”.   Wingu Academy is optimistic and welcomes the pending regulatory framework to be approved by the end of October 2022, and the opportunity to forge a strong relationship with the GDE. “At the meeting Wingu Academy extended an offer to support the Gauteng Department of Education with our in-house expertise in curriculum mapping to assist with smoother transitioning of students between International and the CAPS curriculum to make it more accessible for students to transfer between home education and public or independent schools where needed.” explains Ian Strydom, Managing Director of Wingu Academy.  “Wingu Academy has been applying the policy on home education and has simultaneously aligned all internal processes and quality assurance measures with the local and international requirements of traditional independent schools, and are ready to adopt any further recommendations by the Department of Education. The Academy is registered with the South African Comprehensive Assessments Institute (SACAI) as a distance education provider for the CAPS programme it is currently offering, and is a registered Pearson Online Centre for the International British Curriculum. The Academy is also finalising the registration of an independent school in its network awaiting final feedback from the local department of education and as such has comprehensive alignment with the available guidelines from the Department of Basic Education.” Strydom concludes.     

June 3, 2022
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Raising future-proof children with the rise of EduTech

“In 1951 we witnessed the birth of television. In 1981, Acorn IBM’s first personal computer was released and in 1999 Wi-Fi, the abbreviated term for “wireless fidelity” was developed. But life as we know it today doesn’t change every 20 – 30 years anymore. It now changes every 20-30 minutes…perhaps without us even knowing it. Traditional Schooling as we knew it If you are reading this there is a 99% chance that you were in a “traditional brick-and-mortar” school. We were dropped off in the morning by a parent, or took the bus to school, or for some of us, even walked to school. Then we joined our friends in a classroom with a teacher, the bell rang for break, we all had our lunch, and then we went back to class. We were lucky if we had a Computer Centre at school that we were exposed to. After school, some of us attended social or sport events. And most of you would agree with me that we did not turn out too bad.  Times have changed Today, every child is exposed to some type of technological device and likely, even more than one. They are exposed to technology at home and at school, and when visiting their friends’ houses. Students in the 21st century need technology to do their schoolwork, their sport activities, and events and even when organising social events. We as adults must raise children with technology as it is the key to their future. Modern universities make use of online assessment tasks, computer-based assignments, software tools and in all careers, a basic computer skill is a requirement. We have the privilege to raise children with the necessary future-focused skills to adapt to a fast-growing technological world.  Forced to online schooling  COVID-19 forced the global community to experience “home-schooling” or “online-schooling”. What a blessing in disguise for many of us. Parents and students had their worlds changed by this. Many of us realised what our children were being taught at school, and in many cases left us with a lot to be desired. We also realised that we could do school from literally anywhere in the world by using web-based tools and online schooling platforms. Together with this, a whole new world opened for children. Students can be managed by an online educator under the supervision of their parents to do research, to write their own coding programme, to experience learning in an immersive way, and be engaged by a variety of tools that bring joy into learning. The possibilities are endless.  Pros and Cons of raising the next generation by use of EduTech solutions such as online schools. This debate can go on for days, but in fact, it all comes down to two main considerations. If my child goes to an online school, how will their social development be impacted? The reality is that social skills can be fostered outside of a brick-and-mortar school. Online schooling and homeschooling families have vibrant communities that have rich social experiences, build lifelong friendships, and have the benefit that it can be forged around your own family values, choosing friends, and avoiding bullying and exposure to bad influences. This does take parental effort and can be a task without tapping into the communities available. Most online schools, such as Wingu Academy have vibrant programmes where students are given a choice of different clubs to be part of. The clubs foster social interaction, connect friends that can meet up in person, build leadership skills, and get exposure to other potential interests. Students who attend an online school know all the ins and outs of technology and how to use it in everyday life, school, and work. Children today are more comfortable with social interactions online than other generations and are developing the crucial skills to safely interact in a connected world. It is important to leverage off the opportunities available to ensure socialisation in person. Globally there are vibrant communities on social media for homeschooling, and veteran homeschooling families that can offer guidance.  As an educator, teaching online changed my whole life. I realised that there was a whole new world outside of my comfort zone waiting for me to discover. When I first started teaching online, I was terrified of using the technology, but now I can’t think of going back to my old way of teaching, experiencing all the possibilities online teaching holds for me and my students. I also can’t wait to see how my son develops using all the technological skills he is about to learn. He has the best of both worlds. I can raise him on a farm in the outdoors with the peace of mind that when entering the workforce of the future he wouldn’t have to stand back for anyone or anything, because of an online school like Wingu Academy he will have all the skills to have a technological advantage in whatever career path he chooses to pursue.” Madeline Kruger, is a wife, mother of a five-year old, and a language teacher at Wingu Academy with true Wingulian blood flowing through her veins. She holds a B.Ed Intermediate Degree from North West University in South Africa. She also received an award from the Golden Key International Society. Madeline is passionate about teaching and believes that all children are special in their own way and should have the opportunity to develop at their own pace.

