Move over Super Nanny, South Africa is lucky to have there very own ‘Super Granny’, Andalene Salvesen.
Andalene is a Parenting Coach and the founder of Monsters. She helps families through coaching them, by personally assisting parents through tantrums, sleeping, eating and discipline problems in the privacy of their own home.
She ran her own mother-and-toddler groups for over twelve years and was a principal of a play school for eight years. She is a mother of four married children, as well as a grandmother.
With all this said, she has rightfully earned the title of South Africa’s own ‘Super Granny’.
We asked Andalene a few questions about her new book A Brand New Child in 5 Easy Steps and her home visits.
PH: You have just written a new book, A Brand New Child in 5 Easy Steps, what inspired you to write this book?
An employee of Struik noticed such a change in her grandchildren after my home visit that she approached me and strongly recommended I spread the secrets of the success of the home visits via a new book.
PH: You describe the book as guiding parents to choose creative ideas for discipline. Could you give us an example?
Now that would be giving away the secrets, wouldn’t it?? I believe in first time obedience, but when that is obtained, you need to use your imagination to come up with creative incentives for encouraging obedience and character issues. The ideas in the book help to spark off those ideas. For instance when shopping, instead of trying to keep your child in the trolley when he actually wants to walk, tie a ribbon from the trolley and let him hold the other end .if he lets go, he isn’t listening and sits in the trolley for ‘time out’. 1 minute later, try again.
Or for adolescents, instead of just a boring grounding, have them read a character building book of your choice and give you a book review afterwards.
Or with sibling rivalry, have them serve the one they were mean to, for the day.
And many more…
PH: You have done home visits to families all around the world. Does parenting differ drastically from country to country?
There are cultural differences, but basically the problems are all the same. Parents feel they have no control over their children and do not feel they have the right to be in charge.
PH: If I were to contact you for a home visit what is the process?
You would go on to the website and contact Roy to set up a suitable time. Registering for free on the website also enables you to receive free newsletters every month as well as being informed of which country I will be in.
PH: Have you found that there is a common problem in parenting that results in children who have discipline problems?
Yes, parents are scared to say no. They are not equipped to handle the rage that comes with them insisting on obedience. So they do anything to keep the peace. They also tend to react out of guilt.
PH: Is there one particular home visit that you have done in all your years that stands out for you as the most memorable?
Yes, the book is full of accounts of my worst and best sessions. But fortunately they have all turned out with amazing results of parents feeling liberated and children smiling from ear to ear. That is why my logo is “transforming family dynamics by empowering parents.”
Thank you Andalene for answering our questions. I love how your new book covers all the childhood phases (from tots to teens) and look forward to reading it.