You serve up a nutritious, lovingly prepared dinner… and your toddler declares war on broccoli with a dramatic shriek. Sound familiar?
Welcome to the wild world of picky eating — where food preferences change by the hour and green veggies are often public enemy number one. It’s funny, frustrating, and yes — completely normal.
The good news? You’re not failing as a parent. This phase is more about development than defiance.
🧠 Why Kids Become Picky Eaters
Picky eating typically peaks between 18 months and 5 years, and it’s actually a sign of growth. Here’s why:
- Evolutionary survival: Toddlers instinctively avoid bitter foods (like greens) as a leftover survival trait.
- Control: Food becomes a way for young kids to assert independence. “You can’t make me chew that carrot.”
- Sensory sensitivity: Textures, smells, and colours can overwhelm little palates.
- Slower growth: Appetite naturally dips after age 1 as growth slows, so food rejection may simply mean “I’m not that hungry.”
“It’s not about the food — it’s about the control,” says child nutritionist Ellyn Satter. “And power struggles over food are the quickest way to make picky eating worse.”
🍽️ What’s “Normal” Picky Eating?
- Refusing entire food groups
- Eating the same 2–3 foods for days
- Wanting a food one day and rejecting it the next
- Saying “yuck” before tasting
- Avoiding mixed or unfamiliar textures (think stew)
Unless your child is losing weight, appears lethargic, or has a diagnosed feeding disorder, picky eating is usually not a medical issue — it’s behavioral and developmental.
💡 How to Handle the Drama (Without Losing Your Mind)
1. 🍏 Keep Offering (Without Pressure)
It can take 10–15 exposures for a child to accept a new food. Keep calm, keep offering — and eat it yourself to model enjoyment.
2. 🪑 Create a No-Pressure Table
Avoid begging, bribing, or forcing bites. Make mealtimes positive, not battlegrounds.
3. 🧒 Let Them Help
Kids are more likely to try foods they’ve helped pick out, wash, or prepare. Let them “own” part of the process.
4. 🎨 Deconstruct and Simplify
Kids often dislike “mixed” foods. Serve ingredients separately (think taco night with build-your-own plates).
5. 🕓 Stick to Routine
Predictable meal and snack times help avoid constant grazing and encourage better appetite at meals.
6. 🧃 Watch the Milk & Juice
Too much milk or juice can curb hunger. Offer water between meals and reserve milk for mealtime only.
✅ When to Worry
Contact a paediatrician or feeding specialist if:
- Your child chokes or gags frequently
- They eat fewer than 10 foods total
- They show signs of weight loss or nutrient deficiency
- You suspect sensory or developmental challenges
Sources:
- American Academy of Pediatrics – healthychildren.org
- Ellyn Satter Institute – ellynsatterinstitute.org
- National Institutes of Health – Child Nutrition Guidelines
- Harvard School of Public Health – hsph.harvard.edu