June 3, 2022
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Problem Based Learning, why do we need this in schools today?

Researchers have been hypothesizing and theorizing about Problem Based Learning (PBL) for decades. It came to life in the mid 60s when a group of scientists and physicians all had a similarly negative view of their undergraduate degrees and felt they could find a better way to present it. They developed the notion that students will understand their work better if their learning is driven by open-ended problems that challenge their way of thinking. Today, universities across the world implement Problem Based Learning in their courses to encourage students to critically engage with their subject content. Few schools have, however, implemented this learning method and the question begs to be asked, why? With the shift in education from Teacher-centeredness to Learner-centeredness, today’s educational landscape is the ideal place to implement PBL.  What does Problem Based Learning entail? Problem Based Learning is a method of learning where learners are presented with an open-ended problem and they must acquire the knowledge and skills necessary to solve it. It is necessary for the learners to first identify what skills will be needed to solve the problem and thereafter they must learn and use these skills to solve it. They move through a set sequence of in-context problems by acquiring the necessary skills and knowledge. The learners are guided by their learning material and assisted by teachers throughout. They work in small groups and are constantly learning from each other. Group members teach each other, rather than a teacher teaching the content at the front of the class. Why implement Problem Based Learning in schools?  Since many universities have started implementing Problem Based Learning, it may seem unnecessary for schools to implement it as well. That is the exact reason why this method of learning should be more commonly implemented in schools: to prepare learners for their tertiary studies and careers. Learners already face a seemingly insurmountable task of adjusting to university life without having to struggle to adjust to new learning methods as well. Equipping learners with the skills needed to complete a university degree makes the likelihood of learners succeeding in these degrees much larger. Equipping learners with the skills they need to succeed in University and in their careers one day should be paramount to high schools across the world and it should precede content recitation.  Some of the skills acquired through the PBL approach include: Flexible knowledge base: Problem Based Learning teaches learners the subject content in a way that moves beyond merely learning the facts of the subject. They are required to integrate the knowledge gathered from different subjects as well as from their own experiences. They have to use these skills and build upon them to solve the problems they are faced with. These skills and knowledge are organized around the deep principles in a subject. Learners use previous knowledge to evaluate the problem they are faced with and build upon this knowledge when they attempt to solve it. This means that their knowledge is continuously restructured and adjusted. This knowledge is not centred around one single point of reference and this grants learners the chance to adapt and apply it to many different scenarios.  Problem-solving skills: In Problem Based Learning, learners are presented with a scenario and they must evaluate and formulate the problem by studying the facts of the scenario. This helps learners understand the problem better and they can start hypothesising possible solutions. Learners must then identify where they have gaps in their knowledge to solve the problem and acquire these skills through research. These reasoning strategies are fundamental in any problem-solving scenarios learners may be faced within their lives and studies ahead. It builds the meta-cognitive skills that allow learners to executively plan their problems and evaluate their progress and whether their goals have been met. Self-directed learning skills: Learners are forced to identify the gaps in their knowledge in Problem Based Learning. They must identify where they lack the skills necessary to solve the problem they are faced with and must then research these skills. They are required to evaluate and direct their learning themselves, with only the occasional guidance from their teacher. This wakes the natural curiosity in learners to find the answers and skills they are requiring. These self-directed learning skills become an intrinsic part of a learner’s studies and will stay with that learner through his/her life, motivating them to become life-long learners. The curiosity they learn through these problems motivates them to explore and this in turn intrinsically motivates them to learn. This is a crucial skill for the Fourth Industrial Revolution as the learners are internally motivated to discover and this is not a skill that can be replaced by a robot. They do not have to be instructed to study certain things, they will be motivated to do so on their own. Teamwork: To implement PBL effectively, learners must work in teams to solve the problems they are faced with. Learners must learn how to function as part of a team by establishing shared goals, resolving conflict situations, deciding on the actions the group should take and coming to an agreement on the plan of action. These are essential skills for any well-rounded learner that they must acquire for the innumerable tasks that they will have to complete through teamwork. By learning these skills early in life, they have a head start on many colleagues. Conclusion Problem Based Learning prepares learners for their future by equipping them with a flexible knowledge base, life-long learning skills, teamwork skills and self-directed learning skills. They will be able to adapt to life after school much better when they learn these skills early in life as universities and most careers require them to apply the skills every day. These skills are, furthermore, essential for the Fourth Industrial Revolution where artificial intelligence will replace the majority of tasks in the workforce. The intrinsic curiosity to learn will distinguish learners from the competition in the workplace one day, both human and artificial

