Natural Consequences

It’s a parent’s job to make the rules, it’s the child’s job to try and break them.

– Anonymous

A natural consequence is a result of an action happening from inexperience or an accident. For instance:

• ‘If you ride your bike over the step, you will fall and hurt yourself.’
• ‘We have asked you repeatedly not to play with your ball in that area. However, you kicked your ball where there was a thorn bush and it punctured. I am sure you are really disappointed.’

A logical consequence is that as a result of disobedience there is a price to pay to help you remember the next time. For instance:

• ‘If you forget to put your bike away, it will be taken away for a few days.’
• I asked you to sit and drink your juice. You chose to get up and so it all spilled. Unfortunately you cannot have any more.’

Both of these examples are extremely effective ways of encouraging a change of behaviour. Allowing children to suffer natural and logical consequences allows them to experience disappointments from making small mistakes or bad decisions, yet still develop winning skills in the process.

If they never learn to feel and overcome such feelings of disappointment, they will struggle to cope with the hardships of life.

Showing them empathy and unconditional love through this process helps them to feel like winners every time they ‘lose’.

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Andalene Salvesen travels the world as a speaker and parenting coach. She is a mother of four and a proud grandmother of 10. She is the author of the book “A brand new child in 5 easy steps” as well as co-author of “Raising happy, healthy children” with Sally-Ann Creed. She was the owner and principal of a school in Cape Town for 8 years. This background, along with her immeasurable passion for children compelled her to compile a parenting seminar combining extensive knowledge and valuable experience. She has been presenting this course for nearly 20 years in a variety of venues and locations. Through this, the need for families to have personal one on one attention for their particular needs became apparent – and for more than a decade, she and her team of parenting coaches have helped families by coaching them through tantrums, sleeping, eating and discipline problems in the privacy of their own homes. This has earned her the title of Super Granny under the auspices of the Munchkins brand.

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