The baby books have been read and now neatly stored on the book shelf. The baby showers are over and the initial panic has subsided…sort of.
In the middle of the emotions that you go through as you welcome your new addition to the family, certain things need a special mention…
Take deep breaths. Life can be overwhelming and in certain situations, stop, take a deep breath and continue.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Ever.
You may not want to cut your baby’s nails because you are afraid of hurting her. However, if you don’t cut your baby’s nails, she will end up hurting herself…and you!
Talk to each other. If something is bothering or upsetting you, talk about it. This is a whole new chapter of learning and understanding, keeping stuff in will only lead to an unnecessary blowout later on.
Figure out which white noise calms your baby and make it available on every device in your home and car. This is a simple lifesaver. Ours is the noise of a fan.
Once baby is in bed at night, sit and watch an episode of your favourite series together. This takes your mind away for a short while and relaxes you.
Remember not to punch people who say, “Sleep when the baby sleeps.” They clearly don’t know what they are talking about.
Ignore anyone who tries to make you feel bad about any decision you and your wife make regarding your baby. Everyone has a different opinion anyway. Make a decision together and go with it.
Keep a to-do list. Add things that need to be done or bought. This will help you prioritize everything in order of importance and stop that overwhelming feeling of ‘where the hell do we start’
Stock up on dummies. Seriously. Misplacing a dummy can lead to panic attacks.
Eat dinner together. Always. Even if it’s at 9pm.
Always check the nappy, it’s often the reason for a fuss.
Don’t beat yourself up over every little thing. After all, babies have really low expectations.
If she is wearing a nice outfit, it is likely that your baby will poop.
If you are wearing a nice outfit, it is likely that your baby will poop.
Don’t sweat the small stuff, it’s OK to go to bed without washing the dishes or brushing your teeth.
Don’t be afraid to cancel plans that you have already committed to, having a baby is completely unpredictable, friends and family will understand.
Take each and every minute in, the time goes by so fast, faster than you realize, treasure every cry and every hard day, every giggle and every smile.
Get out of the house. Even if it’s just a walk to the mailbox. Cabin fever can set in fast when you have a newborn around.
Remember YOU are doing a great job, you are the very best parent your child will ever have!