May 6, 2022
Wingu Academy

Cyber Wellness – how to protect children in a cyber world

The internet is a vast and expansive space. It allows us to connect, create and become whoever we want to be. It provides unlimited opportunities and freedom one can only imagine. However, within all the space and freedom, there is also danger. This danger could include people with malicious intentions, scams and even bullies.  For this reason, the concept of Cyber Wellness has become an imperative part of our Wingu vocabulary. Cyber Wellness refers to an individual’s feelings of safety and positivity regarding online spaces. It also refers to one’s capacity to be able to protect themselves and others, from internet dangers.  While there is a wide range of tips, tricks and rules that Wingu learners and internet users everywhere should follow; the way individuals engage with others on the internet is constantly changing! “Think about it; one of the main rules of using the internet when I was a child was don’t talk to strangers! However, young people these days, meet most of their friends through social media or gaming platforms. Therefore, just providing learners with a standard, one-size fits all set of rules, is ineffective. We need to teach learners more than how to follow rules. We need to teach them to think on their feet in order to protect and promote their Cyber Wellness,” says Jenna Chetty from the Wingu Wellness Hub. One of the ways we can do this is by helping learners strengthen and enforce their boundaries. A boundary is basically the rule that you set, about how others are allowed to treat you. A learner with strong boundaries can easily identify when behaviour is inappropriate and put a stop to it immediately. Another way to teach learners how to protect themselves, is by helping them foster resilience. Resilience is simply the ability to bounce back, after experiencing something unfavourable or unkind. Due to the freedom the internet allows, it is almost inevitable that children will be exposed to harmful images, language, opinions and people who want to break their confidence. Resilience will allow them to stand up again, after being knocked down by other people’s irresponsible use of online spaces. Lastly, we can promote Cyber Wellness by teaching learners how to be responsible online. If we want to experience positive internet spaces, we need to be an injection of positivity every time we enter an online space. This means that we are always respectful, do not judge and always treat others the way we want to be treated. Of course, the general tips and tricks such as don’t talk to strangers, don’t share your password, don’t engage with bullies etc, are still important! We just want to offer learners more than the standard procedure for Cyber Wellness. Therefore, Wingu Wellness has developed a three-session Cyber Wellness Course for our Wingulians. The sessions focus on the three topics mentioned above. Namely, boundaries, resilience and promoting cyber wellness. It also includes the tips and tricks, as well as an in-depth look into what learners can do if they are being cyber-bullied. If you have any questions about cyber wellness or the course, please don’t hesitate to contact [email protected] The concepts of Cyber Wellness and Cyber Safety are evolving and ever-changing. So, don’t feel discouraged if you don’t have all the answers.  The most important thing is to be there for your child and keep the communication channels open.

April 22, 2022
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After the announcement of school closures by President Cyril Ramaphosa, many parents are worried that their children might fall behind with their schoolwork. This as public schools closed two days earlier and are likely to only reopen after the Easter weekend.

April 2, 2020
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Homeschooling: The importance of having a dedicated study space

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My child has unique academic needs. How can Impaq help?

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How to improve your matric results

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February 6, 2020
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Life skills curriculum in the media: Where does Impaq stand?

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November 13, 2019
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How bullying can affect your child’s mental health

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November 5, 2019
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What bullying looks like and what to do about it

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With Impaq, learning to read is fun

Learners in the Foundation Phase (Grade R to 3) should be introduced to reading in a fun and engaging way. And, that’s exactly what the Impaq readers do. The books accommodate different levels of reading and allow young learners to join in the adventures of Ben, Lebo and Hanna. The main characters are from different ethnic backgrounds and genders, which ensures that learners relate to one or more of the characters and help them grow with the stories.  The books start with basic sight words to help learners recognise words earlier. Phonics are engraved at the learner’s own pace as the readers help learners spend enough time on each phonic before moving onto the next one. Reading structure  The reading structure is divided into three groups: Phonics Here the learners learn each letter of the alphabet and they learn how to spell words. High-frequency words This includes words such as this, the, that, etc. These words are written on flashcards and learners practise them daily so that they can easily recognise them while they read. Sight words These are longer words that learners will not learn off by heart and that should be placed where learners can see them every day, i.e. up on the wall so that they will eventually start to recognise the words. Sight words can be used along with the theme of the week, e.g. if the theme of the week is careers, sight words can include firefighter, policeman, nurse, etc. Learning to read is fun Impaq learner, Sindisiwe Rangaza, attended a rural pre-school and struggled to adjust in Grade 1. She particularly struggled with learning English and Afrikaans. Her mother, Patricia, bought Impaq’s reading books to help her daughter develop her reading skills.  “The Impaq books made learning fun and easy,” Patricia says. Sindisiwe has since developed a love for reading and writing and is doing well in learning to speak English and Afrikaans. Before buying the Impaq readers Patricia struggled to keep Sindisiwe busy during the school holidays but, as you can see in the photo below, she is now reading up a storm. The Impaq readers are unique: Broadens the learners’ vocabulary. Teaches learners how to read longer sentences and develops peripheral view. Consists of 12 phases that stretch from Grade 1 to 3. Can be used independently or as part of an integrated language or phonics programme.  Learners are taught to think, talk and become familiar with basic language rules while exercising their knowledge of English/Afrikaans. The Impaq readers are aligned with the CAPS curriculum. As learners progress through the phases, they will follow Ben, Lebo and Hanna and experience thrilling adventures. Click here to learn more about the Impaq readers or to order yours online.

