The discouragement felt when unable to breastfeed

The agony of knowing that you cannot give your child the best as a women – something that comes so natural to other mothers hearing them say – “I have enough milk to feed the nation” can be heartbreaking to a mom who was originally determined to breastfeed and can’t naturally cannot. This may even result in most mothers thinking of weaning their babies. 

What causes discouragement and to have thoughts of weaning your baby?

Most of us women who are determined to breastfeed visualise the experience of breastfeeding the bundle of joy and all the benefits it comes with breastfeeding before it actually occurs. The joy that floods a mom’s heart knowing you are able to give your little one the best. Then the unfortunate situation occurs when what you visualised, planned and hoped for does not happen. So discouragement creeps in and then causes many mothers to start weaning of their babies. 

When feeling the following emotions – feeling tired, discouraged, ambivalent or confused – it is not a good time to make any important decision especially coming to weaning of the bundle of joy. 

If you are experiencing problems, consider these options:

  • Consult someone trained in breastfeeding.
  • Express milk from one or both breasts so you can temporarily or permanently reduce or stop nursing.
  • Utilising Milk Galore products as part of supplement to boost the flow of breastmilk.

When does breastfeeding not go as planned?

One of the most intense experiences ever in a mom’s life is giving birth to and caring for your little bundle of joy.

The first few weeks are the most difficult due to many changes that occur. You find yourself in an emotional roller coaster as fatigue and hormonal changes kicks-in you will find yourself crying frequently. So does breastfeeding as well it becomes an emotional time.

If breastfeeding does not come as natural then it really becomes difficult so therefore it becomes a duty that is not easy and daunting. Even with excellent support and specialized assistance, there is a possibility that your breastfeeding experience simply doesn’t live up to your expectations. Some women feel less than a women as you feel feelings of regret, sadness, frustration and even anger because the excitement of being able to breastfeed and give your little one the best has been crushed. The guilt of wanting to stop just overwhelms some moms. Remember, it’s not your fault! To have a successful breastfeeding journey depends on a number of factors that are beyond your control sometimes.

It’s good to be able to talk about your feelings with someone you trust and who will lend an ear. Every birth and breastfeeding story is unique.

Below we have included some factors to consider and recommendations to encourage those moms feeling discouraged.

Insufficient milk production

Sometimes, milk production is low right from the start of breastfeeding. In other cases, it can drop off suddenly. This may be temporary, and can be due to any of a number of different causes:

  • Your breasts are understimulated because:
    • they are not being stimulated often enough (less than 8 times a day);
    • they are not being stimulated correctly by your baby or your pump;
    • you give your baby commercial infant formula in a bottle every day.
  • You have undergone breast surgery (breast reduction).
  • You suffer from poorly controlled hypothyroidism or another health problem.
  • You have an insufficient number of mammary glands, regardless of the size of your breasts (glandular insufficiency).
  • You are pregnant again.
  • You are taking contraceptives or a decongestant containing pseudoephedrine.

Sometimes insufficient milk supply cannot be explained by any of these reasons. Regardless of the quantity produced, the quality of breast milk is always excellent. Even in small amounts, your breast milk provides your baby with a host of nutrients that are not found in commercial infant formula

If your milk production is insufficient, make sure your baby is drinking enough and continuing to gain weight. Even if you supplement feedings with commercial infant formula, you can still continue to breastfeed.

What to do?

Milk Galore offers a range of products dependent on your preference. The products on offer are:

  • 100% fruit juice blends which is ready made
  • Rooibos tea for all the tea lovers

These can be drunk in the morning and evening at a quantity of 250ml and results of increased flow of breastmilk can be seen after 24 hours. For best result the rooibos tea must be brewed with water.

The other way to boost your milk production is to stimulate your breasts often and express as much milk as possible. 

You can also talk to a trained breastfeeding support person. This can help you

  • Assess your milk production
  • Increase your production as much as possible
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  1. I wasn’t able to breastfeed my son despite trying all the options, it felt very disappointing and I felt like a failure. But when he had his bottle he was happy and fed. His almost 2 and still loves his milk. I really look up to moms who are able to breastfeed as it’s not easy but also a wonderful journey and very rewarding especially the first round

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Can Moms Really Afford to Breastfeed?

