How to teach children to respect their teachers

It is common knowledge that teachers are some of the most stressed professionals in our country. They face abuse of various kinds on a daily basis and one cannot deny that this is having a profound impact on an education system that is already struggling. In addition, and perhaps even more worrying is the steady increase in incidents of verbal and emotional disrespect shown toward teachers by the learners in their care. Education in South Africa is being compromised and it is time for parents to step in and step up to help rectify the problem before it becomes completely unmanageable.

According to Cindy Glass, Owner and Founder of Step Up Education Centres, “Education is the root of success. It is an essential tool which, when delivered and received correctly, could change the face of poverty and other challenges that face our country at this time. The benefits of a good education can never be underestimated and ensuring that learners respect their teachers is an essential and most necessary step if we are to make positive progress in learning”.

She gives the following things to consider when teaching your child to respect their teachers:

  1. You are your child’s first and longest-lasting teacher. Your child needs your guidance and assistance in learning the value of respecting self and others. It is important to remember that our children are likely to do what we do, rather than what we say. Encourage respect of teachers by respecting your child’s teachers. Avoid teacher-bashing conversations and seek to find positive solutions to challenges that present themselves. Teach your child that, no matter the circumstance, there is always a way to find a solution.
  2. Teachers are human too. They have an enormous responsibility to assist your child in becoming the best version of themselves. Teachers make mistakes. Disrespectful comments and abusive behaviors are not the solution. Open communication is needed to find ways of assisting both parties in achieving the desired outcomes in learning.
  3. Every choice that we make defines the path of our lives. All negative behaviours are based on fear, low self-esteem, self-defeating and destructive self-talk and low self-value. We need to teach our children to own their mistakes and choices and to avoid blaming others for their shortfalls. Taking frustrations out on their teachers only exasperates their difficulties whereas they could find wisdom and assistance with their teacher instead. Learners need to recognise and acknowledge that challenges are a part of growth and learning. There are always ways to seek and receive the help that they need, without a show of disrespect to anyone.
  4. Disrespect reflects their character, not the teachers. Teach your children that disrespecting & abusing teachers is an indication of who THEY are, not of who their teachers are. Negative behavioural choices reflect on the giver, not the receiver. It is a clear indication that the person does not respect and honour themselves. It certainly does not engender admiration from his peers. Seek to develop positive self-respect and self-value in your children and this will ensure that they give the same to others.
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Bullying: What parents and schools can do

ARTICLE BY PROF RITA NIEMANN, NALIZE MARAIS, ZENDRÉ SWANEPOEL AND MONIERA MOOSA

Bullying is a great concern for both parents and schools. Here we outline a number of measures that can help them both parties deal with bullying.

Parents

When parents notice that their child is behaving differently – not wanting to go to school, using illness as an excuse, suddenly performing poorly at school or enuresis – and suspect bullying, they need to act immediately.

Firstly, they must determine where this is happing (at school, at a sports club, on social media, etc.) and who the perpetrator(s) are.

Secondly, if the bullying is taking place in an organised environment such as at school or sports club, the authorities need to be informed and requested to step in. They are legally bound to protect the rights of the child.

Thirdly, parents have the responsibility to equip their children to cope by:

  • Instilling the knowledge that children must take a stand and that they have a choice in allowing someone else to victimise them.
  • Assisting children to terminate relationships that are potentially harmful, such as blocking a person on social media.
  • Helping them to identify bullies and the different forms of bullying.
  • Creating a safe space for children to speak about what is happening to them.
  • Emphasising assertive verbal communication if threatened.
  • Building children’s self-concept.
  • Getting the help of a psychologist, if necessary, to counsel the victim.
  • Emphasising that respectful behaviour is always the best option and thus preventing retaliation.
  • Fostering problem-solving and conflict resolution skills with the focus on restoring damaged relationships.
  • Working collaboratively to solve the problem with their children so that they can feel reassured.