October 3, 2019
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To be, or not to be a homeschooling family: Our experience

Dené worked hard and obtained her National Senior Certificate through Impaq at the end of 2012. She got accepted to the University of Pretoria and started her BA Drama in 2013. Dené has passed her master’s degree in Drama and Film Studies from UP with distinction – with the feedback that she achieved the highest mark in the department’s history! She shares her advice to current and future Impaq learners, parents, guardians, and tutors:

September 6, 2019
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Will your preschooler cope with the demands of school?

When your child turns 6 it usually means that it’s their last year in preschool. In a year, your child will need to start primary school, but how do you know that your child will cope with the formal demands of school? Or be able to function to his/her full potential? As a parent, you may have lots of questions about this new phase in your child’s life. You would want to know that your child is ready to start their learning journey. If your child is not ready, it could influence his/her academic performance.

August 28, 2019
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Impaq helps learners prepare for the real world

Home education (or homeschooling) helps learners prepare for the real world as homeschool learners learn the art of self-study. Ravon Venter, an Impaq alumnus, says that studying through Impaq helped him develop better self-discipline. He also credits Impaq with giving him the qualifications he needed to find a job he is passionate about.

August 6, 2019
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Impaq’s Top Achievers Share Their Advice

While most matrics are getting ready for the preliminary examinations, we thought we would look back at Impaq’s top achievers for 2018 to see if they have any advice for this year’s matrics.

July 31, 2019
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PARENTAL SELF-CARE

In the previous articles I have spoken about the ADD/ADHD child but what about the parents? As the last of these articles, it is important to talk about parents of children with attention deficit disorder (ADD) and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). It is hard work having an ADHD child and few parents who do not have one understand and recognise this. ADHD children can impact hugely on family dynamics and the parental relationship.

July 22, 2019
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How to help your child make their subject selections in Grade 9

This time of the year Grade 9 learners need to make their subject selections for next year, but parents often do not know how to guide them. Educational psychologist, Lizette Erasmus, share some insightful guidelines on subject selections and how they will guide your child’s career choices in South Africa.

July 12, 2019
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Why choose Tourism as a subject?

As tourism is such an integral part of any country’s marketing strategy, it has become vital to offer it as part of our learning package. Not only do learners discover the “treasures” of our country, but also how to manage and use these “treasures” responsibly to the benefit of all. Tourism teaches learners to promote South Africa locally and internationally, and to ensure that tourists experience, appreciate and value our country.

July 4, 2019
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Three reasons why it may be unfair to make your child choose a career in high school

The world of work is changing more rapidly than ever before. Shifts in economies and the advent of the Fourth Industrial Revolution leave parents anxious about their child’s future. This anxiety can often lead to frustration and conflict in the parent-child relationship, which seems to exacerbate both party’s concerns. From a career counselling perspective, here are three reasons why I believe it may be unfair for your child to commit to a career in high school.

June 18, 2019
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THE POSITIVES OF ADHD

So far, I have written about some of the difficulties experienced in raising and parenting one’s ADHD/ADD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder/attention deficit disorder) child. Right now, it’s time to look at the many positives that ADHD children have – but please bear in mind that every child is different – they may all have the same diagnosis but they are all still their own people with their own temperaments, characteristics, personalities, etc. so the list that follows is a generalisation, and not necessarily applicable to all. Firstly, the ADHD symptom of hyperfocus is incredibly useful. When our children are interested in something, we all know how difficult it is to tear them away. When this is something important for their wellbeing and development such as a wonderful hobby, a subject they are incredibly interested in or learning a new skill, this hyperfocus is a total gift and keeps them on track for hours on end. Secondly, we often hear how adventurous, curious and hyperactive the ADHD child is – these are very positive qualities when channelled constructively. If one reads any book about entrepreneurs, successful businesspeople, etc. these are the qualities that are often used to describe them. Being curious means wanting to find out about things and pushing for more knowledge, the sense of adventure will direct the curiosity to exploration and experimentation and the busyness means that the person has the energy to do so. Within the context of work and life, these are very positive qualities when used effectively. Thirdly, the resourcefulness, innovativeness and inventiveness of these kids can be incredible. I have watched my one son use his artistic talent to sell his works online, get commissions from others and therefore earn money on the side (this was at 16 years old). This is a good example of using these characteristics to think out of the box, in a lateral way. And lastly, our children are often incredibly forgiving, good-hearted and gregarious. I believe that this stands them in good stead in their dealings with others. I can only be grateful for these qualities when I think back to my early struggles with my eldest son and how awful I was at times, and how close and connected we are today. Thank goodness for his forgiving, good-hearted nature! It’s important to be aware of the positives of these ADHD/ADD symptoms when we are caught in the morass of frustration and sometimes despair.  We only need to think of Albert Einstein who was repeatedly seen as a poor student by his teachers and who only began to talk after the age of two. Today, he is recognised as having been ADHD. One of my favourite quotes by him is, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid”. This is often what happens with the ADD child in the school environment and it is often only after school that all of the so-called negative characteristics of ADHD are viewed in the positive light I have described above.  Remember too Richard Branson, Walt Disney, Justin Timberlake, Michael Phelps as beautiful examples of ADHD people, and then go and give your child a big hug!