Let’s face it—new parents already juggle a million things, and the idea of breastfeeding on top of work, finances, and life can feel completely overwhelming. In South Africa, the laws say mums should get support. But do the laws match reality? And can moms genuinely afford to breastfeed? 

South African law gives new moms four consecutive months of maternity leave—usually starting around one month before the due date and extending to three months after the birth. It’s illegal to return to work within the first six weeks, unless a healthcare provider says you’re ready. 

However—here’s the kicker—employers aren’t required to pay salaries during this time unless it’s in your contract or a company policy. Instead, moms can apply for benefits from the Unemployment Insurance Fund (UIF).[1] UIF payouts range between 38% and 60% of your salary, depending on how much you contributed before leave[2]. Meanwhile, the application process can take 3–8 weeks, and you must reapply every month while on leave. 

The law also entitles mothers to two paid 30-minute breastfeeding or expressing breaks per day—on top of lunch or tea breaks—for the first six months of a baby’s life. And employers are encouraged to provide a private, hygienic space for this purpose[3]

But the reality often falls short. Many women return to work within three months due to financial strain. The lack of proper lactation facilities, supportive workplace policies, or even awareness of these rights means many stop breastfeeding entirely. Even worse, domestic and informal workers—who often need the most support—are the least likely to access maternity protections.[4]

South African moms are advised to exclusively breastfeed for six months, in line with WHO guidelines. Yet the statistics tell the real story: only around 32% of babies under six months are exclusively breastfed, averaging less than three months of breastfeeding overall[5]

These low rates are linked to higher risks of malnutrition, diarrhoea, pneumonia, and even infant mortality. 

Even in the system’s imperfect current state, here are some practical tips from Sr Londe – independent midwife and Vital Baby’s trusted advisor – to help moms make breastfeeding work:

  1. Start UIF early – Apply as soon as possible, and if your company delays or doesn’t pay you, get in touch with the Department of Labour or CCMA. 
  2. Talk to your employer – Explain your need for breastfeeding breaks and a private space to express. Sometimes simple understanding can spark supportive changes. 
  3. Plan financially – UIF coverage can be lean; build a budget for lower income, and explore supplements if your employer offers top-ups. 
  4. Build a support network – Teams like family, caregivers, or nearby daycare can make daytime breastfeeding or milk drop-offs possible. 
  5. Make expressing work for you – Learn to express efficiently and store milk smartly—room temp for up to 8 hours, longer if you have a freezer. 

Breastfeeding isn’t just about health—it benefits business too. Breastfed babies are generally healthier, meaning less absenteeism, more productivity, and better staff retention. Plus, it contributes to broader goals like gender equality, economic inclusion, and improved child development outcomes. 

Here’s the bottom line: Can moms in South Africa afford to breastfeed? Legally, yes—but practically, it’s often an uphill battle. Gaps in pay, awareness, infrastructure, and enforcement mean many moms return to work too soon. But with proactive planning, workplace conversations, and community support, breastfeeding while working is absolutely doable. 


[1] https://www.news24.com/Life/What-the-law-says-about-maternity-leave-UIF-and-going-back-to-work-20150826

[2] https://www.bbrief.co.za/2025/08/05/employee-maternity-leave-pay/

[3] https://www.news24.com/Life/What-the-law-says-about-maternity-leave-UIF-and-going-back-to-work-20150826

[4] https://www.saffarazzi.com/news/no-proper-maternity-pay-or-leave-for-domestic-workers-in-south-africa/

[5] https://internationalbreastfeedingjournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s13006-024-00634-z

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From Doubt to Confidence: How a Simple Device Could Have Changed My Breastfeeding Journey

When I became a mom for the first time, I thought breastfeeding would just happen naturally. But the reality was different. My baby would scream after almost every feed, and at just two weeks old, a close family member told my mom that she didn’t think my milk was “any good.”

She urged my mom to convince me to take my baby to a nurse, saying, “New moms should think about their baby, not themselves.”