Schools

As bullying is a deliberate act to hurt someone, there must be consequences for the bully. Once teachers are aware that a bullying incident has taken place at school, the matter must be dealt with by:

  • Asking the victim to provide the names of the perpetrator(s), as well as the names of friends of the victim, as soon as he/she has calmed down.
  • Counselling the victim and finding out whether he/she has been injured and what effect the bullying or harassment has had on him or her.
  • Cultivating a “no blame” approach towards bullying or harassment.
  • Establishing punitive sanctions for both the bully and for any bystanders.
  • Developing a bullying code of conduct/bullying policy and informing learners of this.
  • Having designated teachers to deal with incidents of bullying.
  • Facilitating mediation and discussions with the victim and the bully, depending on the severity of the bullying.
  • Passing the responsibility to the bully or group of bullies to make sure that the problem is solved.
  • Ensuring that potential bystanders understand that they have a vital role to play during bullying incidents.
  • Letting the victims feel protected after they have reported the incident.
  • Encouraging learners to make suggestions on how they can contribute to alleviating the negative experiences of the victim.
  • Scheduling follow-up meetings to monitor the situation where each party has to share how things are going.
  • Informing the parents of both the bully and the victim about the incident/s.

The principal and teachers have a crucial role to play in directing learners towards becoming responsible citizens. They should create a safe and secure environment, establish a non-violent culture, and be good role models for all learners.

Reference

Niemann, R., Marais, N., Swanepoel, Z. & Moosa, M. 2016. Problem areas in schools In: Jacobs, M. Teaching-learning Dynamics, Johannesburg: Pearsons

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Music all year round: Why School of Rock Parktown North Is the Gift That Keeps Giving

At School of Rock Parktown North, we don’t just teach kids how to play instruments, we help them build confidence, creativity, community, and lifelong skills. As the year winds down and festive energy sets in, many of you are probably looking for enriching activities that give you and the kids more than just a hobby. Here’s why the School of Rock experience is a perfect fit for the season!

Beyond Notes: The Many Benefits of Music Education

Music isn’t just fun; it’s transformative. Learning an instrument or singing can improve language development, memory, concentration, and even academic performance.

  • Improves cognitive and academic skills: Understanding rhythm, structure and patterns in music helps develop spatial and mathematical thinking; which can translate into better performance in school subjects like maths.
  • Develops discipline, patience and focus: Learning music requires regular practice, persistence, and the ability to work through challenges, which are all skills that carry over into homework, school projects, and everyday life.
  • Boosts self‑esteem, emotional expression and confidence: Performing music, whether in a band or on stage, gives children the chance to express themselves, overcome nerves, and feel proud of their progress.
  • Strengthens social skills and teamwork: Playing in a band or group helps children learn to listen, collaborate, and support each other while building friendships and a sense of belonging.
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Why School of Rock Parktown North Does It Differently

At School of Rock Parktown North, we believe that learning music should be fun, social, and purposeful. Our model combines individual lessons with band rehearsals and live-performance opportunities, giving kids a real chance to experience what it’s like to be in a rock band.

  • Performance-based learning: Students stay motivated, focused, and excited to practice because they’re working toward real shows.
  • Real-world experience: Our instructors are working musicians who teach both the mechanics of music and what it means to perform, collaborate, and connect.
  • Songs kids love: Rather than starting with strict theory, students learn using the music they enjoy, making the experience personal and meaningful.
  • Inclusive and supportive community: Beginners and experienced players alike are welcomed. We value progress, effort, and self-expression over perfection.
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Holiday Workshops for Kids: December & January

This festive season, our Holiday Workshops give children a fun, structured way to explore music while school is out. Open to both new and current students during December and January, these workshops offer:

  • Hands-on experience with instruments, vocals, and group jams
  • Confidence-boosting exercises and creative challenges
  • Social connection and teamwork with new friends
  • Mini performances to end the holidays on a high note

Whether a child is picking up an instrument for the first time or expanding existing skills, our workshops provide inspiration, fun, and confidence through music. Please pop us an email at [email protected] or Whatsapp us on 074 322 2000 for more info and to book a slot! 