June 11, 2019
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Don’t tell your kids they are smart!

The school report can elicit many feelings among parents and students; feelings of failure or feelings of achievement. As an educational psychologist, I often get asked the question: “How should I respond to my child’s school report?”. Carol Dweck’s work on how praise impacts a child’s academic performance has a fascinating answer to this question: Don’t tell your kids they are smart! The way we praise our children about their academic achievements shapes the way they view intelligence, which impacts their performance. Let me elaborate. In their study Blackwell, Trzesniewski and Dweck[1] studied Grade 7 learners and measured their school marks for two years. The students that believed that intelligence is malleable showed an upward trajectory in their marks going into high school. Contrastingly, the students that thought intelligence is fixed showed a flat trajectory. In other words, the students that believed their intelligence is something that is flexible and that can be developed were able to improve their marks. Those that believed their intelligence is unchangeable did not increase their scores. Therefore, it is essential to make our children believe that they can raise their intelligence and that intelligence is malleable. So, what role does praise have? Mueller and Dweck[2] discuss this and points out that the way you praise your child impacts their attribution and goals about their performance. Stated differently, the way you praise your child affects what they want to get out of an activity and the reasons they provide for their success. For instance, if you praise your child’s ability or intelligence (telling them they are smart), they may want to continue to prove that they are smart by receiving high marks. In the short term, this may be useful but becomes unsustainable as the workload and academic demands increase. As the work difficulty increases students that were praised for their ability will often not take on challenging learning opportunities in fear of not looking smart. This limits their learning opportunities which make the marks go down and affects their self-confidence. Furthermore, praising intelligence after your child gets good marks will make them believe that intelligence is a stable or fixed trait determined by genetics. They will believe their success is directly related to an attribute that is outside of their control. If you think about this carefully, when you praise your child for being smart, then you take their control away. Their successes and failures will be linked to something outside of their control, which in the long run can cause a sense of helplessness. I see this often in my practice where parents tell me, “I don’t know what happened. My child is so smart and is struggling to pass Mathematics. In Grade 6 his/her mark was in the eighties, and now he/she is barely passing”. By this time, I find that their child is already in the cycle of believing they are not smart enough and avoids any reminder of it, in the form of tests and homework activities, which logically will make the marks go down.   So, what should parents do? Praise effort, persistence and the process of learning. Make the goal of their schoolwork to learn and not to achieve. Make your child believe their brain is a muscle that can be exercised by seeking out challenges. Don’t tell your child they are smart, instead say, “I am so proud of you for demonstrating the ability to learn, reflect and persevere this year, I can’t wait to see what challenges next year will bring”.   ——- Hannes is an educational psychologist that provides therapy, assessments and career counselling in Johannesburg. He aims to enable his clients to make their highest contribution despite the obstacles and pain they might experience. Therefore, he works closely with his clients and applies life design counselling, cognitive behavioural therapy, and acceptance and commitment therapy principles to help his clients live productive and meaningful lives. Sources: [1] Blackwell, L. S., Trzesniewski, K. H., & Dweck, C. S. (2007). Implicit Theories of Intelligence Predict Achievement Across an Adolescent Transition: A Longitudinal Study and an Intervention. Child Development, 78(1), 246–263. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-8624.2007.00995.x  [2] Mueller, C. M., & Dweck, C. S. (1998). Praise for Intelligence Can Undermine Children’s Motivation and Performance (Vol. 75). Psychological Association, Inc. Retrieved from https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/25ab/297c17a87c8a0f79e109be531fe9c7da97b8.pdf 

June 4, 2019
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Top Tips on How to Ace Your Physical Sciences Exam

The June Examination might already be underway but that does not mean that you can’t still ace your Physical Sciences exam. The affordable Quanta Book series for Grade 10 to 12 learners makes Physical Sciences interesting and fun! The preparation books, available in English and Afrikaans, contain bite-sized explanations that are easy to understand, and to-the-point summaries enriched with hints and tips. The books also come with DVDs containing cartoons, animations and demonstrations to help you visualise difficult concepts.