Her words crushed me. I refused to go, but for days I lived in silent doubt, questioning whether I was failing my son. Was my milk not enough? Was I starving him without realising it?

Then came his scheduled follow-up appointment. To my shock (and relief) he had gained more weight than required on nothing but my breastmilk.

Looking back, I often think: if I’d had the MyLee Milk Sensing Device then, I wouldn’t have wasted those days feeling like a failure. I would have had proof; clear, objective reassurance that my milk was nourishing him. I would have trusted myself more.

And that’s why I feel so passionate about bringing this technology to other moms.

Why Moms Doubt Themselves

I now know I wasn’t alone. Studies show that the most common reason moms stop breastfeeding earlier than they want to is due to milk supply-related concerns. Sometimes supply is absolutely fine, but doubt creeps in, while in other cases there may be genuine risks that are best addressed early. Either way, these concerns are real and deserve both attention and support.

The truth is, the early days matter more than we often realise.

The Crucial First Five Days

Recent research published in Breastfeeding Medicine (July 2025, Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine’s special issue) highlights just how important the first five to six days postpartum are.

This window is when your body goes through secretory activation — the transition from colostrum to mature milk and the process of building volume. If this process is delayed or impaired, it can affect long-term breastfeeding outcomes.

On the flip side, when secretory activation happens on time and milk volume comes in effectively, moms are much more likely to meet their breastfeeding goals.

The problem? Until now, there’s been no simple way for mothers at home to know if their supply is on track.

That’s where the MyLee Milk Sensing Device changes everything. Awarded as the Breastfeeding Support Product of the Year at the 2024 Baby Innovation Awards, MyLee is developed by MyMilk Lab and available locally through Mommy Material. This small handheld device brings cutting-edge lactation monitoring to moms at home. With just a few drops of milk (even colostrum), the device uses unique conductivity-based technology to analyse biomarkers that reflect electrolyte levels, particularly sodium, which research has shown is strongly linked to lactation progress. This provides real-time insights into whether milk production is progressing as it should.

This technology, once only available in research or NICU settings, is now accessible to everyday mothers. Instead of relying on guesswork or worry, moms can finally get answers.

Imagine knowing just days after birth whether your milk is on track. Imagine the confidence of being reassured, or the relief of catching a potential issue early enough to get the right support.

Backed by Global Research

This isn’t just marketing hype. MyLee was highlighted in a 2025 review in Breastfeeding Medicine exploring new point-of-care techniques to support breastfeeding.

Here’s what leading experts are saying:

  • “Since the most common reason moms stop breastfeeding earlier than they want to is due to milk supply–related concerns, it’s important to improve screening for the initiation of lactation… Better screening can help identify moms and babies who might need extra support early on, and also reassure those whose milk supply is developing well.”
  • “One of the most exciting developments is the use of probes to measure sodium in breast milk — a simple test that can tell clinicians whether a mother’s milk production is on track.”
  • “The first five days are crucial for the effective initiation of lactation… creating clear care plans for mothers with lactation risk factors is key to offering better, evidence-based support.”

As Dr. Angela Lang, Director of Clinical Education at Medela, summarises: “By removing the guesswork and providing targeted recommendations, we empower mothers to take control of their lactation journey.”

That empowerment is exactly what MyLee delivers.

A New Era of Personalised Breastfeeding Support

Every mother and every milk supply is unique. Some moms may only need to pump six times a day, while others may need eight. Generic advice doesn’t always fit and can even cause more stress.

MyLee allows breastfeeding professionals to give personalised guidance based on each mom’s unique milk biochemistry. That means targeted recommendations, timely interventions when needed, and reassurance when everything is progressing just fine.

It’s not about adding pressure. It’s about removing doubt. It’s about giving moms confidence.

From NICUs to Living Rooms

Much of the global conversation around milk biomarkers and early monitoring has focused on NICUs and preterm babies, but the truth is that these tools are just as valuable for mothers of full-term, healthy newborns.

Every mom deserves to feel confident in her milk supply. MyLee brings the same science-based insights used in specialised care settings straight into everyday homes.