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Corporate Year-End Workshops & Team- building events

School of Rock Parktown North also offers corporate and adult-focused workshops that are perfect for companies looking for a creative way to celebrate the end of the year. These sessions are designed to be fun, team-oriented, and stress-relieving:

  • Try instruments, vocals, and rhythm exercises in a relaxed, fun setting
  • Strengthen teamwork, communication, and collaboration
  • Take a creative break from work and enjoy a stress-free musical experience

These workshops offer a unique, memorable way to close out the year; combining music, collaboration, and a little bit of festive cheer. Reach out at [email protected] or Whatsapp us on 074 322 2000 for more details. 

A Great Time to Start (or Re-Start)

With the new year around the corner, there’s no better time to explore what music can offer. Whether you or your child has never touched an instrument, are looking to deepen skills, or want a creative team-building experience, School of Rock Parktown North is ready to welcome you all with open arms.

Let music be more than a gift this holiday!

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Are We Over-Scheduling Our Children?

Finding the Balance Between Activities and Free Play – a reminder from Dibber South Africa

From ballet to ball skills, phonics to piano, many South African children today lead lives as tightly scheduled as their parents. While every activity may have merit, too many structured commitments can crowd out the simple, sacred space of childhood: free play.

“In our pursuit of giving children the best start, we sometimes forget that rest, imagination, and unstructured time are just as vital as academics or sport,” says Ursula Assis, Country Director of Dibber South Africa. “Free play is not wasted time. It’s how children develop emotional strength, social intelligence, and a sense of self.”

The Rush of Childhood Today

Across Dibber campuses, educators observe the increasing pressure children face. South African parents – many juggling careers, households, and aspirations – enrol children in numerous enrichment activities with the best of intentions. But when every moment is programmed, children may feel overwhelmed rather than inspired.

At Dibber, play isn’t seen as a break from learning – it is learning. And not just in the classroom. Children need time to imagine, explore, and be fully themselves without adult instruction or end goals. That’s where free play holds its quiet power.

What Is Free Play – and Why Does It Matter?

Free play is child-led, open-ended, and spontaneous. It’s found in games invented on the fly, make-believe shops, sandcastles in the garden, and treehouse adventures. With no adult-imposed structure, free play fosters independence, resilience, and creativity.

“When a child builds a fort with couch cushions or becomes a superhero for the day, they’re not just playing – they’re solving problems, expressing feelings, and stretching their cognitive muscles,” explains Assis. “It’s a vital ingredient in holistic development.”

Balancing Structure with Breathing Room

Of course, structured activities have their place. They teach discipline, coordination, and commitment. But overscheduling can lead to fatigue, anxiety, or even disinterest.

“Balance is key,” says Assis. “Children need time to reflect, to follow their own curiosity, and to rest. That’s when deeper learning takes place.”

Dibber educators often observe how children return from free play with better focus, improved social cooperation, and renewed energy. “We don’t need to cancel structure – just make space for childhood too,” she adds.

The Power of Play in South Africa’s Diverse Communities

In a country as vibrant and multicultural as South Africa, free play also becomes a bridge between cultures and backgrounds. On playgrounds and parks, children connect beyond language, using games and laughter to build empathy and shared understanding.

Whether climbing trees in KwaZulu-Natal, riding scooters in the Western Cape, or building with blocks in Gauteng, children across the country benefit from time to explore their environment freely and safely.

Simple Ways to Make Room for Free Play

  • Keep some afternoons open – Not every hour needs an activity.
  • Create safe spaces – A park, garden, or corner of the living room can become a wonderland.
  • Join in, but follow their lead – Adults can be present without taking over.
  • Limit screen time – True creativity often begins where the screen ends.
  • Celebrate imagination – Let children invent games, costumes, and worlds – and let them be the guide.

Let’s Bring Childhood Back into Focus

At Dibber, childhood is honoured as a phase of life with its own value – not just a preparation for what’s to come. That’s why Dibber centres prioritise play-based learning, not just as a teaching tool but as a way of respecting each child’s inner world.

“Free play gives children the room to explore who they are and where they fit in the world,” says Assis. “It fosters the kind of confidence, emotional intelligence, and joy that no class can replicate.”

As the school year winds down and families look ahead to holidays or the next academic chapter, it’s the perfect time to reassess the calendar – and intentionally leave space for daydreams, backyard adventures, and moments of spontaneous joy.

Because sometimes, the best thing we can schedule for our children… is nothing at all.

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