May 23, 2019
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The Power of Positive Recognition

“I believe the children are our future.  Teach them well and let them lead the way. Show them all the beauty they possess inside.” Whitney Houston We all have a need for recognition. No matter how big or how small, the words “well done” makes anyone feel proud of themselves. Unfortunately, the opposite is also true. A lack of recognition leads to feelings of inferiority and incompetence. Parents should keep in mind that children’s sense of self is shaped by the message they receive from those around them, especially their parents, teachers and caregivers.  It is important to note that parents should not only give recognition for what their children achieved but also for who they are – as this is part of being loved unconditionally. When children fail but tried their best, their efforts should be praised. Children’s personal growth should not be attached to success and performance but to their efforts and their willingness to try.  The best way to motivate your child to behave well and strengthen the effectiveness of any discipline is to make sure that you praise your child more often than you criticise your child. Try to catch them when they are good and comment on it. Your approval is what shapes their behaviour. Faber and Mazlish give clear guidelineson how to praise children in their book How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (1982). They advise that when you praise a child, instead of evaluating them, you should describe what you see (I see a clean floor, a smooth bed and books neatly lined up on the shelf). You should then describe what you feel (It is a pleasure to walk into this room). And thirdly, sum up your child’s praiseworthy behaviour with a word (You sorted out your blocks, your cars and animals in separate boxes – that is what I call organisation). Praising children by following these guidelines will motivate them to want to be more cooperative and to try their best. When you praise your kids, they get the message that they are loved and that what they do is acceptable and appreciated. Praising your children in this way will help them learn to recognise that what they did is special and that they can take pride in it. They can learn to praise themselves and to recognise and value their own efforts and talents. Linda van Niekerk is an educational psychologist with her own private practice in Pretoria. She works with children of all ages. Contact her on 082 567 9156 or send an email to [email protected]. 

May 16, 2019
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Parenting tips for ADHD

At least one in 20 children in South Africa suffer from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). This is according to research by Cape Town-based psychiatrist Dr Renata Schoeman. ADHD is characterised by three main sets of symptoms – poor concentration, hyperactivity and impulsivity – and, when left untreated, can be among the most debilitating disorders to live with. The risks include academic, social, and emotional problems in childhood, which may impact on job performance, relationships and mental health in adulthood. It is understandable why parents dread an ADHD diagnosis; not because the disorder is untreatable, but because they are unsure of how to help their child. Fortunately, all is not lost. There are many ways to help your ADHD child. Take a look at five parenting tips for ADHD below, but keep in mind that what works for one child may not work for another. Five parenting tips for ADHD Limit distractions In the 21st century, it is easy for anyone (especially children with ADHD) to get distracted if there is a smartphone, a television, video game or computer close by. Access to electronics should be monitored and limited.  Establish a routine Having a set routine in place can provide essential structure for children with ADHD. Have meals at the same time every day and have rituals in place before bedtime like taking a bath, brushing their teeth, and reading a bedtime story. Encourage exercise Exercise is the perfect outlet for built-up energy. According to an article in Healthline, exercise may help to improve concentration and stimulate the brain in healthy ways. Try to find an exercise that your child enjoys and make sure to join them, as you will benefit too. Understand your child’s thought process Children with ADHD often speak and act before thinking. Encourage your child to verbalise their thoughts and reasoning, as this can help you understand their thought process and hopefully help curb impulsive behaviours. Ask for help You don’t always have to have all the answers. It is okay to ask for help. Consult a psychologist who specialises in ADHD or consider attending an ADHD Parenting Course. And, remember that it is not only your child that can benefit from professional help – A therapist can help you manage stress and anxiety. Finding a support group in your area can also be beneficial. Home education can provide a nurturing learning environment for children with individual needs. Impaq Educationprovides all the necessary products, services and tools to enable your child to complete Grade R to 12 at home.

May 16, 2019
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Mother tongue education matters

Your husband is transferred to a small town and you have some difficult choices to make – one of which is where your children will be going to school. Your eldest is in Grade 1 and your youngest in Grade R. There are two schools in town. You head to the first school – it is your first choice as it offers education in your native language. When you arrive, there is no-one in sight. You eventually find someone to show you around. The school is neglected… The classrooms don’t have tables or chairs, the paint is peeling, and the gardens haven’t been tended in some time.  There are more than 40 children per class, you are told, and they sit on the floor. It’s definitely not what you had in mind for your children. You greet politely and leave, hoping that the other school will be better.  Upon your arrival you are greeted warmly. Everything is neat and tidy, the buildings and gardens are well maintained, and everyone you pass is friendly. This is exactly what you had in mind! There’s just one problem… the language of tuition.  After careful consideration you decide that, as your children are still young, they should have no trouble learning a new language. But things turn out to be harder than you anticipated. As parent you can still handle the phonetics and grammar, but trying to understand Maths in another language is a nightmare, not to mention Life Skills!    Your children often tell you that they don’t understand the teacher and you realise that, if you continue on this path, they may be held back. The worst part is that you can’t really help them with their schoolwork. You consider your children to be quite smart, but both fail their first term.  Native language teaching In South Africa, there is a struggle over schools that want to protect their native language. This is understandable. After all, children’s best chance at a successful education is being taught in their mother tongue. It is what they know and are comfortable with.    Unfortunately, many children are disadvantaged – and end up failing – when they are educated in a different language. While schools are increasingly offering a variety of languages in the Foundation Phase, the main languages of instruction from Grade 4 to 12 remain English and Afrikaans.  The development of all the official languages of South Africa is one of the most important factors in ensuring all children having a fair and equal chance at educational success.  By Hilda Erasmus, Foundation Phase specialist