More Than Just One Device

Breastfeeding is one of the most natural things in the world, but it isn’t always easy. For too many moms, doubt creeps in at the very moment when reassurance is needed most.

The MyLee Milk Sensing Device offers a new way forward; turning uncertainty into confidence, and helping moms trust their bodies again.

Because when mothers feel supported, babies thrive; and that is what truly matters.

Learn more about MyLee and our full range at www.mommymaterial.co.za or join our community on Instagram @mommymaterialsa.

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Unlocking the Power of Breastfeeding with Medela

Breastfeeding is one of the most intimate and rewarding experiences for a mother and her baby. Tt can however sometimes be challenging to find the right products to support this journey. Medela is committed to providing innovative and reliable breastfeeding solutions to ensure that every mother can enjoy this special bonding time. 

Medela’s range of breast pumps covers all the potential needs of breastfeeding mums: from initiating breastfeeding for a prematurely born baby with the highest-standard, hospital-grade breast pump Symphony (available to rent), to expressing milk to cover the odd night out with the high-performance manual pump Harmony, to exclusive expressing with our Freestyle Hands-free pump. All Medela breast pumps feature 2-Phase Expression™ technology, which mimics babies’ natural sucking rhythms, allowing mums to express more breast milk in less time.

Medela Freestyle Hands-Free Double Electric Breast Pump

For the modern, on-the-go mom, the Medela Freestyle Hands-Free Double Electric Breast Pump is a game-changer. This pump is designed to provide maximum flexibility, allowing moms to pump hands-free while continuing with their daily activities. The lightweight, compact design is perfect for busy moms who need to pump at work, home, or on the move. With its double pumping feature, it significantly reduces the time needed for each expressing  session. The Freestyle also  has a rechargeable battery and a digital display, ensuring you have everything you need for a seamless pumping experience.

Medela Swing Maxi Double Electric Breast Pump

The Medela Swing Maxi Double Electric Breast Pump is another excellent choice for moms seeking efficiency and comfort. This double electric breast pump is designed to express milk from both breasts simultaneously, saving valuable time and increasing milk production. Its compact and portable design makes it ideal for both home and travel use. The Swing Maxi is equipped with Medela’s 2-Phase Expression technology, which mimics a baby’s natural sucking rhythm, ensuring maximum comfort and efficiency. Whether you’re at home or on the go, the Swing Maxi makes the breastfeeding journey smoother and more manageable.

Medela Solo Electric Single Breast Pump

For moms who prefer a single pump, the Medela Solo Electric Single Breast Pump is a great option. It offers simplicity and ease of use with its compact design and intuitive controls. The Solo features Medela’s 2-Phase Expression technology, which mimics babies’ natural sucking rhythm. This pump is perfect for moms who need a reliable, efficient option for occasional pumping. Its lightweight and portable nature ensures you can take it anywhere, whether you’re at home, at work, or traveling.

Medela Harmony Manual Breast Pump

The Medela Harmony Manual Breast Pump is a fantastic option for moms who prefer a more traditional, manual pumping method. This lightweight and portable pump is ideal for occasional use and provides a quiet, discreet pumping experience. The Harmony features Medela’s 2-Phase Expression technology, allowing you to switch between stimulation and expression phases easily. It’s perfect for moms who need a backup pump or prefer manual expression for comfort and control.

Medela South Africa is dedicated to supporting moms on their breastfeeding journey by offering a range of high-quality, innovative breast pumps. Whether you need the hands-free convenience of the Freestyle Hands-Free, the efficiency of the Swing Maxi, the simplicity of the Solo, or the control of the Harmony, Medela has a solution that fits your lifestyle. 

You can hire a Medela Symphony Hospital Grade Breast Pump for 4 weeks for ONLY R999.00. Contact Lorraine at [email protected] or 011 445 3300 and jump onto your breast-pumping journey with us. 

For more information about these products and to find the right pump for you, visit Medela South Africa’s website

Medela breast pumps are available at selected Dis-Chem, Baby City Clicks, Takealot, Fedisbest.

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