May 6, 2019
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The Notre Dame fire and its impact on society

The world watched in shock as the famous Notre Dame cathedral went up in flames on the evening of 15 April 2019, with pictures of the event – representing the untimely ‘death’ of an irreplaceable monument in human history – spreading like wildfire on social media.  Hundreds of firefighters struggled for many exhausting hours to contain and extinguish the fire; they finally had it under control in the early hours of 16 April. Despite their best efforts to prevent the destruction of the building, the cathedral’s famous spire collapsed onto the roof, causing significant damage. The roof, which dates back to 1160, was one of the oldest surviving structures of its kind in the world; from a historical perspective it was priceless. With its roof destroyed, the authenticity of the Notre Dame was lost forever. The question is now whether the Notre Dame can be restored, or whether the damage is too extensive. On the morning following the fire, an architectural historian commented that “if the vaults start to crack and fall down, then the building is going to be lost. We’d be talking about rebuilding, not repair”. (1)  You may be wondering why this event received so much international attention, and why the people of the world were so emotionally moved by it. The answer is simple: The Notre Dame cathedral is an example of Medieval Gothic splendour – a true masterpiece of building endurance, excellent craftmanship, and dedication to the Christian faith. It housed invaluable ancient relics and works of art.  For Christians worldwide, the timing of the fire was significant; it happened shortly before the religious commemoration of the Pasga and the execution of Jesus Christ.  Irrespective of religion, the Notre Dame is regarded as an international icon – it is an architectural and historical marvel, and a must-see attraction for people visiting France. It was also the inspiration for Victor Hugo’s novel Notre Dame de Paris, translatedas The Hunchback of Notre Dame.  The Notre Dame cathedral is viewed by many as a symbol of human civilisation. It is a significant historical landmark that has stood for more than 800 years and has been treasured for its craftmanship, aesthetic and intrinsic value for centuries; as donations to repair the building pour in from all over, it is evident that it is also treasured by modern society. It was valuable then and remains valuable now. An unforeseen event such as this often leads to a re-evaluation of and a need to protect and preserve what is important to us as a society. It makes us realise that history is created on a daily basis – we are currently experiencing the significant events that future generations will study. At Impaq, we pride ourselves on remaining current. We invest significant time and effort in modernising and updating our lesson materials and services to ensure that our curriculum keeps pace with what is happening in the world By Ilse Stickling.

April 23, 2019
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MIGHT MY CHILD HAVE ADHD?

If you are wondering about the answer to this question, then it’s most likely that your child is in preschool and not primary school because by the time children are in a more formal school setting with all the demands of sitting at a desk, having a school structure etc., issues of ADHD have already started to present themselves or been diagnosed.  Nearly all preschool-aged children display the core behaviours or symptoms of ADHD – inattention, distractibility, impulsivity and hyperactivity – as part of their normal development. However, as other children gradually begin to grow out of such behaviours, children with ADHD do not and this difference becomes clearer the older the child gets. So, when looking at the preschool child (three/four-year-olds), it’s easy for parents to feel confused about whether their child’s pattern of activity and behaviour is typical or whether it’s atypical. The signs and symptoms of ADHD are the same for preschoolers as they are for older children with ADHD – struggling to pay attention, getting bored and distracted quickly, being fidgety, restless or very active, having difficulty waiting and taking their turn, and engaging in risk-taking behaviour. The difference for ADHD is the degree of the symptoms.  The key is to discover whether the child’s behaviour is developmentally age appropriate or not. For instance, one parent observed her child in free play at the end of the school day. She noted that her son ran around wildly and didn’t listen to the teacher’s instructions to “play safe”; when the other children were settling down after activities her son couldn’t and seemed to get more hyped up; when other children were listening to a story being read, her son was rolling around and playing with toys. Although diagnostically children with ADHD may be diagnosed as young as four years old, usually from teacher reports, assessment on the Conners Comprehensive Behavior Rating Scales™, and collateral evidence from parents, the following questions may help a parent to develop some answers. Is the behaviour I observe in my child similar to that of other children he encounters; is the behaviour I expect of my child developmentally appropriate for his/her age, do I see a pattern of behaviour when my child engages in various activities, do I see a pattern of behaviour in various settings? To be diagnosed with ADHD, a child must have a specified number of symptoms for at least six months that occur in more than one area of life, e.g. at home AND at school. However, diagnosed or not, until the age of five, medication cannot be prescribed. The best treatment plan is behavioural therapy/play therapy for the child as well as parent training to help parents understand ADHD and best manage the ADHD child so that they can function optimally at home and at school. Lorian Phillips is a clinical psychologist and has been in private practice for the last 21 years. She also parents two ADD/ADHD sons and due to her challenges with her boys, she was motivated to find more constructive ways of dealing with them. This led to her parenting her boys differently and when she saw the results of her alternative parenting style, she developed a parenting course for parents of ADD/ADHD children. The successful course has been running for the past six years. In addition, Lorian also consults with parents in her private practice to offer guidance and support in working with ADHD children. She has spoken at various schools to help teachers manage the ADHD child in the classroom and has given many talks on parenting the ADHD child including an appearance on 5FM’s Weekend Play Date where she spoke about ADHD management. You can read her parenting blog called ADHD Parenting on her Facebook page. Lorian Phillipa writes for Impaq. Impaq provides innovative and accessible education solutions.

March 27, 2019
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Cyberbullying

Bullies have always existed. However, in the digital age, the bullying we are seeing is worse than ever before. This is largely for two reasons: firstly, before we all had smartphones, a victim of bullying could go home from school and have some sort of break. Now, bullying is round the clock. Secondly, the type of content being shared is troubling as people say things behind a screen that they would never say to someone’s face. Moreover, the consequences of cyberbullying are more prevalent – in South Africa, we are seeing increased incidences of depression, anxiety and behaviour related to self-harm and even suicide as a direct result of cyberbullying. When it comes to cyberbullying, anonymity is the root of all evil – people seem to think they can get away with saying whatever they want when they hide behind the veil of online anonymity. We are seeing the worst kinds of bullying taking place on anonymous apps such as Qooh.me or through anonymous profiles created on apps such as Instagram. We are seeing a lot of naming and shaming, direct personal attacks, slut shaming, fat shaming, pressuring others to send nudes, and revenge pornography. Although terrible content is shared on anonymous platforms, the truth is that any platform can be open to abuse. Some platforms are simply better than others at removing offensive content. What to do if you are being bullied If YOU are being bullied: Tell a trusted adult (a parent, guardian or teacher). Take screenshots to keep as evidence. BLOCK the bully.  If you are aware that someone else is being bullied: Don’t join in (this includes commenting and sharing harmful content) and leave a WhatsApp group that hosts abusive content. Report bullying to a trusted adult (a parent, guardian or teacher). What legal options are available if you are being bullied?  If you know the identity of the bully, and the bullying is sufficiently severe to the extent that it can be said to cause you mental, emotional or psychological harm (or inspire the belief that harm could be caused), one mechanism available is to apply for a Protection Order under the Protection from Harassment Act. Almost all social media platforms have a reporting function that allows the possibility for damaging content to be removed.  Finally, the Cybercrimes Bill, which will hopefully become law soon, has codified a lot of crimes relating to online activities. Specifically, its chapter on malicious communications criminalises the creation or distribution of “a data message” that incites the causing of any damage to property belonging to, or violence against, a person or group of persons which is harmful or intimate in nature, and which is distributed without the consent of the person involved. This would include a lot of content that we are loosely defining as cyberbullying.

March 20, 2019
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Help your child develop with a balanced lifestyle

Today, more and more children are expected to do more and perform better. However, parents need to remember that children still need time to play in order to develop at various levels. The more pressure is placed on children to perform beyond expectations, the less time remains for them to just be a child. It is imperative that children develop optimally with a balanced lifestyle and that they are not placed under unnecessary pressure. In the 21st century, time has become a valuable commodity. Due to everyone’s fast-paced lifestyles, it has become almost normal not to have enough time in the day. Children are getting more and more homework and some parents are unnecessarily pressuring children to spend more time in front of the books in an effort to ensure that their children perform well above average. And if that is not enough, children are also expected to be involved in a wide variety of extracurricular activities. Parents should help their children to develop according to their own abilities, and not according to the parents’ abilities or their unreasonably high expectations of their children. Children learn to use their imagination and to think independently through play, while persistent pressure to perform creates the illusion that competition and performance are essential to function in society. This also puts unnecessary strain on children to always meet other people’s expectations. Children should, however, be taught that participation in activities is important for individual and social development, but they must also learn that winning is not always everything. They don’t have to be the best, as long as they give their personal best and have fun. This sometimes entails being a good loser and seeing life as a continuous growth and learning process. How can parents help their children cultivate a balanced lifestyle? Children need to get enough sleep to function optimally at school and at home. It’s important for children to start settling down at least one hour before bedtime.  Parents should teach children healthy eating habits that will promote their health and wellbeing. Cultivate responsibility early on: Teach children how to do their own homework, but still give appropriate guidance when necessary. Help your child plan his/her day.  Motivate children to participate in physical activities or to play outside instead of playing with their cellphones or sitting in front of the TV all day.   Cancel some of your child’s extracurricular activities if your child is always tired, irritable and teary – as these are often signs of burnout. Don’t expect your child to make your lost dreams come true. As a parent you want to give your child the best. Isn’t it just to enjoy their childhood for as long as possible? Or to develop their own potential and maintain a good balance in life? Primary education should therefore cultivate happy children who are willing to develop themselves continuously through a balanced lifestyle. Written by Ilse Stickling – Subject Specialist: History at Impaq

March 8, 2019
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